Jemma Lucy and Trisha Paytas talk about loving both sexes in an intimate chat on Celebrity Big Brother.
Reality stars, Jemma and Trisha revealed their sexual preferences to each other last night in the Celebrity Big Brother house discussing the fact they’ve dated both men and women in the past. Jemma who has starred in MTV’s Ex on the Beach made no secret of her bisexuality in her VT in the show’s kick off last night.
However, some fans of the show were less than impressed by the bisexual representation.
In tonight’s episode, they discuss dating girls and guys and being interested in both sexes.
Trisha rose to fame in 2006 after launching her YouTube channel ‘blndsundoll4mj’, uploading videos about her idol Quentin Tarantino. Trisha is an open book; vlogging and sharing all her life’s trials and tribulations to her 2.8 million subscribers. One of her videos, ‘Our Sex Life’, has over 80 million views.
Last night Trisha revealed that she has, in the past been an escort for seven years, before she “found Christ”. She revealed, “It was so much money, it was hard to walk away from and it’s still hard to walk away from.”
Celebrity Big Brother continues tonight on Channel 5 at 9PM
This week a reader is concerned that he hasn’t yet lost his virgin. Doctor Dannii Cohen gives advice.
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Dear TGUK
I have never had sex in my life and I think it is important to have sex all the time. What should I do? I’m 18 and worried that I’m not going to lose my virginity.
Ian*, 18
Dear Ian
My message to you is short: it is NOT important to have sex all the time. If you don’t want it or don’t feel ready you don’t have to. Even if you do want it you should wait until you find the right person. Don’t think you should just throw yourself at someone because you feel you HAVE to have sex or because you think it’s “normal”.
At your age not having had sex is certainly nothing weird or abnormal.
You will never have a first time again and you should hold out until it feels right for you. Don’t force yourself for anyone, this is about you and your body.
*name changed
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We’re asking our readers which are the most annoying and totally outrageous bisexual myths that you want to dispell…
Use the form below to let us know the totally and utterly annoying bisexual myths that need to be dispelled. We’ll publish your answers in a forthcoming article, so watch out for it!
This week our medical expert answers a sexual health question on lesbian, bisexual women and people who have vaginas.
Dr Nitin Shori is Medical Director of Pharmacy2U.co.uk, which provides NHS repeat prescription and Online Doctor services, answers,
Dear Doctor,
I’m planning to have sex with someone else who has a vagina (like me) and I want to know more about how to stay safe.
Thank you
M
Dear M
Women can catch sexually transmitted diseases (STIs) through sex or any ‘one-on-one’ contact, such as oral sex or foreplay.
To make oral sex safer, use a dental dam – a small square of very thin plastic or latex, which can be used to cover the genitals or anus. It acts as a barrier and helps to prevent STIs being passed from person to person.
You should avoid receiving oral sex if you are on your period, as menstrual blood can carry HIV or hepatitis. You should also avoid oral sex if your partner has told you they have an STI, if they have a sore throat or if they have any blisters, cuts, rashes, sores or warts around the genitals, anus or mouth, or if they have unhealed piercings in their genitals or mouth.
Some infections can be passed by touching or vulval rubbing. Wash your hands before and after sex, and use latex gloves with plenty of water-based lubricants.
If you are using sex toys, use a condom to cover them. Change the condom for each partner or between penetration of different body openings. Sex toys should also be washed with soap and water between sessions.
If you have had unprotected sex, have any symptoms of STIs or think you may be at risk of catching one, speak to your GP or sexual health clinic. Regular STI tests are a good idea, to ensure you have a healthy sex life.
The advice listed above is not intended to replace or take the place of that of your own doctor, GP or medical professional who knows your full medical history. If in any doubt make an appointment with your doctor as soon as possible.
In a recent interview TV star Ollie Locke has admitted that he felt “judged” and ridiculed for coming out as bisexual rather than gay.
