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  • Gay Dating | What does BDSM stand for?

    Simply put, BDSM is an acronym for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism.

    There are many forms of BDSM and they run a spectrum from light power play, like blindfolds and furry handcuffs to rough abuse – including genital abuse like CBT (cock and ball torture).

    Usually, a person takes up a preferred role, dominant or subservient, masochist or sadist, although of course, you’ll get people who like to switch, between the many roles.

    The dom is usually the person doling out the punishment or pain, while the sub is the receiver.

    According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, the first known use of BDSM was in 1991.

    So what is Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism?

    What does BDSM mean?

    Bondage is where the tying up of your partner with roles, cables, cable ties, scarves or actual chains. The idea is to restrict your partner’s movement. Again this could be on the lighter side, with just bounding someone’s hands to a full-body restriction suit, made from rubber.

    Discipline could be corporal punishment like hits and spanks, but it could be verbal discipline as well.

    Sadism is where someone is turned on by cruelty or humiliation inflicted upon another.

    Masochism is the opposite of sadism. It’s where you are turned on by subjected to physical pain or humiliation.

    BDSM in the gay community is not uncommon, with many guys trying out one form or another within relationships or other hookups. Many enjoy power play and enjoy the taking of dom or sub-roles, just as their heterosexual counterparts do.

    Many people associate leather wear like harnesses and hogtie with the likes of homoerotic imagery like Tom of Finland or the activities of the annual Folsom street fair in San Francisco.

    It is important to distinguish between consensual BDSM activities between consenting adults and those who are being abused or coerced against their wills.

    Although BDSM does involve abuse, it is welcomed by the recipient, whereas sexual abuse isn’t.

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  • A woman in the US is suing gay people for being gay

    A woman in the US is suing gay people for being gay

    A 66-year-old Christian woman in Nebraska, US, is planning on taking all gay people to court to try and determine whether homosexuality is a sin.

    Time.com is reporting that Sylvia Driskell, 66, who describes herself as an ambassador of “God, And His, Son Jesus Christ [sic]” is embarking on a legal challenge called “Driskell v. Homosexuals“, oh and she’s using just the bible and the Webster’s Dictionary as her only information source.

    In her seven page petition to the court she writes,

    “I never thought that I would see a day in which our great nation or our own great state of Nebraska would become so compliant to the complicity of some people[’s] lewd behavior,”

    She also states, “that homosexuality is a sin and that they the homosexuals know it is a sin to live a life of homosexuality. Why else would they have been hiding in the closet.”

    According to the report Driskell will be serving as her own legal counsel.

    Yep. 2020 people. 2020.

  • Gay Dating | What does “cut/uncut” mean?

    Gay Dating | What does “cut/uncut” mean?

    One of the options you’ll find on many dating / hook up apps to help describe yourself to would-be partners is a question about whether you’re cut or uncut.

    Sometimes, “cut” can mean how well defined your muscles are, but in this case, they are talking about your cock.

    Simply put, Cut is for those guys who don’t have a foreskin, whilst Uncut is for guys who still have their foreskins or “intact”.

    How common is being “cut”

    What does uncut mean

    Across Europe and many parts of the world, guys are still intact, whereas in North America up to 75 per cent of guys are circumcised – usually for no medical reasons.

    However, some men have to have circumcisions due to a foreskin that doesn’t roll back, which can make erections and intercourse quite painful. It can also affect how well you are able to clean the head of his penis.

    Of course, some religious people are circumcised such as Jewish and Muslim males.

    There is a growing call for non-medical circumcision in young boys and men to be treated in the same way as Female Genital Mutilation.

    In a recent poll conducted by THEGAYUK.com over 70 per cent of people, who voted, said that non-medical circumcision should be made illegal.

    Currently, in the UK, the practice of religious or cultural FGM is illegal, while the religious or cultural circumcision for males is still sanctioned by the Government. It is thought that less than 20 per cent of males are circumcised in the UK.

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  • RIP Little Richard dies at the age of 87

    One of rock music’s first out, Black performers, Little Richard has died at the age of 87, his manager has confirmed.

    The star had suffered from a spate of bad health in recent years including a stroke, heart attack and hip problems. His family announced that he died of bone cancer in Tullahoma, Tennessee.

