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  • Why I undressed for Elska Magazine

    Why I undressed for Elska Magazine

    Multiple factors can contribute to the development of the body image, but the biggest influence seems to come from the advertising industry, which unapologetically creates the need on the consumer to look like the ideal men or women portrayed in the media. Smoothing skin, erasing wrinkles, enlarging muscles, slimming waists… All this has become the norm in advertising. These images don’t reflect reality. This is just a convenient strategy designed to sell a product. Yet, from a younger and younger age, people are aspiring to these biologically impossible ideals. And I was no exception! Looking at these distortions of reality, I felt ugly and had the same desire as everybody else to look just as perfect as these models. But I eventually realized that this way of thinking can lead to serious body image problems. People who are unhappy about their bodies can develop eating disorders, turn to diet pills or steroids, or try cosmetic surgery and Botox injections. And I fear that, until the public responds more favourably to images of real people with real bodies, very little is going to change. This is why I decided to stand up and share my belief that everyone has the right, whatever their size or shape, to feel happy about their looks. I defend that a diversity of body shapes and sizes needs to be included in magazines, advertising and on the catwalk URGENTLY!

    A while ago, I discovered Elska Magazine. Created by Liam Campbell, Elska is a bi-monthly male photography publication, whose first edition was released in September 2015.

    Its name means “love” in Icelandic.

    One of the main aspects which differentiate Elska from other (gay) photography-related publications is that it does not feature perfect models, but instead focuses on real people with their “imperfections,” presenting real-life people and their stories, and providing a glimpse at queer men and community around the globe. Each issue is shot in a different city. When I saw an ad looking for real people to model for the Amsterdam issue, I knew immediately that this was an initiative I needed to support. And this why, with no shame or fears, I undressed and posed for Elska. I might not have the perfect body (at least according to the advertising industry), but this is me, I am real, and I learned to love myself and to feel comfortable in my own body. And now I am sharing it with you!

    Elska Amsterdam, the latest issue of Elska magazine, is out now and includes a nice selection of ordinary gay locals and their stories. Sadly, my photos didn’t make the cut for the main magazine, but they are featured in Elska Ekstra, Elska’s companion magazine with behind the scenes tales, outtakes, extra stories, and extra boys. Enjoy it!

    As a famous drag queen would say: “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you going to love somebody else?”

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  • We rated the best ballads from each of Mariah Carey’s albums

    We rated the best ballads from each of Mariah Carey’s albums

    Don’t hate… but

    Debut

    “Vanishing”

    This stripped-back piano-led ballad is probably one of the purest ballads of all time. It perfectly showcases Mariah’s vocal quality – and one epic vocal run (that sounds like the prettiest car alarm in the world) towards the end.

    Emotions

    “Can’t Let Go”

    After a string of number 1s in the US, “Can’t Let You” didn’t manage to reach the coveted top spot – which we think is a travesty. Plus the accompanying music video is one classy affair.

    MTV Unplugged

    “If It’s Over”

    Originally from the album Emotions, it marries MC’s songwriting with Carole King’s. Strong. Strong. Strong.

    Musicbox

    “Anytime You Need A Friend”

    This song is pure power and quite different from anything Mariah had released up to that point. Its dark chord structure in the verse opens up to one glorious chorus, filled with a gospel vibe that truly inspires – and don’t get us started on that whistle note at the end of the song. The whole Musicbox album is the ultimate MC balladfest, it has so many good options.

    Merry Christmas

    “Miss You Most (At Christmas Time)”

    When Mariah stips it all back we get to hear the jewel that is early Mariah’s bell-like soprano range. This song is the perfect opposite to the campery fun that is Mariah’s all-time greatest (or best-selling anyway) hit, “All I Want For Christmas (Is You)”.

    Daydream

    “Looking In”

    I love songs like these from MC. We really get to understand her story as an artist. “Looking In” feels deeply personal and from a songwriter’s perspective can feel very exposing but ultimately freeing.

    Butterfly

    “Butterfly”

    This is pretty much a standard Mariah ballad, but the lyrics are just so powerful and on the first album of Mariah’s to be pretty thin of ballads this is the obvious choice, following by “My All”.

