You’ll need a third person to complete the Eiffel Tower position.
It’s true Paris, where the Eiffel Tower resides conjures images of romance, sensuality and sex so it’s only really natural that the world-famous landmark has become its own sex position – and it can be achieved by straight and gay people alike, all you need is three of you.
In reality, the Eiffel Tower position is a moment, a snapshot if you will, that is created in a threesome scenario, more specifically in the spit roast sex position, but with one extra element.
We’re all very used to seeing and looking at the Eiffel Tower in 2D, from a side view. Like this, you see two sides, wide at the bottom and meeting at the top and a lower cross-section, which braces the two sides together. When translated into human bodies, this is a man at either end (Tops) of the receptive partner (Bottom) who can be either a man or woman with that person’s hole engaged with the two Tops’ penises. Put simply, one guy is getting intercourse the other is getting oral.
In order to make the pinnacle of the tower, the Tops basically, high five each other – creating a spire of sorts.
The great thing about the Eiffel Tower sex position is that everyone who is in the three-way gets to feel involved. Often, in a threesome situation, one person can feel left out of the action, however with this position, very much like the spitroast, is that everyone is getting something out of it.
The Eiffel Tower has gotten a little bit of a bad reputation over the years, because of its association with frat boys, but actually, it can be a lot more positive than that, explains Sexpert, Jack Devon. He tells us, “rather than high fiving the two tops could actually hold hands, or interlink their fingers, this will create a bond and a physical connection between the two men.
“Too often sex can become quite insular with guys just thinking about what’s happening right in front of them, this extra connection adds a little outside stimulus to bring you back in the room and engaged with everyone who is involved.”
Did you know that the Eiffel Tower isn’t the only landmark with a sex position named after it? There’s also London Bridge – however, you’ll need at least four of you to make that position work – we’ll let you work it out.
I’m all for shaking things up in the bedroom. Sure the doggie, the missionary and the cowboy are all fun – hey, all sex positions are basically fun, but there are some totally extra positions that you should definitely add to your sexresumé.
Say hello to the Butter Churn
Basically, this is an upside-down position for the btm, but it’s pretty easy to achieve.
The btm lies on his back and hoists his legs into the air, straight up, so the majority of his weight is on the top of his back and shoulders. While in this position it’s important you don’t move your head from side to side too much , as there will be a lot of pressure on the neck. To help firm up the position he can place his hands on his lower back, with his elbows pressed into the floor.
The top then enters from above, plunging his penis (the churner!?) into the hole (or butter jug in this scenario) and begins to churn!
Another great element is that if you’re a top and love feet you’ll have full access to his toes for you to suck on. Bonus point for you and him!
Whats the beef?
Now a word of warning for the btm… This position could potentially cause you to “beef”. That’s the butt version of a queef. A fart, but not an intestinal fart but a trapped air one. So as long as your both comfortable with that possibility, i.e you’re both capable adults who can shrug these things off, after all, it is an asshole, then you’ll be grand.
The threeway butter churn
Now if you happen to be in a threeway situ, you can upgrade the butter churn to a double plunger churn! For those btms who are able to, or want to try the double penetration version.
The Btm lays on his back, with his butt in the air and his legs towards his chest or shoulders. Both Tops face away from each other, butts touching, whilst squatting over the Btm and straddling one of the Btm’s legs, creating a crisscross or the look of frog’s legs. Then pointing their dick’s down, enter the Btm. The fun thing about this position is that both Tops can control the trusting and slipping out is less of an issue.
And commence the butter churn… Either one at a time or both together! Just add cream 🙂
On a recent episode of the Demystifying Gay Porn podcast with I.Que Grande, fetish porn star HungerFF said that rather than starring in fisting porn, it could be more described as “arming” when questioned what he meant by that, he joked, “Anatomically or genetically or for some reason my insides allow me to take an entire arm in my butt…”
Arming just takes it a step (or staircase further)
When asked to describe what fisting was, HungerFF, who has created his own JustForFans empire, replied, “The insertion of someone’s hand into someone’s butthole or vag (vagina)”
I.Que probed, “but what you do is extreme fisting”, to which HungerFF replied, that extreme fisting was beyond just the hand or wrist adding that it’s, “punch fucking or arm fucking”.
