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  • Why Zombie-ing is the new dating trend that’s gonna totally f*ck around with your love life

    Why Zombie-ing is the new dating trend that’s gonna totally f*ck around with your love life

    So we know about ghosting and we know how to spot a fuckboy, what happens when you put the two together, well, you get something truly hellish. Welcome to Zombie-ing.

    Ghosting is where a guy you’ve been chatting to on an app, or even have hooked up with, simply doesn’t return your messages or calls. Not even a tag… After a while, you think to yourself, ‘hmm, okay, it’s done and dusted, it’s time to move on’ – good for you, but with Zombie-ing that bastard, comes back to life, without warning and starts sliding into your DMs, phoning, texting, or Grindr messages you like he was never away.

    There you are, watching the latest series of The Crown, yep, we see you Crown Queens, on Netflix, when ping, a DM comes in from a guy you hooked up with before the Coronavirus stopped our collective dating / hook up life back in March… Except as soon as lockdown came into force, he stopped messaging you completely. Yep, he ghosted you. Now months on. He’s back. Like a zombie out of The Walking Dead and he’s wanting your boy brains (okay that metaphor doesn’t work).

    So what’s the difference between a Ghost and a Zombie?

    What is Zombie-ing
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    Well, according to Cosmo a Zombie is kind of like an upgrade (or actual downgrade depending on your view) from a ghost. Gabi Conti writes, “Ghosting is when someone vanishes and you never hear from them. A true ghost will never reach out to you again in any form. If they do, then congrats: Your ghost has just upgraded themselves into a zombie.”

    Why are guys Zombie-ing?

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    Well, we going out on a limb here and going to say that Zombie-ing is happening because he’s bored AF or has run out of other guys willing to put up with his shit. With lockdowns in place all over the world, guys will be finding willing sex partners limiting, so maybe he’s going back over his old flings and seeing who will reconnect.

    So should you reconnect with a Zombie?

    Well, man, that’s totally up to you, but first, what are you going to get out of this reconnection? You really gotta put yourself first. Even if the D was really, really good.

    You should consider what happened in your relationship before he first ghosted you and then remember how pissed you were with him when he did that. Remember that? Yeah, so not cool.

    Remember apologies are just words and its actions that really speak, so if he really wants to get back in your good books, make him prove it.

    If you’re cool with just a hookup or a booty call (once lockdown is over) then go for it, you’ve got nothing to lose.

  • Here Netflix’s secret codes for all gay and LGBT+ content

    Here Netflix’s secret codes for all gay and LGBT+ content

    Does it ever feel like you actually run out of stuff to watch on Netflix?

    Trouble is, Netflix can feel like a bit of an iceberg, only a fraction of the available content is easy to find right there on the front page. The rest, the hidden 90 per cent, can feel like a taunting and neverending task of endless searching.

    Strangely enough using Netflix.com can be easier to find the content you’re looking for, rather than Fire TV or the dreaded Apple TV.

    Weirdly depending on what device you’re using, searching Netflix for that next great find can either simple or an hours worth of wasted time. We’ve used a number of devices ranging from the simplest (iPad) to the mediocre (Fire TV) to the downright unstable (Apple TV gen 2) .

    For the record, using Netflix’s website to find content is always much easier. So you might want log in there first using your laptop or iPad find something that looks good then go back to your browsing device and use the search to manually type in the title.

    Luckily Netflix has tagged all of its content quite well and we’re happy to report that gay content has been divided into sub-genres to help you get the exact kind of content you’re in the mood for.

    Don’t spend hours and hours blindly searching. Use these links to find exactly what you’re looking for.

    Whether you’re looking for a great LGBT documentary, like The Death and Life of Marsha P. Johnson or a gay love movie, like Alex Strangelove Netflix does have you covered.

    So what are these secret links? Well, all gay films can be found on genre link 5977, while TV shows can be found on link 65263. If you were looking for a foreign language LGBT+ film you’d be able to find the full list of content on link 8243.

