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  • What does it mean to be non-binary?

    What does it mean to be non-binary?

    So, what does Non-Binary mean?

    what does it mean to be non-binary?
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    So, you’ve probably heard the term “non-binary” before, right? It’s a way people describe their gender identity when they don’t feel like they fit neatly into the categories of “man” or “woman.” Basically, it’s like saying, “Hey, I’m not just one or the other.”

    Now, being non-binary can look different for everyone. Some folks might feel a mix of masculine and feminine, some might lean more towards one side, or some might feel like they’re outside of those labels altogether.

    It’s important to note that while non-binary is its own thing, it’s also an umbrella term. That means it covers a bunch of other gender identities too.

    And here’s a little nugget of knowledge: not all non-binary people see themselves as transgender. It’s like how all squares are rectangles, but not all rectangles are squares—kind of like that.

    Since everyone’s experience with being non-binary can be different, it’s always cool to ask someone what it means to them. It’s all about understanding and respecting each other’s identities, you know?

    So where did the term Non-Binary come from?

    Got it, let’s unpack that!

    Okay, so the term “non-binary” makes a lot of sense when you break it down. You’ve got “non-” meaning “not” or “lack of,” and then “binary,” which means “consisting of two.” Put them together, and you’ve got “not consisting of two.” Pretty straightforward, right? It’s like saying, “Hey, I’m not fitting into just two categories.”

    Now, there’s this cool alternative name, “enby,” which comes from how you say the abbreviation “NB.” See, “NB” stands for “non-binary,” and when you say it out loud, it sounds like “enby.” Neat, huh?

    Oh, but here’s a heads-up: it’s good practice to abbreviate “non-binary” as “NBi” instead of just “NB.” Why? Well, sometimes “NB” is used to mean “non-Black” when talking about non-Black people of colour. So, to avoid any confusion, adding that “i” can make a big difference.

    Is there a non-binary day or week or month?

    Did you know there’s a special day just for celebrating non-binary folks? It’s called International Non-Binary People’s Day, and it’s been happening every July 14th since 2012.

    Now, why July 14th? Well, it’s right smack dab in between International Women’s Day on March 8th and International Men’s Day on November 19th. So, it’s like a way of saying, “Hey, there’s more to gender than just ‘man’ and ‘woman’.”

    But wait, there’s more! The whole week surrounding July 14th is known as Non-Binary Awareness Week. During this time, it’s all about shining a spotlight on non-binary people and their communities, celebrating who they are, and spreading awareness. It’s like a big party, but also a chance for everyone to learn how to be better allies to non-binary folks. Cool, right?

    What’s the non-binary flag like?

    The non binary flag has four colours to it.

    Check out the non-binary flag—it’s pretty cool! It’s got four horizontal stripes, each with its own meaning.

    First up, there’s yellow at the top. That’s for folks whose gender exists completely outside of the traditional “man” or “woman” binary. It’s like saying, “Hey, I’m breaking free from those labels!”

    Next, we’ve got purple. This represents people who kinda relate to the binary but also feel like their gender is somewhere in between “man” and “woman,” or maybe even a mix of both. It’s all about that beautiful spectrum!

    Then there’s white. That’s for folks who are multigender, meaning they identify with many or even all genders. It’s like embracing the diversity of who they are.

    And last but not least, there’s black. This is for people who are agender, meaning they don’t identify with any gender at all. It’s like saying, “Gender? Nah, not for me.”

    Pretty neat, right? It’s like a rainbow of identities all coming together on one flag.

    Find out how to be a great Non-Binary ally here.

