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Day: 10 February 2019

  • People are more likely to do all these things first in front of partner before they share their Netflix account

    People are more likely to do all these things first in front of partner before they share their Netflix account

    Sex, passing gas – even going on holiday are more likely to happen before a partner decides to share their Netflix account!

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    New research shows it takes months and months before you reach the “the comfort zone” with a new partner.

    A new study of 2,000 coupled up people found that the biggest signs you’ve entered the comfort zone are allowing your significant other to take care of you when you’re sick, not wearing make-up and not shaving your legs or face.

    According to the research, it takes an average of seven months for couples to have their first talk about marriage/kids and about six months to introduce a significant other to their parents.

    Milestones such as crying in front of your partner, as well as feeling comfortable enough to snore while sleeping next to your partner, also proved to be big tells that your relationship has reached that next level.

    The study, conducted by OnePoll on behalf of Mattress Firm, also revealed it takes nearly five months before they’re comfortable showering at the other’s place, nearly six months to get to the point where sitting in silence isn’t awkward and nearly seven months to feel comfortable using the bathroom with the door open.

    Sex, passing gas, sharing a bed all come before Netflix!

    Sharing shows like House Of Cards will have to wait until at least 7 months according to research! (C) NETFLIX

    Surprisingly, the research also found that it takes eight months to share a Netflix account, which is, amusingly, three months longer than it takes the average couple to shower at their significant other’s house.

    The results revealed that four in five people say they prefer to sleep in bed with their partner and it takes nearly five months before couples are comfortable doing so.

    According to the results, conversation in the bedroom may be a lost art though as only 39 percent of couples say they engage in pillow talk after sex.

    And despite annoying habits like snoring and fidgeting, more than half of the couples surveyed report their sleep quality actually improves when sleeping with their partner.

    “If you snore, gravity is not your friend, but a slight elevation to your neck and head alleviates some of gravity’s pull and allows for a more open airway,” said Dr. Sujay Kansagra, pediatric neurologist and Mattress Firm sleep health consultant.

    Still, most people are happier once the relationship hits the comfort zone as 65 percent of couples sleep in the same bed every night and 70 percent of respondents say they don’t miss sleeping alone.

    “While it’s no surprise that more couples sleep better when in bed with their partner, a restful night’s sleep can be a challenge – especially if your partner snores like a freight train, like mine. With an adjustable base, I’m able to elevate his head and quiet his snoring, which has improved sleep quality for us both,” said Michelle Stokely, National Retail Merchandising Manager, Mattress Firm.

    Top 10 things couples are most comfortable doing in front of each other

    1. Letting their partner see them/take care of them when they’re ill (73 percent/1,468)
    2. Not wearing make-up (63 percent/1,266)
    3. Crying (63 percent/1,252)
    4. Snoring in their sleep (60 percent/1,208)
    5. Showering at their place (59 percent/1,186)
    6. Leaving the door open while using the bathroom (56 percent/1,117)
    7. Not shaving (55 percent/1,103)
    8. Being naked around the house (55 percent/1,092)
    9. Sleeping in a hair wrap or bonnet (40 percent/804)
    10. Wearing a retainer to bed (34 percent/680)

     

    How long into a relationship it takes on average to first experience things (shortest to longest)

    1. Sex (4 months and 17 days)
    2. Sleep in same bed (4 months and 21 days)
    3. Shower at the other’s place (4 months and 29 days)
    4. Cry in front of partner (5 months and 24 days)
    5. Sit in silence without it being awkward (5 months and 27 days)
    6. Talk about your/her period (6 months and 13 days)
    7. Be naked around the house (6 months and 18 days)
    8. Share a deep secret (6 months and 19 days)
    9. Let your partner take care/see you when you’re sick (6 months and 21 days)
    10. Use the bathroom with the door open (6 months and 24 days)
    11. Pass gas in front of partner (6 months and 25 days)
    12. Talk about marriage/kids (7 months and 1 day)
    13. Go on vacation together (7 months and 7 days)
    14. Share a password (7 months and 17 days)
    15. Share a Netflix/Hulu account (7 months and 24 days)

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  • Olly Murs just revealed something incredible about The Voice

    Olly Murs has hit out at claims that those impromptu performances by the judges you see on The Voice are all faked.

    Are the judges performances rehearsed on the Voice
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    Those impromptu performances by the judges on The Voice aren’t rehearsed according to Olly Murs, but are actually live, of-the-moment performances, which are all busked.

