This legendary topsy-turvy type of titillation, in which both lucky lovers get a mouthful of man, can be a tad tricksy – especially if you’re not the same height – but it’s worth persevering with because mirror, mirror, on the wall, which position is the fairest of them all? Why, 69 every time, my dear: it’s the very definition of “mutually beneficial”.
Laying side by side can be more cosy than one gent clambering on top of the other, his crotch hovering over his partner’s face and dunking into his mouth like a Rich Tea Finger into a mug of char – although some find that kind of intensity to be precisely their cup of tea.
If you find giving oral a challenge, try sipping orange juice beforehand; it can help suppress the gag reflex. Resist adding vodka and turning it into a Harvey Wallbanger, though, however apt the name: alcohol dries and tightens the throat, which does not a brilliant blow job make.
If you’re looking to give the perfect blow job or become a master in good oral sex, then read on.
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Going down, blow job, giving head, oral sex, whatever you call it, it’s one of the pure joys of being gay/bi or just cock loving, let’s face it. Aside from bum fun, it’s one of the most gay-defining sex acts – putting another man’s penis in your mouth – it doesn’t get gayer than that!
But what constitutes a good blow job?
It’s not quite the advice that can be passed down from your father (but maybe from your Daddy) but most of us learn about blow jobs via porn and well, trial and error.
The problem with trial and error is that it often requires us to be confident to tell our partner what we’re feeling – and that can be harder than you might think, for fear of offending.
So when guys were recently asked on THEGAYUK community, what advice they’d give, guys did not hold back with their amazing little tidbits on giving love to the purple-headed love monster.
inspiration from Cocky Boys
Practice makes perfect
Practice on a banana. Use lots of saliva and use your lips. Enjoy it like you were sucking on a tall ice cream that’s melting quickly. VIA
Use tongue, not teeth
Move your head up and down even side to side if you please. This might seems like common sense but you’d be surprised. Don’t suck too hard.. one guy gave me head took the word “suck” way too literally. He literally sucked it like a breath mint that was suppose to melt away. It was awkward to be stuck in that position the entire time. Don’t do that. VIA
Put yourself in his shoes
Inspiration from BEL AMI
Imagine what feels good to you (if you’ve had head before at least) or when you’re jerking off… and do that to him… just go slow at first and get comfortable with it. You’ll soon learn what the other guy is liking and what he isn’t… Don’t forget to use your tongue. Lots! VIA
The eyes
lots of eye contact, if he’s into that. Most guys are. Whatever position you are in, see if you can look him in the eye has your have his cock head in your mouth. HOT AF. VIA
Don’t be extra
Don’t try and impress with your skills. Just do what comes naturally. VIA
Don’t always go for the deep throat
I’m not that huge a fan of deep throating. It’s not that comfortable for the receiver. especially if you can’t get the whole damn thing down your throat. It feels like it’s getting crushed and it kinda hurts. Plus I don’t know about anyone else, but the sound of a guy gagging makes me feel like I’m gonna gag. Really not sexy. VIA
inspiration from Lucas Entertainment
Enjoy every inch
Take time every cm / inch of that cock. Maybe trying something new with each section. Thin tonguing for the pee hole, lips for the tip, teeth (lightly) on the shaft, flat tongue action on his balls, a lapping motion on his groin. VIA
He’s the cure
He’s the cure…
Personally, it’s all about enthusiasm. You’ve got to act like you’ve been poisoned and the cure is in his cock. VIA
How risky are Blow Jobs?
Oral sex is a pretty low-risk activity when it comes to some STIs, such as HIV, but you can still catch a number of other infections from blow jobs. Speaking to us from the sexual health clinic, 56 Dean Street, Jake and Jenna told us, “Other nasties like Chlamydia and Gonorrhoea can be passed on by both receiver and giver, and might not even show symptoms, however, all these infections can be treated effectively if caught soon enough”.
So you can reduce your risk of catching these by using condoms, flavoured condoms are the best for oral sex and won’t leave a nasty chemical taste in your mouth.
We spoke to the team at The STI Clinic to get the facts on how hepatitis is contracted, treated and cured.
Hepatitis A is very rare in the UK – but hepatitis B and C are much more common. All strains of hepatitis are diseases that affect the liver – but they are very different viruses which means they all need to be treated differently.