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Speaking in the latest issue of OK Magazine, the Made In Chelsea star said that before he came out as gay, he struggled with defining his sexuality. In the
In the interview, he revealed that he felt resentment, which left him feeling judged for saying that he was bisexual rather than gay.
He told OK Magazine,
“The ridicule I got from not saying I was gay immediately was unreal. It was judged highly. It wasn’t fair.”
He also hinted that the national conversation regarding bisexuality had progressed saying,
“Bisexuality wasn’t talked about in the same way six years ago. People didn’t understand it and people didn’t particularly like it.
“The whole country thinks I’m gay. I get so many tweets every day telling me to come out of the closet. If I could, then I would. But I’m just not there, I’m really not. I am not lying to anyone, I am not gay. I still have amazing relationships with women.”
“Bisexuality is me and that will always be the case. I’ve tried to push myself to be gay, but then a beautiful woman comes up to me and wants to have sex with me, and I can’t say no! It’s a hard life.”
A bisexual activist has shed his clothes in order to highlight the stigma that bisexuals face in the UK.
Lewis Oakley has published a series of shocking naked photos, which show some of the slurs that he says he receives on a daily basis because he is bisexual. The activist had the insults written all over his body in a photoshoot, by Tom Dingley.
Some of the insults included that bisexuality was a phase, that bisexuals were in denial and that they are self-hating gays.
The campaign comes on the back of data from The Bisexuality Reportwhich revealed that bisexual people prone to higher rates of depression, anxiety, self-harm and suicide than any other sexuality. These findings were largely found to be linked to the negative attitudes people hold and inflict on bisexual people.
Data suggests that bisexual men are 6.3 times more likely to commit suicide than heterosexual people, fifty percent more likely to live in poverty than gay men and eight times as likely to be in the closet at work compared to lesbian and gay counterparts.
Lewis said,
“It’s one thing to say these words, it’s quite another to see them projected on to someone’s body like this. Sometimes we need a visual reminder of what we are doing, these are comments said to bisexuals every day. Sometimes you have to hold a mirror to society and show them the consequences.”
Photographer Tom Dingley who worked on the shoot said,
“working together on a new project of mine, using projection; we came up with the idea to project the common insults people use, onto Lewis’ body. These comments range from the absent minded questions to the more serious insults bisexuals are subjected to.The concept is really strong we’ve simply taken what is said verbally and projected it visually to highlight what bisexual men hear all the time.”
Don’t mind us, we’re just having a flashback. Last year we spoke to the gorgeous Janet Devlin famed for her Celtic Soul voice on X Factor. We spoke about her Christmas EP, her Twitter (not so much) war with Lord Sugar and why bisexuals in the media are rarer than Unicorns.
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JH: Christmas is on its way, how are excited are you on a scale of one to Madonna?
JD: It is upon us… I’m actually really excited this year, I’m not going to lie. Probably the most excited I’ve been about Christmas since I was a toddler.
JH: Anything to do with the fact that you’ve got an EP out this Christmas?
JD: I think so! The whole point of me making the EP was to try and make myself like Christmas, so I definitely think I’ve achieved that. Every other year I’ve been so grinchy about it, this year. I’m just so pumped about it.
JH: But come on you’re Janet Devlin, you’re too cool for school for all that aren’t you?
JD: I’m not too cool if anything I’m the complete opposite man… I’m a bit of a nerd.
JH: I’m sure you’ve been asked a hundred times, are you watching X factor this year? Has it had its day?
JD: I don’t know, I don’t think so. My Mum still watches it, my Nan still watches it, I don’t think it’s had its day, it’s part of people’s Saturday night ritual isn’t it? You get a take-out and you watch X factor and you have your night in, I don’t think it’s ever going to have its day, to be honest.
JH: There needs to be space for a new type of Christmas number 1 though – right? Like yours?
JD: (laughs) possibly I don’t know.
JH: So tell us what makes your perfect Christmas day?
