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  • These are the smells that turn men on… apparently

    These are the smells that turn men on… apparently

    It’s fair to say that as gay men there are some scents that drive us insanely lustful, but these will vary widely from guy to guy.

    One man’s musty Calvins is another’s worst nightmare, however scientifically there are, apparently, some fragrances that arouse guys and the clever bods at Cosy Owl have discovered that there are a few smells that drive guys wild.

    Along with psychologist Daniel Sher, Cosy Owl dug deeper to find out what worked and what didn’t.

    These are the scents that triggered a sexual response

    Pumpkin Pie, Black Liquorice and Doughnut came up as the most arousing scents for guys.

    So the next time you find yourself in a Krispy Kreme’s line and holding down a raging man pole, it could be the scent of those holely cooked goods that are getting your all worked up!

    Daniel Sher is a registered clinical psychologist and a consultant for the Between Us Clinic commented,

    “Previous studies suggest that the combination of lavender and pumpkin pie is the most popular scent, followed by black liquorice and doughnut. Other studies suggest that musk triggers a sexual response because it is reminiscent of testosterone. Women are also most likely to have a sexual response to odours including baby powder; and candy with cucumber.

    “Neurological studies which show that the olfactory lobe (the part of the brain responsible for processing smells) is one of the structures that make up the limbic system (the emotional centre of the brain). The limbic system also plays an important role in a person’s sex drive. Based on brain anatomy, therefore, researchers believe that sex, smell and emotion are all closely interconnected”.

    Richard Fewings of Cosy Owl also commented:

    “We wanted to turn up the heat and go all the way this Valentine’s Day by helping our customers with their ‘interior decorating’ skills (wink)… If you want to ignite the flame in your relationship, make sure you have these scents ready and waiting at home this Valentines Day.”

    If you’re looking to up your game for true BDE (big dick energy), Cosy Owl has created a designated fragrance oil category for lovers, based on the scents that turn us on the most: https://www.cosyowl.com/candle-making-supplies/fragrance-oils/love

  • Is it safe to use a banana as a sex toy?

    Is it safe to use a banana as a sex toy?

    Ever wondered whether it was safe to use a banana in the bedroom?

    Is it safe to use a banana as a sex toy?

    It might seem like a no brainer – after all banana are a bit penisy – and are cheap as, well bananas but they might not actually be the best thing to use as a sex toy.

    There are two main issues. One they are very squishy once out of their skins – I wouldn’t recommend using a banana with its skin still on, because the ends are quite rough and could cause internal damage.

    Secondly, bananas don’t have a flared end, like dildos and butt plugs, which means if you lose your grip you’re going to have to poop it out, or maybe even mush it out. Which might be your thing, but probably won’t feel great.

    What’s more, if you end up having trouble passing it, you could end up in casualty, which let’s face it is not the best way to spend a Sunday morning.

    Sex and Fruit

    can you use fruit for sex?
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    Using fruit and veg could be a great way to excite and reignite your sex life though. Using soft fleshy, non-acidic fruit such as honeydew melons or watermelons can be an exciting way to get new sensations. Simply put a hole in it and thrusting in and out will provide interesting brand new feelings.

    Alternatively, you can always use other foodstuffs such as chocolate spreads or even Marmite, who recently brought out body paint.

    Caution must be used when inserting anything into your butt that doesn’t have a handle or gives a good grip. People have ended up in A&E after failing to retrieve a cucumber, banana or carrot that’s gotten lodged in their rectums. Anything that gets stuck up your butt will be a painful experience that can actually lead to death if left untreated. We would urge anyone who has gotten anything stuck up there to seek medical advice immediately, no matter how embarrassed you feel.

    Oh did I say use lots of lube…>

    Alternatives?

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    If you’re looking to insert something of a edible variety, why not try a lollipop or ice cubes, which will melt.

    It’s best to use toys that are actually designed for insertion, such as dildos and vibrators. Don’t forget if you’re using toys together and share them, to use a fresh condom before using it on your partner, and wash them properly after use.

