Author: Jake Hook

  • INTERVIEW | Martyn Andrews

    INTERVIEW | Martyn Andrews

    Monday morning and the phone rings. It’s Russia on the phone. Well Russia Today to be more precise. RT is the Russian Government funded television network. They’re offering me an interview with one of their journalists. It doesn’t seem the obvious choice, I have to say.

     

    CREDIT: Monty McKinnen / THEGAYUK

    Martyn Andrew wears: SUIT: Fielding & Nicholson | SHOES: Sons Of London | BRACELET: Storm | Watch: Emporio Armani

    Russia and homosexuality haven’t had the best press in the last 5 years and a string of actions, commencing with the Country’s President, Vladimir Putin, enacting an anti-gay propaganda law, the broadcasting of Channel 4’s horrifying Hunted documentary, the Sochi Olympics and numerous anti-gay attacks and even the alleged murder of an LGBT activist have not done Russia’s perceived tolerance of gay people any favours.

    The journalist in question is Martyn Andrews. Born 1979 in Liverpool, he’s a former musical theatre actor turned ‘man-on-the-street’ reporter and journalist. His main employer is the British speaking news service RT, which boasts the eyes of two and half million viewers in the UK. As well as RT, he’s a regular fixture for CNN and a print journalist for Condé Nast Traveller Magazine.

    Ten years ago RT joined the world’s biggest media companies including France 24, Al Jazeera, Sky and, of course, BBC News in the race to form the go to news platform. These rolling news channels all giving their own voice and editorial comment to domestic and international news.

    Martyn jokes, “I’ve always said, all these news channels on Sky or Preview, they basically all watch the same car crash.”

    For 10 years he’s lived his life out in front of the RT cameras. He’s not short of words, his natural charm and inquisitive nature means that he’s perfect for getting to the nub of the story.

    Although it wasn’t what he first planned, he had wanted to be an anchorman. He was invited to screen test for RT. At the end of the audition he was told he was “too vivacious” and his teeth too white to present the news. After not hearing from them for a month he sent a cheeky email outlining ten reasons why they needed to hire him right then and there – and they did.

    On the 13th August 2005 he left England for Russia with a one-way ticket.

    He’s a giant of a man, standing a proud 6 foot 3; his brilliant white smile is warm and engaging.

    Based now in London, Martyn is key to RT’s cultural and human-interest stories. He’s gone from the “cookery guy, and the travel arty-farty cultural presenter, to actually talking about more political issues in society.”

    “I did two cookery shows. I did Eurovision. I did a breakfast chat show. I did a live magazine show which is almost like The One Show. I’ve done a weekly series which was very popular for three years called Moscow Out. Who called it that God knows. I mean, isn’t that an oxymoron? Moscow Out.”

    CREDIT: Monty McKinnen / THEGAYUK
    CREDIT: Monty McKinnen / THEGAYUK

    As we’re setting up for this month’s cover shoot, Martyn is relaxed but in control. He remarks that being all suited and booted isn’t his natural style. He’s more used to thick outdoorsy coats and the famous warm ushankas, the fur Russian hats. There’s a little self-consciousness that surprises me, yet he’s keen to play the jester with a sparkling tale or two about his time in Russia. When you speak to him about his work and his adventures he has a story or a line about everything. From climbing mountains to speaking with the locals about same-sex marriage, Martyn is, in his own words the “Gremlin in The Kremlin”.

    “I have a crazy rule in my life and that’s I go to a different country every month”, he laughs and it’s quick to see why Martyn is a go to guy. His knowledge about travel is seemingly never-ending. “It’s not cheap. I fly and use everybody from Ryanair to random dangerous Chinese, African airlines, to Crack Air, to whoever.”

    The man is on a mission to visit every country in the world before he dies and with 157 already marked off the list, he’s got just 39, depending on your source, countries left. We talk about the countries still left to conquer, North Korea is up there on the list, but he’s cautious about how he’d get in. They are, after all, notoriously paranoid about journalists entering the country. So are, it seems, many nations. He explains that he’s not always truthful about who he is or the nature of his travels and often forms an undercover identity. The less to do with journalism the better.

