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  • ANSWERS | What Is A White Glove Bottom?

    If you’ve heard the expression he’s such a white glove bottom and wondered what it is – we have the answer for you.

    What Is A White Glove Bottom?

    A white glove bottom is a guy who won’t bottom (be penetrated by another guy) unless he’s completely sure he’s completely clean if you get our drift. So basically he’s the type who will most probably douche or use an enema before penetration to ensure there’s no mess… ever.

    Not every man who bottoms is a “white glove bottom” – if you know your body and have a good diet it isn’t always necessary to be excessive with your cleaning.

    But if you’re worried about mess, use a condom. These things happen and it’s not the end of the world.

     

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  • These #AfterSexSelfies Will Make You Reconsider The Importance Of Selfies

    Is this the end of humanity as we know it or a brilliant way to pry into another people’s bedrooms…

    Does sex happen so rarely that you need to document that it happened?

    2014 was the year of the selfie, 2015 was the year of the selfie stick will 2016 be the year of the after sex selfie?
    The results are a mixed bag, but this could be potentially the best thing ever. It does raise two questions; firstly we’re wondering why none of these people are eating a cheese sandwich (which is what we always do after gland to gland combat ) and secondly over share much?
    Here are the top 8 AfterSexSelfie types…

    The thumbs up…

    A job well done..

    The I’m Not Impressed

    Do it again and do it better.

    The Cuddle Smuggle

    Slightly exhausted but glowing in the goodness.

    The Smiler

    What have you done today to make you feel proud?

    The Hair Is Still Perfect

    Come on guys… you’re not supposed to look better than before you did the deed!

    The Smug

    Yes, I’ve had sex. You haven’t. Waa Waa

    The selfie aftersexselfie

    Probably the most common selfie picture…

    Keep Your Fluids Up

    It’s important y’all to keep hydrated…

    *inclusion in this list doesn’t indicate sexuality or any sexual activity

  • A Modern Love Story: Meeting The One Online

    All love stories have to start somewhere and for Kyle, Michael, Molly and Eve, theirs have all the makings of a very modern tale.

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  • 12 Mistakes Gay Guys Make On Dating Profiles

    Not getting the responses you want from your dating profile perhaps there’s something you’re doing wrong.We asked our readers what where the most common mistakes they found on guy’s profiles on dating sites and hook up apps.

    Sponsored by:

    AllMale

    1) Too Much, Too Soon.

    Nothing says, “I’m serious about dating and maybe actually finding love online” than a picture of you, a sling and four of your most intimate friends using a power tool you could dig up pavements with. A bit of showmanship never hurt anyone, but laying it all out like it’s on a butcher’s block doesn’t scream “I’m all about the exclusivity” does it?

    2) No Fats, Femmes Or Rice.

    I mean just who do you think you are? Say what you like in a man, not what you don’t. Start the conversation positive rather than flood your online space with negativity. Plus don’t be a racist, fatist, internalised homophobic douche.

    3) The Game Stops Here.

    Don’t play endless games, it’s no longer the 90s. Throw away the dating self-help books that tell you, a) not to call after 6pm, b) not to accept dates the day before, and c) to only ever show him the bedroom after the wedding day. Not only is it a massive waste of your time but let’s be honest it’s time when you could actually be jumping each other’s bones. Playing games is manipulative and no one is looking for a nasty lover, unless of course you’re Janet Jackson.

    4) Be Yourself.

    Honesty is the best policy. Shane Greene from dating site AllMale says, “Do not try to be something you’re not, just be yourself. The possibility of finding a match online leads some men to detach from what makes them who they are offline. Many men new to online dating “beef up” their profiles with details that aren’t true hoping to somehow be better than they already are naturally.”

    This may seem like a cool idea but these men quickly realise they will be attracting men who are interested in their online persona and not who they really are. You want someone who is interested in what you actually are. That requires you to be honest and accurate about yourself from the very start.”

    5) I just can’t deal…

    No one likes a killjoy – stop complaining that you can’t find at date / don’t earn enough / what a douche your ex is / even your cat hates you. A dating profile is an advert. It’s about selling yourself as someone who is a stable, coherent, fun-to-be- around, loveable guy. Be smart, funny and tell us the good things about you.

    6) Spellcheck.

    Dear god, does a little spell check hort? If you can’t get the little details right what on earth are you going to be like at the other stuff?

