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  • Seven things you need to know before using a really large sex toy

    Seven things you need to know before using a really large sex toy

    You’ve seen them. We all have. Those massive, dock off dildos in sex shops. But how exactly do you insert one?

    Take Gilbert here. He was sent to us by Carvaka Toys (£36.99) and is a whopping 11 inches long and boy is it thick, with a girth of 7.25 inches, it definitely could bring a tear to your eye. So how on earth do you get something like that up your butt?

    Just how do you get something this massive inside you?

    Well with enough time and patience you can.

    1)  Lube

    We’ve said it before and well say it again – any butt play is going to need to start off with some kind of lube. The anus isn’t self-lubricating so you’re going to need lots of it – and nope, we don’t suggest spit for a huge monster like Gilbert.

    The lube should also be water-based. Other lubes might actually destroy the integrity of the toy itself. We love Super Slik and it’s not very expensive either – or there’s the Fist It Extra Thick Waterbased Anal Fisting Lube.

    2) Time

    It’s not a race… only you are the winner – so take your time and slow down!

    Take your time with a big toy. You might not be able to get it all in on the first try and you don’t want to force it, or you could cause yourself some damage. You don’t want to end up with a torn sphincter. Doctor Rick Viney, warns that a torn sphincter will most likely need surgical repair.

    If you’re with a partner, don’t feel rushed into going too quickly and let them know how it’s going.

    3) Something smaller first

    In order to get a monster in you might find it useful to start with something smaller first. Another toy or cock even. Once your butt can accommodate something you can start to size up! Dr Rick suggests, “The sphincter can be gently dilated over a short period of time using devices like a plug or a gradual increase in the number of fingers inserted. Needless to say, there should be a generous use of lubricant to help. This kind of foreplay will limit any damage but it is important to stop if there is any pain and that requires self-control.”

    4) Find the G spot

    There might be a point that you’ll start to feel an intense feeling – that isn’t just the stretch of your bum. That could well be your G Spot. Legend has it that you can cum without touch your D if the G spot is handled just right! A toy like this is going to go right past that G Spot – as it’s only just a few inches inside you, but using the head of the toy could give you some really great reactions.

    5) Condom or condomless?

    If you are going to use this toy with your partner you might want to use condoms between each use. This can ward off any dirt that can happen with deeper play but also stop infections from passing from one person to another.

    6) Come back to it

    If you can’t do it one sitting… take a time out and come back to it.

    If on your first attempt you can’t get it all in, then try again a little later. Rome wasn’t built in a day and there’s no rush. Take your time and enjoy experiment with yourself.

    7) Tomorrow is gonna be a little uncomfortable

    You’ll find that going to the loo the next day might be a bit uncomfortable, especially if this is the first time you’ve inserted something this large. As they say, practice makes perfect, you should find the next time that you could be a little more accommodating.

    Before you get started you might want to read up on some advice about making sure you’re clean down there. We asked porn star Kit Wilde to take us through the basics.

  • The chances of passing HIV to a partner is ZERO when you have an undetectable load

    The chances of passing HIV to a partner is ZERO when you have an undetectable load

    “We’re as confident now that undetectable gay men pose no risk of HIV transmission as we already were for heterosexuals,” researchers say.

    The PARTNER 2 study results found no cases of HIV transmission between men when one partner had HIV but was on effective treatment. This finding offers further confirmation that an undetectable viral load prevents sexual transmission of HIV. This understanding is frequently expressed as Undetectable equals Untransmittable, or U=U.

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    PARTNER 2 is an extension of the PARTNER study, which in 2014 indicated that people with an undetectable viral load do not transmit HIV. Gay and bisexual men were included in the previous study, but PARTNER 2 was added on to the earlier study to ensure that this finding was at least as certain for gay men as it was for heterosexuals.

    It had been speculated that because HIV is transmitted more easily via anal than vaginal sex, the results might not hold for gay men. PARTNER 2 now tells us that U=U holds just as strongly for gay men (and for anal sex) as for heterosexuals.

    No transmission of HIV in nearly 77,000 acts of bareback sex

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    The 14-country study found no transmissions between gay couples where the HIV-positive partner had a viral load under 200 – even though there were nearly 77,000 acts of condomless sex between them.

