Author: Jake Hook

  • INTERVIEW | How to survive a plague Peter Staley and David France

    INTERVIEW | How to survive a plague Peter Staley and David France

    We sat down with filmmaker, journalist and director David France and gay rights and HIV activist Peter Staley to talk about their brand new documentary film How To Survive A Plague, which chronicles the astounding progress of the modern gay rights movement and how the gay community dealt with the AIDS epidemic in the 80s and 90s.

    How to survive a plague
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    Why was it important to make a documentary like How To Survive A Plague?
    David France: I wanted to go back and do a project about the early years of AIDS, which I had covered as a print journalist and it occurred to me that somehow in our collective recollection of what happened in those years, we kind of condensed everything. We thought of the early years as being sad and then better, but what was lost in that recollection was what it took to get to one place to the other. It took this tremendous epic movement of mostly gay men and lesbians,originating in New York but moving around the globe, to change so much about the way, first of all, what we think about the community in the larger media, and then to transform science and medicine and pharmacological research in a way that people have benefitted across the globe.

    The idea that this was lost, that this movement that Peter and his colleagues had invented out of thin air and out of a desperation, which produced these tremendous victories, seemed to me to be a burden of responsibility to carry forward.

    What do you want How To Survive A Plague to achieve?
    DF: I want people to remember what happened. I want people to recognise that AIDS in the plague years, before there was effective treatment, wasn’t just a period of tragedy. Although it was marked by these intense tragedies. These deaths were just unstoppable and the loss that we’ve all had to carry since then, but it was also a time of great news.

    Before HIV or AIDS activism it gave (gay) people, at least in the United States, perhaps more than in the UK, a real role in public life.

    We were isolated. We were living in these geographical ghettos. We were hated – officially and culturally and rejected by everybody across the board including our families.

    To go from there in 1981 when AIDS first hit till 1996 when the drugs were finally discovered, promulgated and brought out; and HIV was survivable, that was also this period of amazing cultural integration and this revolution of the way we exist in society.

    Peter Staley: I hope it inspires young gay men and lesbians, and really shows them their history and how we got to this point. It shows them the power of our community.

    It shows gay people at their best. In one of the worst moments we ever faced we rose above it. We took care of each other. It was extraordinary and beautiful. At the same time, it’s something very important, for my generation, to help us remember and memorialise what we went through and to remember the friends that we lost.

    A lot of us didn’t process those years, and this film and others that have come after it, and looking back, is something we need to go through. We need to honour the sacrifice of those that we lost and the extraordinary work they did that allows all of us to live happy long lives these days.

    Is the gay community as politically charged today as it was in the 80s and 90s?
    PS: Yes it is charged up. AIDS forced us out of the closet. Either we laid down and died and got wiped out or we had to stand up and come out of the closet and fight back.

    Once we did that, we realised that as a community we had immense power and this film just shows it beautifully.We had this innate power as a community and that launched the modern gay rights movement. Especially in the States with
    gays in the military first and nobody ever thought we’d have close to 20 states now in the US with gay marriage.
    Gay marriage is now happening in the UK and across Europe and countries in South America. This is just something I would never have dreamed of.

    There are massive amounts of activism around, but I wish there was a little bit of it to be brought back to finish
    the work on AIDS. I speak out about that a lot these days because obviously, the crisis is not over. It’s liveable but the virus is still infecting way too many gay men and we need to fight that. We need to slowly wind down this epidemic. We have the tools to do it.

    With the sharp increase of new HIV infections, particularly amongst young gay men, how does that make you feel, when you see that happening?
    PS: It’s frustrating, but I don’t feel anger towards younger gay men who are not responding to HIV like my generation responded to it because it was two very different times. My generation changed its behaviours and fought against HIV / AIDS.

    It became the issue in the gay rights movement because all my friends were dying in front of me. In the absence of that death, which only happened because of the amazing success of the activism we did, you have a very different challenge, you have apathy.

    There’s a lack of fear and without that fear, which is an incredible motivator for behaviour change and activism, it’s a very different battle.

    So I’m not casting blame, I think if I was a 22-year-old HIV-negative man now I’d be pretty oblivious myself. I think it’s human nature. We just have to accept that and work around it and use social media and tell the real story about how living with HIV still is something that nobody should want to face a life of.

    It’s still quite challenging. You have to take the medication for the rest of your life. You have to remain anally compulsively engaged in the healthcare system in order to not screw that up because, if you mess up on your meds you will eventually get sick. There are still people with HIV who die. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone and we need to give the real picture.

    DF: We have to keep on talking about it. That’s what we’re not doing. People are making decisions about their own
    lives in a total vacuum thinking, ‘So I’ll take a pill a day’ and if we were talking about it collectively as a community we might be up to convey the information that Peter is talking about. That these pills are really tough pills. It might give you a near normal lifespan but it’s not going to give you, necessarily, a near normal life. We don’t know what people are going to be like 50 years out on this medication.

