“The pleasure you feel is yours, the pain you feel is yours”

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Keiynan Lonsdale has a message of empowerment for you and your body and the sex that you’re having. Taking to social media the Love, Simon actor reminded his 180,000 fans on Twitter that if what’s happening in your bed doesn’t do it for you then it’s time to move on, he even used lyrics from Ariana Grande’s latest song to hit home the message.

He also said the key was honesty and speaking up when things weren’t going right. He wrote that if honesty was a problem that it might be time to move on from that relationship.

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He wrote, Your body is YOURS ONLY. It doesn’t belong to anyone else. The pleasure you feel is yours, the pain you feel is yours. If you are ever uncomfortable with what’s going on in bed, you let the other player know straight up. If honesty is a problem for them, it’s “thank you, next.” x


Wise words.


Previously Keiynan also asked why society treats nakedness as wrong. Despite saying that he wasn’t confident being naked, he stated, “each of us is made to feel incorrect inside our own physical form,

“***P.s. why is it deemed wrong to not wear clothes? We’ve been taught poorly, & groomed to hold shame for ourselves, our human bodies.

“No matter what we look like, each of us is made to feel incorrect inside our own physical form, told that in order to survive & be a functioning, liked, & well respected person in society, we should hide this form from the world.

“That shit sounds whack to me. Now, I’m not at all at the confidence level to be neked in public lol, maybe one day i hope, but I’m sure as hell working on sharing & showing off my body to myself.. and it feels good.”


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