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Both Hep B and C can remain outside the body for over 4 days, which makes them more contagious than a disease like HIV.
Hepatitis A is a liver infection that’s spread by a virus in faeces (poo). It’s rare in the UK but if you are likely to travel to countries where the disease is common you can get the hepatitis A vaccine to protect yourself against it.
Hepatitis A is spread mainly through contaminated food or poor handwashing, but also passes on easily through sex, including oral-anal sex (“rimming“) and giving oral sex after anal sex. Gay and bisexual men with multiple partners are particularly at risk.
Symptoms of hepatitis A can appear up to eight weeks after sex and include tiredness and nausea.
Hepatitis A is not usually life-threatening, and most people make a full recovery within a couple of months.
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You can avoid getting hepatitis A by:
washing hands after sex (ideally buttocks, groin and penis too)
changing condoms between anal and oral sex
using a barrier (such as a condom cut into a square) for rimming
using latex or non-latex gloves for fingering or fisting
not sharing sex toys
asking about the hepatitis A vaccine at a sexual health or GUM (genitourinary medicine) clinic
If you think you might have hepatitis A, or have any questions, visit a sexual health clinic or GP.
Hepatitis B
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Hepatitis B inflames the liver and makes it unable to function properly. It’s a virus that is passed through blood, semen and vaginal fluids, so can be passed on through sexual contact (including oral sex) or through coming into contact with infected blood. Gay and bisexual men are at risk of hepatitis B, but they can be protected by the hepatitis B vaccination, which is available from sexual health clinics, genitourinary medicine (GUM) clinics or from GPs.
Hepatitis B is easier to pass on than something like HIV because it can live outside the human body for about a week.
Symptoms
In the early stages of the virus, many people only experience mild flu-like symptoms or none at all. However, people who do experience symptoms in the acute phase might experience some of the following:
Nausea
Vomiting
Fever
Jaundice
Dark urine
Light Coloured stools
Testing and treatments
Hepatitis B can be detected from around 2 months after infection and can be picked up on a finger prick test.
If you test positive, antivirals are usually used to impact virus progression. A face-to-face follow up with a health professional is recommended to decide if further treatment is required.
Health consequences
Most people will make a full recovery after a Hepatitis B infection. Around 90% of people will completely clear the virus, having no lasting problems – a process that usually takes 3-6 months. Once the person has cleared the infection, they will be immune to future Hepatitis B infections.
Around 10% of people will have the virus long-term, known as having chronic hepatitis B. Some patients in this category will remain well but will still be infectious (carriers).
Unfortunately, it’s impossible to predict how Hepatitis B will progress in a person, so anyone who tests positive for the virus should have their recovery monitored with regular check-ups.
Hepatitis C is a blood-borne virus that also affects the liver. It causes inflammation that prevents the liver from functioning properly, but it is a different virus to Hepatitis B. There are six different types of Hepatitis C that all require a different treatment approach.
Hepatitis C is most commonly contracted through injecting drug users sharing needles. There is also a small risk of infection through sexual activity.
Around 7% of HIV infected men who have sex with men have had a Hepatitis C co-infection diagnosed. There is a small risk of contracting Hepatitis C through sharing notes if you are an inhaling user of drugs such as cocaine, and there is a small risk of sharing utensils that may contain traces of blood such as razors or toothbrushes, as the virus can survive for around four days outside the body.
Most people will have no symptoms, or symptoms so mild that they are not detected. However this doesn’t mean that they are not infectious – they can still pass on the virus.
Symptoms that could be present in the chronic phase include:
Nausea
Lack of appetite
Fatigue
Muscle and joint aches
Concentration and memory impairment
Around 20% of people with Hepatitis C will clear the infection within six months, but 80% will go on to develop chronic Hepatitis C. About 30% of people with chronic Hepatitis C can develop cirrhosis of the liver over a long period of time, and a small number of infected people will develop liver cancer.
The Test
Hepatitis C can also be detected from a finger prick test, where Hepatitis C antibodies are detected. Further tests are then required to determine if the virus is still active, and which particular genome type it is.
Hep C can be detected from as early as 9 days post-exposure and can take up to 180 days for the antibodies to appear, so you might need to be retested a few times. In most cases, they can be detected between 45 and 65 days.
Treatment
There have been significant developments with Hepatitis C treatments, but the type of treatment depends on the strain of Hepatitis C you have. If you are tested positive you will be referred to a specialist to discuss possible treatments.