    If you are going to insert a carrot, gherkin, cucumber or banana, make sure you’re relaxed. Some of these veg can be much larger than a penis, so using lots of lube and taking your time is a must.

  • The Rules of Rough Sex

    The Rules of Rough Sex

    This week, columnist Scott Sammons gives us a rundown of rule for rough sex.

    This article is NSFW, please click here to confirm you are over 18.

  • There’s a cockring that has a camera on it…

    There’s a cockring that has a camera on it…

    There are some angles we’ve always wanted to view and now you can, thanks to a cockring, that’s also a camera.

    Up until now, there was really only one view that hasn’t been recorded for the viewing pleasure of the masses and that was the cockeye view. But now, thanks to this new camera, called the CockCam, which doubles up as a handy cockring you’ll be able to view your ass being slammed from the viewpoint of your top’s penis.

    2019 people. 2019.

    The cockcam simply slides over the top’s dong and when linked via wifi will film whatever is put in front of it. Mouth, ass, melon. Whatever.

    According to the website, the developers have “encased the camera in a luxury feel matt black ring, which has a stretchy, yet tight sleeve. Designed to fit snuggly around the base of your cock, to give the camera a great point of view and also helps you keep a bigger and harder erection”.

    There’s also a nightvision mode. Just in case you decide to go hoophunting in the dark.

    And it’s a snip at just $149 (currently $20 off).

    H/t CocktailsAndCocktalk

  • Want to up your orgasm game? You need to try these four exercise types

    Want to up your orgasm game? You need to try these four exercise types

    From our partners at GayFitnessUK: Our eternal search for an orgasm is important to us both as individuals and as a society. So we’re here to help you get the best orgasm you possibly can.

    Luckily there’s been plenty of research into the topic of how to get more bang for your buck!

    1. Strong abs = a strong orgasm

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    Not only will a great set of abs make you more likely to have sex, but they’ll also make you have better sex. In fact, extreme core workouts have even been known to lead to spontaneous orgasms in the gym (although mostly with women) and working your core to the point of fatigue is a great way to get all those nerve endings firing “down there”.

    2. Boost your testosterone

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    It’s no surprise that higher testosterone levels increase your chance of achieving an orgasm, it is the sex hormone after all. So if you’re planning a sexy encounter, then head to the gym and smash out some high-intensity interval training, or lift a load of heavy, manly weights. Compound moves like the bench press or deadlifts have been shown to increase T-levels, and according to researchers at Athens’ Military Hospital in Greece, the more testosterone a man has in his bloodstream, the better his chances of achieving orgasm.

    3. Yoga and meditation

    man doing yoga asanas in the park on the hill at sunny day in the summer

    If you’ve ever been to a sex therapist or read one of their blogs, the key to achieving a full-bodied orgasm is through controlled breathing. Deep regular breaths allow for prolonged lovemaking and a more satisfying orgasm, whereas short rapid breathing tends to increase excitement and push you “over the edge”. Slow and controlled exercise like a yoga class will instil in you the importance of deep breathing and connecting your breath to the movement.

    Which would you prefer, a short, panting pounding, or slow, deep thrusts?

    4.Kegel exercises

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    You’ve heard of these right? You can do your kegals whenever wherever you are. I’m doing mine right now. The pubococcygeal (PC) muscle is at the floor of your pelvis and controls both your urination flow and the spasms during climax. Squeezing as if you were holding back your pee will help to develop your PC power. Try and do 20 squeezes, three times a day.

    First published on GayFitnessUK

  • Is it safe to use a cucumber for sex without a condom?

    Is it safe to use a cucumber for sex without a condom?

    Some veggies can make for great and super cheap sex toys…

    If you are using a piece of veg and you’re by yourself, it is most likely to be safe without using a condom, with a few provisos.

    Make sure you wash that thing (let’s call it a vegtoy) good and proper. You don’t want to be putting whatever is on the skin of your vegtoy – like insecticides, bacteria from other people’s hands who have touched it first and well, general dirt from the ground that might be left on the veg.

    Once you’ve washed it you’re good to go, after you check that there are no hard edges or pieces that likely to come off.