    Rainbow

    “After Tonight”

    There are a couple of great ballads on this album – and you may be surprised that I didn’t choose “Can’t Take That Away” but the vocals in “After Tonight” are actually next level when you listen to them. Unfortunately the album’s other ballads like “Against All Odds” and “Thank God I Found You” (don’t hate) sounded just dialled in, I’m not a fan. Don’t get me started on the duet version of “Against All Odds”.

    Glitter

    “Lead The Way”

    Back in the very early 2000s, when most of the world had seemingly written Mariah off, there’s the gem of an album the Glitter soundtrack. “Lead The Way” is just beautiful. The album showcased a newer style of singing for the diva – as she started to use her breathier lower register to great effect – allowing her to let rip towards the end of songs – giving a greater contrast to her performances.

    Charmbracelet

    “I Only Wanted”

    Maybe an “After Tonight” part 2, but MC’s vocals are on point in this song and she does the Spanish guitar sound so well. This gets the top spot on from this album, because the chorus is so strong. I would have gone with “Through The Rain” but the use of Mariah’s softer, breathier vocal style gets tiresome. It’s not until the last chorus that she really opens up and lets fly – which is a shame.

    TEOM

    “We Belong Together”

    This album is very thin on the typical Mariah ballad, so the only choice is either “We Belong Together” or “Mine Again” luckily WBT is an epic song – particularly when she goes up the octave towards the end of the song.

    EMC2

    “I Wish You Well”

    Back to the piano-driven ballad, Mariah lets her stunning vocals shine.

    MOAIA

    “I Want To Know What Love Is”

    Mariah isn’t really known for her covers (why would she, as she’s probably the most accomplished song-writer in the world) but when she does one it gets noticed (remember “Without You”). “I Want To Know What Love Is” is, dare I say better than the original. And totally uplifting, you just don’t want it to end – and well in Brazil, it nearly didn’t! It was number 1 for an incredible 27 weeks.

    Merry Christmas II You

    “O Come All Ye Faithful”

    I have to say, I’m not a fan of this album, when compared to her 1994 release, it feels a little underwhelming, but getting a duet with her Mumma is pure excellence!

    Me. I Am Mariah The Elusive Chanteuse

    “Cry”

    Unfortunately, the traditional MC ballad has all but disappeared for this album, aside from the cover of George Michael’s “One More Try”, which I never thought was a great song from GM. To note, this is one of Mariah’s worst-selling album so far. The album peaked at number 14 on the UK Albums Chart, selling just 6,547 copies in its first week.

    Caution

    “Portrait”

    This song feels like a late-90s end-of-album Mariah ballad and that’s a lovely thing. On the whole, the album Caution album is underrated and under-selling. It really deserved to do better.

    So how did we do? What are your favourite MC ballads? Use the comments below to let us know.

  • Adult star Johnny Rapid says retirement because of COVID-19 was a joke

    Adult star Johnny Rapid says retirement because of COVID-19 was a joke

    Calm down, calm down… He’s not actually going anywhere.

    Prolific adult star Johnny Rapid shocked fans on Twitter yesterday by announcing that he was retiring from films because of COVID-19, but it turns out it was just a joke.

    The star, who has starred in countless films took to Twitter to tell his fans that he was retiring. Saying “I’m officially retiring from porn as of this moment”

    However, he later updated that status, not on Twitter but on the AVN website, saying,

    “Hey lovers,
    yesterday I’ve posted a joke on Twitter saying that I would retire from porn because of the whole CoronaV situation which makes it hard to meet people, but it seems that some followers took it seriously.

    I won’t bother to explain myself on social media in details; that it was a joke etc… but since we are in an exclusive trust circle here: No, I won’t let you down, this industry has been really good to me and I can totally feel all your love, it gives me strength everyday to work harder to please your fantasies.”

    He also added that he was “way too young or too kinky” to leave porn.

    So there you have it. Panic over. Johnny Rapid is not going anywhere you can check him out on the Men.com website.

