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  • INTERVIEW: Steve Miller… Bears Are Sexy But Lets Put A Prick In Them…

    INTERVIEW: Steve Miller… Bears Are Sexy But Let’s Put A Prick In Them…

    His programme Fat Families has been sold to over 14 countries world-wide, even Israel he tells us. He lives with his accountant boyfriend of 18-years and their dog Ned. He despises fat, but loves the person, a bit like hate the sin, love the sinner and, as a former fattie – his words not mine, Steve Miller does not mince his words when he gets on his soapbox.
    We meet Steve to find out why he believes weight loss hypnotherapy is the number one treatment to help people with obesity and just how butch he can be with his dog.

    JH: Where are you now?
    SM: Well I’ve been around…
    I spent a lot of time up North; I lived in Manchester, Huddersfield and Leeds. I was a Red Coat at Skegness for Butlins. Those were the days mate, I’m telling you.

    JH: Were you a compère?
    SM: Well, I did two things, I worked on the reception and I was a Red Coat. It was great. That’s were I found myself. I had my first gay moment in Skegness.

    JH: What was the gay moment?
    SM: The gay moment was when one moment I’m dancing to Bananarama and the next minute I’m passing this guy’s chalet, who I’ve got this most amazing crush on, and because I’ve had a few (drinks), I enter the room and we start talking and then I had my first kiss ever, with a man.

    JH: Oooo, that’s given us chills…
    SM: You never forget it…

    JH: Did you sing while you were a Red Coat at Butlins?
    SM: I was the kind of meet and greet guy…

    JH: A bit of a door whore?
    SM: I suppose I was…

    (laughs)

    JH: You describe yourself as a former fattie Is that right?
    SM: Yes, I lost four stone, so it’s not like tonnes of weight but I put weight on in my thirties and it really affected me. It affected my confidence, my self-esteem. I was just a lazy slob really. There was no psychology behind it, I was just bloody lazy really. I was in a relationship and it was comfortable and all those sorts of things. So I would rather sit or lie on the couch ordering take away in and drinking lots of wine. I lost my confidence, because, often gay guys look really great and I didn’t. I looked pretty awful. There came a point where one day I looked in the mirror and I thought, “get off your arse and lose weight.” That was it. And I did.

    JH: Was your boyfriend supportive of your weight loss?
    SM: Very. But at my weight I didn’t feel attractive, I didn’t feel sexy, I mean SEX, God blimey, who’d want to touch me looking like that…

    JH: Is sex better when you’re thin?
    SM: Oh absolutely without a doubt. Because you’re not so self aware. You’re not so concerned or worried or anxious. You’re willing to get changed with the lights on rather than the lights off. It’s not about being stick thin, it’s about being slim. It’s not about having muscles everywhere either. I know some gay guys tone up at the gym and do that muscle thing. I’m not into that at all, it’s just about having a reasonable slim shape. Your confidence in the bedroom shoots up! Without a doubt.

    There comes a point where you can’t feel sorry for yourself, you have to take action and I’m quite a strong minded individual, and that’s why, when I looked in the mirror, I said, “get off your fat arse”, I did it and I got my first book deal, based on that, which was called Get Off Your Arse And Lose Weight.

    You’ve got to be in the right mind state. Mind state doesn’t mean all nicey nice all the time, although it’s important to have positive motivation, it’s also about cracking the whip on yourself. So you’re saying to yourself “actually no excuses, get on with it”.

    Think about how gorgeous and attractive you’re going to look and the clothes in the wardrobe that you’ll make friends with again. You do have to be quite firm as well with yourself. I’m a real advocate of that.

    With clients that I work with, I’m supportive, I have fun with them. I have Champagne parties with them, but during the process of losing weight they are told to get a grip. They are told they will do what we agree and there are no excuses. But I also use hypnosis with them as well…

    JH: So a bit of tough love from Steve Miller?
    SM: Yes! I think gay guys, especially if they’re working with women, are in a great position to do that.

    JH: What is the best way to tell your partner that he’s getting a little bit poggie around the waist? It’s difficult to say to the ones we love…
    SM: I think you’re empathically direct with them, I don’t think you faff about. What you do is put your arm around them when you tell them. You say to your partner, “of course, I love you no matter what you are, who you are,” and all that sort of stuff… “but you know what, you’re putting a bit of weight on and I am concerned about your health.” So it all becomes about their health, it’s all about letting them know that they are gorgeous, because they are your partner, but being fat is not a good thing. So it is about how you do it. It’s also about agreeing what you will do together.