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    However, if you’re using it with another person – and you’re sharing the vegtoy, then you should, as with any insertable toy you use in anal play, use a condom. One, it helps protect you from sharing any infections the other person may have but, two, it also helps with keeping the toy clean from, well, let’s face it poop if you’re anally inserting.

    Much bigger than you think

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    Just remember veggies are often much harder and bigger than you think. In all likelihood If you actually saw a penis the size of a Sainsbury’s organic cucumber, you might run from the room screaming, (although we do like a challenge).

    So take it slow and use lube.

    Another thing to consider is that as certain veg warms up (with your body warmth), a cucumber and definitely a banana will become a bit mushy. If it breaks apart you might have trouble retrieving parts from inside you. If this happens, don’t stress. Smaller parts will eventually come out if you let nature take its course.

    A word of warning: Extreme caution must be used when inserting anything into your butt that doesn’t have a handle, a flared base or gives good grip. Many people have ended up in A&E after failing to retrieve a cucumber, banana or carrot lodged in their rectums. A painful experience that can actually lead to death if left untreated.

    We would urge anyone who has gotten anything stuck up there to seek medical advice immediately, no matter how embarrassed you feel.

    Most if not all dildos come with a flared base. If you’re looking for an inexpensive dildo, check out the range of dildos at THEGAYSHOP.

    It’s best to use implements that are actually designed for insertion, such as dildos and vibrators.

    If you are going to insert a carrot, gherkin, cucumber or banana, make sure you’re relaxed. Some of these veg can be much larger than a penis, so using lots of lube and taking your time is a must. Oh did I say use lots of lube…   There are a few types, Water-based, Silicone and even numbing.

    Using food for sex

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    Using fruit and veg could be a great way to excite and reignite your sex life. Using soft fleshy, non-acidic fruit such as honeydew melons or watermelons can be an exciting way to get new sensations. Simply put a hole in it and thrusting in and out will provide interesting brand new feelings.

    Have you ever tried “the peach” as made famous in Call Me By Your Name? We’ve put together seven sex scenes from the movies you can try at home.

    Alternatively, you can always use other foodstuffs such as chocolate spreads or even Marmite, who recently brought out body paint.

    Oh did I say use lots of lube…   

    If you’re looking to insert food, why not try a lollipop or ice cubes, which will melt. Use the ones that you can make yourself with a plastic stick. Store-bought lollipops might have a wood stick, which could leave splinters inside you. Ouch!

    Whatever you’re doing, be creative and have fun!

  • DILEMMA | Is my depression medication stopping me from getting hard?

    DILEMMA | Is my depression medication stopping me from getting hard?

    Can medication affect your ability to get hard and stay hard? Dr Nitin Shori answers your question.

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    Dear TGUK,

    I’m in my 30s and I’ve been having trouble getting it up. I’m currently on medication for depression so I’m wondering if that is what is causing my ability to get hard. I don’t want to come off the depression meds, but my failure at not being able to keep an erection is causing a few issues in the bedroom.

    Paul

    Dear Paul,

    A low sex drive and inability to maintain an erection can be a side effect of many antidepressants. However, depression itself can also cause these same problems.
     
    It’s important that you treat your depression and tackle the underlying factors that might be causing it. If you speak to your GP they may be able to change your medication to one that has less of an affect on your libido or consider whether your depression itself is the cause.
     
    There are also other factors that can affect your sex drive and it may be worth considering them.
     
    Erectile dysfunction, or impotence, is a very common condition, particularly among older men.
     
    Stress, anxiety, fatigue and certain health conditions are also common factors in causing impotence, while excessive drug or alcohol miss-use can also affect sexual performance.
     
    Another factor could be age. Testosterone levels naturally start to fall for most men from the age of about 30 or 40.

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    While many automatically associate testosterone with sexual performance, this powerful hormone has a much wider influence and can often impact on energy levels and motivation, as well as loss of strength and muscle mass.
     
    If the above is ringing bells you can test for testosterone and consider gels or supplements which will boost your levels. You can get testosterone testing kits and prescriptions online if you’re pressed for time to see your doctor and want to rule this out.
     