    PS: Plus the stigma is horrible, and you’re going to face a life of that stigma: Dating, finding a boyfriend or a future husband, you’ll find a massive challenge. It is a massive challenge for people who are HIV and that’s horrible but that’s the reality that we’re faced with these days.

    Interview by Jake Hook and Greg Mitchell

    This interview was taken from Issue 1 of THEGAYUK (2014) Subscribe for FREE and never miss another issue.

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  • Running man | 8 top tip if you’re planning to start running again

    Running man | 8 top tip if you’re planning to start running again

    If you are looking to get back into running after a break here is advice from Lewis Manning, Senior Sports Physiotherapist at BMI The London Independent Hospital

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    Gradual training

    The most important thing you need to remember when getting back into running after a break, especially if you’re recovering from an injury, is to increase your training gradually. All other interventions are secondary to this and if you get this wrong, you are much more likely to get injured. This is because both your cardiovascular and musculoskeletal systems take time to adapt to the new load that is being put on them.

    Slow increases

    The general rule when running is that you should only increase your training load by 10% a week (unless your longest run is less than 4 miles, then you can increase things a bit more quickly).

    Have a good pair of running shoes that suit you.

    Everyone is different and it doesn’t have to be the most expensive pair that are the best.

    Be careful about starting to run if you are significantly overweight.

    It may be helpful to begin with low-impact exercise such as walking or cross training to begin with.

    Warming up

    Warm up by running a bit slower for the first 5-10 minutes is important on the higher intensity (especially interval) runs. However, general static stretching before running has been shown to not reduce the chances of injury. It may be important to stretch specific muscles that are tight on you, but this should be done throughout the week, not just before a run.

    Running on softer surfaces

    Surfaces such as grass or a treadmill are a great way to get back into training as they put less force through your body. However, if you are competing in an event that requires road running, you will need to do some training on the road too.

    Eat correctly

    (again, this is another topic in itself) and drink when you need to. Don’t be obsessed by drinking, whether it be water or sports drinks, however. Your body will tell you when you need to drink and drinking too much can cause as many problems as not drinking enough.

    Listen to your body.

    Your body will generally ache a bit when returning to running. However, if niggles become persistent and are worsening, you should nip this in the bud early by getting advice from a physiotherapist.

     

    This article was taken from Issue 2. Subscribe now

  • MYSTYLE | Thomas Lauderdale

    MYSTYLE | Thomas Lauderdale

    Meet Portland resident Thomas Lauderdale, the rather fabulous founder and pianist of the multi- million-selling pop-jazz group, Pink Martini. Thomas had an interesting upbringing when his father became the subject of multiple talk shows when he came out as gay. Thomas was just 10 at the time. His father went on to become the first openly gay minister in his denomination.

    Thomas Lauderdale
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    WATCH: I Like To Watch.
    FRAGRANCE: Victory Wolf in Portland. We are creating a Limited edition in partnership with Victory Wolf Pink Martini presents…
    CLOTHING BRAND(S):
    UPTOWN: I have two out ts one is Hugo Boss suit in grey or navy. And then Vintage Football pants from Army and navy Surplus store.
    DOWNTOWN: There is a hot new gay strip club in Portland called Stag PDX. It is the first club in Portland where men can strip fully.
    FAVOURITE DRINK: Hello Goodbye which is a drink we can get in Portland. What’s in it? Bacardi Silver Rum/ roasted coconut water/ lime.
    FAVOURITE RESTAURANT: Lúc Lác Vietnamese Kitchen in Portland Oregon. – cheapest and best.
    FAVOURITE PLACE TO GO ON A FIRST DATE: Rooster Rock which is a nude beach where the Columbia River meets the Gorge. Check out my Instagram on thomasmlauderdale.
    FAVOURITE TRAVEL DESTINATION: Hawaii – the beaches are amazing.
    FAVOURITE BOOK: A Confederacy of Dunces, John Kennedy Tool.
    FAVOURITE TV SHOW: I don’t have a TV.
    THREE TOP SONGS ON MY PLAYLIST: “Everybody’s Talkin” – Midnight Cowboy “Rivers of Babylon” – Boney M “Vera Lynn” – Now is the Hour
    FAVOURITE GADGET: Music Box.
    QUOTE TO LIVE BY: “We may not all break the Ten Commandments, but we are certainly all capable of it. Within us lurks the breaker of all laws, ready to spring out at the first real opportunity. Virtuous people are simply those who have either not been tempted sufficiently, because they live in a vegetative state, or because their purposes are so concentrated in one direction that they have not had the leisure to glance around them.” – Isadora Duncan, “My Life”

     

    Pink Martini are on tour. www.pinkmartini.com

  • Internet trolls Azealia Banks after she reveals Trump is her hero

    Azealia Banks has revealed Donald Trump is her hero and got trolled good and proper for it.

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    The internet just handed Azealia’s ass on a plate to her.

    Largely ignored rapper Azealia Banks has taken to Facebook (because she was banned from Twitter) to talk about how President Donald Trump is her hero, whilst calling Clinton a “cow” and insisting that she is elated by the election outcome, which has stunned the world.