    “I normally say I’m an accountant, with the whitest teeth in the world.”

    He dumbs down his camera-ready style.

    Arrests at immigration aren’t unusual for Martyn,

    “I dumb it down. I come across boring, always appear monosyllabic (but) your personality will be, sort of, beaten out of you in immigration.”

    Actual arrests?

    “I’m normally arrested in most immigration and passport controls anyway because they say I’m a terrorist.”

    One incident where he was frog marched off a flight to Australia during a layover in Los Angeles, he recalls that during his interrogation he told the police officer, “The worst thing I’m going to do to you is give you a bad manicure.” That, he says went “down like a lead balloon.” He was stuck in LA for 5 days, because Australian immigration had banned him for explanations not made clear.

    So is he on government files?

    “Yes! I am the Gremlin in the Kremlin. I mean, please”, he jokes.

    Beside travel, Russia is Martyn’s passion and it’s clear, having lived there for nearly 9 years, he loves the culture, the people and shows a deeper understanding of its intricacies.

    “I’m a strong Russophile and I will always culturally, kind of, defend Russia historically, emotionally, physically. Not that I think they’re right always, but just because I goddamn know that country better than anybody I know, including most Russians.

    “I’ve dated them, I’ve lived and breathed it, from one star to five-star. Private jets with oligarchs to crazy poor students. I just know it so well. I get their objectives and their emotional reasoning behind what they’ve been through in the past 400 years. (It) really gives the reasons for the behaviour they have today.”

    Having lived in Russia both pre and post the recent anti-gay law means that he has first hand experience of how life in Russia has changed for the gay community.

    “I have a lot to say about Russia and the LGBT scene. Especially because it doesn’t come from RT telling me what to say. It doesn’t come from me reading a book. It comes from me being an out gay man living in Russia for eight years, ten months. All of it is from personal experience.

    “Also, it doesn’t come from me living in this celebrity bubble, or me living a five-star expat lifestyle.

    “When it comes to gay lifestyle in Russia, first of all, the rule was absolutely stupid. The law was wrong.”

    The law he’s speaking about is the one that Putin’s government introduced in 2013, forbidding the promotion of “none-traditional” sexual relationships to anyone under 18. It has been described as similar to the UK’s Section 28 law, back in the 80s.

    “It never should’ve been brought in. It was brought in the year before Sochi (Winter Olympics) happened. The worst decision. I’m against any kind of law that is detriment to the progression of any LGBT community.”

    CREDIT: Monty McKinnen / THEGAYUK
    CREDIT: Monty McKinnen / THEGAYUK

    With the spotlight on the Winter Olympics in Sochi, LGBT rights in Russia became a high-profile matter. Vodka was being poured down the world’s drains and brands associated with the event were boycotted. The media went to town on how unprepared Russia was for the Olympic brand and all it stands for. Russia was under attack.

    “You have to understand the paradoxical contradictions of lifestyles in Russia”, explains Martyn.

    “You have to understand the history of where it’s been. Because somebody reading about Russia in Leeds, for example, really just sees Russia. They look like us, they seem to act like us, they don’t seem to be as far away as some general African country.

    “I think because they look like us, people think they are connected to us in this kind of European way, but they’re not.

    “They’re not Europeans. I mean, Russians think they are or they want to be. You know, people say Moscow’s the biggest city in Europe. It’s not really, it’s actually Eurasia.

    “At the same time, in the last 20 years where religion has been on fast-forward, so has the ‘I want to show off my new wealth, my new money, my D&G blingy’ kind of, you know, the typical Russian you see in Chelsea. Russians are party animals. I say that because they live like there’s no tomorrow. Because they didn’t for the last 100 years. And I say that politely regarding their lifestyle of culture, but I also mean that sexually as well. I’m trying to say this in a polite way. They are adventurous, I’ll say that.”