  • Top 10 Fab Non-Binary Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Enby Pals

    Top 10 Fab Non-Binary Christmas Gift Ideas for Your Enby Pals

    Buckle up, fabulous folks! Brace yourselves for a dazzling guide to gift ideas for our incredible non-binary pals. Explore chic accessories and gender-neutral glam that will elevate your gifting game. This article is your passport to a world of stylish surprises—prepare for a ride filled with sass, style, and heaps of sparkle! 💫🎁

    Here are 10 Non-Binary Christmas gift ideas for gender non-conforming folk

    Coffee Table Books

    Kick off your gift-giving extravaganza with a coffee table book that’s a total game-changer. Our curated selection includes must-haves like “The Queer Bible,” “Queer X Design,” and “The Queen’s English.” These titles bring a uniquely queer perspective, perfect for your discerning non-binary, trans, or genderqueer loved ones. Explore THE PRIDE SHOP’s full LGBTQ+ book collection for more fabulous finds. 🌈📚

    Five-year journal

    As we evolve in understanding our identities, journaling becomes a valuable tool for self-reflection. Introducing the One Line A Day (five years) diary – a brilliant solution for the time-strapped adventurer. Capture your thoughts, track your journey, and celebrate every step. Diaries make thoughtful Christmas presents for our non-binary explorers. 📖🌟

    Drag Match

    Step into the dazzling world of Drag Match, a fabulously fierce card game that challenges you to pair up the queens and kings with their jaw-dropping out-of-drag looks. Featuring 50 cards capturing stunning before and after transformations, accompanied by insightful texts from Greg Bailey of Alright Darling. Unleash your memory prowess in this chic memory game or explore our other LGBTQ+ games and puzzles for a splendid gaming experience. 👑🃏✨

    Handmade cluster/charm non-binary earrings – perfect Non-Binary Christmas gift ideas

    Elevate your style with these exquisite handmade non-binary flag-inspired charm/cluster earrings, crafted with love in the UK. Adorned with silver-plated fish hook backs and paired with rubber stoppers, these earrings make a perfect non-binary gift or a delightful treat for yourself. Explore our range, also available in transgender, gender fluid, and rainbow colors. 🌈✨🎁

    Huge cracking hand fan

    Behold our BIG and BOLD Huge Non-Binary Pride Cracking Fan, a whopping 33cm x 66cm of fabulousness! Get ready to make a monumental statement and stay cool in the most eye-catching way possible. This fan’s impressive size and cracking mechanism are designed to demand attention, unfurling into a magnificent display of vibrant colors that proudly showcase the significance and beauty of the Non-Binary Pride flag. YASSSS QUEEN! 👑🌈😎

    Non-Binary AF mug

    Speak your truth with the Non-Binary AF Mug! This bold design lets everyone know that you’re non-binary AF, no more, no less. Sip your favorite beverage with pride and make a statement that reflects your authentic self. Cheers to embracing your identity in a straightforward and fabulous way! ☕🌈✨

    Pronoun Badge

    Put an end to misgendering with these they/them pronoun badges! The perfect stocking filler for your non-binary friends, these badges are a stylish and effective way to communicate pronouns. Show support for gender inclusivity and help create a world where everyone is recognized for who they are, these are a perfect Non-Binary Christmas gift ideas.

    A small accessory with a big impact! 🎁🌈💙

    Get some present inspiration with our Non-Binary Christmas gift ideas

    Ribbon Flower in a tin

    Introducing an exclusive gift idea from The Pride Shop: Forever flowers made from ribbon, presented in a tin box. Available in the progress flag, gender fluid, and genderqueer flags. Handmade with love, these everlasting blooms are a brilliant way to express, “I see you, I respect you, and I love you.” Give a gift that lasts as a beautiful symbol of affirmation and admiration. 🌈💐✨

    Non Binary Bracelets

    Wrap up the love with our Non-Binary bracelets, showcasing the non-binary flag! These make fantastic stocking fillers and offer a perfect way to show your non-binary friends and family that you care. Gift them a piece of affirmation and style, letting them carry the colors of their identity with pride. 🌈🎁💙

    Gift card are great Non-Binary Christmas gift ideas

    Stuck on what to gift? Why not go for a Pride Shop gift card and let your loved ones choose for themselves? With a variety of options, they’re sure to discover the perfect Christmas present ideas for non-binary people. We even offer physical cards for a touch of festive flair! 🌈🎁✨

    Want some ideas for Christmas gifts to buy for gay men Check out this article.

