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  • Are there helplines for male domestic abuse survivors?

    Are there helplines for male domestic abuse survivors?

    Millions of people unable to leave their homes due to new lockdown restricions enacted by the government, but it’s important to remember, that if you’re or you know someone who is in danger from someone you or they live with, that there are resources to help.

    Northumbria’s police force was keen to say that they were there to support survivors during the next month and beyond.

    If your home is not save seek support

    Northumbria Police’s Detective Superintendent Deborah Alderson, of the Safeguarding Department, said: “We know that home is not a safe place for those experiencing domestic abuse, and another lockdown vastly limits a physical escape and access to friends, family and support networks.

    “If your home is not a safe environment then we urge you to seek support, to contact police. We will do everything we can do to support you which can include finding safe accommodation for you and your children or removing abusers from homes.

    “The police are always here for you and lockdown should not mean locked up with your abuser. Anyone suffering abuse is allowed to leave their home and seek support from police, charities, friends or family.”

    What are the helplines available for victims of domestic abuse

    Domestic violence and abuse helplines
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    National Domestic Abuse Helpline

    0808 2000 247

    The Men’s Advice Line, for male domestic abuse survivors

    0808 801 0327

    The Mix, free imformation and support for under 25s in the UK.

    0808 808 4994

    National LGBT+ Domestic Abuse Helpline

    0800 999 5428

    Karma Nirvana (support for “honour” based violence and forced marriage)

    0800 5999 247

    Samaritans

    116 123

    Respect Helpline

    0808 802 4040

  • Have you heard of arming?

    Have you heard of arming?

    On a recent episode of the Demystifying Gay Porn podcast with I.Que Grande, fetish porn star HungerFF said that rather than starring in fisting porn, it could be more described as “arming” when questioned what he meant by that, he joked, “Anatomically or genetically or for some reason my insides allow me to take an entire arm in my butt…”

    Arming just takes it a step (or staircase further)

    When asked to describe what fisting was, HungerFF, who has created his own JustForFans empire, replied, “The insertion of someone’s hand into someone’s butthole or vag (vagina)”

    I.Que probed, “but what you do is extreme fisting”, to which HungerFF replied, that extreme fisting was beyond just the hand or wrist adding that it’s, “punch fucking or arm fucking”.

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    HungerFF went on to explain, “Most guys if they can take a fist, they can take it up to the wrist… and then there are people like me, who take it a step or an entire stair further than that”.

    Take a listen to the podcast on Spotify…

  • Anderson Cooper just called Trump “an obese turtle”

    Anderson Cooper just called Trump “an obese turtle”

    CNN anchor Anderson Cooper said that Donald Trump was like “an obese turtle on its back flailing in the hot Sun” after the 45th President of the US threatened legal action over the hotly contested Presidential election.

    The comment came after the 45th held a press conference at the White House to claim that the Democrats were stealing the election with voter fraud, a claim that has not been proved.

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    As it currently stands the Democrats and former Vice President, Joe Biden are ahead, with 264 electoral college votes, while Trump has 214. The next President of the US must have 270 votes to claim overall victory.

    There are still five states yet to declare.

    “Sad and it is truly pathetic”

    After the press conference, Cooper said, “I don’t think we’ve ever seen anything like this from the president of the United States and I think, as Jake [Tapper] said, it’s sad and it is truly pathetic and, of course, it’ll go through the courts, but you’ll notice the president did not have any evidence presented at all, nothing, no real actual evidence of any kind of fraud”.

    “That is the president of the United States, that is the most powerful person in the world and we see him like an obese turtle on his back flailing in the hot Sun realising his time is over.

    “But he just hasn’t accepted it and he wants to take everyone down with him, including this country.”

  • Jeffree Star is giving away a whopping $9,000 for no reason

    Jeffree Star is giving away a whopping $9,000 for no reason

    Makeup creator and influencer Jeffree Star took to social media today to offer three random fans $3,000 each, with one catch. Just retweet the tweet.

    The star messaged his 7.2 million followers on Twitter, “Who needs help today?? I’m going to pick 3 random people who retweet this and send them $3,000. Love you guys”

    Needless to say, the influencer was inundated with messages and retweets – as of publishing around the tweet has received 40,000 RTs and over 60,000 comments.

