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  • Are there gay cruising grounds in Glasgow?

    Are there gay cruising grounds in Glasgow?

    Did you know there are many gay cruising and dogging grounds in Glasgow?

    Glasgow and its surrounding areas is home to several cruising and dogging grounds, did that surprise you?

    Whether you love or loathe the idea of anonymous outdoor gay sex, it’s hard to escape the fact that gay cruising grounds are all around us.

    You probably don’t even know, but from where you’re sitting or standing right now there’s probably a cruising or dogging ground just metres away from you in Glasgow, and they’re a hangover from more homophobic times in the UK. At our last count, there were at least six known cruising grounds in Glasgow and surrounding areas. The most popular are Yorkhill Park and Greyfriars Road.

    Interested in all cruising grounds in Scotland? Check out Scottish gay cruising grounds here.

    Why have cruising grounds become more popular?

    Although we can’t say for sure, something has to be said about how the Coronavirus pandemic lockdown has affected the way in which gay, bi and curious men get sex. With saunas and bathhouses closed for the best part of three months, many more are yet to still open, guys who can’t, or don’t want to accommodate in their own homes are looking to other places. One of those will be outdoor venues.

    Where did gay cruising come from?

    Gay cruising is not a new phenomenon. It dates back to when sex between men was illegal in the UK. Finding a place where two men could be intimate with each other without too many questions being raised was tricky until it was realised that men’s public toilets were a perfect place.

    These were named cottages because they actually used to look like quaint little cottages.

    The act of finding sex in these public conveniences became known as “cottaging“.

    The sex between men who would frequent a cottage would usually be anonymous. Gloryholes, a hole drilled between stalls in public toilets became a way in which this sex could remain faceless.

    To this day there are loads of cottages and cruising grounds in Glasgow

    Cottaging and cruising etiquette

    Are there gay cruising grounds in Edinburgh?
    Photo by Ketut Subiyanto on Pexels.com

    Generally speaking, not a lot of talking goes on when cruising. A series of looks and gestures would let others know what you were up to. At urinals, guys would stand, playing with themselves subtly to let others know that they were up for some play. Then if the feeling is mutual the pair could make their way to a cubicle for more privacy.

    At cruising grounds, much of the same would happen, except the action took place away from public footpaths.

    Is Cottaging Legal in the UK?

    Cottaging is illegal in the United Kingdom under the Sexual Offences Act 2003 and applies to both heterosexual and homosexual acts.

    The Sexual Offences Act 2003 doesn’t say however that sex in a public place is illegal. Cruising grounds and cottaging are two different spaces. Cruising grounds are defined as open spaces, where men can hook up with men, or straight couples can meet for sex (often referred to as dogging), as long as no members of the public can see you.

    You risk being arrested if reported by a member of the public. If this happens you have the right to legal advice from an on-duty solicitor at the police station. If convicted you could be sentenced to 6 months in prison and /or a fine.

  • Are there gay cruising grounds in Edinburgh?

    Are there gay cruising grounds in Edinburgh?

    Did you know there are many gay cruising and dogging grounds in Edinburgh?

    Edinburgh is home to several cruising and dogging grounds, did that surprise you?

    Whether you love or loathe the idea of anonymous outdoor gay sex, it’s hard to escape the fact that gay cruising grounds are all around us.

    You probably don’t even know, but from where you’re sitting or standing right now there’s probably a cruising or dogging ground just metres away from you in Edinburgh, and they’re a hangover from more homophobic times in the UK. At our last count, there were at least 7 known cruising grounds in Edinburgh and surrounding areas. The most popular are Sliverknowes Promenade and Blackford Hill.

    Interested in all cruising grounds in Scotland? Check out Scottish gay cruising grounds here.

    Why have cruising grounds become more popular?

    Although we can’t say for sure, something has to be said about how the Coronavirus pandemic lockdown has affected the way in which gay, bi and curious men get sex. With saunas and bathhouses closed for the best part of three months, many more are yet to still open, guys who can’t, or don’t want to accommodate in their own homes are looking to other places. One of those will be outdoor venues.

    Where did gay cruising come from?