    A detailed analysis of the research findings is available on NAM’s website, www.aidsmap.com

    PARTNER, together with another study, Opposites Attract, have between them not found a single case of HIV transmission in 126,000 acts of condomless anal sex between partners of differing HIV status.

    This new data adds further strength to the U=U Campaign, whose consensus statement has been signed by NAM and hundreds of other organisations around the world, including the International AIDS Society, which runs the International AIDS Conferences.

    Dr Pietro Vernazza, author of the 2008 Swiss Statement, which first affirmed that viral suppression meant that HIV could not be passed on, commented at an earlier conference session, “Those who say that HIV can be transmitted should be able to provide evidence of it.” No study has identified a case of sexual transmission from someone who is virally suppressed on treatment.

    NAM’s Executive Director, Matthew Hodson, commented, “This is the moment when science trumps stigma. This is the moment when facts must conquer fear. The knowledge that when we are undetectable we can’t pass the virus on to our sexual partners has the power to encourage people to test and to remain adherent to their treatment. Just as importantly it can have an impact on the way that people with HIV think about themselves, removing some of the stress and fear that many in our communities experience.”

    Matthew Hodson continued, “The preventative impact of effective HIV treatment underlines the importance of expanding access to treatment and of improving treatment uptake and adherence for all people living with HIV worldwide.”

  • RESTAURANT REVIEW | Ceru, London

    ★★★★☆ | Ceru, London

    The sun is rising over D’Arbly street in the form of new restaurant Ceru.

    On a street that is probably best known for the street that houses The Breakfast Club and it’s never ending queues, Ceru brings fresh and new light to this street that was once just a pass through from Soho to Carnaby Street and Oxford Circus.

    Ceru, which means blue, is true to its theme in that when while you are sitting in the restaurant, it gives you a feeling of being in the Mediterranean, awash with bright colors and amazing food that mirrors the exact same type of food one can find from Cyprus to Syria and from Turkey to Jordan (Levantine – where the eastern Mediterranean meets the Middle East), with flavours that are literally out of this world.

    Just by having a look at the menu you can tell that you are no longer in Soho Dorothy! Lots of pomegranates, mints, amazing salads, and meat with many spices, not including the amazing vegetarian options will mean that there is so so so much on the menu and that it will require multiple visits.

    Our visit was on a hot and muggy night in July and we were ready for some fresh, and light, food. We had a sampling of all their dips – from the creamy textured and wonderful Hummus to the slightly zingy yet wonderful Ceru Hammara, and also the smooth Fadi (roasted zucchini, garlic, lemon and tahini), while the Pancar (Beetroot) is specific only to Beetroot lovers. Each dip costs £4.50 to £5.50 but please order the three dips in one dish at only £5.50 – a great deal to sample all of them.

    The amazing Crisp Apple, Mint & Pomegranate Salad was to die for – literally. With its tangy lemon and olive oil dressing, it was a dish that was fresh, crisp, cool and perfect for a hot day – brava, and a steal at £6.00! We weren’t too overly keen on theSpice Battered Squid (£7) – our portion, while quite big, was a bit too chewy and not as well cooked as we would’ve liked it. But the Lamb Shoulder more than made up for it. Slow roasted for 5 hours smothered in 12 shawarma spices – it’s a meat lovers delight. It’s one slab of meat covered in pomegranate, fresh mint and pistachio sauce – and every bite was tender, flavourful and totally delicious. And at £11.50 – it’s a steal because of its enormous size.

    If chicken is your thing, then, by all means, try either the Merguez Chicken (£10) or the Shish Tauk (£8.50), which was cubes of chicken breast, sprinkled with paprika and lemon, with herb yoghurt. While good, the paprika was a bit too spicey and the dish itself does not make a main meal. Luckily we also ordered a vegetarian dish – the Grilled Halloumi & Red Peppers with harissa dressing. We were told by the wonderful Karla to eat it as a sandwich, so we stacked up the pepper on top of the halloumi, and added a smattering of the dressing, and boom, it was delicious, bringing new flavours to our palates!