    Azealia who has in the past been blasted for her homophobia told her fans that America deserved a.

    “WAAAAAAAY better first female president then trash ass Hilary (sic).”

    She then went on to put Katy Perry and Lady Gaga on blast for thinking that their “dry ass celebrity power” would sway the voting Americans to plump for Clinton.

    “they said Katy and Gaga was backstage crying I would have laughed real hard and loud right in their faces LMFAOOO”

    She finished her rant with the following message, in all caps:

    “TRUMP BEAT THE MEDIA.
    THIS IS DEEPER THAN POLITICS.
    HE BEAT THE F***ING MEDIA
    HE IS MY F***ING HERO RIGHT NOW.
    I AM ELATED.”

    Many of her followers replied to the rant calling her out on how “ridiculous” she was.

     

  • Here’s 7 things Trump actually said about LGBTs

    Here’s 7 things Trump actually said about LGBTs

    So the world is still reeling from the US election results. Yes, Trump is now President Elect of the USA.

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    Just to remind us what President Trump feels (or has felt) about LGBT people over the years, here’s seven terrifying quotes:

    1) He seemingly doesn’t need to respect trans people’s preferred pronouns.

    Speaking about Caitlyn Jenner after she started her public transition Trump said,

    “I knew him a little bit when Bruce was a great athlete. He was one of the best-looking people you’ll ever see.”

     

    2) Gay people leave their opposite-sex partners because of their looks…

    Not because you know, they’re gay and perhaps felt pressured into fitting into society’s expectations. Apparently, he felt that Arianna Huffington’s ex-husband left her for another man because she is,

    “unattractive both inside and out.”

    He went on to endorse that notion by saying,

    “I fully understand why her former husband left her for a man – he made a good decision.”

     

    3) Against gay marriage but not discrimination?

    Meanwhile in opposite world, in 2011 he was against discrimination for gay people but he was also against same-sex marriage in the same breath. In 2011 he said,

    “There can be no discrimination against gays. I’m against gay marriage.”

     

    4) Marriage is for heterosexuals, okay?

    In 2000 he said, according to The Advocate,

    “I think the institution of marriage should be between a man and a woman, I do favour a very strong domestic-partnership law that guarantees gay people the same legal protection and rights as married people. I think it’s important for gay couples who are committed to each other to not be hassled when it comes to inheritance, insurance benefits, and other simple everyday rights.”

     

    5) He didn’t think Carrie Prejean’s anti-gay marriage sentiment was horrible.

    Defending the Miss USA beauty queen contestant, Carrie Prejean, who told Perez Hilton that she was against same-sex marriage Trump noted,

    “That’s the belief of 70 percent of the people, so it wasn’t a horrible answer.”

     

     

     

    6) Overturning laws

    Speaking on Fox News in 2016, he said that he would “strongly consider” on appointing Supreme Court justices who would overturn the gay marriage ruling.

     

    7) Disregarding LGBTs

    Finally, if you wondered where in the pecking order gay, bisexual and trans people are in Donald’s thoughts. Don’t get your hopes up. Back in 1999, he said, “It’s something I haven’t given lots of thought to.”

    So that was 17 years ago… Do you think he feels differently now?

  • Four programmes you didn’t know you had to watch on Amazon Prime

    Four programmes you didn’t know you had to watch on Amazon Prime

    Looking for something interesting to watch on Amazon Prime, we’ve found four shows you NEED to be watching this winter.

    These are the four shows you didn’t know you needed to watch… Stat.

     

    Please Like Me

    Three Series available

    Please Like Me
    Please Like Me

    You need to discover this gem of an Australian comedy, created by out actor, writer and comedian Josh Thomas. Follow Josh as he comes out as gay finds his first (second and third) boyfriend and discovers the joy of cooking, dog handling and straight-roommate disciplining. One of the best shows to come out of Australia in years. Fresh and full of heart.

     

    Web Therapy

    Four Series available

    Lisa Kudrow Web Therapy
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    If you loved (the often over-looked) The Comeback with Lisa Kudrow you are going to LOVE Web Therapy. Follow Fiona Wallace (Lisa Kudrow) set up her own therapy firm on the Internet. She’s truly terrible as a therapist, her husband’s (Victor Garber) gone gay and her mother (Lily Tomlin) is an absolute biatch. Watch out for the all-star cameo cast including: Courteney Cox, Meryl Streep, Alan Cumming, Rosie O’Donnell and David Schwimmer.

     

    Halt and Catch Fire

    Three Series available

    Halt and catch fire
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    It’s the early 80s and we’re at the start of the modern tech boom and the world of personal computer is for the taking. A fascinating period drama which follows the lives of three tech geeks and a marketing maverick on their journey to take on the big players who all of whom feel very familiar. Also has a brilliant, understated and rare bisexual storyline for a lead character.

     

    Braindead

    Braindead
    ©2016 CBS Broadcasting, Inc. All Rights Reserved

    One Series available

    Flesh-eating bugs are taking over Washington DC in this comedy with an edge. Film and directed with all the seriousness of House Of Cards with a very strange undertone and comic moments. Very funny, very thrilling.