    Taking to social media Olly, who is the most successful solo act ever to come out of the X Factor, said that he hated it when fans of the show accused the seemingly effortless performances by the judges during the wait time in between contestant auditions were rehearsed.

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    The star made the claim after Jennifer Hudson performed a flawless, on-point, in the right key, version of “The Impossible Dream” backed by the show’s talented live band.

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    He wrote, that he hated when people constantly asked whether the performances were rehearsed before adding that Jennifer Hudson is constantly singing in her chair, “Nooooooo we don’t!” he wrote, “This is @IAMJHUD every time I see her in that chair, she’ll sing anything at any time & I have the pleasure to be front row to see it!”

    The Voice continues next Saturday from 8 PM.

  • Rose McGowan’s Brave: A Brave Rose between the Thorns

    Rose McGowan’s Brave: A Brave Rose between the Thorns

    So…A little while ago I was surprised to be contacted on Twitter by Rose McGowan after responding to one of her tweets. We had a back and forth over Direct Message touching on her experiences and the experiences of others and she recommended reading her book Brave, and this is what the article is mostly going to be about.

    Obviously, I was aware of who Miss McGowan was, having been a huge fan of the TV series Charmed. And with her more recent revelations of her experiences of Hollywood, and her contribution to the #MeToo movement and her own consciousness-raising movement, #RoseArmy, her presence was very much at the forefront of a much bigger story.

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    Out of respect for her, I will not mention the name of who she has accused, or go into details again about what allegedly happened to her. Those things are detailed in the book, though even she refuses to name him, but for anyone who knows the story and has Google, you’ll know who it is.

    I don’t see a broken or damaged woman. I see a hurt woman, yes. But I also see a strong woman who fights for what she believes is right

    So I went into Brave with not really knowing what to expect. The mainstream media had painted a rather bleak picture of her as this loud troublemaker who couldn’t control herself. Even smaller websites would chime in, with one even branding her a whore in the past. Would this book be a self-serving pity fest? A vague collection of anecdotes from a woman desperately trying to promote herself? Far, far, far from it.

    Brave details pretty much everything about Rose McGowan, from her troubled childhood growing up in a cult, her relationships with her family and partners, her experiences of Hollywood, why she decided to shave her head and through to her current fight to be heard by the very media that is so keen to destroy and discredit her.

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    Reading every chapter of her book, gave me an insight into why she acts the way she does now, why she’s so passionate about calling out unacceptable behaviour towards people, and why she’s so angry.

    I don’t see a broken or damaged woman. I see a hurt woman, yes. But I also see a strong woman who fights for what she believes is right.

    For anyone who has ever been the victim of harassment or assault, this book could potentially be triggering, but to see how far she’s come and how she wants to inspire and challenge your way of thinking is utterly phenomenal. There are times that the book will be hard reading, but I would recommend that if there are some chapters that affect you, then take a break. There’s no rush to read it through in one go. I will say though that it’s a book that will certainly get you thinking.

    To be one of the first women in Hollywood to finally speak out and have her voice heard took a tremendous amount of bravery. She threw herself out there, running the risk of being ridiculed and dismissed. For years the talk of the “casting couch” had always come hand in hand with Hollywood. But for the first time the #MeToo movement pointed out that it was far seedier than anyone would’ve thought. A terrible dynamic of higher-ups allegedly using their power and influence over someone’s career to get away with some truly shocking behaviour.

    Brave details the alleged casual misogyny that exists within the film and TV industry, and that’s just towards one woman.

    I don’t want to go over every aspect of Brave, there’s a LOT in there, nothing is held back, so there will be a fair few surprises about what some aspects of Hollywood are like.

    Rose’s public appearances are usually fraught with controversy, from a shouting match with a transgender activist at a book signing (instigated by the activist), to unsettling questions being asked in interviews, usually looking for a juicy soundbite to take out of context. Brave gives Rose an opportunity to actually get her point across without a time limit. I didn’t want to just be another voice in the sea of pieces about her. Her voice deserves to be heard. So I implore you to read Brave, and to actually listen to this woman, who described herself to me as a freedom fighter.

    Rose continues to be a dividing voice, but she’s acutely aware of that. She takes no pleasure in lifting the veil on systemic abuse in the industry at the risk of her own career.

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    And now this year she brings her book tour and talks to the UK & Ireland for several dates around the country. I’ve already got my ticket, and while Brave is a brutally honest, and almost visceral read, hearing the stories from Rose’s own mouth will add that extra dimension to the book.

    Tickets for the four-date UK & Ireland tour can be purchased online here. Rose McGowan’s book Brave can be bought here.