  • Demi Lovato is using She/Her pronouns again

    Demi Lovato is using She/Her pronouns again

    The singer, Demi Lovato has spoken about how she’s gone back to She/Her pronouns after a year of using the Non Binary terms, They/Them.

    Speaking to the Spout Podcast, she said,

    “I felt like, especially last year, my energy was balanced and my masculine and feminine energy so that when I was faced with the choice of walking into a bathroom and it said, women and men, I didn’t feel like there was a bathroom for me because I didn’t feel necessarily like a woman,”

    Lovato told host Tamara Dhia. “I didn’t feel like a man. I just felt like a human. And that’s what they/them is about. For me, it’s just about, like, feeling human at your core.”

    However, it appears Lovato has been “feeling more feminine” recently, hence the return of she/her pronouns. She/Her pronouns were added to her/their Instagram recently.

    She went on to say, “But I think what’s important is, like, nobody’s perfect. Everyone messes up pronouns at some point, and especially when people are learning, it’s just all about respect”

    Yes! It’s all about respect!

  • COLUMN | Why putting a pronoun in your signature isn’t always a good thing

    COLUMN | Why putting a pronoun in your signature isn’t always a good thing

    Should putting your pronoun in emails, zoom calls and texts become standard practice? It can be a brilliant way to show allyship, but it can be deeply scarring for those who are still figuring it out.

    I’m going back to school. Yep, I decided that I’m about to change the direction of my life and I’m retraining to become a therapist. It’s been a long time in the making. I used to volunteer for a well-known helpline and I’m always being told that I’m a good listener – heck, interviewing hundreds of people for this publication has really help hone my skills as a listener and good and inquisitive questioner.

    But as I readied myself for the classroom, albeit online for the first semester, I was forced to confront an issue that i wasn’t quite ready to confront.

    I‘ve spoken briefly before about my own gender identity and the trouble I’ve have it, and whilst I do identify as gay, I’m not entirely sure I identify as a man and whatever that means in today’s society. I’ve written before about how it just doesn’t feel right when someone refers to me that way, but weirdly I don’t mind the he/him/his pronouns, but wouldn’t necessarily attach them to myself. I’m definitely not a they, them their, perhaps more of a Ze/Zim/Zir. I just don’t know and that’s the issue.

    This week I received a message from the institute where I’m about to start my course telling all students that pronouns would now be a requirement on Zoom calls. I know that the policy was written without malice and was a well intended piece of inclusiveness, but there’s a couple of reasons why pronoun usage should be encouraged rather than required.

    I don’t mind admitting I’m already having anxiety pangs about starting a new course, but the idea of having to write a pronoun next to my name, felt like a chasm, that I’m just not ready or don’t know how to bridge just yet.

    I know there will be people who will roll their eyes and say, “get a grip man,” but honestly aren’t we striving for a future where we’re all accepted and included, no matter how we identify or don’t?

    I remember a conversation at that well-known helpline where a similar debate raged. Should we include our pronouns on emails and to callers. At the time, I didn’t really take that much notice, except being aware of a dark stirring of being uncomfortable about having to disclose something I haven’t come to terms with myself. A number of issues were raised by some in that meeting about pronouns, mainly that 1) if forced, or required that everyone disclose their identity it might force someone who hasn’t or isn’t quite ready to admit or confirm their identity to come out about it before they are ready. The second point was that if someone is forced to choose a pronoun before they are ready, the identity that they actually share maybe a lie – in order to fit in or because they fear judgement from others. Sitting with that lie next to their name would feel awful and deeply damaging.

    The more I thought about it the more I started to tailspin about the first day and about how uncomfortable it might be – not just for me, but someone else who’s really not ready to have the conversation about their identity, especially in front of a group of new people – and over a Zoom call.