    Here’s all the links to get you to exactly what you’re looking for

    Gay & Lesbian Movies (5977)

    Gay & Lesbian Comedies (7120)

    Gay & Lesbian Dramas (500)

    Romantic Gay & Lesbian Movies (3329)

    Foreign Gay & Lesbian Movies (8243)

    Gay & Lesbian Documentaries (4720)

    Gay & Lesbian TV Shows (65263)

    There you have it…

  • Gay guys reveal how they deal with loneliness

    Gay guys reveal how they deal with loneliness

    Post-pandemic, many of us have found ourselves feeling more lonely than we ever have. Sure, we may have more ways to connect than ever before, but let’s face it, Grindr chats and Zoom meetings can only go so far.

    A recent survey of 2000 adults conducted by Santander UK showed that around a fifth of people are feeling increasingly isolated during the pandemic. While 14% of people worry that they have lost friends forever due to not being able to meet with them.

    Currently, a fifth of the population live alone and 38 per cent currently feel lonely – 14 per cent more than those who reside with someone else.

    Being LGBT+ can also exacerbate loneliness issues, with many feeling that they already live on the periphery of society, so a question posed recently on Reddit revealed how some gay guys are dealing with their loneliness.

    Passing the time with entertainment

    If I’m feeling lonely I read books. TONS OF BOOKS. It puts me in the characters lives and it usually makes me feel better. VIA

    Another added,

    I tend to throw myself at hobbies. Biggest one right now is reading but I also build models. Another big one is art. I’ve been challenging myself to draw dumb stuff but only with a pen. This way if I mess up, I have to figure a way to incorporate it into the drawing. It’s pretty fun actually. VIA

    Do more of what makes you happy

    Take the time to focus on yourself and what makes you happy, besides having a snuggle partner or boyfriend. Find things that make you, the individual, happy, like photography, hiking, writing or cooking for example. When you find things that you enjoy, you’ll realize that when someone does come along, he’ll be an addition to your happiness and not your only reason for happiness. VIA

    A pet?

    Get a cat/dog VIA

    Go out

    I’m lucky enough to live close to a really some incredible county parks systems and the Cuyahoga Valley National Park near Cleveland, OH. It’s not anything special, we’re not talking the Pacific Northwest or the Rockys, but it’s a quiet large outdoor space I go to when I’m lonely or upset. It feels like MY special place. Running really changed my life. I go maybe 7 or 8 miles and then if I’m still feeling rough or have more time to kill, I’ll go for a hike after but definitely didn’t start at that rate. VIA

    Loneliness the new hunger?

    Loneliness is like hunger, it’s your mind’s way of letting you know that you need to socialize. VIA

    Don’t allow loneliness to be all-consuming

    Seeking companionship is important, but, you shouldn’t allow it to destroy you. Even in a relationship, these views can break you apart. You may want to find the source. Finding why you feel this way is an important step. Don’t use your phone before bed or watch tv late, it will help you with sleep. I’ve constantly felt that way in the past, feeling empty and lonely, it’s just a moment, it will pass. Find you. VIA

  • These guys share the first signs they knew they were gay

    These guys share the first signs they knew they were gay

    It’s one of those questions that many of us get asked from curious people, both gay and straight alike.

    Inquisitive straight people might want to know how you came to the conclusion that you fancied people from the same sex.

    Other gay and bi guys might just want to compare their story with yours. For so many gay and bi people there are hardly any LGBT+ narratives on mainstream TV programming, particularly for kids or teens – so it can be much harder to come to terms with, or recognise your feelings and their validity when there’s nothing to compare it to.

    When asked, most guys say they knew quite early on in their lives… Do you remember when?

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    A recent discussion on Reddit revealed some of the signs guys realised they were gay and we can’t 100 relate.

    When other guys talk about girls and you can’t relate. [VIA]

    Wanting to be friends with all the good looking boys [via]

    My first sign was when I played The Sims and made all my Sims gay [via]

    Masturbating to gay sex images / naked men [via]

    You make eye contact with other men and it’s like a lightning bolt shoots down your body from your brain to your cock. [via]

    I knew I was 100% gay when I made out with a guy for the first time. It felt right was sooooo much hotter than kissing a girl. [via]

    Searching “free gay porn” or “am I gay test” [via]

    For me was around 8-10 yo. My male friends would talk about the hot mamas and I couldn’t relate. I only had eyes to the moustache daddies. I wanted them to hold me and kiss me. [via]

    Realizing I wanted to spend all my time with one guy friend. Particularly loved wrestling with him. [via]

    I remember walking into a men’s locker room when I was a kid (around 9) and definitely something clicked at that moment. [via]

    I knew before I even knew there was such thing. I was probably 5 years old. It’s just a feeling you get. You just know. [via]

    Shopping for underwear and you get hard from the pictures on the packaging  [via]

    When you watch disney channel and the scenes where male actors take their shirts off interest you more than the storyline. [via]

    What were your first signs? Join the discussion on our very own social network.

