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  • ANSWERS | What Does The I In LGBTQI Stand For

    The LGBT initialism is ever growing as more and more letters are added.

    What Does The I In LGBTQI Stand For

    What does the I in the LGBTQI stand for? It stands for Intersex.

    Intersex stands for a sex variance between the binary of male and female, or Cisgender.

    Generally speaking, Cisgender people are those whose gender identity or expression conforms with their biological sex or birth sex.

    Historically there was no word ‘heterosexual’ before 1890 and it did not enter common use until the 1960s.

     

    The Oxford Dictionary of English determines the word Intersex to mean:

    the abnormal condition of being intermediate between male and female; hermaphroditism.

    • [ count noun ] an intersex individual; a hermaphrodite.

    NOTE: this has now been updated to:

    relating to or denoting a person or animal that has both male and female sex organs or other sexual characteristics: an intersex child | she identifies as intersex.

    the condition of having both male and female sex organs or other sexual characteristics: people born with intersex.[count noun] a person or animal having both male and female sex organs or other sexual characteristics: she is different to the other teenagers in one crucial way—she is an intersex.

    Old usage and out of date terminology.

    Hermaphrodite is generally considered a taboo word and shouldn’t be ascribed to someone unless they label themselves as such.

     

    Intersex and the trans community

    Trans Media Watch describes Intersex as an individual in whom genetic, hormonal and physical features that may be thought typical of both male and female co-exist.

    “individual in whom genetic, hormonal and physical features that may be thought typical of both male and female co-exist.

    “They may be thought of as being male with female features, female with male features, or may have no clearly defined sexual features.”

    Can you define this definition better? Use comments below to update.

     

  • OPINION | Do We Need To Redefine The Term Marriage To Accommodate Our “Monogaymy”?

    MONOGAMY VS. MONOGAYMY

    Monogamy is not a board game that you used to play at Christmas with the family. Monogamy is not a kind of wood. Monogamy is to practice being with one person only and having sex with that one person only. I know just a handful of gay couples that have a strictly monogamous relationship. Is it old-fashioned or unrealistic to believe you can find happiness in one person?

    The majority of gay couples I know enjoy three-way, utilise Grindr with separate profiles, and indulge in chem-sex parties. It just seems so empty to me. However, these couples are not constantly arguing, striving to be in a different room/postcode from one another- they are very happy. The setup obviously works for them. In fact, it works extremely well as these are the couples that have been together for the longest time, and I am talking up to 20 years.

    For me, an open relationship would not be an option. If a partner even suggested inviting someone else into the bedroom, I would walk away. In a relationship, I want to be my partner’s ultimate, the one and only. Not a supplement, or “just enough”. And I do not share (only child). But, I can’t help feel I am missing out on a big secret, or rather, not quite being able to grasp that the key to a successful long lasting relationship, maybe it being an open one.

    I am single, and for the first time properly in about 11 years. I’m loving it, but I know the novelty will wear off… Perhaps. With the last 3 years being absorbed by absolute time wasters, the next time around, I want to do it properly. Is it bad to say I’m only 28 but am TIRED of dating? I would like the next guy I am with to be the one I end up marrying. Please.

    A lot of these couples that I type of being in open relationships are in fact married / civil partners. If I didn’t understand being in an open relationship with your boyfriend then I certainly am unable to grasp the idea of carrying that through into a marriage. Isn’t the whole essence of marriage to declare your love and devotion to each other? And no one else?

    Perhaps the guidelines, vows etc. of marriage are archaic and out-dated. Marriage is, after all, an extremely traditional concept. Whilst the world, humans, technology, music etc. evolve and grow, what is to say that we cannot rewrite/adapt such things as marriage. Do we need to redefine marriage?

    Gay people have a stigma of being promiscuous with our evident open-relationships, and the club drug sex party scene… I don’t even have to explain, you know we do! With gay rights being pretty much everywhere recently in the news along with gay marriage in particular. Do you think perhaps that in some instances, it may not have been homophobia that sparked people to be against gay marriage, but more that how can we expect a global nod to gay marriage when it would appear to others that a lot of gay couples lack the understanding or are unwilling to abide by what “traditional” marriage stands for?

