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  • 7 first date tips for the 21st century gay guy

    Top tips to get ahead and save you from meeting a man like your granddad unless, of course, that is your thing.

    Prove the picture is him

    If he has a profile photo and you are meeting through an app, right-click the image and google it to make sure it is him.

    Name check

    If you have a forename and surname back to the search engine and check out social media accounts, Twitter, Facebook and Instagram.

    Web trawl

    Your research could mean you will be able to cross reference the image to make sure it is current. Find out about his hobbies. Read his posts and find out about likes and dislikes. Check out his family and friends.

    Lookout online for Ex’s they will almost certainly have a story to tell or have poured it out all over their timeline and feeds. Follow the trail of crumbs.

    Somewhere in all of this, you may find out about his sexual health and preferences.

    There may be professional profiles enabling you to look at the work play contrast.

    If you still want to meet him and you have not been put off by your research, now is the time to use the insight you have gleaned.

    Chat with him before a date

    Is the guy a big drinker? If so go for a meal unless you are thinking of loosening him up and getting into the sac.

    For a meal, you may already know where he likes to eat or perhaps a favourite food. Coffee or Cognac? All this insider information could make you look intuitive and compatible. Just remember if he knows all there is about you too, it is time to smile at each other and reveal you are both members of Stalkers Anonymous!

    “STOP THE BUS!” You will have a foot in the door and established a rapport with these cheats, but now it is time to interact.

    First Date Advice

    Best advice for a first date is listen and learn. You already know about yourself, so give the guy some time to tell you about him. Wait and see if he wants to learn about and ask about you.

    If he loves puppies and brought you flowers (did I mention a small gift as an icebreaker) is attentive and smiles a lot, brushing aside questions about himself, he could be a keeper

    Get Out Clause

    Have an out option in case he is not for you and the thought of spending another minute with him is hell on earth. I usually have a text ready to send and a friend primed to call me if I am bored, frightened or falling into the whirly pits of despair with a guy on a first date.

    Leave the house empty

    Finally, before leaving the house, have a wank. There is nothing worse than being so eager for “an empty” that it blurs your senses.

     

  • These guys get real about tasting their own climax

    Your Man Mayo… Do you taste or don’t you?

    Well, this was the subject recently discussed in this Reddit forum… A bunch of non-gay guys had a discussion on whether they had ever tasted their own spaff.

    Surprisingly, or maybe not, most of them got off on it!

    1) I don’t mind if we snowball or I eat out her creampie but I don’t swallow cum just for the sake of it. Different strokes for different folks. Via

    2) When my SO gave me a blow job she would clean off my cock with her mouth and then deep kiss me. So yeah, I’ve tasted and swallowed my sperm. I did the same for her when I’d eat her pussy. I thought it was hot as hell too. Via

    3) I f*cking love it, but I’m bisexual so there’s that. Nothing is hotter than swapping my cum with my girl after I came in her mouth Via

    4) I’m kinda late to the thread but I thought I would contribute. I pretty much swallow my cum every time I masturbate unless I’m in the shower. At first it was just out of curiosity but then it just became convenient. I just cum into the hand I’m not using or I cum directly into my mouth by putting my legs over my head. Via

    5) I usually don‘t swallow it. But I don‘t have a problem doing it, interestingly it‘s mostly tasteless anyway. Via

    6) I’ve only come out of lurking a couple times, and it was to ask virtually this same question. Personally, I eat my cum in most sexual encounters, solo or with my wife. When masturbating I feel like I’m wasting it if I don’t eat it. There isn’t any sexual gratification in it. With my wife it’s a different story. Eating my cum out of her is one of my favorite things. Snowballing is another fun trick. She hasn’t gotten comfortable enough to let me eat it after anal, but when the day comes… I get seriously turned on just thinking about it. Incidentally, this is why I dislike handjobs, you almost always lose all of it – I’m not about to lick it off the sheets! That said, I think it’s common for guys to have tried their cum, somewhat common for them to be cool with some contact with it post, and extremely unusual to have a real interest in it. Via