    7) Are we dating you or her?

    We don’t care if you and your bessie had a crazy night in Blackpool. Take a picture with just you. After all we’re not going on a date with her as well – and if we are, we might need to revaluate this whole thing.

    8) Torso To Be Or Torso Not To Be.

    If you can’t show your face but you can show your torso/cock/butt then we have to consider your priorities. If you’re looking for love then show your face, your eyes and your smile.

    9) Hi-di-Hi!

    Grindr hi hi hi
    Come on, be original. First words count so don’t waste them with a “hi” or “hey”. Try adding some vocab, you know, like words. Not sure what to write? Try something like, “hi, nice profile pic – where was it taken?” Or, “Hey, I like your T shirt, where did you get it from?” – get the conversation flowing with open questions, those questions that lead to a conversation, questions that can’t be answered with a “yes” or a simple “no”.

    10 )Don’t Fall In Love After Two Days Of Messages.

    We’ve all done it, fallen hard for someone we’ve only just met 2 days ago online but have both shared a sunset, sunrise and Lorraine on ITV. Spending hours on hours getting to know someone online is okay, but the magic happens in the real world. As Cher said, it’ll be in his kiss – not his keyboard.

    11) Top To Bottom.

    Spell it out; you’ve got to make sure you’re compatible with your sexual preferences. If you’re a top – say so, if you’re a power bottom 2.0 then say so. Nothing worse than spending lots of time chatting to someone only to find that you both point north – of course, if you’re both not into penetration then this is cool – but the likelihood is that sex and sexual roles will play a massive part in any future relationship.

    12) Don’t Over Share.

    Be careful what info you put on your dating profiles and what you tell people before you really get to know them. Personal data, such as home address, bank sort codes and your mother’s maiden name aren’t things you should be sharing with anyone. An online date is just like your bank, they should never ask for your password.

  • Proof That Most Men Are A Little Bit Gay, Survey Finds “Men Need Men”

    According to new research millions of men value their Bromances more than their actual relationships.

    A study of men in the UK found that they would prefer to turn to their mates for advice, companionship, and a good old gossip over drinks than the women in their life. With one in six questioned saying that they don’t consider their partners to be their best friend.

    In fact, a third of the guys surveyed admit their partner simply doesn’t share the same interests and hobbies as them, while a further quarter claim their spouse never listens.

    Nearly a third would prefer to go on a weekend away with their male friends than with their female partners.

    The study conducted by Grant’s Signature Whisky showed that in addition to their partner, the average male feels the need for at least three best mates with whom they want to share important parts of their life with.

    Carrianne Sutton, Brand Manager for Grants Whisky, which conducted the study of 1,000 British men said:

    “Men need men, it’s as simple as that.

    “Unlike a relationship with your significant other, the lack of intimacy in a Bromance means there are no barriers. They don’t need to be wary of what they’re saying and how they’re acting With blokes, anything goes.
    “You can share a drink and have banter, knowing that whatever you say, it won’t get taken out of context. In fact, a lot of partners could learn a lot from their man’s Bromance!”

    Incredibly a fifth of men claim partners come and go, but friends are there for life.
    So there you go MEN NEED MEN and we couldn’t agree more!

    TOP 10 REASONS WHY BLOKES VALUE THE BROMANCE ABOVE THE ROMANCE:

    • Blokes are totally honest, regardless of feelings
    • They are always there for you, even at 3am in the morning
    • Mates have the ability to make you laugh even when you feel terrible
    • They don’t judge you, whatever your behaviour
    • They’ll stick up for you whenever you need it, even if you’re in the wrong
    • They know what to say to you when you’re feeling really down
    • They enjoy trivial meaningless conversations about absolutely nothing
    • They are always on your side, even if you’re behaving badly
    • They always see the best in you, when perhaps no-one else can
    • They share all your hobbies and interests

  • How The Equality Act Is Costing Gay Couples Billions And Refusing Pension Rights

    News that the Court of Appeal has refused the application of a gay man for his husband to be treated in the same manner upon his death as a surviving heterosexual spouse has underlined that the principal of equality does not extend to every area of the law.

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  • COLUMN: Can Gay Relationships Ever Be Honest and Open?

    Is there such a thing as a healthy open relationship? I can only go on my own experiences, which were mixed.

