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  • COMMENT | So… when it comes to gay sex, are you top, middle or bottom?

    Top, Bottom or Versatile: Are tops lazy, do versatile guys have more fun and what is bottom shaming?

    Gay Couple
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    So recently I have been asking a series of questions ‘for a friend’ about anal sex and being a top, bottom or versatile.

    For those that may no know, a top is someone that inserts their penis into another man’s butt, a bottom is someone who has another man’s penis inserted into his butt and a versatile, as you can imagine, does both.

    I’ve always been a top but I have experimented being a bottom in the past. But before we go on can I just have a moan to tops out there. YOU WILL NOT BE THE ONE TO CONVERT ME. The number of times a top responds with “well I’ll do it with you and I’ll do it right” when I say I’ve tried and didn’t like it. Every top seems to think they are god’s gift to bottoming and I’m sorry boys but you are not. No one knows my butt better than I and believe you me, if it’s not going in, it’s not going in (protest all you like).

    Now, where was I? Ah yes, are all tops lazy? Do versatile guys have more fun? Why do bottoms bottom?

    Before I begin may I just say that this is in no way scientific. This is just a social media poll, on a whim, usually while bored on the train to London. I asked Twitter a series of questions and mine and THEGAYUK’s followers were kind enough to respond. In the first question, 88 people responded to the question ‘Why are you a top?’

    Of those 88, 41% said it was because they liked a sense of dominance it gives them, 25% simply found bottoming too painful, 20% were fearful of an accident and 14% just saw bottoming as too much effort.

    A little bit of a mixed bag there but 45% highlight issues with going down there (pain/potential for the mess). A couple of guys even messaged me directly sharing that concern about accidents down there and even just a lack of wiring for it. And I have to admit as a top I share some of that concern. Who teaches someone how to bottom successfully? Is there a class on how to douche? Certainly, no one has ever shown me so you either google it, use your imagination or go on what friends tell you (for douching at least). That be why, as a top, myself and a few of the other guys that responded, all shared a sense of patience and understanding for bottoms (especially if an ‘accident’ was to occur).

    ALSO READ: I’m thinking about bottoming for the first time, how can I make sure I’m clean?

    As for how to bottom, everyone’s advice is just to grin and go with it. But what does that actually mean? So, again on my way into work one day, I decided to follow that up by asking twitter the question “why are you a bottom?”

    69 people replied and 54% said it was because it felt good, followed by 30% saying that they enjoyed a feeling of submission (and 14% said size concerns (too small) and 2% thought it was expected of them).

    54% said that it felt good.

    54%! As a top that has only every gotten pain from the whole experience (even after various methods) you do start to wonder if you’ve been wired incorrectly. I’ve seen partner’s eyes roll over in pleasure and that just baffles me. You clearly have something that I (and indeed 88 others) simply do not have.

    Now for others that it also baffles they seem to get jealous and a little nasty about it.

    ALSO READ: 13 myths about gay sex

    And this is where bottom shaming comes it. Almost turning the term ‘power bottom’ into a negative thing that the person should be ashamed of. Well to those people I say bugger off. As a top that knows how painful it is, if you can get pleasure from that then you crack on my sweet and be proud. I’m mildly jealous and will give you my number.

    ;o)

    We cannot all be blessed with the ‘g-spot’ it seems, and maybe that’s a good thing for world balance? If were all bottoms how would we get anything done?

    But then that brings me to my next question that I decided to inflict on the good people of twitter. I asked people “do versatile guys have more fun?”

    145 people came back to me on that one (so clearly they do). The majority 69% (teehee) said that yes they did.

    And you can see the appeal. You can insert and be inserted into and get pleasure from both. It adds variety and spice to your sex life and means you can experience a wider range of feelings.

    As for me, my mind is very much in the versatile space. In my head, I like the thought of a nice rogering as much as the next man but in reality, it just doesn’t happen. To tops (and indeed bottoms) out there that connect with this feeling in any way, I would say don’t feel like you need to be both. Enjoy what you enjoy and experiment if and when you want to experiment. Sex has always got to feel right and comfortable for you. If it
    doesn’t don’t do it.

