It can feel that sometimes that sex is just one act, but in reality, it’s a jigsaw of many (moving) parts. Some are more enjoyable than others, some need working at to become pleasurable and some, well, are the moments that really bond two (three or four we’re not judging!) people together.
So recently, when Redditor guys talked about what part of sex they weren’t afraid to get down and dirty…
*This article has frank and uncensored sex talk.
The son of the Sultan of Brunei, who was outed as gay by Perez Hilton has died at the age of 38, with the cause of his death currently being reported as severe systemic vasculitis – an autoimmune disease, according to an Instagram post published by his younger brother Prince Mateen.
The Prince was known for throwing lavish parties and hanging out with A-list celebrity friends, like Mariah Carey and Michael Jackson. He was the fourth in line to the throne in the Kingdom of Brunei.
Embed from Getty ImagesThe Prince’s death was announced last week and the government has called for a week of national mourning.
It was reported that he had been in hospital for sometime and was being treated for liver cancer.
Embed from Getty ImagesThe Prince was outed as gay in April 2019, by Perez Hilton, which caused huge controversy, as homosexual acts are illegal and punishable by death in the Kingdom of Brunei.
Speaking in a video to defend his actions, Perez Hilton explained his reasoning behind the decision to out the Prince saying, “Do you know the law? I have read the law. Before attacking me, read what the new law says”,
He added that it is not illegal to be gay in Brunei, but illegal to have gay sex.
Speaking about the Prince’s death, Perez said, “I am still in shock and trying to process this. I am struggling for words. Azim, your humor and generosity, and grace are what I will remember most. Thank you for the kind words you left me with about my children. I know how important your family was to you,” he wrote.
He continued, “My deepest condolences to all of them, everyone in #Brunei, all your friends in London and beyond. Rest in power.”
Prince Azim has never publicly acknowledged his sexuality.
The TOWIE star, Bobby Norris, says he was “declined” by an NHS Hospital for an ultra-sound to check for a lump he found while checking himself for signs of cancer.
A shocking side-effect of the COVID-19 pandemic is that some people are being turned away from treatment or health checks like Bobby recently discovered.
In a video, the reality star turned anti-bullying advocate said that he had found a lump while checking himself. He went to see his GP who referred him to a hospital for an ultrasound for further exploration, however, the referral was “declined” with Bobby saying that it was due to the ongoing COVID-19 pandemic.
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Fortunately for Bobby, he was able to afford a private screening, which he said he knew he was in a privileged position to be able to afford, but admitted that he was “terrified” to go for the scan.
Again, fortunately, Bobby’s lump turned out not be something for concern, but the experience has obviously left the star shaken. and determined to share with fans, how important it is for people to check themselves for signs of cancer.
He went on to explain how important it was for guys to check themselves every month for lumps and bumps and said, “if you find something go to the doctor, get it checked”.
Film star Garrett Clayton has excited his fans with his Halloween costume for 2020. The King Cobra star showcased his best Hercules outfit and managed to show off a fair bit of skin, which of course fans were very grateful to see.
In the video, posted to Instagram, the star mimed to the hit “Go The Distance” which is from the film Hercules.
He captioned the cheeky picture “Is @disneystudios still accepting applications for Young Hercules? “
Disney announced that the 1997 Hercules, which is loosely based on the son of the Roman god, Jupiter, is due for a live-action remake and we think that Garrett would be perfect for the role, of young Hercules, despite being 29, although we may need to check his shoe size… just look at those feet
Fans were very appreciative of the costume, with one exclaiming “got my vote” while another added, “you’re literally perfect”.
The Royal Vauxhall Tavern has created an “in house” safety video which will play before all its shows, very much like an inflight safety video, instructing patrons on how to keep safe during these COVID times.
The video stars Myra Dubois and she gently reminds customers that they must sign in or use the track and trace app, check all coats and bags to make sure that the floors are kept clutter-free and ordering drinks from the official RVT app.
She also asks customers not to cheer or sing along to the show and to “follow the rules”.
Lastly there’s a reminder that last orders are at 9.30 PM and that the bar must close at 10 PM.