    Gay cruising is not a new phenomenon. It dates back to when sex between men was illegal in the UK. Finding a place where two men could be intimate with each other without too many questions being raised was tricky until it was realised that men’s public toilets were a perfect place.

    These were named cottages because they actually used to look like quaint little cottages.

    The act of finding sex in these public conveniences became known as “cottaging“.

    The sex between men who would frequent a cottage would usually be anonymous. Gloryholes, a hole drilled between stalls in public toilets became a way in which this sex could remain faceless.

    To this day there are loads of cottages and cruising grounds in Edinburgh

    Cottaging and cruising etiquette

    Are there gay cruising grounds in Edinburgh?
    Photo by Ketut Subiyanto on Pexels.com

    Generally speaking, not a lot of talking goes on when cruising. A series of looks and gestures would let others know what you were up to. At urinals, guys would stand, playing with themselves subtly to let others know that they were up for some play. Then if the feeling is mutual the pair could make their way to a cubicle for more privacy.

    At cruising grounds, much of the same would happen, except the action took place away from public footpaths.

    Is Cottaging Legal in the UK?

    Cottaging is illegal in the United Kingdom under the Sexual Offences Act 2003 and applies to both heterosexual and homosexual acts.

    The Sexual Offences Act 2003 doesn’t say however that sex in a public place is illegal. Cruising grounds and cottaging are two different spaces. Cruising grounds are defined as open spaces, where men can hook up with men, or straight couples can meet for sex (often referred to as dogging), as long as no members of the public can see you.

    You risk being arrested if reported by a member of the public. If this happens you have the right to legal advice from an on-duty solicitor at the police station. If convicted you could be sentenced to 6 months in prison and /or a fine.

  • GAY HOROSCOPES: 18th December 2023

    GAY HOROSCOPES: 18th December 2023

    Is love, money, success and Christmas joy in your stars this week?

    Aries (March 21 – April 19):

    This week, you may feel a surge of energy and confidence. Focus on your goals and take bold steps toward achieving them. In matters of the heart, be open to new connections and experiences.

    Taurus (April 20 – May 20):

    Take a practical approach to your endeavors this week. Pay attention to your financial matters and avoid unnecessary risks. In relationships, communicate openly and honestly to strengthen your connections.

    Gemini (May 21 – June 20):

    Your communication skills are highlighted this week. Use them to express your ideas and connect with others. In relationships, be flexible and open-minded to foster understanding.

    Cancer (June 21 – July 22):

    Focus on your emotional well-being this week. Take time for self-care and reflect on your needs. In relationships, be supportive and understanding, and nurture the bonds that matter most to you.

    Leo (July 23 – August 22):

    You may experience a burst of creativity and inspiration. Use this energy to pursue your passions. In matters of the heart, express your feelings and make time for romance.

    Virgo (August 23 – September 22):

    This week, pay attention to your home and family life. Create a harmonious environment and address any domestic concerns. In relationships, be patient and understanding.

    Libra (September 23 – October 22):

    Focus on your social connections and collaborations this week. Networking can bring exciting opportunities. In relationships, strive for balance and compromise.

    Scorpio (October 23 – November 21):

    This week, delve into deeper aspects of your interests and projects. Trust your instincts and explore new avenues. In relationships, be honest and share your true self with your partner.

    Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21):

    Embrace your adventurous spirit this week. Seek new experiences and expand your horizons. In matters of the heart, be open to spontaneity and enjoy the journey.

    Capricorn (December 22 – January 19):

    Focus on your career and ambitions this week. Take practical steps toward your goals. In relationships, communicate your aspirations and support your partner’s endeavors.

    Aquarius (January 20 – February 18):

    This week, explore new ideas and engage in stimulating conversations. Embrace your unique perspective. In relationships, be open-minded and value the diversity that your partner brings to your life.

    Pisces (February 19 – March 20):

    Pay attention to your intuition and emotions this week. Take time for self-reflection and spiritual pursuits. In relationships, connect on a deeper level and share your dreams and aspirations.

  • REVIEW: Queer Tarot

    ★★★★★

    Are you a proud member of the LGBTQ+ community with a penchant for tarot readings? Well, brace yourself because the ultimate fusion of queerness and tarot landed in your vibrant shopping universe last year and it’s still making our queer little hearts sing!