    Little Richard was born as Richard Wayne Penniman in 1932.

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    According to his manager, Dick Alen, who had been Little Richard’s manager for 40 years, the entertainer died on the 9th of May.

    Alen said, “He was living with his brother in Nashville,”

    “He was battling for a good while, many years. I last spoke to him about two or three weeks ago. I knew he wasn’t well but he never really got into it, he just would say ‘I’m not well.’

    “He’s been suffering for many years with various aches and pains. He just wouldn’t talk about it much.”

    Since the news of his death, thousands of tributes have been made to the star with the star’s name trending on Twitter.

    The star’s first major hit was “Tutti Fruit” in 1956 and that song spured an enduring career that spanned 15 studio albums and 37 singles.

    His last major hit was “Bama Lama Bama Loo” which was released in 1964 and reached number 20 in the UK.

    Complicated history with sexuality.

    Throughout the years, Little Richard’s relationship with his sexuality was complicated having come out as gay and then denouncing his homosexuality due to his alliance with religion.

    He also married a woman, Ernestine Harvin, and later adopted a son.

    In 1995 he admitted that he knew he was gay all his life however he later stated that he was “omnisexual”.

    In 2017, the last time he spoke publicly about sexuality he said, on the  Three Angels Broadcasting Network that LGBT+ identities were an “unnatural affection” that goes against “the way God wants you to live”

  • Gay marriage linked to COVID-19, according to religious leader, Pat Robertson

    Gay marriage linked to COVID-19, according to religious leader, Pat Robertson

    Pat Robertson has doubled down on his anti-gay teachings by linking the current coronavirus pandemic with gay marriage and abortion.

    When asked whether the world could ever be forgiven for its “sins” like abortion and gay marriage Robertson was keen to stress that we won’t be forgiven because mankind has broken its covenant with God. Actually we’ve apparently “violated his covenant”.

    Because… of course he did.

    Using his TV platform, “The 700 Club” Pat was joined by his co-host, Terry Meeuwsen who read out a viewer’s question: “Pat, last week you were talking about COVID-19. You quoted Chronicles 7:14. How can God heal our land and forgive the sins when abortion and same-sex marriage are laws and many people are anti-Israel. Doesn’t this prevent his healing and forgiveness?”

    To which Robertson replied,

    “You know, I think you put your finger on something very important. You know the Bible says — they turn from their wicked ways. They didn’t get forgiven. They will turn from their wicked ways. And part of what we’ve done is turn.

    “We are not turning when we have done terrible things. We have broken the covenant that God made with mankind.

    “We have violated his covenant. We have taken the life of the innocent, slaughtered them by the tens of millions. Children made in the image of God. And we have abused the poor.

    I mean, we’ve allowed this terrible plague to spread throughout our society. And it’s a small wonder God would hold us guilty. But the answer is, you know, you confess your sins and forsake them. Then he heals the land. It’s not before. You are right”.

    In 2013 Robertson was nominated as Bigot Of The Year by the LGBT+ charity Stonewall.

    H/t Media Matters

  • Davey Wavey’s new Palm Springs’ house is a mid-century dream

    Davey Wavey’s new Palm Springs’ house is a mid-century dream

    That pool tho…

    YouTuber turned adult entertainment entrepreneur Davey Wavey has splashed out on a new home in Palm Springs, California and it is a dream home.

    He jokes, “Since most gay men seem to end up in Palm Springs eventually, I decided to get a head start.”

    The fitness guru has taken to social media to show off some incredible shots of his new home and it proves that creating thirsty content for the masses can really pay off.

    Davey Wavey founded porn studio Himeros in 2017 and it has gone from strength to strength on its mission to change mainstream porn for good.

    Davey actually “closed” on his home in Palm Springs in December of last year, but he reveals that it’s finally coming together as he adds mid-century touches to the 1 storey, flat-roofed home.

    The house, which is overlooked by rocky hills has a pool and numerous towering palm streets to give that perfect Californian-desert look. Palm Springs is a two-hour drive from Los Angeles.

    Open Plan and Pastels

    The home features an open plan living space which looks out onto a gorgeous pool through a wall of glass.