    And it seems as though the star is already paying out. One single mum tweeted,

    “I could really use the help. Single mom now at home in quarantine with my kiddos that were exposed to covid at school, waiting on test results. Need help with food and rent. @JeffreeStar you are a beautiful sole [sic]”

    To which Jeffree replied, “Check your account. Much love”

    Nice!

  • If you’re LGBT+, Black or Female and travelling to the US in the future you might wanna avoid these states

    If you’re LGBT+, Black or Female and travelling to the US in the future you might wanna avoid these states

    The US election has been startling and gripping to watch in equal measure. There’s no doubt that the Trump presidency has been truly divisive and many minorities including, POC and LGBT+ folks have been poorly treated by his administration.

    The 2020 Presidential election turn out has been huge and the fallout from the result will sure to be grim for some places in the US.

    But we’ve done some research on in which States Donald Trump and the Republican party got the most votes and because of that party’s policies towards women’s rights, LGBT+ folk and well and the out and out racism that Trump’s administration has fueled in America in last four years, you might want to stay clear of these States, which voted Trump in large numbers.

    For reference, if a state voted in the majority for the Republicans, but didn’t pass 54% (such as Texas, Florida and Iowa) we excluded them from this list.

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    Wyoming

    Trump 70% (193,454)

    West Virginia

    Trump 69% (539,610)

    North Dakota

    Trump 65% (234,845)

    Oklahoma

    Trump 65% (1,018,870)

    Idaho

    Trump 64% (554,019

    Arkansas

    Trump 63% (754, 987)

    Kentucky

    Trump 63% (1,315,457

    Alabama

    Trump 62% (1,430,589)

    South Dakota

    Trump 62% (261,019)

    Tennessee

    Trump 61% (1,949,209)

    Mississippi

    Trump 59% (655,914)

    Nebraska

    Trump 59% (544,120)

    Utah

    Trump 59% (638,258)

    Indiana

    Trump 58% (1,652,379)

    Louisiana

    Trump 58% (1,255,481)

    Kansas

    Trump 57% (744,904)

    Missouri

    Trump 57% (1,711,848)

    Montana

    Trump 57% (340,635 votes)

    South Carolina

    Trump 55% (1,360,343)

    Now, this is not to say that people who live in these states are themselves racist, homophobic or misogynistic… we’d never make that claim, but WTF Wyoming… 70 per cent?

    Now for balance, is Joe Biden pro-gay?

    Is Biden the knight in shining armour that people are hoping?

    Joe Biden didn’t always support LGBT+ rights. In fact, his stance on same-sex marriage in 2012, was a turn-a-round moment for him. after he voted against it in 2006. In 2004 he voted to cut off federal funds to schools that taught the acceptance of homosexuality.

    However, if words and his recent actions are to be believed, then Biden’s evolution could see him become the most pro-equality President the US has ever seen. He’s seemingly an equal opportunist, having place Kamala Harris has his Vice President running mate.

  • Yet another Brighton LGBT bar falls victim to 2020. “Terrible loss” and for the community

    Yet another Brighton LGBT bar falls victim to 2020. “Terrible loss” and for the community

    2020 has turned out to be a truly unsustainable year for so many industries, but LGBT+ venues are getting a real battering right now, thanks to the tier system, uncertainty surrounding lockdowns and the controversial 10 PM curfew enacted by the government.

    Bar Broadway in Brighton has announced that it is closing and many former patrons and performers are mourning its loss, including Drag Queen Tanya Hyde who said the closure was a “terrible loss for Brighton and the scene”.

    The bar, which is relatively new on the Brighton gay scene, opening in 2014, had been an incredibly busy and distinct venue for the area.

    Brighton’s Gay Men’s Chorus, wrote, “All of us at Brighton Gay Men’s Chorus would like to express our deep sadness and regret on hearing the news that Bar Broadway has had to close its doors for the last time. Having spent many unforgettable nights there celebrating after our own shows, it will be a huge loss, not only to us, but to the whole community. We wish the management and staff all the best for the future and hope that this is only just the start of something new for them all.”