    Ash & Chess, the powerhouse behind The Gay Agenda and a stellar LGBTQ+-owned stationery brand, has unveiled the highly anticipated Queer Tarot deck.

    After months of teasing on their social media channels, the dynamic duo, Ashley Molesso and Chess Needham, a queer and trans couple, graced us with an utterly gay tarot deck back in 2022.

    This deck is a kaleidoscope of bold colours and pride-flag imagery, fulfilling the desires of our gay hearts that have been yearning for such a creation. While some modern decks feature LGBT+ representation in select cards, the Queer Tarot goes above and beyond, portraying exclusively gay, trans, and queer individuals in every single card. It’s a challenge to articulate, but fellow LGBTQ+ individuals will undoubtedly recognize the indescribable magic that this deck captures—the essence of queer joy.

    Trust me, there’s not a single straight vibe in sight.

    Curious to know what I, a gay tarot card reader, really think about this wonderfully queer deck?

    Well, I’m head over heels for it. I love the colours, the vibe and the overall feel of this tarot pack. If you’ve been on the hunt for a tarot deck that authentically reflects you and your community, your quest officially concludes here.

    Keep scrolling to dive into the vibrant world of the Queer Tarot. 🏳️‍🌈🔮✨

    What’s in the box?

    Created by queer and trans artists, this reimagining of the classic figures in the Major and Minor Arcana showcases a wide range of gender expressions and sexual orientations and incorporates queer history and iconography throughout.

    Each card in Queer Tarot is based on real LGBTQ+ people and celebrates a full range of races, ethnicities, gender identities, sexual orientations, sizes, and abilities.

    Illustrated: 85 colour illustrations Pages: 176 Dimensions: 162x127mm

    Where to buy?

    THE PRIDE SHOP sells this item cheaper than most shops including Amazon. You can get it under the RRP here. Plus you’ll be supporting an LGBTQ+ company.

  • How to avoid getting scammed when buying Girl’s Aloud tickets

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    Fuming fans took to X formerly Twitter to vent about not getting Girls Aloud tickets last week, as a number of fans were left queuing for hours on Ticketmaster for the site to then crash. To add salt to the wound, overpriced resale tickets for the pop group’s reunion are already sweeping social media. 

    With many left with no choice but to turn to resale sites to buy their tickets, they could become prime targets for scammers. The experts at Scams.info have provided some helpful tips on how to detect a scam to ensure you don’t fall for one.

    Top 5 useful ways to avoid a reseller site scam…

    Pay attention to the payment method

    When shopping for resold tickets online, it is crucial to make payments through the actual website itself. Often online scammers might put pressure on a buyer not to use a site’s secure payment methods, and instead pay through a bank transfer before the product has been seen or received. Such seller practices should always raise a red flag. Try to avoid sellers advertising through social platforms such as Facebook, X [Twitter], and Instagram.

    Demand current photos of the product

    Whatever ticket you’re trying to purchase, request that the seller send you a recent photo of it or a screenshot of the ticket confirmation. Ask them to set the printed-out ticket(s) or confirmation next to a piece of paper with your name written on it, for example. If they’re unwilling to do so, chances are they don’t have the product at all, so don’t proceed with the transaction.

    Look out for extremely low-priced products

    Tickets sold for unbelievably low prices are a definite warning sign. Do your research and look around other websites to check the average price of the tickets you’d like to buy. With the demand for sold-out shows always set to be so high, resold tickets will most likely be overpriced. Remember: if the price seems way too good to be true, it most likely is.

    Check the seller’s profile

    Ideally, the seller should have reviews on their profile from previous buyers that you can read. Also be aware of too many positive reviews which sound the same. Inspect the profile carefully for anything that might look suspicious and if you see something, don’t risk buying from that seller.

    Decline overpayments if you’re the seller

    While it might not happen too often, scammers may target sellers as well. They may pay more than the set price and then say they’ve made a mistake before asking for a partial refund. The seller will send the refund, only to discover the original payment had been cancelled. If a person is acting suspiciously when you decline an overpayment and ask for the correct amount, it could mean they’re a scammer!