     

    Haven’t got an Amazon Prime account – get a 30-day free try here.

     

  • How not to be a douche when you have to dump your boyfriend

    It’s a sad fact of life that all good things must come to an end and that includes relationships.

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    So if you’ve decided that time is up on your relationship we’ve got some suggestions on how not to make a pig’s ear out of the breakup process. Yes, it’s likely to hurt, and it’s probably going to get messy. So here’s ten tips on how not to be a douche when you dump someone.

    1) Is it really over?

    Are you sure? Can it be fixed or perhaps, more importantly, is it worth fixing? If it is then maybe, you need to hash it out with your partner. Have an honest discussion about your feelings.

    2) Give an actual reason.

    Don’t trot out that clichéd line, “It’s not you, it’s me”. Do you know how annoying that is? It means nothing and doesn’t help the other side have some closure. If there’s no other reason apart from the fact that you’ve fallen out of love, then say that. It can be harsh to say, but the reality of those words should hit home.

    3) Quit it and don’t go back.

    ARRRRGHHH. Stop playing with my heart. If the relationship is over, make sure it’s over. Don’t give the impression that things could be fixed if they can’t be.

    4) Speak to a friend.

    Chat with your friends about your plans before you make that break. They may have some insight or advice for you. Ultimately it’s your choice, but it doesn’t hurt to communicate what you’re feeling.

    5) Think about you, but also think about him.

    Remember you did once love or intensely like this guy, so be nice. Be honest and be firm. THEGAYUK’s very own Jordan Lohan suggests: “Honour the love you once had for each other by being respectful to one another during the breakup process. Break ups don’t need to be messy if you choose for them not to be.”

    6) Don’t procrastinate.

    If you’ve made your decision don’t hold off until the “right moment”. Even if that means you’re going to lose money, because you’ve got a holiday coming up or theatre tickets or whatever. If you own a house together or have a huge financial commitment together, then you might need to stay together for a bit longer, once you’ve broken up, until you can sort and separate your finances.

    7) Don’t feel sorry for him.

    He’s not a child, and he doesn’t need your pity. Try not to feel guilty for your actions. You’re doing this for a reason, hopefully, to make you both better people! Keep focused.

    8) Set out some post-bofxit (post boyfriend) rules.

    Set out some simple communication rules. Only texts, only emails – or whatever works for you. Don’t get drawn into long, complicated conversations. Keep it polite and professional.

    9) Let him blow.

    He might have a few words to say after you tell him you’re done. If he gets angry, just listen. Don’t retaliate and don’t goad. If you feel physically threatened leave. It’s only natural that if the breakup comes as a shock that he might react in an angry way.

    10) Plan your exit.

    Don’t rely on him to drive you home or lend you cash for a cab after breaking it off. Make sure you know what your exit plan is.

  • INTERVIEW | Anton Stephan

    In deep with Anton Stephans

    Anton Stephans is back in the theatre. After a year of non-stop X Factor appearances, tours and general madness he’s back to his first love – Musicals. He’s about to star in the re-staging of Moby Dick! The Musical, at the Union Theatre in London. We meet in the lush surroundings of a posh eatery in central London. He orders a healthy chicken salad and looks intently at me. He has incredibly bright eyes, an infectious naughty cackle and a very open soul. Within seconds we’re talking about dirty mags and sticky floors in Soho… I can tell this is going to go down well.

    What kind of student were you?
    I was always in trouble. I liked to ask lots of questions, and I liked to explore things, so if we went on a trip to London, me and my friends would go into Soho… I’ve not told anyone this before. My friends and I would sneak off and go in to Soho. It was when it was fun. It was dark. It was seedy. When you went, your feet stuck to the floor. We’d go in, and you know they have all those magazines as well, so we’d go in looking at filthy mags. Of course I was very inquisitive. I wanted to know what people do. I found out.

    So no teacher’s pet then?
    No. I don’t think anyone would call me teacher’s pet. I was more the person that would get on your nerves because I would ask so many questions. I just wanted to know more about the world. Although I’d been taught things, things I wanted to know then, they weren’t teaching.

    What’s your happiest memory?
    I know this might sound cheesy, but I got home today and my aunt came round to the house, she said, “How are you?” “I’m really happy at the moment. I’m really happy.” I’m happiest when I’m working. I think men should work.

    Really?
    Yeah, men should work. If we’re not working, we get up to all sorts. We should be working. The devil makes work for idle hands.

    Are you a happy person?
    I’m generally a very positive, happy person. I think nothing is forever. I’ve learned that everything changes. If you hold on to things too tightly and you live in the past, that’s where you become miserable. You can’t fix what you did yesterday. I can’t fix what I just did. I can only go forward and be the best I can be now.

    Did you get that from a book?
    No, no, no. Let go of your mistakes very quickly. Other people might not. Other people will hold on to them. Let go of the mistakes very quickly and go forward because those things are going to bind you. Those things hold you back. If you let it go, and go, “Okay. I made that mistake. I got it very wrong. If I do this and keep going, it gets better.”

