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  • BB’s Andy and Sam talk sexuality

    BB’s Andy and Sam talk sexuality

    Big Brother’s Alex and Sam have been having a heart to heart about their sexuality.

    CREDIT: Channel 5
    CREDIT: Channel 5

    This year’s Big Brother has a number of out gay and bisexual men as housemates, four to be exact. The largest number since the show started over a decade ago.

    In this evening’s show Alex and Sam have a heart to heart about growing up gay and why certain gay men act in particular ways when they come out.

    Andy West, who was suspended by the BBC after he criticised the broadcaster for their decision to add Tyson Fury on the Sports Personality shortlist reveals,

    “I do remember feeling unpopular when I was 9 or 10, I tried to be different so I could have friends.”

    Sam adds;

    “I don’t judge people, but what I do think is sometimes people think just because they are gay they have to act a certain way, because those people expect them to be.

    In certain situations they feel they have to act more stereotypically gay. Each to their own. I think you should be true to yourself and be real.”

    Andy replies;

    “People say to me that I don’t seem gay…”

    Sam Giffen was blasted by social media users this week after he called on-air lovers Hughie and Ryan “bum boys”.

    Big Brother continues on Channel 5 tonight at 9PM

  • INTERVIEW | Philip Ridley

    INTERVIEW | Philip Ridley

    East London born Philip Ridley has had a varied and prolific career. Trained at St Martin’s College, he’s won multiple awards for writing and or directing both plays and films. He’s also written for children and is a successful photographer, songwriter and artist. Since his first play, The Pitchfork Disney launched twenty-five years ago, his work has at times been considered shocking and controversial by some and has divided critics. Chris Bridges spoke to him just prior to the debut of his new play, Karagula.

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    PR Supplied

    CB: I’ve seen quite a few of your plays over the years and this feels like a departure from the previous urban dramas. What inspired the genre of this play?
    PR: Well it’s always tricky to know where something starts. I don’t think there’s a big eureka moment. You never know what you’re doing in the process of doing it. Sometimes I’m half way or two thirds through something before I realize “oh I’m involved in a new project” That’s what it is I’m working on. So I suppose lots of bit and pieces were flying around and it might just be the fact that for the past few plays things have been fairly minimalist. They’ve been fairly stripped back. There’s been one of two actors or a few actors on a bare stage with no props, no sound effects, no lighting cues, no music, nothing. It’s all been stripped back to the minimum, so perhaps there was something brewing that I was unaware of that was going to throw me into a different direction and boy, have I… this is a different direction! This is over 70 speaking parts.

    CB: I’ve read articles that label you as an experimentalist in theatre form and this sounds like a big experiment with the gender mix, the ethnicity, and the secret location.
    PR: I always want to scare myself a little and do new things. I don’t want to feel that I’m repeating myself or going down a path that I’ve been down before so I deliberately throw myself out of my comfort zone as soon as I feel safe anywhere I get out of it.
    What can I say about the secret location? Well the decision to do that evolved. It wasn’t a masterpaln that we had. By mutual consent of all of us concerned we knew that we wanted to find a different kind of space for this and most of the theaters with before wasn’t going to work for this. We needed somewhere that gave us a different space. It wasn’t going to work is a proscenium arch space. The play is too wild for that. We needed more entrance and exit points for people to come on and surprise people. The longer we were deciding where to do it, the more the idea grew. The play is a bit of mystery thriller in itself, so why don’t we make the whole experience a bit of a mystery thriller and say it’s going to be done in a secret location. Everyone got quite excited by that idea.

    I’ve always been pretty passionate about the idea of when you go to see a stage play the whole evening, the whole process of going should be theatrical, the moment you leave your front door you should be on a journey towards something. I think this helps contribute to that.

     

    CB: You wrote about a homophobic murder in 2000 in Vincent River. Do you think that we’ve become too complacent about where we are in society now?
    PR: I say this to young people the whole time. Don’t be complacent about where we are because it can all snap back in our face very quickly. I still get little homophobic comments that people don’t even register as being homophobic.

    You find it a lot in the lexicon. The words people use to describe certain things. We’re suppose to be living in these liberal times but I saw on the internet, this thing came up, “15 Famous Celebrities that still haven’t admitted to being gay…” The choice of the word “admitted” you know it’s a hair’s breath away from “confess”.

    That kind of lingers on. It’s still there. I agree there’s certain areas where that if you’re with your boyfriend perhaps you’re not now that intimidated about or scared or that worried about holding hands or kissing as you walk down the street, but believe me there’s still lots of areas where you are… You kind of instinctively find yourself unlocking your hands with your lover, without even knowing it. There’s still a long way we’ve got to go and we’ve got to be fighting it at every level. I used to go on gay pride marches where people on the pavement used to spit in your face as you walked past – yes we’ve moved on from that, but it’s by no means a battle won. It’s a battle in progress.