    There’s also a range of products that can help with erectile dysfunction available online if you want to be discreet, including Viagra.
     
    Given your circumstances, you should discuss your antidepressant medication with your GP before you start exploring other potential causes of impotence.

     

    Have you got a dilemma? Click here to let us know about your dilemma

  • Gay guys reveal the biggest deal breakers in the bedroom

    Gay guys reveal the biggest deal breakers in the bedroom

    From being too drugged to smelly foreskins here are some of the things that gay men say are the deal breakers for them in the bedroom.

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    Drunken behaviour, bad smells and poor hygiene are amongst some of the deal breakers for gay men across the globe. Writing in Reddit, users wrote about the things that turned them off in the bedroom.

    Bad smells

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    Unsurprisingly bad smells and poor personal hygiene were big factors, with one user saying “Smell. A man has to smell clean. If he smells bad, he’s out. That might be smokers breath, or cheesy foreskin, or body odour, or whatever. If I smell him before we hook up and he stinks, he’s not even getting into the bedroom”

    Another added, “Stinky foreskin is the absolute worst thing in the world.”

    However not everybody has an issue with smell, one user said, “I’m the opposite: he has to smell. I don’t like perfumed soaped clean freaks.”

    NEXT >>> GUYS WHO ONLY WANT TO DO IT IN… >>>

  • Met Police are reaching out to sex workers to combat violent attacks against the community

    The Metropolitan Police have launched a campaign to reach out to sex workers in London who are victims of violence.

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    On the International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers, the Metropolitan Police Service (MPS) is today encouraging those who work in the industry and find themselves victims of crime to have the confidence to report to police.

    “Increased risk of violence and abuse”

    Commander Richard Smith, the Met’s lead on Safeguarding, said, “We are supporting this positive day of action and recognition; working to reduce the violence experienced by sex workers is something we do all year round. By the very nature of sex work, those engaged in the activity are at increased risk of violence and abuse and are often reluctant to report such matters to the police. We understand the barriers, fears and reluctance that sex workers might face when they consider reporting abuse, but we take all allegations of this nature extremely seriously and will investigate them fully. We are seeking to increase sex-workers’ confidence to report allegations to the police and seek advice from the wide range of support agencies operating across London.”

    The MPS has a senior Lead Responsible Officer (LRO) at Superintendent level responsible for developing a coordinated response to reduce the risk and harm faced by sex-workers & the associated impacts on local communities.

    Commander Smith, adds, “No one, regardless of their profession, should be the victim of any form of violence or abuse, and we will continue to support ending violence against those working in the sex trade. Our primary focus will always be to protect vulnerable individuals from harm, regardless of their circumstances.

    “Dealing with sex work presents some considerable and complex challenges and requires police to work closely with local communities and both statutory and voluntary partners. Alongside our commitment to protect vulnerable people from harm, we recognise the adverse impact that prostitution can cause to local communities. We will take appropriate action when it is necessary and proportionate to do so to keep all members of London’s communities safe. We also actively pursue individuals who control & coerce others to enter or remain in prostitution and who profit from trafficking and exploitation. The police response to sex work in London has evolved significantly and we maintain strong working relationships with a number of support agencies including National Ugly Mugs (NUM).”

    60 to 80 crimes every month

    Dr Raven Bowen, CEO of National Ugly Mugs (NUM) states, “Since 2012, NUM has been a formalised mechanism for sex workers to report crimes perpetrated against them. Through our scheme, sex workers either share this information anonymously with others, or go forward to provide full reports to police and proceed through the criminal justice system in pursuit of justice.

    “We receive between 60 and 80 reports of crime by sex workers every month, more than one every day; however, less than 10% access police for support due to the combined effects of continued criminalisation, stigma and harmful social policies. We aim to shape services to be more responsive to the needs of sex workers.