    What are you most afraid of?
    Not achieving the personal things that I want. In my life, career-wise, things are going incredibly well. Thank God. You got a rabbit’s foot?

    Are you more a fan of meeting people for real or dating apps?
    Apparently, the guy who looks after all my media has found tons of Grindr profiles of me on it.

    What like catfish profiles, pretending to be you?
    I’m thrilled. I hope they’re getting lots of dates.

    What do you think your porn name would be?
    My porn name? Rex Huns.

    What did you want to be when you grew up?
    I always wanted to be an actor.

    What is the most important life lesson you’ve learned?
    Love is everything. It is everything. It is the most important thing we can do for each other that doesn’t cost any money.

    What if the other person’s a complete asshole?
    Love is still good. It’s the best.

    If you could invite three famous people to dinner, dead or alive, who would you invite?
    Oh, my God. Bette Davis. That would be very fun, I really like Tom Cruise… we’ve been chatting on Twitter and Jennifer Hudson. I love her. I love everything about her.

    If you found £50 in the street, what would you do?
    Spend it.

    If you found £45,000 in a suitcase and you were in a park by a bench and you were absolutely certain that you weren’t being watched, what would you do?
    Oh, my God. Well I’d keep it. I would. I’m sorry. I’m that person. Is that an awful thing to say? I’m going to say the truth. I would keep it. I would probably give some to my friends. People I know who need money. Is that really bad? I’d think it was God’s gift. That, my friends, is God’s gift. That is love in action.

    What keeps you awake at night?
    The only thing I get up for is to go to the loo these days.

    What’s the last thing you do at night?
    I write my list every night. I do a list so I know what I’m doing the next day. I’ve never ever, very rarely, have I ticked off all the things on my list that I was supposed to do. That worries me. Sometimes I wake up going, “Really, really should have polished them shoes. Can’t wear them tomorrow!”

    What’s on the bucket list. Top three things?
    Jumping out of an airplane. I’ve always wanted to get into a car and drive from one end of America to the other. I want to go find music in rare places.

    This is slightly personal. When did you first do the deed?
    Such a long time ago. I also had sex with lots of girls, too.

    How would you describe your sexuality?
    I’m gay. I would say having sex with a woman, at the time, was like visiting Paris. Nice place to go. Wouldn’t want to live there. There’s no real centre. Everything’s spread out with lots of attractions.

    Men are more like New York….
    There it is. There’s Times Square.

    Would you change your first experience?
    No. I think everything happens right, and it did. I was very lucky. I am still friends with these people.

    What song would you have played at your funeral?
    Oh, God. I don’t plan on dying ever. That’s the deal, isn’t it?

    If you could go back in history, where would you go?
    Oh, golly. Well, I wouldn’t go back too far. My folk haven’t been dealt very well. I’d be serving you lunch. I wouldn’t go back too far. I think that’s why I like the now!

    What’s the first thing you do every day?
    Brush my teeth. Usually these days I’m getting up very early and going to the gym. I’m doing this new thing, well, new to me, called gymming.

    What annoys you about yourself?
    I wish that I had more control of my upset at injustice, or when someone says something rude, I wish I just had the ability to let them just do it and get away with it, especially on Twitter or social media.

    What’s your best physical feature?
    I don’t know. My smile, I think. Is that a physical feature? That, and I’ve got really great legs!

    Follow Anton on Twitter @AntonStephans and make sure you book tickets for Moby Dick! The Musical. www.uniontheatre.biz

     

    This interview was taken from Issue 23. Never miss another issue by subscribing for FREE

  • TRAVEL GUIDE | Small Town Boy, the best and gay friendly towns of Midwest America

    TRAVEL GUIDE | Small Town Boy, the best and gay friendly towns of Midwest America

    Travelling to America as a gay man you probably think of the usual haunts including New York, South Beach and San Francisco – and they are all fantastic cities, but have you ever thought about small-town America? Well, we recently had a little sojourn to America’s Midwest where we uncovered some gems and found the joy in small-town America.

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    Galena

    If you’re a fan of the fly/drive holiday, then you’ll want to check out the Great Lakes Facebook page, where you’ll get lots of ideas for glorious cities, friendly towns and exciting hotspots to visit while you’re in the area. One such find is the ridiculously beautiful town of Galena (main street pictured at the start). Around three hours west of Chicago, you’ll drive through miles and miles of farming land, the Midwest is known as the breadbasket of America because of its wheat production – and you’ll certainly see a lot of it. The roads are easy, wide and once outside the city limits mainly free from traffic. You can forget the M6 or M25 motorways. Galena is a different world altogether and as you enter through the town’s giant floodgates (it sits on the Galena River which feeds into the Mississippi River) you’ll be left wondering if you’ve actually stepped back in time.

    Mississippi
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    Home to just under 3500 people, the town has an incredible friendly laid-back appeal. You must stay in one of the gorgeous, unique suites at the Jail Hill Inn – owned, operated and lovingly restored by the Inn Keeper, Matthew Carroll.