So, you’ve reached second base! Lucky you. You’ve reached that much anticipated first kiss with that hottie from across the bar. You are thinking this is a good, SAFE start to intimacy and it’s certainly not as bad as having oral sex or sexual intercourse with essentially a stranger, right? I hate to break it to you but, while it is very rare, it is possible to contract an STI simply from kissing.
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Fortunately, Dr Preethi Daniel from London Doctors Clinic is here to break down everything you need to know about oral STIs.
Oral STIs are most commonly shared through oral sex, and unprotected stimulation of the genitals or anus using the tongue or lips. This is because coming into contact with bodily fluids carries a significant risk of spreading STIs. However, a recent study, published in the British Journal of Medicine Sexually Transmitted Diseases, has found that kissing and specifically ‘deep kissing’ could also be to blame for the spread of STIs. The most common STIs which could be spread in this way include herpes, gonorrhoea, hepatitis B, syphilis, chlamydia, other hepatitis, warts and even HIV can be transmitted by kissing.
While it is not very common to contract an STI from a kiss, your likelihood increases if you have cuts or sores in and around your mouth. Symptoms can vary from person to person and what the condition is. If you experience itching, rashes or sores in/around your mouth, this will require medical attention, similarly, a vague sore throat after contact with multiple partners could also be indicative of an STI. Here are the most common oral STIs and their symptoms:
Many people will not experience any symptoms of oral chlamydia, however for those that do they may experience painless sores, lesions that are similar to cold sores, tonsillitis or redness with white spots. A less conspicuous symptom is a scratchy, dry throat.
Gonorrhoea:
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Much like with Chlamydia, many people who have oral gonorrhoea do not exhibit any symptoms, however if they are present you may experience a sore throat, a fever, redness or swollen lymph nodes in the neck
The symptoms of syphilis occur in stages which become progressively worse as they progress. The initial symptoms include painless sores or raised lesions which may appear grey or white.
The most common symptoms of oral herpes are cold sores which may occur on the lips, gums, tongue, inside of the cheeks, throat and roof of the mouth. These may also extend to the chin or neck. Some people may also experience swollen and bleeding gums or swollen lymph nodes.
HIV does not usually have symptoms in the early stages. Rarely, those with HIV in the mouth may experience a dry mouth, tooth decay, gum disease, cold sores or oral warts.
How can you get diagnosed?
If you experience any of the above symptoms you should visit your GP. Many clinics offer same day throat swabs which can check for the signs of gonorrhoea and chlamydia. Any sores or lesions will need closer inspection and discussion with your GP, risk factors and symptoms must be assessed before testing is conducted. As with anything the sooner you are tested the easier it is to treat, so visit your GP as soon as you notice any unusual or uncomfortable symptoms.
What are the treatment options?
Treatment options depend on what STI has been contracted. Some infections, such as chlamydia, gonorrhoea and syphilis can be treated effectively with antibiotics. Viruses, such as herpes cannot be cured but the symptoms can be easily managed with medication. If you have developed warts, they will need to be treated with cryotherapy to completely eradicate the warts. Hepatitis and HIV have no cures and will require specialist management which your doctor will need to advise upon.
Dr Preethi Daniel is the Clinical Director at the, private GP, London Doctors Clinic
Condoms are a great way to enjoy safer sex – but are flavoured condoms any less safe?
Flavoured condoms have been around for decades, in fact ever since johnnies started to be made from latex, manufacturers started to get inventive. Most major condom manufacturers now create flavoured ones and some are getting creative with flavours – last year we were introduced to the gin and tonic flavoured condom. But you’re more likely to come across more simplistic fruit-based flavours. Skins condoms, for instance, have a multipack that has mint, bubblegum, banana and strawberry.
Condoms still remain one of the safest ways to protect yourself from sexually transmitted infections – which you can still get from oral sex – which is why flavoured condoms are a thing. Have you ever tried tasting a non-flavoured one? Take it from me, it’s disgusting and tastes very chemical.
BJs are low-risk, but not risk-free
Sexual health specialists, Jake Jenkins from the 56 Dean Street sexual health clinic told us, “Oral sex is considered a low-risk activity for catching HIV, especially if you’re on the receiving end of the BJ.
