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Welcome to the Big Gay Glossary. Everything you ever wanted to know about being LGBTQ+. Find out the latest slang, gay terms and queer words and what they mean.

What does pansexuality mean? Who is pansexual?

Pansexuals are all about “Hearts not parts”

Pansexuality, might not be on your radar as much as homosexuality or bisexuality, but it’s all-inclusive nature has got people falling in love with the sexual and romantic orientation that is pansexuality – which is, essentially hearts, not parts – you fall in love and lust with the heart of someone, not just their biological sex or gender expression.

We asked readers for their best description, here’s what one person told us

“As a 21-year-old pansexual male, I found that there was a lot of stigma that went with being pansexual and many people don’t understand/know what it means.
“To me, it’s different for different people, I personally think that in my eyes, gender/sexual-orientation does not count towards anything in the way of attraction and in the way of love. I believe that you fall in love with the person and not their genitals or what gender they are attracted to.
“I have dated various genders, various people with different sexual orientations and yes they have been very different partners and have been very different relationships however the one thing that is, all the same, is the feelings towards that person. The spark that I have felt towards each individual person and that feeling was not towards there genitals, it was towards them as people.
“My opinion of pansexuality is love.

Another user, Alex, told us,

“Love without gender, connection without exclusion, and plenty of fish in the sea”

and another, Eggy, wrote,

“sexual attraction regardless of gender”

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24th May 2020
What does AFAB mean? And is it offensive to us?

AFAB stands for Assigned Female At Birth, where a person’s gender was given by medical professionals based on the baby’s genitalia found at birth giving a person a biological sex marker on their birth certificate. In this case, AFAB would mean that doctors or midwives found the baby to have a vagina, therefore, would assign female to their birth certificate.

Using the AFAB acronym could also be used to describe a person’s former gender or biological sex identity – used in the case where the person now lives as non-binary, a trans man or masculine-presenting or a factual status on a woman’s gender identity.

Is using AFAB to describe someone offensive to say?

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No, but as with most language, it is how the words are applied or the context in which they are used where offensive can be taken. As being described as AFAB is a fact it shouldn’t be considered problematic unless the person you are referring to has said that they are uncomfortable with being called by a certain term. It could in the case of a transgender person out them as trans, or lead to a situation of deadnaming or deadgendering.

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21st April 2020
What is Sexual Altruism and who is a sexual altruist?

Sexual Altruism is an idea where someone does something sexually for the benefit of someone else.

Usually, within a relationship, it means one half does something sexually for their partner to make the other half happy.

That is, the activity wouldn’t have been their first choice, but they are happy enough to go along with the act.

For instance, a partner has a fantasy that their other half doesn’t necessarily share but goes ahead with taking part to make their partner feel happy.

A partner may not necessarily be into feet fetishes, but plays along for their partner’s benefit, or has a threesome with another person in order to satisfy a fantasy for their partner.

There are ways, of course, of introducing certain activities to the bedroom if you’re not sure if your partner will be receptive. Check out our tips on introducing sex toys or even dressing up in the bedroom.

The word Altruism means a “selfless concern for the well-being of others”.

The term was coined by Auguste Comte in about 1850.

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15th April 2020
BIG GAY GLOSSARY | Section 377

What is Section 377?

Section 377 is a British-Colonial Era law which effectively outlaws same-sex, sexual relations between men. It was installed in 41 former British colonises.

The text of the law reads,

377. Unnatural offences: Whoever voluntarily has carnal intercourse against the order of nature with any man, woman or animal shall be punished with imprisonment for life, or with imprisonment of either description for a term which may extend to ten years, and shall also be liable to fine.
Explanation: Penetration is sufficient to constitute the carnal intercourse necessary to the offence described in this section.

It is still in place in countries across the world, most notably in Singapore, where activists have tried to have the law dismissed.

Activists in India were able, in 2018, to have the law struck down, but only after years of campaigning and u-turns from the Government.

The UN has said that the law defies international law

The law still stands in Malaysia, Singapore (see Section 377A of the Penal Code of Singapore), Pakistan, Bangladesh, Burma, and Jamaica.

Section 377 is the model for similar laws that remain in force in Bhutan, Brunei, Kiribati, Papua New Guinea, Tonga, Tuvalu, Samoa, Malawi, Mauritius, Sierra Leone, Somalia, Sudan, Solomon Islands, Sri Lanka (as Article 365 of the Sri Lankan Penal Code),Ghana, The Gambia, Kenya, Nigeria, Tanzania, Uganda and Zambia

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30th March 2020
BIG GAY GLOSSARY | Rimming

What does rimming mean?