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    For lunch fill your boots at the wonderfully authentic Vinny Vanucchi’s Italian restaurant. To really get your orientation in this quaint historic town, buy a ticket for the Galena Trolley – which departs from 10 AM until 9 PM. Your guide will take you on a whirlwind stop of this picture perfect town. If you have a head for heights book yourself on to the Balloon flight experience and see how beautiful the Midwest countryside is from the sky. As you float several thousand feet up let yourself drift with the wind – who knows where you’ll end up next.

    Rockford

    Rockford
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    Driving on the I20 east, just an hours drive from Chicago is Rockford in northern Illinois. Although home to 150,000 people Rockford manages to maintain its small-town heart and friendly folk are all around. There are two friendly gay bars, The Office right in the centre and Dusty Boots Saloon and Eatery. Home to a number of attractions such as the Laurent Home, the Anderson Japanese Gardens and the Burpee Museum (don’t forget to say hello to Homer the T-REX).

    Rockford
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    However, if you’re looking for a real treat, head over to the jewel of Rockford the Coronado Theatre right in the centre of town and book yourself into the theatre tour with Marty Mangas, who really is a gem of a tour guide. If you’re lucky, you’ll even get to see Bob Bates play the 80-year-old original organ before heading off on a backstage experience. Be sure to refresh and replenish the senses with a cool beer down at the Prairie Street Brewhouse nestled on the river’s edge. A perfect look out spot as the sun sets. You’ll find comfortable lodgings at the Fairfield Inn and Suites.

    The Quad cities – Moline

    Moline
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    As you set off from Rockford, heading south, be sure to stop off and have breakfast at Poopies. You’ll find it on Viaduct Rd, and you should be prepared for a huge plate of homey food at a decent price. Don’t be put off by the name or the restaurant’s seats – which are actually made from toilet seats.

    Moline is a cutesy but agricultural town right in the heart of farming country, one hundred and sixty-five miles west of Chicago. Surrounded by miles and miles of farmland, the population is a little over 43,000 and it sits between The Rock and the mighty Mississippi rivers. Moline makes up the Quad Cities along with Davenport, Bettendorf and Rock Island. There’s a small but friendly gay scene in Davenport centred around Connections and Mary’s On 2nd. For lunch, you must take lunch at Lagomarcinos Soda Fountain on 5th Avenue – their milkshakes and deep filled sandwiches are to die for.

    Don’t forget to get up early and take in some views of the Mississippi.

    Andersonville

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    Okay, cheating slightly here, because Andersonville is actually a neighbourhood in northern Chicago less than a kilometre from the lake front, but it is an absolute must visit. Chicago offers two incredibly friendly neighbourhoods for the LGBT community – the more youth orientated Boystown and the slightly maturer Andersonville. Of course, there are many gay bars to visit and street festivals throughout the year to try out, but one particularly sensational event to try is the Andersonville Annual Midsoomarfest. If you go a stranger, I promise you won’t leave without making friends as the neighbourhood’s streets are filled with a party atmosphere and music stages provide your evening with a crowd-pleasing soundtrack.

    Make sure you grab yourself a slice of original Chicago pizza pie and a chilled Margarita.

    TGUK stayed at:
    Fairfield Inn and Suits, Rockford
    The Irish Cottage Boutique Hotel, Galena
    The Carleton of Oak Park, Chicago

    TGUK flew into Chicago O’Hare on Icelandair with a layover in Reykjavik. However, there are direct flights with British Airways, Virgin, American Airlines and United.

    Visit www.facebook.com/GreatLakesUSA for more information.

     

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  • INTERVIEW | Dave Lynn

    INTERVIEW | Dave Lynn

    One of Britain’s most enduring drag queens Dave Lynn is fit, fifty-something and still fabulous. In a career path that is notoriously tricksy Dave Lynn has managed to stay the course for over 40 years, becoming, dare we say it, the Godmother of drag in the UK.

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    Indeed she’s a star of the small and silver screens, stage and is known for her singing prowess. Her appearance in the seminal coming-of-age gay drama, Beautiful Thing in 1996, makes her a legend – but you will have seen Dave Lynn turning up on Coronation Street, EastEnders, Doctors and most recently in Birds Of A Feather as Lesley Joseph’s drag self Proxy Cohen.

    We meet in Wandsworth where Dave Lynn was starring as Sally (a drag queen) in a play about the murder of Scott Amedure in 1995. Amedure was a man who was shot to death after revealing his attraction to a male acquaintance on a talk show to be broadcast on national TV in America. The programme never actually aired, but the story reverberated around the globe. Explaining why he decided to star in the production he tells me, “I remember the story when it first came out, I think it’s a powerful piece which needs to be remembered.”

    We plan to meet at the theatre at five pm, a couple of hours before the show. He arrives late and he’s very apologetic. He’s driven up from Brighton, thanks to the seemingly never-ending Southern Rail strikes. I’m waiting outside the theatre when he calls my mobile, “I can see you…” he coos – “I just have to wait 3 minutes until I can park for free”

    It’s 5:27 – and the restrictions end at 5:30 PM.