    Perhaps, we need to take a long hard look at traditional concepts and re-write them according to the times. Perhaps we should not. With ever-evolving guidelines, it would surely ensure abolishment of the idea of tradition altogether. If we redefine terms to match our current normality, then what was normal before this normal? Tradition cannot exist without its contradiction. The task to redefine marriage and monogamy could become complicated as each partnership is different and are likely to have their own mandate when it comes to man dates.

    We are spacious with our sexuality compared to the clearly set span of straight relationships/marriage. Someone said to me recently that straight couples fall casualty to break-ups due to the monogamous regime, and gay partnerships last longer due to the ménage a trois/quatre/cinq/six set up.

    Maybe I have fallen victim to our world encouraging us to put things into categorised boxes and in this instance, I am unable to place where I currently stand and where I want to stand on the idea of someone else being intimate with my partner. What are your views on the subject? Do we need to redefine the term marriage to accommodate our “monogaymy”?

     

     

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  • INTERVIEW | Maurice Vellekoop, Cockadoodle

    Maurice Vellekoop is a Canadian artist and illustrator who doesn’t shy away from the erotic or erogenous and for that we are thankful. His work can be seen in mainstream publications from The New Yorker to Wallpaper, but not necessarily the same subject matter.

    This month, Maurice brings his work to our shores, and his show: Cockadoodle: The Erogenous Art of Maurice Vellekoop can be seen as part of Manchester Pride Fringe festival at Twenty Twenty Two Gallery in Manchester from 15th August till 13th September, and then over to Liverpool as par tot the Homotopia Festival from 25th October till 20th November.

    Go see them while you can! The show, his first European solo exhibition brings together a wide selection of his erotic work alongside his editorial work.

    The Manchester show has some exciting activities running alongside, including the artist himself discussing his practice in: Got Lead – Drawing Sex, Arousal and Desire.

    I managed to get to quiz the great man recently, and ask some of the questions on my mind:

    CJ: So, tell me a little about how you started in this weird and wonderful world of illustration?
    MV: I began drawing at a very young age and was encouraged by my parents and talented older siblings, my sister Ingrid particularly. I idolised her and wanted to follow in her footsteps.

    CJ: How did you arrive at your current style?
    MV: In art school I experimented with a few styles, I had a very scratchy punk-inspired neo-expressionist phase for a while. My current style is simply the way I draw, kind of like handwriting.

    CJ: Do you see this style as evolving? How do you see new media encroaching on older techniques?
    MV: I still draw and paint on paper. I never saw the need to make the transition to computers. I can get all the effects I need the old-fashioned way…

    CJ: What’s your favourite media to use?
    MV: My favourite media are watercolour and gouache on paper. I love the chalky dry texture gouache alone produces.

    CJ: Do you have a favourite subject matter?
    MV: I love drawing people in all their multiplicitous eccentric variety – not for me landscapes or bucolic scenes.

    CJ: Who are your favourite clients and why?
    MV: My favourite clients these days are the ones who call! In the past I’ve enjoyed working for the New Yorker despite shockingly brief deadlines, American Vogue and Wallpaper. Fashion illustration is something I love to do but don’t receive many calls for anymore.

    CJ: How did Cockadoodle come about? Who instigated it?
    MV: It was the amazing Bren O’Callaghan who invited me to Manchester and arranged the venue, curated the selections for the show and has been a warm and generous host! Can’t say enough good things about the guy!

    CJ: What’s your favourite piece in the show?
    MV: Hmm, a favourite is hard, as there are so many different things in the exhibition. I do love “Somebody Always Dies at Christmas” a kind of fairy story scene. I feel like I created a , atmospheric, fantastical scene that would have impressed the childhood me.

    CJ: Do you get involve in many Pride events?
    MV: My bf and I have been running through the Toronto Pride parade in silly outfits for 12 years now. A highlight was the Hitchcock’s “The Birds” year, we dressed as 1960’s children and had mechanical birds attached all over our bodies!

    CJ: And finally, whats next for you?
    MV: What’s next is a graphic memoir titled “I’m So Glad We Had This Time Time Together”, to be published in 2016 by Pantheron/Random House. Wish me luck – it’s long!!

    His site is here:

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    Pride Fringe:
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  • So Why Are So Many Gay Men Opposed To PrEP?