    So should we use our pronouns wherever and whenever?

    Should putting our pronouns in emails, zoom calls and texts become standard practice?
    Gender is a spectrum and it’s not always easy to find the right words to describe it. Photo by Laker on Pexels.com

    I would say this. If you’re comfortable doing it, then do it, particularly if you fear that you might be misgendered. It’s really important that you do let people know how you want to be referred to as.

    But if there’s no fear that you will be misgendered, give a moment’s thought about why you’re doing it. It’s an awesome thing to do if your intension is to be an ally, but if it’s anything else, just stick with your name. When enforcing pronouns becomes a blanket policy – a requirement, it stops being a allyship move – and can actually cause more harm than good.

    Encourage pronoun usage, but don’t force it.

    Back in 2019, there was a backlash about pronoun usage being forced in the public sector, which turned out to be a hoax, none-the-less it did stoke tension against the trans and non binary community.

    It could also lead employers open to legal issues. Speaking to THEGAYUK back in 2019, Helen Hughes, legal director and employment law specialist at the law firm, Shakespeare Martineau spoke about the legal ramifications on employers asking their employees to state their gender publicly. Hughes told us,

    “Although this may be introduced with the best intentions – to address individuals with respect and courtesy in the way that they wish to be referred to – employers must be wary about requesting information from employees that could impact the way they are treated. Although they can’t force you to disclose this kind of information, you should feel comfortable sharing preferred pronouns if you feel it important to do so.

    “Forcing employees to reveal their pronoun preferences could leave employers open to discrimination claims, and employees feeling alienated.”

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    Luckily after speaking to the institute they reversed the policy and added that people were encouraged to share their pronouns.

  • When is International Non-Binary Day in 2021?

    When is International Non-Binary Day in 2021?

    International Non-Binary Day or #NonBinaryPeoplesDay as it became known in 2020, is an annual day to celebrate and bring visibility to people who are non-binary in the LGBT+ community. It is a relatively new awareness day in the LGBT+ calendar.

    In 2021 International Non-Binary Day takes place on Wednesday 14th July 2020 and is observed all over the world.

    When is Non Binary day in 2021
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    The International Non-Binary day was first celebrated in 2012, making it one of the newest LGBT+ celebration or memorial days in the LGBT+ diary. It takes place on this day because it is, precisely midpoint from International Women’s Day and International Men’s Day.

    What are the colours of the Non-Binary flag?

    The Non Binary flag consist of 4 colours in horizontal stripes. Yellow, White Purple and Black.

    Can you buy non-binary jewellery or gifts?

    Yes, there are many stores which have gifts which have the non-binary colours assigned to them. Check out the amazing non-binary gift and jewellery range from our partner site, The Pride Shop.

    To find out other days in the LGBT+ calendar click here.

  • Andrew Christian has released a gender-neutral “boy bra”

    Andrew Christian has released a gender-neutral “boy bra”

    If you’ve ever wanted to wear a bra… now’s your chance as underwear designer, Andrew Christian has released what he is describing as a “gender-neutral/non-binary boy bra”.

    The designer, who is famed for his sexy undies, popular with gay guys, is pushing out his design remit and is releasing a range of so-called “boy bras” which the company is calling gender-neutral.

    The first is a simple, black see-through mesh design.

    He added the picture on the official AC Instagram and it seems as though the boy bra is a hit with the brand’s fans.

    The picture was captioned,  

    “Introducing the #genderneutral & #nonbinary ??? ???! Let’s love! Not hate!”

    The bra, is apparently the least achievement in Andrew Christian’s “genderqueer couture”.

    https://www.andrewchristian.com/media/catalog/product/cache/1/image/9df78eab33525d08d6e5fb8d27136e95/9/1/91639_bra_jun_02.jpg

    While most people seemed to love the design, some couldn’t help question why it was called the “boy bra” if it was supposed to be non-binary/gender-neutral.

    The new bra is being retailed at £23.86 exc P&P and comes in two sizes, Small/Medium and Medium/Large.

