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  • Is it safe to bottom after prostate surgery?

    Is it safe to bottom after prostate surgery?

    One of the major concerns for gay men who have had prostate surgery to remove the prostate gland is whether they can ever bottom again.

    Is is safe to have gay sex after prostate surgery?

    The prostate is often referred to as the G Spot for men, or indeed, trans women. It has tonnes of nerve endings and when manipulated, it can cause huge amounts of pleasure for the recipient. Due to its placement in the body, the only way to access the prostate is either through fingering, anal sex or sounding.

    What and where is the prostate?

    The Prostate is a satsuma sized gland, located between the penis and bladder. Its function is to help in the production of semen. It produces the white fluid which is mixed with sperm created in the testicles.

    What happens when the prostate is removed?

    Removing the prostate is an operation which will be done under general anaesthetic, and it’s called a prostatectomy. This is where the entire or part of the prostate gland is removed. Usually due to cancer, but it might be removed for other reasons.

    The operation does carry risks, including erectile dysfunction, urinary incontinence and loss of ejaculation, however, it doesn’t mean that sex for gay men has to stop.

    In order to check the health of your prostate, you might receive a rectal examination.

    Can you have gay sex after prostate surgery?

    One reader recently asked whether it was safe for him to bottom again after surgery. We asked Doctor Rick Viney, a consultant urological surgeon at BMI The Priory and BMI Edgbaston hospitals in Birmingham, whether it was possible to bottom, or be the receptive partner in anal sex after a prostatectomy, he told us,

    “With plenty of lube and going very gently at first there should be no problems.

    “Now the prostate has gone the sensations may be diminished.

    “Probably best done on an empty bladder as there may be a risk of some urinary incontinence unless you are ok with that – you might want to warn a potential partner of this possibility, beforehand.”

    ALSO READ 10 things you probably didn’t know that happens if you’re diagnosed with prostate cancer.

    How long should you wait after prostate surgery to have gay sex?

    Prostate charity, Prostate Cancer UK, suggests waiting at least 6 weeks after surgery or treatment before attempting anal sex and say that you should be a little more cautious.

    In our podcast with Prostate Cancer survivor Martin Wells he told us, depending on your treatment, you could lose your ability to get a self-maintained erection, but said, that even though he couldn’t have sex in the same way as he had before his treatment, he learned a brand new way of being intimate with his partner. He now enjoys a more tantric approach to sex.

    As always, it’s always best to ask your own physician or GP after surgery to see if there might be any other complications.

  • Can I get Herpes from oral sex?

    Can I get Herpes from oral sex?

    Is herpes only transmittable with penetrative sex or can you get from oral sex as well?

    There are two main types of herpes, HSV1 and HSV2. HSV stands for Herpes Simplex Virus. HSV1 tends to affect the mouth. HSV2 tends to affect the anus or vagina, both, however, are transmitted by direct touch contact.

    So yes, you can get herpes (on your genitals) from someone who has a cold sore.

    HSV1 tends to show itself as cold sores, HSV2 tends to show itself as genital herpes. There is no known cure for herpes, but its symptoms can be controlled. Medications like Compeed, Zovirax or Bonjela can help with cold sores, or genital herpes can be controlled with Aciclovir Tablets.

    The problem is that herpes is often unknowingly spread amongst people, meaning people either don’t know they have it – or it’s still contagious even when there are no visible symptoms.

    How can you protect yourself from Herpes?

    Protection, such as condoms, during sex – whether it is oral or anal, is the only real way of making sure that you don’t contract herpes.

    Most people have at least one of the strains…

    What’s more many people have at least one of the strains. It’s estimated that between 50 and 80 per cent of adults have oral herpes, according to the World Health Organization. That means your risk of getting herpes is actually quite high.