Rimming if you’re not in the know is where one person (the rimmer) licks, sucks, kisses, penetrates their partner’s (rimmee) anus with their tongue. It’s also known as analingus.

It often forms part of the foreplay part of sex and can help the bottom to become more relaxed before anal sex. and isn’t unique to gay or bi men. Anyone with a butt or a tongue can do it.

There are a lot of people who absolutely love receiving it and giving it, or both, but it’s not for everyone.

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28th March 2020
BIG GAY GLOSSARY | Transplaining

What is ‘Transplaining’?

Pippa Catterall a transgender woman and Professor of History and Policy at the University of Westminster helped us with this explanation of what transplaining means.

She told us,

“Transitive verb with similar connotations to mansplain.

“It can be used to describe the ways in which some well-meaning trans people pontificate about their transition experiences and processes as if they are the only authentic or right ones.”

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11th October 2019
BIG GAY GLOSSARY | Transbian

What is a ‘Transbian’?

Pippa Catterall a transgender woman and Professor of History and Policy at the University of Westminster helped us with this explanation of what transbian means.

She told us,

“A transgender woman who is attracted to either transgendered or cis women. It is used to differentiate from cis women who have a lesbian sexual orientation.

“Not all trans women are comfortable with the term, as it can be seen as denying their transition. Some lesbians are also very hostile to the term, despite the attempt to differentiate, particularly those who essentialize gender and therefore deny that gender transitions can even occur”

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11th October 2019
What does cisnormative mean?

There are many terms that come up when discussing gender and you may hear words that begin with “cis”.

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Cisnormative is one such word and its meaning is simply the typical or expected behaviour from a particular gender role: at its simplest the binary of Man and Woman.

So as an example, if you’re born male, grow up and are treated as a male, it might be considered cisnormative for him to play with toy soldiers, like football or have his bedroom colour blue.

In the same way, it would be considered cisnormative for a girl to grow up liking and dressing in pink and playing with dolls.

A person living a cisnormative life is a cisgender person who dresses and acts in a way which might be described as typical for their gender and biological sex.

Many of these choices are actually impacts from parental decisions rather than a child’s actual wishes. This was proven in a recent BBC two documentary called Gender Free.

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21st January 2019
What is intersectionality?

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Probably one of the best descriptions of Intersectionality is from trans activist Ashlee Marie Preston, who said in an interview with Blunt Post columnist Vic Gerami, “Basically, intersectionality describes multiple threats of description when an individual’s identity overlaps with multiple marginalized groups. Those experiences aren’t independent of one another but each informs the others”

21st January 2019
What does Misogynoir mean?

Misogynoir is a word that was coined by queer, androgyne black feminist Moya Bailey, which describes a type of discrimination that is experienced by black women.

Bailey created the word to describe misogyny directed at black women, where their race and gender both play a role in bias.

According to Wikipedia, the term was first used by Bailey in the Crunk Feminist Collective blog to raise awareness of the misogyny toward black women in hip hop music.

The term “transmisogynoir” was coined by Trudy of Gradient Lair and created to refer to the intersection between transmisogyny and misogynoir, meaning the oppression of trans women of colour. Transmisogynoir is the intersection of transphobia, misogyny, and antiblackness.

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21st January 2019
What are Chumber Nuts?

Ever wondered what you might call those bits of poop that get caught in your ass hair… Well, wonder no more.

Chumber nuts are those little balls of faeces that get caught up in your ass hair – and the only real way to get rid of them is by shaving off your butt crack hair.

As you move about during your day, your butt cheeks will be rubbing any tiny bits of poop around your anus into little ball-shaped pieces which will cling or attach themselves to your pubic hair. Even though you’ve wiped as thoroughly as possible, there will always be remnants left over, if you have hair down there.

Although some people will love a hairy man butt, you should be aware that pubic hair around the ass will be teeming with bacteria. This is because little bits of faecal matter will cling to the hair and normal wiping with TP, won’t get rid of all of it.

So you could buy some intimate wet wipes, but it’s best to have a shower before any anal sex or rimming situation.

Otherwise, you can shave your ass or even, if you’re brave, go for a waxing or learn how to do it yourself.

4th January 2019