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  • When is International Lesbian Day in 2021?

    When is International Lesbian Day in 2021?

    International Lesbian Day is an annual day to celebrate and bring visibility to lesbians in the LGBT+ community, it has been going since the 1990s. There is also the Lesbian Visibility Day, which has been observed since 2008.

    In 2021 International Lesbian Day takes place on the 8th October 2021 and is mainly observed in Australia and New Zealand.

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    International Lesbian Day was first observed in the 1990s and was created to ensure the visibility of the lesbian community.

    What are the colours of the Lesbian Pride flag?

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    There are, in fact, now three lesbian flags. One is known as the Labrys flag, which features a battle-axe on a dark purple background. The other is what is the “lipstick lesbian” flag which consists of six shades of red and pink colours and a white bar in the centre. Sometimes it has a lipstick mark in the corner denoting that the holder is a “lipstick lesbian”. There is also now a “community Lesbian flag, which includes an orange stripe, that was introduced in 2019.

    Can you buy lesbian jewellery or gifts?

    Yes, there are many stores which have gifts which have the lesbian colours assigned to them. Check out the amazing lesbian gift and jewellery range from our partner site, The Pride Shop.

    To find out other days in the LGBT+ calendar click here.

  • How do I know if I’m gay?

    How do I know if I’m gay?

    Let’s start with a quick simple explanation of what being gay is… and perhaps that will help answer your question.

    In the most traditional sense, being gay is usually someone who is male and is romantically and sexually interested in other males. Although it could stretch to males who are romantically and sexually aroused to those who identify as a man. Gender and biological sex are distinct, but that’s a whole other chapter.

    Some women who also are attracted to other women also define themselves as gay – rather than lesbian. Either is cool – if in doubt ask or have a conversation about what wording to use to make people feel comfortable.

    How do I know if I’m gay, bisexual or pansexual?

    Essentially, if you’re a guy and you fancy or are sexually aroused by another guy chances are you could be gay. But you could also be bisexual if you’re also attracted to someone of the opposite sex or even pansexual if you’re attracted or sexually aroused to someone regardless of their sex or gender identity.

    Of course, being “gay” is just a label. Some people are fine with having that label attached to them or owning it for themselves while others find it uncomfortable.

    Is being gay different to Men Who Have Sex With Men (MSM)?

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    Depends on your viewpoint really. Many gay men feel that there’s more to being gay than just sex or who they find themselves attracted to. MSM is often used in a medical setting to encapsulate men who don’t consider themselves gay but will have sex with other guys. Our sexpert, Jack Devon told us, “I think that being gay does go beyond the physical sex that you have or crave. I think it’s about who you feel you have a connection with, which gender you ultimately want to have relationships with and which gender or biological sex characteristics you feel most comfortable with”.

    Is the gay brain different to a straight brain?

    No one really quite knows, but Doctor Christian told us in an interview a few years back, “I think it’s very interesting. There will be subtle differences that may not be anatomically measurable, but certainly, we function and behave differently. Sexual orientation is a spectrum and all of us fit somewhere along that spectrum. I go to investigate at the Cornell University with the test of sexual orientation to see where I lie. Having your sexuality, something that you’ve always known, proven by a machine is incredibly satisfying, that you got it right, that you’ve been sleeping with the right people all this time.”

    Is being gay wrong?

    No, not at all. It’s perfectly natural and valid. Please don’t let anyone tell you it isn’t.

  • What does Bussy mean and is it offensive?

    What does Bussy mean and is it offensive?

    The word Bussy has one main meaning and it’s not offensive per se, but it all depends on who’s using the word and why they are using it.

    What does bussy mean?

    Bussy is the combination of Boy and Pussy – which is used to describe a bottom’s bottom. So really you’d only use it in a sexual context, to describe a body part of a guy, or a bottom himself would use Bussy to describe an area of his own body.

    It’s essentially a slang word for a gay / bi guy’s butt hole. It shouldn’t be used to describe the vagina or front opening of a trans man – unless he uses those words. In this regard, it could cause offence.

    Is Bussy offensive to say?

    If you were to use the word outside of a sexual context it could be considered offensive – but again it’s all about context – who you’re saying it to, why you’re saying and the intention behind your words.

    When was the word bussy invented?

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    This definition is also backed up by Urban Dictionary who have a many, many definitions for the word, one of which dates back to 2004, which suggests the “B” actually stands for butthole rather than “boy”.

    The oldest definition of Bussy that we could find was in 2003, which read “Butt pussy; The occurrence of too much anal sex where the butthole is stretched out to form a vagina.” Which is a myth, that we discuss in this article.

    Although the word has been in use for well over a decade, nearly two, it’s popularity has only just started to grow.

