Search results for: “ ”
-

The Trailer For Independence Day Resurgence Is HERE
The brand new Independence Day trailer is here and looks amazing.
-
5 Steps To Finding Your LGBT Identity
Being part of the LGBT family means that it is harder to find a role model to look up to: while there are more LGBT faces in the media then there where five to ten years ago 98% of what we see and hear about is straight people in straight relationships.
In our day to day life too: straight is usually the norm. If you come from a deeply religious family finding your true self is even more difficult.
So it is still up to the individual to develop their own unique personae and see how to fit your sexuality in your life.
Finding yourself can be difficult or easy: it depends on a persons own mental strength, how they are raised, their family situation and their support network.It can be a long journey that takes difficulty and courage, but most get there in the end.
The most important thing is finding people who are supportive of you whether in physical form or on the internet. The difference a friendly person in a chat-room or an understanding e-mail can make must not be underestimated.
The other important thing is inner strength: when faced with disapproval and homophobia from people around us.
5 tips to build your mental and emotional strength and identity in the LGBT world:
Affirmations:
Build your self esteem by positive affirmations. Search books an the internet for positive quotes, poems and songs about gay life and repeat these to yourself as often as you feel necessary. Memorise them if needed.
Tolerance:This one might seem odd: why would you tolerate those that do not tolerate you? Well, it just makes things easier. If you are forced to put up with people at work or intolerant neighbours there is merit in the old practise of “letting the idiot talk”. As long as someone is not harming you or have it in for you personally, let people spill their bile and ignore it. Often people are so fixed in their opinions that it is a waste of time to get upset about it or to try and change them. Smile, think of something else, pity the fool and then carry on with your day.
Read and watch:Seek out videos, books and articles of other people that describe their journey and follow the advise that speaks to you. Even if you do not care for any of the advise given, it is good to take comfort in the fact that there are others like you out there that took the same journey and made it.
Reach out:
As said earlier it is important to get to know other LGBT people be it in person or online. You don’t need to go to clubs or bars immediately, that can be scary. Try to find an LGBT support group, a book-club or even a fitness club. People often think they immediately have to go to clubs and sometimes this scares them: Clubs are fun, but not the only place to meet with other LGBT members.
Don’t expect too much:
People often think that once they set out on the scene and come out to their friends and family everything will be different, a new life starts and it will be wonderful. Sadly no, these sparkling coming out movies are just that: movies. It takes time to find your way in the scene, to meet someone and build a life. Also you will have to come out more then once: you will have to come out to every new person that becomes part of your life and you will continue to get into situations where you face prejudice and homophobia. If you accept these possibilities and try to make the most of the good things in life everything else will come easily.
by Dannii Cohen
Dannii Cohen is a psychologist, counsellor and author specialised in LGBT issues.
-
Vote For Adam Lambert Best Video / Single And Album
We’re asking fans of Adam Lambert to vote for his top single, album and video in the ultimate Adam Lambert music poll.
Vote for his best album
Vote for his best single
Adam Lambert’s best music videoThis article is not longer up-to-date
-
Robert Dyas Release Gay / Straight Advert And The Internet Reacts
So UK retailer Robert Dyas releases a somewhat confusing gay/straight video and now the internet has exploded with reaction, here’s some of the best…
It’s surely the best/worst marketing decision of 2015, but the people are talking about the new advert which shows that people of all sexualities can shop at RD, except Pansexuals, asexuals and polys…
It wasn’t but it now is…
Multi faith?
This seems to be a common question for people
It’s quite possible
This is what happens when you don’t use actors
Pick up a powertool at Robert Dyas
That’s so Robert Dyasist
Ooo err missus
Use what you have
Good old JL
See ban the pansexuals…
Bravo -
12 Times Adam Lambert Showed Guys Wearing Make Up Was Totally Hot
Normally guys don’t wear makeup which we think is a shame. If they do however, it’s usually subtle.
Team with the theme.
Adam Lambert, however, tears up the rule book about guys and blush. He puts the man in guyliner and he always looks 100.
Adam Lambert, we salute you.
Lips sweetie, lips.
The understated eye shadow is more than you can ever handle.
Feathers… love the feathers.
It’s all about the face, about the face
When in doubt wear eye liner
He can put it on like a pro
Dramatic eye? No problem
Mails… We mean nails…
Old man chic?
Natural look
Blue never looked so hot
-
Chris Crocker Slams Caitlyn Jenner’s Views
Internet star Chris Crocker has slammed Caitlyn Jenner for her “backward views”.