  • 20 totally gay True or False questions for Christmas day

    20 totally gay True or False questions for Christmas day

    With Christmas looking a lot different to normal years in 2020, we thought we’d put together a fun True or False game that you can play over Zoom for a virtual Christmas day get-together.

    1) Queer as Folk first aired on BBC 2 in the UK

    2) The first-ever gay hardcore porn to be released in the UK was in 2004

    3) Homosexuality became legal in the UK in 1969 the same year as the Stonewall Riots

    4) There have been 4 LGBT+ winners of Big Brother in the UK

    5) To the nearest million how much did The Birdcage starring Nathan Lane and Robin Williams gross world-wide a) $1,240,000 b) $12,400,000 c) $124,000,000

    6) According to a poll conducted by THEGAYUK, what percentage of British Gay men, said they were comfortable being called “Queer” was it a) 7% b) 60%

    7) There are 9 stripes in the original Gilbert Baker rainbow flag

    8) The World AIDS Day Red Ribbon was first seen in 1990

    9) The Conservative party ended Section 28 in England and Wales

    10) One of the UK’s most prominent LGBT+ activists, Peter Tatchell will be 70 in 2021

    11) WHAM’s “Last Christmas” has been a Number 1 3 times since its release in 1984

    12) Idina Menzel sings ‘let it go’ 21 times in ‘Let It Go’ from Frozen

    13) The first Prowler store opened in 1997

    14) In 2016 Prince Harry made history by becoming the first Royal to be a cover star of a gay magazine

    15) The most used emoji on Grindr is 🔥

    16) Grindr was launched in what year?

    17) The average length of an erect penis in the UK is 5.5 inches

    18) There are just under 90 prides in the UK

    19) Will & Grace had how many episodes a) 180 b) 300 c) 246

    20) Sam Smith has had a Christmas number 1

    Answers

    1) False it aired on Channel 4 in 1999.

    2) True, up until 2004 the only gay porn allowed to be produced in the UK was softcore porn

    3) False it was actually decriminalised in the UK two years before the Stonewall Riots in the US.

    4) True. The first was Brian Dowling, followed by Nadia Almada, then Luke Anderson, the final series was won by Cameron Cole

    5) c

    6) a) 60% of people said it was “unacceptable”

    7) False, there are 8. Hot Pink, Red, Orange, Yellow, Green, Cyan, Royal Blue, Purple

    8) False it was 1991 when the Red Ribbon made its debut

    9) False it was under Tony Blair’s Labour which ended Section 28.

    10) False he will actually be 69 in January 2021

    11) False Despite it’s popularity, Last Christmas has never been a UK number 1

    12) True – she sings it 21 times!

    13) True it opened in 1997

    14) False it was actually his brother, Prince William

    15) False it’s actually the 🍆

    16) It was launched in 2009

    17) True. According to stats released in 2015, the average erect penis is 5.5 inches in the UK – apparently in the US, it’s 5.2 inches!

    18) False at last count there were over 152 prides in the UK

    19) B 246 episodes over 11 seasons

    20) True although it was part of an ensemble. Sam sung on Do They Know It’s Christmas Band Aid 30.

  • Who is Alice Oseman and what is she most famous for?

    Who is Alice Oseman and what is she most famous for?

    Alice Oseman is a British author, illustrator, and screenwriter, renowned for her / their works in young adult fiction.

    Born on October 16, 1994, she gained significant recognition for her debut novel “Solitaire,” published in 2014 when she was just 19 years old.

    Alice uses both she/they pronouns according to their Instagram feed.

    However, she is best known for her graphic novel series “Heartstopper,” which began as a webcomic in 2016.