    The home also features a lot of pastel colours, including mint green for the outside areas and a baby pink for the kitchen. The living room is white with a brick fireplace and hardwood floor, covered by a thick pile cream rug.

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    First swim in the new house! I smiled the entire time! #?

    A post shared by Davey Wavey (@officialdaveywavey) on

    In a recent post, Davey shared some snaps of the interior of his home, saying, “take a peek inside my midcentury dream home in Palm Springs! Slowly getting all moved in and settled. It’s like a time capsule”.

    And it’s true the kitchen looks like its come right out of the 50s and its very pink.

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    Serving some cakes! Swipe for the reveal.

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  • Steve Grand just worked out in nothing but a jockstrap

    Steve Grand just worked out in nothing but a jockstrap

    Steve Grand knows how to serve. Consistently.

    The singer recently showed off his lockdown work out routine on his Instagram stories using nothing but some soda water bottles – and, of course, that all-important piece of gym equipment, the jockstrap.

    As we’re all in lockdown right now, and all gym and fitness spaces have been shuttered by governments in order to “flatten the curve” of the spread of COVID-19, millions of us are trying to work out how to keep fit, especially as in some countries access to outside space has now been severely restricted.

    Steve Grand, the singer turned underwear and swimwear designer has thought up a genius way to keep fit – and you don’t need anything but some bottles of liquid.

    Practising safe social distancing, Steve appeared to be alone in his home as he worked out in front of his fans, doing multiple bicep curls with the bottles of soda water.

    The star said, “are you guys ready we’re doing some quarantine soda water arm curls for biceps today… and yes I’m in my charcoal grand axis jockstrap… that I designed”.

    Ever thoughtful, Steve placed a mirror perfectly behind him so that his viewers could get a sneaky peak at his ass…ets.

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  • Colton Haynes’ sister died, “my heart hurts”

    Colton Haynes’ sister died, “my heart hurts”

    Lockdown and quarantine mean the actor can’t be with his family to mourn the loss of his sister, Julie.

    Colton Haynes has said he is “loss for words” after his sister Julie passed away. The actor said that his sister has died “after a long battle with cancer”.

    Sharing photos of his late sister, on his Instagram account, the actor said that he was trying to focus on being grateful that “she doesn’t have to suffer any longer & remembering all the incredible times we’ve had together”.

    Tragedy

    However, like many people who have lost a family member during the COVID-19 pandemic, Colton has found that he can’t be with other family members as governments have installed lockdown or shelter in place rulings to help “flatten the curve” of the fast-spreading virus.

    He wrote, “I just feel absolutely gutted that our family can’t be together to hold one another during this crippling time”.

    Julie was twenty years older than Colton and they both have different mothers, however, according to Queerty, they were both incredibly close.

    According to her obituary, Julie, who was 51, is survived by her husband and three children, as well as both of her parents, siblings, in-laws, nieces, nephews, and grandchildren.

    Celebrity friends of Colton’s were on hand to send their virtual love and thoughts, with Ruby Rose saying, “Sending you so much love beautiful. I am so sorry” and Michael Turchin adding, “Ugh so so sorry to hear this buddy. Sending you lots of love”

  • J Lo’s hairstylist has tips on how you can do your own hair at home

    J Lo’s hairstylist has tips on how you can do your own hair at home

    Lockdown means you can’t get your hair done right now, but Chris Appleton has some basic, easy to follow instructions on how to do your hair during the quarantine.

    He’s most famous for being a celebrity hairstylist for the likes of Jennifer Lopez and Kim Kardashian, but Chris Appleton has shared some tips on how to do your own hair (or at least get a partner or housemate to do it for you) at home, during the current COVID-19 lockdown.

    If you’re not quite ready for a Joe Exotic style mullet, you might want to take the tips offered by Chris in an Instagram post he recently published. There are only a few steps to recreate that freshly barbered look – according to the stylist.

    He starts the video saying that you’ll need four items for the perfect trim.

    1. Scissors
    2. Clippers
    3. Sectioning clips
    4. Comb.

    He starts off by explaining that you’ll need to section off the hair, so you know what is going to be short and what parts are going to be long. Sectioning the hair also helps you keep focused on one part of the head at a time.