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HungerFF went on to explain, “Most guys if they can take a fist, they can take it up to the wrist… and then there are people like me, who take it a step or an entire stair further than that”.
For many, double penetration is the stuff of fantasy. Simply put Double Penetration, in a gay sex context is the insertion of two penises into one guy’s hole. It usually requires at least three of you, but it can be done with just the two of you if you have a dildo (or even one of you, yes there are double penetration dildos).
What you need to know is DP takes time and patience, so if you’re really up for trying double penetration, here’s how to go about it.
Before we start it’s probably fair to say, that there will be some guys, who just won’t be able to do it, from a bottoming point of view and if you feel too much pain, or it just doesn’t feel right then stop and tell your tops, to cool their jets. You don’t want to come out of this with a trip to A&E or create yourself long-lasting issues with your butthole.
If you’re a top and you want to find out the bit that involves you, click here… if you’re the bottom then read on…
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The warm-up, warm-up
The warm-up starts long before your tops arrive. It all starts with the douche and getting yourself ready down there.
I’d always recommend a shower douche if you’re going for DP, or extended arse play. Usually, a normal bulb douche would be fine for anal sex, but you want to be sure. Want to know more about douching click here.
Make sure the water is luke-warm and that the pressure from your shower is low. Take your time with the experience.
Once you’re ready and cleaned out, start prepping your hole with lube and maybe a dildo or prostate massager. I start with a numbing lube.
A lube launcher is a perfect way to get the lube deep inside you, or you can coat the top of your dildo with lube and work it in your body.
What you want to do is get your ass all lube up and warmed up ready for the main event.
The warm up
This is where you start to introduce other guys and the sex has begun. Hopefully, your tops have been true gents and gotten you all open and ready with rimming, possibly some fingering and now the penetration. It’s up to you, but I’d let both of them have sex with you for as long as they want… (and feels comfortable for you) this means that when it comes to the DP your butt hole muscle will be relaxed and ready for something bigger.
The DP
There are three main positions for DP, but we’ve posted four, in case you’re basically just extra.
The Double Stuff
IMAGE: Robert Flood
The Double Stuff is where the Btm lies on top, face down on Top 1 who enters the ass first, then from behind, kneeling between Top 1 and the Btm’s legs, Top 2 then inserts his dick. Slowly! In this position, Top 2 mostly controls the action. If Top 1 or the btm moves too much, both Tops will most likely fall out.
Tip: for this position whichever Top has the largest penis should be on the bottom and enter first.
The Laidback Cowboy DP
IMAGE: Robert Flood
This time the Btm faces up and lies on his back on the stomach of Top 1, who should again enter first. Top 2 then put his penis and because of his position gets the best view, but also, again gets to control the thrusting action more.
Tip: If your Btm is a heavier guy, then he’ll need to support his weight with his elbows or hands, meaning that both his hands will be occupied, so Top 2 can always jerk him off
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The King Of Clubs
IMAGE: Robert Flood
The King Of Club DP position is where the two Tops lie opposite each other with their butts, balls and penises meeting in the middle. Their legs outstretched past the shoulders of the other top. The two top’s legs will cross each at around the knee. The tops’ penises should meet in the middle and essentially create one dick for the Btm to lower himself on to. The Btm will need some good upper body strength for this as he lowers himself down and steadies himself on top of the two tops. However, this is the position where the Btm has most of the control over thrusting and how deep the penetration is.
Tip: Because this is essentially creating one large penis for the Btm to sit on it can actually be harder to do. First, a lot of foreplay and fucking needs to happen before you attempt this to really relax the muscles. You could also try raising one of the Top’s hips up with a pillow under the butt, making his penis stand higher than the other, meaning the Btm can insert one, then the other.