JD: Chilled, laid back hopefully have my Nan there, we always fight over her, cause everyone wants her to come down and spend it with her on Christmas day, hopefully, we’ll get her this year. We’ve had a new addition to the family; my brother’s just had a baby, so that will be nice. I’m just really easy when it comes to it really. Everyone’s there, everyone has a good time – and a bit of banter, you know?
JH: Are you a banter family?
JD: Yes, definitely I have three older brothers and they just like to rip ya! So it’s definitely good craic at my house.
JH: So what do your family think of your Christmas EP then?
JD: They haven’t heard it, I played one of my brother’s one or two tracks and he really likes it, so that to me is a good sign, so they haven’t heard it but I made them order their copy from Pledge!
JH: So no freebies for the Devlin’s then?
JD: No freebies until I get home.
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JH: When did you start writing your EP?
JD: It was February believe it or not. I was in New York and I was walking through Central Park and it was all snowy and beautiful I was like “this year I’m not going to be a Grinch, I’m actually going to be Christmasy”, so I went back to the hotel with my guitar player and we wrote a Christmas song. Pardon, the pun it all snowballed from there.
JH: Which is your ultimate Christmas song?
JD: Ultimate Christmas song is definitely “Fairy-tale of New York” by the Pogues, every time I hear that it’s like “this is when it’s Christmas”. So I avoid listening to it until Christmas. If me or my brothers hear it on the radio we have to ring the other one, to say “it was on, it’s Christmas!”
JH: Your Christmas song is very John Lewis, would you like your music to be used in that way?
JD: Who wouldn’t? I like their emotional ads!
JH: We’ve heard that you’ve teamed up with Ditch The Label, the anti-bullying charity, why was this important to you?
JD: Well I myself was bullied for a long time, a lot of years actually, I’m not going to lie. I mean I still get cyber bullied but I’m at that age now when I’m just like I don’t really care. I know how it feels, I know how hard it is to be bullied on the Internet and in real life, so for me, I’ve always stayed true to working with anti-bullying campaigns and anti-bullying charities because it’s important to work on it. It’s a good thing too when you understand it and you’ve been there.
JH: Is cyber bullying harder than real life bullying?
JD: I was bullied, even physically at some points, but I do think Internet bullying actually, because if you get hurt physically it’s easier to brush off because you know bruises fade, but Internet bullying is a totally different kettle of fish, people think, “oh you’ve been bullied online why don’t you just shut off your computer, why don’t you just step away from the Internet”, but no, that doesn’t work that way, what people say to you works its way into your head.
JH: Did you say mean things back?
JD: No, gosh no. I was asked about it, but what does that show – money can’t buy happiness if you’re giving abuse to a 16-year-old girl on the Internet – why would you do it – you know?
JH: You spoke openly about your sexuality in 2013 and you came out as bisexual on ASK.fm, was it a difficult decision for you to make?
JD: It was a thing in my head, I knew always really. So I didn’t think twice, that was just the way it was. I didn’t want to make a big deal about it, what’s the biggie?
JH: Do you think writing bisexual storylines just gets too complicated?
JD: I think it possibly could but, it shouldn’t be. Could people keep up with someone dating a boy and then dating a girl, I don’t know, it’s a tough one. I think it’s easier for some people to think in black and white, to think you’re either gay or your straight, it’s easier – so I think a lot of storyline writers make their life easier by keeping it black and white.
JH: Does it surprise you that Northern Ireland is still so far behind with LGBT rights?
JD: It bugs me and I’m not going to lie. That idea that someone could go to hospital and their loved one might not be able to go and see them, because their not technically their spouse, that to me is just upsetting and not something I want to think about, to be honest.
JH: Do you think that’s something that’s likely to change in Northern Ireland in the coming year? There was recently a vote on same- sex marriage in Northern Ireland and it was largely supported but a technicality meant it didn’t pass –
JD: Yep, I think that’s going to keep happening for quite some time. I think that’s the way it is for at least another couple of years. I think we’ll get there eventually.
JH: Especially when the country that borders Northern Ireland – Ireland – overwhelming has accepted it!