“However it’s not just HIV that you have to consider here. Other nasties like Chlamydia and Gonorrhoea can be passed on by both receiver and giver, and might not even show symptoms, however, all these infections can be treated effectively if caught soon enough”.
There are two main types of herpes, HSV1 and HSV2. HSV stands for Herpes Simplex Virus. HSV1 tends to affect the mouth. HSV2 tends to affect the anus or vagina, both, however, are transmitted by direct touch contact.
So yes, you can get herpes (on your genitals) from someone who has a cold sore.
Putting a protective barrier over the penis will provide protection.
Even so, you want to make sure that the condoms you use are in date and carry the British and European safety standard marks. The CE and Kite marks demonstrate that the condoms are safe to use, it is authorised by the British Standards Institution it also means it meets the requirements of the Medical Device Directive.
Make sure they are also in date and that the packaging looks intact and untampered with. Each pack should have a best before date.
To swallow or not to swallow that is the question.
Some guys are totally into the guzzling (we see you) but some guys just aren’t into it, and if you’re not that’s cool too. After all, it’s your body, and you’re in charge of what is going in and out of it.
So what exactly is in cum? Well apart from your little swimmers, semen is made up of fructose, which makes up about 70 per cent of the liquid. Then there’s the prostatic secretion, which is the whitish/clear liquid. That contains, enzymes, citric acid, acid phosphatase and lipids. Per 100 MLS – it has about 28 mg of calcium, 5 mg of protein and 300 mg of sodium!
So here are four totally legitimate reasons for not wanting to swallow.
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I Just Don’t Want To
Not wanting to is probably the most important one. It’s your body, your choice and if you’re not feeling the man mayo, then that’s your call. So don’t be afraid to say to your partner, “no cumming in my mouth”. Make it clear that when he’s ready to blow his load to tell you.
You Just Brushed Your Teeth
When you brush your teeth, you can cause little ruptures in the skin or cause gum bleeding, especially true if you also floss. Getting semen into open wounds could potentially, although the risk is lower than anal sex, mean that you open yourself up to infection if the guy you’re with has an STI. GMFA suggests, that it is possible to get HIV from sucking dick, “but the likelihood of this occurring is low. No one knows exactly how risky sucking cock is, partly because most men who suck cock will also fuck or get fucked as well and it is impossible to know which sexual act is responsible for the transmission of HIV. Very few men whose only reported risk is from oral sex have caught HIV, which leads us to believe that the risk is relatively low”.
You’re Actually Semen Intolerant
Yep, there are people in this world who have an intolerance of the boy juice. It is a rare condition, but it does exist. Symptoms can include swelling, trouble breathing or anaphylaxis.
It can take up to 30 minutes for symptoms to start to take effect.
You Don’t Like The Taste
Nobody is saying that you have to eat cum if you don’t like the taste. No one would force you to eat something that actually makes you want to heave – well except Brussell Sprouts at the dinner table when you were a kid. So, if you don’t like the taste don’t feel you have to. You’re not going to offend – after all you’re giving him a damn BJ!.
A reader asks, having never had sex with a man before, how does he do it?
Dear TGUK,
I’m a 57-year-old guy, how do I have sex with a guy for first time?
(Name withheld)
Here’s what we think:
Daniel Browne Warwickshire Pride Founder
There are many ways of having sex, but it’s not for me to tell you how you should be doing it.
Ultimately it’s your journey. It’s personal and unique to you, so in time you’ll discover what you like and what you don’t. What I will say is that it’s important you feel comfortable and relaxed about what you are doing. It’s common for people to put pressure on themselves when it comes to sex, and that pressure is often heightened when doing something for the first time.
Whether it’s performance anxiety or worrying about getting it right, pressure can mount and that never really helps the situation.
My advice is to do what comes naturally to you and take your time. Be sure about what you are doing, and enjoy it. And remember that there is no right or wrong way to have sex, other than perhaps playing safe.
Jake HookEditor THEGAYUK.com
It might be worth to make a list of things you actually want to do, what you think you’d be comfortable with and what you’re not comfortable with. There are loads of different types of sex from mutual masturbation to anal sex to fisting.
Making that list will help you set some boundaries. Once you know where those boundaries lie, you can set about finding someone whose ideas on sex fit with yours. It’s relatively easy to find out what potential partners are into, especially on dating apps and hook up sites. The simple question, “what are you into?” will yield loads of info and you can work out whether you’ll be comfortable with that person.