    Dr Bowen adds: “NUM and MPS collaborate around shared goals of increasing sex workers’ access to justice and reducing the rates of victimisation. This year, NUM has launched our #IDEVASW memorial card (available on our website) that holds the names of 182 sex workers who have been murdered since 1990. Unfortunately, this week we added yet another name to this list. We urge your acknowledgement of the valuable lives of sex workers, and ask your commitment towards activities that reduce predatory violence and increase rights, entitlements and protections for these valuable members of our communities.”

  • What are the most annoying things guys do during sex?

    “be on their phone looking for the next guy to hook up with”

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    Some guys, honestly.

    Okay, we get it, no one guy is perfect, but some of us take the soggy biscuit too far as evidenced in a recent thread on Reddit when some gay guys shared what the most annoying things guys did to them during sex.

    There was everything from checking phones during the act to sexy talk that just wasn’t that sexy.

    Boy Pussy. Apparently calling your butt hole a “boy pussy” or bussy, is a definite no-no.  [via]

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    God’s gift? Acting like a jerk is never sexy, this one user said, “Acting like they’re a gift to you, not reciprocating in foreplay, pounding like a rabbit and busting in 2 minutes asking you if it was good” is also annoying. [via]

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    Size isn’t everything… but apparently, if you’re not blessed with a huge package but repeatedly ask the question, “do you like my big cock” along with other references to how big you are, is annoying. But interestingly it works the other way around too. [via]

    If you’re not well-endowed and the bottom partner goes on and on about how big you are, is truly annoying. [via]

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    Look who’s talking “Talking too much. Either about sex or more annoyingly about something else entirely. I’m happy to chat before/after sex but I don’t wanna hear about your sister’s new boyfriend or that your dog is at the vets… stop.” [via]

    Noisey sexer, also: “Two days ago I had a guy snorting while he was fucking me. Like, making pig noises. No thanks” [via]

    Devil Kissing “Kissing me with a pointed tongue, it feels hard and not comfortable to rub my tongue across it, relax your tongue muscles!” [via]

    Also on the block is sloppy kissers… “Some men are all drool and it’s just a mess. I love French kissing, but not with someone who drools like a Bassett hound” [via]

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    Play that tune… When you spend all that time creating a sex playlist on Spotify… DAMN YOU [via]

     

    What are the most annoying things that have happened to you during sex?

     

  • Tops: Have you been guilty of “Nugget Shaming”?

    Tops: Have you been guilty of “Nugget Shaming”?

    Have you heard about nugget shaming? Well, boys, it’s about time we talked about it.

    The terminology might be new but it’s something most bottoms will know. That feeling of dread as your top pulls his dick out of your butt and your lower colon has left a little “gift”, the nugget if you will.

    You see, sometimes we forget, both tops and bottoms, that our booties have more than one use. It’s not just a sexy plaything it’s actually the place were our bodies evacuate the waste from our bodies and it can’t be expected to be 100 percent clean 100 percent of the time – because our bodies are constantly making new poops. It’s nature’s miracle. It’s natural and you can’t stop it, nor should you want to.

    Let’s examine this. Porn tells us, and let’s face it, that’s where we get most of our sex education, thanks to a woefully inadequate sex ed policy, that bottoms must ready 100. At a moment’s notice a bottom might be expected to be able to take a 10 incher immediately, for a 20 to 30-minute pounding and at the end must not expel wind or have any trace of the substance that usually comes out… lest it ruins the atmosphere. That expectation isn’t necessarily disposed upon us by toxic tops, nope, sometimes that expectation is all us – and why wouldn’t it be, in the absence of education, expectation is sometimes all we have.

    Of course, bottoms will have their tricks – half an hour of douching, Immodium, fibre supplements, yes, even the rhythm methods can be used, I’ve even heard of some porn stars eating nothing but fruit and ice for up to two days before a shoot, but ultimately we can never be sure that when you pull your d out of our a’s that it’s not doing to produce a little nugget for you – and maybe we need to be okay with that.

    After all, that’s why we have wipes, towels and showers isn’t it?

    So give your partner a break and don’t shame him if an accident happens.

    We recently asked some tops what they thought of poop incidents, on the whole (pun intended), guys were supportive, but for some, it was a deal breaker.

    Shame really.