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Should I clean my sex toys after using them?

You should definitely be cleaning your sex toys after use, particularly if the toys you are using are up-the-butt toys.

You see, your ass, even after douching is still filled with bacteria and germs that you won’t want sitting around on a toy’s surface, laying in your bottom drawer over a period of time.

This could lead to nasty stomach upsets and illness.

You may also find that any lube residue left on your toy could melt it between uses. Yes, this happens – all depending on what material your toy is made from and the type of lube you used.

So it’s best to clean your toys after each usage.

Water or Toy Cleaner?

You can buy a special sex toy cleaner – our partner shop sells a range of these, or you can use warm soapy water. We particularly recommend the Bathmate Clean Misting Toy Cleaner, which is really easy to use, simply wipe off any debris (you know what we mean!) mist it with the cleaner, rub it in and then rise off.

If you use a toy cleaner, you’ll also be disinfecting it, killing off all those nasty bacteria.

Make sure when cleaning your toy, that you clean out all of the ridges and if it’s a realistic dildo, make sure you clean around the head and all of the veins.

Using condoms on your toys

Using a condom on your toy when you use it will mean that you won’t need to wash it as thoroughly, but it is advisable to give it a wipe down to get rid of any chemicals that transfer from the inside of a condom to your toy.

Storing your toy

Once you’ve clean your toy, dry it off with a towel until it’s perfectly dry and if it came with a protective pouch, insert it back in there.

If it didn’t come with a pouch, an old sock will work just as well.

Inserting it into a sock or pouch protects the toy’s material coming into contact with other toys – which can cause them to melt as some materials even react with other materials.

It isn’t pretty and can get quite expensive.

Penis toys and masturbators

If your toy is for penis play, like a Fleshjack or even the Satifyer Men’s Wand (pictured above) you should still give it a good clean after use. If you’ve jizzed over or in your toy, you won’t want to find it, next time you come to use it, covered with stale, crispy semen… Or may you do… But to ensure the longevity of your toy, it’s best to clean it after each use.

Oh yeah, if you’re wondering how to get rid of semen stains – particularly on clothes or towels, read this.

To find out how to clean your Fleshjack click here.

3rd December 2020
A Security flaw has been playing havoc with this male sex toy

A chastity device has apparently had security issues in which users have found themselves locked out after someone managed to hack the product’s app.

The £145 product, called the Cellmate Chastity Cage by Qiui, has now apparently had a fix issued by its Chinese developers, but users must update to the new app. Using the old app could expose users to the security flaw and become locked into their device, without the ability to cancel its locking mechanisms.

The hack meant that everyone who was using the device could be locked into it and their ability to control it was overridden. Scarily there’s NO manual override, meaning many users would have had to destroy their chastity devices to get out of them.

There is a fix however, there’s a new app. Users who are still using the old app are still at risk of having their device hacked.

Pen Test Partners discovered the hack and took to YouTube to explain their findings, saying

“Over the years we’ve looked at a number of smart adult toys, raising concerns.

“My esteemed colleague Alex Lomas […] has been looking at this device, which is wonderful: a male chastity device. The idea is you put the appendage in here, you put a clamp on behind the testicles and you’re then well and truly locked in.

“It’s smart, so it’s locked under Bluetooth, so you can use a smartphone to lock it. There’s a mobile app, an API.

“Then, being a chastity device, you then give permission to lock to someone you trust, who then has control over your… device.

“Unfortunately Alex found an insecure direct object reference in the API. It meant he could take over everyone’s chastity device and lock everybody in.

“Believe it or not there’s no manual unlock, key or override. The only way to get out is to cut through this, which is hardened steel and given where it’s a that’s going to be quite difficult to get yourself out of.

“Now, it’s not for us to kink-shame. If people want to use these devices that’s absolutely fine with us. I just think people should be able to use these securely and safely.

“Unfortunately, many adult toys are let down by their lack of attention to security which really exposes their users.”

12th October 2020
This just might be the greatest sex toy for men… like ever

The Satisfyer Men Wand is probably the only bedroom toy you’ll ever need.

With 35 vibration settings, your little Mr will thank you, over and over and over again.

When it comes to sex toys for men they usually require a bit of preparation and a lot of faff, which is probably why most men just make use of just one piece of equipment – their hands.

If it’s an up the butt toy, you need to get all prepped – unless you’re happy with a poopy toy, even then you have to make sure the toy is thoroughly hygienically cleansed afterwards. If it’s a masturbator, like the Fleshlight you have to clean in and out after every use – or you could find it moulding from the inside out – yuck.

The Satifyer Men Wand couldn’t be more simple and easy to use. What’s more thanks to its design, function and usability it might be the only cock toy you’ll ever need.

After making sure your wand is fully charged (it charges with a USB connector) simply slip your D into the slot at the end and let the vibrations take you to climatic bliss.