    So why are so many gay men adamantly opposed to PrEP, the daily dose of the anti-retroviral drug Truvada, which is at least 90% effective at protecting against HIV? Indeed, according to a recent iPrEx open-label extension (iPrEx OLE), to date the largest demonstration project of HIV Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis, daily taking of Truvada could be as much as 99% effective.

    This is a question I’ve been asking myself quite a lot recently, especially after reading some negative articles in the press and one, by Joshua Vaughan here in TheGayUK a couple of weeks ago, which was actually inaccurate on several points.

    About nine months ago, the GUM clinic I regularly attend (the Working Men’s Project at St Mary’s in Paddington) offered me the chance to be part of the PROUD study, which examines the impact on gay men of using Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis (PrEP), and I jumped at the chance, not only because I wanted to do my bit for the community, but because it offered me an extra level of protection against HIV, regardless of whether I was using condoms or not.

    First of all let me tackle some of the issues and downright inaccuracies in Vaughan’s article. Rather than rely on hearsay and prejudice, I spoke to Professor Sheena McCormack, the lead doctor for the PROUD study, who is also Consultant Physician at 56 Dean Street.
    It states that there has been a significant drop in HIV transmission rates between 2001 and 2012, but though this is true globally, there has been no drop in the rates amongst gay men, and there is evidence to suggest that, on the contrary, they are rising. This may have something to do with an increase in the number of gay men presenting themselves for testing, but it is worrying none the less. Vaughan also enumerates at length the terrible side effects which can accompany the taking of Truvada, but fails to mention that those that suffer these side effects constitute only a small proportion of those taking the drug. A recent large study of over 4000 HIV negative men and women in Kenya and Uganda, found that there were very few significant differences when compared to placebo, and only a minority (less than 10%) of HIV positive people taking it in combination with a third drug discontinue because of side effects due to Truvada. Anyone taking Truvada for PrEP who suffers side effects can simply stop taking it, but so far, according to Professor McCormack, only one person has stopped because of problems with the medication.
    Vaughan states “The WHO believe that medicating ALL homosexual men will provide an additional method of preventing infection. Along with condom use and regular testing. But activists have suggested that introducing government mandated antiretroviral would discourage the use of condoms, currently the best method to prevent the transmission of sexually transmitted infections. Resulting in an increase of other sexually transmitted infections such as gonorrhea, chlamydia and hepatitis in the gay community.” First of all, the WHO is not saying that all gay men should be given PrEP, but that they should be offered it, which is slightly different. Nor has any of the data surrounding possible increases in other sexually transmitted diseases been analysed yet, though the Partners PrEP study suggested no significant change in behaviour.
    Regarding the cost, I have no idea from where Vaughan plucks his figure of £10,000 per person per year, but Professor McCormack assures me this is far beyond the mark. Though it would be difficult to put an exact figure on it, because of the National Health’s buying power and their ability to get large discounts, the figure is more likely to be in the range of £5,000. Already it is being offered in the private sector for around £500 per month. He says this is a lot of money to spend on a preventable disease, but that is exactly what the medication is for, and, with a 90% (and possibly even a 99%) success rate, it actually makes it more successful than condoms.
    To quote from a United States C.D.C. study of 2013, “We are also unclear about to what extent condoms actually prevent HIV transmission in anal sex. This last fact may seem surprising, given that condoms have been recommended since the mid-1980s as the only effective HIV prevention method for gay men who have anal sex. In fact, there is only one large study in gay men, dating from 1989. In this study of 2914 gay men, HIV incidence among those who said they used condoms 100% of the time was 70% lower than in men who did not use them at all. There has been one small study in the era of antiretroviral treatment (ART), which found an efficacy of approximately 75%.”
    Vaughan states that introducing the drugs could run the risk of the virus evolving immunity to the drug, but this is in fact only likely in cases where a participant is seroconverting when they start taking the medication. It can also be a problem for HIV positive people who have a gap in their treatment, this being a particular problem in parts of Africa where people have to travel miles to get their medication and end up missing doses.
    So, given so many positives, how can offering PrEP be a bad thing, and why is there so much resistance within the gay community? Professor McCormack is mystified. “This is a good thing,” she tells me, adding that most of her colleagues that work in Sub-Saharan Africa (who are friends and mainly female and straight!) queried why WHO did not specifically mention women in the recent consolidated guidance. And indeed we ought not to ignore the needs of other communities that have been shown to benefit from PrEP, including intravenous drug users, and heterosexual men and women.
    We can bang on as much as we like about better, more targeted sex education in schools, but there is little to suggest it would have a major impact on the epidemic. It has had little effect on unwanted pregnancies, even though no-one leaves school without knowing where to go for contraception. It may be that the UK’s problems come down to an age-old embarrassment about talking about sex. In countries like the Netherlands and Scandinavia, where they have traditionally been more open and matter of fact about sex, teenage pregnancies and STD infection rates amongst young people are far lower. The problem could be more cultural than anything else.
    Coincidentally, I think that most of the resistance to PrEP boils down to shame about admitting to enjoying condom free sex. In the study on condom use cited above that figure of 70% was amongst gay men who said they used condoms 100% of the time. My italics. How many of those were actually lying, or conveniently forgetting that time when the condom broke, or they indulged in dipping, or actually didn’t use a condom at all because they were drunk or high?