QC Jo Maugham, director of the Good Law Project has said that they believe that the BBC’s conduct is “unlawful and discriminatory” after a backlash over its policies and guidelines on what events some of its staff members can and cannot attend, with or without permission from the corporation.
Guidelines published on Thursday said BBC News and current affairs employees shouldn’t attend marches about “controversial issues”.
Maugham stated that the GLP had “instructed leading and junior Counsel and intend to send a formal pre-action protocol letter”
The Good Law Project has also asked to hear from LGBT+ employees and people who are from Black and Ethnic minorities of the corporation who would like to join their challenge.
The BBC’s Director General, Tim Davie, who was once a councillor for the Conservative Party in Hammersmith in 1993 and 1994, was keen to stress that BBC staffers were allowed to attend prides saying that attending Pride events and said that attending a parade was possible while staying inside the guidelines, but “due care needs to be given to the guidance and staff need to ensure that they are not seen to be taking a stand on politicised or contested issues”.
The BBC’s Director General, Tim Davie stated that staff members, particularly news and current affairs staff that they should be “mindful” if they are attending events that could be “deemed political or controversial”.
Davie then made it clear that there was no ban on attending Pride events and said that attending a parade was possible while staying inside the guidelines, but “due care needs to be given to the guidance and staff need to ensure that they are not seen to be taking a stand on politicised or contested issues”.
i news reported that impartiality policies drawn up by the broadcaster included a section where certain staff members who work for news and current affairs and factual journalism could face disciplinary action if they attended events or rallies if those events are deemed too political.
This is because the BBC expects its staff to remain politically neutral, any breach of that guideline could see staffers face disciplinary action.
According to the i the broadcaster’s, director of editorial policy and standards, David Jordan, told senior executives on Wednesday that the new policy includes not attending “political protests”, such as Black Lives Matter events and LGBT protests.
The paper states that according to sources who work for the BBC, this was to ensure that BBC staffers attending Pride events would not get embroiled in the “the debate around transgender rights”, according to the i.
The paper’s reporter Benjamin Butterworth broke the story on Twitter.
According to the BBC’s guidelines on impartiality, the issue is a little more nuanced than at first glance of the i’s story. The guidelines state,
“People working in news and current affairs and factual journalism (across all Divisions), as set out in the Guidelines, should not participate in public demonstrations or gatherings about controversial issues.
“As with social media activity, judgement is required as to what issues are “controversial” with regard to marches or demonstrations, though it should be assumed that most marches are contentious to some degree or other. If in doubt, advice should be sought before attending”.
QC Jo Maugham Director of the Good Law Project, who have stated that they think the BBC’s position is “unlawful” said, “I am afraid that this, from Tim Davie, completely misses the point. When he says there are issues for some staff he is saying, in effect, that it breaches impartiality rules to oppose racism, homophobia or transphobia. And we think that’s just wrong.”
Lord Michael Cashman reacted to the DG’s statement by saying that it “has many holes in it”, adding, “It could be argued Pride, Black Lives Matter, against bloodsports are ‘political’. Legally challengeable, in my opinion. We will be watching this and the new ‘tenants’ at the BBC very carefully.”
Read the entire email to staff from Tim Davie here:
Impartiality guidance: Pride
Dear all,
Thank you for your support in rolling out the editorial guidance on impartiality yesterday. This new guidance, and the rules around social media activity, are significant steps in renewing our commitment to impartiality and securing the trust our audience have in us.
There is one specific issue where I want to make sure that there is no room for misinterpretation, following inaccurate commentary and some feedback from staff – which is the ability to participate in Pride parades. There is no ban on attending Pride parades.
The guidance that we published yesterday made it very clear that staff outside of news and current affairs and factual journalism may attend marches, demonstrations and protests as private individuals. I have copied below the relevant extract of the guidance for reference.
There are different considerations for staff who work in news and current affairs and factual journalism (and senior leaders) but I want to be clear that there is no issue for these staff attending community events that are clearly celebratory or commemorative and do not compromise perceptions of their impartiality.