    7) Before I cum, yeah, I sometimes want to do that. But I’m of the common guy type whose libido kinda shuts down completely for a few minutes once he’s done. So basically, the only time when there’s any cum around is the time in which I want nothing to do with it. Via

    8) I was trying to do yoga plow and shoot in my mouth. I didn’t warm up and put my neck out, didn’t finish and had to go to the chiropractor. So yeah, warm up first before trying this. I swallow and enjoy licking off my SO. The taste seems really fine to me & it is a very clean way to deal with sploodge if someone eats it all up. Via

    9) It’s disgusting, and I don’t say that because “it’s gross, thats boy cum” but I’ve tried it multiple times and the taste is disguuuusting. It also seriously leaves my throat sore, far too basic. Via

     

    There you go… An insight… What do you do?

     

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  • These straight guys get real about pegging

    “This is probably the one time you don’t want to be hyper-masculine.”

    What it's liked to be pegged

    In a, well quite frankly, candid convo on Reddit, these guys talk about what it’s like to be pegged. For those not in the know, pegging is where a woman dons a dildo and well, pegs the man. The word was popularised by Dan Savage in his Savage Love column.

    Anyway, this forum is devoted to how these guys with girlfriends feel about being pegged and their best advice for a newbie, whose girlfriend has plans to peg him – after he promised a weekend of submission.

    1) Be careful, dude.
    This is probably the one time you don’t want to be hyper-masculine. If you feel pain, then speak-up.
    Much easier to rain on ya partner’s parade, than deal with an ER doctor wondering how yer arsehole got shredded.
    Might tickle your asshole for awhile before penetration too. Not the loosest of holes and a large object inserted is going to cause major discomfort. Via

    2) She HAS TO go slow. I hope she goes from fingers to dildos before strap-on dildos.
    The hips can generate a LOT of power. However, she might get tired very fast depending on her experience & fitness.
    Also, I strongly suggest you guys use a flexible dildo, not a glass dildo for example. Via

    3) You can always say no. You just chose not to. Just make sure you have the appropriate lubricant and that she takes it easy. There is always potential for damage, so if you feel a sharp pain, that would be a time to say no. Via

    4) Lube lube lube lube lube. It’s going to be easier to take a soft, bendable silicon dildo rather than a harder one that doesn’t bend easily. Also make sure you take deep breaths to relax yourself as the penetration starts, you’ll start to get really tense and potentially get nervous; so do everything to calm yourself down. Via

    5) Tell her you apologise for every bad thing you’ve ever done beforehand. Via

    6) I’m surprised no one has mentioned this yet, but relax and push OUT! I know it sounds counterintuitive, but especially when she first inserts it, pushing out like you’re on the toilet helps it slide in more easily, potentially saving you some needless pain. And, as someone whose girlfriend pegs him VERY regularly, pushing out makes it feel even better, especially when you’re near orgasm. Via

    Also, the usual advice: LUBE, LUBE, AND MORE LUBE. And take it slow. Put it in slow. Once it’s in, have her wait for a minute or several for you to get more accustomed to it. Then she can slowly get thrusting. Via

    We’re just surprised that no one said that this was all you could eat for dinner that day

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  • Guys: Five health signs that something might be wrong

    We spoke to doctors from The Online Clinic to seek advice on the most important symptoms for men to be on the lookout for.

    Men's Health, prostate worries,
    If you’re suffering any of these pains, you might want to get yourself to the GP

    It can be hard to know what health issues are really important to look out for with men’s health. The internet throws all kinds of signs and symptoms at us, and googling only results in permanent paranoia. To try and understand what we really should be keeping an eye out for, I’ve been speaking to doctors from The Online Clinic to highlight the most important health signs. They gave me information on the following top five health signs which should be a warning signal to men to go and get a check-up.