    Drag Queen Maria Gardner wrote, “Bar Broadway was far more than a bar to me. It was a place that gave me the opportunity to start my drag career, they comforted me through a tough breakup, they gave me space to heal and sing for so many likeminded Disney lovers, I hosted my first Fringe shows there, collab shows with Alfie Ordinary, MenTalkHealth and 2 hilarious birthday bashes plus I made some of my closest friends I could ever ask for in this space.”

    Earlier in the year, the iconic Legends fell into administration, but since the report was brought back into existence.

  • UNDER THREAT: Council Of Europe “concerned” For Safety And Rights Of LGBT+ People Of Poland

    UNDER THREAT: Council Of Europe “concerned” For Safety And Rights Of LGBT+ People Of Poland

    Delegates from the Council of Europe have said that they are “concerned” for gay people’s rights and safety in Poland after a fact-finding mission in the country found that some local and regional authorities had adopted so-called “anti-LGBT ideology”.

    In a statement they wrote,

    “Sexual orientation has become a polarising issue in Polish society; this is also increasingly reflected in local and regional authorities, some of which have adopted so-called “anti-LGBTI ideology” resolutions and declarations, and family charters” noted the members of the Congress delegation.

    They added, “We are concerned about the negative impact this situation has on LGBTI people’s lives, rights and safety”.

    Fact-finding

    On 2 and 3 November 2020, the delegation gathered facts and insight from the government, parliamentarians, the ombudsman, local and regional authorities and their associations, and NGOs.

    Referring to the European Convention on Human Rights ratified by Poland in 1993, the delegation recalled that Article 14 expressly prohibits discrimination on all grounds and protects everyone including LGBT+ people.

    “Local authorities have a crucial role in upholding citizens’ rights as well as promoting dialogue and social cohesion”, they stressed.

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    A report on the fact-finding mission will be submitted to the Congress and other Council of Europe institutions and the findings will serve for the preparation of a report on “the role and responsibilities of local authorities in the protection of LGBTI people” to be considered by the Congress early 2021.

  • Gay Dating | What does “A Levels” mean on dating or escorting sites?

    Gay Dating | What does “A Levels” mean on dating or escorting sites?

    Decoding “A Levels” – if you see “A Levels” in someone’s dating, hook up or even sex-worker profile here is what it means.

    Simply put it means Anal Sex and has nothing to do with the exams that school leavers take before heading off to university!

    Mostly used in the UK and traditionally used by sex workers to show that they offer anal sex as one of their services. Not every escort site uses the term, but you can still see it on sites like Vivastreet.

    Check out more gay dating terms.

  • HIV diagnoses in gay and bi men are at their lowest in 20 years

    HIV diagnoses in gay and bi men are at their lowest in 20 years

    The number of cases of new HIV diagnoses in gay and bisexual men has fallen by 80%, to its lowest point in 20 years.

    The new data, released today from Public Health England (PHE) shows that there were 1,700 new infections in 2019, down from a peak of 2,700 in 2011. However, the number of actual new infections, happening within the year was actually 540 – this is because people can live with HIV for some time without being aware of their status.

    Before 2019’s new low, the lowest point was in the year 2000, when there were 1500 new cases in gay and bi men.

    New cases in heterosexual people also hit a new low, of 1,600 – the lowest since 1998.

    While the proportion of people diagnosed late remained high at 42%, the overall number decreased from around 1,900 in 2015 to 1,300 in 2019.  People diagnosed late in 2019 had an eight-fold risk of death compared to those diagnosed promptly.

    Why has the decline happened?

    The decline in HIV transmission in gay and bisexual men can be directly linked to the increase in combination prevention, including the use of condoms, pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP), frequent HIV testing in a wide range of settings, and starting antiretroviral therapy (ART) as soon as possible after diagnosis.