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The Frogs Legs
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Now this position requires quite a bit of flexibility from all concerned but has 10/10 marks for views for all and well, just the feeling of achievement alone. It’s almost the exact reverse of the King of Clubs DP.
The Btm lays on his back, with his butt in the air and his legs towards his chest or shoulders. Both Tops face away from each other, butts touching, whilst squatting over the Btm and straddling one of the Btm’s legs, creating a crisscross or the look of frog’s legs. Then pointing their dick’s down, enter the Btm. The fun thing about this position is that both Tops can control the trusting and slipping out is less of an issue.
Tip: This position needs the Tops to have some flexibility in their dicks to be able to bend downwards. The Btm’s back can be supported with a pillow under his lower back or butt.
Remember
If it hurts or there’s blood or you’ve just had enough, say STOP. End it when you need to. The ass is a delicate area. The rectum’s lining is quite thin and too much trauma will damage it. This is not the time to just power through the pain, you could be causing damage.
The key is to relax, a little discomfort might happen, but the more you can chill and relax, the better it will become… and I promise it’s like nothing you’ve felt before (for tops and btms!).
Some guys are into breath control when it comes to the bedroom. While someone in the dom position, the guy who is controlling the breath of someone else, might feel up to the task, it might leave others feeling a little bit uneasy, because of the inherent risks attached to stopping someone from breathing freely.
Breath control is a major fantasy for some guys and is part of the kink world. It can come in a wide variety of guises from a full-on throat throttle to putting a gag in someone’s mouth. However getting the right pressure, the timing, permissions and the context are really important. After all, you really don’t want to be left with an unresponsive guy in your bed and a trip to A&E.
Obviously it’s always good practice to have a safe or control word for the sub to use, but if your play covers the mouth, it can be difficult to hear, so it’s important to establish a visible signal as well. This should always be discussed upfront, before play starts, as our columnist Scott points out in his article about The Rules of Rough Sex.
However, what if the person being restrained actually had the overriding say over how much they can handle, while still playing with breath control.
So simple anyone can try
It’s really easy to achieve and all you need is a breathing tube and a bathtub.
Before we go on, we have to thank Himeros.TV for the idea, because in one of their latest videos, “Baptisma”, featuring JP Dubois, they tackle the very issue of consensual breath control.
Essentially, you fill the tub with water and the sub (the controlled) slides beneath the water’s surface. A breathing tube is then placed in his mouth so he can breathe underwater.
The dom sits outside the tub and holds the tube and when he wants to control the breath he puts his thumb over the tube’s entrance, effectively blocking the airway. The dom then can play with lengths of time that the airway is blocked – for added sensory deprivation the sub can close his eyes, so he’s never aware of when the next blockage is going to happen.
All the while the two of you can masturbate or just enjoy the experience. In terms of COVID-secure or safer sex practice, this is one of the more safer ways to enjoy BDSM or kink.
The sub always retains control
What’s great about this position is that if at anytime sub needs to breathe or feels overwhelmed he can simple lift his head out of the water.
However, it would be wise to do this bathtime play with someone you trust and not some completely random stranger that you’ve never met before. To read our tips on meeting and chatting safely with strangers click here.
Well, the party doesn’t have to stop and you can still simulate anal sex for your partner, without actually taking the D inside you.
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The spoon
This has the added element of a natural sexual position. Lying in a spoon position, with the top lying behind the bottom, who spreads his legs slightly allowing the top to place his dick in between the bottom’s thighs, just below his butthole.
The bottom/person at the front then closes their legs, creating a tight crevice for the person behind. Add lube, to make it more comfortable for the both of you. Silicone lube is best for this position as you won’t need a lot and it’s very long-lasting. This position can also be achieved in doggie style.