    CB: In the past critics have sometimes counted the number of walkouts from the audiences in your plays…
    PR: I’ve never written anything with the aim of shocking anyone. As if I sit down at my desk and think, well it’s about time that I wrote something that’s going to make people walk out of my stage play. All I’ve done right from the beginning is be honest with the journey that I’m on with a play. I haven’t censored it. I’ve tried to get rid of the policeman in my head and be completely honest about how I see life and how I see the world and what I think human nature is. Now if that ends, when it’s presented to an audience with disturbing them or shocking them, I can’t help that. I’ve just been honest.

    Karagula is running now at Styx. Read our review here

    Read more in Issue 21 out next week. Download our Magazine for FREE to read the interview for free when it hits the newsstand.

  • ADVICE | I’m cumming too quickly what can I do?

    This week a reader asks what he can do to stop ejaculating too quickly. Pharmacy2U’s Clinical Governance Pharmacist Phil Day answers his question.

     I'm cumming too quickly what can I do?

     

    Dear Phil,

    I’ve a bit of an embarrassing question. I cum way too quickly. I’ve been with my boyfriend now for six months and we’ve got a great sex life, in fact it’s a bit too good.  I just can’t last.
     
    Literally I last two minutes tops. We have a fair bit of foreplay and I do get a bit close, but always stop, before I climax – however when it comes to the penetration bit I can’t last at all.
     
    Is there a way I can make myself last longer?

    John, Hull

     

    Dear John,

    This really isn’t anything to be embarrassed about. In fact, one in three men say they have suffered from premature ejaculation at some point.

    Despite what blokes say in the pub, the average length of time from the moment of penetration to orgasm is shorter than you might think. We all need to be a bit more realistic about how long we can keep going.

    One of the key things to understand when finding the fix for you is whether this is a temporary problem or something you have suffered from with other partners as well

    There can be underlying physical problems, as well as mental health issues such as anxiety and stress, that can cause it. Some doctors also reckon there are men who have unusually sensitive penises.

    There are a few things you can try, such as masturbating an hour or two before you think you’re going to have sex.

    Also, try taking deep breaths when you’re on the verge of ejaculating as that briefly shuts down the ejaculatory reflex (an automatic reflex of the body during which ejaculation occurs).

    Use positions where you or your partner can pull out easily and quickly if the act of penetration is too stimulating.

    Many sex therapists recommend adopting a ‘stop-start’ technique entailing taking breaks during sex and thinking about something bland and boring.

    Pharmacies also stock a number of over the counter and prescription-only products that could help you too, including thick condoms and desensitising sprays.

    Medication in the form of tablets is also available to treat premature ejaculation in men who experience this regularly and where it causes distress, and is usually taken one to three hours before having sex. You will need a prescription, which can be obtained from your own doctor or through a private consultation with an online GP.

     

    The advice listed above is not intended to replace or take the place of that of your own doctor, GP or medical professional who knows your full medical history. If in any doubt make an appointment with your doctor as soon as possible.

     


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  • Justin Bieber just did something pretty awesome for Orlando massacre victims

    Justin Bieber just did something pretty awesome for Orlando massacre victims

    Say what you will about Justin Bieber but he just did something really touching for the Orlando massacre victims.

    CREDIT: © Jean_Nelson | Depositphotos
    CREDIT: © Jean_Nelson | Depositphotos

     

    Performing in Orlando last Thursday, Justin Bieber paid tribute to the 49 victims of the Pulse nightclub massacre. The names of everyone who died at the shooting were shown up on a giant screen as he sang his hit, “Purpose”.

    The list of names also included Christina Grimmie from the US version of The Voice who was murdered a day before the Florida attacks.

    Speaking to the audience, Bieber said,

    “You’ve been through a lot here,
    “You guys have been in my heart. I’ve just been thinking of the families and really feeling for them. It’s hard to really be happy in a time like this, so it means a lot to see you guys out here, smiling.”

     

     

  • Caroline Aherne dies, aged 52

    One of Britain’s best loved actresses, Caroline Aherne has died at the age of 52.

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    The Royale Family star, Caroline Aherne has died at her home after a 2 year-long battle from lung cancer.

    The star’s publicist, Neil Reading, confirmed her death.

    The Bafta award-winning writer and comedy actor had also been diagnosed with eye and bladder cancer.

    In 1997 Aherne caused controversy after passionately kissing the Eurovision song contest winner Katrina Leskanich at the Sony Radio Awards ceremony.

    She was best known for her roles in The Royal Family and as Mrs Merton. More recently she lent her voice to Channel 4’s Gogglebox.