  • When is International Non-Binary Day in 2020?

    When is International Non-Binary Day in 2020?

    gagnonm1993 / Pixabay

    International Non-Binary Day is an annual day to celebrate and bring visibility to people who are non-binary in the LGBT+ community. It is a relatively new awareness day in the LGBT+ calendar.

    In 2020 International Non-Binary Day takes place on the 14th July 2020 and is observed all over the world.

    The International Non-Binary day was first celebrated in 2012. It takes place on this day because it is, precisely midpoint from International Women’s Day and International Men’s Day.

    What are the colours of the Non-Binary flag?

    The Non Binary flag consist of 4 colours in horizontal stripes. Yellow, White Purple and Black.

    Can you buy non-binary jewellery or gifts?

    Yes, there are many stores which have gifts which have the non-binary colours assigned to them. Check out the amazing non-binary gift and jewellery range from our partner site, The Pride Shop.

    To find out other days in the LGBT+ calendar click here.

  • Boy George blasted by fans after says pronouns should be “left at the door”

    Boy George blasted by fans after says pronouns should be “left at the door”

    Boy George
    CREDIT: PR Provided

    The superstar, Boy George, has caused controversy with trans and non-binary advocates after suggesting that preferred pronouns should be left out of the conversation.

    Boy George has lit a match under the “preferred pronoun” conversation and is currently under fire for suggesting that pronouns should be “left at the door” to further compound the issue, he went on to call it a “modern form of attention seeking”

    Fans of the 80’s hitmaker told the star that he should “respect people’s preferred pronouns” while some called the singer “transphobic” for his comment.

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    In response to a question about not using someone’s preferred pronouns, Boy George replied, “Thanks for that but I have eyes and can mostly describe what I see!”

    Former Pink News journalist, Benjamin Butterworth responded, by tweeting, “Then we’ll stop calling you your attention-seeking identity “Boy George”, and use your real identity of George O’Dowd, convict who falsely imprisoned and beat a man with a metal chain.”

    Ego Boost?

    Others were quick to applaud the singer for his stance. One fan wrote, “Every venomous, deranged tweet I come across has a pronouned [sic] bio attached to it” while another added, “Pronouns are nothing more than ego boosters for people who use them”.

    One user said using, “compelled pronouns was ridiculous”

    Referred to me as Napolean

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    The singer then added that fans must refer to him as “Napoleon” before adding that he used the “ladies’ toilets throughout the 80s”.

    What are preferred pronouns?

    A preferred pronoun indicates which gender a person would like to be referred to, usually with a choice of male, female or non-binary pronouns.

    Masculine pronouns are, he his and him

    Feminine pronouns are she and her and hers

    Non-binary pronouns are: They, Them Theirs / Zim Ze and Zis / Mx / Thon /

  • SAM SMITH | Being called They “feels beautiful”

    SAM SMITH | Being called They “feels beautiful”

    Global star, Sam Smith has revealed that being referred to by gender netural terms such as “they, them and theirs” feels beautiful.

    CREDIT: kathclick / bigstock

    The “How Do You Sleep” singer, Sam Smith, has revealed on Twitter that being called “they” is much more preferable than being called “he”. The star, who came out as gay in 2014, wrote in a Tweet that being referred to in a gender-neutral – or non-binary way felt “beautiful”.

    The singer was replying to a Tweet from radio and A Gay And A Non Gay podcast presenter James Barr who referred to Sam as “they” in a tweet, saying, “just interviewed @samsmith and they sounded so happy and free and more themselves than ever. it’s made me feel like the world is a good place again”

    Sam replied, “You’re one of the first people to use these pronouns with me. Thank you. That feels really beautiful”.

    The 27-year-old star came out as non-binary earlier this year.

    According to the Sun, A “pal” who continuously misgendered the star in a statement said, “This is a decision Sam has thought long and hard about, including doing a lot of reading on up it.

