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  • How to hire a rent boy or an escort

    How to hire a rent boy or an escort

    1. Go online and find the right guy.

    There’s no need to trawl the streets looking for escorts or rentboys in fact, in 2020 is anyone still really doing that? There are loads of escorting and rentboy sites, which you can Google, where guys of all shapes, sizes and colours have uploaded their pictures and loaded their profiles with information on what they’re into and up for. You’ll be able to find someone to suit your needs very quickly.

    2. Reach out to them

    Whether you call, text, Whatsapp or email the next step is to make contact with them. Some workers may be around all hours, others might not be. If he’s available or taking bookings he’ll answer.

    Once you’ve connected, here’s where you tell him or describe what it is you’re looking for and the worker will be able to tell you whether it’s doable.

    Lay it all out here. Don’t spring any surprises on your escort when you’re actually meeting.

    Also, discuss the price. The escort may have already said what his price per hour is on the website, or he may have put “Ask Me”… Tell him how long you’re looking for and what price he can do it for. The going rate is around £150 per hour. There may be extras, which can be bolted on, such as bareback, massage, kink etc.

    Some guys will offer “in calls” – that’s where you go to him and “outcalls” is where he’ll travel to you.

    Outcalls can be more expensive and you might be asked for a deposit from your guy. This is normal and is essentially because some clients bail at the last minute or give out false information. So a deposit shows you really mean business.

    3. Agree on it all before you or he turns up!

    Again don’t spring it on your guy that you’re into fisting or food play or underwear smelling beforehand. Equally, if you’re wanting to top him, let him know beforehand, so he can prepare. Most escorts, if they are bottoms or vers, will already be prepared… Also, have the safer sex discussion. Some guys will bareback, others won’t. Don’t push if he says he’s condom only.

    4. Make sure you’re prepared too.

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    Shower (be clean) and prep yourself, if you’re looking to get fucked. Nobody likes a shitty kitty (unless that’s what you’ve paid for). Looking for info on douching? Check it out here.

    5. Arrive and money

    Don’t forget sex work is work. The money conversation should happen upfront. Preferred method… cash. Don’t make a big thing about it. Again it’s a good point to lay out what it is you want to do. It’s your time so script it out if that helps.

    6. Get down to it.

    It’s your time so use it how you want to. Let your guy know what works, what doesn’t, but be polite and professional and your escort will reciprocate (again unless you’ve paid for something different).

    7. Condoms.

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    If you agreed on condoms, make sure you wear one and don’t pressure your sex worker into having bareback once in the flow of things. A good escort will have a supply of condoms, lube and most likely poppers, particularly if it’s an incall.

    8. Clean up in aisle.

    Once the fun is over, let your escort make his excuses and leave. Make sure you see him to the door. If you’re feeling generous a tip will never be refused.

    9. Review

    If you enjoyed give him a good review on whatever website you found him on.

  • Gay Dating | What does “A Levels” mean on dating or escorting sites?

    Gay Dating | What does “A Levels” mean on dating or escorting sites?

    Decoding “A Levels” – if you see “A Levels” in someone’s dating, hook up or even sex-worker profile here is what it means.

    Simply put it means Anal Sex and has nothing to do with the exams that school leavers take before heading off to university!

    Mostly used in the UK and traditionally used by sex workers to show that they offer anal sex as one of their services. Not every escort site uses the term, but you can still see it on sites like Vivastreet.

    Check out more gay dating terms.

  • This new pride flag aims to be the most inclusive ever

    This new pride flag aims to be the most inclusive ever

    A brand new Pride Flag has been created with the aim of being even more inclusive than previous versions.

    The flag, which was created by sex-worker rights and PrEP advocate Jason Domino includes a red umbrella symbol which has been used by sex-workers across the globe as a way to remember sex-workers who were victims of abuse and violence.

    In the new design, the red umbrella has been superimposed on top of what is known as the “progressive pride flag” which incorporates the trans flag’s blue, white and pink stripes and a graduated black and brown stripe to represent LGBT+ people of colour.

    Domino says that he collaborated on the flag along with HIV activist Shamal Waraich to “to be more accurate for skin tones of more POC/BAME.”

    Flag carriers reach the Atlantic Ocean Sunday, June 15, 2003, as they finish carrying a 1 1/4-mile-long rainbow flag down Duval Street in Key West, Fla. The mammoth banner was created by Gilbert Baker and commemorated the 25th anniversary of the gay and lesbian icon that Baker, a San Francisco resident, conceived in 1978. The flag required 17,600 linear yards of fabric, weighs more than 5,000 pounds and was a highlight event of the PrideFest Key West celebration. Photo by Andy Newman/Florida Keys News Bureau

    The original eight-stripe Pride flag was created in 1978 by artist Gilbert Baker who said that he created the flag as there was “no other international symbol for [the LGBT+ community] than the pink triangle which the Nazis used to identify homosexuals in concentration camps,

    “Even though the pink triangle was and still is a very powerful symbol, it was very much forced upon us”.

    What is the history of the Pride Flag?

    The original flag was an 8 stripe flag, but over time two colours were removed, the Pink and Cyan, to become the 6-flag stripe that is best-known across the globe to represent the LGBT+ community.

    In 2017 activists in the US city of Philadelphia introduced a “more pride” flag which incorporated a black and brown stripe.

    On Twitter, the new flag has met with positive reaction with people thanking Jason for including sex-workers.

  • Adult entertainers are asking the Government to be protected under the Equality Act

    Adult entertainers are asking the Government to be protected under the Equality Act

    A petition has gone live asking for occupations, like adult entertainment to be added to protected characteristics, like sexuality, race and gender identity.