    “Heartstopper” focuses on the relationship between two boys, Charlie Spring and Nick Nelson, and addresses themes such as friendship, mental health, and LGBTQ+ experiences. The series has garnered a substantial following and has been praised for its heartfelt storytelling and relatable characters.

    In addition to “Solitaire” and “Heartstopper,” Alice Oseman has written several other novels, including “Radio Silence,” “I Was Born for This,” and “Loveless.” Her works are celebrated for their authentic portrayal of teenage life and issues relevant to young adults. Check out her range of books at The Pride Shop.

    Oseman’s “Heartstopper” series has also been adapted into a popular Netflix series, further increasing her visibility and impact in the literary and entertainment world.

  • Here’s what’s totally gay at Edinburgh Fringe in 2024

    Here’s what’s totally gay at Edinburgh Fringe in 2024

    There’s a whole lot of gay going down at Edinburgh this year, here’s our top picks for what LGBTQ+ people should look out for whilst out at the fringe.

    Stephanie Martin (Juniper and Jules; Joy) who is bringing her new comedy DID YOU MEAN TO FALL LIKE THAT? about expectations we place on ourselves through the lens of modern-day masculinity and the sexual as well as personal awakenings that might arise when life hasn’t quite gone according to plan. In this one-man show, James McGregor (Harry Potter And The Cursed Child, The Palace Theatre; Pride, Pathé) will take on the role of Charlie, who is on a journey of healing whilst rejecting the pressures from society and embracing sexual fluidity.

    WHERE AND WHEN: Pleasance Courtyard (Bunker 3), Wednesday 31st July – Monday 26th August 2024, 11:35

    PILLOCK has ADHD and is trying to keep his head above water, but he is drowning in loneliness, hook-up culture and medical role-plays. Then he meets Eugene – but will he be Mr Right or Mr Right Now? Pillock wants to trust his gut, but with his lactose intolerance, his can’t even handle a Muller Corner. Capturing the essence of the ADHD experience, Pillock is a darkly hilarious coming-of-age remix following a young man who is struggling with ADHD while dreaming of something bigger and wanting more from life.

    WHERE AND WHEN: Assembly George Square (Front Room), 1st – Monday 26th August 2024, 18:25

    SECONDS TO MIDNIGHT explores queer friendship, platonic love and nuclear anxiety, following Jo and Eddie through the first seven minutes of their friendship – and the final seven hours of the world. With most queer stories on stage and screen focussed around romance, Love Song Productions set out to fill the gap by making a show about queer friendship. While female friendship is often written about, very few stories have been told about the unique dynamic between queer men and women when the possibility of attraction is taken away.

    WHERE AND WHEN: Pleasance Courtyard (Bunker One), Wednesday 31st July – Monday 26th August 2024 (not 7th, 14th, 21st), 11.45am

    A new play by Rachel E. Thorn, which was longlisted for the Kenneth Branagh Award, is coming to Pleasance Courtyard this Edinburgh Fringe festival, and it’s all about the utter selfishness of true love. ME FOR YOU tackles the fundamental paradox of modern life – we want to be good people but we’re just so bloody self-absorbed. The play is about a gay couple who join Extinction Rebellion in a bid to save the planet. In the process, they have to face the fact that we do good things for personal gain. After all, what could be more selfish than being in love?

    WHERE AND WHEN: Pleasance Courtyard (The Green), Thursday 1st – Saturday 25th August 2024 (not 7th and 13th), 18:10

    THINGS BETWEEN HEAVEN AND EARTH is a psychological thriller that depicts the aftermath of a widow discovering her husband’s affair and murder through a book written by their close friend, exposing everything to the whole world. From a global majority perspective of East Asian culture, LGBTQ rights may seem integrated to Western countries, but elsewhere, a profound stigma persists. Things Between Heaven and Earth delves into the persistent taboo surrounding homosexual relationships, prevalent not only in the 64 countries that still criminalise them but also within immigrant communities locally.

    WHERE AND WHEN: Underbelly Bristo Square (Jersey), Thursday 8th – Monday 26th August (not 13th), 13:00

    With six actors, six roles and one story – There are hundreds of combinations for the audience to choose as they direct the love story of the summer. REJECT ME ALREADY provides a space of endless possibilities with pairing across gender and sexuality. From newcomer Paul Richard Keegan comes this light-hearted yet sincere romcom that gives the audience the chance to develop the characters and story and build the world around them, even as they watch.