    More so than the British?

    “I mean far more than Brits are actually.”

    Do the gay men in Russia have sexual hang-ups? Are they all defined roles?

    “When it comes to Russians, gay men especially, in fact men have huge masculine hang-ups. I think that comes from the fact that the woman’s role in society has a much stronger position than we do in the west.

    “It’s like the old Russian granny. 27 million people died in the Second World War. Most of them were men. Most men today in their 40s and below were really brought up by their Russian granny. When people kind of think of old Russian women throwing rocks at gay parades and things, they just come from a complete different mind-set than my grandfather did in Liverpool.

    “When I came out to my grandmother 10 years ago she said ‘Good for you son. You gay men get more sex than anyone.’

    “You can quote that because it’s just a fabulous thing. She died last year, but I always say that was one of the best things she ever said to me.

    “She didn’t have the Soviet hard, communist, repressed life that most, if not all, well all actually, women in Russia had. Throw that in with the tumultuous, real sort of party, debauched, blingy world of modern-day Russia and it comes up with this crazy cultural vortex of crazy, misunderstood identities.”

    CREDIT: Monty McKinnen / THEGAYUK
    CREDIT: Monty McKinnen / THEGAYUK

    Since the anti-propaganda there has been an influx of negative press about the treatment of gay men in Russia. Channel 4’s Hunted series exposed how some gangs are using hook up apps and websites to falsely arrange dates and then beating, blackmailing and abusing gay men in particular. I ask Martyn his view on Russia’s homophobia.

    “Having lived there, I don’t really see much difference between Liverpool in the 80s or 90s and modern-day Russia. It’s not illegal to be gay in Russia. 76 Countries it is illegal. I think that most media establishments jumped on the fact that Russia brought this in because of a political stance.

    “Actually, you can be happy and gay in Russia. I have friends who are out in Russia and have amazing, fabulous lives. It’s far more cosmopolitan, and western, and safe than people think.”

    And are you out to your work colleagues?

    “I was out and the entire world knew, all my camera guys knew I was. They all sort of, when I left, patted me on the back and gave me hugs and said that I was their favourite. I think actually homophobia gets confused with ignorance.

    “I will always say that I know from my personal experience that having met people, camera guys, or producers, or whoever, Russians who met me for the first time… And not that I go around singing, looking like Liza Minnelli, wearing a bright pink scarf. I’m really quite open and confident with who I am, what I am, etc. Actually, give me two or three days with somebody and I’ll show them that I’m a nice person, I’m fun, you can have a good time with me. I’m kind to them. Actually, after three days they don’t give a damn who I am, what I am. They just care about the relationship they have with me.”

    So can a gay man be out?

    “I think that is… It’s a little bit don’t ask, don’t tell. That is the contradictions of Russian society. I can honestly say that I have no negative experience in almost nine years. I wasn’t attacked. No homophobia at work. I didn’t see any attacks in any gay clubs. I actually made this statement, I always say this, I actually think that Moscow is safer than London.”

    Our attention turns to Sochi. In the run up to the winter Olympic much was made of what the Mayor had said, and with some certainty that there were no gays in his town, despite one of Russia’s oldest gay clubs actually residing in his town.

    “I know the Mayor and the Mayor’s an idiot. He probably is homophobic and that’s ridiculous. Of course there are conservative, ridiculous people like him, but there are also millions of other Russians that are traveling around. Even though the fall of the ruble, the ruble being half, has greatly affected them. If anybody goes on holiday now to Egypt, probably not the best place for an example, but Thailand or Miami, you will see hundreds of Russians. That’s because they spend like there’s no tomorrow and they all love holidays, and they all escape the cold. Actually, they didn’t do that 20 years ago. The more that Russians travel, the more they will naturally be educated by their own experiences. I mean that in the millions.

    “The huge gay issue was stratospheric I think. People pouring vodka down the drain even though vodka may be Polish anyway, and it’s produced in Warrington.