If news and current affairs staff are participating in such events they must be mindful of ensuring that they do not get involved in matters which could be deemed political or controversial. There is no ban on these staff attending Pride events. Attending Pride parades is possible within the guidelines, but due care needs to be given to the guidance and staff need to ensure that they are not seen to be taking a stand on politicised or contested issues.
Protecting the BBC’s impartiality is core to everything we do. We must ensure that we avoid doing anything that endangers audience perceptions of the BBC’s impartiality and to protect the ability of staff in news and current affairs to report fairly and impartially.
Do drop me a line if you have any questions about this, or speak to your manager.
Best wishes,
Tim
Tim Davie
Director-General
October 30th Alicia Garza
The final black LGBT+ icon we are featuring is Alicia Garza, the co-founder of the Black Lives Matter movement. She is not afraid to wear her blackness or queerness proudly. We salute that.
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i news reported that impartiality policies drawn up by the broadcaster included a section where certain staff members who work for news and current affairs and factual journalism are effectively banned from attending events such as Pride or Black Lives Matter rallies if those events are deemed too political.
This is because the BBC expects its staff to remain politically neutral, any breach of that guideline could see staffers face disciplinary action.
According to the i the broadcaster’s, director of editorial policy and standards, David Jordan, told senior executives on Wednesday that the new policy includes not attending “political protests”, such as Black Lives Matter events and LGBT protests.
The paper states that according to sources who work for the BBC, this was to ensure that BBC staffers attending Pride events would not get embroiled in the “the debate around transgender rights”, according to the i.
The paper’s reporter Benjamin Butterworth broke the story on Twitter.
According to the BBC’s guidelines on impartiality, the issue is a little more nuanced than at first glance of the i’s story. The guidelines state,
“People working in news and current affairs and factual journalism (across all Divisions), as set out in the Guidelines, should not participate in public demonstrations or gatherings about controversial issues.
“As with social media activity, judgement is required as to what issues are “controversial” with regard to marches or demonstrations, though it should be assumed that most marches are contentious to some degree or other. If in doubt, advice should be sought before attending”.
As of this morning (30th October), there have been over 117,000 tweets which include “The BBC” and “Pride is also trending on the platform.
Social media exploded in criticism of the policy, with many people vowing to cancel their TV licenses or write to the corporation to make a complaint.
Matthew Hodson, the Exec. Director of AIDS Map wrote,
“‘I’m always banging on that the LGBTQ+ rights we now enjoy, the rights we fought for, can be taken away. This is what that process looks.”
Lord Michael Cashman, former EastEnders star said that he would pursue the ban with “vigour and utter determination” if the BBC hadn’t issued “a full, frank and specific rebuttal” of the reports.
Whistleblower, Chris Whiley wrote, “What is wrong with the BBC? My identity is not a partisan affiliation. My identity is not up for debate. Being LGBTQ is a protected status under the Equality Act 2010, which our public broadcaster must uphold. This is beyond absurd.
Actor David Paisley who currently stars in a BBC programme hit out at the policy saying,
“The BBC’s new social media guidance says that the “use of emojis can – accidentally, or deliberately – undercut an otherwise impartial post”
THEGAYUK reached out to the BBC press office for comment.
*This story has been updated to add a quote from the BBC’s guidelines on impartiality.
October 29th FannyAnn Eddy
Today’s black LGBT+ icon is FannyAnn Eddy. In 2002 she started the Sierra Leone Lesbian and Gay Association. This was in post-civil war Sierra Leone and it wasn’t really safe for LGBT+ people.
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Dead gendering is when…
Deadgendering is when someone refers to a person with the wrong gender pronoun or refers to a previous gender identity which that person has since denounced. It is similar to deadnaming except you are specifically referring to their previous gender identity rather than their previous name.
Referring to a trans woman as “he” saying “him” or “his” or a trans man as a “she” or “her” is misgendering. Also saying someone is AFAB or AMAB is a form of deadgendering.
It can be considered deeply offensive to some trans people – especially if the deadgendering is done with malice or deliberately. It can also be done by mistake by someone who is unsure about how another feels about their previous gender being public knowledge. It’s always best to ask someone how they feel and let them discuss their own identity if they wish to do so.
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