    WHERE AND WHEN: Greenside (Lime Studio), Friday 2nd – Saturday 24th August, 19.40

    IN DEFIANCE OF GRAVITY: Ezra Montefiore is the greatest psychic to have ever lived. He’s a master of the séance, telekinesis, and spirit summoning. Eyewitnesses swear he can raise the dead, heal the sick, and levitate 70 feet into the air. He defies all scientific explanations. But when an unexpected encounter with Prince Felix Yusupov catapults Ezra into the world of Russia’s aristocracy, he finds himself entangled in a dangerous game of power, seduction, and political intrigue. As rumours of his affair with both the prince and his wife reach the ears of Rasputin, Ezra faces an impossible choice: denounce himself as a fraud or commit political murder.

    WHERE AND WHEN: Summerhall (Demonstration Room), 1 Summerhall, Edinburgh EH9 1PL. Thursday 1st August –Monday 26thAugust 2024(not 12th, 19th), 21:15

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  • Every major Pride event scheduled for 2024

    Every major Pride event scheduled for 2024

    From Sydney to Singapore and Bangkok to Birmingham, this comprehensive compilation features key dates for all major global Pride events occurring throughout 2024.

    Last year we witnessed one of the most significant celebrations of LGBTQIA+ inclusion and acceptance worldwide, with the queer community and its allies gathering for over a thousand Pride events in 56 countries.

    Amid various legislative efforts aiming to undermine the rights of LGBTQIA+ individuals, particularly targeting transgender people and drag performers, it is paramount to demonstrate solidarity, persist in advocating for equality, and commemorate the progress achieved thus far. Additionally, it is essential to continue honouring the LGBT+ pioneers whose efforts paved the way for the rights we enjoy today.

    To find out dates for every pride in the UK, check out pridedates.co.uk for a comprehensive list of pride events happening in England, Scotland, Wales, Northern Ireland and Eire.

    Read on for the complete list of Pride dates occurring worldwide in 2024. Please note that this list will be regularly updated

    Australasia

    Adelaide, Australia TBA
    Auckland, New Zealand 17 February
    Brisbane, Australia TBA
    Christchurch, New Zealand 15-31 March
    Hamilton, New Zealand 7-20 April
    SpringOUT (Canberra), Australia 2 November
    Sydney Gay and Lesbian Mardi Gras, Australia 16 February – 3 March
    Victoria (Melbourne), Australia 11 February
    Wellington, New Zealand 1-17 March
    Western Australia (Perth), Australia TBA

    Africa

    Cape Town, South Africa 2 March
    Johannesburg, South Africa 26 October

    Asia

    Bangkok Pride, Thailand 1 June
    Hanoi, Vietnam TBA
    Hong Kong TBA
    Manila, Philippines TBA
    Mumbai, India 3 February
    Osaka, Japan TBA
    Singapore 24 June
    Taiwan 26 October
    Tokyo, Japan 19-21 April

    Europe

    Athens, Greece TBA
    Amsterdam, Netherlands 27 July – 4 August
    Antwerp, Belgium 7-11 August
    Baltic (Riga, Latvia) 6-15 June
    Barcelona, Spain TBA
    Belgrade, Serbia September 2-7
    Berlin. Germany 27 July
    Benidorm, Spain TBA
    Brussels, Belgium 18 May
    Budapest, Hungary 22 June
    Copenhagen, Denmark 10-18 August
    Cork, Ireland TBA
    Dublin, Ireland 29 June
    EuroPride (Thessaloniki, Greece) 21-29 June
    Frankfurt, Germany 8-11 August
    Helsinki, Finland 24-30 June
    Ibiza, Spain 7-15 June
    Limerick, Ireland 13 July
    Ljubljana, Slovenia 15 June
    Luxembourg 6-14 July
    Madrid, Spain 28 June – 6 July
    Malmo, Sweden 3-6 July
    Marseille, France TBC
    Martigny, Switzerland 19-20 July
    Maspalomas, Gran Canaria 8 May
    Maspalomas, Gran Canaria: Winter Pride 4-10 November
    Munich, Germany 8-23 June
    Oslo, Norway 21-29 June
    Paris, France 29 June
    Prague, Czechia 5-11 August
    Reykjavik, Iceland 6-11 August
    Rome, Italy 15 June
    Sofia, Bulgaria 22 June
    ​​Torremolinos, Spain 26 May – 2 June
    Valletta, Malta 6-15 September
    Vienna, Austria 25 May – 9 June
    Zurich, Switzerland TBA