You can hold it many ways – as long as the head of your dick is in contact with the vibration “wings” – you’ll have hours of fun – actually probably only a few minutes because it’s so darn arousing.

And because there’s no friction caused by rubbing or thrusting you can use it over and over again – without any penile soreness, redness or ache. Win-win-win.

Satisfyer has a long history of creating weird and wonderful looking sex toys and the Satisfyer Men Wand sits up there with the best.

We’re giving it a solid five stars.

Check it out from THEGAYSHOP or check out the Satisfyer Store.

14th November 2019
What’s the best lube to use with a dildo or butt plug?

Whether you’re going for a mini vibe or a traffic cone type of toy, you’ll need the right lube, so which is the right one to use?

We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again – any butt play is going to need to start off with some kind of lubricant. The anus isn’t self-lubricating so you’re going to need lots of it. Depending on the size of your toy you’ll need different lubes for different activities.

If it’s a smaller prostate massager like the Optimale P Male Slate, which you’re probably not going to be moving in and out and is just going to sit inside you, then you could try just spit. It’s free and simple – everybody has access to that.

https://www.thegayshop.co.uk/product/optimale-p-male-slate-os/

However, if you’re going to be using a huge toy, like the American Bombshell Destroyer that you’re going to be riding to show off your skills on Twitter, then you’re going to need a lube that will stop friction and the damage that could cause you.

https://www.thegayshop.co.uk/product/american-bombshell-destroyer/

You should check with the manufacturer of the toy because some toys can’t be used with some types of lube other than water-based. Oil-based lubes are likely to rot or even melt your toy, so keep them away. Depending on the material your toy is made from you shouldn’t even keep toys together without a layer of protection between them, like a cloth or a cotton bag.

Some toys though are silicone lube safe and this is probably one of the better lube types to use for toy play because silicone lube lasts the longest. Silicone lube tends to be a little more expensive than water-based but generally lasts longer so you could end up using less of it. We like using the ID Millennium lube which comes in a variety of sizes. If water-based is your thing then look no further than the Liquid Silk range of lubes. Liquid Silk has a great smooth texture to it – plus the whiteness of the lube has the added bonus of looking a bit like spunk!

For extra help in getting the lube where it actually needs to go you could always try a lube dispenser, a genius way of getting lube deep inside your butt rather than just at the entrance.

Another suggestion is numbing lube if you’re using a massive toy, however, be careful when using numbing lube. Pain felt while inserting a toy is a useful and important messaging system for you. If you don’t get any feedback from your ass, you could be damaging yourself with tears.

10th September 2019
Which online adult stores offer the cheapest shipping

The boom of online shopping hasn’t just stopped at online groceries, now you can get your favourite sex toy and lube direct to your door, but which sex shop offers the best shipping deals?

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There are a number of online adult stores based in the UK. They include the well-established gay brands such as Prowler and Clone Zone but also Bent and our very own TheGayShop.

All of these shops offer home delivery, but what does it cost?

For our experiment, we looked at the price of shipping a bottle of Liquid Silk 250ml to a UK mainland address. Here’s what we found.

THEGAYSHOP came out with the cheapest P&P coming in at £3.75 – using Royal Mail while Love Honey was the most expensive costing a whopping £3.99 for postage, however, they did use Royal Mail’s tracking service.

So here’s what the various brands charged for delivery of 250ml bottle of Liquid Silk.

Prowler charges £3,75

THEGAYSHOP.co.uk charges £2.50

Regulation charges £3.15

Bent / Esmale charges £3.54

CloneZone charges £3.95

LoveHoney charges £3.99

GayMegaStore charges £5.75 (did not stock ID Glide)

All of the stores also offer free stand delivery on orders when you reach a certain price.

Prowler free delivery on orders over £25

TheGayUK free delivery on orders over £40

Regulation free delivery on orders over £50

Bent / Esmale free delivery on orders over £20

CloneZone free delivery on orders over £25

LoveHoney free delivery on orders over £40

GayMegaStore free delivery on orders over €120

Disclosure: TheGayShop is a division of Pineapple Rock Ltd. and profits go towards funding THEGAYUK.com. This is not an advertisement and the contents have not been paid for by any party.

9th September 2019
The rimming sex toy is cheaper today thanks to Black Friday

If you liked getting rimmed and you’re looking to save money, your day is about to get even better.

(C) BIGSTOCK

Thanks for Black Friday the Lelo Ora 2 has a mega 25 per cent off the retail price today, meaning you can give your bum hole a great seeing to for less.

Does your boyfriend have 10 pleasure settings and the stamina to go for an hour – with a 90 day standby time? If he does we want to meet him. If he doesn’t or you don’t have a BF then we’d like you to meet ORA (2). The oral sex – sex toy.