    Urination

    Be sure to keep an eye on your urine – as this is often the first sign that something is wrong with your prostate. If you have a poor stream or find there is hesitation when going to pee, this can be a strong indication of prostatic issues. Get checked by a doctor as soon as possible and put your mind at ease.

    Unexplained weight loss

    Another sign is weight loss – if you are losing weight without intention, it’s a good idea to get this investigated. The doctors at The Online Clinic have said that it could mean you have a symptom of a metallic disorder such as thyroid disease, diabetes, or even cancer in the extreme cases.

    Statistically, middle-aged men are twice as likely to suffer from diabetes than women, so it is important to rule this out. If you notice that you are beginning to lose weight, make sure you see a doctor ASAP.

    Coughing

    Coughing can be another sign of a more serious health problem – if you’re a smoker, don’t dismiss a cough that lingers for more than three weeks as just being a nasty cigarette side effect. It could be a sign of something much more serious, like a lung disorder – or even cancer. If you find that a cough does last longer than three weeks, be sure to get this checked as soon as possible. And, if you don’t smoke, a cough longer than 6 weeks could indicate the same thing.

    Painful ejaculation

    Pain when you ejaculate is unpleasant and can be distressing. If this happens make sure you take note and go to the doctors, however embarrassing it may be.

    Regularly check for blood in your sperm or discharge from your penis. If you do find anything unusual it’s a good idea to go and get an STI test. These are all symptoms of a sexually transmitted disease.

    Pain

    Lastly, it’s important to remember that pain, in general, is usually a sign that something’s wrong: listen to your body when it tells you that something is amiss and seek advice from a doctor.

    Advice given by Dr Elizabeth Kershaw-Yates, GP and one of the medical team at TheOnlineClinic

  • This guy lies about his peen size because he doesn’t like Size Queens

    So does size matter?

    To one guy, in particular, peen size does matter – his. Apparently, his size means that when he puts it in his profile he only really attracts “size queens”.
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  • There’s a new position and we’re interested… very interested

    It’s called the “68”…

    So we were reading Cosmo, as you do, and we found out about a new sex position and well we were naturally interested. It’s called the “68”.

    It’s similar to its slightly older brother the very famous “69”, but instead of giving both of you pleasure, it focuses more on just one of you. Brilliant!

    So what do you need to do?

    Well, apparently the “bottom” lies on their back with their legs slightly open with their knees bent and feet flat on the floor or bed. The “top” lies on top of the “bottom” facing up with their head on the “bottom’s” thighs. It’s like a natural resting place.

    Your junk should be right in your partner’s face.

    Now, this could be great as a rimming position or oral sex position… Although be careful as your penis might not bend fully that way… and you don’t want to break it.

    Don’t forget if you’re the top to take some of the weight off your partner’s chest, by using your elbows to take some of the strain.

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  • 9 of the best gay chat sites

    9 of the best gay chat sites

    If you’re looking for a community of gay and bisexual men in the UK there are many forums, chat sites and apps to choose from each offering different types of experience and communities.

    Whether you’re looking for dates, mates or fetes here are some of our favourites.

    THEGAYUK Chat

    Okay, we’re blowing our own trumpet here, but THEGAYUK’s community is an entirely different concept adding content and members together. So as stories are developing on the site and around the globe, we invite our users to get involved with the story and add their voices. There are forums, private messages, user photo galleries. It’s a relatively new service, so membership is building. It’s free to join and use. What’s more, we use our community to help shape our content. So if you have opinions that you want to get heard then you should join us!

    Fitladz

    Fitladz is one of our favourite haunts. It’s bitchy, fast-moving and has a real community feel to it. There’s usually between 600 and 1500 guys on at any point and has a fantastic forum system, with people bringing up all manner of subjects for the community to discuss. Basic membership is free and there is an option to upgrade.