    “The Commonwealth Games in Glasgow, I think there are 52, 53 countries in the Commonwealth. 42 countries in the Commonwealth it’s illegal to be gay.

    “There were no protests. There was no media. There was no comment. There was no mention of any homophobia, or any resentments, or any banning, or any athletes pulling out, or any protests outside, or no embassies, or magazine articles about that. Nothing.

    “I found that really interesting. That you’ve got Sochi, and Russia brings in this city law which was exactly, more or less, as the UK brought in 1988, and the world goes crazy.

    Andrew Martyn
    CREDIT: Monty McKinnen for THEGAYUK

    During the ’80s and ’90s Margaret Thatcher’s government implemented Section 28, a law, which meant that homosexuality could not be promoted in a positive light to anyone under the age of 18. During that time the gay scene in the UK went through an explosion. Hundreds of venues cropped up throughout Britain. It might be hard to draw a correlation between the two events, but marginalisation meant that LGBT spaces were necessary to create safe spaces, to create places where LGBT people could be themselves. Gay culture started to simmer. There were gay kisses on EastEnders and Brookside. Music from the likes of Boy George and Pet Shop Boys became mainstream. London’s Old Compton Street and Manchester’s Canal Street went from strength to strength.

    Martyn theorises about queer culture in Russia,

    “I think it will bubble along from being a sub-culture to mainstream. The best example of that is Section 28. Margaret Thatcher brought it in 1988 and then you’ve got all the fabulous Soho bubbling scene of the 80s, and Heaven, and Boy George, and all that.

    “Even though Section 28 was in place, the sub-culture of Soho and other scenes around the UK, bubbled up… I would say 99% of gay men in this country probably don’t even know that. I know that because I’ve had so many interviews. I’ve done all my research. Basically it’s proof that you’ve got idiotic politicians bringing laws, dictating what you can and can’t say to kids, but actually at the same time the social behaviour actually bubbled along by itself.”

    So could Putin’s anti-gay promotion law be actually good for gay culture?

    “I’m not saying that the law is a good thing in any way at all and I never have. No, I’m not. I think it’s a bad thing.

    “What I’m saying is I think that Russia in comparison to Africa, far eastern countries, South America, Middle East, etc. Where they’ve got real problems regarding homophobia. I think that Russia was actually happily bubbling along as it was before everybody went crazy about it.

    “Russia really is not that much different to Poland, to Latvia, to Estonia, to Ukraine, to Moldova, to Romania, to all those, even further over to Croatia. It’s all that Eastern Europe block which really is in the shadow of us in Western Europe. But actually it was doing okay.

    “Society dictates the law in Russia. It’s not the law that dictates society. It’s a different way than we work really. Meaning that it’s a very lawless place. If Russia brings in a seat-belt law on January the 5th, on January the 6th generally nobody has really done anything about it.”

    So what does he think about Russia and its homophobia becoming a bit of Cause Célèbre? It drives him “bonkers”.

    “If you want to speak to Putin then why don’t you speak to the 76 countries where it’s illegal to be gay because perhaps the millions of gay people there have more of a problem being thrown off of buildings. Or executed, or your head chopped off.”

    I approach the question whether RT is a tool of the Government, and what it’s like to work for RT? His answer didn’t surprise but perhaps the tone in which he delivered the message was.

    “RT has never told me what to say ever, ever, ever. I wouldn’t work for them; I’m not a puppet as you can probably hear. I’m quite opinionated and I’ve got strong opinions of my own. No editor or journalist or broadcast person would say to me ‘Martyn, you have to rewrite that to make Russia sound good’.”

    He tells me that his friends presume that he is brainwashed by the Russian government. He recalls one friend who said that he would refuse to ‘put his money in the Russian economy’.

    “I dragged him to Russia last summer and he walked around with an open mouth for five days because he just couldn’t believe what a glamorous, gay, fun, safe, wonderful, stylish city Moscow was. He said ‘Martyn, I just presumed you were completely brainwashed by the Kremlin.’