JD: Absolutely, you’d think that the north would be a bit more forward thinking, but not just yet. Most people are (accepting) though when you talk to people, there’s a minority that, I won’t say spoil it, but…
JH: But they do….
JD: No, gosh no. I was asked about it, but what does that show – money can’t buy happiness if you’re giving abuse to a 16-year-old girl on the Internet – why would you do it – you know?
So the Office for National Statistic released some interesting stats today about the number of young people who identify as Bisexual.
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The ONS released statistic today that show that the number of young people who identify as bisexual has increased by 45 percent in just three years.
This is the first time that more young people have described themselves as bisexual rather than gay or lesbian. A survey by YouGov last year revealed that 50 per cent of people aged 18-24 defined themselves something other than purely heterosexual. Overall a quarter of the entire population revealed that they felt this way.
Overall a quarter of the entire population revealed that they felt this way.
In the most recent statistic released by the ONS 1.8 per cent identified themselves as bi, while 1.5 per cent said they were gay or lesbian.
However, it hasn’t stopped some social media users commenting that people are referring to themselves as LGBT+ because it’s “trendy” or fashionable rather than you know, the truth.
Larger than life TV personality Christopher Biggins was kicked off Celebrity Big Brother after producers said that comments he had made could cause offense to the viewing public and housemates – but what did he actually say?
He told Dan Wootton, the Sun’s Entertainment editor,
“I found Katie and said ‘I am mortified. I would never do anything to upset you. I love you and I’m really sorry’.”
Although Big Brother producers decided against broadcasting some of Mr. Biggin’s comments, during his exit interview with Big Brother,
Big Brother said,
“On Monday you in a conversation with Katie, where she remarked that she was not in the house to represent the Jewish community, your comment was plainly capable of causing offense to Katie and the viewing public. Big Brother spoke to you about your language, when big brother pointed out to you that your language was capable of great offense you apologized and said that you understood the seriousness of the situation, but you’ve continued to use unacceptable language.
“Today in a conversation with Renee and others you again used unacceptable language regarding bisexuality. Talking about AIDS, you said, ‘I think it was a bisexual disease.’ You then went on to say, ‘there were a lot of bisexuals who went to those countries, had sex with those people and then brought it back to their own families in America, so that’s how it became such a worldwide disease.’”
Channel 5 have decided to not broadcast the scene, Mr Biggins said,
“I think Channel 5 were trying to protect me by not screening it.
“I think it’s unfortunate that someone has decided to leak the story. Then they had to do something.
“I was called into the diary room so I went along in a shirt and underwear. They said they’d warned me twice now and I’d broken the rules so they were going to evict me.
Celebrity Big Brother favourite, Christopher Biggins, has attracted the criticism of Channel 5 viewers after he said bisexual people should “admit they’re gay”.
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Christopher Biggins has been heavily criticised on social media after revealing that he thinks that people should “pick a team” when it comes to sexuality.
During a chat with fellow housemate and Mob Wives star Renee Graziano about sexuality, the panto king said, that bisexuals were the “worst type” and that he believed that they were people not wanting to admit that they were gay.
Here’s the transcript:
Christopher: Renee, you’ve got nothing against gays have you?
Renee: Me? No! Not at all, okay, when you’re gay you’re gay and I think it’s beautiful, because I think it’s who you are and it’s natural. But I think today in society they kinda force things on people and they confuse you…
Christopher: “I think the worst type, though, I’m afraid to say it, is the bisexuals
Renee: I… That upsets me… You have to pick a team.
Christopher: Yes, what it is, is, people not wanting to admit they’re gay,
Renee: Please pick team, pick anyone you want…
Christopher: I know, I know, I totally agree. Be honest that’s what you gotta be.
Viewers on Twitter were quick to blast Biggins for his comments.