    We could not have overlooked the side orders. My dining companion loved the Spiced Polenta & Feta Fries, with coriander and chili (£3.50) while the Orez Ceru rice (Arabic fried rice with crispy onions, sultanas & parsley) was the starch for our meal, and it might’ve been a bit too much as its a big bowl of rice – but delicious and different nonetheless.

    In the cocktails department, we decided to go for unique and different. The Pistachio Meringue was definitely different – made with beefeater, pistachio, syrup, egg white, lime and cardamom syrup which my companion described as ‘liquid marzepan.’ I had the Turkish Delight – with Russian Standard, strawberry liquor, rose water and cranberry juice – it was sweet and berrylicious! And at only £7.50 each, these and all the other cocktails are good value as in most parts of Soho a £10 cocktail is the norm.

    We didn’t partake in too much of the wine but had sips of the red Kalecik Karasi Turkish wine (which, we are told, is the bosses favourite). it was very grapey, while the Vranec Special Selecti Macedonian wine was full bodied. Other wine regions on the menu include Lebanon, Greece, including whites, roses and more reds.

    And don’t worry about dessert as Ceru has got that covered. Dishes such as the Dark Chocolate Mousse (£4.50), Baklava (£5.50), Honey and Cardamom Panna Cotta (£4.50) and the yummy Galata Sundae (£4.50) are all delightful and yummy.

    Ceru also raises funds for the World Land Trust, of which Sir David Attenborough is a patron, by offering BRITA filtered water for a discretionary £1 per jug. Donations go to the charity’s work in protecting and expanding Armenia’s Caucasus Wildlife Refuge that looks after critically threatened species exclusive to the region like the Snow Leopard, Syrian Brown Bear and Grey Wolf.

    Ceru is healthy eating, with indulgent sharing dishes, an almost wholly gluten and dairy-free menu and lots of vegetarian and vegan options to choose from, in a setting that is rich and warm as it’s staff and food. It’s very very affordable as all the food and drinks we had came to a total of £91 – an excellent bargain!

    Ceru is open for lunch, dinner and weekend brunch.

    Ceru Soho is the Levantine’s brand second site. The first branch is located on Bute Street in South Kensington.

    CERU Soho

    11 D’Arblay Street, Soho, London, W1F 8DS

    020 3195 3002 | www.cerurestaurants.com

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    Monday – Saturday: Midday – 11pm

    Sunday: 11am – 10pm

    Weekend brunch served 11am – 5pm, alongside All-Day Menu

     

  • FILM REVIEW | Skyscraper

    ★★★☆☆

    | SKYSCRAPER

    The world’s highest paid movie actor in history Dwayne Johnson in a Diehard type update in the world highest building makes sense right? Twice the height of the Burj Khalifa in Dubai to make Tom Cruise’s Mission Impossible building clinging exploits look like that of a pussy, nothing is small here.

    Nutshell – The big man is doing an insurance appraisal on ‘The Pearl’ a new mega-structure which is about to open. Cue a terrorist-induced fire halfway up the skyscraper, The Rock’s family trapped and in ever increasing jeopardy and a heist plot means the muscle mountain has to rip his shirt off and attempt one death-defying stunt after another to save the day or die trying.

    Running Time – 104 Minutes – Cert 12A and thereby we have the film’s biggest problem it is just too short and rushed – many kid’s cartoons are longer than this.

    Tagline – ‘Don’t Look Down’ & ‘The Sky Is The Limit’ – yes not a lot of thought has gone into this one.

    TheGayUK Factor – Dwayne is his usual hot as fuck self and then halfway through he gets a minor injury and the shirt comes off and the muscles and extensive tattoos come out and screw us, it is hot. The 6’4″ superstud has never looked better all those skinless chicken suppers and gym sweat is paying off but then it is back to the plot and the sweat just keeps coming at ya.

    Cast – Dwayne Johnson, Neve Campbell in her best role since her Scream franchise ended, Noah Taylor and Orange is the New Black’s ‘porntache man’ Pablo Schreiber.

