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  • ADVICE | I have little whiteheads on my balls

    This week a reader is concerned about little whiteheads on his ball bag. We ask Medical Director Dr Nitin Shori from Pharmacy2U whether it’s something to be concerned about.

    I have little whiteheads on my balls

    Dear TGUK
    I noticed that I have a few little whiteheads on my ball bag. They are tiny – maybe a few millimetres big.
    They don’t hurt and they’ve been there for as long as I can remember.
    I know this is gross but you can squeeze the little whiteheads – and a little bit of stringy white stuff comes out of them, when you do that. The pus or whatever it is doesn’t smell. I pop a few now and then in the bath – and sometimes a couple more appear a week later.
    Are they normal? Should I stop squeezing? Is it something to be worried about?

    Ben, Somerset

    Hi Ben

    You can get rashes on your testicles as you can any other part of your skin that are caused by anything from blocked pores to allergies or heat irritation.

    If anything, this area is a bit more sensitive so treat it with care. Shaving can often cause symptoms like yours. Could this be a factor? Have you had break outs anywhere else? Are you using a new body-wash or even a new washing powder that could be causing a reaction?

    Also, the weather has been humid lately and this can cause rashes through sweating. You need to ensure you wash regularly and properly dry yourself before dressing as rashes love moist, damp places! If you shave you need to keep the area clean afterwards.

    Rashes can be a sign of a sexually transmitted disease (STD) but from what you describe it doesn’t sound likely. However, if it doesn’t clear up, do go and see your GP or local GUM clinic just to make sure.  The majority of STDs can be treated quickly and efficiently the earlier they are diagnosed, so even if it is that I wouldn’t worry unduly at this stage. You can also get an STD testing kit online if you just want to put your mind at rest and rule that out.

     

    The advice listed above is not intended to replace or take the place of that of your own doctor, GP or medical professional who knows your full medical history. If in any doubt make an appointment with your doctor as soon as possible.

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  • Which age group is most likely to contract a sexually transmitted infection?

    Which age group is most likely to contract a sexually transmitted infection?

    There’s a new report out to show that 36 per cent of new sexually transmitted diseases were attributed to one age demo.

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    Public Health England have warned that too many young people (15-24) are practicing unsafe sex as sexually transmitted diseases in that age group continue to sky rocket. Thirty-six per cent of new infections in 2015 were found in those aged just 15 to 24, with young Londoners at the epicentre of the sexual health crisis.

    Since 2011 diagnoses of syphilis and gonorrhoea in 15 to 24 year olds in London have soared 128 per cent and 61 per cent respectively.

    In 2015 those aged 15 to 24 living in the capital made up 36% of all new STI diagnoses; with gonorrhoea, chlamydia, genital warts, genital herpes and syphilis all being diagnosed.

     

    RISES from 2011 to 2015

    Syphilis: 128%

    Gonorrhoea: 61%

    Chlamydia: – 5%

    Genital herpes: 4%

    Although the number of reported STIs dropped by four per cent from 44,283 in 2011 to 42,457 this was accounted by the drop in new Chlamydia infections – which fell from 24,017 to 22,891.

     

    Dr Yvonne Doyle, regional director for PHE London, said,

     

    “These figures show that too many young people in London are continuing to have unsafe sex, putting themselves at unnecessary risk of contracting STIs.

    “Young Londoners are one of the groups we know are at increased risk of experiencing poor sexual health, along with men who have sex with men (MSM) and black ethnic minorities.

    “Young people tend to have more sexual partners and are more likely to have unsafe sex. These factors mean they are at increased risk of contracting STIs and becoming re-infected.

    “Working closely with young Londoners and other at risk groups is vital to deliver effective public health interventions and improve their sexual health outcomes.”

     

    Dr Patrick French, a sexual health specialist and genitourinary medicine consultant at The Mortimer Market Centre, Central and North West London NHS Foundation Trust, said,

    “Today’s report highlights that too many young people in London continue to be disproportionately affected by STIs.

    “To reduce infections among this at-risk group access to good quality preventative, testing and treatment services is vital. They must also be welcoming and open to overcome any worries or embarrassment young age people might have about going to clinic.