The Bisexual Index, the UK bi activist group fighting biphobia & bisexual erasure said,
“Yes, Christopher Biggins is still spouting biphobia,He hosts @stonewalluk‘s Equality Dinner, ironically…”
I have lost a lot of respect for both Christopher Biggins and Renee. #CBB
“I think the people who fear homosexuality most are the ones who could be gay. The world is full of bisexuals because that’s the way they want to do it. What do they do? They ruin a woman’s life. It’s so wrong, because you’re not owning up to what you are. You lead a double life so how can you be a real person?”
“Then in my early twenties I met a girl and married her, because I thought that was the thing to do. Ridiculous. I hadn’t thought it through and of course it didn’t work. Now I’ve happily been with Neil (Neil Sinclair, his civil partner) for 21 years and that’s how it should have been.”
This week a reader asks what he should do about a new relationship he’s in with a bi guy, who doesn’t seem to want to have sex.
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Dear TGUK,
I’ve started seeing a guy who says he’s bisexual. He’s not out to his family or anyone else. We met via an app. We’ve been dating, I guess around 2 months.
He came out of a relationship with a girl around 6 months ago and says he wants to now be with a guy.
Although we’ve spent time together and had a few dates, he doesn’t want to stay the night with me or it seems have sex although he tells me he’s not seeing anyone else – man or woman. I’ve not pressured him, and I tell him when he’s ready I’m here.
You’re not very clear about what you want. Half the struggle in relationships is about being able to clearly express what you want in an open, thoughtful and non-judgmental manner. One of my friends had a boyfriend for 10 years. After four years he felt it was time for them to live together, but he didn’t push it. Six years later (and after ten years in total), he finally ‘laid it on the line’ and the relationship ended. You have to tell your date in a timely fashion what’s important to you and then work out what compromise (if any, depending on level of importance) you can be happy with.
“Don’t let it be something that you lose control over…”
It’s very commendable that you’re allowing him space and the chance to ‘self-discover’ while you’re there to support him. You say it’s been two months of dating, and therefore it is very natural that you want to progress with him further, which of course means intimacy. At this stage, you may want to talk about your feelings a little more and hint you are ready for the next stage. Or have an open discussion about what he would like to do if you were to have sex.
It is exciting, and of course for some, a turn on when you meet a guy who has recently come out or has been with girls in the past, it seems to be an attractive feature that some gay men seek or are excited by. Just don’t let it be something that you lose control over, and only accommodates his needs; he needs to accommodate yours, and two months is a great time to do so.
It sounds to me that this guy may not be very experienced in having sex with another guy. On this basis you may have to give him time to explore this aspect of his sexuality. If you think there is mileage in the relationship bear with him but ask! The key to good sex is communication and it may be he is unsure what to do, how to do it. This could be an opportunity for you both to discover some amazing sex. If you don’t talk about though it will never happen.
It’s nice that you’re not pressuring him into anything, because this may well be his first same-sex experience and he could be either nervous or unsure how to proceed. However if he isn’t willing to put in the effort in the relationship, he could very be on the rebound from his previous relationship, having started dating you only 4 months after. Give it another month, if nothing changes, move on before feelings become too strong.
‘When in doubt, don’t’. I have lived by that ever since and it has indeed seen me right in so many things.
It seems to me that this guy doesn’t really know what he wants so are you becoming his counsellor? It seems he has an awful lot of issues to deal with and I am not sure if this is really what you want.
You seem to be happy within yourself, you seem to know what you want. Re-read your question if you can answer this to yourself honestly you have your answer. I wish you well.
“See how he feels about having sex with another man”
It sounds to me like the person you’re dating is still coming to terms with his sexuality. If he has been in the closet previous to dating you, he may now only be beginning to feel comfortable with who he is. It can be a lengthy (and frustrating) process, but there are things you can do to help. It’s great that you’ve not pressured him and let him know that you are there when he is ready to take the next step. It might be worth sitting down with him to talk about how he feels about having sex with another man. He may not have done it before, so could be feeling apprehensive or even scared. You may be able to help alleviate that though. It sounds like you’ve been supportive so far. You should continue that track.
