Day: 1 November 2018

  • GAY TRAVEL | A visit to Europe’s most LGBT-friendly country, Malta

    GAY TRAVEL | A visit to Europe’s most LGBT-friendly country, Malta

    A return to Malta

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    I first visited Malta 14 years ago and remember myself and my friends trying desperately to find a gay scene and left extremely disappointed as you could imagine as an early twenty-something would in a fruitless search of gay nightlife in the winter sun. The visit in 2004 was in the same year that Malta had its first Pride March an event to which no more than 50 people attended and so my interest was piqued when Allied Rainbow Communities announced the 2018 Malta Pride Parade & Celebration taking place in Valletta, the European Capital of Culture.

    Time to give Malta a second chance.

    Photo by @marieouaw

    5 LGBT facts you might not know about Malta

    1. It is a little-known fact that Malta ranks as the leading country, before even The UK and Belgium, regarding how the laws and policies of the country positively impact on the lives of LGBT+ people.
    2. Discrimination regarding sexual orientation, gender identity and expression in Malta has been banned nationwide since 2004.
    3. Malta is one of the few countries in the world to have made LGBT+ rights equal at a constitutional level.
    4. In 2016, Malta became the first country in the European Union to ban conversion therapy.
    5. Despite being a liberal country, Malta is extremely limited when it comes to exclusive gay venues.

    There are a few places that are indeed worth checking out for a stay on the island, the best two I have included here.

    Photo by: Ray Si

    The Phoenicia

    The Phoenicia in Valletta has to be one of the finest places to stay and is probably only designated as a 5 Star hotel because they don’t allow you to go up to 6 stars and it is the best of both worlds in many respects. It is traditional in its decor and style yet offers ultra modern facilities and excellent service. It is to be found just outside the City Gate, the main entrance through the cities awe-inspiring 16th-century bastion walls and surrounded by acres of manicured gardens and vibrant greenery.

    Photo by: www.campbellgrayhotels.com

    But despite the feeling of being slightly separated from the hustle and bustle of the city most of the best restaurants and exciting sites in the capital are within easy walking distance. Inside the building retains the members club style that betrays its British, early 20th century origins and the rooms are suitably spacious to match with plush beds and an overall fresh, summery feel. After a recent, overdue revamp, the food in the Phoenix Restaurant is back up to its 5-star standard. Seasonal menus offer a mix of local and traditional, and obviously, well-represented seafood. If like me you are on the island for the Pride event then this is the perfect place to use as a base as the march’s starting point is at the Grand Triton Fountain, literally a stone’s throw from the hotel. Or at least a glitter bomb.

    Photo by: www.campbellgrayhotels.com

    La Falconeria

    Although rated as a 4-star hotel, you could make a straightforward argument for it becoming a 5-star without any extra effort. It is situated at the heart of Valletta making it pretty much 5 minutes walk from, well, everything – St John’s Cathedral, Grand Master’s Palace, museums, bars and restaurants and for exploring further Ferry and Bus Station are all close at hand. The building has a fascinating history, and if you know where to look, you can read its past in the walls.

    Photo by: www.lafalconeria.com

    Although most of the original 1580’s building didn’t survive the bombing of the Second World War, what did remain has been incorporated into the modern architecture. One fascinating fact is the name of the building, deriving from the fact that The Knights of the Order of St John who ruled the island were obliged to send the King of Spain, Charles V, a trained falcon as part of an annual fee. It was in the neighbourhood that this hotel now stands that the famous Maltese falcons were breed and trained. Today’s building is spacious to the point of palatial, the balconied rooms reminding you of its rich history with its mix of ancient and modern, reverential yet run with a welcoming and friendly attitude. The in-house restaurant offers some beautiful Mediterranean flavours which change with the availability of seasonal produce.

    Photo by: www.lafalconeria.com

    It’s all about having Pride.