    Realjock

    If fitness and the gym is more your scene Realjock.com is the place for you to hang in, although the membership tends to be US skewed, there are lots of Brits in the membership. Registration is free and will give you access to thousands of forums and millions (yes millions of posts). Apparently, they have nearly 400,000 members so as they say variety is the spice of life. The interface is simple looking and perhaps a little dated.

    Gaydar

    Who could forget the daddy of gay chat, Gaydar? The site has been through a major redesign and overhaul. It has a very clean interface and the old chat rooms are still intact but do seem a little quieter than when Gaydar was the only – or the major player in town. It’s clean and well laid out. There isn’t a guy aged over 35 who probably didn’t have a Gaydar account at some point! Maybe it’s time to dust off the old log in and get back on.

    Onlylads

    It took an age to join onlylads – because the activation code took forever to arrive in my inbox, although the site does allow for Facebook login, not everyone will want to use their other social media accounts to log in. The site claims to have over 100,000 profiles and come from all over the world. There’s no forum or chat room – but it does allow you to message individual members. It’s very clean looking and the interface is unfussy and user-friendly.

    b-gay.com

    b-gay.com has been around since 1999 and offers a lot of good and interesting gay and bi lifestyle content, however, its chat service has a lot of work needed to make it stand up against its rivals. It runs on Javascript or flash – which not every browser or user wants or has turned on. There doesn’t look to be a place where you can log in and create a profile. It’s all a bit anonymous to be a good social site for users. Great for lifestyle content not so great for social.

    Caffmos

    Caffmos is one of the most established social networks and its speciality is older guys, after all, it does stand for Contacts And Friendship For Men Over Sixty. The creators at Caffmos say that “friendship matters” and it’s been designed in a way to help the flow of conversations. It also offers verified photos – brilliant to ensure that the person is who they say they are. It also has an intelligent way of matching you to like-minded people by asking you to fill out three of your interests. It’s all quite old school but we love it.

    Squirt.org

    Rude and lewd and if you like that, then Squirt is the place for you. You get 10 days for free and you can see a lot of guys in your ten days. The idea of this site is to hook up, cruise online and generally get your rocks off, it’s more like the dating app experience, but for your desktop and mobile.

    By far one of biggest on the web is FabGuys, which has been entertaining the gays since 2010. It’s a British made website and has a verification system so you know you’re talking to real guys. It has a simple and easy to use looking website.

  • What it’s like to come out as gay when you’re married to a woman

    What it’s like to come out as gay when you’re married to a woman

    David Christel has written a book about what it’s like to come out as gay, when you’re married to a woman and gives top tips on how to overcome fear, accept yourself and let people know about who you are.

    Free-Photos / Pixabay

    The book Married Men Coming Out! is about the evolution of personal identity when a man who has previously been identified as heterosexual and married finally comes to terms with his true sexuality and chooses to accept, with conviction, who he really is: a gay man.

    This is a guidebook for those who realise that they’ve made an error by denying and suppressing their true identity and they can no longer live a double life. They need to be who and what they truly are: gay.

    Here are 10 key tips for successfully manoeuvring through the coming out process and becoming the man you born to be.

    Be brutally honest with yourself.

    You’ve been hiding from your true self long enough, so playing games isn’t going to help you. If you truly want to be free, then face facts and face your challenges with heart, compassion, and truth.

    Accept yourself for who you are.

    Trying to get others to accept you for who and what you are is a bottomless pit. The only way past this is to be fully accepting of yourself. Your confidence will radiate outwardly and your sense of wellbeing will not be dependent on others.

    Be honest with everyone.

    “Honesty is the best policy,” but disclosure must be handled delicately. Put yourself in others’ shoes to understand how they might feel and react to your coming out. Very often, your announcement can cause a huge shift for others as they question their relationship and relationship dynamic with you, their personal values and beliefs, their history with you, and more.

    Take some time before you jump into a relationship with another man.

    You’re going through a major transition and re-identification process. The last thing you want to do is bring into a new relationship unresolved issues concerning your former marriage, as well as a lack of understanding about who you truly are and your beliefs and values.