  • Coronavirus could be spread through rimming

    Coronavirus could be spread through rimming

    Keeping clean is essential RN

    According to new research by scientists COVID-19 could be spread person to person via rimming, after they discovered traces of the virus in patients of those who had been infected.

    What’s even more concerning once the patient had no infected cells in their respiratory system, their poop still contained traces.

    According to the report from Gastro Journal, swabs of urine, stool and tissues were taken from 73 hospitalised patients. It found that 53 per cent of the patients tested positive for SARS-CoV-2 RNA in their stool samples.

    17 of those still had traces even after their respiratory system was clear.

    The report said it is possible for a “faecal-oral transmission route” meaning that those people who engage in rimming could be at risk of infection.

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    Of course the same could be said for those who don’t wash their hands after going to the loo. Faecal matter can find its way on to the hands – and spread from person to person or person to object – like phones and door handles.

    In any case, it’s probably wise to use moist toilet wipes after using the loo and whipping out the old douche if you’re in the mood for licking the chocolate cave.

    The best advice from the NHS is to stay at home and self-isolate if you have a high temperature and a new continuous cough.

    It also advocates:

    • wash your hands with soap and water often – do this for at least 20 seconds
    • always wash your hands when you get home or into work
    • use hand sanitiser gel if soap and water are not available
    • cover your mouth and nose with a tissue or your sleeve (not your hands) when you cough or sneeze
    • put used tissues in the bin immediately and wash your hands afterwards
    • try to avoid close contact with people who are unwell
  • It’s time for companies to stop offering holiday prizes to countries where being LGBT+ can land you in prison

    It’s time for companies to stop offering holiday prizes to countries where being LGBT+ can land you in prison

    I’m a fan of holidays and I’m also a fan of prizes, so a prize that’s also a holiday it’s pretty much up there with buttery crumpets and that new car smell for me, but I have to plead with the marketing departments at large corporations not to offer trips to countries where being LGBT+ could wind you all banged up.

    This afternoon a Caffe Nero marketing email landed in my inbox advertising a competition where the prize was a holibob to Cairo. How nice I thought until I wonder what are the legal ramifications of a visit to Egypt for a card-carrying gay like myself.

    Not good. it turns out.

    A little digging from the marketing department would have them discover homosexuality has been “defacto illegal” in Egypt since the year 2000. Yes, in Egypt under its “morality laws” people found guilty of breaking such a law could face “up to 17 years with or without hard labour and fines”

    Not to pick on Nero’s but they really should know better, after all, they do use the rainbow flag, during pride season in some of their stores.

    But they aren’t the only company to offer competitions where the prize could land LGBT+ people in trouble.

    You wouldn’t think that in 2020 it’d be acceptable to offer a prize that actively discriminated against LGBT+ people, but when you see a prize that’s a holiday to any country which outlaws homosexuality, and there are a lot of them – that’s effectively what they are doing, especially to gay and bi men who don’t want to end up in court facing punishments ranging from fines, lashes or even death.

    Even high profile game shows can get it wrong, in May 2019, Channel 5’s Blind Date sent two bisexual men on a romantic trip to St. Lucia, where it is illegal for males to have sex with other males.

    If we want change, we are going have to call on companies and allies to do their part.

    If we want a world that is tolerant of LGBT+ people we have to start showing that being anti-LGBT isn’t good for business, travel or politically and that includes using them in your marketing campaigns.

  • This might be the campest way to clean your hands during the Covid-19 outbreak

    This might be the campest way to clean your hands during the Covid-19 outbreak

    “I Will Survive”

    Gloria Gaynor has delivered the video you didn’t think you needed – showing that the camp classic, “I Will Survive” is the only song you actually need to sing whilst cleaning your hands during the Coronavirus outbreak.


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    As the world’s supply of disinfectant hand wipes becomes thin on the ground, disco queen, Gloria Gaynor is here to remind you that you can simply wash your hands – and in accordance with the best advice, the chorus of her best-known song is long enough to make sure you get them all nice and clean.

    https://twitter.com/gloriagaynor/status/1237908407241314306

    In her Tic Tok video, which has now surpassed over a million views, the songstress is seen washing her hands to the chorus of her mega-hit.