    Key Player – Let’s not kid anyone this movie would not exist, be financed, reviewed, watched and enjoyed if it was not for Dwayne’s presence and him saying “yes” to it. The man could get a full-length movie about Theresa May’s sex life, a comedy starring Andy Murray, a gay version of Beaches or an epic entitled Brexit The Movie greenlit. He has single-handedly rescued four massive franchises with The Mummy, Fast & Furious, Journey 2 & GI Joe this is unlikely to be the next.

    Budget – $125 Million but will probably only make a minor profit which is disappointing following Johnson’s huge scoring 2017 with Fast & Furious 8, Moana and Jumanji but maybe forget Baywatch and this year’s earlier giant monkey movie Rampage. At least you have to give him the hardest working man in Hollywood title.

    Best Bit – 0.46 mins; Where the Mrs’ and kids are in the proverbial shit as a bridge across the park halfway up the tower collapses. It is a very well done tense scene we just need a lot more of this kind of peril across the other 90 minutes.

    Worst Bit – 0.21 mins; The villain here is just not evil enough and seems just off the shelf. His motive even less engaging and he also doesn’t have a decent sidekick with some super fighting skills or personal defect, so we get knock-off average goons we don’t care about.

    Little Secret – One of the lead collaborators on the movie is the Architect Adrian Smith who worked on the current tallest building the Burj Khalifa and is now working on the one to surpass it, the Jeddah Tower in Saudi Arabia. The fictional tower in the movie was moved to Hong Kong to take advantage of the now massive South-East Asian film market who love Dwayne’s movies. Dwayne Johnson was a hugely successful football star before a back injury made him switch to wrestling. He went back to wrestling after the Mummy Returns and Scorpion King movies as he thought he would not be a success as an actor. He is now the highest paid one of all time.

    Further Viewing – Diehard’s 1-4 which this movie would simply love to be & isn’t, Towering Inferno, San Andreas, Central Intelligence, Mission Impossible Ghost Protocol, Gremlins 2, Entrapment or any Airport, Earthquake, Poseidon disaster flick of the 70’s.

    Any Good – This is a classic high single concept movie. The action is non stop but Dwayne does not get much of a chance to raise an eyebrow, crack a joke or do all the things we love from the guy. He is always engaging and tries hard but has little support and everything is so rushed resulting in the short running time. If there was only room for many of the scenes to breath and create more tension this would be so much better and raise it above standard 3-star territory which it could so easily have been. It is perfectly serviceable until Dwayne brings us Suicide Squad 2, San Andreas 2, Jumanji 3, Big Trouble In Little China and of course his much anticipated Fast & Furious spin-off with another of our great gay jerk off fantasies Jason Statham. The ultimate cockfight is coming in 2019.

    Rating: 49/100

  • Vandals leave Pride bench with “f**king queers” written in faeces

    Homophobes have left a public bench, which was specially painted in rainbow colours to mark Cornwall Pride, covered in sh*t.

    Organisers of Cornwall Pride have been left gutted after a bench, which had been freshly painted in the rainbow flag, was covered in what is assumed to be human excrement, with the words “f**king queers” written in it.

    The bench was due to be unveiled shortly to celebrate pride season in Cornwall, however, within 13 hours of the paint job completion someone had dumped on the bench and written a homophobic slur in the mess.

    Taking to social media the Cornwall Pride team wrote, “Why LGBTQ+ Pride? Last Night Someone Shit on our unfinished and spelt out “F***ing Queers” in shit. P.S Police have CCTV”

    PICTURED: The bench being finished by the Cornwall Pride team, before someone defaced the bench by defecating on it.

    The bench paint update was to do with a local project called DIY SOS Local a project which helps give Newquay’s Beach Parade a “sprucing up”. Cornwall Pride were gifted two benches on the Beach Parade.

    The bench will require scraping and repainting as the paint had not dried before it was damaged.

    A statement from Cornwall Pride said, “After all that hard work it was heart breaking to work through today knowing what had happened.

    This has been condemned by Cornwall Pride organisers the Newquay community leaders, council the Devon and Cornwall police as an obvious hate crime. It has been given to the Police as and they will be investigating as they have CCTV of the area. “A vile act of a individual or individuals that do not represent the feelings and support Newquay has for the community”

    “Please do not allow this to deter that Newquay is incredibly supportive of the LGBTQ+ community. Cornwall Pride our supporters and the whole LGBTQ+ in Newquay are in shock but are now stanging stronger against the hate, which is why Pride exists”.