    UK

    Aberystwyth 20 April
    Belfast 19-28 July
    Birmingham 25 May
    Bourne Free (Bournemouth) 5-6 July
    Brighton 3-4 August
    Brighton Trans+ Pride TBA
    Bristol 29 June-14 July
    Cambridge 15 June
    Canterbury 8-9 June
    Cardiff 22-23 June
    Chester 17 August
    Derby 14 September
    Doncaster 10 August
    Dundee 15 June
    Edinburgh 22 June
    Exeter TBA
    Essex Pride (Chelmsford) 22 June
    Falmouth 27 April
    Foyle Pride (Derry) 15-25 August
    Grampian Pride (Aberdeen) 25 May
    Swansea 18 May
    Surrey TBA
    Suffolk Pride (Ipswich) 8 June
    Mardi Gla (Glasgow) 20 July
    Margate 10 August
    Newquay 20 July
    Northern Pride (Newcastle) 20-21 July
    Norwich 27 July
    Notts Pride (Hockley) 27 July
    Oxford 8 June
    Leeds 21 July
    Leicester 31 August
    Lincoln 17 August
    Liverpool TBA
    London 29 June
    London Trans+ Pride 27 July
    Manchester 23-26 August
    Manchester Trans+ Pride 4 August
    Plymouth 22 June
    Sheffield 22 June
    St Ives 5 October
    Trans+ Pride Scotland, Kilmarnock 30 March
    UK Black Pride TBA

    North America

    Acapulco, Mexico TBA
    Ashbury Park, New Jersey 2 June
    Atlanta, Georgia 12-13 October
    Baltimore, Maryland 10-16 June
    Birmingham, Alabama 9 June
    Boston, Massachusetts 8 June
    Calgary, Alberta TBA
    Casper, Wyoming TBA
    Chicago, Illinois 30 June
    Columbus, Ohio 15 June
    Dallas, Texas 1-2 June
    Denver, Colorado 22-23 June
    Guadalajara, Mexico 15 June
    Havana, Cuba 9-19 May
    Honolulu, Hawaii 19 October
    Kansas City, Missouri 7-9 June
    Key West, Florida 5-9 June
    Las Vegas, Nevada TBA
    Little Rock, Arkansas TBA
    Mexico City, Mexico 26 June-1 July
    Miami Beach, Florida 13-14 April
    Milwaukee, Wisconsin 6-8 June
    Montreal, Quebec TBA
    New Orleans, Louisiana 7-9 June
    New York City, New York 30 June
    Tampa, Florida 23 March
    Toronto, Ontario TBA
    San Francisco, California 29-30 June
    St Louis Black Pride, Missouri 15-18 August
    Orlando, Florida 12 April
    San Salvador, El Salvador TBA
    Seattle, Washington 30 June
    Springfield, Illinois 18 May
    Sacramento, California 8-9 June
    Nashville, Tennessee 22-23 June
    Philly Black Pride, Pennsylvania 25-28 April
    Phoenix, Arizona 19-20 October
    Portland, Oregon 20-21 July
    PrideFete, Punta Cana, Dominican Republic TBA
    Provincetown, Massachusetts 31 May-June 2
    Rhode Island 15 June
    Puerto Rico, San Juan 23 June
    Puerto Vallarta, Mexico TBA
    Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 31 May-2 June
    Vancouver Winter Pride, British Columbia 2-24 February
    Victoria, British Columbia June 27 June-7 July
    Washington D.C. 31 May- 9 June
    Washington D.C. Black Pride 24-27 May
    West Hartford, Connecticut 22 June
    Winnipeg, Manitoba 1-2 June

    South America

    Bogota, Colombia 29 June
    Buenos Aires, Argentina TBA
    Brasilia, Brazil 24 June-9 July
    Lima, Peru 29 June
    Montevideo, Uruguay TBA
    Santiago, Chile TBA
    Sao Paulo, Brazil 2 June
    Sao Paulo Trans + Pride, Brazil 31 May

  • Skegness to have its first Pride in 2024

    Skegness to have its first Pride in 2024

    Organizers have announced that Skegness will host its first Pride event, titled “One Love by the Seaside,” on September 7, 2024.

