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Is it wrong to ask a trans person you're about to date about their genitals?  

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I don't want to offend anyone, so I thought I'd ask you guys for advice. I'm on Grindr quite a bit and I've noticed quite a few trans people on there who have tapped me or sent me a message. 

The only thing is this - I'm interested in some of these guys, but I'm really not into the idea of a vagina, if they are pre-op - so can I ask a person about their genital status? 

Is that wrong?


This topic was modified 4 weeks ago by RobTheMan
Posted : 15/11/2019 11:44 am
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I'm not trans - but I am in the dating pool!

I think it's context and expectation - like

1) would you normally ask someone about their genitals on a dating / hook up - on Grindr this is almost aways "yes" or at least a photo swap, so maybe asking wouldn't be considered "out of the norm"

2) If what's between a person's legs is a complete dealbreaker to you, it might worth asking so that neither of you are wasting each other's time

3) It's how you ask - maybe you can ask about roles first - Top, Bottom and Vers and take the conversation from there.

4) Wait and see if the person you're talking too offers the information, rather than ask for it.



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