    Last month Cornwall Pride became the world’s first touring pride. Stopping off at Wadebridge, Launceston, Bodmin, St Austell, Truro, Falmouth, Heartlands, Hayle, Marazion, Penzance and Newquay, the touring pride allowed thousands of people to take part and witness the pride event. Some of the towns, like Bodmin, had never hosted a pride event before.

    The tour bus took off just after 9:00 AM in Newquay and returned over 12 hours later.

    Cornwall Pride’s official pride is to take place on the 25th August 2018.  To find out more visit their website.

     

  • You should check yourself for these symptoms after coming back from your holidays

    You should check yourself for these symptoms after coming back from your holidays

    Summer holidays often lead to an increase in unprotected sex and STIs. New experiences and copious amounts of alcohol can often lead to unwise choices.

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    Take proper precautions and always get properly checked when you get back home. To ask for more information on STIs, we spoke to the team at the STI Clinic.

    Symptoms of an STI

    Pain while urinating

    A burning sensation or pain whilst urinating could be a possible sign of an STI. If you notice this, make an appointment to rule out infections such as chlamydia or urethritis.

    Penis discharge

    Any discharge from the tip of the penis could be a symptom of an STI. Cloudy, white, yellow, or green discharge is a possible sign that something is wrong. If you experience any unusual discharge, visit a doctor to get checked as soon as possible – it could be a symptom of chlamydia, gonorrhea, or urethritis.

    Pain in testicles

    Pain of any kind is usually an indicator of a problem in the body. Pain in the testicles can be a sign of an STI. You might experience the pain whilst urinating, during sex, or just throughout your daily life. Book an appointment to get checked if you experience pain, as it can be a sign of either gonorrhoea or chlamydia.

    No symptoms at all

    Alarmingly, many STIs do not show their symptoms for a very long time. It can take weeks, months, or years for any signs of infection to show up – so, just because you don’t have symptoms it doesn’t mean you’re not infected. Take proper precautions and get regular check-ups.

    Chlamydia has been termed the “silent epidemic” because of its lack of obvious symptoms. Around 70% of women and 50% of men experience no symptoms at all when they are infected with the disease. HIV is even more elusive – often not showing signs for years, and sometimes not showing signs at all.

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    Getting tested

    Never hesitate to get tested if you think there’s a chance you have an STI. Even if it’s unlikely, it’s best to get tested as soon as possible. Don’t risk waiting for your symptoms to appear.

    Most tests can be done in a doctor’s surgery, at a local GUM clinic, and some can be done through the post. Most are done through providing a urine sample or a urethral swab.

    Getting treated

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    Don’t panic if you find out that you have an STI because most can be completely cured or controlled with medical attention.

    Gonorrhoea

    There are now only a few antibiotics left that still treat gonorrhoea, as it has developed a resistance to the drugs that were first used to treat it. An intra-muscular injection is the most common form of treatment.

    The symptoms of gonorrhoea usually take around 2-3 days to disappear after treatment. Make sure you are tested again 2 weeks after treatment and avoid having sex for at least a week afterwards.

    Chlamydia

    Chlamydia is treated with a course of antibiotics. Both you and your partner should take the antibiotics at the same time, and refrain from intercourse throughout your treatment (even with a condom).

    Someone who has been infected multiple times is much more likely to suffer from long-term complications. If you contract chlamydia, be extra careful not to get it again.

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    If you are in any doubt, it’s best to get tested. It’s never been easier to get tested for STIs, and the sooner an STI is caught, the easier it is to control and treat.

