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  • Nearly Half Of Gay Men Feel There Is A Stigma To Being A Bottom

    Nearly Half Of Gay Men Feel There Is A Stigma To Being A Bottom

    Nearly half of gay men questioned felt there was a stigma attached to bottoming or being the receptive partner.

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    In a poll run by TheGayUK sixty per cent of readers thought that there was or weren’t sure if there was a stigma attached by bottoming or being the receiving partner during penetrative sex. Only 40 per cent said no there wasn’t a stigma.

    However when questioned men who considered themselves more of a receiver said that bottoming meant that they felt they were in control.
    One reader said,

    ‘Being a bottom does not imply a position of weakness. I usually control what happens”

    MANHOOD QUESTIONED?

    The question of manliness and gender roles was raised with those polled pointing out that others’ expectations often put gay, bisexual and MSMs (men who have sex with men) into a gender role according to which position they took during sex. Some suggesting that being a bottom meant being ‘less of a man’.
    David said,

    “As a bear type, it’s an almost inevitable look of shock and confusion when guys hit on me then find out I’m a bottom! It’s almost like they think I’m pretending to be someone I’m not!?!? It’s usually little twinklets that get all snotty and look at me like I’m less of a man!”

    However reader Glen suggested that heterosexual people might be to blame for the stigma,

    “I think in the community it is fine but the st8s are so desperate to view our relationships like the ones they have, so more often than not they view a “bottom” as the female in a gay relationship. It winds me up when they’re always trying to make our sex life fit some kind of view they have. It comes down to social “norms” dated and fake as they are…

    “Example, my husband’s gran came over and I made dinner for us all… she turns to my friend and says …”he must be the woman”… she’s lovely but it goes to show. I feel that men are men, no matter what they like”.

    Colin added,

    “I think there is a stigma and I think it’s a hangover from straight people always asking “who’s the woman”. The answer of course, is neither of us is a woman, sh**ferbrains. There is only one group of people who can stop the stigmatisation of bottoms and that is us – it’s entirely up to us.

  • New Calculator Works Out How Many Calories You Burn During Sex

    Oh those clever bods at Superdrug have worked out how many calories you can burn during sex, if of course, you’re having sex.

    Let’s say you and your boyfriend or FWB (friend with benefits) are 12 stone and do 10 minutes of doggie, 12 minutes of legs in the air, 8 minutes of reverse cowboy and end with a spectacular 3 minutes of holding your partner up, you could have burned off 142 calories for your 33 minutes of activity, not bad eh?

    Want some advice on how to spice up some of your positions, check out these bad boys (NSFW)

    That’s the equivalent of running 1.24 miles, 25 minutes of dancing or 37 minutes of yoga. I think we all know what we’d prefer doing.According to the website,

    “Superdrug Online Doctors commissioned (Fractl) to investigate how people can use sex as a form of exercise. To determine the extensive list of positions – including their unconventional names and respective calorie counts for both partners – we reviewed “The Position of the Day Playbook” from Nerve.com. To add to its methodology, which lacked any reference to the duration of activity or weight of the individuals, we did further research on positions and calories burned.”

    Now in our quick survey of the calories burned, it turns out that the receptive partner or the bottom actually usually burns less calories. So to keep up the calorie count, bottoms, prepare to go 2.0 Power-bottom and do more energetic positions like squatting, the cowboy and a bit of a lap dance.