    She’s even started the #IWillSurviveChallenge – which natch we’re totally onboard with.

  • Cher has cancelled her concert due to Covid-19 concerns

    Cher has cancelled her concert due to Covid-19 concerns

    “I am so sorry, but your health is paramount”

    Cher has called time on her next Here We Go Again concert due to concerns surrounding Covid-19. Taking to Twitter she wrote that although concerts were fun she had to go with her gut and cancel for the safety of her fans.

    She told fans that she could not “in good conscience play” her concert, which was due to be in Oklahoma City.

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    However, at the time of publishing tickets, some of which are selling for a staggering $496 + fee each, were still be sold on Ticketmaster and there has been no official word, as of yet, on the singer’s website about refunds or whether further shows would be cancelled.

    The singer revealed that she and her concert crew were no longer kissing or holding due to fears surrounding Coronavirus.

    She then warned her fans to wash their hands with “hot water or purell” and not to touch their faces. She then warned against shaking hands, getting to close and letting other people breathe on you.

    Rescheduled

    However, there is some hope, as Cher told fans that she was “trying to reschedule at the end of Summer”

    Cher’s concert cancellation comes right after the organisers of RuPaul’s Drag Convention called its May event in Los Angeles.

  • HOTEL REVIEW: Moxy East Village, New York City

    HOTEL REVIEW: Moxy East Village, New York City

    by Jamie Tabberer

    A lift – or in that delicious New York drawl, an ‘elevator’ – can say a lot about a hotel.

    Being easily spooked, I usually detest them. Thus, any distraction is welcome, from music to low-lighting or a retro lift operator/baby-sitter.

    So then, what to make of the 286-room Moxy East Village, and its very, very memorable lifts? At first glance, you’re greeted by glassy explosions of stars, so brightly-lit, they’re piercing. On closer inspection, you see they’re actually emojis – including the beloved poop emoji. Once you’ve processed this (‘What the actual…’), and made awkward eye contact with the other guests in what feels like a hall of mirrors, you’ve reached your floor.

    Full marks on the distraction front.

    Irreverent, fun and young, the clearly-defined Moxy brand follows the lead of sister hotels Moxy Times Square and Moxy Chelsea. Still brand spanking new since opening in September 2019 – the rooftop bar isn’t even finished yet – this is dependable and well-located stopover, minutes from Union Square, that won’t break the bank. Prices start at $179 (£138.12) per night, and that isn’t easy to find in Manhattan.

    A timelessly smart, clean exterior, courtesy of Stonehill Taylor, is somewhat at odds with more daring design and decor from Rockwell Group inside. Not least in the lounge, where wacky features included a vast collection of 90s knickknacks. Among them VHS tapes, a Fisher Price cassette player and a skee-ball table that begs you to play with it.

    The famously (or infamously) compact rooms, meanwhile, exploit space in inventive ways: fold-away furniture, bunk beds, flat screens HDTVs literally at the foot of your bed. My queen room covered 155 square feet and I didn’t feel cooped up, but people I know who’ve stayed with the Moxy in the past have felt differently. My advice: go with it, and don’t let your luggage explode all over the room, as that’ll make it feel even smaller. Space is lacking, but it’s worth it for the price point and the perks, such as fast Wi-Fi, rain showers and a Netflix connection: hallmarks of a truly modern hotel.

    Meanwhile, the moody lighting and plush textures in the Alphabet Bar & Cafe is a Manhattan fantasy come true, and a show-stopping hanging wire sculpture by Edoardo Tresoldi in the absurdly glamorous Cathédrale restaurant is befitting of a five-star hotel. Elsewhere, the atmosphere and the service exudes easygoing cool.

    The East Village is one of umpteen gay playgrounds in NYC so there’s plenty to see and do on your doorstep. You simply must visit the Cock, a time-tested gay dive bar, and Big Gay Ice Cream – ‘like Ben & Jerry f***ed each other’, as my friend puts it.