    Advice given by Dr Elizabeth Kershaw-Yates, GP and one of the medical team at The STI Clinic: https://www.thesticlinic.com/ 

  • FILM REVIEW | Fags In The Fast Lane

    FILM REVIEW | Fags In The Fast Lane

    ★★★★ | Fags In The Fast Lane

    Having headed into Dullsville to counteract a string of gay bashings, handsome hero, Sir Beauregard (aka The Cockslinger) and his trusty companion Reginald Lampoon III find themselves embroiled in a quest to retrieve The Golden Cock, a talisman which you rub to bring “good luck to the f***”, and which has been stolen by The Chompers, a grotesque Burlesque troupe of mutants, led by Wanda the Giantess. Heading off with homophobic hood, Squirt, in tow, and chased by Squirt’s equally homophobic sheriff father, Beau joins forces with a Persian cross-dressing princess and an Indian assassin on an increasingly bizarre road trip leading to Freaky Town with one goal in mind – to get his hands on the phallic wonder.

    Without fitting into any specific movie genre, Fags is a wonderfully distasteful yarn which couldn’t be much gayer if it tried. Knowingly revelling in its gaudy, kitsch, low budget glory, Fags harks back to the late 70’s/early 80’s sexpoltation parodies, in a massive mash-up of trashy, freaky, funny, and downright bizarre. From brothels to Bollywood, and from tiki-tiki huts to trashy townships, the road trip is littered with phallic references, drag queens, knob gags galore and plenty to laugh at. Throw in a handful of musical interludes, puppets, miniature models and practical special effects and you have a film which has its tongue planted so firmly in its cheek that it hurts; and one which you just have to sit back, and let yourself be taken along for the ride. Imagine the kind of film that you would end up with if the lovechild of Russ Myers and John Walters made a Barbarella / Xanadu crossover in the style of Flesh Gordon with added (gay) sexploitation and you are pretty much there.

    But aside from that, Fags also takes clichés and stereotypes and successfully subverts them, by not only reclaiming them, but by celebrating them. It’s not afraid to thrust its camp glory in the faces of the viewers and does so with aplomb; whilst somewhere buried deep in the garishness of it all is a bold statement about being yourself.

    Nestling neatly between parody and homage, Fags in the Fast Lane is brimming with giggly homoeroticism and is quickly heading for camp cult classic status.

    Fags in the Fast Lane is available on DVD , VOD or from iTunes.  You can  also view the trailer on YouTube

  • Bratavio confront “Mr Showbiz” over Twitter comments

    Bratavio confront “Mr Showbiz” over Twitter comments

    Oh, the shade just got very very real.

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    This is what happens when you bitch about someone on social media and then invite them on to your talk show for a chat. As this awkward clip shows, you don’t want to start on Bradley Hunt and Ottavio Columbro, who made a name for themselves on X Factor a couple of years ago as the duo Bratavio.

    Big Brother star, “Mr Showbiz” real name Simon Gross invited the duo on to his web chat show, when the subject of alleged historic tweets was raised. Well, Bratavio went to town over a hateful tweet in which Simon supposedly called them “talentless”.

    In an Instagram post which Bradley described as, “When you confront someone who slags you off online,” Mr Showbiz gets a grilling with the pair eventually walking out on the interview.

    It’s possibly the most awkward interview moment of 2018.

    When Simon said, “you’re on my show!” Ottavio comes back with “You were begging us to come on your show, you begged”

    Just watch as the cringe just gets cringier.

    When you confront someone who slags you off online ?????

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  • What has Terry Miller done to his nipples?

    There are nipple piercings and then there’s this.

    Terry Miller (Dan Savage’s husband) has revealed two rather interesting, but painful looking additions to his nipples. Posing in a topless photo on Instagram the model (and basically real-life Tom Of Finland) showed off two rather huge piercing that look like two huge screws.

    Don’t fret though, Terry himself told his fans, “I don’t have crazy piercings. These are magnet nipple clamps. Just sayin’ boys”

    See the picture below

    The look was widely praised by his fans with one even commenting that “fashion was invented in 2018” by Terry another commented how the piercings looked “insane” but were “really sexy”.

    What do you think? Too much or just enough!

  • DILEMMA | How do I rebuild my life after two violent homophobic attacks

    DILEMMA | How do I rebuild my life after two violent homophobic attacks

    A reader asks about how he can start to rebuild his life after two violent attacks and being diagnosed with PTSD. Doctor Dannii Cohen answers.