    And so to his personal life, does his work schedule allow for a relationship, “it’s complicated” comes the answer and I’m told that within the last few years that his grandmother, mother and partner all died within a few years of each other. “I could write a book about grief. I’ve personally had the worst… That was really one reason why I left Russia because I had three in one, all very close to each other. Just going through some life shit.”

    Grief, he tells me makes you ‘humble,’ that it makes you a little nicer.

    “It makes you good. Too many people in the world are obsessed with their daily commute and the habits that they have. Life is far too short. I’ve really learned that in the past two or three years.”

    In attempt to deal with his terrible losses, he tells me it’s why he travels so much.

    “That’s why next month I’m going to India. In March I’m going to Ghana”, he quips.

    And that journalist mind never turns off.

    “I was in Colombia for the last two weeks and I thought, damn, I should have an entourage and a camera crew following me and sell this for a million pounds.”

    This interview was taken from Issue 19 available on iTunes and through Android.

     

    CREDIT: Monty McKinnen / THEGAYUK

     

    PHOTOS were taken by Monty McKinnen on location at the Counter at the Vauxhall Arches 

  • Freshen Up Your Skin With Epsom Skin Clinic

    Is your skin in dire need of some rejuvenation?

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    CREDIT: ©-CandyBoxImages-Depositphotos FILE PHOTO

     

    If your face is in need of some much needed tender loving care then you could do with a professional facial.

    Recently I was invited by Epsom Skin Clinic to try out an Agera Vitamin C Skin Peel (£65) to renew my Winter blasted skin.

    It’s surprising how much the seasons affect your skin, but Wnter is one of the toughest. Cold Wintery snaps, our dependence on central heating and high-street shops that have those electric fan heaters on full blast can all take their toll on your skin – and if you’re not in the habit of using sunscreen, that low hanging winter’s sun is probably doing more damage than you think.

    Let’s not forget the dreadful Winter colds and flus that many of us suffer, stingy eyes, red raw snotty noses and dreadful dry mouth – by the time Spring comes around you’re about ready for a kick start to your skincare regime.

    As I lay down on the heated therapy table in the lush surroundings of Epsom Skin Clinic’s rooms in Rush – Piccadilly, I’m immediately put at ease. The soft sounds of calming music and a feeling of warmth surrounds me in a completely relaxing bubble.

    I’m here to try the Agera Vitamin C Skin Peel, a treatment which promises to tighten, brighten and rejuvenate giving my skin much needed powerful antioxidants, which protect against free radical damage – sign me up.

    I’m warned as we start that my skin may start to sting, but it’s actually pleasant, I’m no stranger to having treatments and compared to a dermaroller procedure or a bit of dermabrasion, this treatment is a walk in the park.

    The facial takes around 30 minutes to complete and as I leave the central London clinic, my skin feels refreshed, renewed and glowing.

    The next day despite being warned that I might look red and a little irritated I’m amazed to find that my skin looks 10 years younger. Really fresh, really balanced.

    Charlotte Botting for Epsom Skin Clinic suggests that for Spring you follow her top 5 tips for keeping your skin fresh, youthful and protected.

     


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    1. Wear an SPF – this should be done all year round but reminding clients at this time of year when the sun starts to make an appearance, SPF is the number one product to help with skin ageing.

    2. Antioxidants – these powerful vitamins how protect the skin from harmful free radicals and pollution.

    3. Re think your professional treatments – as the sun is out your skin will be more susceptible to sun damage so maybe hold off on the stronger treatments and try light peels and microdermabrasions. 

    4. Use an exfoliator – slough off dead skin cells to reveal smooth brighter looking skin.  

    5. Dump your Winter products – If you are still using products from the Winter months they may be too thick going into spring. Pick something lightweight that won’t leave you feeling greasy but provides enough hydration. 