    Now, of course, we come to the reason I had decided to return to the island. In keeping with Malta’s Gay Pride March being less overtly raucous and flamboyant, I took a more holistic approach before the event and visited local TV celebrity Adrian Gusman – one of the only LGBT trained and qualified therapists on the island – who in a spirited manner, converted his home into a spa sanctuary for men. Adrian’s treatment ranges from creative bodywork underwater to jet massages and all while sipping on Rose sparkling wine. Truly an indulging experience at a surprisingly inexpensive cost (treatments with Adrian start from 50 euros).

    Photo by: Adrian Gusman

    Malta’s Gay Pride March is an example of how to include people from all across the gender, sexual and political spectrum. The event is still about driving a message of acceptance and equality and the fact that both the island’s Prime Minister and the opposition leader attended and members of the Catholic clergy used the event to help build bridges with the LGBTQ community shows how things are moving in the right direction.

    Photo by: loveinmalta.com

    And maybe it is the tastefulness of it all, the fact that it wasn’t about overt sexual displays, flamboyant fetish wear or extreme outfits to shock passers-by. Nor was this about consumerism something which has taken root in too many similar events. This was about Pride and progress, as shown by the fact that everyone from toddlers to ageing visitors was happy to take part in this respectful, modest, lively and thoroughly wonderful street party.

    Written by Ray Si – proud member of IGLTA

  • This is how we’re now saying, “I Love You” in 2018

    This is how we’re now saying, “I Love You” in 2018

    Emojis, texts and WhatsApp are among the most popular ways to say ‘I love you’, according to a study.

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    Researchers who polled 2,000 UK adults found millions are turning to their mobile phones to express these sentiments to friends and family rather than in person.

    Other common ways of saying ‘I love you’ include using Skype, Facebook and Instagram.

    Further to this, just three in 10 ALWAYS say ‘I love you’ face-to-face – with a fifth unable to do so because their loved ones live in another city or country.

    The research was commissioned by Thorntons to mark the launch of its ‘Continental Journeys’ competition [https://www.thorntons.co.uk/continental/journeys.html] where they will reunite families who can’t be together over the festive period.

    Spokesman Ian Tweedale said, “It’s not about what’s under the Christmas tree, but about who’s around it.

    “Our Continental Journeys competition is helping families to ‘Pass The Love On’ this Christmas, by bringing together loved ones who, for whatever reason, can’t be together during the holiday season.

    “We’re also proud to be passing the love on to the charity SSAFA, which supports our servicemen and women, veterans and their families.”

    The research also identified the ‘true’ meaning of love – including accepting someone’s imperfections (47 percent) and being comfortable when sat in silence together (36 percent).

    Travelling long distances to see one another (13 percent) is another indicator of genuine love, as is saving the last chocolate (7 percent) and warming up the bed (six percent).

    Being quiet in the morning as you leave the house (five per cent) is also a sign of true affection.

    Only 44 percent of people say I Love You to their partner every day

    It also emerged 44 percent of Brits say ‘I love you’ to their partners every day.

    And four in 10 also tell their pets they love them on a daily basis.

    In contrast, just 12 percent say those special words to their mum each and every day.

    Instead, 30 per cent say the ‘L word’ to their parents once a week and 27 percent say it to their friends at least once a month.

    The research, carried out through OnePoll, also found saying ‘I love you’ too much devalues its meaning – according to four in 10 adults.

    TOP 10 – TRUE MEANING OF LOVE:

    1. Accepting a person’s imperfections
    2. Being comfortable sat in silence with each other
    3. Travelling long distances to see each other
    4. Calling/messaging when you say you will
    5. Saving your loved one the last chocolate from the box
    6. Taking your partner out for a meal
    7. Surprising your partner with a holiday / trip away
    8. Warming up the bed for you
    9. Buying gifts
    10. Being quiet in the morning as you leave

    WORDS: Rob Knight

  • THEATRE REVIEW | The Lovely Bones – The Birmingham Rep

    ★★★★☆ | The Lovely Bones

    – a chilling and sombre affair

    A lot of people celebrated Halloween dressed up in fancy and harrowing costumes while others chose to visit The Birmingham Rep to watch The Lovely Bones adapted by Bryony Lavery.