    The event, organized by East Coast Pride, will be free and feature entertainment. Organizers emphasize that “One Love by the Seaside” will offer a safe and inclusive space for individuals of all sexual orientations and gender identities.

    With hopes of establishing an annual tradition, the event aims to foster love, respect, and unity along the coast, according to Matt Dickinson, the event’s producer. He expressed the event’s significance in providing visibility and support for individuals who may feel marginalized or isolated.

    Skegness joins nearby Mablethorpe (June) and Scunthorpe (August) in hosting Pride events, with organizers citing early support as evidence of the event’s necessity in the area.

  • All Of Us Strangers: Discussion

    Have you seen the Movie All Of Us Strangers, by Andrew Haigh?

    Discuss your thoughts on our forum.

    What is All Of Strangers about?

    In the midst of contemporary London, Adam (played by Andrew Scott) experiences a serendipitous meeting with his enigmatic neighbour, Harry (portrayed by Paul Mescal), one night in his sparsely populated tower block. This encounter disrupts Adam’s usual routine, leading to the blossoming of a relationship between them. However, Adam becomes consumed by memories of the past, prompting him to revisit the suburban town of his upbringing and his childhood home. There, he is confronted with a perplexing discovery: his parents (depicted by Claire Foy and Jamie Bell) seem to be frozen in time, inhabiting their lives exactly as they were thirty years earlier, on the day of their tragic demise.

    THEGAYUK Rating: ★★★★★

    Director

    Writers

    Stars

    • Andrew Scott
    • Paul Mescal
    • Carter John Grout
    https://www.thegayuk.com/gay-chat/status/12982-12982-1707305554/

  • 5 Tell Tale Signs Your Boyfriend Is Using Tech To Cheat This Valentine’s

    As we head into Valentine’s day, are any of these tell signs that your partner is cheating on you? Is Your Partner Cheating On You Using Tech? 5 Red Flags To Watch For This Valentine’s Day

    Valentine’s Day is fast approaching, and many people are looking forward to a day filled with romance. But what do you do if you suspect your loved one is being unfaithful?

    Trevor Cooke, the online privacy expert at EarthWeb, discusses 5 tech-related signs that your fears could be justified. 

    1. Excessive Secrecy

    Is your partner being overly protective of their phone, for example, turning away or hiding their screen when texting or receiving push notifications? Are they leaving the room to take calls? Or maybe they’ve recently bought a privacy screen protector? These behaviours might suggest they’re communicating with someone they don’t want you to know about.

    1. Increased Security 

    If your loved one is adding new passwords or fingerprint locks on their phone, this could be concerning. Of course, due to the risk of crime, privacy is essential, and most people will password-protect their phone. However, drastic changes in phone security without a clear reason – for example, changing their phone password without telling you when they’ve been happy to let you know it before – might indicate your partner is hiding something.

    1. Suspicious Internet Behaviour 

    Does your partner regularly remove their browser history or use incognito modes (private windows)? You may even be told they’re planning a Valentine’s Day surprise! However, this can be a sign your partner is visiting websites they want to keep hidden (e.g. dating sites or communication platforms).

    1. Disguised Documents

    Online documents with innocent names – for example, ‘Work To Do List’ – are often the perfect way to hide things. A Microsoft 365 file or Google document could contain exactly what it says – or it could be full of hidden photos and videos they don’t want you to find. 

    1. Different Usage

    A partner may suddenly start spending more time online, perhaps late at night or during unusual hours. If so, they may be engaging in activities or conversations they’re trying to keep secret.

    If they suddenly have new friends or followers on social media that seem out of place, or they’re having frequent interactions with a specific individual, this could be a cause for concern.

    Trevor says, ‘There are many ways people can hide things, whether it’s using OurSecret software or tucking them away on Amazon Prime. The key thing is to not be paranoid and to gently address any concerns. Then you can enjoy Valentine’s Day without having unnecessary worries.’