    Don’t let others manage your coming out process.

    No one appreciates being outed and we all appreciate managing our own lives. For most men, the coming out process is a long one and has many issues connected with it. It requires timing, addressing issues when it feels right within oneself, and sensitivity to one’s environment and circumstances.

    Communication is key.

    The people you come out to are going to have questions, opinions, and judgments. The more clearly and authentically you communicate with others, the less complicated the process will be. Very importantly, others will truly begin to understand just who you are.

    Don’t be a slave to fear.

    The biggest fear with coming out is that of loss: loss of family, friends, neighbours, co-workers, status, job and career, lifestyle, inheritance, home, love, acceptance, inclusion. People will try to use your fear against you to satisfy their own beliefs, values, agendas, and fears. I think you can see the fallacy in that.

    Don’t be afraid to ask for help.

    You are not alone on your journey. There are so many resources available to you from support groups to therapists, community activities, and LGBTQ centers. Coming out means also coming out of your shell by connecting with those who are on similar journeys of self-discovery.

    Be authentic, be YOU.

    No one else can do you better than you. You are unique and you have gifts, so don’t try to be someone else or something you’re not. Let the truth of your being and inner light shine for all the world to see. The greatest gift you can give yourself and anyone else is the truest essence of your being.

    Become a pioneer, model, and educator for the LGBTQ community and other married men desiring to come out.

    “Be the change you want to see in the world.” You never know who will benefit from the sharing of your life experience. You may save a life by it. That’s how important each of us is in the world.

    At heart, this book is about authenticity. The need for this book is paramount as we each seek to live authentically and in so doing, find some level of inner peace, self-acceptance, integrity, joy, and love. Without this, the world may not evolve to reflect these essential attributes for all of mankind.

    To learn more about David Christel and Married Men Coming Out!, visit his website: www.TheEssentialWord.com

    Available to buy now on Amazon

    Married Men Coming Out by David Christel

  • These are the smells that are turning British people on

    Rain, biscuits and old books have emerged among a list of weird and wonderful scents which get us in the mood for love.

    Researchers who polled 2,000 UK adults also found fragrances such as bonfires, baked bread and Sunday roasts evoke romantic tendencies.

    More traditional aphrodisiac aromas such as flowers, perfume aftershave featured high on the list too as did Autumnal aromas such as mulled wine, gingerbread and log fires

    Commissioned by Yankee Candle®, the research found 42 percent of us associate our favourite fragrances with romance.

    Dr Lynda Shaw, cognitive neuroscientist and psychologist, said: “When we inhale a scent it reaches the olfactory receptor cells at the top of our nose and then travels to the limbic system in our brains, resulting in chemical and physical stimulation.

    “The limbic system is associated with memory, emotion and mood which therefore explains why our sense of scent plays such a powerful role in physical attraction.”

    Other romantic scents to make the list include fresh linen, vanilla and coffee, along with chocolate, cherry and whisky.

    Cinnamon, mixed spices and saffron feature too.

    The research also found over three-quarters of UK adults consider smell to be important in a partner.

    Amid this, three in ten single Brits said not liking a date’s perfume or aftershave would be a major turn-off and ten percent admitted this would also end any chances of a second date.

    Thirty-five percent of women said they find deep, woody fragrances most appealing on a partner and quarter a quarter find ‘fresh’ scents the most attractive.

    While 24 percent of men like ‘fresh’ scents too and 13 percent prefer sweet scents such as vanilla.

    Amid this 29 percent of the population said autumn makes them feel more romantic than they do during the rest of the year.

    While almost a fifth of single guys are more likely to use a dating app to find a partner during the colder months.

    Log fires and bonfire both feature highly on the list of turn on fragrances for people in the UK.

    The research also found the perfect autumnal romantic night in would feature a roaring fire, a home-cooked meal, movie – and a bottle of wine.

    While our favourite things about the pre-winter months include cuddling up on the sofa, long walks and the changing colour of the leaves.