    He also suggests that you use a razor number length that is a bit longer than you’re used to. He suggests a number 4 to begin with because it will leave you a little longer to play with – just in case things go wrong.

    Chris then suggests that you start in front of the ear with the razor in an upward motion towards the top of your head while moving slowly towards the back of the hair. Once you’ve done one side, you’ll be ready to start on the other side of your head.

    Once you’re finished with that you’ll need to start grading the hair to the top part.

    It gets a little bit more complex, but you do this with your scissors and you start from the back and move forward to the front.

    Give the video a watch here.

  • Tiger King’s Joe Exotic is quarantined over Coronavirus concerns

    Tiger King’s Joe Exotic is quarantined over Coronavirus concerns

    Joe Exotic, the star of the Netflix hit Tiger King has been quarantined over concerns about COVID-19.

    As the world enters lockdown over the spread of the coronavirus, inmates in the world’s prison system also find themselves doubly locked down and isolated.

    The move to further lock down Joe apparently came after his move to the Federal Medical Center in Fort Worth.

    On the 31st of March, his Twitter feed suddenly came alive after two years of being dormant. The account, which is still unverified, but it is the username featured in the Netflix documentary series, a Tweet read,

    “Joe is still in quarantine due to COVID 19 with his move to the Fort Worth FMC. More to come on that front. In the meantime, Joe is overwhelmed with appreciation and the love from all his supporters”.

    https://twitter.com/joe_exotic/status/1245020053147471874

    A further tweet sent on the 1st of April, a Tweet confirmed,

    “Joe is still in quarantine. Pray for everyone who has this illness and that you all recover soon. Pray for all the souls we have lost in the world due to this. Joe sends his love and thanks. He will soon be back to answer you all soon”.

    https://twitter.com/joe_exotic/status/1245445116720041986

    Then yesterday, word came that Joe was due to be released from quarantine in just two days. A Tweet read, “Can’t wait to see all the tweets. Thanks for all the love and support. #FreeJoeExotic”

    https://twitter.com/joe_exotic/status/1247562321133780994

    Tiger King, Murder, Mayhem and Madness is now streaming on Netflix.

  • Doctor warns: Stop hooking up during Covid-19 lockdown

    Doctor warns: Stop hooking up during Covid-19 lockdown

    The medical director at the UK’s leading HIV charity, Terrence Higgins Trust has said people need to stop hooking up during the COVID-19 lockdown.

    Doctor Michael Brady, the medical director at THT has warned that people need to stop meeting for sex and look for other ways to “find sexual pleasure in other ways”.

    In a post published on the THT website, the Doctor said,

    “I’ve never been an advocate of promoting abstinence, but this message is not about protecting your sexual health: it’s about protecting your general health and those around you from a virus that can be deadly. This is extraordinary and unprecedented advice for us to be giving out, but these are extraordinary and unprecedented times.”

    Lockdown and Hooking Up

    (C) BIGSTOCK

    Earlier this week, Prime Minister Boris Johnson outlined new, stricter rules about leaving our homes during the Covid-19 outbreak. These were:

    • Only go outside for food, health reasons or work (where this absolutely cannot be done from home)
    • Stay 2 metres (6ft) away from other people
    • Wash your hands as soon as you get home

    With the country under stricter rules surrounding lockdown, Dr Brady says we shouldn’t be having sex with anyone outside our current households.

    He added,

    “This advice means that, unless you have sex with someone within your household, it’s important to find sexual pleasure in other ways. Despite the situation with COVID-19, we need to remember that sex is an important part of life, but right now we have to find other ways to achieve sexual pleasure and satisfaction.

    He continued,

    “It’s only natural that we look to sex for pleasure, to relieve stress and anxiety or simply to pass the time – whether that’s with a regular partner or using hook-up apps. But our ‘new normal’ is that we have to find ways to do this while sticking to the advice to stay at home. This isn’t just to protect ourselves against the coronavirus but also to protect the most vulnerable in our society.

    “You are your safest sexual partner”

    Dr Brady finished up by adding that during this time, that instead of seeking sexual contact with other people, take we take matters in our own hands.

    He said,

    “I never thought I’d say this but the reality is that, for the time being, you are your safest sexual partner. It’s time to stay at home, stop close contact with people outside our household and to be creative about how we manage our sex lives”.