    Speaking to THEGAYUK.com Doctor Rick Viney a urology surgeon from the BMI The Priory said, “The two principal strains of herpes are hsv1 and hsv2. Hsv1 classically affects the mouth and hsv2 the vagina and anus. These are transmitted by direct contact, so it is entirely possible for the two strains to end up in the wrong place during oral sex. “

    So HSV1 can cause genital herpes, and HSV2 can cause cold sores. The only way to stop transferal is by using condoms or a dental dam.

  • Where are the cast of The Birdcage now?

    Where are the cast of The Birdcage now?

    It’s been over twenty years since the hit camp comedy The Birdcage was released but what has happened to the cast now?

    Robin Williams – Armand Goldman

    Sadly Robin Williams lost his life in 2014 when he took his own life. He was one of the world’s most loved actors and had a slew of box office-busting credits to his name, the majority of these were in the 90s. In total, his films have grossed over $3.2 billion in receipts, making him one of the top 20 highest grossing actors of all time. His two biggest films are Mrs Doubtfire and the Disney smash, Aladdin.

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  • What does LGBTQ2 stand for?

    The LGBTQ2 is an acronym mostly widely used in Canada and other parts of North America.

    What does LGBTQ2 stand for?
    It’s becoming increasingly popular but what does LGBTQ2 stand for?

    Outside Canada LGBTQ2 is not in wide use, its origins are a means of identifying some Native (North) Americans. However due, in part, to Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau its use has become popularised.

    The 2 in LGBTQ2 stands for ‘two-spirit’. It is an umbrella term for being a “two spirit” described as a Native (North) American who identifies as non-binary, non-cisgendered or genderqueer. It could also refer to someone who identifies as non-heterosexual. It is used to describe certain spiritual people. It is not interchangeable with LGBT Native American.

    Wikipedia explains, “it is a sacred, spiritual and ceremonial role that is recognised and confirmed by the Elders of the Two Spirit’s ceremonial community. While some have found the term a useful tool for intertribal organising, not all Native cultures conceptualise gender or sexuality this way, and most tribes use names in their own languages.”

    The L stands for Lesbian

    The G stands for Gay

    The B stands for Bisexual

    The T stands for Trans

    The Q stands for Queer (use with caution) or Questioning

    The 2 stands for two-spirit

    It was adopted in 1990 to replace an outdated and now considered offensive term.

    The term is not widely used outside North America.

    Can you expand this definition? Use the comment box below, and we’ll add to this article.

     

     

  • Can “Anal Examinations” prove someone is gay?

    There’s been a change in the law in the African country of Kenya, which forbids a cruel and inaccurate medical procedure to determine if someone is gay or not.

    There are over 70 countries in the world where homosexuality or sex between two men is illegal. Some of those countries have been known to force people suspected of being gay to have anal examinations.

    What is an anal exam?

    An anal examination would involve a doctor or other authority figure stripping someone, forcing them into a position to expose their anus and looking at the outside of their anus to determine whether that person had had anal sex.

    There is a belief that the anus looks different if anal sex has taken place.

    Some people who have experienced this cruel and humiliating practice have also spoken out about how fingers or other instruments were inserted into their anuses to determine the virginity of their rectums.

    These tests are rarely done in private and may have several people present whilst the exam takes place.

    Outdated

    In practice, this sort of test is outdated and rarely, if ever, accurate. According to the Human Rights Watch, the test was discredited in the 19th century and note that many people who are forced to have these examines live with lasting psychological trauma.

    The biggest lie in the history of medicine.

    Doctor Sami Kawas, a forensic doctor says, “It is completely unreliable. Anal exam cannot tell you if you’re a homosexual or not whether you’re passive or you’re active this is the biggest lie ever created in the history of medicine”.

    WATCH: This video includes testimony from people who were forced to take an anal examination.

    Sticking anything inside someone’s anus, into their anal canal without their explicit consent would surely constitute a form of sexual assault.

    Despite this anal examination outcomes are used in the prosecution of men suspected of having same-sex sex. HRW count Egypt and Tunisia as examples of countries that use this evidence to prosecute. A report is prepared and used in court as a form of evidence.