    For more information call Epsom Skin Clinics 01372 737280 or 0207 042 3200 for the London clinic.

     

  • 13 Myths About Gay Sex

    13 Myths About Gay Sex

    Who’s the woman? Doesn’t it hurt? Why do you wear jockstraps? So many many questions…

     

    That it ends up with penetration.

    In this penetration obsessed world we forget that not every sexual encounter has to end up with a game of toss the hoop. Nope there’s a ton of things you can do without going there. Frottage, mutual masturbation, oral and perhaps a bit of light cuddling?

    That there are very limited positions

    One evening a girl friend of mine asked didn’t I get bored because I couldn’t face my partner during sex. I was like “WTF?” She was like “you’re your butt hole is at the back…”

    Listen… our joints can move… and our hips can tilt! We’re not fused into position. Anything you can do I can do better. Basically anything the straights can do in bed, the gays can compete just as well.

    That it looks like this: Westboro Baptist Churchmopedmamas

    Westboro Baptist church would have you believe that gay men only have sex standing up facing away of each other. Such a warped view… Although that position is a goodun.

    That only one of you is the top and only one of you is the bottom.

    We can both top and bottom and all in one session. Crazy that. You don’t have to be limited to just one set of roles.

    That you both have to cum

    Where are all these rules coming from? It’s sex. Do what makes you happy. If you don’t want or can’t cum in the moment, don’t stress about it. Keep calm and try later! It’s not a race or a competition.

     


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    That you have to have 7/8/9/19 inch penises

    Regardless of what you may see in gay porn, men come in all shapes, sizes, colours and girths – and what makes one person’s perfect penis may be somebody else’s vanilla hell.

    That you have to look like porn stars

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    CREDIT: © dnf style| Depositphotos

    Just because your body doesn’t look like some Adonis it doesn’t mean that you aren’t beautiful. Enjoy your body and your partner’s

     


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    It will hurt

    It might… but then again it might not.

    It won’t hurt

    We aren’t all one shape fits all. Each person is different but if it does hurt. Stop, relax and try more lube and try again – if you want to.

    That gay men end up having to use sanitary towels.

    We’re convinced this is an urban legend. If you keep yourself safe and aren’t swallowing up whole traffic cones with your butthole , you’ll be just fine.

    If you feel like you’re getting loose down there, try some PC muscle exercises… You know the muscles that you use to stop and start the flow of pee? Yes those babies… Work em out.

    It’s just dirty.

    Dirty good? Dirty bad?

    Dirty bad? If you know your body and know how to prepare yourself it won’t be… Read our guide on how to have sex like a porn star to find out more.

    That one of you has to be “the man” and the other “the woman”

    Stop with the roles already. We’re both men here!

    It’s how you get HIV

    Where to go with this. HIV is a virus that knows no sexuality, race, colour creed or gender. You can be infected from all different types of sex. As with everything in life use your head not your cock to make wise decisions about your health. Use a condom, use lots of lube and look out for one another.

  • Ten Film Gems From The 80s

    Ten Film Gems From The 80s

    I woke in a retro mood this morning, put BAD by Michael Jackson on and reflected fondly on some of my favourite movies from the 80s. Here’s a list of some of the favourites, some of which time has unfortunately forgotten.

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  • MYSTYLE | Ricky Rebel, Michael Jackson Told Me To Stay Away From Girls

    MYSTYLE | Ricky Rebel, Michael Jackson Told Me To Stay Away From Girls

    We catch up with former boy bander Ricky Rebel to find out why if you’re out on a date with him you might end up with a Netflix And Chill night and why Michael Jackson told him to keep away from girls.

     

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    CREDIT: Irvin Rivera

    Watch: At the moment, “House Of Cards” on Netflix.

    Fragrance: Yves Saint Laurent – Homme.

    • Clothing Brand(s) :
      Uptown: My own costume made clothing by Wayne Fowks & various designers. I’m not a label person. If it works, I wear it.
    • Downtown: Topman.
      Mytown: In My House? I wear over sized tshirts & underwear.