    Gay sex itself has been about shame for a long time. It wasn’t that long ago that it became decriminalised here and in most Western countries, and in many countries around the world it is still against the law. After it was decriminalised, there was a brief period when gay sex was fun and the only risk it carried was the possibility of picking up an easily treatable STD. Then in the 1980s it became shameful again as we discovered it was one of the transmission routes for a deadly disease.

    Many people died because of it, and it took a lot of time, and a lot of campaigning, for gay men to take on the safer sex message. Before that time condoms were for preventing babies tout court. No gay man would ever consider using one, but, as our brothers started to die around us, we realised it was either put a rubber on it or become another statistic. Gay sex was shameful again. The advice was cut down on partners, use condoms or die. I remember for a few years I pretty much gave up sex altogether, with or without condoms.
    Then the new combination treatments came along and people began to survive, though many of those first drugs had some pretty terrible side effects. But the advances in the last 10 years or so have been immeasurable. People don’t die anymore. Nor do the new treatments have such terrible consequences. People with HIV can now live a normal life. What’s more, whereas once it was deemed better to hold off treatment as long as possible, because of the toxicity of the drugs, now it is better to get people onto therapy as soon as possible as the therapy quickly brings down their viral load to undetectable, which means they cannot pass on the virus.

    It is of course quite possible that the fact that we are no longer seeing people suffering or dying around us had made us complacent, and this could be the reason we are seeing higher rates of HIV incidence amongst gay men. I’ll admit it; I was taking the odd risk that I wouldn’t have taken even 5 years ago. It may have been a calculated risk, but it was a risk nonetheless.

    Why take the risk at all, you might ask. Well, because I don’t like condoms. For years I have been having sex and not really enjoying it because I have had to use a condom. But even on those occasions, I took a calculated risk, enjoyment was difficult because there was always a doubt at the back of my mind. We may have discussed it, but how sure were we? Could I, or the person I was with, actually unknowingly have the virus and pass it on? We may have both tested negative recently, but how sure were we? And so on.

    Two years ago I wrote an article condemning the indiscriminate practice of barebacking, but the landscape has changed completely since then. There is still much in that article I agree with, and I have not ditched the condoms altogether. I rarely f**k or get f**ked at a sex club, but if I did I would still use a condom. Though, pre-AIDS, I would never have dreamed of using condoms, I would only now go bareback with someone I had a more intimate relationship with. What PrEP does is it removes that lingering anxiety, and how liberating that is.
    I’ll give you an example. A couple of days ago I had sex with a guy I have known now for about a year, a f**k buddy rather than a relationship if you want to put a label on it (I don’t). We have always used condoms before, even though we are both sure we are negative. On this occasion we didn’t, and the knowledge that I am on PrEP allowed us to have the kind of joyful, unbridled pleasure in each other that we had both forgotten existed, in the sure knowledge that neither of us could give each other HIV.That is a liberating experience, yet the moral police out there, would prefer that we didn’t have it. After all, gay sex is shameful, isn’t it? And condom free gay sex is even more shameful.