If you’re not very experienced, never underestimate the power of communication. Let your partner know that you’re a newbie, maybe make it a part of the experience – and have a talk about the sex you’re going to have. It could turn out to be quite the turn on.
As always, whatever you end up doing, make sure you’re safe, use condoms and if you’re having anal sex, make sure you use lots of lube.
Well, this was the subject recently discussed in this Reddit forum… A bunch of non-gay guys had a discussion on whether they had ever tasted their own spaff.
Surprisingly, or maybe not, most of them got off on it!
1) I don’t mind if we snowball or I eat out her creampie but I don’t swallow cum just for the sake of it. Different strokes for different folks. Via
2) When my SO gave me a blow job she would clean off my cock with her mouth and then deep kiss me. So yeah, I’ve tasted and swallowed my sperm. I did the same for her when I’d eat her pussy. I thought it was hot as hell too. Via
3) I f*cking love it, but I’m bisexual so there’s that. Nothing is hotter than swapping my cum with my girl after I came in her mouth Via
4) I’m kinda late to the thread but I thought I would contribute. I pretty much swallow my cum every time I masturbate unless I’m in the shower. At first it was just out of curiosity but then it just became convenient. I just cum into the hand I’m not using or I cum directly into my mouth by putting my legs over my head. Via
5) I usually don‘t swallow it. But I don‘t have a problem doing it, interestingly it‘s mostly tasteless anyway. Via
6) I’ve only come out of lurking a couple times, and it was to ask virtually this same question. Personally, I eat my cum in most sexual encounters, solo or with my wife. When masturbating I feel like I’m wasting it if I don’t eat it. There isn’t any sexual gratification in it. With my wife it’s a different story. Eating my cum out of her is one of my favorite things. Snowballing is another fun trick. She hasn’t gotten comfortable enough to let me eat it after anal, but when the day comes… I get seriously turned on just thinking about it. Incidentally, this is why I dislike handjobs, you almost always lose all of it – I’m not about to lick it off the sheets! That said, I think it’s common for guys to have tried their cum, somewhat common for them to be cool with some contact with it post, and extremely unusual to have a real interest in it. Via
7) Before I cum, yeah, I sometimes want to do that. But I’m of the common guy type whose libido kinda shuts down completely for a few minutes once he’s done. So basically, the only time when there’s any cum around is the time in which I want nothing to do with it. Via
8) I was trying to do yoga plow and shoot in my mouth. I didn’t warm up and put my neck out, didn’t finish and had to go to the chiropractor. So yeah, warm up first before trying this. I swallow and enjoy licking off my SO. The taste seems really fine to me & it is a very clean way to deal with sploodge if someone eats it all up. Via
9) It’s disgusting, and I don’t say that because “it’s gross, thats boy cum” but I’ve tried it multiple times and the taste is disguuuusting. It also seriously leaves my throat sore, far too basic. Via
There you go… An insight… What do you do?
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Dear TGUK Me and a former boyfriend had partial sex several months ago. We performed hand jobs on one another and he gave me a blowjob. The blowjob wasn’t long (only four sucks) and I didn’t cum. However, as a hypochondriac, I’m concerned about HIV. Prior to sex, I asked him if he had sex before. He had sex only once in the past and it was only mutual masturbation and fellatio. My parents won’t let me take a test because it would worsen my health anxiety. But should I be worried?
Joe 16,
Hello Joe
Thank you for writing to us with your worries, it sounds as though you had a very low-risk encounter with your ex. Oral sex is considered a low-risk activity for catching HIV, especially if you’re on the receiving end of the BJ. However, it’s not just HIV that you have to consider here. Other nasties like Chlamydia and Gonorrhoea can be passed on by both receiver and giver, and might not even show symptoms, however, all these infections can be treated effectively if caught soon enough.
If you are worried you should make an appointment to go to a clinic, or just pop along to a walk-in clinic. There are some amazing services – and now, there’s even an online clinic called S24, where you can take tests at home and have the results sent to your mobile phone, Google it.
If your parents are standing in your way of getting a health check maybe you need to have a conversation with them about your worries, however at 16 you can go to a clinic by yourself you have the right to be treated confidentially.
Hand-jobs and mutual masturbation are very safe activities, as long as you keep bodily fluids such as semen away from open cuts or sores. If you’re worried in future you can use condoms during oral, and there are even flavoured ones to try.