    But what really sets the East Village apart is its historical flavour: it’s the former stomping ground of actual, proper queer icons like Keith Haring, Andy Warhol and Allen Ginsberg. The latter, for example, lived at 437 East 12th Street for 40 years until he passed away in 1997. It’s also where Blondie’s Debbie Harry lived while working as a Playboy Bunny in the 60s (oh, to have been her roommate), and other famous former residents include Jack Kerouac, Jeff Koons and Madonna.

    Gentrification has scrambled the countercultural spirit somewhat, so to get under its skin, a tour with an in-the-know local is good bet.

    For more information, visit www.moxyeastvillage.com.

  • Pride Journey: Columbus, Ohio

    Pride Journey: Columbus, Ohio

    This was my fourth visit to Columbus, Ohio and every time I visit, I discover something new. What a lot of people don’t realize about this thriving mid-west city is that its LGBTQ community is one of the largest in the United States and growing every day.

    Within minutes of arriving, I got a chance to visit Stonewall Columbus, their LGBTQ community center, located in the Short North neighborhood. The building, which recently went through a major renovation, offers a number of health and wellness services in addition to hosting numerous events throughout the year. Stonewall also houses an art gallery dedicated to local LGBTQ artists.

    Just a short stroll down High Street and you’ll run in to Union and Axis, two of the city’s many gay nightlife venues. On previous visits, there used to be a few more gay bars located on High Street, but they have since closed and others have sprouted up throughout the city.

    Art enthusiasts will love the Columbus Museum of Art’s upcoming exhibition Art After Stonewall which opens in March 2020. The exhibition, which previously visited Miami and New York was actually curated by the Columbus Museum of Art. The entire process of curating an exhibition of this size, which includes about 250 works of art by LGBTQ artists, took around 7 years to complete. The collection includes a combination of well-known artists as well as some lesser known names.

    After exploring the museum, head to North Market for lunch. Dozens of food vendors are located under one roof which features a culinary explosion for the senses including foods from Somalia, Greece, India among others. Also located in North Market is Jeni’s Ice Cream, a homegrown shop which now has opened locations in other cities around the country. Try the Brown Butter Almond Brittle, it’s to die for!

    A few doors down is Le Meridien Columbus, The Joseph. Developed by The Pizzuti Companies, the boutique hotel boasts a vast art collection of works acquired by Ron Pizzuti, one of the largest collectors of fine art in the world. Pizzuti’s collection is so extensive that he had to open a building to house it all. Guests of The Joseph get to explore The Pizzuti Collection free of charge. The property is also located in the Short North neighborhood, so it’s a great place to stay if you want to partake in LGBTQ nightlife.

    For dinner, check out a gay-owned restaurant in German Village called Barcelona. The tapas-style restaurant offers a large indoor dining room as well as a lovely patio that makes you feel as if you are in Spain. I tried a variety of tapas in addition to a delicious charcuterie board which nicely completed the white sangria. Barcelona also offers four types of paella to choose from including a vegetarian option.

    A few blocks away from the restaurant are some of the city’s neighborhood gay bars including Club Diversity, Boscoe’s and Tremont Lounge. Club Diversity is located in a converted house and really does welcome the most diverse crowd I have seen at a gay bar in recent memory. The establishment makes everyone feel comfortable regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity.

    Boscoe’s is also quite unique. On the evening I visited, the bar had a drag show and male strippers alternating performances throughout the night. The concept was actually a great idea, however I felt like the crowd was more excited about the queens. Other Columbus gay bars worth noting include Awol, Southbend Tavern, and Cavan Irish Pub. The city also boasts many retail establishments dedicated to the LGBTQ community.

    Columbus Pride is one of the largest pride festivals in the country, drawing over 800,000 revelers every year and according to local sources, their pride parade is larger than Chicago’s. Not a bad accomplishment for a city much smaller than Chi-Town. Plan on attending the next festival which is scheduled for June 19-21, 2020.