    Favorite Drink: Green Tea. Healthy antioxidants and it kick starts my metabolism.

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    Favorite Restaurant: Jerk City (Caribbean Flavours) or Original Thai in North Hollywood. I’m on their wall of fame.
    Favorite place to go on a first date: Starbucks. Then if I like the person, my second favorite spot is my place, Netflix & chill.

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    Favorite Travel Destination: Spain. I’ve never been but I hear that it’s beautiful. Also, Japan. Everyone says that I’d do very well in Japan. I’d like to see what that culture is all about.
    Favorite Book: The Art of Seduction. Taught me a lot about the rules of seduction.
    Three Top Songs On My Playlist:
    1. Star (Hector Fonseca & Tommy Love Remix) – Ricky Rebel.
    2. WTF (Where They From) – Missy Elliot.
    3. Girl on Girl – MightyFools.
    Favorite Gadget: My iPhone.
    Quote to live by: “Rebel The Darkness, Shine Your Light.” – Ricky Rebel. We must use our love as a catalyst to overcome fear & shine our light onto the world.

     

    Finish this sentence: To stay away from girls because girls break up bands. That was what Michael Jackson told me when I was signed to his label.

     

  • Heteronormative : What Does It Mean?

    You may have heard the word Heteronormative being thrown around and wondering what on earth it means.

    Heteronormative : What Does It Mean?

    Heteronormative, or heteronormativity is a word used a lot in connection with the LGBT experience. It refers to what is normally (normative) expected from society – which is, by and large, made up of mostly heterosexuals (hetero).

    So when you blast those two words together you get one that describes the normal, average way of doing things. Basically the stuff of Hollywood movies: boy meets girl, they fall in love, make children and the cycle continues.

    It is also defined as the view that promotes a heterosexual lifestyle as the normal or preferred sexual orientation and that others are wrong or deviant.

    It’s the idea that men and women fall into two very neat and distinct genders and sexuality roles.

    It is seen, largely, as deeply marginalising by the LGBTI community.

    It was coined or at least popularised by Michael Warner in 1991.

    Heteronormative behaviour could include:

    • Getting married (to someone of the opposite sex) in a Church, with bridesmaids, Father of bride and best man speeches…
    • Him climbing up the corporate ladder while she stays at home having kids.
    • Following gender expectations like: He wears trousers, she wears dresses (frilly ones with a lace hem).
    • He earns more, she makes super desserts using Angel Delight.
    • Asking why on earth the gays need a god damned pride and why can’t straights have a pride.
    • Watching a Hollywood movie knowing that the guy saves the day, gets the girl and live happily ever after.
    • Having 2.4 children.
    • That men don’t do nappies.
    • Picket fences and all that…

    As you can see, from my not so exhaustive list that basically being heteronormative is like living in the 50s. Fantastic for brand new cookers, fridges, the dawn of the jet age and brand new inventions, not so good for living your life how you’d like to – straight or gay, male or female.

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    BOOK REVIEW | Robot Takeover

    There’s something a little bit camp about robots isn’t there? From the buxom 1950’s homeliness of The Jetsons’ Rosey to the inane clatter and chatter of C3PO from Star Wars, to the out and out diva that is Borg Queen from Star Trek.

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  • Meet The Skin Educators

    There’s so much information out there about how to look after your skin. We are bombarded with adverts about youth serums, daily regimes and scientific words that we can hardly pronounce. With all that info are we really any closer to understanding what is best for our skin and what actually works?

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  • COMMENT: Huff Post Queer Voices “Ooo I Do Feel Queer”

    COMMENT: Huff Post Queer Voices “Ooo I Do Feel Queer”

    So in a quest to become more “inclusive” editors at Huff Post’s LGBT news section have decided to call it Queer Voices. (more…)

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    QualitySolicitors litigation lawyer Peter Adkins gives his advice on how to make a claim for compensation for problems whilst on holiday. (more…)