  • ADVICE | Is My Penis Too Small?

    Dear TGUK,
    My flaccid penis is quite small, probably about 2-3inches but it becomes 5.5-6 inches when erect. Is this normal? How do I get over my fears about being naked in front of another person, as I am 20 and still a virgin?
    Jeff, Edinburgh

    Dear John,

    This is a very common worry. The truth is that there really is no such thing as ‘normal’ when it comes to penises. For example, there is a lot of variation in the angle of an erect penis. Some erect penises point straight up, others straight down or a slight bend to the left or right. There are many different sizes too.

    It is normal for men to be worried about size because of all the cultural pressure society places on it. Try not to get anxious about it. So long as you are otherwise healthy and happy, the most important thing is taking precautions to ensure that you do not run the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs), including using condoms, when you do have sex.

    While there are many products and procedures available suggesting that they can help men to increase the size of their penis, there is little conclusive evidence to prove that they are safe and that they work. There really isn’t much that men can do to change what they are born with, so my advice would be to come to terms with what you have.

    There are however some steps that you can take to improve your own and others’ perception of the size of your penis, including trimming your pubic hair and losing weight. Staying fit and healthy can also improve your sex life.

    In some cases, people inaccurately conclude that they are not as big as they should be. Counselling has been shown to be beneficial for men with penis anxiety as therapy helps patients identify and correct any distorted views, building self-confidence and overcoming fears about sexual relations.

    Have you got a question to ask our experts? Use the form below to submit your question.

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  • ADVICE| Is my depression medication keeping me from getting an erection?

    This week’s sexual health column focuses on the possibility that depression medications cause erectile dysfunction.  Pharmacy2U’s Medical Director Dr Nitin Shori takes a closer look.

    Is my depression medication keeping me from getting an erection?

    Dear TGUK,

    I’m in my 30s and I’ve been having trouble getting it up. I’m currently on medication for depression so I’m wondering if that’s what’s causing it. I don’t want to come off the depression meds, but my failure at not being able to keep an erection is causing a few issues in the bedroom.

    Paul

     

     

    Dear Paul,

    A low sex drive and inability to maintain an erection can be a side effect of many antidepressants. However, depression itself can also cause these same problems.
     
    It’s important that you treat your depression and tackle the underlying factors that might be causing it. If you speak to your GP they may be able to change your medication to one that has less of an affect on your libido or consider whether your depression itself is the cause.
     
    There are also other factors that can affect your sex drive and it may be worth considering them.
     
    Erectile dysfunction, or impotence, is a very common condition, particularly among older men.
     
    Stress, anxiety, fatigue and certain health conditions are also common factors in causing impotence, while excessive drug or alcohol miss-use can also affect sexual performance.
     
    Another factor could be age. Testosterone levels naturally start to fall for most men from the age of about 30 or 40.
     
    While many automatically associate testosterone with sexual performance, this powerful hormone has a much wider influence and can often impact on energy levels and motivation, as well as loss of strength and muscle mass.
     
    If the above is ringing bells you can test for testosterone and consider gels or supplements which will boost your levels. You can get testosterone testing kits and prescriptions online if you’re pressed for time to see your doctor and want to rule this out.
     
    There’s also a range of products that can help with erectile dysfunction available online if you want to be discreet, including Viagra.
     
    Given your circumstances, you should discuss your antidepressant medication with your GP before you start exploring other potential causes of impotence.

     

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  • 7 things you should seriously not do with Strawberry lube

    7 things you should seriously not do with Strawberry lube


    Chances are if you’ve used Strawberry Lube you’ve probably been using it properly. You know for sex. However, these hilarious Amazoners have been using their lube for different purposes – some of the crafty buggers have used the sticky lube as a breakfast spread.

    As yummy as strawberry lube can be, you probably shouldn’t be using it as a spread for your / your Mother-in-Law’s sandwiches (although it is totally non-toxic).