    I look around and across the road stands a fit looking man, dressed in a simple green vest top and shorts showing off some incredible looking muscles. He’s standing next to his flame red car. He is looking intensely at his phone’s clock. “Should I risk it?” he asks looking behind his shoulder for those notorious London traffic wardens. “No”, I say, “the moment you walk away, they’ll pounce like wasps on a barbeque sausage.”

    We stand and wait for 3 minutes and It occurs to me that I’ve never seen Dave Lynn the man.

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    It’s clear to see that Dave is fit, standing around 5’9. He’s of slight build and he has those killer legs on show. Nothing about Dave – the man  – gives away his full-time job, entertaining the patrons at gay bars across the South-East. No, nothing gives him away, apart from his eyebrows – so perfectly plucked and shaped.

    With 30 seconds to go before 5:30 PM, we risk it and take a short walk to a local coffee shop. We order our £2.80 coffees and like two old friends, within minutes, we’re chatting like we’ve known each other for years. He’s extremely approachable and talkative, despite telling me that out of drag that he’s actually quite shy. We fall into reminiscing about the gay scene of a yesteryear – when there was a surprising number of gay bars in London. Just to put it into context over 100 gay bars have closed since 2000.

    My first introduction to Dave Lynn was probably, as for most of us, through the feature film Beautiful Thing. Then there was that drag special episode of The Weakest Link with Anne Robinson, but it’s not until you see Dave Lynn live that you get to experience the character that is ‘Dave Lynn’. His sharp tongue and his incredibly feminine look have given Dave Lynn the edge over his contemporaries. But, there’s a wisdom to the act too. It’s the wisdom which helps a seasoned entertainer know who to pick on in an audience. Oh boy, when she gets going, she gets going. You wouldn’t want to be a heckler in Dave Lynn’s audience. Dave explains that it’s a bit of a talent, “there’s a great ‘wave’ of someone you think would be good. You don’t always get it right. I’ve also got a great habit of going to somebody who’s going to be harder. I hate to be defeated,” he laughs, puts down his coffee and looks intently at me, his left eyebrow raised. Perhaps he’s wondering if I was ever one of those hecklers.

    I ask about Dave’s first foray into drag. He tells me that like so many legendary drag queens he started in London. The stage of The Black Cap was the birthing pool for so many of today’s most iconic queens and it’s where he got her break. He laughs as he tells that he was so rushed that he actually hadn’t thought about a name – and was just introduced as “Dave”.

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    “I was so nervous it didn’t occur to me to have a name. I got a friend to do the makeup, I borrowed stuff from my mum to wear. The name hadn’t occurred to me. When the host said to me, ‘what’s your name?’ I went “Dave”.  That was it.”

    You might be surprised to know but the Lynn part of the name came from a suggestion by his grandmother whilst sitting with her one evening. He lets me into a secret, “Lynn came from me sitting with my grandma, she was living with us at the time. She said take Mummy’s name, which was Lily strangely enough. So we went to her middle name which is Evelyn and that’s how Dave Lynn came about.”

    So it seems that Dave’s drag was a family affair. He revels in the fact that his mother loved his makeup skills so much so that he’d have to go to her house to do hers before making his way to his own show. She was very exacting about Dave’s own makeup. He smiled, remembering, “She did not like me with heavy lips. She did not like me in headdresses.”

    Does he remember what he borrowed from his mum that fateful night at The Black Cap?

    “I was a big fan of Liza Minnelli, big fan. Huge. In fact, I think she made me want to be in “it” (showbiz) really. So obviously I wanted to do a number by her. I borrowed a gold, lurex halter-neck off mum. She was a wonderful mum.”

    After The Black Cap, he was given a stint in the East-end bar, BJ’s White Swan. He started off, surprisingly as a mime act, which gave him the opportunity to observe and learn, “I had seen all the characters and the patter. I was shown Hen-Night patter, basically, us being married to men and what they did…”

    By the time Dave Lynn became a talkie as it were, progressing on from mime, his evolved style was considered “dangerous” for the time.

    “Everybody said I was dangerous, I started to talk about real stuff, real-life stuff that was part of me. I never ever claimed to be a woman, I just took on what was going on. What I thought. Very rarely were there jokes. I tended to talk about my background, truthfulness. I found wit very much in my family.”

    Was his family witty?

    “On the Jewish side,” he explains, “I’m not saying this because I love my religion, but I think it’s given me a lovely wit. My mum was great like that. She just said things and I would just laugh at her. My parents together, even their rows were funny. Hysterical.”

    Learning his trade, he stumbled upon a winning formula. That ‘danger’ would manifest itself beyond telling jokes, lip-syncs or just singing songs, he went to the audience. “I would actually talk to the audience and go amongst them. I think I was one of first to do that. Nowadays, of course, everybody does that.”

    Times have changed in the 40 years that Dave Lynn has been dragging up. Looking back, he tells me that drag was always key to gay bars thriving and was an essential part of gay bar culture. He recalls fondly, “A lot of it was underground. The scene was absolutely fantastic. Getting around was so easy. The world’s busier. I’m really proud that we kept the scene going. It could have died a few times, I’ve seen probably about three generations of people go by. I believe that today is exactly what it should be. I don’t wish for the past.”