    Snuggly in the autumn

    Having the heating on, watching movies at home and home cooking are also some of our most cherished things as the nights draw in.

    Hannah Jenkins, Brand Activation and Channel Marketing Director EMEA Yankee Candle®, said: “Whether it’s the warm and vibrant colours of the leaves or the fruity and earthy scents of the forest, there is certainly something about the autumn season that is magically romantic.

    “It is this feeling of love and contentment that Yankee Candle aims to capture in its new Fall in Love collection.

    “For those looking for love, or hoping to reignite a sense of romance in their relationship, snuggling up on the sofa with a warm cashmere blanket and an ambient scented candle can help to soothe and seduce the senses and allow love to blossom as the colder weather sets in.”

    FAVOURITE ROMANTIC AROMAS – TOP 30:

    1. Perfume
    2. Log fires
    3. Aftershave
    4. Fresh flowers
    5. Fresh linen/cashmere
    6. Rain
    7. Vanilla
    8. Mulled wine
    9. Bonfires
    10. Mixed spices
    11. Coffee
    12. Cinnamon
    13. Freshly washed clothes
    14. Spiced apple
    15. Freshly baked bread
    16. Chocolate
    17. Sunday roast
    18. Cakes baking in the oven
    19. Apple crumble
    20. Gingerbread
    21. Fireworks
    22. Cherry
    23. Leather
    24. Leaves
    25. Saffron
    26. Whisky
    27. Old books
    28. Sparklers
    29. Conkers
    30. Biscuits

  • Six reasons guys may engage in the services of a sex worker

    Six reasons guys may engage in the services of a sex worker

    Writing in 2013, writer Greg Mitchell outlined six reasons why men might call upon the services of an escort and asked if Prostitution was the last taboo.

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    One will typically find, when talking about sex, that a gay man will say something along the lines of, “I’d never use an escort. I don’t have to.” The inference being, that they are too sexy, good-looking young or whatever for them to even consider the services of a sex worker. Well, let me tell you, there are many reasons a guy might choose to see an escort, and usually, it has very little to do with the way they look. Most are just average guys, the kind of guy you might have winked at in a bar, and some of the ones I’ve seen have been downright gorgeous. Admittedly, there are a few who look better with the lights out, but for the most part, they are just ordinary guys.

    Six reasons

    1. He’s in a long-term relationship. He still loves his partner, but his partner doesn’t enjoy the same sort of sex he does. Seeing an escort is far safer than picking someone up on the internet or in a bar. His partner is far less likely to find out about it, and the escort is far less likely to turn into a bunny boiler.

    2. Maybe he’s disabled in some way. We do tend to forget the physical needs of the disabled, as if a disability should condemn someone to a life time of celibacy. One of my clients, a sweet and gentle man, had lost both his legs in an accident. Sex wasn’t easy for him, but it was possible and he still had needs. Much better to use the service of a professional.

    3. This is one of the most surprising, but it happens. A young guy, who wants someone with a bit of experience to each them a few things. I wrote an article about one such experience for my blog. Take a look

    4. The businessman in town for a couple of nights. He has a limited amount of time and doesn’t want to waste it hanging around in bars or trying to find someone on Grindr or Scruff (you know how time-consuming that can be). The answer, call an escort. Even better, make the booking before you arrive in town. You may be surprised to hear that many book in advance.

    5. Those who want to have sex with that particular escort; probably because they’ve seen him in a movie (escorting and porn often go together).

    6. Someone who wants to explore and indulge a particular fetish. Believe it or not, it can be safer to explore this with an escort, someone who has a website and umpteen ads on various sites, than someone who is a complete unknown.

    Do we really wish to criminalise these men? Absolutely not, nor should the State be interfering in what is, after all, a transaction between two consenting adults. It’s my contention that the problems of trafficking, drugs and coercion could be more easily be dealt with by decriminalising and regulating the industry, rather than creating more bands of legislation and driving the industry further underground. It’s called the oldest profession in the world for a reason, and it’s time that our attitudes to both sex and the sex industry became more grown up.