    “I still regularly see young people in clinic with newly diagnosed STIs, who struggled to find the right service for testing and treatment. Developing and strengthening easily accessible sexual health services for young people in London must be a priority.”

     

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  • Do you really know how to measure your penis?

    Do you really know how to measure your penis?

    So apparently the average size of a man’s erect penis is 5.1 inches – and you might be surprised to know that erection size differs quite wildly across the globe – however is everybody measuring from the same place?

    CREDIT: Davey Wavey / YouTube

    So are you a tip to pubic bone or tip to ball bag man?  Each of those measurements will give off wildly different lengths… so topless internet sensation Davey Wavey has enlisted the help of adult star Jake Bass to help standardise the way in which men measure their junk…

    Davey suggested the following algorithm – for length you measure from the top of the pubic area to your knee – giving you a standard length of over 18 inches and for girth you times the actual length by 2.5.

    According to a survey released in 2015 only three per cent of men worldwide have a penis that’s larger than 8 inches.

    The correct way to measure is from the tip to bottom of pubic bone.

    Do you lie when your disclosing your penis length?

  • Gay Guys: Ten things not to say during sex

    Gay Guys: Ten things not to say during sex

    Talking during sex doesn’t often happen – but there are definitely some stay-clear subjects during the making of whoopee.

    Here are our Top 10 things not to say during sex.

    1) Are you done yet?

    It’s not a race – and there isn’t a prize for being first! Take your time and if you finish before your partner, don’t get all huffy. Nothing is more of a turn off that a huffy bed partner.

    2) I’m gonna fart…

    We know it’s just a natural part of life, trumps are not a good idea mid session. So if you know you’re getting lucky this evening stay clear from foods that’ll make you windy.

     

    3) My ex used to do this…

    We don’t care if your ex had a 9 incher that, stayed solid for hours on end and came on command. We are different and special in our own way. Love the way I make love or move on.

     

    4) Do you mind if my ____________ watches

    Cat, brother, neighbour, person on the other end of Face Time. It’s just weird and odd.

    5) I’m just going to tweet this

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    CREDIT: monkeybusinessimages-bigstock

    Something’s should not be social network gossip. Unless of course you’re a Kardashian, in which case let the world know your business – even if they don’t care.

     

    6) What’s your name again?

    Try to keep up-to-date with the name of your current shag. If in doubt don’t check his underwear – his name is unlikely to be Calvin Klein.

    7) Start crying for no reason.

    This is self-explanatory and may look a little unhinged if you start crying mid hump.

    8) Wow that tastes terrible

    If you’re swallowing and his man mayo tastes fowl take a large slip of water and smile sweetly. If you’re going to see him again suggest a fruit filled diet to help make him taste sweet and good. Check out our tips on how to taste better.

    9) Ask if you look fat

    A total turn off and likely not to get a good reaction, often because there’s no right answer for the person who’s just asked the F-bomb. If you’re feeling self-conscience then turn the light down low.

    10) Take a phone call

    Now is not the time to answer that phone call, your stocks and shares will be there once you’re done!

  • ADVICE | Can we use a cucumber in the bedroom?

    ADVICE | Can we use a cucumber in the bedroom?

    This week a reader asks whether it’s safe to use certain fruit and veg to spice things up in the bedroom.We ask our writers for their thoughts…

    Can we use a cucumber in the bedroom?

    Dear TGUK

    My boyfriend and I are quite adventurous when it comes to the bedroom and we’re wondering whether we could use fruit and veg and other foods as part of our activities? Is it dangerous to insert things like cucumbers and carrots?

    Paulo,

     

    Dear Paulo,

    Using fruit and veg could be a great way to excite and reignite your sex life. Using soft fleshy, non-acidic fruit such as honeydew melons or watermelons can be an exciting way to get new sensations. Simply put a hole in it and thrusting in and out will provide interesting brand new feelings.