Visiting a sex health clinic is an important part of life, taking responsibility for your health and for others you’re having sex with. Making regular visits every six months to once a year is suggested if you’re sexually active.
So don’t delay and more importantly try not to worry yourself too much.
Have you been noticing your partner’s face turning a deep shade of green after you’ve deposited your spooge in his mouth?
If you’re getting a yucky response to your jerk sauce then maybe it’s time to take a look at what you’re ingesting – as some of what you’re eating can affect the taste of your cum.
So here’s the 10 things you need to stay clear of.
1) Dairy
Too many dairy products can make your love milk taste salty, so is best to keep consumption of cheese and milk to a minimum.
2) Being dehydrated
Drinking more water helps wash out pollutants from your body. Most of your climax is actually water, so making sure you’re well-hydrated means that you could have more volume which will dilute the natural taste of your load.
3) Asparagus
It makes your pee smell and your man mayo taste awful. So if you’re out on a hot date make sure you stay away from the grilled asparagus.
4) Coffee
It’s a good job to cut down on all pollutants including caffeine. Too much coffee could actually change the taste of your baby batter and make it much more bitter. It’s best to limit your coffee intake to around 4 cups a day.
5) Meat
Red meats have to go, I’m sorry, but if you want to keep your boy smiling, then it’s out with meats, like beef, lamb and pork. Swap with good quality, high protein cuts of chicken and turkey.
6) Onions
Your two little love-juice making chums do not like onions. Neither do they like garlic because of their high sulphur content! It all makes for a nasty tasting load.
7) No chlorophyll in your diet
High chlorophyll is good for tasty cupid’s toothpaste. You can find chlorophyll in parsley, wheatgrass, and celery. Go for it chow down on those sticks of celery.
8) Alcohol
Alcohol is known to make your jizz taste bitter, it can also play havoc with your sexual performance so keep yourself in tip top shape and cut back on the lagers.
9) Ciggies
If you’ve ever blown a guy who smokes you’ll know that his man muck is pretty rank.
10) Want super tasting cum?
The following foods are super good for tastier sperm: Pineapples, papayas, cranberries, melons, mangos, apples, grapes and lemons are all good choices. Fruits that are high in natural sugars help offset the bitter taste of your man chowder.
Changes to your food intake will start to have an effect on your Love Liquor in around 12 to 24 hours, so keep this in mind; it’s best to have a day of clean livin’ for the rampant dirty night after.
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A young reader asks if he can catch HIV from a quick blowjob from an ex.
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Dear TGUK
Me and a former boyfriend had partial sex several months ago. We performed hand jobs on one another and he gave me a blowjob. The blowjob wasn’t long (only four sucks) and I didn’t cum. However, as a hypochondriac I’m concerned about HIV. Prior to sex I asked him if he had sex before. He had sex only once in the past and it was only mutual masturbation and fellatio. My parents won’t let me take a test because it would worsen my health anxiety. But should I be worried?
Joe 16,
Hello Joe
Thank you for writing to us with your worries, it sounds as though you had a very low-risk encounter with your ex. Oral sex is considered a low-risk activity for catching HIV, especially if you’re on the receiving end of the BJ. However it’s not just HIV that you have to consider here. Other nasties like Chlamydia and Gonorrhoea can be passed on by both receiver and giver, and might not even show symptoms, however all these infections can be treated effectively, if caught soon enough.
If you are worried you should make an appointment to go to a clinic, or just pop along to a walk-in clinic. There are some amazing services – and now, there’s even an online clinic called S24, where you can take tests at home and have the results sent to your mobile phone, Google it.
If your parents are standing in your way of getting a health check maybe you need to have a conversation with them about your worries, however at 16 you can go to a clinic by yourself you have the right to be treated confidentially.
Hand-jobs and mutual masturbation are very safe activities, as long as you keep bodily fluids such as semen away from open cuts or sores. If you’re worried in future you can use condoms during oral, and there are even flavoured ones to try.
Visiting a sex health clinic is an important part of life, taking responsibility for your health and for others you’re having sex with. Making regular visits every six months to once a year is suggested if you’re sexually active.
So don’t delay and more importantly try not to worry yourself too much.
The advice given in this article is for guidance only and you should always seek your own independent, professional medical advice from your own GP if you are concerned about your health.