If you’re not entirely sure what rimming is, then we got this article, which explains the 10 things you need to know about rimming.

The toy, which is from the upmarket Swedish intimate toy manufacturer LELO, describes the toy as “better than real” and “thrilling”. We’re interested – very interested.

Although the website describes it as perfect for “clitoral stimulation” we’re betting this will feel just as good on your boy booty bean.

So now you don’t need a man to give you a good licking. You can even give the BF the night off while you go to town on yourself.

It’s currently on Black Friday for just £108.75!

23rd November 2018
Hold the phone, there’s now a sex toy for Rimming

If you liked getting rimmed your day is about to get even better.

(C) BIGSTOCK

Does your boyfriend have 10 pleasure settings and the stamina to go for an hour – with a 90 day standby time? If he does we want to meet him. If he doesn’t or you don’t have a BF then we’d like you to meet ORA (2). The oral sex – sex toy.

If you’re not entirely sure what rimming is, then we got this article, which explains the 10 things you need to know about rimming.

The toy, which is from the upmarket Swedish intimate toy manufacturer LELO, describes the toy as “better than real” and “thrilling”. We’re interested – very interested.

Although the website describes it as perfect for “clitoral stimulation” we’re betting this will feel just as good on your boy booty bean.

So now you don’t need a man to give you a good licking. You can even give the BF the night off while you go to town on yourself.

It’s currently selling for £123.25, so we’re saving up now!

14th August 2018
Seven things you need to know before using a really large sex toy

You’ve seen them. We all have. Those massive, dock off dildos in sex shops. But how exactly do you insert one?

Take Gilbert here. He was sent to us by Carvaka Toys (£36.99) and is a whopping 11 inches long and boy is it thick, with a girth of 7.25 inches, it definitely could bring a tear to your eye. So how on earth do you get something like that up your butt?

Just how do you get something this massive inside you?

Well with enough time and patience you can.

1) Lube

We’ve said it before and well say it again – any butt play is going to need to start off with some kind of lube. The anus isn’t self-lubricating so you’re going to need lots of it – and nope, we don’t suggest spit for a huge monster like Gilbert.

The lube should also be water-based. Other lubes might actually destroy the integrity of the toy itself. We love Super Slik and it’s not very expensive either – or there’s the Fist It Extra Thick Waterbased Anal Fisting Lube.

2) Time

It’s not a race… only you are the winner – so take your time and slow down!

Take your time with a big toy. You might not be able to get it all in on the first try and you don’t want to force it, or you could cause yourself some damage. You don’t want to end up with a torn sphincter. Doctor Rick Viney, warns that a torn sphincter will most likely need surgical repair.

If you’re with a partner, don’t feel rushed into going too quickly and let them know how it’s going.

3) Something smaller first

In order to get a monster in you might find it useful to start with something smaller first. Another toy or cock even. Once your butt can accommodate something you can start to size up! Dr Rick suggests, “The sphincter can be gently dilated over a short period of time using devices like a plug or a gradual increase in the number of fingers inserted. Needless to say, there should be a generous use of lubricant to help. This kind of foreplay will limit any damage but it is important to stop if there is any pain and that requires self-control.”

4) Find the G spot

There might be a point that you’ll start to feel an intense feeling – that isn’t just the stretch of your bum. That could well be your G Spot. Legend has it that you can cum without touch your D if the G spot is handled just right! A toy like this is going to go right past that G Spot – as it’s only just a few inches inside you, but using the head of the toy could give you some really great reactions.

5) Condom or condomless?

If you are going to use this toy with your partner you might want to use condoms between each use. This can ward off any dirt that can happen with deeper play but also stop infections from passing from one person to another.

6) Come back to it

If you can’t do it one sitting… take a time out and come back to it.

If on your first attempt you can’t get it all in, then try again a little later. Rome wasn’t built in a day and there’s no rush. Take your time and enjoy experiment with yourself.

7) Tomorrow is gonna be a little uncomfortable

You’ll find that going to the loo the next day might be a bit uncomfortable, especially if this is the first time you’ve inserted something this large. As they say, practice makes perfect, you should find the next time that you could be a little more accommodating.

Before you get started you might want to read up on some advice about making sure you’re clean down there. We asked porn star Kit Wilde to take us through the basics.

24th July 2018
These are the 9 things every gay man needs in his bedside drawer

What’s in your bedside drawer? Is it full of random stuff? You know, the kind of stuff that you just don’t know what to do with? Clear it all out and make sure you have these 9 essential items in your nightstand.

CREDIT: CC0 Public Domain / Pixabay / Unsplash

Condoms

There’s no point in having your condoms in the bathroom in a completely separate room from where all the action is happening. Make sure your condoms are right in grabbing distance. Even better so that you don’t ruin the flow of your night put them under your pillow. Also, don’t forget to stock some non-latex condoms. Some guys may have a negative reaction to latex.