    I met Adam in the early 2000s. He was six foot two, tattooed, broad and masculine and counterbalanced my more twinky look. He was hairy and I was smooth, lean and blond with boyish looks. We were smitten in no time at all and entered a really passionate relationship. I was less experienced than him and in my late twenties. He was in his mid thirties and had been around the block a fair bit, trying things that I never had but which turned me on at the very thought of them. He’d had scores of anonymous one night stands, attended an orgy or two and engaged in numerous threesomes. The very thought of this made me squirm with lust.

    The sex was brilliant and we were very compatible. One minor problem was that we were both quite insecure about our looks and both a little bit possessive. I resented his friendship with an ex; he mistrusted me with my gay friends. The usual things. We’d been together a couple of years and were on holiday when we ended up in a bar with a back room. The combination of drink and holiday atmosphere led to us entering into a mass fumbling session and both ending up with sticky hands, hangovers and regrets the next day.

    It sparked something off though and we started to fantasise together about threesomes and about group sex. The next holiday we went on we entered another gay bar and this time ended up taking a hot young Swedish bloke back to our hotel room. It was a pretty good experience. This started the bizarre pattern we followed for the next few years.

    Both of us were incredibly tempted by the array of horny blokes on offer on the gay scene. Both of us disapproved of infidelity. We came to a dangerous compromise. We would have a semi-open relationship. We could both sleep with other people of our choice but the other partner had to be present, either watching or joining in.

    We set ground rules: safer sex only, we both had the right to say we didn’t want to pursue someone and we both had to agree. This worked for a while. We met a variety of blokes, some sexier than others, some duller and weirder and some more wildly exciting than we could have hoped for. We trawled the internet, saunas, back rooms and bars and managed to pull a fair bit.
    Naturally, the problems soon set in. Firstly: I fancied big, manly blokes who were slightly older. He fancied younger blokes who were more effeminate. Who did we choose? The ideal was another couple like us but that wasn’t always so readily available.

    How safe was safer sex? What did we do if someone wanted to see us again? Didn’t that smack of a relationship that could come with unwanted baggage

    The biggest issue was jealousy. Although we were both turned on to distraction watching each other getting it on with another man; it was also slightly disturbing. Was he enjoying it more than he liked sex with me? Was I enjoying it more and could he tell? Was this “proper”? What would my mates, colleagues and family think if they knew?

    He broke the rules once in Amsterdam. I’d nipped to the loo and came back to find him giving a young man a hard pounding in a dark corner. I was turned on but also fuming as he hadn’t asked my permission and the man was also very good looking. He was equally put out when I got quite hung up on a particularly well-endowed trucker and didn’t hide it well enough.

    The other couples we met seemed much like us but sometimes I got the feeling that there was one partner who wanted this more than the other which felt funny. There was also the issue where it was obvious that the invited guest fancied one of us more than the other, which had a tendency to lead to sulking and insecurity.

    We split up eventually for various other reasons. I’m now with someone else and we don’t sleep with other people (unless there’s something he’s not telling me). I kind of miss it in a weird way. Do I regret what me and the ex used to do? Not at all. I’ve got a fantastic bank of memories. Would I do it again? Probably not…but never say never. I know that different arrangements suit different people but I also now know what’s right for me.

    by Chris

  • DILEMMAS | I Had Gay Sex With My Sister’s Husband

    DILEMMAS | I Had Gay Sex With My Sister’s Husband

    In a recent issue of The Sun, stalwart Agony Aunt Deidre gave some advice to a man who had recently been caught with his trousers down with his sister’s husband.

    CREDIT: kirza-bigstock

    The man was caught by his sister having sex with her husband, the reader expressed feeling trapped and having nobody to turn to and that his sister was distressed and that she wouldn’t talk to him again.

    Diedre replied that his sister had been betrayed by two people she loved and trusted and that his actions were inexcusable, but he must make sure that the husband must take half the responsibility…

    We thought we’d ask some of our writers how they’d have tackled the problem.

    ALEX Da Silva (Birmingham Correspondant)

    Impulse is a dark force that many succumb to, and sometimes it is uncontrollable. Human beings live day by day experiencing all sorts of instinctive outbursts, ‘do I get a dessert after that big main?’; ‘shall I hit the snooze button again, and make an excuse about the train being late, to get more sleep?’ and sometimes impulses drive our minds further where temptation is undeniable.