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    “He knows that it will take some people longer than others to fully get it.

    “First the request is going out to mates and then it will be passed on to the music industry too. It’s an exciting and groundbreaking time for him.”

    Sam recently attended the GQ awards and wore a pair of heals to the event. Taking to Instagram, the singer wrote “Tonight I wore heels for the first time to an award show. I’ve just got home from a gorgeous evening and as I was walking to my front door I stopped and listened to my heels clonking against the floor. And I just thought ‘FUCK YES’!! There was a time where I thought I’d never ever ever be able to be myself like this in front of the industry or anyone. It feels so good and I just wanted to share that with you all, and share a picture of my GORJ Gucci heels. They’ll always be my virgin heels”

    https://www.instagram.com/p/B1981fggAal/

     

  • 6 totally easy ways you can be a great ally to the non-binary community

    6 totally easy ways you can be a great ally to the non-binary community

    Six ways we can all become a better ally to our gender non-conforming siblings.

    Not everything is binary… kerplode / Pixabay

    In 2018, I happened upon this Tweet during Trans Awareness week and it got me thinking…

    “Also on twitter, stop assuming people’s pronouns based on their profile pic and your binary stereotypes.

    “Read their profile. Check their pronouns. Don’t assume.

    “And while you’re there, put your own pronouns in your profile.

    “Normalise that shit ✨#TransAwarenessWeek

    — Thal (@thalestral) November 12, 2018

    Let me tell you about my own gender expression before we go on. I don’t think of myself as a “man” because I don’t really fit into what society expects of men. When I was a child all I wanted to do was be called a girl, wear high heels, my mum’s dresses and sing Petula Clark’s ‘Downtown’ on repeat.

    I was a Grade A queer/trans kid. As an adult I couldn’t admit that to anyone outside my immediate family. I was so shamed by this behaviour – and bullied mercilessly at school when I chose to wear the white, patterned “girls’” socks instead of the regulation grey socks for boys.

    Nowadays, I dress in typically masculine clothes, I have a boyfriend, I have short hair and people assume that I’m a man and a gay one at that. I respec the privileges that, for the most part, that assumed identity affords me. But, it never really feels right when someone refers to me in that way.

    That said, I don’t mind if people use the pronouns him/his or he when they refer to me.

    Although it does jar me if someone calls me a man.

    Weird? Right?

    I also don’t mind it if I’m referred to with female pronouns.

    I’m pretty relaxed about the pronouns that are used to describe me.

    But for some, words really matter. So here’s some advice to help us all become better allies to our non-binary, gender non-conforming siblings.

    Open your ears and mind

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    It seems that we’ve all got our lives set to transmit only. We need more receiving in our lives. So when someone is telling you something about them, listen.

    Leave your assumptions at the door

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    Someone once wisely told me, “Assumptions are the mother of all fuck-ups” – and they were completely right. How often have you assumed something about a situation only to find that nothing was as you imagined? Pretty often, right?

    Your assumptions are based on your own life experience. It doesn’t take into account other people’s experience. So leave your assumptions at the door and again, open your mind.

    Respect pronouns

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    If a person tells you what their preferred pronoun is, accept it don’t fight it. It’s what they’ve asked you to call them. The decision is effectively out of your hands. It’s the same as when someone tells you their name. You accept it and it becomes part of their identity. Well, pronouns are the same.

    Accept that there are lots of different pronouns

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    Some non-binary, gender fluid and gender non-conforming folks use a number of different pronouns. Some popular ones are: Zim/Zer and Ze, they/them and theirs or even thon, which was actually added to the dictionary in 1964. They as a singular pronoun has been used for centuries.It’s not particularly new, it’s not trend based, it’s just getting a lot of media attention at the moment.

    Stop normalising gender norms

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    Blue for boys, Pink for girls… gender stereotyping is all so the 1950s and really doesn’t work for today’s society. No one likes living in a predefined box and we don’t live in a black and white world. There’s a whole rainbow out there.