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    Dear Dilemmas,

    I have been violently attacked twice in less than a year with no provocation from me before the incidents. After the first time I was diagnosed with PTSD and put on medication which helps, however, the most recent attack last night when I was beaten, robbed and threatened with gang reprisals has left me feeling completely empty. It’s not like last year where I began to see my attacker everywhere (even though it wasn’t him) and felt gripped by fear, this time I just feel empty, defeated and believing it’s only a matter of time before it happens again if I stay in this area.

    I don’t want to go to my GP because in the 3 or 4 minutes they will allot for an appointment I will be unable to explain things as I am now, most likely ending up with the escotilapram dose being put up. What can I do outside of medication to move past this and control the PTSD?

    *name withheld

    Dear reader,

    I am so sorry to hear about what happened to you. I am also annoyed with your GP for just giving medication. Trauma does not go away with pills. You have to talk about it with other people, you have to move through the pain and work hard to move through it so you can leave it behind you.

    These feelings you describe, feeling empty, scared and defeated sound rather like PTSD caused by the traumatic event. You really need professional help to deal with those, because leaving this untreated could see you face a lot of avoidable psychological difficulties in the future. Please see a psychologist or counsellor.

    Also, have you been to the police? If these people keep attacking you maybe they can help too, this should not happen a third time!

    The best thing I can do is leave you with the contact e-mails to LGBT support and help groups. Maybe they can put you in contact with LGBT community help close to you.

    The LGBT Foundation Helpline might be best, as you can report a hate crime and ask for mental help anonymously.

    You can email the helpline anytime at helpline@lgbt.foundation and they will reply to you within 10 working days.

    For immediate support you can call the helpline on 0345 3 30 30 30

    There is also the Switchboard LGBT+ helpline a telephone service giving support advice and referrals to young LGBT people.
    Helpline: 0300 330 0630 (lines open 10am to 10pm)
    Email: chris@switchboard.lgbt

    I hope you will find the support you need.
    With love,
    Dannii

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  • 20 quotes that celebrate LGBT love

    20 quotes that celebrate LGBT love

    After all, Love Is Love right?

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    Whether you’re homo, bi, pan, trans, ace or another of our beautiful community, we all deserve love. Here are five of our absolute favourite quotes about love.

    Some of these quotes may not have been said directly about same-sex loving, but we think their message transcends gender or biological sex or sexuality.

    “Where there is love, there is life” – Mahatma Gandhi.

    “The only queer people are those who don’t love anybody.” – Rita Mae Brown

    “Why is it that, as a culture, we are more comfortable seeing two men holding guns than holding hands?” – Author Ernest J. Gaines

    “I think being gay is a blessing, and it’s something I am thankful for every single day.” – Anderson Cooper

    “Being gay is natural. Hating gay is a lifestyle choice.” – John Fugelsang

    “At some point in our lifetime, gay marriage won’t be an issue, and everyone who stood against this civil right will look as outdated as George Wallace standing on the school steps keeping James Hood from entering the University of Alabama because he was black.” – George Clooney

    “Don’t hide behind the Constitution or the Bible. If you’re against gay marriage, just be honest, put a scarlet ‘H’ on your shirt, and say, “I am a homophobe!” – Henry Rollins

    My thoughts on gay marriage are that everyone has the right to love and be loved, and that’s the position I take.” – Nick Jonas

    “We should indeed keep calm in the face of difference, and live our lives in a state of inclusion and wonder at the diversity of humanity.” – George Takei

    “The best thing to hold onto in life is each other.” – Audrey Hepburn

    “Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.” – Oscar Wilde

    “Love is a terrible thing to hate.” – Anon

    “Love is when he gives you a piece of your soul, that you never knew was missing.” – Torquato Tasso

    “Love Is Love.” – Anon

    “The one thing more powerful than love is the insatiable, on-going and everlasting struggle to ensure its existence.” – Jake Hook

     “Love has no age, no limit; and no death.” – John Galsworthy

    “Love? More of you, less of me-” – Chris Keen

    “When you reduce the world to black and white, you never see rainbows.” – Anon

    “There’s nothing wrong with you. There’s a lot wrong with the world you live in.” – Chris Colfer

    “I’d choose hell over a homophobic heaven.” – Desmond Tutu

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