    Numerous stars have paid tribute.

     

     

    Neil Reading asked for privacy on behalf of her family saying,

    “The family ask for privacy at this very sad time.”

    ALSO READ: The LGBT allies and gay icons we’ve lost in 2016
  • North Wales Pride flies Orlando flag sent directly from the US

    North Wales Pride flies Orlando flag sent directly from the US

    Organisers at North Wales Pride have been proudly flying a City Of Orlando flag.

    Today North Wales Pride have been paying tribute to the victims of the Orlando massacre last month.

    They flew the official City of Orlando flag which was sent to them by the State Dept. especially for North Wales pride.

    Tonight the pride have organised a vigil in tribute to the 49 people who were slain when a lone gun man opened fire in the crowded gay club in Florida in what is the worst mass shooting in American history and the greatest loss of LGBT+ life this century.

    Tickets are still available on the door, at Hendre Hall in Bangor, North Wales,

  • When gay icons meet – Michelle Visages meets Adam Lambert

    When gay icons meet – Michelle Visages meets Adam Lambert

    So you wanna see a picture where two icons meet – well here it is.

    CREDIT: Michelle Visage / Instagram

    Michelle Visage and Adam Lambert look so cute together after they meet in Australia. Adam is currently in Aus to judge Australia’s version of the X FACTOR while Michelle is down under for the Drag Race tour.

    Michelle posted the picture, captioning it,

    “Me and the bae!”

     

    Recently Adam stunned his fans with some pictures from his time as a judge on the X Factor.

    Multi-platinum selling songwriter and editor of THEGAYUK, Jake Hook said,

    “Adam Lambert is the perfect judge for one of the world’s most popular talent competition. Having come from the original daddy of talent competitions, American Idol, Adam certainly knows a thing or two about being a world-class act and being able to deliver entertainment time after time. He has a keen eye – and should make this year’s X Factor impossible-to-miss-television.”

     

  • Here are the assurances the 5 PM candidates have given the gay community if they get into power

    Here are the assurances the 5 PM candidates have given the gay community if they get into power

    There are five candidates currently vying for the top job in Westminster, we asked them all about how equality and security for LGBT people in Britain will be protected if they got into power.

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    When David Cameron announced his resignation after the UK voted to leave the EU, five candidates threw their hats into the ring to become Britain’s next Prime Minister.

    All five have a troubling history with LGBT+ rights and equalities – whether through directly voting against legislation offering equality and security or abstaining or being absent from crucial votes altogether.

    This has led many in the LGBT+ community to be anxious about rights and security in the future under another leader of the current Conservative government.

    Yesterday after THEGAYUK wrote to each of the candidates, Theresa May, Stephen Crabb, Liam Fox, Michael Gove and Andrea Leadsom to ask them what reassurances they could offer to the gay community against legislative rollback on laws affecting the LGBT+ community and the current equality we enjoy.

    Here’s what each candidate has said.

     

     

    Nothing.

    UPDATE: Monday 8:51AM

    Over two days –  nothing concrete to assure the LGBT+ community that they’ll be safe within a new Conservative government.

  • THEATRE REVIEW | 1984

    ★★★ | 1984

    George Orwell’s classic book 1984 was not always going to be easily transferable to the stage. But a new production of it has just opened at the Playhouse Theatre.

    CREDIT: Manuel Harlan

    If you’ve ever read the book (either in school or for leisure), you will know the story. Written in 1949, when the year 1984 seemed like a long way off, Orwell wrote about a world where, simply, big brother is watching everything you do, everywhere you go. It’s like the present day North Korea where the government dictates how and where you will live your life, but it takes it to a bit more extreme in that anyone with an individual thought or who speaks bad about the government is punished, it’s a totalitarian state.

    The protagonist of the show is Winston Smith (bravely acted by Andrew Gower). He knows and understands that the world he lives in is bad, cruel, harsh. And he really hates it. He has put his thoughts onto paper, an illegal act if there ever was one. But there’s lots more to this complicated story, on the surface and underneath, and to explain it would be to write a very long explanation.

    But in summary, Smith has an affair with Julia (Catrin Stewart) and it all goes wrong for both of them. You see, they thought that a secret bedroom they were shown by a shopkeeper was free of surveillance, but it wasn’t. They’re rustled up and taken to prison where they are interrogated, and the shopkeeper turns out to be a spy for the government. Smith is labeled a ’thought criminal’ and is tortured, and comes face to face with his self-confessed worst nightmare – rats.