    The petition which has been created by the ManyVids platform which aims to provide “an oasis for sex workers to thrive independently” has been launched to ask the government to make changes to the Equality Act 2010.

    The organisation has said it would like to “challenge the UK government to protect and safeguard the rights of adult entertainers, who make a legal income just like other workers in many industries across the UK”.

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    A worker, Epiphany Jones (link NSFW), uses the platform, and said that she is “repulsed by how much hate and discrimination there still is against sex workers, especially in this day in age”.

    Explaining some of the issues she faced working within the adult industry, she wrote,

    “When I first started camming on a few different sites, I offered PayPal as another way for my customers to safely and securely buy content from me. Unfortunately, a customer reported me to PayPal for using their service for sex work and my account was banned, deleted and the money was given back to the purchaser.

    “As I had already delivered the video in question (which was delivered on time and without any issues), I can only assume the customer did this vindictively, knowing they would get a free video out of it. As you can imagine I was furious that this had been allowed to happen, and that I wasn’t given any chance to explain my situation

    She continued, “What upset me most is the fact that prejudices surrounding my occupation stopped a thorough investigation from taking place. If I was selling craft videos on how to make daisy chains and a customer had complained, PayPal would have fairly investigated both sides of the argument and helped to resolve the situation, as opposed to banning the account out of hand and penalizing the creator”.

    Jones says the incident has left her feeling “ostracized and alone”.

    “No right-minded person would ever “lend a stripper money to do better shows.”

    Speaking about her experience of getting a bank loan is even more depressing, she said,

    “A couple of years ago I wanted to improve my business by upgrading my software and equipment. As I’m a registered business I decided to do what anyone else would do and met with the bank to discuss business loans. When I explained to the manager what my business was and why I needed the money I was practically laughed out of the office and told that no right-minded person would ever “lend a stripper money to do better shows.”

    “Putting aside the fact that I earn consistently more via camming than I did in my previous job, this completely demoralized me and belittled my worth. The fact that a bank manager felt justified in demeaning me, just because of my occupation was sickening. All the money I’d earned and the profile I’d worked hard to build up meant nothing, he couldn’t see past my job title.

    Just because I’m in the adult industry doesn’t mean I’m any less of a human being.

    “Just because I’m in the adult industry doesn’t mean I’m any less of a human being. Having my hard-earned money taken from me being banished from sites is so demoralizing, especially since it’s nothing to do with me as a person – it’s just because of the prejudice surrounding my job.

    People say the world will never change, but it can happen, and since I’ve been a ManyVids member I’ve seen such a positive improvement, especially within the LGBTQ community. I’d encourage all sex workers to keep being resilient and to have the courage to speak up and stand for what is right”.

  • Everything you wanted to know about escorting but were too afraid to ask

    Everything you wanted to know about escorting but were too afraid to ask

    There are many professions that involve selling products, goods and services, but how hard can it be when the product you’re selling is yourself? We ask the winner of this year’s Hookie Awards (A more adult version of Britain’s Got “Talent”) all the things you wanted to know about being an escort but were too afraid to ask.

    We put your burning questions to Adam Dacre…

    What age did you start escorting?

    I did it once for a month when I was 23, but I made it a full-time profession at 27.

    You’ve just been crowned the UK’s winner of the Hookies. Was there a lot of, ahem, Stiff competition?

    There was quite a lot of “stiffness” going on back stage. The competition was very friendly. Even though I was going against big American names, we all became very good friends.

    How is the winner declared, do you have to go out with the judges, one night each? 

    Mostly it’s through online voting. But the regional London contest was also judged by a panel of industry judges and the cheering of the bar audience.

    What do you charge for a night and has this changed since winning?

    I’m afraid I have to keep this information to myself. Suffice to say this, I haven’t changed my fees since the competition. They are mostly based on my self-worth.

    What’s the most bizarre request you’ve had with a client?

    I don’t classify anything as bizarre anymore. But I do get a lot of total domination requests: from trampling, scatting, pissing, humiliation, etc.

    Do you have age limits you wouldn’t escort for?

    Nothing beyond 100 years old.

    Do you have a boyfriend and does he ever get involved with the escorting?

    Yes, we often get duo requests and really enjoy working together.

    What’s been the most embarrassing experience you’ve ever had?

    As a professional escort, I don’t really get embarrassed by anything. Some situations might be more uncomfortable than others, but never embarrassing.

    Do you ever escort groups and if so what’s been the largest party?

    Yes, I do. The largest would’ve been around 10 people at the time, but with many coming and going.

    Have clients ever asked for gifts at the end of the evening? 

    I did leave a pair of my underwear behind once or twice.

    Have you ever escorted anyone famous and if so would you give us a sneaky hint? 

    One of my clients was a Hollywood producer of a very popular movie series.

    What was your first and last client and what did they make you do? 

    Maybe I am lucky, but both of them were very nice experiences, that I would’ve enjoyed it even if I wasn’t hired. The first one even became a good friend.

    How do you prepare between each client? 

    Depends on what the job requires. Sometimes I have to look immaculate, sometimes I need to be more “au natural”. Whatever the requirements, I always put my mojo on.

    Do you ever bottom for clients and if so how do you keep yourself clean?

    In my case, it’s very easy, as I am a total top.

    Have you ever turned up and refused a client on meeting them?

    It happens very rarely, but if a client doesn’t treat you with respect, they are not worth having an experience with you.

    You can see more of Adam at: twitter.com/AdamDacreXXX