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  • Why Zombie-ing is the new dating trend that’s gonna totally f*ck around with your love life

    Why Zombie-ing is the new dating trend that’s gonna totally f*ck around with your love life

    So we know about ghosting and we know how to spot a fuckboy, what happens when you put the two together, well, you get something truly hellish. Welcome to Zombie-ing.

    Ghosting is where a guy you’ve been chatting to on an app, or even have hooked up with, simply doesn’t return your messages or calls. Not even a tag… After a while, you think to yourself, ‘hmm, okay, it’s done and dusted, it’s time to move on’ – good for you, but with Zombie-ing that bastard, comes back to life, without warning and starts sliding into your DMs, phoning, texting, or Grindr messages you like he was never away.

    There you are, watching the latest series of The Crown, yep, we see you Crown Queens, on Netflix, when ping, a DM comes in from a guy you hooked up with before the Coronavirus stopped our collective dating / hook up life back in March… Except as soon as lockdown came into force, he stopped messaging you completely. Yep, he ghosted you. Now months on. He’s back. Like a zombie out of The Walking Dead and he’s wanting your boy brains (okay that metaphor doesn’t work).

    So what’s the difference between a Ghost and a Zombie?

    What is Zombie-ing
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    Well, according to Cosmo a Zombie is kind of like an upgrade (or actual downgrade depending on your view) from a ghost. Gabi Conti writes, “Ghosting is when someone vanishes and you never hear from them. A true ghost will never reach out to you again in any form. If they do, then congrats: Your ghost has just upgraded themselves into a zombie.”

    Why are guys Zombie-ing?

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    Well, we going out on a limb here and going to say that Zombie-ing is happening because he’s bored AF or has run out of other guys willing to put up with his shit. With lockdowns in place all over the world, guys will be finding willing sex partners limiting, so maybe he’s going back over his old flings and seeing who will reconnect.

    So should you reconnect with a Zombie?

    Well, man, that’s totally up to you, but first, what are you going to get out of this reconnection? You really gotta put yourself first. Even if the D was really, really good.

    You should consider what happened in your relationship before he first ghosted you and then remember how pissed you were with him when he did that. Remember that? Yeah, so not cool.

    Remember apologies are just words and its actions that really speak, so if he really wants to get back in your good books, make him prove it.

    If you’re cool with just a hookup or a booty call (once lockdown is over) then go for it, you’ve got nothing to lose.

  • GHOSTING | What is it and why does it happen?

    GHOSTING | What is it and why does it happen?

    This sh*t hurts, so why the f*ck do guys do it? And are the gays guilty of doing it more?

    In a world where there’s an acronym or term for everything, Ghosting is where a guy you’ve been chatting to on an app, or even have hooked up with, simply doesn’t return your messages or calls. Not even a tag…

    That’s right, you’ve put in the time, even gone to dinner and then, without explanation he’s gone into the night, like a ghost. Never to be heard of again.

    Bastard.

    What is ghosting? what does ghosting mean?
    pedrofigueras / Pixabay What is ghosting?

    Why does ghosting happen?

    There could be a number of reasons why a guy might suddenly stop messaging you. Perhaps he wasn’t totally up front with you about his personal circumstances, he could be married or in another relationship.

    It could be something you said that really offended him or it could be that he said something that totally embarrassed him, and he’s too ashamed to speak to you again.

    Where can ghosting happen?

    The crazy thing about ghosting is that it can happen IRL and virtually. You can be ghosted on dating apps or on social media. On Grindr, we’ve found that ghosting is quite common. In a recent survey, we found that 88% of Grindr users had said that they had been ghosted on the app.

    Why does ghosting happen?
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    If he’s gone off social media or his dating profile is no longer active, then something even more final could have happened. The problem is that you’ll never know.

    The best thing is to be happy for the time you had together and move on. Don’t live in the past, look to the future.

    Is Ghosting the same thing as Zombie-ing?

    What is Zombie-ing

    Although they are linked, Ghosting and Zombie-ing are different. Zombie-ing is where your ghost, the one that you thought you’d never hear from again, suddenly comes back to life and starts wanting to hang out again. Let’s face it Zombie’s and Ghosts should be ignored and your attention should be focused on the land of the living.

  • GHOSTING: These guys share what it feels like when a Grindr guy suddenly goes quiet on them

    GHOSTING: These guys share what it feels like when a Grindr guy suddenly goes quiet on them

    If you spend any length of time on Grindr, you’ll probably have experienced the ghosting of Grindr.

    It can be entirely frustrating especially if you’ve arranged a meet after spending hours on a conversation – and then nothing, nada, zilch. You’ve been blocked. Welcome to the world of ghosting.

    These guys on Reddit spill the beans after one poster wrote about how much it “sucked” when someone he had been conversing with blocked him with no reason.

    He wrote, “Boy does it suck when you vibe with someone on Grindr, and then a couple of hours later you looked back at the chat only to realize you were blocked. What similar story have you experienced

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    The responses came thick and fast – as you might expect.

    Not out

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    One user revealed, “Met this boy and we really vibed. Had a great time together and spoke about meeting soon again. A couple of days later he blocks me on everything (had him on WhatsApp, snap etc). He just totally ghosted me. It really sucked because I liked him a lot.

    “Couple months later I get this message from him how he is sorry and that he just didn’t know how to handle something like this. He wasn’t out yet and he didn’t know how to handle the feeling of liking someone genuinely”.

    Playing games?

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    Another victim of ghosting shared, “I matched with a guy on Tinder a while back. It was quite a nice surprise because it had reached that point where I had swiped all the available people and the app was stagnating.