    I am convinced that many of those that are condemning the introduction of PrEP are also under the misapprehension that those gay men testing positive are just the dirty gay guys, the ones who go to weekend sex parties and take lots of drugs, and no doubt there is an undercurrent of feeling that they deserve it. (I don’t agree, by the way). Indeed only recently, former gay soldier James Wharton (one of the good gays) recommended closing down gay saunas, with the outrageous claim that they were standing in the way of equality and were breeding grounds for drugs and HIV. Good gay guys subscribe to the hetero-norm, they meet the man of their dreams and settle down in a monogamous relationship. But it would seem that many of these good gays, the ones with boyfriends, the ones who think they are in monogamous relationships, are still testing positive. Maybe some of these good gays are not as good as they like to think they are; maybe we should all stop being so damn judgemental; and maybe we should just welcome the advances in medical science that have brought us PrEP.

    There can be little doubt that much of the debate surrounding PrEP has been couched in moral terms. Only recently Michael Weinstein, the CEO and President of the AIDS Healthcare Foundation poured considerable funds into fighting its approval and went as far as calling Truvada a “party drug”, an outrageous comment on a drug that can help prevent transmission of the virus to a wide range of people, including gay men, sex workers and HIV-negative individuals in relationships with people living with HIV. A petition has been started to have him removed from office for trying to block one of the most revolutionary developments in the history of the AIDS epidemic. To quote Eric Paul Leue, Mr Los Angeles Leather 2014, who started the petition,

    “This petition is about whether we, the people, should be allowed access to accurate information, free of stigma and discrimination. Since 1980, HIV and its prevention has been framed in moral terms, and the people carrying the virus blamed. The head of our largest AIDS service organization should know that HIV prevention is not “a party.””

    PrEP is not widely available in the UK yet, but the PROUD study, of which I am a part, could result in it being offered to gay men more widely; offered to them, not forced on them. Isn’t it always better to have choices? If I am offered the chance of an extra level of protection against HIV, why should I be judged for accepting it? My body, my choice.
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  • Helen Crowned Queen Of Big Brother

    HELEN IS CROWNED THE WINNER OF BIG BROTHER 2014, ASHLEIGH AND CHRISTOPHER ARE RUNNER UP AND 3RD PLACE.

    Emma asked Christopher how he found his experience in the house: ‘I found it a really tense house, we were always on tenterhooks…a lot of feisty big characters in there…lots of very full on strong minded people’. On standing up for himself in the house: “One thing I can do is listen, I would sit back and think a bit more before I’d storm in”. On Mark, Christopher said: ‘He is amazing, one of a kind, it is what it is with Mark, I’d rather has him as a mate…if we continue to fight all the time, he’s still awesome, I’ll see him afterwards, maybe’. On changing his personality towards the end, he said: ‘It wasn’t a conscious decision to say I’m going to start arguing all the time…maybe I thought I’m going to stick up for myself…I wanted top be more upfront with my housemates’.

    Emma asked Ashleigh how she was feeling: “The happiest you’ve seen me all series”. On Helen: ‘She’s turned such a leaf over the last ten weeks…I’m so proud of her…Our differences where so big…we clashed straight away…I do think we have so many similarities too…Now , I’m over the moon for her, I’m really glad we sorted everything out over the last few days.’ When asked if Ashleigh thought she got away with murder in the house: ‘No not really!’ On Chris, Ashleigh said: “I’m so glad he was there right up until the last second…always bringing me back down to earth….he kept me in shape”.

    Helen left the house, the winner of Big Brother 2014! Emma started the interview by asking Helen how she felt about winning and Helen said: ‘It’s a lie!’ Helen went on to say that she was shocked and that she thought Ashleigh was the winner. Emma then asked her if she hadn’t had the pass to the final did she think she would be sat here and Helen replied: ‘No, I think I would have gone in the first or second week.’ Emma called Helen one of the most controversial, explosive Housemates Big Brother has had. Helen then watched a VT of her arguments with other Housemates and she admitted that she was over the top and out of order on many occasions but did say she was reacting to other Housemates’ remarks but was quite embarrassed.

    Emma said that Helen seemed to calm down in the middle of the series and Helen said: ‘I had to change.’ Helen added that she tried to make friends in the house with ‘certain people’ but they made it impossible. Emma asked Helen how she was going to change and Helen admitted: ‘I can’t speak to people like that.’ Helen added that she needs to learn to bite her tongue and that she can’t be as ‘crude’ as she has been.