  • 19 awesome stocking fillers for gay men under £20

    19 awesome stocking fillers for gay men under £20

    Get ready to sleigh the gift game because we’re about to spill the tea on the hottest stocking fillers for gay men. Whether you’re shopping for your GBFF, partner-in-crime, or treating yourself (because, duh, you deserve it!), we’ve got the lowdown on the sassiest, classiest, and just downright fabulous gifts that will have your stockings slaying this holiday season. From glittery gadgets to gay-tastic trinkets, this list is serving up all the sparkle and shimmer you need to sleigh in style. Get ready to unwrap the magic, darling! 💅🏳️‍🌈

    Top and Bottom Mugs

    You can buy the Top and Bottom mug separately (£8.99) or as a 2 mug set (£15.99) if you know a gay couple! The set would make stocking fillers for gay men – who like to spill the tea.

    Coasters

    Who doesn’t love a cheeky coaster? The Pride Shop sells a whole variety of them from famed visual artist, Dean Morris. You could get Alexa Send Wine or a Totally Gay or an I Love Cock one! £3.25 each.

    Game On Bitches

    Take your game to the next level with this deluxe set of playing cards. Housed in an eye-catching box with gold foil, this 54-card deck features humorous expletives, elegant calligraphy, and classic designs with a modern twist. With gold metallic accents throughout and top-quality cardstock, this portable deck is sure to delight card players of all suits. £10.99

    Gay Socks

    Let your gay friends show their gayness through the subtlety of socks! THEGAYSHOP has a range of gay socks. These are probably the least offensive of them all!

    Sexy Truth Or Dare

    We all know the game, Truth or Dare – but dare you play the raunchy version of this game? Each player takes it in turn to pick a straw/stick and either reveals the truth that’s written on the stick or play the dare that is written on it. Games, particularly naughty ones make great stocking fillers for gay men.

    Gay Bear Keyring

    We love these super cute teddy bear keyrings. This super cute teddy has the iconic rainbow flag embroidered on its belly and has a standard keyring attachment for adding to your set of keys. This little buddy will keep you company and also means that it will be harder to lose your keys! £5.99

    Sex Snap

    Who cares about winning? In this game, it’s the taking part that counts. This X-rated twist on the classic game of Snap is all about speed, spontaneity and paying close attention to the sex positions on the cards. £6.99

    One Line A Day Memory Book

    This stunning journal is a simple and rewarding way to record and reflect on five years of memories. The pages offer space to write a brief line each day, while allowing you to compare today’s events with your notes from the same date in years past. With exuberant artwork by Kindah Khalidy on the cover and interior, and with foil accents and a ribbon page marker, this keepsake journal will brighten all your days. We think that journals can make ideal stocking fillers for gay men. £14.99

    Queer Eye Button

    Celebrate your love for all things Queer Eye with this officially licensed talking button, featuring inspirational and fun phrases from Jonathan, Tan, Bobby, Antoni, and Karamo. Includes a 48-page mini-book with profiles of the Fab Five, fun facts about the show, and full-colour photos. £9.99

    Erotic Gay Sex Mug

    There are four designs by visual artist Patrick Devon. These mugs depict gay men having sex, inspired by real-life couples. Deeply erotic and very visually pleasing. Erotic art makes sexy stocking fillers for gay men, particularly if they’re open-minded and don’t work in a large office where the office Karen is sure to take offence. £12.99 each

    Schitts Creek Book

    I love this book for you – you can fold it into your Christmas stocking. So simple. This book contains over 150 of the finest quotes from the most infamous riches-to-rags story a small town has ever seen. From side-splitting bickering between David and Alexis and Roland Schitt’s political wisdom to Johnny Rose’s solid business advice and of course, Moira’s many regaling turns of phrase. Whether you need a pick-me-up or a well-timed put-down, let the eclectic cast of Schitt’s Creek guide you on your way. £5.99

    Getting into the Christmas mood? Check out our Christmas recipes and our Christmas survival guide.