    Durex’s sex and relationships expert Alix Fox said,

    “It’s lovely to see people having a laugh – after all, a sense of humour is one of the best accessories you can bring into the bedroom – but obviously I advise that folks should follow the usage instructions supplied with sexual wellbeing products, which means sticking to what they’re designed for.

    “Durex flavoured lubes are completely safe to consume, so popping them on puddings shouldn’t do you any harm, but there are better ways to use them. They’re for bodies, not breakfasts, and although they’re brilliant whether you’re a top or a bottom, they’re not intended for topping toast!”

    Ice cream van owner’s customers are mad for the red stuff…

    “I’ve owned an ice cream van for nearly 30 years and I can’t tell you enough how wonderful this product is. Basically a lot of my customers ask for Red Sauce when purchasing a 99 with flake. I have found it hard to keep up with demand as well as soaring strawberry prices. So in order to keep my customers happy I tried Durex Play Sweet Strawberry and have never looked back. My customers now think I only serve organic free-range strawberry sauce because it tastes so dam good. Also, you should see their children’s glistening smile after one of my 99’s it really gives me a sense of purpose and knowing I am top of my game in the world of mobile frozen dairy goodness. A****”

    Sam found himself using it when he ran out of Jam!

    “I used it on my toast when I run out of strawberry jam. Tasted wonderful”

    One user seemed to have trouble keeping it in the zone

    ” GF says its gets in her hair and is sticky!!”

    Corey’s Mother-In-Law apparently lives for it

    “Execellent sandwich spread mother in law loves it”

    Dad’s Jam

    “I ran out of strawberry jam and so I used this to put in the kids rice pudding. They couldn’t tell the difference and they’re pretty intelligent”

    Mr. Maker needs his morning fix

    “I love the taste of this stuff, you can even put it on your corn flakes! ?”

    Replacing Mayo???

    “me and the misses usually [sic] use yoghurt or mayo. this is nice olternative [sic] lol tasty the misses as a mouth full”

    Fancy doing something weird and wonderful with your lube, Alix suggests,

    “If you’re determined to get creative with ’em, try making your own frozen flavoured ‘Lube Cubes’. Pour some of the gel into an ice cube tray, pop it in the freezer for a few hours to set, then when it’s ready, trail a cube over your lover’s skin during an intimate massage. Let it melt on their body for a thrilling, chilling sensation, then warm them up by following the trail of juicy flavour with your hot tongue.”

    Want some strawberry jam lube to try for yourself – head on over to THEGAYSHOP.co.uk store and check out the range of flavoured lubes.

  • Gay Guys: Ten things not to say during sex

    Gay Guys: Ten things not to say during sex

    Talking during sex doesn’t often happen – but there are definitely some stay-clear subjects during the making of whoopee.

    Here are our Top 10 things not to say during sex.

    1) Are you done yet?

    It’s not a race – and there isn’t a prize for being first! Take your time and if you finish before your partner, don’t get all huffy. Nothing is more of a turn off that a huffy bed partner.

    2) I’m gonna fart…

    We know it’s just a natural part of life, trumps are not a good idea mid session. So if you know you’re getting lucky this evening stay clear from foods that’ll make you windy.

     

    3) My ex used to do this…

    We don’t care if your ex had a 9 incher that, stayed solid for hours on end and came on command. We are different and special in our own way. Love the way I make love or move on.

     

    4) Do you mind if my ____________ watches

    Cat, brother, neighbour, person on the other end of Face Time. It’s just weird and odd.

    5) I’m just going to tweet this

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    CREDIT: monkeybusinessimages-bigstock

    Something’s should not be social network gossip. Unless of course you’re a Kardashian, in which case let the world know your business – even if they don’t care.

     

    6) What’s your name again?

    Try to keep up-to-date with the name of your current shag. If in doubt don’t check his underwear – his name is unlikely to be Calvin Klein.

    7) Start crying for no reason.