    JH: Is that quite a healthy way of keeping a relationship together?
    SM: I think that if you do it right and you do it with the right tonality, then it’s absolutely fine. What you don’t do is tease your partner; what you don’t do is call them names.
    What you do is be supportive and loving. If you ignore it, potentially, your partner, there was a report out today on it, can get diabetes, that could lead to amputation, heart disease, stroke and now they link obesity to cancer. So you’re being cruel to be kind. It’s not very politically correct to be honest (to be) open and direct with people. I think the opposite. To me it’s just logical. I’d much rather do that than let my partner have a heart attack.

    JH: A similar line as Katie Hopkins on the matter… both you and Ms. Hopkins have been in that firestorm that can happen if you say anything against larger people, what’s that like?
    SM: I have it a lot, but you’d be surprised at how many people say, “too right Steve, you’re absolutely right and spot on.”
    You have to have a thick skin. I’ve always said this, if you genuinely believe in what your message is, that’s okay. You grow a thick skin. You do get your haters, but you know what, you’re going to get them anyway. People, at the end of the day, know that I get results. I’ve had some incredible results helping people. If it makes me unpopular to get the message out there so be it.
    (dog starts to bark uncontrollably)
    (Off phone) Ned… lie down…

    (back on phone) Sorry about that I’m being butch with the dog. (Laughs)

    (Off phone) LIE DOWN, that’s it. Good boy…

    JH: Out of curiosity, people who criticise your message, are they fat people themselves or are they skinny minnies?
    SM: It’s mixed actually and it’s a great question. It’s very mixed, however quite a few are feminists, quite a few are slim – skinny feminists! With every client I work with I say to them, “what is it you want from me?” If they want tea and tissues, hearts and flowers, they ain’t gonna get it, that isn’t the Steve Miller style, but most say to me, “this is refreshing.”
    I had a lady who came to see me about a year ago and she sat and she said, “if I was single Steve, who would look at me,” and I said, “very few, very few.”

    JH: How did she react?
    SM: Well she’s lost 12 stone.

    JH: Wow, that’s amazing
    SM: Oh yes, she’s lost 12 stone, she was 24 stone. What people don’t realise, no one loves a fat person like Steve Miller does.

    JH: Ahhhh!
    SM: Do you like that?

    JH: I do like that…
    SM: There’s a method in my madness, and I love what I do. I love working with fat women, give me a fat woman any day.

    JH: Okay, so the Gok Wans, the Doctor Christians, the Steve Millers… Why are there so many gay men helping fat women on TV?
    SM: I think there’s a natural empathy, I think we’re all very different. Gok Wan’s message is that, if you’re really fat you can still look gorgeous. Well I don’t agree with that. I don’t think you do look gorgeous if you’re really fat. I think that fat hides the true features of somebody. Every human being is gorgeous, except the criminals, (laughs), but when it comes to physical being, I do not endorse [anybody being happy and fat] at all, I do not endorse that because of the dangers, the true dangers of it. The reality is, if you are too fat, your natural features are being hidden, that’s why with all this plus size brigade, I get a lot of jip off them sometimes. They can be very abusive, incredibly abusive, but to put that message out that no matter how fat you are you can still look gorgeous, they call it curves, curves actually mean fat, it’s just not a good message. What sort of message is that?

    JH: We have had an influx of Plus size models in women, but not in men, do you find that interesting?
    SM: It’s something I’ve never really thought about…

    JH: I suppose in the gay community we’re already championing the larger man with bears… It’s all about appreciating the larger man, so we’re quite advanced in the accepting of different body size and different body shapes…
    SM: We may well be, but even with a bear, if it’s just a big belly, I’d be saying, “isn’t it time we stuck a prick in it?”

    (laughs)

    There’s nothing wrong with a bear, they can be very, very attractive and very sexy, but not a big balloon one. A bear doesn’t want to be a butterball. Let’s have fit bears. Fit bears rock, but fat ones don’t, they need a prick in them.