  • 9 ways we can stop the spread of HIV today

    9 ways we can stop the spread of HIV today

    Preventing HIV transmission involves adopting a combination of strategies to reduce the risk of exposure. Here are some of the easiest and most effective ways to prevent HIV:

    1. Use Condoms: Consistent and correct use of condoms during sexual intercourse can significantly reduce the risk of HIV transmission. Male and female condoms are readily available and provide a barrier against the virus.
    2. PrEP (Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis): PrEP is a medication taken by HIV-negative individuals to prevent infection. It is highly effective when taken as prescribed and can be a useful prevention tool, especially for those at higher risk.
    3. Limit Sexual Partners: Reducing the number of sexual partners can lower the risk of exposure to HIV. Knowing your partner’s HIV status and discussing sexual health openly can help make informed decisions.
    4. Regular Testing: Knowing your own and your partner’s HIV status is crucial. Regular testing allows for early detection, enabling timely access to treatment and preventing further transmission. There is at-home testing now which is easy to do. See our at-home HIV Testing review here.
    5. Avoid Sharing Needles or Syringes: If you use drugs, avoid sharing needles or syringes, as this can increase the risk of HIV transmission. Use clean needles and sterile injection equipment.
    6. Use Sterile Instruments for Tattoos and Piercings: Ensure that any instruments used for tattoos, piercings, or other body modifications are sterile and properly cleaned to prevent the risk of HIV transmission.
    7. Educate Yourself: Stay informed about HIV transmission and prevention methods. Understanding the virus and its modes of transmission can empower individuals to make informed choices about their sexual health.
    8. Kick Stigma out: HIV-related stigma, which includes negative attitudes, prejudice, and discrimination towards individuals living with HIV or perceived to be at risk, can create barriers to effective prevention and care.
    9. Seek Support and Counseling: If you are in a relationship with someone living with HIV or if you have concerns about your risk, seek counselling and support services. Open communication and education can help address fears and reduce the risk of transmission.

    Remember, the most effective prevention strategy may vary depending on individual circumstances. It’s essential to consult with healthcare professionals for personalised advice and guidance based on your specific situation.

  • New HIV Transmission between gay and bi men continues to decline

    New HIV Transmission between gay and bi men continues to decline

    New transmissions of HIV have declined by 42% from 2019 to 2022 new data shows.

    The number of new HIV diagnoses among gay and bisexual men fell by 42% from 1,239 to 724 between 2019 and 2022, according to the latest HIV Action Plan monitoring and evaluation framework (MEF), published today. However, the UK’s Government hopes to reduce transmission by 80% by 2025.

    Meeting HIV targets

    England also met the UNAIDS 2025 95-95-95 targets for the third time with 95% of all people with HIV being diagnosed, 98% of those diagnosed on treatment and 98% of those on treatment being virally suppressed and unable to pass on the virus.

    While there has been a notable decline in cases among white gay and bisexual men from 2019 to 2022, there is a disparity among ethnic minority gay and bisexual men, with new HIV diagnoses not decreasing at a similar rate.

    Ethnic minority groups still at risk

    In 2022, ethnic minority groups accounted for 42% (304 out of 724) of diagnoses in GBMSM (Gay Bisexual and Men who have sex with men), compared to 34% (417 out of 1,239) in 2019.

    While there was a 13% decrease in overall new HIV diagnoses in England, dropping from 2,819 in 2019 to 2,444 in 2022, there was an increase from 2,313 to 2,444 between 2021 and 2022. To meet the 2025 transmission target, there would need to be a yearly reduction of 627 in HIV transmission.

    Cases of HIV have risen in Women and ethnic minority groups

    The recent increase can be attributed in part to a slowdown in the progress toward the elimination in heterosexual women and ethnic minority groups. Despite a decrease in cases among heterosexual women from 589 in 2019 to 447 in 2021, there was a 26% rise from 447 to 564 in 2022.

    While diagnoses among white British women declined by 39% between 2019 and 2022, there was only a 6% reduction among black African women. Among heterosexual men, new HIV diagnoses decreased by 25%, falling from 458 in 2019 to 281 in 2022.

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    Dr Alison Brown, Interim Head of HIV Surveillance at UKHSA, said, “England remains a world leader in efforts to reduce HIV transmission and ensure that those diagnosed have timely access to effective treatment.  

    “While there is much to celebrate, with numbers of HIV diagnoses continuing to decrease in certain groups, there is also much more to do. HIV diagnoses are increasing among heterosexual populations, particularly among women.