    History buffs will love the newly opened National Veterans Memorial and Museum. It is the only museum in the country that honors all Veterans – from all branches of service, and from all eras of our nation’s history of military service from the Revolutionary War to present. I was moved to tears watching videos of veterans telling their stories about the trials of war and the pressure it puts on their families. It really is an emotional experience that I wasn’t ready for to be honest. I have been to many museums of this nature, but for some reason, this one struck a chord.

    End your day with a meal at The Guild House, a restaurant developed by local celebrity chef and restauranteur Cameron Mitchell. When you enter the restaurant, you are greeted by warm notes of color with a modern twist. I almost felt as if I was dining at a culinary version of West Elm. For starters try the Tuna Ribbons and Steak Tartare. Both presentations are elegant and artful, just like the restaurant itself. My favorite entrée on the menu was the Sea Bass served in a lobster broth accompanied by carrots, leeks, radish and chili oil. Finish off your meal with the Carrot Cake and savour Chef Mitchell’s twist on the traditional favorite.

    An interesting fact about the city is that it is home to the 3rd largest number of fashion designers in the United States, behind New York and Los Angeles, due to the fact that L Brands is headquartered in Columbus. Local businessman Les Wexner founded the company in 1963 and has grown the fashion empire to include brands including Victoria’s Secret, Express, The Limited, Abercrombie & Fitch and Bath & Body Works. Although some of the brands have been spun off or sold, they have all called Columbus home. And where there are fashion designers, there are also models. Lot and lots of models. The eye candy is one of the city’s strong points.

    If you are looking for an easy, affordable city to visit, check out Columbus. You may be surprised at what this city has to offer, and you may keep coming back to experience its warmth and hospitality.

    Enjoy the Journey!

  • Is ghosting on Grindr very common?

    Is ghosting on Grindr very common?

    CREDIT: Ryazan / BIGSTOCK

    If that hot guy you hooked up with isn’t getting back to you, chances are you’ve been ghosted.

    First of all, what does being ghosted mean?

    The process of being ghosted means that a person that you’ve gotten to know well, perhaps over the course of a few weeks or months, suddenly and inexplicably disappears.

    They cease all communications with you.

    They don’t even seem to have checked their messages.

    Does ghosting only happen online?

    Does ghosting only happen online?
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    You can be ghosted in a real-life relationship and in an online relationship. basically they’ve turned into a ghost.

    Now sometimes there could be a very good reason why they’ve become ghosts and some may even have a legitimate reason for the disappearing act – perhaps, maybe they actually did die! There’s no way of knowing whether they did, particularly if your relationship was solely online via a private app like Grindr.

    They could have also been banned from using apps or social media for breaking rules and community guidelines, such as Facebook’s notorious crackdown on sex talk between consenting adults.

    And perhaps they already had a partner who found out about the affairs and has ground their partner’s phone into a fine dust – unfortunately, you’ll probably never know.

    So how often does ghosting happen on dating apps?

    We ran a quick poll on our social media and it turns out is very very common. Around 83% who answered the poll said that being ghosted “happened a lot” and that it happened to them in the past.

    So to answer the question, yes, ghosting does happen a lot of dating ups.

  • Milo Yiannopoulos was the Grand Marshall of Boston’s Straight Pride

    Milo Yiannopoulos was the Grand Marshall of Boston’s Straight Pride

    Because… of course, he was.

    Milo Yiannopoulos, who has been booted from almost every major social platform became the poster boy for “Straight Pride” in Boston over the weekend.

    He was the “pride’s” Grand Marshall. The British born, openly-gay journalist and author wore a school uniform costume, complete with a red glittery ‘Make America Great Again’ hat and red glittery shoes.

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    The parade, parts of which looked more like a Pro-Trump political campaign, was met with a huge number of counter-protesters.

    Milo Yiannopoulos took pride of place on top of a float which featured Trump / Pence posters as well as “Drain The Swamp” posters plastered on it.

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    Reporter Ryan Broderick from Buzzfeed News, who was at the scene, when Milo took to the stage to make a speech wrote on Twitter “After about an hour of confusion, about 75 remaining paradegoers are trying to give speeches in city hall plaza.

    “About 700 counterprotesters outside are drowning them out. Can’t hear anything”.