A micropenis is a term used to describe an unusually small penis. The condition is typically identified when the erect penis measures less than 2.8 inches (7 centimetres) in adults. It’s important to note that having micropenis is a medical condition and not just a variation in size.
Micropenis is usually identified at birth or during early childhood, and it can be caused by hormonal or genetic factors.
In some cases, micropenis may be associated with a hormonal imbalance during fetal development, such as insufficient testosterone. This condition is known as hypogonadotropic hypogonadism. Micropenis can also be a part of other genetic syndromes.
It’s crucial to approach discussions about micropenis with sensitivity and understanding, as it can be a source of emotional distress for individuals affected. Treatment options may include hormonal therapy during puberty to stimulate penis growth or, in some cases, surgery may be considered. If someone is concerned about the size of their penis, it’s recommended to consult with a healthcare professional for a proper diagnosis and guidance on potential treatments.
Did you know there’s a dating app designed for guys with small dicks and it’s apparently become a big hit, particularly with the gay and bi-male community according to its creators.
Nearly one-quarter of the guys who have registered on the app identify as gay or bisexual, which is way above proportionality for the general population.
The app, which is called Dinky Ones was only launched in March 2020 and has already had over 100,000 men join.
According to the app’s founder, David Minns, Dinky One has registered nearly 25,000 gay or bi men and over 800 of them log in every day.
For the super nerdy, they swapped 1955 messages.
So how big (or small) do you need to be to register?
According to the website, Dinking Dating recommends that users who are less than 5.5 inches then you’re eligible to join. They write, “If your penis is less than this you are eligible to join. 50% of the male population will have a penis less than average size. That’s half of the men in your university, office, night club or train. You’re certainly not alone.
“Also remember, men often like to exaggerate. If you hear someone saying they are 7 inches it generally means 6 or 6.5 at best.”
However small cock lovers are also invited to join, Dinky Ones added, “Interested in dating a man who has penis size below 5.5 inches (14cm).
All about normalising penis size
Of course, penis size is a source of great discussion on gay dating apps, like Grindr and Scuff and many guys have a warped sense of what is normal when it comes to penis size, thanks to media and unrealistic porn scenes.
Our sexpert Patrick Devon told us, “Penises come in all shapes and sizes and most of them are smaller than you think, as gay men we tend to watch a lot of gay porn, which usually has two or more penises involved, but guys who work in porn tend to have larger cocks – which gives us a warped perception of what is actually average”.
Dinky Ones says, “In addition, the internet is packed with false claims and products to increase penis size. Many young men now think that you need a 12-inch penis to satisfy your partner. This is simply not the case and our dating site is here to normalise the situation.”
Are small dicks different from Micropenises?
According to Dinky Ones any dick smaller than the average is classed as a small dick – so anything less than 5.5 inches would be classed small, however, micropenises are willies that are smaller than 2 inches when erect.
A micropenis is classed as a penis that’s half the size of the average size, so from around 2.5 inches when erect, but can be smaller than that.
It is a recognised medical condition and doesn’t have a cure, per se. It affects 0.6% of the male population and shouldn’t be confused with someone who has buried penis syndrome or someone who is just smaller than average.
Now, let’s just start by saying, having a micropenis is totally okay, you shouldn’t feel shame, or be shamed for having a smaller penis. The problem isn’t you, it’s more mainstream media and porn which tends to centre big dicks or link big penises to heightened masculinity. Like that’s the answer to everything? It really shouldn’t be and there are many upsides to having a smaller cock and there’s a small penis festival too… But with that said, many guys and their partners or even potential partners can feel that it’s a physical and mental block to their relationship. So what do you do if you or your partner has a micropenis (and you want to do something about it)?
First off, let’s discuss. What is a micropenis?
Did you know the average size of an erect penis in the UK, is between 5 and 6 inches? Yep, so if your member isn’t hanging somewhere around your knees, don’t worry, you’re in good company, it’s the same for nearly every other guy in the UK – in fact, the world.
A micropenis is classed as a penis that’s half the size of the average size, so from around 2.5 inches when erect, but can be smaller than that. It is a recognised medical condition and doesn’t have a cure, per se. It affects just 0.6% of the male population and shouldn’t be confused with someone who has buried penis syndrome or someone who is just smaller than average.
So how can you overcome having a smaller penis?
There are a number of ways where someone with a smaller than average, or micropenis can still fulfil their sexual desires and their partners. Most of it is actually in the mind rather than below the belt.
Here are some ideas.
Not everything has to be penis centric
Himeros explored ways guys could explore sex beyond penetration.