    Looking at your case, this ‘itch’ appears to have been initiated by your sister’s husband, a step which would have taken a lot of courage to make. I have gone through something similar myself, and although the person who will hurt the most will be your sister, due to the fact that both men of her life have betrayed at once and together, there is an emptiness one feels to have been that person to cause such hurt and mistrust. I am sure that you are nice person, always paid your bills, and maybe have bought a Big Issue here and there, but society is very quick to coin people whose actions are of a negative nature.

    However, your sister is your blood, and is a person that you could not live without. To get her back, you must give her that space, for every time you text, ring, visit her you are just taking her back to that dreadful moment, event of which wounded you all. Send a letter here and there about a memory you have shared together, send a card for her birthday and Christmas, but keep at that for now. It’s a gash so deep that unless you are a mutant with regenerative qualities, will take some time to heal.

    In regards to your family, they are hurt too. It is going to take not as long, but the same care, of not trying to apologise or try to talk about that night, it should be periodical attempts at maybe conversing with your mother first, as she loves unconditionally and let her have her peace and work from there. She could really help you mend the bond between you and your sister.

    Family ties are bound forever, and though there may be slashes and tears, you will work together to restore your home again. Just keep faith.

    ALSO READ: DILEMMAS | Help! My Straight Work Mate Keeps Coming On To Me

    JORDAN Lohan (Food and Drink editor, Brighton)

    I can imagine your sister’s world crumbling at the seams walking in and finding out that her brother is “the other woman”. Throughout your description of this hideous event, you don’t actually explicitly admit to being sorry or express any feelings of remorse or regret. You even have the audacity to reminisce about his touch being “electrifying”.

    If you were truly sorry and understood the real implications of what you and the husband had done, it should make you feel sick and uncomfortable. “I feel trapped” is your final sentence and that sentence comes from a selfish place of wanting to help YOURSELF. Your sister is the victim here, not you.

    I don’t think your relationship can ever be 100% salvaged with your sister, you fucked her husband and you fuced the trust between the two of you which should have been sacred and pure.

    If I were your sister, I would want you to pipe down, go away, and get some counselling to delve into the reason why you warranted the sabotage of your and her relationship, and come back when you were truly sorry.

    Have you got a dilemma you’d like us to answer? Click here to visit our dilemmas page.

  • DILEMMAS | We Have Gay Bed Death After Just 8 Months… Help

    DILEMMAS | We Have Gay Bed Death After Just 8 Months… Help

    This month, in a change to our usual relationship and sex advice, we received an interesting question from a reader on our forum. The reader is concerned that the sex in his loving and committed relationship has all but dried up after 8 months together. We asked three of our writers their advice and thoughts on the problem.

    (C) BIGSTOCK

    Dear Dilemmas

    We’ve been together for around 8 months now although we had an on/off casual thing for a while before getting together. At first the sex was phenomenal and on a regular basis nearly every time we were together even 2 to 3 times a night. However over the last 3/4 months it has rapidly decreased to nearly nothing.

    Since May we have only had sex like maybe 4-6 times and even the odd occasion when it has happened it feels like he’s just not interested and is just doing it for me. So it has been rubbish.

    We went on a weekend break away, nice and romantic, had a great time together but he was still just full of excuses whether “I’m too tired” or “I’m bloated” or any one of 146 other things and it’s really getting to me now.

    We are intimate and I do feel that he loves me as we still kiss and cuddle and have romantic nights in and out but they just never involve sex anymore.

    I’ve tried subtly bringing this up in different ways but nothing seems to work and I just don’t want to seem like a dick by bringing it up abruptly.

    Obviously I understand that as a relationship progresses that sexual desire might depreciate a bit but not this dramatically and it went from always to never and has pretty much been that way for months now. Any advice would be appreciated.

    Ask him what does he want from you?

    JORDAN (Brighton)

    I’ve personally experienced this situation so feel your pain! And it literally is pain. You may be getting kisses and cuddles but repeatedly being brushed off when it comes to sex is nothing but rejection, and that hurts.

    I wouldn’t call you a “dick” for bringing it up abruptly; you would only be mirroring how it felt to you when the sex suddenly died out.

