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DILEMMA | I’m bisexual, 18 and haven’t had sex yet, I’m worried about not losing my virginity

This week a reader is concerned that he hasn’t yet lost his virgin. Doctor Dannii Cohen gives advice.

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Dear TGUK

I have never had sex in my life and I think it is important to have sex all the time. What should I do? I’m 18 and worried that Im not going to lose my virginity.

Ian*, 18

 

Dear Ian

My message to you is short: it is NOT important to have sex all the time. If you don’t want it or don’t feel ready you don’t have to. Even if you do want it you should wait until you find the right person. Don’t think you should just throw yourself at someone because you feel you HAVE to have sex or because you think it’s “normal”.

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At your age not having had sex is certainly nothing weird or abnormal.

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You will never have a first time again and you should hold out until it feels right for you. Don’t force yourself for anyone, this is about you and your body.

 

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