Not getting the responses you want from your dating profile perhaps there’s something you’re doing wrong.We asked our readers what where the most common mistakes they found on guy’s profiles on dating sites and hook up apps.
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1) Too Much, Too Soon.
Nothing says, “I’m serious about dating and maybe actually finding love online” than a picture of you, a sling and four of your most intimate friends using a power tool you could dig up pavements with. A bit of showmanship never hurt anyone, but laying it all out like it’s on a butcher’s block doesn’t scream “I’m all about the exclusivity” does it?
2) No Fats, Femmes Or Rice.
I mean just who do you think you are? Say what you like in a man, not what you don’t. Start the conversation positive rather than flood your online space with negativity. Plus don’t be a racist, fatist, internalised homophobic douche.
3) The Game Stops Here.
Don’t play endless games, it’s no longer the 90s. Throw away the dating self-help books that tell you, a) not to call after 6pm, b) not to accept dates the day before, and c) to only ever show him the bedroom after the wedding day. Not only is it a massive waste of your time but let’s be honest it’s time when you could actually be jumping each other’s bones. Playing games is manipulative and no one is looking for a nasty lover, unless of course you’re Janet Jackson.
4) Be Yourself.
Honesty is the best policy. Shane Greene from dating site AllMale says, “Do not try to be something you’re not, just be yourself. The possibility of finding a match online leads some men to detach from what makes them who they are offline. Many men new to online dating “beef up” their profiles with details that aren’t true hoping to somehow be better than they already are naturally.”
This may seem like a cool idea but these men quickly realise they will be attracting men who are interested in their online persona and not who they really are. You want someone who is interested in what you actually are. That requires you to be honest and accurate about yourself from the very start.”
5) I just can’t deal…
No one likes a killjoy – stop complaining that you can’t find at date / don’t earn enough / what a douche your ex is / even your cat hates you. A dating profile is an advert. It’s about selling yourself as someone who is a stable, coherent, fun-to-be- around, loveable guy. Be smart, funny and tell us the good things about you.
6) Spellcheck.
Dear god, does a little spell check hort? If you can’t get the little details right what on earth are you going to be like at the other stuff?
7) Are we dating you or her?
We don’t care if you and your bessie had a crazy night in Blackpool. Take a picture with just you. After all we’re not going on a date with her as well – and if we are, we might need to revaluate this whole thing.
8) Torso To Be Or Torso Not To Be.
If you can’t show your face but you can show your torso/cock/butt then we have to consider your priorities. If you’re looking for love then show your face, your eyes and your smile.
9) Hi-di-Hi!
Come on, be original. First words count so don’t waste them with a “hi” or “hey”. Try adding some vocab, you know, like words. Not sure what to write? Try something like, “hi, nice profile pic – where was it taken?” Or, “Hey, I like your T shirt, where did you get it from?” – get the conversation flowing with open questions, those questions that lead to a conversation, questions that can’t be answered with a “yes” or a simple “no”.
10 )Don’t Fall In Love After Two Days Of Messages.
- We’ve all done it, fallen hard for someone we’ve only just met 2 days ago online but have both shared a sunset, sunrise and Lorraine on ITV. Spending hours on hours getting to know someone online is okay, but the magic happens in the real world. As Cher said, it’ll be in his kiss – not his keyboard.
11) Top To Bottom.
Spell it out; you’ve got to make sure you’re compatible with your sexual preferences. If you’re a top – say so, if you’re a power bottom 2.0 then say so. Nothing worse than spending lots of time chatting to someone only to find that you both point north – of course, if you’re both not into penetration then this is cool – but the likelihood is that sex and sexual roles will play a massive part in any future relationship.
12) Don’t Over Share.
Be careful what info you put on your dating profiles and what you tell people before you really get to know them. Personal data, such as home address, bank sort codes and your mother’s maiden name aren’t things you should be sharing with anyone. An online date is just like your bank, they should never ask for your password.
