So, it’s no secret that many gay guys in relationships are also in open relationships or semi-open relationships and many of them use dating apps, such as Grindr to introduce a third/fourth/fifth into their love lives.
Day: 7 August 2020
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THEGAYUK Loves…
Things that we’re really loving this week. Our pick of some of the best books, beauty, style and home gadgets going.
Umbrella Academy
We read somewhere on Twitter, someone calling the new season of Netflix’s Umbrella Academy even better than the first – and while the jury is still out on that for us, it is undeniable that Netflix has a hit on its hands with this new superhero franchise. This season gets pretty gay as well, with two of the “7” getting their own same-sex love story. Cute. Oh and the campest, vampest villainess we’ve seen since Cruella and Ursula.
Umbrella Academy season two is now streaming on Netflix.
BABE Rosé with bubbles
What’s not to love about Rosé, that’s bubbly and served chilled in a can. It screams soo-fis-tee-cation… BABE Rosé With Bubbles is a canned alcohol beverage created by the world-famous influencer, The Fat Jew, Josh Ostrovsky – totes perfect for a heatwave.
We’ll leave you with these famous words, printed on the side of each can, which has now become legend around these parts…
“Love you, Miss you, Hate you, Love you, Mean it”
Babe.
Available exclusively from Sainsbury’s and on their website https://drinkbabe.net/
SOCKSHOP’s Lazy Panda Undies
Soft doesn’t even come close to describing these incredible undies from SOCKSHOP. These trunk-style underwear are made with bamboo fibres, which are non-irritating and help keep the boys down there fresher and drier for longer – which, let’s face it, is very welcome in these heatwave times. Plus, £11.99 for three pairs is a steal.
Shop online from their shop. https://www.sockshop.co.uk/products/mens-3-pack-sockshop-lazy-panda-bamboo-boxer-shorts
Henry Bell Heavy Duty Bird Feeder
Within two minutes of erecting our Henry Bell Heavy Duty Bird Feeder, we had our first guest. Honestly, the TGUK garden has become a hive of activity. I don’t know about you, but in these troubling times, finding moments of joy are becoming so difficult, turning off our phones, disconnecting from the Internet and watching the birds – is free and it’s completely relaxing (and dare we say it, more entertaining than the drivel you’ll find on social media) after all, birds are the original Tweeters!
The Henry Bell Heavy Duty Feeder is rugged and feels solid (it’s made from aluminium, it’s easy to clean and offers the birdies lots of perch space and costs just £9.99.
Products are available nationwide in 150+ garden centres and online (such as Dobbies), pet shops and mainstream retailers.
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This porn star just broke down STI stigma in the most 2020 way
For most of us finding out that you’ve got an STI (sexually transmitted infection) can be an embarrassing moment. For some, the awkwardness comes from the prodding and probing of sexual health nurses and doctors but for many, it’s because there’s a stigma attached to contracting an infection, which is silly right?
The majority of us have sex at some point during our lives and with sex comes risk and responsibility and there are literally hundreds of thousands of infections caught and dealt with every year by our healthcare professionals and that’s just here in the UK.
The vast majority of STIs are curable with medication or at least manageable, and with many of us contracting at least one STI in our lifetimes we have to ask why there’s such a stigma?
“Dirty Vs Clean”
Getting the right medication and quickly if you’ve got an STI is really important.
Photo by Anna Shvets on Pexels.comOne doctor in March this year said that people should stop using the words “dirty” and “clean” when it comes to talking about sexual health saying that STIs were “not a matter of personal hygiene” as there was “no way of telling who has an STI by just looking at them”. Doctor Sutton added that the words “dirty” and “clean” had a stigma attached to them.
“If we’ve slept together, by all means, get in touch about it”
Part of the embarrassment, for some, finding out that they’ve got an STI is the track and trace element, whereby they’re encouraged to tell their sexual partners that they’ve tested positive for something.
After contracting an STI it’s best to contact everyone you’ve had sex within recent months, this is so they can go and get tested themselves and get treatment if necessary. As many of the infections can actually be asymptomatic, many people won’t know they’ve got anything wrong with them so telling them to get tested empowers them to stop the disease from spreading any further.
“I’ve had a positive STI result”
Porn star John Thomas has managed to break the stigma by tweeting his sexual health diagnosis on Twitter saying, “I’ve had a positive STI result (if we’ve slept together, by all means, get in touch about it).”
He even managed to make a joke about the situation by adding that when he was asked about how many people he had had sex with, he could only answer “a lot”. Well, he is a porn star after all!
His Tweet was met with dozens of positive messages from fans and fellow porn stars congratulating him for breaking down the stigma to getting tested and revealing the results.
John also added, “If you’re sexually active, getting tested is a part of life. Talking about it helps break down people’s feelings of shame around it that we’ve been conditioned to feel.”
Fellow porn star, Luca D’amore said, “Thank you for taking the stigma away from getting tested!”
A fan added, “I have HUGE respect for you sharing this. Thank you for this post!”
Another said, “Yes -more disclosure! Thank you. Normalize sexual health and responsibility!”
Star DADDYBLACKXXX said that using Twitter to inform John’s sexual partners that they may need to get in touch with him was an “honest way to go about it informing people Quick and easy … more people should do this” adding that he would do it like that in future.
It is recommended that sexually active people, who have a number of different sexual partners should go for an STI test at their local Sexual Health clinic every 3 to 6 months, or order a FREE at-home HIV test kit from Saving Lives. if you use the promo code: GAYUK20.