    “It is concerning that testing levels in these groups has not recovered to 2019 levels, prior to Covid-19. So please, no matter your gender or sexual orientation, get regularly tested, use condoms and get PrEP if you’re eligible, to protect you and your partners’ health.”

    Professor Kevin Fenton, government’s Chief Advisor on HIV and Chair of HIV Action Plan Implementation Steering Group said, “This week’s announcement to start new research on an expansion of the HIV opt-out emergency department testing programme,  demonstrates the government’s commitment to keep the momentum up to end new transmissions of HIV within England by 2030.

    “HIV opt-out testing is successful at reaching everyone, including women and those from ethnic minorities, who are living with HIV without knowing. It is a huge step in the right direction, and today’s research shows we need to do more to make sure these groups are effectively being targeted.

    “I believe we can meet our 2030 targets and thank the UKHSA for its research to point us in the right direction – and identify where more can be done.”

    Richard Angell, Chief Executive of Terrence Higgins Trust, said, “We have all of the tools we need to end new HIV cases by 2030 and diagnose those out there who are unaware they’re living with HIV. But with just six years left to achieve that goal, we need to do more and do it faster. Crucially, we also need to ensure that the progress we’re making is felt by all of the groups impacted by HIV – without exception. That includes for women, heterosexual men and people from racially minoritised communities, where testing levels continue to lag both behind pre-Covid levels and those seen among gay and bisexual men. 

    “The announcement of £20million funding to expand opt-out HIV testing in A&Es to an additional 46 hospitals is great news as this approach is proven to help address inequalities, with the proportion of women, older people and those of Black ethnicity diagnosed in A&Es higher than those found in sexual health. But this landmark expansion is only part of the puzzle and needs to happen in parallel with the better utilisation and availability of HIV prevention drug PrEP, ramping up testing in a wide range of settings and, of course, tackling the highs levels of stigma still surrounding HIV.”

    Deborah Gold, Chief Executive of National AIDS Trust, said, “This period of time is absolutely crucial in our fight to end new HIV transmissions. Though the data shows some really encouraging progress, it also demonstrates how important it is to tackle inequalities across different communities as our key focus.

    “PrEP and opt-out testing are game-changers, but they’re not enough if they’re not reaching the right people. People who adhere to their medication cannot pass the virus on. This is also known as Undetectable = Untransmissible (U=U) and it is a vital message in the ongoing fight against stigma and discrimination, however, not enough people are aware of it. Tailored engagement and interventions which involve the communities that we are trying to reach must be the starting point to addressing inequalities.”

    The year 2022 also saw the highest ever number of tests in sexual health services among gay and bisexual men, but numbers have remained lower than pre-pandemic levels for heterosexual men and women. 

    In 2022, 40% of women attending sexual health services were not offered an HIV test compared to 27% in heterosexual men and 23% in gay and bisexual men.  Women, and ethnic minority populations were also less likely start or continue PrEP.

    UKHSA continues to work with DHSC and partners towards the HIV Elimination Action Plan, including supporting the evaluation of the Opt-out testing programme to increase HIV diagnoses and providing guidance to clinicians to help get people with HIV access treatment.

    UKHSA will also be working to understand why women are less likely to be offered a HIV test to help tackle inequalities.

  • 26 great Erotic Christmas gift ideas for Gay men

    Get ready to spice up the holiday season with our Erotic Christmas Gift Guide for Gay Men! Whether you’re shopping for your partner, lover, or looking to treat yourself, we’ve curated a collection of sensual and exciting presents that will set the festive mood ablaze. From intimate accessories to playful games, this guide is designed to add a touch of passion to your Christmas celebrations. Let’s unwrap the pleasure and make this holiday season one to remember! 🔥🎁✨

    Erotic Christmas gift ideas for gay men

    The perfect butt plug

    Erotic Christmas gift ideas for gay men can include butt plugs and anal toys

    If your friend, bf, or lover loves butt play then buying the perfect butt plug might just be the way to this Christmas. Whether he loves a big toy or just experimenting the world of butt plugs and dildos is well, neverending.