    He messaged me first (which is rare) so I thought there was genuine interest. We really hit it off and we were having a rather nice, meaningful conversation. Lo and behold, two hours later he unmatched me.

    I feel like people are just playing games on these apps. You have to take everything they say with a grain of salt. It’s better for me now just being off the dating apps altogether.

    Often

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    Another shared how he’d be blocked, a lot saying “About 16 times to be exact in the last week… ??‍♂️” – Now that’s a lot of ghosting.

    Catfishing?

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    Another explained how you might be better off being blocked, “Boys are scared. Trolls are asshats. Just be thankful u didn’t have to waste any more time on them. Probs a catfish anyhow.”

    Missing a date with destiny?

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    One user shared how he also missed out on meeting the love of his life because of ghosting saying, “I think it’s just being scared of what it could be. I had almost flaked on my now fiancé. We matched tinder. At that point I was beyond done with dating apps.

    “I had just been swiping for fun and was about to delete it and then I came across his profile. I was intrigued but didn’t think we would click but ultimately just said “wth” and swiped right and we matched and started chatting (which surprised me cos hardly anyone really chatted back even though you’ve matched). We chatted for a week and then decided to meet up. On my way to meet up I was so nervous that I almost flaked but so glad I didn’t.

    “He’s the best guy ever! I love him to pieces. we clicked instantly and now I can’t wait to marry him”.

    Explanation?

    As a way of explaining why this might be happening, one commentor suggested that it could be a touch of narcissism, he wrote,

    “I am ashamed to say I have done this in the past and I really do regret my actions, I am just one of those people who don’t know how to properly decline someone.

    “the feeling that they are not the unwanted piece of crap they believe they are) I don’t know.

    “In the past I have been on there, vibed with guys and realised I have bitten off way more than I can chew and told them I wasn’t interested in the first place maybe a little bit too late (you know, I was the type to say just making conversation in the bio, but if the right guy comes along type), and then blanked them when they repeatedly message me. I have never made promises. But I know some people will have done so and chicken out realising that it wasn’t really what they wanted and without telling the other person.

    “Is it good? Hell no. But when you feel like you have let someone down the last thing you want to do is to confront the issue, at least for me it is anyway, and at the end of the day, both sides lose. But because it’s on the internet, with strangers, the moral burden really doesn’t sink in as much, which sucks because they don’t know who they could have upset.

    “Either way I’m sorry you had to go through something like this, either you encountered a narcissist or just someone with cold feet. I wish you luck on your hunt though”.

  • Is ghosting on Grindr very common?

    Is ghosting on Grindr very common?

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    If that hot guy you hooked up with isn’t getting back to you, chances are you’ve been ghosted.

    First of all, what does being ghosted mean?

    The process of being ghosted means that a person that you’ve gotten to know well, perhaps over the course of a few weeks or months, suddenly and inexplicably disappears.

    They cease all communications with you.

    They don’t even seem to have checked their messages.

    Does ghosting only happen online?

    Does ghosting only happen online?
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    You can be ghosted in a real-life relationship and in an online relationship. basically they’ve turned into a ghost.

    Now sometimes there could be a very good reason why they’ve become ghosts and some may even have a legitimate reason for the disappearing act – perhaps, maybe they actually did die! There’s no way of knowing whether they did, particularly if your relationship was solely online via a private app like Grindr.

    They could have also been banned from using apps or social media for breaking rules and community guidelines, such as Facebook’s notorious crackdown on sex talk between consenting adults.

    And perhaps they already had a partner who found out about the affairs and has ground their partner’s phone into a fine dust – unfortunately, you’ll probably never know.

    So how often does ghosting happen on dating apps?

    We ran a quick poll on our social media and it turns out is very very common. Around 83% who answered the poll said that being ghosted “happened a lot” and that it happened to them in the past.

    So to answer the question, yes, ghosting does happen a lot of dating ups.

  • What is ghosting and why does it happen?

    What is ghosting and why does it happen?

    This brave new world of ours is full of terms and acronyms, but what does Ghosting mean?

    In a world where there’s an acronym or term for everything, Ghosting is where a guy you’ve been chatting to on an app, or even have hooked up with, simply doesn’t return your messages or calls. Not even a tag…

    That’s right, you’ve put in the time, even gone to dinner and then, without explanation he’s gone into the night, like a ghost. Never to be heard of again.

    Bastard.

    What is ghosting? what does ghosting mean?
    pedrofigueras / Pixabay What is ghosting?

    Why does ghosting happen?

    There could be a number of reasons why a guy might suddenly stop messaging you. Perhaps he wasn’t totally up front with you about his personal circumstances, he could be married or in another relationship.

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    It could be something you said that really offended him or it could be that he said something that totally embarrassed him, and he’s too ashamed to speak to you again.

    Where can ghosting happen?

    The crazy thing about ghosting is that it can happen IRL and virtually. You can be ghosted on dating apps or on social media. On Grindr, we’ve found that ghosting is quite common. In a recent survey, we found that 88% of Grindr users had said that they had been ghosted on the app.

    Why does ghosting happen?
    StockSnap / Pixabay

    If he’s gone off social media or his dating profile is no longer active, then something even more final could have happened. The problem is that you’ll never know.

    [totalpoll id=”126852″]

    The best thing is to be happy for the time you had together and move on. Don’t live in the past, look to the future.

    Is Ghosting the same as Zombie-ing?

    What is Zombie-ing

    Although they are linked, Ghosting and Zombie-ing are different. Zombie-ing is where your ghost, the one that you thought you’d never hear from again, suddenly comes back to life and starts wanting to hang out again. Let’s face it Zombie’s and Ghosts should be ignored and your attention should be focused on the land of the living.