Even if you’re in a long-term relationship and don’t use condoms anymore, it’s always good to have some in stock if you both decide to have a third/fourth or fifth around for some fun. Make sure any rubbers you have are still in date.

Lube

And don’t just have one type of lube. Have a variety. As they say, variety is the spice of life. Depending on what you’re doing you might need different lubes. If you’re using condoms make sure you’re using silicone or water based lubes, if you’re going bare you might prefer a more oil based or buttery lube. If toys are your thing you should use water-based lubes.

The gay man’s Kama Sutra

Want to up your bedroom game? Get this book to give you ideas and some insightful tips on new positions. Wow your partner with some new moves with the gay man’s Kuma Sutra.

Breath mint

Worried about morning breath? There’s nothing worse than breath can peel the wallpaper off from fifty feet. Pack some mints in your bedside drawers. Then pop one in first thing if you’re planning for a morning bonk.

Pad and pen

Ever wake up in the mid of night with the world’s most amazing idea and completely forget it by the morning? Keeping a pen and pad by your bed is key to collecting all those midnight memories. Also if you’re not sure you’ll remember the name of the person you’ve just gone to bed with you can always jot it down!

Glasses

If you need glasses keep a set by your bed, especially if you like reading or watching TV last thing at night. Also, comes in very handy if you need to get up in the middle of the night to pee.

Some toys

Sex toys deserve to be placed near to where the action is going to take place. That way you can seamlessly integrate them into your sex life.

Cum rag

Yep. When the business is done, don’t go searching high and low, have a rag on hand to clear up all the mess. Also can be great to have a cloth or scrap of material to place used toys or condoms on ready to clear up in the morning.

Bio Oil

I know this a random choice, but it’s a perfect night oil for your face. Wake with softer more youthful skin. This is a grooming product I absolutely swear by.

2nd May 2018
Watch these straight guys try to explain gay sex toys

Have you ever been in a sex store and seen an interesting looking toy and were too shy to ask the sales assistant what it was?

(We have!) Then you will like this video from funny gay vlogger Davey Wavey who asked a bunch of (hot) straight guys to try to explain what they thought of a whole selection of ‘toys’ that we gay men love to play with. The results are hilarious and quite illuminating.

5th May 2017
9 things every gay man needs in his bedside drawer

What’s in your bedside drawer? Is it full of random stuff? You know, the kind of stuff that you just don’t know what to do with? Clear it all out and make sure you have these 9 essential items in your nightstand.

CREDIT: CC0 Public Domain / Pixabay / Unsplash

Condoms

There’s no point in having your condoms in the bathroom in a completely separate room from where all the action is happening. Make sure your condoms are right in grabbing distance. Even better so that you don’t ruin the flow of your night put them under your pillow. Also, don’t forget to stock some non-latex condoms. Some guys may have a negative reaction to latex.

Even if you’re in a long-term relationship and don’t use condoms anymore, it’s always good to have some in stock if you both decide to have a third/fourth or fifth round. Make sure any rubbers you have are still in date.

Lube

And don’t just have one type of lube. Have a variety. As they say, variety is the spice of life. Depending on what you’re doing you might need different lubes. If you’re using condoms make sure you’re using silicone or water-based lubes, if you’re going bare you might prefer a more oil-based or buttery lube. If toys are your thing you should use water-based lubes.

The gay man’s Kama Sutra

Want to up your bedroom game? Get this book to give you ideas and some insightful tips on new positions. Wow your partner with some new moves with the gay man’s Kuma Sutra.

Breath mint

Worried about morning breath? There’s nothing worse than breath can peel the wallpaper off from fifty feet. Pack some mints in your bedside drawers. Then pop one in first thing if you’re planning for a morning bonk.

Pad and pen

Ever wake up in the mid of the night with the world’s most amazing idea and completely forget it by the morning? Keeping a pen and pad by your bed is key to collecting all those midnight memories. Also if you’re not sure you’ll remember the name of the person you’ve just gone to bed with you can always jot it down!

Glasses

If you need glasses keep a set by your bed, especially if you like reading or watching TV last thing at night. Also, comes in very handy if you need to get up in the middle of the night to pee.

Some toys

Sex toys deserve to be placed near to where the action is going to take place. That way you can seamlessly integrate them into your sex life.

Come rag

Yep. When the business is done, don’t go searching high and low, have a rag on hand to clear up all the mess. Also can be great to have a cloth or scrap of material to place used toys or condoms on ready to clear up in the morning.

Bio-Oil

I know this a random choice, but it’s a perfect night oil for your face. Wake with softer more youthful skin. This is a grooming product I absolutely swear by.

19th December 2016