    This is self-explanatory and may look a little unhinged if you start crying mid hump.

    8) Wow that tastes terrible

    If you’re swallowing and his man mayo tastes fowl take a large slip of water and smile sweetly. If you’re going to see him again suggest a fruit filled diet to help make him taste sweet and good. Check out our tips on how to taste better.

    9) Ask if you look fat

    A total turn off and likely not to get a good reaction, often because there’s no right answer for the person who’s just asked the F-bomb. If you’re feeling self-conscience then turn the light down low.

    10) Take a phone call

    Now is not the time to answer that phone call, your stocks and shares will be there once you’re done!

  • ADVICE | Can we use a cucumber in the bedroom?

    ADVICE | Can we use a cucumber in the bedroom?

    This week a reader asks whether it’s safe to use certain fruit and veg to spice things up in the bedroom.We ask our writers for their thoughts…

    Can we use a cucumber in the bedroom?

    Dear TGUK

    My boyfriend and I are quite adventurous when it comes to the bedroom and we’re wondering whether we could use fruit and veg and other foods as part of our activities? Is it dangerous to insert things like cucumbers and carrots?

    Paulo,

     

    Dear Paulo,

    Using fruit and veg could be a great way to excite and reignite your sex life. Using soft fleshy, non-acidic fruit such as honeydew melons or watermelons can be an exciting way to get new sensations. Simply put a hole in it and thrusting in and out will provide interesting brand new feelings.

    Alternatively, you can always use other foodstuffs such as chocolate spreads or even Marmite, who recently brought out body paint. To answer your question about carrots and cucumbers, extreme caution must be used when inserting anything into your butt that doesn’t have a handle or give good grip. Many people have ended up in A&E after failing to retrieve a cucumber, banana or carrot lodged in their rectums. A painful experience that can actually lead to death if left untreated. We would urge anyone who has gotten anything stuck up there to seek medical advice immediately, no matter how embarrassed you feel.

    Oh did I say use lots of lube…   

    If you’re looking to insert a food, why not try a lollipop or ice cubes, which will melt.

    It’s best to use implements that are actually designed for insertion, such as dildos and vibrators. Don’t forget if you’re using toys together and share them, to use a fresh condom before using it on your partner, and wash them properly after use. 

    If you are going to insert a carrot, gherkin, cucumber or banana, make sure you’re relaxed. Some of these veg can be much larger than a penis, so using lots of lube and taking your time is a must. Oh did I say use lots of lube…   

    Got a sex health question use the form below to get in touch

  • This African government want to ban lube to stop gay sex

    The government of Tanzania apparently wants to stop gay sex, so it’s banning lube.

     

    Tanzanian health officials have banned the import of sexual lubricants in a move to crack-down on anal sex, directly targeting the gay and bisexual male community.

    Gay sexual relations are illegal in Tanzania with those found guilty handed life imprisonment sentences. However no arrests have been known to have been made in recent years.

    According to News24.com, Health Minister for the East African country Ummy Mwalimu said,

    “It is true that the government has banned the importation and use of the jelly to curb the spread of HIV,”

    “It is estimated that 23 percent of men who have sex with men in Tanzania are living with HIV/AIDS,”

    “I have instructed stakeholders working with gay people to remove the products from the market.”

    Up until recently the gay and bisexual community were being handed out lube for free as part of a health campaign by advocacy and health groups working with the community. However the ministry now wants to use the money spent on lube “for beds for the maternity wards.”

    It is recommended by healthcare professionals that lube always be used when having anal sex, regardless if the sex is being same-sex couples or opposite-sex couples.

    Waterbased or silicon lubes are recommended with condom usage, one of the most effective ways of combatting HIV infections – as oil based lubricants such as Crisco or even cooking oil can break or weaken a condom.

     

  • 17 Confessions From First Time Gay Sex

    17 Confessions From First Time Gay Sex

    If you’re a gay, bi or curious guy chances are you might be up for a chocolate starfish stretch… But when you do it for the first time, there are just things you don’t expect.