Doggie Style
The same technique as the spoon, except the bottom, is on all fours and the top “enters” from behind by placing his dick into the groin gap between the bottom’s thigh and scrotum.
What’s cool about this position, is that both of you get a pleasurable experience, there are lots of nerve endings around the groin area so it will feel good. The top also has a wider range of movement for thrusting – so it will feel good for them too!
Plus for the cumming situ, there’s the added bonus that the top can blow his load all over his partner’s butt!
The armpit
If you’re both up for something a little bit different you could try shoulder f*cking. Yep, you read that right.
Essentially what happens here is the “top” puts his dick in the armpit gap created by the “bottom”‘s arm against his torso.
This position is great for couples who like to face each other when having sex and also those who like to think outside the box when it comes to positions.
If you like mixing laughter with f*cking, this is a great position because you’re very likely to burst out laughing at some point.
The cumming situ is also good here, as the top can spurt in various places, including the face or the torso. Win-win for all those cum lovers out there.
Apart from anything else, these positions offer an almost STI-free way of having sex. However, because there is skin on skin contact, you could still contract skin to skin STIs.
As always, it’s good to add sexual health testing to your healthcare regime. If you’re having sex regularly with the same or multiple partners, experts suggest getting a check-up every three to six months.
This week, a reader asks what positions are best for bottoming when your partner’s penis has a downward curve to it.
DEAR TGUK,
Hi, my boyfriend has a major downward curve in his penis, like a banana. He’s had it forever. It’s also big 6-7” long and a 6-7 girth.
I’m crazy about him but it’s difficult to bottom.
We can only really get it in when we doggy with my ass up, or laying on my back if he picked up my waist.
When On my back I can’t really feel anything.
Can you recommend some positions that are suitable?
Many guys have curved penises, although typically the curve is upwards or to the side, a downward curve is still, however, completely normal.
However, you will need to try out different positions to make penetrative sex work for both of you.
The reason why you say you’re not feeling anything when you’re on your back is that your prostate, the gland that makes bottoming irresistible to some, is on the inner side of your rectum wall. If your partner’s dick is straight or curves upwards, the standard missionary position means that the shape naturally rubs up against the prostate which is packed full of nerve endings. If your boyfriend’s dick is probing the other way, in this position he’ll be missing all the feel-good points.
This means if you reverse positions they may actually feel better for you.
Many guys find there’s a certain amount of flexibility when it comes to their erections, however, it’s important not to force the erect penis into any position which is uncomfortable, because you can actually snap an erect penis!
Reverse cowboy
With you sitting and straddling his lap, but facing away from his face, so your torso is pointing towards his feet. Your feet can go behind you or in front, whichever is more comfortable,
This position can work with him lying on the bed or sitting in a chair.
Reverse low cowboy
The top lies on his back, the bottom straddles on top with his head and torso pointing towards his partner’s feet. His ass points towards his partner’s head, with hips pointing slightly down. This way will give your top an amazing view of his dick entering you. Bonus!
Reverse Doggy
You are in the normal doggy position, with your butt in the air, but your top enters from above, crouching above you, with his feet either side of your hips, facing back. He then dips his dick in your ass.
Reverse sleeper
The bottom lies on his front and the top lies on top of him but with his feet near the bottom’s head.
So face to face positions might work as long as you can tip your hips in a way that will help his penis make contact with your g-spot.
The great thing is that you have all the time in the world to experiment and take time to find out what feels great for the both of you. Have fun together.
So we were reading Cosmo, as you do, and we found out about a new sex position and well we were naturally interested. It’s called the “68”.
It’s similar to its slightly older brother the very famous “69”, but instead of giving both of you pleasure, it focuses more on just one of you. Brilliant!
So what do you need to do?
Well, apparently the “bottom” lies on their back with their legs slightly open with their knees bent and feet flat on the floor or bed. The “top” lies on top of the “bottom” facing up with their head on the “bottom’s” thighs. It’s like a natural resting place.