    This production was a visual marvel with versatile, complex sets and effects that made you jump. It was 1 hour and 45 minutes long without an interval, so you were drawn to the story and scarcely had a chance to breathe.

    Based on the novel by Alice Seabold, it depicted well the account by Susie Salmon as a ghost, and the frustration of the book though the intensity of the book was way more gripping. Adapting a novel with nail-biting tension and translate it to the stage was always going to be a big ask. This play, however, did a great job with multi scenes going on at once which helped cancel out really drawn out scenes which can happen when an adaptation is too literal.

    Charlotte Beaumont played Susie and she was very believable. Her growing anger and annoyance were superbly achieved. Mr Harvey played by Keith Dunphy was exactly how you would imagine him to be in the book, said my friend. His voice and slow movement made for a very sinister character – the audience felt on edge whenever he appeared on stage as he was getting away with murder, literally. Jack Salmon played by Jack Sandle was very captivating with his passionate and energetic portrayal. Karan Gill was a dexterous multi-part player and was brilliant at playing Holiday, having the whole auditorium in stitches with embodying typical characteristics of a dog. Abigail Salmon player by Emily Bevan performed her last speech with emotion and sincerity, but there was some inconsistency with emotion when finding out about her daughter, or it was perhaps the very fast changes of time that did not allow for Abigail’s grief to be fully explored. Pete Ashmore played Detective Fenerman, and he was brilliant in this role really adding to the frustration of the unsolved murder. As a teenager, it was not as convincing, for his voice was too mature. I struggled to imagine him as Lindsey Salmon’s boyfriend. Susan Bovell brought out the comedy in this dark story with her bad-mother act and stirring issues within the family. Her portrayal of Lynn was a great fete.

    The set, designed by Ana Inés Jabares-Pita, really was the highlight for me with chalk becoming luminescent and the ingenious mirror effect, so it looked as though Susie was looking down from heaven as the scenes unfolded.

    Running: 30 October – 10 November 2018

  • What are the most annoying things guys do during sex?

    “be on their phone looking for the next guy to hook up with”

    Gay Couple
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    Some guys, honestly.

    Okay, we get it, no one guy is perfect, but some of us take the soggy biscuit too far as evidenced in a recent thread on Reddit when some gay guys shared what the most annoying things guys did to them during sex.

    There was everything from checking phones during the act to sexy talk that just wasn’t that sexy.

    Boy Pussy. Apparently calling your butt hole a “boy pussy” or bussy, is a definite no-no.  [via]

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    God’s gift? Acting like a jerk is never sexy, this one user said, “Acting like they’re a gift to you, not reciprocating in foreplay, pounding like a rabbit and busting in 2 minutes asking you if it was good” is also annoying. [via]

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    Size isn’t everything… but apparently, if you’re not blessed with a huge package but repeatedly ask the question, “do you like my big cock” along with other references to how big you are, is annoying. But interestingly it works the other way around too. [via]

    If you’re not well-endowed and the bottom partner goes on and on about how big you are, is truly annoying. [via]

    (C) BIGSTOCK Can you handle my size???

    Look who’s talking “Talking too much. Either about sex or more annoyingly about something else entirely. I’m happy to chat before/after sex but I don’t wanna hear about your sister’s new boyfriend or that your dog is at the vets… stop.” [via]

    Noisey sexer, also: “Two days ago I had a guy snorting while he was fucking me. Like, making pig noises. No thanks” [via]

    Devil Kissing “Kissing me with a pointed tongue, it feels hard and not comfortable to rub my tongue across it, relax your tongue muscles!” [via]

    Also on the block is sloppy kissers… “Some men are all drool and it’s just a mess. I love French kissing, but not with someone who drools like a Bassett hound” [via]

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    Play that tune… When you spend all that time creating a sex playlist on Spotify… DAMN YOU [via]

     

    What are the most annoying things that have happened to you during sex?