    (C) BIGSTOCK

    We asked our wonderful community what they thought about the first time they had anal sex.

     

    The pain (Allie)

     

    How tight my ass was lol (Jim)

     

    The pain after banging my head on the table lamp lol (Jon)

     

    The agreement that more lube is always a must. (Brad)

    Can’t really remember I was drunk . (Jim)

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    It didn’t hurt like I was expecting it too. (Jordy)

     

    It was a romantic and powerful moment for this power bottom! I felt fulfilled! (Bri)

     

    The pain! Omg the pain!!! Felt like being stabbed in the stomach and the sh*tter all at the same time! I’ve honestly felt less pain standing on a plug (Craig)

     

    How bloody selfish he was. And the size of his manhood. Ginormous (W)

     

    That it hurt like f**k, literally. And that I only truly enjoy it once I’ve become comfortable with my partner. (J)

     

    Not to laugh at the other guys sex noises while inside. (Matt)

     

    That my boyfriend who was 100% straight liked it very much. (Q)

     

    The ability to actually stay awake !!! (Sean)

     

    How much overhype there is. I was so bored, and have been every time.  (Sean)

     

    That not everyone likes doing it to ABBA! (Graham)

     

    How amazing I was.  (Daniel)

     

    Oh The Prep… Dear god… So much prep

     

     

  • Kama Suits-ya: Four Iconic Sex Positions That Work For Almost Everybody (NSFW)

    THEGAYUK welcomes back Durex sex educator and wondrously witty wordsmith Alix Fox to discuss timeless sex moves that are almost guaranteed to make the earth move for you – whether you like to give or receive (or both) between the sheets. ** You should be over the age of 18 to access this article**

    Ess-eee-ex (I mean ‘S.E.X.’, not ‘Essex’) is a very personal thing.

    Everyone has different tastes: what one guy thinks is fan-freakin-tastic will leave another feeling like he’d rather have sea urchins fired at his bollo*ks from a bazooka. Heck, there are probably even some pain fiends out there who dream about having sea urchins fired at their bollo*ks from a bazooka.

    But while there is no one bedroom-based behaviour that absolutely everybody universally loves, there are certain erotic moves that have become famous for their ability to make so many of us – ‘pitchers’ and ‘catchers’ alike – think “Mamma mia, this is making me feel chuffing brilliant; more overflowing with Wonder than Stevie’s entire family tree; like a blister full of liquid bliss that’s just about to pop; and so awesomely orgasmic that my head is spinning like a top (even if I’m a bottom!).”

    Join me in celebrating four iconic sex positions that are all fairly simple and straightforward, yet infinitely sensual and satisfying…

    Layers gonna lay, lay, lay, lay, lay: The Missionary (ABOVE)

    Missionary has an unfair reputation for being boring; the beige of bonking. Yet in reality, this traditional, no-frills-just-basic-skills position can result in a gorgeously intimate, loving experience. It allows both partners to look into each other’s eyes; share smiles as they move together; kiss and hold each other during intercourse, and enjoy maximum skin-on-skin body contact.

    It may be plain, but Missionary can also be just plain lovely.

    In addition, it’s a really good position to opt for if one or both of you are new to penetrative sex, or you’re just beginning a physical relationship with each other.

    Why? Because being face to face like this facilitates clear communication. Each of you can easily see your partner’s expressions, so you can quickly tell if they look uncomfortable and perhaps need to slow things down (or, conversely, if they’re feeling more fabulous than a drag queen’s sequin frock collection and would defy Cher and turn back time if it meant they could savour this delicious sex session all over again!). Missionary is not a position made for jackhammer banging; it lends itself to gentle thrusting, and caring, trusting lovemaking.

    Want the closeness of Missionary but fancy spicing things up with some extra sensation? Try using lube not only in the anal and genital areas, but also up over your stomachs and chests, so that you slip-slide against each other smoothly as you move.