    He’s sending out mixed messages and being incredibly controlling by being the one that decides what kind of intimacy you receive and when. Ask him, what does he want from you? Because right now he’s not offering enough to make you happy, feel good about yourself, and feel secure in your relationship, and you should make sure that he knows that in black and white. (Hopefully the thought of losing you will light a fire under his ass and spark the conversation that you both need to have)

    There Maybe A Reasonable Medical Explanation…

    DANIEL (Warwickshire)

    The so-called honeymoon period of a relationship when you first begin seeing someone can be a truly wonderful period. Whether it’s getting to know your partner’s quirks, excitedly introducing this amazing person to your friends, or all of that rampant sex you have, it’s a lovely time in your relationship. It’s a given that over time that honeymoon period fizzles out a bit, but it’s often replaced by that nice sense of familiarity, which I believe is often a positive thing.

    With that familiarity and a deeper, more meaningful relationship often comes the inevitable change of sexual habits, and it’s true to say that sex can sometimes go through a dry patch or period of predictability.

    Whatever the reasons are for your partner’s reduced interest in having sex, it is important to raise the issue and try to discuss it with him. By keeping it bottled up and not having an open conversation about your current situation, you risk becoming resentful and that may turn the issue into something bigger. It’s not often an easy subject to talk to your partner about, but communication is key to resolving things.

    When talking about your worries around your sex life, perhaps you could take the angle of being concerned about your partner and asking him if he is ok. There could be a number of reasons why he isn’t as interested in sex as he used to be. He may have a lot on his mind or be stressed. He could be depressed or not feeling well. Or it could be possible that he simply has a reduced sex drive. Whatever the reason is, it’s important to be supportive and keep that line of communication open.

    The fact that you remain intimate and enjoy kissing and cuddling is a positive, and perhaps that’s a way to begin the conversation; by saying you enjoy the intimacy, but are concerned about the lack of actual sex and wonder if your partner is ok. This will show that you treasure what you have, feel able to talk about your worries, but also that you care about your partner.

    There is bound to be a reasonable, understandable explanation for the lack of sexual interest. I hope that by opening up the lines of communication and speaking to each other about the issue, you’re able to overcome it and enjoy a happy sex life once more.

     

    9 Ways To Sort This Out

    PAUL (Doncaster)

    1. Whilst sex is an important part of any relationship, it is not the most important thing.

    2. There is a compromise to be had – as both of you need to be happy.

    3. Try initiating sex in different ways, or try other things instead of sex – try giving / having a nice massage or have a shower together.

    4. Set up a regular date night, where you go out on a romantic date.

    5. Try asking him about what he would like to do in the bedroom – he may be gagging to roll around smothered in peanut butter, but is too embarrassed to ask / talk to you about. Have a chat about your fantasies and start to introduce them.

    6. If all else fails, you need to have a frank chat with him and say that whilst you appreciate it is not everything, sex is important to you and you would like to share such an intimate and personal thing with him. If you don’t want to blurt it out randomly in the advert break of Coronation Street, then agree a time with him to have a discussion. Don’t frame it as “this is your problem and your fault” – more as “you are really important to me and we need to be honest with each other, because I want this relationship to work”. Don’t make him feel small about it, or have a go at him. Approach it as a joint issue.

    7. If you can’t get over this impasse, then you have to think about whether you should continue to be together – it depends on what compromise you can reach and how important sex is to you.

    8. Whatever you do, don’t go looking elsewhere for sex behind his back. If you do, you risk losing him all together.

    9. If both of you want to be together, but he does not want to increase the amount of sex to a level you want, then give some thought to you both having an open relationship. However, whilst this may suit some people, it does not suit everyone. Set ground rules and agree on things such as whether you will tell each other when, where and with whom, or whether you both agree not to discuss it at all. Open relationships can lead to feelings of anxiety, jealousy, arguments and mistrust – even if you both think that you are happy with it at the outset. If you do decide to go down this route, then always practice safe sex.

    The advice above has been given by our community of writers who have drawn from experiences in their own lives and is should not be considered as professional advice.