    Gender norms and stereotypes, when adhered to, just keeps society attached to a patriarchal system that’s almost impossible to climb and doesn’t work for all of us, particularly LGBT+ people. So lets bin it shall we?

    Write your own pronouns

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    Normalise the conversation surrounding pronouns. Write your preferred pronouns in your social media profiles. As @thalestral says on Twitter, “normalise that shit”.

  • This is how you can be a better non-binary ally

    This is how you can be a better non-binary ally

    Six ways we can all become a better ally to our gender non-conforming siblings.

    Not everything is binary… kerplode / Pixabay

    Last year I happened upon this Tweet during Trans Awareness week and it got me thinking…

    Also on twitter, stop assuming people’s pronouns based on their profile pic and your binary stereotypes.

    Read their profile. Check their pronouns. Don’t assume.

    And while you’re there, put your own pronouns in your profile.

    Normalise that shit ✨#TransAwarenessWeek

    — Thal (@thalestral) November 12, 2018

    Let me tell you about my own gender expression before we go on. I don’t think of myself as a “man” because I don’t really fit into what society expects of its men. When I was a child all I wanted to do was be called a girl, wear high heels, my mum’s dresses and sing Petula Clark’s ‘Downtown’ on repeat.

    I was a Grade A queer/trans kid. As an adult I couldn’t admit that to anyone outside my immediate family. I was so shamed by this behaviour – and bullied mercilessly at school when I chose to wear the white, patterned “girls’” socks instead of the regulation grey socks for boys.

    Nowadays, I dress in masculine clothes, I have a boyfriend, I have short hair and people assume that I’m a man and a gay one at that. I enjoy the privileges that, for the most part, that assumed identity affords me. But, it never really feels right when someone refers to me in that way.

    That said, I don’t mind if people use the pronouns him/his or he when they refer to me. Although it does jar me if someone calls me a man. Weird.

    I also don’t mind it if I’m referred to with female pronouns.

    I’m pretty relaxed about the pronouns that are used to describe me.

    But for some, words really matter. So here’s some advice to help us all become better allies to our non-binary, gender non-conforming siblings.

    Open your ears and mind

    via GIPHY

    It seems that we’ve all got our lives set to transmit only. We need more receiving in our lives. So when someone is telling you something about them, listen.

    Leave your assumptions at the door

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    Someone once wisely told me, “Assumptions are the mother of all fuck-ups” – and they were completely right. How often have you assumed something about a situation only to find that nothing was as you imagined? Pretty often, right?

    Your assumptions are based on your own life experience. It doesn’t take into account other people’s experience. So leave your assumptions at the door and again, open your mind.

    Respect pronouns

    rawpixel / Pixabay

    If a person tells you what their preferred pronoun is, accept it don’t fight it. It’s what they’ve asked you to call them. The decision is effectively out of your hands. It’s the same as when someone tells you their name. You accept it and it becomes part of their identity. Well, pronouns are the same.

    Accept that there are lots of different pronouns

    via GIPHY

    Some non-binary, gender fluid and gender non-conforming folks use a number of different pronouns. Some popular ones are: Zim/Zer and Ze, they/them and theirs or even thon, which was actually added to the dictionary in 1964. They as a singular pronoun has been used for centuries.It’s not particularly new, it’s not trend based, it’s just getting a lot of media attention at the moment.

    Stop normalising gender norms

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    Blue for boys, Pink for girls… gender stereotyping is all so the 1950s and really doesn’t work for today’s society. No one likes living in a predefined box and we don’t live in a black and white world. There’s a whole rainbow out there.

    Gender norms and stereotypes, when adhered to, just keeps society attached to a patriarchal system that’s almost impossible to climb and doesn’t work for all of us, particularly LGBT+ people. So lets bin it shall we?

    Write your own pronouns

    via GIPHY

    Normalise the conversation surrounding pronouns. Write your preferred pronouns in your social media profiles. As @thalestral says on Twitter, “normalise that shit”.