    Cooling lube like Durex Play Tingling can be refreshing on your bodies when hot summer nights get sticky and sweaty. Its zinginess is enhanced when you blow on it, so set up an electric fan to send a breeze coursing across you both to intensify the minty freshness. Try popping the bottle in the fridge beforehand for extra chilled thrills, too. Affectionate, connected, yet hot sex, with cool effects? Missionary accomplished.

    Nice bit of ruff: The Doggy

    Doing it doggy style: the only time two gay blokes will have a Lassie in the bedroom. 😉

    You’d be barking mad not to love this iconic position. For a start, it offers fantastic visuals for the top: their lover on all fours, beautiful botty in the air, presented for him to appreciate…mmmm-mm!

    Doggy also allows for easy, comfortable entry for both parties: the receiver can spread their legs as wide as they need to, and the giver is able to clearly see what they’re doing as they ease themselves inside. That might sound obvious, but if you’ve even had a lover accidentally (and painfully) bend your wang while trying to lower themselves onto it and missing, or you’ve been prodded and poked by your partner’s peen as they try and fail to hit the target, you’ll know how much of a relief a simple, easy access position can be for both of you, especially to get things going at the beginning of a session.

    While Missionary brings lovers face to face, Doggy turns them away from each other – yet this too has its bonuses (bone-uses?!). Neither of you have to worry that your sex face looks like Deirdre Barlow opening a shocking phone bill. And if you feel like grunting, moaning, or coming out with some dirty talk filthier than a chimney sweep’s flannel, it’s a lot easier to let go when you don’t feel like you’re being watched.

    Doin’ it Doggy means the bottom can touch themselves during intercourse – or reach through their legs and fondle their lover’s testicles if they’re feeling more generous!

    However, Doggy can still be sensual and sensitive. It’s quite a vulnerable pose that requires a degree of surrender from the receiver; should the giver want to offer some tenderness, they can run their hands over their lover’s back and shoulders, and lean forwards to kiss their neck and whisper sugar-sweetness into their ears.

    Want to teach your Doggy new tricks? When he’s in the position, command your man to crawl on his hands and knees to a different room in the house. It adds a little bit of provocative power play, and mixes things up by taking you to a new location. Good boy… It’s the dog’s boll*cks.

    Saddle up, yee-haaaaaaaa!:: The Cowboy & Reverse Cowboy

    If it’s your first time to the rodeo, let me explain: the Cowboy involves one guy laying down on his back, while his man straddles him, and sits either facing his head (Standard Cowboy) or turned towards his toes (Reverse Cowboy).

    The stand-out quality of this bucking bronco of a position is that it allows the receiver to control the pace and depth of thrusting – although the giver can grab his lover’s hips or buttocks to guide this too, if he wishes.

    If you want to put on a show for your partner that will have them salivating as though they’ve just had an entire packet of Haribo Tangfastics poured into their gob, perching atop their crotch in the forward-facing Cowboy is the best pose to adopt. Treat them to the sight of you stroking your nipples; trailing your fingers down your torso; gripping yourself; leaning back to grasp their ankles…

    As with any form of anal sex, for both comfort and safety, it’s essential to use plenty of lubricant during Cowboy nookie. Silicone-based types like Durex Play Perfect Glide last much longer than water-based varieties. Certainly avoid any lube containing spermicidal ingredients, such as nonoxynol-9. These can irritate the lining of the rectum, causing itching and peeling not unlike sunburn, and making you more susceptible to infections. Keep such chemicals well away from your raunch ranch, pardner.

     

    All time blow: The 69

    Satisfying, stress-relieving, bond-enhancing, glorious, I-want-more-ious sex doesn’t have to involve penetration. And when it comes to oral pleasure, the magic number isn’t 3 – it’s 69.

    This legendary topsy-turvy type of titillation, in which both lucky lovers get a mouthful of man, can be a tad tricksy – especially if you’re not the same height – but it’s worth persevering with because mirror, mirror, on the wall, which position is the fairest of them all? Why, 69 every time, my dear: it’s the very definition of “mutually beneficial”.