    Alternatively, you can always use other foodstuffs such as chocolate spreads or even Marmite, who recently brought out body paint. To answer your question about carrots and cucumbers, extreme caution must be used when inserting anything into your butt that doesn’t have a handle or give good grip. Many people have ended up in A&E after failing to retrieve a cucumber, banana or carrot lodged in their rectums. A painful experience that can actually lead to death if left untreated. We would urge anyone who has gotten anything stuck up there to seek medical advice immediately, no matter how embarrassed you feel.

    Oh did I say use lots of lube…   

    If you’re looking to insert a food, why not try a lollipop or ice cubes, which will melt.

    It’s best to use implements that are actually designed for insertion, such as dildos and vibrators. Don’t forget if you’re using toys together and share them, to use a fresh condom before using it on your partner, and wash them properly after use. 

    If you are going to insert a carrot, gherkin, cucumber or banana, make sure you’re relaxed. Some of these veg can be much larger than a penis, so using lots of lube and taking your time is a must. Oh did I say use lots of lube…   

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  • Can you guess what this is?

    Can you guess what this is?

    World renowned trans adult entertainment icon and activist, Buck Angel, has released his very first sex toy.

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    The legendary adult star and trans activist Buck Angel has released the world’s very first FTM (female to male) sex toy and he’s called it the BUCK OFF… and boy is he excited about it.

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    Speaking about the new toy Buck said,

    “This is something I have been working on for years,

    “I approached many companies within the adult world, only to be told ‘there is no market.’ It’s been frustrating,”

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    Buck reveals the product, which ships from the 15th September, is a device that could allow trans men to connect sexually with their bodies.

    “I have talked with so many FTM people about how they have a hard time connecting sexually with their bodies while transitioning. I never had bottom surgery,

    “and when I learned to connect with my vagina and learned how to love it, it changed my life for the better in so many ways. So many men like me have told me that they can’t connect sexually with their bodies, or they don’t even want to touch their vaginas, and that makes me so sad.”

    Engineered for FTM trans men who often see their clitorises grow in size as the result of testosterone therapy, the revolutionary Buck-Off™ was designed using Angel’s vision for how it should feel and fit.

    Made from ultra-soft SilaSkin™ (Perfect Fit’s proprietary blend of TPR and Silicone), its flat, flared base creates a suction cup-like effect and the inside is textured with soft ridges, designed to mimic the feel of a tongue. The Buck-Off™ can be stroked or just squeezed tightly, whichever the user prefers. The base also helps to stimulate the pubis, which can also lead to orgasm. “

    The way Perfect Fit engineered this is amazing! It really feels like you are getting a blowjob,” says Angel.

     

     

     

  • Gay and bi men, tell us about the first date you had with a man

    So… let’s take you back, to your very first date with another man.

    What was your first date with a man like?

    Sweaty palms, a pocket full of jonnies and probably far too much hair gel.

     

    Where was it? Was it a classy affair? Perhaps you went bowling… (yep really)

     

    Did it go to plan or was it totally cringey?

     

    Was there too much wine?

    Was there a first kiss?

     

    Comment below to let us know how your first gay date went – your story could feature in a future article!

  • ADVICE | I have achy balls – should I go to the doctor?

    This week a nervous reader asks Pharmacy2U’s Medical Director Dr Nitin Shori about some pains he’s been getting in his testes.

     

    Dear TGUK
    I sometimes get aches in my left ball. I’ve done a check for lumps but haven’t found anything odd – or unusual. There’s been no blood in my pee or cum. The pain is like a dull ache that goes from the bottom of my balls to the pit of my stomach. It doesn’t last very long. Because it doesn’t happen all the time I haven’t been to the doctors about it, but wondering if I should.

    Paddy, Dublin

     

    Hi Paddy

    Re-occurring pain anywhere is a reason to get checked and you should see your GP for an examination.  It could be something entirely benign or something more serious although from what you say you don’t have other symptoms.

    These are:
    A new hard lump on the testicle
    Swelling or enlargement of a testicle
    An increase in firmness of a testicle
    An unusual difference between one testicle and the other

    However there is no harm in being on the safe side and ruling this out by visiting your GP or GUM clinic and if it is anything serious, the earlier it’s caught the more effective the treatment. If you get a significant acute pain that persists in either your testicle or abdomen, you should see your doctor for urgent review.