    I ask what he thinks about the growing number of shuttered gay bars across the UK. He pauses and with a considered tone tells me, “I think what’s happening, this is my opinion, the bars went through a change. It was very much: everybody got dressed up, went out, to have fun, you’d know the drag act. Then it all changed. It got more drinky. That was okay – you could deal with that. Then hours got later, then you had the smoking thing, that changed a lot”.

    There was also the 80s and 90s AIDS crisis, did that have an effect on the scene? “I remember going to work one night. I came off (stage) and I said to my friends, God, it’s like a cloud above the audience. It was unreal. But it changed. I found out if you’re on stage that you’re an aunt. They come and talk to you. They needed to be entertained. We needed entertainment.”

    He looks down at my phone – which is recording our conversation and says, “Then you had mobile phones” – our relationship with our phones has changed the way we socialise. The jury is still out on whether dating apps are to blame for the decline of the traditional gay scene, but Dave Lynn intimates that it’s more about concentration – that perhaps bars – and drag queens have to work harder to engage with today’s audience.

    “I think it needed a kick up the arse. I think it’s up to people now to say “right I’m out for the night, I’m gonna have a good time, I’m gonna put my phone away for half an hour, I’m gonna be part of the act… leave the phone at home because it’s taking over life”

    And has drag itself changed?

    “I think it’s developed a new life of its own, in the last decade. Since I started where you didn’t really talk about it. I’m happy now to go into a shop to buy high heels, but I remember taking a shopping list and pretending to buy it for ‘my girlfriend’,” he chuckles and leans in, “there are some newbie artists that are a bit too near the mark for me but actually the quality of acts is probably the highest standard I’ve ever seen.”

    Our interview is coming to an end, Dave is anxious to get over to the theatre to prepare for the show.

    There’s a poster outside and Dave Lynn in all her glittery finery is smiling at us… It’s about 45 minutes before the show. I ask how long it takes to get from man Dave to lady Dave. He chuckles, looking at the poster and tells me he’s “gotten quite quick at it these days”.

    As he walks away to his dressing room he looks at me one last time and says with a smile – “It’s been a fascinating career and time.”

    I don’t doubt it for a moment.

     

    This interview was taken from Issue 22 of THEGAYUK.

  • Gay Guys: 11 things you should definitely say during sex

    Are you a sexy-time talker? Chances are you’re staying stone-cold silence during the deed. Here’s why talking during sex is a good thing to do.

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    They say communication is the key to successful relationships and there’s no reason why this shouldn’t happen in the bedroom to bring you a successful sex life. So here’s 11 things you should definitely say or do in bed if you’re looking for better sex.

     

    Are you close?

    It’s okay to ask, but as always it’s in the tone of your voice. Ask in a bored tone or a voice that is dripping with sarcasm might just ruin the flow… Asking whether your guy is getting close to coming could mean that you can climax together. Bonus

     

    I like it when you…

    “Blow me”, “lick my balls”, “rim” or “just stick it in”. Guys, we’re not mind readers and unless you voice what it is you want to happen next the likelihood is that it won’t happen and life is too short for crappy unfulfilling sex.

     

    I’ll give it ago

    Has your partner just suggested doing something a bit left-field? Instead of saying, “no” why not, unless it literally makes you sick to your core, try it out. You never know, it could be the best thing you’ve ever done. As I like to say, “don’t say no, till you give it ago”.

     

    I need a moment…

    If, for whatever reason you need to take some time out, just say so. Don’t worry about disappearing erections and the mood flying out the window, those things will always come back…

     

    I love your body

    Is your partner a little body conscious? Telling him that you love his body could really help the barriers come down and the sex to become wild. By communicating that you’re really enjoying his body will ramp up the moment.

     

    No!

    If something is not your cup-of-tea then you have the right to say, “no”. If you’re getting involved with some kinky play then you and your partner should agree on a safe word which is absolute. If things get a little hairy the safe word must mean an absolute end to the activity at hand.

     

    You taste so good.

    Some men are worried about the taste of their goodies. Especially if the sex you’re having is a bit unplanned. So feed his penis or ass some encouragement.

     

    Moan and then moan some more.

    If you’re a little weirded out by using actual words use moans and groans to communicate your pleasure! The louder and more insistent the moan the more obvious it should be to how much you’re enjoying the play.

     

    You look amazing in that position…

    The problem with sex, sometimes, is that some positions can feel a little compromising and a little exposed. Some encouragement could do your partner wonders in the confidence arena, plus if the view is spectacular you should mention it. You wouldn’t climb Everest without commenting on the vista!

     

    I Love You

    If it’s appropriate and you are in love, saying, “I love you” during sex could be a real bonding moment. However, it’s probably best not to say it for the first time during your session. Feel the moment, if it feels right to, do it.

     

    Thank you

    Manners cost nothing and mean everything.