    JH: Quite… I’ve gotta talk about your look a little bit… it’s very Anne Robinson, which I’m totally a fan of, is she a personal icon?
    SM: (Laughs) Never really thought about it to be honest. But Anne Robinson is a lot older than me! I might not look like Brad Pitt, but I do alright.

    JH: Is there any more plans for TV?
    SM: There’s always plans, the media is a funny old world, I love it. Fat Families was an incredible success than I ever imagined it would be. Kids adored it, they liked the fun element and it’s now in 14 countries. It went very big in Italy, it did okay in Australia, it even went into Israel. It was a hit and it was my first TV gig.

    JH: Is it hard to keep the weight off as a ‘former fattie?’
    SM: Yeah, I think weight loss is all about your mind-set and your motivation. It’s not about a diet, it’s not about a rigid diet, I just do not advocate those at all, I live 80-20, so I eat 80 per cent healthily and 20 per cent a bit of what I fancy. I still have my nights out, I still go on the gay scene and stuff, so I’ll drink and eat the crap sometimes, but, it is a challenge for people, but so long as you build a new routine in your life, and you discipline yourself and stick to that routine you can keep the weight off. I’m the first one to say, it’s not easy, easy, it is a challenge of the head and motivation, but if you’re loving being slim and you’re hating being fat and you’ve got that drive within you and you’ve built that new routine in your life, then you can keep it off. It’s all about mind over platter!

    JH: So what is on your platter now?
    SM: My platter is, in the morning, fruit, lunch time is a wholemeal ham and tomato sarnie, with an apple, then dinner is always something like: fresh fish and vegetables, I love veg, but then I always have something like a chocolate pudding.

    JH: So actually what you’re advocating is an achievable diet…
    SM: Yes, what people need to stop doing is obsessing with food, and what’s good for you and what’s bad for you. It’s about mind-set and motivation, the food is common sense. If you are bored too much you’re going to eat more, so occupy your mind more, if you’re in a relationship that is not good for you, yes try and make it work, but if not, take action. If that means moving on, move on. Surround yourself with radiators not drains. It’s a bit cheesy. But surround yourself with people who inspire you rather than the drains. If you’re surrounded by people who are negative, all you want to do is put your head in a gas oven.

    JH: Do you sit down of an evening and write these quotes down?
    SM: You know what, having left school with very little, I do alright with this literacy stuff.

    Follow Steve on Twitter at

    twitter.com/Steve___Miller
    Also check out his website at yourweightlossmaster.com

    This interview was taken from Issue 14. Please support THEGAYUK by subscribing today

  • Ten Things You Did Not Know About Bake Off Tamal

    Since Tamal Ray has appeared on Great British Bake Off, we’ve had thousands of readers wanting to find out more about him… Here are ten things you didn’t know about Tamal.

    1) Tamal was born in Hertfordshire, north of London and he’s 29.
    2) He now lives in Manchester.
    3) According to all available sources (basically Twitter and Facebook) he’s single…
    4) He’s a trainee Anaesthetist he describes himself on Twitter as the “fuzy hared doctor and lover of cake.”
    5) With the help of the gay icon Kim Cattrall on Radio Four’s women’s hour Tamal tweeted, that he had “Never before have I identified so strongly with a group of post-menopausal women.”
    6) Tamal knows when to use appropriate gifs on social media. Which is always a boon.
    7) It seems the boys and the girls are totally in love with Tamal, with offerings of marriage from both sides..
    8) Gay Twitter basically exploded with GBBO presenter Sue Perkins said,”Messy top tidy bottom” about one of his creations.

    9) Size matters to Tamal, he is regularly asked to bake family and friends’ wedding cakes too – the largest one was five tiers.
    10) He basically loves his gifs on Twitter, even the smutty ones…

  • New Gay Bar In Camden Asks To Extend Trading Hours Until 3AM

    Picking up from where The Black Cap left off, Bloc Bar is asking for its trading license to be extended, allowing it to serve until 3 am.

    The Black Cap was inauspiciously closed earlier this year leaving Camden, a borough in North London, without an LGBT home. After its demise, Bloc Bar was opened in July one minute away from the old venue.