    Have you got a dilemma you’d like our writers and experts to answer? Click here to send us your dilemma

  • The Sun’s Deidre Response To Man Who Had Gay Sex With Sis’s Hubby Gets TheGayUK Treatment

    In a recent issue of The Sun, stalwart Agony Aunt Deidre gave some advice to a man who had recently been caught with his trousers down with his sister’s husband

    The man was caught by his sister having sex with her husband, the reader expressed feeling trapped and having nobody to turn to and that his sister was distressed and that she wouldn’t talk to him again.
    Diedre replied that his sister had been betrayed by two people she loved and trusted and that his actions were inexcusable, but he must make sure that the husband must take half the responsibilty…
    We thought we’d ask some of our writers how they’d have tackled the problem.

    ALEX Da Silva (Birmingham Correspondant)

    Impulse is a dark force that many succumb to, and sometimes it is uncontrollable. Human beings live day by day experiencing all sorts of instinctive outbursts, ‘do I get a dessert after that big main?’; ‘shall I hit the snooze button again, and make an excuse about the train being late, to get more sleep?’ and sometimes impulses drive our minds further where temptation is undeniable.

    Looking at your case, this ‘itch’ appears to have been initiated by your sister’s husband, a step which would have taken a lot of courage to make. I have gone through something similar myself, and although the person who will hurt the most will be your sister, due to the fact that both men of her life have betrayed at once and together, there is an emptiness one feels to have been that person to cause such hurt and mistrust. I am sure that you are nice person, always paid your bills, and maybe have bought a Big Issue here and there, but society is very quick to coin people whose actions are of a negative nature.

    However, your sister is your blood, and is a person that you could not live without. To get her back, you must give her that space, for every time you text, ring, visit her you are just taking her back to that dreadful moment, event of which wounded you all. Send a letter here and there about a memory you have shared together, send a card for her birthday and Christmas, but keep at that for now. It’s a gash so deep that unless you are a mutant with regenerative qualities, will take some time to heal.

    In regards to your family, they are hurt too. It is going to take not as long, but the same care, of not trying to apologise or try to talk about that night, it should be periodical attempts at maybe conversing with your mother first, as she loves unconditionally and let her have her peace and work from there. She could really help you mend the bond between you and your sister.

    Family ties are bound forever, and though there may be slashes and tears, you will work together to restore your home again. Just keep faith.

    JORDAN Lohan (Food and Drink editor, Brighton)

    I can imagine your sister’s world crumbling at the seams walking in and finding out that her brother is “the other woman”. Throughout your description of this hideous event, you don’t actually explicitly admit to being sorry or express any feelings of remorse or regret. You even have the audacity to reminisce about his touch being “electrifying”.

    If you were truly sorry and understood the real implications of what you and the husband had done, it should make you feel sick and uncomfortable. “I feel trapped” is your final sentence and that sentence comes from a selfish place of wanting to help YOURSELF. Your sister is the victim here, not you.

    I don’t think your relationship can ever be 100% salvaged with your sister, you fuc**ked her husband and you fuc**ed the trust between the two of you which should have been sacred and pure.

    If i were your sister, I would want you to pipe down, go away, and get some counselling to delve into the reason why you warranted the sabotage of your and her relationship, and come back when you were truly sorry.

  • New Calculator Works Out How Many Calories You Burn During Sex

    Oh those clever bods at Superdrug have worked out how many calories you can burn during sex, if of course, you’re having sex.

    Let’s say you and your boyfriend or FWB (friend with benefits) are 12 stone and do 10 minutes of doggie, 12 minutes of legs in the air, 8 minutes of reverse cowboy and end with a spectacular 3 minutes of holding your partner up, you could have burned off 142 calories for your 33 minutes of activity, not bad eh?

    Want some advice on how to spice up some of your positions, check out these bad boys (NSFW)

    That’s the equivalent of running 1.24 miles, 25 minutes of dancing or 37 minutes of yoga. I think we all know what we’d prefer doing.According to the website,

    “Superdrug Online Doctors commissioned (Fractl) to investigate how people can use sex as a form of exercise. To determine the extensive list of positions – including their unconventional names and respective calorie counts for both partners – we reviewed “The Position of the Day Playbook” from Nerve.com. To add to its methodology, which lacked any reference to the duration of activity or weight of the individuals, we did further research on positions and calories burned.”

    Now in our quick survey of the calories burned, it turns out that the receptive partner or the bottom actually usually burns less calories. So to keep up the calorie count, bottoms, prepare to go 2.0 Power-bottom and do more energetic positions like squatting, the cowboy and a bit of a lap dance.