    According to the PHE, treatment is now so effective that 97% of people receiving ART have undetectable levels of the virus which means it is impossible to pass the virus on, even if having sex without condoms. Undetectable = untransmittable (U=U)

    HIV Testing is vital

    HIV testing is vital for preventing HIV-related illness and death and to achieve the goal of ending HIV transmission in the UK by 2030. The UK continues to meet the United Nations Programme on HIV and AIDS (UNAIDS) 90-90-90 targets for the third consecutive year; however, there are opportunities to improve uptake of testing and support those testing positive to continue their treatment.

    Almost 300,000 people declined to have an HIV test when they attended a specialist sexual health service. Black African heterosexual women attendees were more likely to decline a test than Black African heterosexual men (20% vs 9% declined testing) but less likely than heterosexual women and men overall (25% vs 13%). More focussed conversations on HIV, testing, prevention and treatment in schools and clinical settings can help to combat high rates of declined tests.

    By comparison, only 4% of gay and bisexual men attending specialist sexual health services declined an HIV test; this is the group in which the greatest declines in HIV transmission have been achieved.

    Dr Valerie Delpech, Head of HIV Surveillance at Public Health England, said, “In the UK, we have made great progress towards eliminating HIV transmission by 2030. Frequent HIV testing, the offer of PrEP among those most at risk of HIV, together with prompt treatment among those diagnosed, remain key to ending HIV transmission by 2030.

    “Further progress can only be achieved if we also address the inequalities in reducing HIV transmission that exist around sexuality, ethnicity and geography.”

    How to stop HIV?

    The most common way of getting HIV in the UK is through sex with a person who is unaware of their HIV infection.

    You can protect yourself from HIV by consistent and correct condom use with new and casual partners, by using PrEP, or if your partner is on treatment and is undetectable if they are living with HIV. Correct and consistent condom use will also stop you getting or transmitting other STIs.

    People can get tested through free tests available from sexual health clinics, GP surgeries, as well as through a self-sampling service or by using a self-testing kit.

  • Dad asks the internet for advice after seeing his son kiss his “best friend”

    Dad asks the internet for advice after seeing his son kiss his “best friend”

    After seeing his son kiss another lad in town, one dad took to Reddit to ask on how he should speak to him about it.

    He laid out the situation like this,

    “I saw my son (16) kissing his “best friend”. I didn’t tell my wife because she will probably hate him because of it but how could I? I really love him he’s my son after all and I don’t mind him being gay.

    My question is how can I help him when he comes out and should I tell him to hold it back with his mom?”

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    Well, let’s just hold on a minute there as we refreeze our melted hearts. This guy might be up for dad of the year award.

    Never ones to fail, guys of the AskGayMen forum, did not hold back on their advice.

    Don’t confront…

    With one suggesting that the dad didn’t “confront him” and that the boy would “tell you when he’s ready… but maybe you can work it into a conversation that you’re okay with it”

    While another suggested that being subtle was everyone’s friend, “just be a lot more subtle than you initially think. It’s probably front and centre in his mind, so he will be very sensitive to the subject”.

    While another echoed. “If I were your son I wouldn’t want to be confronted (that’s just me tho) if I’m not ready to come out I don’t want others outing me, imo you should create a supportive environment and low-key and subtly let your son know that you are lgbtq+ supportive”.

    Confronting the homophobes

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    Confronting homophobes and homophobia in a public setting was suggested by the commentators, to show that he was supportive of the gay community.
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    On the subject of his wife, one user suggested that the dad should “confront people who say homophobic things or at the very least say you disagree and explain your position. This will show your son that he doesn’t have to be afraid of talking about these kinds of things with you.”

    The dad replied, “I never said anything against it. But I’ll definitely do it the next time.”

    Total. Winner.

  • Gay Dating | What does DP mean?

    Gay Dating | What does DP mean?

    Decoding DP – if you see “DP” in someone’s dating or Grindr profile, here is what it means.

    Simply put it means Double Penetration.

    Yes, that’s two cocks up your bum. Not for the faint-hearted and probably only for a guy who is an experienced bottom.

    He’ll probably need quite a bit of prep time and a lot of warming up with a lot of foreplay. Remember not to rush the experience and take your time.

    Oh and with any kind of anal sex, don’t forget the lube, go for a long-lasting lube, like a silicone-based lube, which is less tacky than water-based lube and generally lasts much longer without drying out.

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