    According to Camden New Journal, Nigel Harris, who chairs Camden LGBT Forum, said:

    “Since the closure of the Black Cap on Camden High Street, a minute’s walk from the Bloc Bar, a significant number of LGBT residents have lost their community hub.

    The Cap was the only LGBT venue in Camden Town. Many residents facing severe isolation and difficulty with their own sexuality and gender identity relied on the Cap as a place to meet others and a sanctuary from homophobia. The Bloc Bar, although without the Cap’s history, will provide a much-needed hub for these residents.”

    He added: “The drive to keep our heritage of providing local opportunities for artists to perform is very important. Providing the Bloc Bar with a late licence will allow this to continue… cabaret and drag performers perform late and it is not plausible to operate cabaret before 11pm”.

    The extended trading license would allow for public performances until the early hours of the morning. The Black Cap was famous for its association with drag talent in North London. It has been credited for the birth place and stomping ground for many leading drag queens.

  • FILM REVIEW | LIFE: There Is No Life in Life

    There’s a famous photograph of James Dean in Times Square taken by Dennis Stock. It is now a movie called ‘Life.’ ★★

    The photo, taken in 1955, shows James Dean, cigarette in his mouth, head tilted towards the ground, the billboards of Times Square in the background, dark clouds overhead, made the cover of Life Magazine. It also made Stock’s career.
    So ‘Life’ the movie is all about that photograph, and the events leading up to, and after, that photograph was taken. It’s also a buddy movie: one man on the cusp of celebrity, another man trying to capture him while struggling to make it as a photographer and to also spend time with his young son, with an un-cooperative ex-wife. Stock (Robert Pattison) is tasked with an assignment: to do a photo essay on an unknown actor. So he’s introduced to James Dean (Dane DeHaan) at a party, where he’s also introduced to a young Natalie Wood (Lauren Gallagher). Dean in on the cusp of fame – his first film – East of Eden – was yet to be released. So Dean agrees to have Stock follow him around to get some shots. The first are rejected by his editor – who wants to see hazy shots of an unknown actor boozing it up in a club with Eartha Kitt (Kelly McCreary)? Stock thinks about taking another job, this one in Japan, but he decides to stay in New York and gets back together again with Dean, and on the spur of the moment that famous Times Square photograph is taken. Not to end there, ‘Life’ takes us with Dean and Stock to Dean’s hometown in Indiana.
    There is where Dean feels most at home, and comfortable; with family, aunt and uncle and Grandma and nephew (his mother died when he was nine and his father sent him to Indiana to live with them). More famous photographs are taken there; Dean with his nephew, Dean on the farm, Dean in the kitchen; these photos would become part of the Life Magazine photo essay. And that’s the movie.
    As you can second guess, there’s not much of a story to build on. ‘Life’ is not only about the photographs, it’s also about the relationship between these two men and especially the trust Stock builds with Dean. But ‘Life’ is boring, with stale dialogue, and with acting that is quite lifeless. Pattison is fine as Stock, but DeHaan, even though he has hair that looks identical to Dean’s, just doesn’t bring the right energy and sparkle that we can presume Dean had. Ben Kingsley, however, is excellent as Jack Warner – the man who guided Dean’s career. And while the period details (clothes, cars, hairstyles) are fine, it’s the story that is not a very exciting one and is not enough to warrant a 110-minute film.
    Director Anton Corbijn just doesn’t bring any ‘Life’ to this movie.

  • LISTEN: Sam Smith Bond Theme In Full

    Multi-platinum selling British artist, Sam Smith recently revealed that he has become the latest musician to record the James Bond theme. ‘Writing’s On The Wall’, the theme from Spectre, is released today via Capitol Records and is available to purchase and stream now.

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  • DILEMMAS | I Had Gay Sex With My Sister’s Husband

    DILEMMAS | I Had Gay Sex With My Sister’s Husband

    In a recent issue of The Sun, stalwart Agony Aunt Deidre gave some advice to a man who had recently been caught with his trousers down with his sister’s husband.

    CREDIT: kirza-bigstock

    The man was caught by his sister having sex with her husband, the reader expressed feeling trapped and having nobody to turn to and that his sister was distressed and that she wouldn’t talk to him again.

    Diedre replied that his sister had been betrayed by two people she loved and trusted and that his actions were inexcusable, but he must make sure that the husband must take half the responsibility…

    We thought we’d ask some of our writers how they’d have tackled the problem.