Taking to Twitter Internet star Chris Crocker put Caitlyn Jenner on blast, calling her out on her “backwards views” after she told Time Magazine:
“If You Look Like a Man in a Dress, It Makes People Uncomfortable”
Responding to her via Twitter he said,
“Who cares what makes others uncomfortable ? Not all Trans people have the finances or want to be CIS-normative”
Crocker, who became famous for his ‘leave Britney alone’ viral video went on to say,
“U would think someone who has been torn apart by conservatives- who’s a part of a family that makes people “uncomfortable” would be wiser
“In the beginning, I admired Caitlyn. I admired her bravery and was downright inspired. That…. was before I heard her backwards views”
-
11 Things That Failed To Happen When Gay People Were Finally Allowed To Marry
Same-sex couples have been able to marry in the UK for over a year and in the US it’s coming up to the 6-month anniversary.
We thought we’d take a look at what HASN’T happened since marriage between two people of the same gender got the right to be treated like everyone else. Despite the warnings from right wing, religious fundamentalists these are the things that have failed to happen.
1) The sanctity of straight marriage will crumble, wilt and die.
Except of course for divorce, which has always been a bit of blight on the ‘death-do-us-part’ bit of marriage
2) The floods…
Won’t somebody think of the floods and the pestilence, the fire and brimstone? Some UKIPPER, whose name I can’t remember, not really care to remember said that gay marriage would bring about lots and lots of rain, of a Noah and Ark amount. Okay, there has been a little more precipitation than usual scientists are putting that down to global warming rather than gay marriage, because you know, that’s actually what’s happening…
3) Children are still being born in and out of wedlock.
The world realised that you don’t need a man and a woman to marry in order to have kids. Children are still being born, they are still being educated, fed and loved by their parents. Bob and Fred getting hitched at the end of the road had no impact on parents being able to have children – and actually people understand that you don’t need to be married to make children – there isn’t a switch that is suddenly turned on when you say “I Do”.
4) Pastor Rich Scarbrough didn’t combust or set himself on fire.
Yep, this saint of a Christian man threatened to set himself on fire if marriage equality passed. We’ve been waiting patiently with a fire blanket in hand, but nothing. Not even a puff of smoke.
5) Parents will have no say in the sex ed that their kids are taught in school…
Well they do… and if you don’t want little Joanie to find out that actually what she’s feeling is totally normal, rather than her hiding away, feeling shame and alone – then perhaps you need to look at your parenting credentials.
6) Equal rights for gays, bis and lesbians
Even though we have marriage equality, we’re still not actually legally equal. Non-consummation doesn’t count (meaning basically that the law doesn’t recognise gay sex as equal to straight sex) for grounds for divorce and there are pension issues that you can read more about here.
7) Bakers will be forced to make gay cakes.
In the UK you can’t discriminate against people because of their sexuality or gender identity – but you can just refuse an order and not give a reason… So if you’re still a total f*ckwit bigot you still have your rights, you just have to be quiet about them, but actually when you do, it lets us all know to avoid you like the plague.
8) Churches will be forced to have gay marriages.
Nope. We’re still not allowed to get married in your sacred places. But we can come and be a guest and totally upstage your day with how fabulous we are. Especially if we start on the white wine before the first note of Here Comes The Bride starts.
9) Man will be able to marry his pets
Nope still not legal. And dear god Mary, why are you even thinking about animals marrying?
10) Straight marriage will carry less kudos.
People were concerned that gay marriage would cheapen the brand. Not like Britney’s 55-hour marriage.
11) The world’s end
Those fascinating people (read in a sarcastic tone) at the Westboro Baptist Church said that we’d all die and go to hell, but as I sit here – in Cashmere and I look out of the window, we’re still very much here.
-

New Gay Christmas Announced. Ab Fab Movie Has A Release Date
Jennifer Saunders has confirmed the news that the Ab Fab movie has a release date.Mark it in your diary – in fact book out the whole week – Jennifer Saunders has announced that The Ab Fab Movie is coming to the UK on the 1st July 2016.
As far as we know the story features a penniless Eddie and Pats settling in the South of France to try and relive the good old days of magazines, PR and chairs – lots of lovely chairs.
It also has around 100 drag queen in it. So natch we’re picking out our wardrobe as we speak. -
The Most Disturbing Use Of An Emoji Yet
This morning something quite brilliant and disturbing turned up in our inboxes…
GMFA the sexual health bods have released their new sexual health awareness campaign called More To Safer Sex which features seven brand new adverts which use stickmen and emojis to teach us all a lesson or two about safer sex.
Well we were down with that until we got to number 3… Which disturbed us a bit – (see above)
GMFA’s Liam Murphy said,
“We aren’t telling gay men not to use condoms, just that there’s more to consider when preventing HIV. The ‘More To Safer Sex’ webpage will provide education around HIV, help gay men to assess the riskiness of different sex acts, provide information about safer sex practices, PEP, PrEP and the impact of being undetectable on transmission risk, and let gay men know where to go to get tested.”
Anyways see what you think and enjoy…