    If he’s into anal training then these anal gape grommets could be a great bet. If he’s looking to get a great sensation then you can’t beat the Prowler Red 6.5 dildo and if he just wants to be destroyed then look no further than the Tower

    The only cock present he’ll need

    Erotic Christmas gift ideas for gay men can also include toys for his penis

    The Satisfer is only masturbation toy is the only toy he needs. We’ve written about how this toy is the ultimate vibrating toy and it’s a perfect gift – and it won’t break the bank at under £40

    Kinky Bear

    These bondage bears are cuteness in bear form. Even The Most Extreme Fetishist Will Appreciate These bondage-loving teddy bears. There’s Charlie Chains, Sal The Slave, Freddie Flogger, Bound Up Billy, Gag Ball Gary and Gimpy Glen. They’re all extremely cuddly and cute and priced at £23.99

    Naughty Puppy

    Brand new from Prowler these kinky and naught pups are the perfect present for the kinky man in your life. Choose from Captain Chains, Roped Up Rover or Booted Up Bandit.

    Patrick Devon Naughty Mugs

    We love these gay erotic art mugs from our very own sex and relationship expert Patrick Devon. He’s created these very sexy mugs which feature a pop art depiction of men having sex.

    Not for the faint arted… or those who work in a very public office.

    Check out the Patrick Devon Erotic Mug range here from THE GAY SHOP All are under £15

    Clone your willy

    This is surely one of the most unique gift ideas, where you can legitimately tell your gay mate to go fuck himself… literally. Buy it here

    Naughty Dice

    Turn up the heat this Christmas with the perfect gift for intimate moments: Sex Dice! Spice up your holiday season with these playful and enticing dice that add a touch of excitement and spontaneity to your intimate adventures. Whether you’re gifting your partner or a couple, unwrap the pleasure and bring a whole new level of fun to the festive season. It’s the gift that keeps on giving! 🎲 Check out the range here

    Sex Books

    There’s a great selection of books for gay sex over at The Pride Shop. From The Ultimate Guide To Anal Sex to Position Of The Day, Little Book of Sex Tips and Little Book Of Sex Facts. All incredibly interesting and who doesn’t want a library of sex literature?

    Harness

    Explore new realms of style and confidence with a Harness! These bold and fashion-forward accessories are designed to make a statement, whether you’re hitting the club scene or embracing your unique fashion sense. Choose from a variety of styles and materials to express your individuality and feel empowered. Elevate your look with a gay harness that celebrates your authenticity and adds a touch of daring flair to any outfit. Check out the full range here

    Sex Vouchers

    Are you bold enough to share these intimate vouchers with your partner? This coupon book features 62 tear-out vouchers for you to gift. Make enticing promises like “Embark on adventurous role play” or “Plant kisses from head to toe.” Each voucher holds a spicy pledge that you’re committed to fulfilling when redeemed. Buy them here

    Underwear

    Now normally buying underwear for men is so cliché, but swap out a pair of ratty briefs for a cheeky jockstrap or even a thong and suddenly it’s a tree-mendous idea!

    Feeling in the Christmas spirit? Check out our Christmas recipes to cook up a festive feast at home. Looking for non-erotic Christmas gifts for your gay pals check this out.

    Some of the links in this article may generate us a small commission if you decide to purchase from any of the vendors.

  • Why do some gay men wear harnesses?

    Why do some gay men wear harnesses?

    Many gay men wear harnesses at saunas, clubs and at pride events and their origin within the gay community is an interesting story.

    Origins from BDSM, Kink and the vision of manliness

    Most likely the wearing of harnesses comes from the leather and kink communities, although harnesses have evolved beyond their original associations with leather and BDSM. Modern harnesses come in various materials, styles, and designs, catering to a broad spectrum of tastes within the gay community.

    Some individuals may have perceived harnesses as a symbol of confidence, strength, or assertiveness, which aligns with certain traditional notions of masculinity. In this sense, wearing a harness can be a way for some gay men to express themselves in a manner they associate with masculinity.