    ALEX Da Silva (Birmingham Correspondant)

    Impulse is a dark force that many succumb to, and sometimes it is uncontrollable. Human beings live day by day experiencing all sorts of instinctive outbursts, ‘do I get a dessert after that big main?’; ‘shall I hit the snooze button again, and make an excuse about the train being late, to get more sleep?’ and sometimes impulses drive our minds further where temptation is undeniable.

    Looking at your case, this ‘itch’ appears to have been initiated by your sister’s husband, a step which would have taken a lot of courage to make. I have gone through something similar myself, and although the person who will hurt the most will be your sister, due to the fact that both men of her life have betrayed at once and together, there is an emptiness one feels to have been that person to cause such hurt and mistrust. I am sure that you are nice person, always paid your bills, and maybe have bought a Big Issue here and there, but society is very quick to coin people whose actions are of a negative nature.

    However, your sister is your blood, and is a person that you could not live without. To get her back, you must give her that space, for every time you text, ring, visit her you are just taking her back to that dreadful moment, event of which wounded you all. Send a letter here and there about a memory you have shared together, send a card for her birthday and Christmas, but keep at that for now. It’s a gash so deep that unless you are a mutant with regenerative qualities, will take some time to heal.

    In regards to your family, they are hurt too. It is going to take not as long, but the same care, of not trying to apologise or try to talk about that night, it should be periodical attempts at maybe conversing with your mother first, as she loves unconditionally and let her have her peace and work from there. She could really help you mend the bond between you and your sister.

    Family ties are bound forever, and though there may be slashes and tears, you will work together to restore your home again. Just keep faith.

    ALSO READ: DILEMMAS | Help! My Straight Work Mate Keeps Coming On To Me

    JORDAN Lohan (Food and Drink editor, Brighton)

    I can imagine your sister’s world crumbling at the seams walking in and finding out that her brother is “the other woman”. Throughout your description of this hideous event, you don’t actually explicitly admit to being sorry or express any feelings of remorse or regret. You even have the audacity to reminisce about his touch being “electrifying”.

    If you were truly sorry and understood the real implications of what you and the husband had done, it should make you feel sick and uncomfortable. “I feel trapped” is your final sentence and that sentence comes from a selfish place of wanting to help YOURSELF. Your sister is the victim here, not you.

    I don’t think your relationship can ever be 100% salvaged with your sister, you fucked her husband and you fuced the trust between the two of you which should have been sacred and pure.

    If I were your sister, I would want you to pipe down, go away, and get some counselling to delve into the reason why you warranted the sabotage of your and her relationship, and come back when you were truly sorry.

    Have you got a dilemma you’d like us to answer? Click here to visit our dilemmas page.

  • Bobby Davro Hides His Erection With A Hat

    We couldn’t get more descriptive with that title if we tried.

    In a rather shocking start to the last programme of the current series of Celebrity Big Brother comedian Bobby Davro shows off his other talents – namely hiding his penis with a hat – without hands. Yes dear reader, without hands.
    The 57-year-old entertainer shocked his fellow housemates with a full on morning glory, hidden only by a hat.

    It’s been 28 days in the house and clearly frustrations are starting to show.
    The veteran stand-up joins fellow housemates Stevi and Chloe Jasmine, James Hill, Austin Armacost, Natasha Hamilton and Sherrie in their bid to win Celebrity Big Brother 2015.The programme is on Channel 5 from 9PM tonight.

  • THEATRE REVIEW | Sancho

    ★★★★ – timelessly humorous, and endlessly brilliant.

    When an actor comes on stage and asks the existential question “Who do I think I am?”, then we know it’s going to be a reflective piece where we and the actor come together and ponder the meaning of life, and begin dwelling on the smallest of things. ‘Sancho’ graced the studio theatre of The Rep with an energetic, hilarious and, with many shades of brilliance that grabbed the audience’s attention instantly, performance that left us wanting more by the end.

    Patterson Joseph wrote and performed the evocative and stunning production: ‘Sancho.’ It is the story of the first black gentleman in British history, which happened during the reign of Elizabeth I era, and monarch of which was extremely xenophobic. The black gentleman’s name was Charles Ignatius Sancho, and Patterson discovered the portrait of the said gentleman which was painted by Thomas Gainsborough, painted in a book entitled ‘Black Britain’ by Gretchen Gerzina, and this fuelled his research and the eventual creation of the play.