    Laying side by side can be more cosy than one gent clambering on top of the other, his crotch hovering over his partner’s face and dunking into his mouth like a Rich Tea Finger into a mug of char – although some find that kind of intensity to be precisely their cup of tea.

    If you find giving oral a challenge, try sipping orange juice beforehand; it can help suppress the gag reflex. Resist adding vodka and turning it into a Harvey Wallbanger, though, however apt the name: alcohol dries and tightens the throat, which does not a brilliant blow job make.

    Follow Alix on Twitter @AlixFox and on Facebook atfacebook.com/alix.fox

    Check out Durex at durex.co.uk

     

  • Has The Gay Community Got A Problem With Slut Shaming?

    “The guy gets all the bump, the more he can score. A girl can do the same, yet you call her a whore” sang Christina Aguilera way back in her early noughties classic, “Can’t Hold Us Down”.

    She was singing about something still very relevant today, the fact women are shamed for sleeping with more than one person, while men are celebrated for doing the exact same thing. However, is this a problem in the gay community? YouTube sensation John Bird thinks so as shown in his latest video, ‘Gay Boy Problems – Slut Shaming’.

    Within the video, Bird calls out the gay community for the fact that we are, in all actuality, a little bit self-loathing. Why are we so obsessed with what is going on in everyone else’s bed? Why are we so hung up on judging each other whilst we go on about equality and pride?

    “There is nothing wrong with having a bit of fun if you are single” the vlogger argues and he has a point, there isn’t! If you can pull, then why not? A marginalised group should know better than to marginalise each other.

     

     

  • Are you more sexually adventurous than your partner?

    Research conducted by an online pharmacy has revealed that 67% of Britons believe that they are more ‘sexually adventurous’ than their partner, with a quarter of these stating that they are ‘frustrated’ by the mismatch in their sexual preferences with their partner.

    A new study by an online pharmacy in the UK, which specialises in sexual health, has revealed that a quarter of Britons are left ‘frustrated’ by their partner’s sex drive. It was unveiled that more than two thirds (67%) of people in relationships believe that they are more ‘sexually adventurous’ than their other half.

    The study was conducted by www.UKMedix.com, an online pharmacy in the UK which specialises in sexual health, in order to investigate Britons’ sexual habits and attitudes. 2,013 UK citizens took part in the online survey, all of whom were aged 18 and over and in a co-habiting relationship of six months or longer.

    Respondents were first asked ‘Do you believe that you are more sexually adventurous than your partner?’ with the term explained as ‘open-minded and willing to try new things’. More than two thirds (67%) of respondents stated that they felt they were more adventurous in the bedroom than their other half.

    These respondents were asked to share their exploits, in terms of the things they had tried in the past. The top five most popular antics of sexually ‘adventurous’ Britons were as follows:

    Role play – 72%
    Sex outdoors – 61%
    Sex in public places (e.g. toilets, lifts etc) – 37%
    Sex with a stranger – 28%
    Threesomes – 26%

    Less than half of the respondents (47%) stated that they had embarked upon these experiences with their current partner. Instead, the most common accomplice was ‘an ex-partner’ (64%), followed by ‘a friend with benefits’ (28%).

    When asked if they ever felt ‘frustrated’ with their current partner’s sexual preferences, a quarter (23%) confirmed that they did. The top three issues amongst frustrated Britons in relationships were voted as ‘my partner is not adventurous enough’ (73%), ‘my partner doesn’t want to have sex as often as I do’ (63%) and ‘my partner wants to have sex too often’ (31%). One in ten respondents, 11%, confessed that they were no longer sexually attracted to their partner.

    Sarah Bailey of UKMedix.com commented on the findings, ‘Who knew that us Brits were so adventurous in the bedroom!? It even appears that we can get a little demanding with our need for adventure! There are bound to be differences between partners in any relationship and sex is a really subjective thing. Everyone has different tastes and no two people are the same. If you are really struggling with a mismatched sex drive, then the first and most important thing to do is talk to your other half.’