Sure, most sex between men focuses on the penis with an end goal of climaxing, but there are many other ways to enjoy a sexual connection without someone’s penis being this centre of attention. In their video, “Connecting The Dots”, porn studio, Himeros explored ways in which to deepen sexual connections (NSFW), without necessarily going to penetration or oral sex. There’s also massage to explore as well as tantra to try out.
Then there’s prostate play, rimming and frottage (that’s the rubbing of genitals – also explored in the Himeros video) There are so many possibilities.
Positions
If you or your micropenis boyfriend is a top, you can look at different positions. Many guys who have a micropenis can find it hard to actually penetrate, but there are some positions where you can achieve penetration. One of which is with the receptive partner on his back with his pelvis raised. Raise his legs behind your head (or as near as they can get). This position leaves the ass open and exposed. Positions like the doggie is a little more tricky, because the bottom’s butt will act as a cushion, but if you simply pull your cheeks apart your exposed hole is much easier to get to! Don’t forget that there are loads of nerve endings around the opening of the butt and you won’t hear any complaints from a bottom if you’re concentrating on just that area!
Toys
You can always open up the idea of introducing toys to the bedroom. If you’re both into butt play, then this is a good call, regardless of penis size. In fact, it can take your penises right out of the equation. With a dildo, you can go as big as you want. Plus, you won’t need to worry about how long you can last for – the play can go on and on as you both explore the options. You can both have fun working your way up to sizes you never dreamed of.
Sleeves, strap ons And extenders
Have you heard of penis extenders and sleeves which increase the girth and length of the wearer’s penis? The wearer of a sleeve can literally double, triple or quadruple their size. Simply slide the penis inside the strap on or extender and let the magic commence.
Again the introduction of an extender or sleeve involves a conversation to be had between the two of you. These sleeves allow heat and feel to transfer right through them, allowing for an incredibly realistic feel.
Lets start celebrating bodies and penises in whatever size or shape they come in.
I have an incredible boyfriend, we’ve been dating for about six months.
We had a long dating period – where we didn’t have sex but decided to go on a series of dates to get to know each other.
It’s been great to do this because we’ve created a really strong emotional bond. However, After about 2 months we decided to have sex.
Problem is he has a micropenis. It’s very small. It’s not a total loss – he’s great at sex in general, he gives good head and takes time with everything else. Anal sex though is just out of the question. He really isn’t big enough to get inside me… and that’s a problem.
I’m a versatile guy and I don’t want to have a relationship where I’m going to be the top forever. As I said he’s the perfect guy. I don’t want to break it up, but can you make it work if the body parts don’t add up to what you need in the bedroom?
Thomas
Dear Thomas
It’s wonderful that you’ve found the perfect guy where you have a strong emotional bond and you took the time to know the guy before having sex – and it sounds as though you realise that dicks, no matter their size only make up a part of what makes the man – but they can be an important part, so let’s see what your options are.
As you’re six months in you have a couple of options open to you. You could break it off if his size really is a deal-breaker, but are you prepared to let go of the “perfect guy” for this reason alone? Breaking it off because of his size will be a saving grace for both of you. He deserves someone that sees past what you see as a flaw. Remember one man’s small penis is another’s delight.
However, there are some ideas you can try out.
It is likely that your boyfriend is totally aware of his penis size and you guilting him about it is a surefire way to turn this relationship toxic. So why not have an open discussion with him about what you want. If you want to be topped but have found it impossible to do this with your boyfriend don’t talk in problems talk in solutions.
Toys
Discuss the idea of introducing toys to the bedroom – where he can top you with a dildo. With a dildo, you can go as big as you want. Both he and you can have fun working your way up to sizes you never dreamed of – and you can do the same to him. It takes the pressure off both of you and size doesn’t matter.
Positions
You didn’t mention what positions you tried for anal sex. There are some positions where you can achieve penetration, even if he has a small penis. One of which is you on your back, your pelvis raised, with your legs behind your head (or as near as you can get). If you want doggie, simply pull your cheeks apart so that there’s no butt cushion and your hole exposed.
Sleeves And Extenders
There are also penis extenders and sleeves which increase the girth and length of the wearer’s penis. See what he feels about wearing one. He may actually want to top you, but his inability to do so could be frustrating the hell out of him too. These sleeves allow heat and feel to transfer right through them, so it’ll feel like he’s actually inside you.
Threeways
Have you thought about opening your relationship to having a threeway / fourway? It’s not for everyone and both people in a relationship have to be on board, but it might be an avenue worth exploring. Just make sure you talk about boundaries and expectations before you get a third or fourth involved.
Reading back over your message there’s a lot of hope in your relationship. You are clearly loving this guy and everything that he brings to the relationship, so celebrate those parts and find solutions for the bits that don’t work so well – and as you said he also gives really good head.