    It would not be existentialist if it didn’t have a plethora of Hamlet references deliciously embedded in the writing. Being a Shakespeare geek, I celebrated enthusiastically with every Hamlet quote spoken, such as, ‘Frailty thy name is…”Sancho”’; ‘That one may smile, and smile, and be a villain!’ and of course ‘The play’s the thing…’, all of which, I most powerfully and potently believe were designed to connect the thought of the actor with the audience’s thoughts about existential matters. It is clear from Patterson’s experience with performing Shakespeare plays that he is able to aptly adapt his writing to the era, and easily transport the spectators to the 16th century, where he laid his scene.

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  • It Is All Good: Azealia Is Not Homophobic She Has Gay Employees

    American rapper Azealia Banks defends outrageous homophobic language against a Delta airline steward, by claiming that she’s not homophobic because she has gay employees.

    A damming video, hosted by TMZ, from inside the plane shows Ms. Banks having a fracas with staff on board a Delta aircraft. In the video the words “f**king Fggot are heard, and are alleged to have been aimed at the flight attendant who was trying to calm the situation down.

    Taking to Twitter the “212” rapper defended her words by saying that her employees were gay, her brother was trans and herself bisexual.
    She said,

    “I am bisexual. my brother is trans. My employees are all gay men. . Nothing else to say.

    “I only OWE an apology to my fans. My true true ride or die fans. The rest of yall can pick up a rock and suck on it !!

    “And to be quite honest IM [sic) REALLY tired of the world trying to police the way black women should or shouldn’t express themselves.”

  • Vicki Michelle “Pressing Charges” Against CBB Farah Abraham

    Veteran actress Vicki Michelle is apparently set to press charges against reality personality Farrah Abraham after being hit on the head “with great force with a glass”.

    The ‘Allo Allo actress released a statement through her agent which said,
    “Actress Vicki Michelle MBE is this morning with Hertfordshire police and will be pressing charges against Farrah Abraham, who struck the back of her head with great force with a glass during the recording of CBBBOTS this week.
    “Vicki has been in show business for 40 years and has been left in deep shock and with a concussion after the attack by Ms Abraham.”

    The alleged altercation happened in Monday night’s episode of CBBOTS, a side show for Celebrity Big Brother, which is hosted by Rylan Clark. During the programme exchanges between Aisleyne and Farrah had got heated, she fumed,

    “You’ve got your cheque, you’ve had your cheque now get on the plane and f*** off.

    “Get on the plane and f*** off, no-one likes you. We don’t want you here. Go on!”

    Later on as Farrah is talking to Rylan, Aisleyne interrupts and Farrah shouts her down saying,

    “Hag be quiet”

    Next Aisleyne says, “sorry”, and goes towards her Champagne glass… The programme is cut.
    The show resumed after 10 minutes with the celebrity panel being removed from the studio.

    Ms. Abraham’s agent has announced that the complaint is in the hands of her legal team and that no further comment would be made on the matter.
    In a statement, Hertfordshire Police said:

    “Officers are continuing to make inquiries with relevant parties following the incident which occurred at Elstree Studio’s on the evening on September 22. These investigations are on-going at this time.

    “No arrests have been made.”

    During her time in the house Farrah Abraham had been criticised for the use of homophobic language. During a task she branded Gail Porter and Natasha Hamiton “lesbians” whilst callling Austin Armacost a “gay homo.”

    Farrah tweeted that she wouldn’t be at the Celebrity Big Brother live final tonight because she doesn’t want to put herself in a hostile situation.

  • In Conversation With: Rebecca Chance, A Heady Mix Of RuPaul Meets Joan Rivers

    We’re in an exclusive London eatery, Rebecca Chance and I sit down for a natter about why gay porn turns the girls on, and that was just after one Rosé. Yes it’s just an average Tuesday night chez Chance.

    As we start, she drags out her camera and asks me to pose for a selfie, naturally I Zoolander the hell out of the picture… “Even that’s turning me on,” she laughs, “that’s not suppose to happen is it!”

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