    Read the original article here

  • 11 things that guarantee you won’t get a second date with the man of your dreams

    It’s a blooming minefield.

    So you’re out on a hot sizzling date with Bob from accounts  (probably not called Bob and he probably doesn’t work in accounts). He’s the man of your dreams. He’s the one you dream about, to quote from a Whitney song.

    So in order to nab yourself a second date here’s eleven things you should definitely NOT do…

    Choose a restaurant for your first date

    The best plan is to leave him wanting more. Drinks after work is a great option. Choose somewhere central to you both and somewhere public. The problem with dinner is that it’s long. If you suddenly realise halfway through your garlic bread starter that you’ve absolutely nothing in common with the fella in front of you – the reach to your chocolate sundae pud will feel as long as Cher’s career. Drinks mean you can make an escape after one if you need to – or extend if you’re loving it.

    Drinks mean you can make an escape after one if you need to – or extend if you’re loving it.

    Arrive late

    Nothing is more annoying than someone arrives late. It’s disrespectful and could be a sign of being controlling. Obviously sometimes running late can’t be helped if that’s the case send him a quick text to say you’ll be there ASAP.

    Keeping your phone on and checking Insta/Grindr/Texts/Snapchat

    Leave the phone alone. There’s a real-life person sitting in front of you who wants to get to know you better.

    Editor of THEGAYUK.com Jake Hook admitted, “I once went on a date with a guy who spent 45 minutes of our 1-hour lunch date on the phone ‘doing business deals’ in the other 15 minutes he told me that he had just undergone treatment for syphilis and texted someone else 10 times. He actually called later that day, to say he wanted to meet again… Needless to say, he was the catch I let slip away.”

    Call him a DILF

    You know what if the guy that sitting opposite you is a few years older than you, it’s probably not okay to call him a “Daddy” or DILF. Unless of course, he’s made it known that he wants that kind of relationship with you.

    And while we’re on Daddy issues

    Bestselling Bonkbuster author Rebecca Chance suggests not talking about your Daddy issues… On a first date, she advises, “Don’t talk about the terrible relationship you had with you Dad” and then, “talking about your therapy due to the above” is also a one-way ticket to dumpsville.

    Hinting that your ex-had a big penis

    Rebecca Chance, says talking about your ex, is a no-no… Especially talking about the size of his appendage. It will make him think that you’re not trustworthy. Keep it vague, keep it breezy. Remember there are always two sides to every story – yours is just one of them.

    Bitching about your ex

    For the same reasons for talking about his penis size. People looking for a relationship aren’t looking for a bitchy, hung-up-on-ex boyfriend. Clean your slate and start each relationship afresh.

    Get political

    They say there are three things you should stay clear of in conversation, Sex, Politics and religion, which, let’s face it is the only things worth talking about, however writer Matt Porter relives, “had a date once with someone and ended up as a debate about Brexit! Although even simply declaring an interest in Britain First would be enough to push me over the edge”.

    Also, probs best not to talk about religion. Wait till the second or third…

    Drink more than two drinks

    It’s best not to be a complete drunk on your first date. Keep it classy.

    Interrupting him

    For god sakes let the man talk. Remember conversation is a two-way street.

    Having the sex talk can help form trust, a bond and ultimately lead to great sex between the two of you.

    To sex or not to sex

    Is this a booty call or no? It’s likely that you’re aware of what kind of date this is, but if it’s a sex date, there’s a couple of rules. 1) If you’re going back to yours – make sure it’s tidy and smells nice. 2) Make sure you have lube and condoms to hand – even on your person… Check out our list of 9 things every guy needs in his bedside drawer. 3) Have the sex health chat upfront and talk about what you like and what you don’t. Talking about that kind of stuff can help form trust, a bond and ultimately lead to great sex between the two of you.