     

    The advice listed above is not intended to replace or take the place of that of your own doctor, GP or medical professional who knows your full medical history. If in any doubt make an appointment with your doctor as soon as possible.

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  • You won’t guess what this guy saw whilst having sex with a DILF

    You won’t guess what this guy saw whilst having sex with a DILF

    You know you get a bit horny and so you go for a looky-loo on Grindr – well this YouTuber had an unexpected surprise during his hook up.

     

    YouTuber Charles Gross, 21, in New York was in for a surprise when he hooked up with a “Daddy”.

    After entering his beau’s bedroom, which was solely lit by an electronic photo frame they began to have sex – which Charles explains wasn’t particularly great – so he began to look at the pictures on the frame as they scrolled through. As the man beneath him continued to grown and growl in a very porny way… something popped up which Charles wasn’t expecting to see!

    So what was it?

    The DILF and his wife and kids turned up on the screen.

     

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    Now before his mind ran to conclusions -Charles works out that perhaps his DILF had been married, had kids and then separated…

    However he was to get a major surprise… when…

    The man’s wife and the man’s children WALK IN ON THEM whilst they were having sex!

    “He clenched… he clenched so tight”, Charles explains.

    YIKES.

    Have a listen to what happened next!

  • ADVICE | One ball hangs lower than the other – am I normal?

    This week a concerned reader is worried that one of his balls is hanging lower than the other. Medical Director from Pharmacy2U, Dr Nitin Shori, takes a look at what could be wrong.

    Dear TGUK
    I’ve got one ball hanging lower than the other – I’ve not noticed whether other guys are the same, because our school has separate shower cubicles – so I don’t know – and I’m still a virgin.  Is there something wrong with me? Should one ball hang lower than the other, I’m quite worried about it.

    John, 15, Glasgow

    Dear John,

    It’s quite common for one testicle to be bigger than the other and also for one testicle to hang lower than the other one.

    You’re 15 as well and males go through puberty between 12 and 16, reaching full physical maturity at around 18, so it may also be that you’re still developing.

    In any case, it’s normal to feel a bit anxious and unsure of what is and isn’t ‘normal’ while you’re growing and your body is changing.

    Testicles should feel smooth, without any lumps or bumps, and firm but not hard. You may feel a soft tube at the back of each testicle, which is called the epididymis.

    What we advise men to look out for is changes in their testicles such as swellings, lumps or bumps that weren’t there before as this can be a sign of testicular cancer and this is why doctors advise you to check your testicles regularly.

    If you’re still concerned and want to talk to someone confidentially, then your GP is a good starting point.

     

    We’ve teamed up with the UK’s leading online pharmacy, Pharmacy2U, to answer all your health and sexual questions.

     

    The advice listed above is not intended to replace or take the place of that of your own doctor, GP or medical professional who knows your full medical history. If in any doubt make an appointment with your doctor as soon as possible.

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  • Not so straight after all. Third of heterosexuals want a gay fling!

    Apparently one in three straight people have fantasized about having a gay fling.

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    CREDIT: Wavebreak Media Ltd bigstock

    According to a new poll, one in three heterosexual people have fantasized about having a same-sex fling or hook up. The survey which was created by dating website  StraightButCurious.co.uk asked 100 people who consider themselves as straight if they’d consider having a relationship with a same-sex partner.

    The website launched this month and the is the only site which is exclusively targeted at bi-curious dating in the UK

    Women, in general, were more open to the idea of having a same-sex relationship with 41 per cent saying they’d be open to the idea of experimenting with another woman. The men questioned, however were a little more reserved. Nearly a quarter of men polled in the survey said they’d be ready for the plunge.

    All mouth no trousers…

    Only one in six said they’d actually do anything about it. Seventeen per cent of women and 14 per cent of men said they’d actually do something about their fantasy.

    Founder of the site Tara Gordon says,

    “The survey shows that there being heterosexual isn’t absolute. There are lots of people open to experimenting, who would never openly come out as gay or bisexual. In real life the gay scene can be intimidating if you are new to it, so this site gives people the opportunity to experiment and go at their own pace.”

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    The question is would you have a fling with someone who identified as heterosexual?