     

  • How to find out who blocked you on Grindr

    If you’re wondering who has blocked you on Grindr, there’s now a simple way of checking out.

    You’ll need to do these steps in an Internet browser. There is no way to do this inside the app.

    1. Firstly you need your login Email and your password, there will be a chance to change your password if you’ve forgotten it.
    2. Log on to https://blocked.ongrindr.com/.
    3. Enter the email address you signed up to Grindr with and then enter your password.
    4. If you need to change your password there’s an option to update.
    5. Once logged in you’ll be able to see who has blocked you.

    This is what the Blocked On Grindr front page looks like

    If you’re concerned about data,  Trever Faden who created the website gives these reassurances,

    “Luckily, someone finding out that you blocked them on Grindr isn’t a huge security vulnerability, as much as it is an awkward conversation waiting to happen. That said, when you block someone on Grindr, you do assume that information will stay somewhat private.

    “Sometimes that is unfortunately just an assumption, as we’ve seen with data breaches in the past at companies like Ashley Madison.

    “All of this data is safe, until it’s not, which, in my opinion, just means that if you really want to keep a secret–don’t send it through the internet.”

  • How much is Cynthia Nixon worth?

    How much is Cynthia Nixon worth
    Nixon made most of her money from the juggernault TV hit, Sex And The City

    Cynthia Nixon played a lawyer on screen in her role as Miranda Hobbes in Sex and the City, and now she’s looking to get involved in politics in her offscreen life. The activist and New York City … (more…)

  • What is Sounding and is it dangerous?

    What is Sounding and is it dangerous?

    Sounding is a relatively new word for something some guys have been doing for years – but it’s starting to get a whole new fanbase.

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  • Is Nick Robinson from “Love, Simon” actually gay?

    Nick Robinson is about to become very famous for his starring role in 2018’s Love, Simon – about a gay teen – but is the actor actually gay?

    Nick Robinson from Love, Simon actually gay?
    Nick Robinson has been very private about his love life

    Nick Robinson is one of Hollywood’s hottest properties right now and his latest film, Love, Simon about a gay teen coming to terms with his sexuality, is about to make a splash both in the UK and abroad. But one of the most asked questions from the film’s fans will be about the star, and whether Nick is actually gay himself.

    Well, Nick, who is 22-years-old, hasn’t officially come out as gay or bisexual. In fact, Nick has not spoken out about his sexuality or his love life at all.

    It’s not known who the star is dating whether that person is male or female.

    So watch out for news regarding his love life.

    His co-star, Joey Pollari did, however, come out as gay, shortly before the film’s official release.

  • Where is the login for gaydar?

    Are you looking for gaydar’s official login?

    Gaydar’s website is located at www.gaydar.net and is one of the UK’s biggest online gay and bisexual dating sites. It was, in fact, one of the first mainstream dating websites for men, launched in 1999, and was how many guys hooked up and dated before app-based dating sites came online.

    If you’re looking for gaydar’s login you’ll find it here: https://www.gaydar.net/login

    For more information from THEGAYUK about gaydar click here.

  • Who is Seth Cumming? Ex partner of Judge Rinder

    Who is Seth Cumming, the former husband of TV star, Judge Rinder.

    Seth Cumming, not Seth Cummings as many of the UK papers insist on calling him, is the ex-husband of daytime TV judge, Robert Rinder. In 2018 the pair announced their split after 4 years of marriage. The duo had been an item for over a decade before deciding to tie the knot.

    The couple got married in Ibiza in 2013, by a close friend, Benedict Cumberbatch, but announced their split in January 2018. No third parties are believed to be involved in the “amicable” split.

    According to The Sun, a source close to the Daytime judge, “It’s very sad news but Rob is separating from his partner of 11-and-a-half-years.

    “He’s very upset about the situation, but the split is amicable and no one else is involved.

    Seth, like Robert, is also a barrister but also used to be an advisor to the former Conservative chancellor George Osborne.