    On her relationship with Ashleigh, Helen admitted they were both ‘strong characters.’ She was then asked about her relationship with Ash and although she admitted that he was ‘gorgeous’ she insisted they were just best friends.

    Join Emma on Monday for the live launch of Celebrity Big Brother 2014

  • Is Justin Bieber Eyeing Up A Calvin Klein Modelling Contract

    As the focus shifts from Bieber’s music to his bad boy antics is the singer eyeing up a modelling contract with fashion giant Calvin Klein.

    Justin Bieber who has failed to achieve a number one single in the UK or US, and hasn’t released a new original studio album since 2012, hinted to his fan base earlier this year that he was considering a modelling career with US fashion giant Calvin Klein.

    So today he’s added fuel to those hints posting this picture of himself to his 19m followers on Instagram with the Calvin Klein label from his underwear clearly on show.

    Justin Bieber and Orlando Bloom made headlines last week when the two had a public brawl in a restaurant in Ibiza.

    Do you think Justin would be a good ambassador for the Calvin Klein brand?

  • FILM: A Man, His Lover and His Mother

    Lorenz Meran is a successful middle-aged gay writer who is struggling with writer’s block when he gets called back home after his elderly mother has a stroke.

    Rosie is a feisty old bird and unlike Lorenz and his perpetually unhappy sibling Sophie, she seems to be the one member of this family who likes to have some fun. A little too much now given the fragile state of her health but whatever happens, she is determined not to give up chain smoking or even admit to the fact that she is an alcoholic.

    The parental home is a small town in eastern Switzerland, a far cry from Lorenz’s hedonistic life in Berlin of one-night stands that he chronicles in his novels, but as his mother’s health declines he very reluctantly finds himself back in the house he never thought he would ever have to live in again. He does, however, have a diversion one night when he has an ‘encounter’ with Mario a grandson of his mother’s friend, but as he dresses and prepares to leave the next morning he discovers that the boy had actually been a big fan of his work for some time. So without discussing it at all, Lorenz panics and hastily dashes off telling a startled Mario that he would never have had sex with him if he had known he was just a groupie.

    The plot unravels slowly as the family are hesitantly drawn together by their mother’s decline, and Sophie has to finally deal with her own failing marriage, and both siblings make the startling discovery that it wasn’t in fact their mother who had been having ‘affairs’ when they were young as they had always suspected, but it had been their overbearing and distant father, now long dead. And all his lovers were in fact men.

    Jaded Lorenz’s humor never seems to lighten as he tries to deal with his impatient Literary Agent from afar, and with sullen Chantal a young neighbor of his mother’s who he suspects is supplying Rosie with alcohol. If that is not enough, at his mother’s insistence, Mario turns up to help doing oddjobs about the house.

    And then just when you are about to despair about this family, Rosie reluctantly but with her usual style, decides to make a go of living in the Seniors home that they forced her into, Sophie gets back with her estranged husband for another reconciliation, and Lorenz stops being angry and suspicious of the world just in time to realise that the long term love of his life that he has always wanted is actually there on his doorstep in the shape of Mario. And to top it all, his writer’s block disappears as he sets about writing his latest novel based on Rosie, and the ‘triangle’ he discovered when he explored his father’s past.

    The movie is the latest work of Swiss gay filmmaker Marcel Gisler (who like Lorenz was born in Altstätten and works in Berlin, however I could not establish if this is an autobiographical piece). Gisler’s movie output is infrequent at best… the last one was 14 years ago… his usual fare are more explicitly gay and complicated, and this one is definitely his most refined and subtlest. Lorenz’s long struggle for happiness is finally determined by resolving the questions that arise from the troubling nightmares he still has about his father, and from being able to accept and enjoy the love of his family simply for what it is.

    It all works… albeit a little drawn out… not just because of the script with its scattered passages of dark humour, but also because of the two excellent central performances. The veteran Swiss Actress Sibylle Brunner, in her first ever leading role, is rightly picking up awards for her devastatingly wonderful turn as Rosie, and Swiss actor Fabian Krüger is pitch perfect as the dour faced Lorenz who waits until the last reel to smile.

    This movie is being hailed in some quarters as New Swiss Cinema and worthy of a world audience. I’m not sure if I really knew much about ‘Old Swiss Cinema ‘to make any comment, other than to say it definitely is well-worth seeing.