    A production of 1984 was produced by Nottingham’s Headlong Theatre company before embarking on a UK tour in 2013 and then had a sell out run at the Almeida Theatre. It’s a show that’s hard to watch. The story, and characters, are a bit complicated and not very well understood; we seen them but don’t really know who they are. And perhaps that’s the point. But it takes shock theatre to all new levels with lots of blood in the torture scene (the woman next to me had her eyes closed), and the use of very bright strobe lights used intermittently during the play which is very jaring. But it’s Chloe Lamford’s sets that keep 1984 in its time period – it’s a minimalist world where total surveillance is common.

    Credit goes to directors Robert Icke and Duncan Macmillan for putting together a show from a book that’s been described as complicated at best. And Gower gives an amazing performance as the literally tortured soul who is punished for his thoughts.

    If you can stomach a production of 1984, then this is well worth the effort. If you’re looking for something a bit light-hearted, then this show is not the show for you.

    1984 plays at the Playhouse Theatre until the 29/10/16

  • OP ED: Cameron had us believe that the Tories had changed but in the end… it’s just business as usual

    OP ED: Cameron had us believe that the Tories had changed but in the end… it’s just business as usual

    David Cameron painted a picture at the turn of this decade. The Conservatives were new, brand new and very gay-friendly. But as it stands we have three out of five PM candidates whose voting history on LGBT rights is deplorable (or non-existent) and two who have a fair weather relationship with the gay community.

    Painted as the party that brought in same-sex marriage, David Cameron would have had us believe that the Tories had finally changed.

    But it seems all he had actually created was the almost perfect veneer.

    Modern, forward thinking and accepting, but like all veneers, it’s what’s behind all that shine that really matters and what I’m seeing is rotten.

    With the departure of Cameron, we’re on the edge of having a country run by those who either wouldn’t vote on LGBT issues – so beneath them apparently is our humanity  that they wouldn’t even vote on life changing legislation, or those who, some might say are sheep in a wolf’s clothing, having had a long history of voting consistently against gay rights – and then almost like a light switch, all change, just like that.

    And while voting for equality for the LGBT community is commendable and admirable if it’s just lip service or a ploy to further career prospects – I’d rather not have you on our side. I’d rather deal with one face rather than two, at least you know where you stand.

    It’s becoming patently clear that same-sex marriage, the most historic piece of legislation this decade and one of the cornerstones of Cameron’s progressive Tories, was only won because of the coalition government with the Liberal Democrats.

    It might surprise you to find out that the majority of Conservative MPs voted against marriage equality including two of the current Prime Minister candidates: Stephen Crabb and Liam Fox. Michael Gove voted yes for gay marriage but then was absent for other key elements that would complete that equality.

    In total 136 Conservative MPs voted against the ability for gay and lesbian men and women to be treated equally under the law.

    Andrea Leadsom couldn’t be persuaded either way. She found parts of the new law “unacceptable” and abstained from the vote. In fact, she’s not voted on any LGBT legalisation since her 2010 induction to parliament.

    So here we are, five candidates, all vying for the top spot in Westminster. All of them have dubious voting, three of them clearly aren’t in our corner despite any backtracking they may have done in the past few days – and for this we, as a community, need to be worried.

    If nothing else the vote on the EU has lifted the lid on a Britain that many of us thought we’d left behind in the last century, we’ve had racial and homophobic tensions on the streets – with an increase of hate crime being reported, Brexit it seems, has given some on that side of the argument a feeling that open bigotry is acceptable.

    I’ve written to all five candidates about allaying legitimate fears our readers have put forward about LGBT protections as a new government forms – nearly 24 hours later – nothing.

    Like all veneers, the shine is only skin deep and eventually, it will crack. If we’re not careful it’s wholly possible that our rights, our freedoms could be rolled back.

     

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  • Proposal to fly rainbow flag in English town defeated by town council

    A proposal to fly the internationally renown LGBT symbol, the rainbow flag, in Abingdon near Oxford has been struck down by the town council.

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    The town council in Abingdon have voted seven to six not to fly the Pride flag next year. Organisers for Oxford Pride say they are “extremely disappointed” and are keen to find out exactly why the opposition to having the internationally recognised symbol for pride being flown in the quaint English town.

    According to a post on Oxford Pride’s page, one person who was involved in the vote was overheard commenting, “what kind of message would it be sending to town”, which some on social media have branded “disgraceful” and “disgusting”.

    A spokesperson for Oxford Pride commented,

    “It’s important to show the community that their town supports them regardless of sexuality and gender, unfortunately some of Abingdon Town Council don’t agree!”

    “For the Town Council to refuse this emblem of inclusion and acceptance, indicates that there are some still in control who do not wish such virtues to be part of an English town.”

    A petition has been launched asking the town council to fly the flag for Abington.

    THEGAYUK has reached out to the leader of the Council, Mr Michael Badcock for comment about the vote and alleged comment.