    Five reasons why some gay men wear harnesses

    1. Fashion and Style: Many gay men wear harnesses as a fashion statement. Harnesses come in various designs and materials, allowing individuals to express their unique style and enhance their overall look.
    2. Club and Nightlife Scene: Harnesses are popular in the LGBTQ+ club and nightlife scene. They can be seen as a bold and confident choice for those who want to stand out and make a statement during events, parties, or pride celebrations.
    3. Body Positivity: Some gay men wear harnesses as a way to celebrate and embrace their bodies. It can be a form of body positivity and self-expression, allowing individuals to showcase their confidence and comfort with their own skin.
    4. Kink and BDSM: In the context of kink and BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism), harnesses may be worn as part of fetish or role-playing activities. It’s essential to note that not all gay men who wear harnesses are involved in BDSM.
    5. Empowerment and Liberation: Wearing a harness can be a symbol of empowerment and liberation for some individuals. It represents breaking free from societal norms and expressing one’s authentic self.

    Do Tops Or Bottoms wear harnesses?

    The choice to wear a harness is not necessarily tied to someone’s sexual role as a top or bottom. Both tops and bottoms, as well as individuals who identify as versatile or sides/switch, can wear harnesses. The decision to wear a harness is more about personal style, fashion preferences, and individual expression rather than sexual roles.

    What kind of harnesses are there?

    There are various types of harnesses, each serving different purposes and often associated with specific contexts such as fashion, BDSM, or outdoor activities. Here are some common types of harnesses:

    1. Chest Harness:
      • Style: Wraps around the chest, creating a visually striking design.
      • Use: Popular as a fashion accessory and can be part of BDSM attire.
    2. Body Harness:
      • Style: Extends beyond the chest, covering the torso in intricate patterns.
      • Use: Fashionable accessories in alternative fashion scenes and BDSM.
    3. Shoulder Harness:
      • Style: Covers the shoulders and upper chest, often creating a bold look.
      • Use: Aesthetic accessory in fashion and alternative scenes.
    4. Leather Harness:
      • Style: Made from leather, providing a rugged or fetish aesthetic.
      • Use: Common in BDSM and alternative fashion.
    5. Harness Bra:
      • Style: Combines elements of a bra and harness for a sensual look.
      • Use: Fashionable lingerie or BDSM accessory.
    6. Full-Body Harness:
      • Style: Extends across the chest, torso, and sometimes down to the hips or thighs.
      • Use: Can be a fashion statement or part of more elaborate BDSM attire.

    How to care for your harness

    Caring for your harness is essential to ensure its longevity, maintain its appearance, and promote safety, especially if it’s a safety or BDSM harness. Here are general care tips:

    1. Read and Follow Care Instructions:
      • Always check and follow any care instructions provided by the manufacturer. Different materials and designs may require specific care.
    2. Cleaning:
      • Regularly clean your harness to remove dirt, sweat, and oils. Use a damp cloth or sponge for spot cleaning.
      • For leather harnesses, use a leather cleaner or a mild soap designed for leather. Avoid harsh chemicals that can damage the material.
    3. Drying:
      • Allow your harness to air-dry completely before storing it. Avoid direct sunlight, high heat, or using a hairdryer, as these can damage certain materials.
    4. Storage:
      • Store your harness in a cool, dry place away from direct sunlight. Hanging it or laying it flat can help maintain its shape.
      • For leather harnesses, use a dust bag or wrap it in a soft cloth to prevent scratches.
    5. Avoid Moisture:
      • Keep your harness away from excessive moisture or humidity, as it can lead to mold, mildew, or leather damage.
    6. Inspect Regularly:
      • Check the harness regularly for any signs of wear, loose stitching, or damage. Repair or replace any damaged parts promptly.
    7. Use Appropriate Lubricants:
      • If your harness is used in BDSM activities, be mindful of the type of lubricant you use. Some lubricants can damage certain materials. Choose a compatible, body-safe lubricant.
    8. Rotate Use:
      • If you have multiple harnesses, rotate their use to prevent overuse and prolong their lifespan.
    9. Avoid Extreme Conditions:
      • Avoid exposing your harness to extreme conditions such as extreme heat, cold, or prolonged sunlight, as these can cause damage.
    10. Follow Safety Guidelines:
      • If your harness is a safety harness for activities like rock climbing or racing, follow the specific safety guidelines provided for its care and use.

    Where can you buy gay harnesses from?

    Clonezone, THEGAYSHOP and Fetch all have great selections of Harnesses

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