    A Man, His Lover And His Mother is Available to buy on DVD from Amazon

  • Gay teen sensation Troye Sivan releases debut music video

    Troye, who has achieved over 91 million hits on YouTube has debuted his debut single, Happy Little Pill.

    The 19-year-old, XMen star, turned YouTuber, turned singer rose to fame in 2013 after he came out on YouTube. His coming out video has been played over 3 million times.

    Already a whirlwind force in the world of pop, Troye Sivan, the 19 year-old Australian YouTuber and singer-songwriter, is set to release his first single ‘Happy Little Pill’ through Polydor Records. The track is taken from his debut EP ‘TRXYE’.

    What do you think? Grower?

  • Man dies after vibrator gets stuck in his rectum for five days

    A man has died after a vibrator was stuck in his anus for five days, after being too embarrassed to seek advice from doctors.

    The fifty-year-old carer from Forest Hill, London, was rushed into hospital on New Year’s Eve after telling a friend that he had been ‘lying on the sofa for five days feeling dizzy and weak’, the Evening Standard reports.

    The man went into septic shock and was rushed into emergency surgery at Lewisham Hospital to remove the vibrator from his anus, Southwark Coroner’s Court heard on Tuesday. He died over a month later on 7th February.

    The autopsy revealed that the man died of multiple organ failure, sepsis (a condition that is triggered by an infection) and a punctured bowel.

    If sepsis is not treated quickly multiple organ failures may result.

    The coroner ruled that the man ‘died as a result of an accident.’

  • Section 28 supporter tops up Scotland’s YES VOTE campaign by £1 MILLION

    Sir Brian Souter, who famously supported keeping a section 28 clause installed in the Scottish legal system, has reportedly topped up the Yes Campaign with £1 Million.

    In 2000 when the Scottish Government were planning to repeal the Section 28 laws, which forbade the promotion of homosexuality to minors, by education staff, and local authorities, Souter became the leader of the Keep The Clause campaign. In Scotland, the clause was known as Clause 2A. A spokesperson at the time said that the transport tycoon was not undertaking the campaign for ‘personal glory’ but was fighting the ‘battle because he is a father and committed Christian’

    At the time gay rights campaigner Peter Tatchell stated that ‘Brian Souter’s support for Section 28 is the moral equivalent of the business-funded campaign to maintain racial segregation in the Deep South of the USA in the 1950s.’

    HeraldScotland.com is reporting that Souter has now donated £1m to the SNP, as a ‘gift’ for Yes vote’.

    A spokesperson for the SNP said, ‘It’s a fantastic sign of confidence that Brian and others the length and breadth of Scotland are stepping up to the plate to do what they can so that we have the resources to take on the Westminster establishment and win the Yes vote.’

    In Feb 2013, Souter talked about the issue of same-sex marriage on Question Time. In 2011 he was nominated as Bigot Of Year by Stonewall.

    The people of Scotland will vote on whether they stay part of the UK or leave on 18th September 2014.

  • Gay Icon And Screen Legend Lauren Bacall has died aged 89

    Lauren Bacall passed away today in New York at the age of 89, after a career that spanned seven decades.

    After the death of Robin Williams yesterday, another acting legend, Lauren Bacall has died. Known for her smoky voice and sultry looks, Lauren was one of the remaining stars of the golden age of Hollywood.

    She became a bit of a gay icon, winning legions of fans, with her films, How To Marry A Millionaire (opposite Marilyn Monroe and Betty Grable), Written On The Wind as Rock Hudson’s muse and the mother of Barbra Streisand’s character in the 1996 film, The Mirror Has Two Faces. That film earned the actress a Golden Globe Award and an Academy Award nomination.

    She also lent her reputation to High Point coffee in the late 70s and early 80s – which resulted in these ultra campy commercials.

    In pop cultural references, Bacall was also name checked in Madonna’s Vogue, which listed many Golden Age of Hollywood stars.

    She was known as deeply liberal and anti-Republican. In an interview with Larry King in 2005 she said, ‘being a liberal is the best thing on earth you can be. You are welcoming to everyone when you’re a liberal. You do not have a small mind.’

    She reportedly died after a major stroke in her New York home.