Your junk should be right in your partner’s face.
Now, this could be great as a rimming position or oral sex position… Although be careful as your penis might not bend fully that way… and you don’t want to break it.
Don’t forget if you’re the top to take some of the weight off your partner’s chest, by using your elbows to take some of the strain.
So if you’re new to bottoming or you’re just looking some tips on to how to make it easier, here are some tips
F**k First.
We’re not going to take credit for this, Dan Savage talks about doing the deed before you go out on a romantic date! Yep, get the good stuff first. If you’re planning a night out with your man – sex first. That way, on your date, you can eat to your heart’s content – and not worry about stomach or gut-related issues later on.
You on top.
This position is normally called the Cowboy. The best way to control how far your partner goes in is with you on top. With you, on top, you can also control the speed of the thrusts – or limit them altogether. You can be in complete control of the movement because your partner’s range of movement will be limited.
Your hand in the way.
So if you’re tired of the cowboy position you can try all manner of other positions, but try this trick. If your partner is just too long for you, you can put your hand in the way. So imagine putting his penis through your fist and then into you. That eliminates around 3 inches of his actual length. The “top” partner shouldn’t really feel any less pleasure- especially if you lube up the inside of your palm.
As you get more accustomed you can change the fist into a V shape made from your index and middle finger in front of your butthole.
Spooning position.
Another range limiting position is the spooning position, where you lie on your side and your partner comes in from behind also lying on his side. To limit the range of thrust close your legs – as you get used to the feeling of him inside you, you can start to open your legs more.
It’s all in the Prep.
Spending some time by yourself – prepping can actually help loosen you up. If you’re comfortable douching that will definitely get your butt more relaxed. You can try with a showerhead, however, you must be careful of water pressure and the heat of the water – or with an actual douche.
Prep can also come in the guise of using a little dildo or vibrator that you can have some fun with before the main event. You could even have two one small and one larger for when you get a little more relaxed.
Pre-lube yourself.
After prepping yourself, why not pre-lube yourself. Don’t just wait before you’re actually in the moment, you could try using a thicker lube like the FistIt range of lubes. Using your finger take a blob of the lube and put it right inside you.
Or you could even use a lube launcher or shooter. Insert the tube and squirt away! However, make sure if you’re using a lube which isn’t water-based that it might not be suitable to use with latex condoms – always check the packaging for instructions.
If you’re going to use condoms don’t use oil-based lube, instead you silicone or water-based lubes. You can find a range of lubes from our official store.
Tell Him STFD
In the end, it’s your body and your butt. If you’re not happy TELL HIM. Or as we like to say… Slow The F*** DOWN. There’s no need to rush and you should take your time. Be sensitive to your body and let go at your pace.
THEGAYUK welcomes back Durex sex educator and wondrously witty wordsmith Alix Fox to discuss timeless sex moves that are almost guaranteed to make the earth move for you – whether you like to give or receive (or both) between the sheets. ** You should be over the age of 18 to access this article**
Ess-eee-ex (I mean ‘S.E.X.’, not ‘Essex’) is a very personal thing.
Everyone has different tastes: what one guy thinks is fan-freakin-tastic will leave another feeling like he’d rather have sea urchins fired at his bollo*ks from a bazooka. Heck, there are probably even some pain fiends out there who dream about having sea urchins fired at their bollo*ks from a bazooka.
But while there is no one bedroom-based behaviour that absolutely everybody universally loves, there are certain erotic moves that have become famous for their ability to make so many of us – ‘pitchers’ and ‘catchers’ alike – think “Mamma mia, this is making me feel chuffing brilliant; more overflowing with Wonder than Stevie’s entire family tree; like a blister full of liquid bliss that’s just about to pop; and so awesomely orgasmic that my head is spinning like a top (even if I’m a bottom!).”
Join me in celebrating four iconic sex positions that are all fairly simple and straightforward, yet infinitely sensual and satisfying…