    According to Urban Dictionary there was a peak in October 2017 for the word and then again in December 2020.


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  • Will gay saunas be able to open after lockdown?

    Will gay saunas be able to open after lockdown?

    The second lockdown in England has in no doubt been tough for many businesses, but even more so for businesses that serve the LGBT community, like gay saunas and LGBT bars

    Gay bars that don’t serve food, which is a vast majority of them, have been forced to close in Tier 2 and Tier 3 areas and all businesses except “essential” shops have been closed for nearly a month during the last lockdown, due to the on-going coronavirus pandemic.

    Gay saunas have been no exception. While some were able to reopen after the first lockdown eased, many, particularly in London never reopened.

    So after this latest lockdown will gay saunas be able to open from the 2nd December?

    According to sources, Spas and Saunas across England will be permitted to reopen again from the 2nd of December, provided the area which they serve doesn’t end up in Tier 3.

    Rules in the devolved nations will be slightly different.

    Spas in England will be in no doubt be in touch with their local Environment Health Office for the all-clear. However, it is thought that if an area is in Tier 1 or Tier 2 that gay bathhouses and saunas should be allowed to reopen, although there may be some restrictions on capacity and restrictions on some of the facilities.

    Club Zeus in Mansfield told its customers, “We aren’t totally sure of the full restrictions yet, but according to officials, Saunas and Spas can re-open across the UK from December 2nd.”

    Many businesses are planning to reopen come the 2nd December, but life will be far from normality until Spring of 2021 when it is hoped that a full roll-out of an anti-COVID vaccination will be made available to the UK’s population.

    How gay saunas coped in the Tier system

    Some saunas were able to reopen in England, however, it seemed as most gay saunas in London never actually reopened. The Number 52 sauna in Newcastle came up with an ingenious way of staying open for business, by becoming a cafe for a short period. It told it’s customers, “Our venue has been responsibly adjusted in accordance with current government guidelines. We have installed seating throughout, adapting the venue into a Cafe & Bar.

    “We’ve got alcoholic beverages, soft drinks, teas, coffees and we’ll also be serving food and snacks. Take this opportunity to see Number 52 in a different way.

    Do you have to wear a face mask while inside a gay sauna?

    Do you have to wear a face mask while inside a gay sauna
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    The law isn’t clear on whether you have to wear a face mask in a spa or sauna and there are health implications of wearing a mask inside hot spaces, such as a sauna or steam room.

    As most bathhouses would be classed as a health spa, it would most likely be impractical to wear a face-covering during your visit, however, it’s best to follow the policy of the sauna/spa that you’re visiting.

    Saunas along with bars and restaurants will be required by law to take your contact details for the government’s track and trace system. A system that allows up to 35 companies, organisations and government departments access to your contact details.

    However, in line with data protection guidelines, your details must be deleted after 21 days.

  • What does Mangina mean and is it offensive?

    What does Mangina mean and is it offensive?

    The word Mangina seemingly has a few meanings and its ability to cause offense depends on who is using the word, why they are using it and how. Or to put it simply, the context in which the word is used.

    Is Mangina offensive to say?

    According to Dictionary.com Mangina is actually an insult or slur against any man who is perceived to be effeminate or any guy who identifies as a feminist. It can also be used, according to the site, as an insult to the genitals of persons of all gender identities.

    This definition is also backed up by Urban Dictionary who have a few definitions for the word.

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    However, within the gay community and particularly sexually active guys, Mangina can be used as a descriptor for a guy’s butt hole. It is a combination of the word man and vagina. In this context, it is not a slur or an insult especially when used by a guy about his own genitals or body or sexual preference.

    One example of this was when Celebrity Big Brother star, Austin Armacost referred to his own “mangina” after a commentator wrote, “vagina” on a naked picture he posted.

    Another word to describe a bottom’s bottom might be bussy which is a combination of the word boy and pussy.


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  • What does AMAB mean? And is it offensive to use?

    What does AMAB mean? And is it offensive to use?

    AMAB stands for Assigned Male At Birth, where a person’s gender was given by medical professionals based on the baby’s genitalia found at birth giving a person a biological sex marker on their birth certificate. In this case, AMAB would mean that doctors or midwives found the baby to have a penis, therefore, would assign male to their birth certificate.

    Using the AMAB acronym could also be used to describe a person’s former gender or biological sex identity – used in the case where the person now lives as non-binary, a trans woman or feminine-presenting or a factual status on a man’s gender identity.

    Is using AMAB to describe someone offensive to say?

    Is using AMAB to describe someone offensive to say?
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    No, but as with most language, it is how the words are applied or the context in which they are used where offensive can be taken. As being described as AMAB is a fact it shouldn’t be considered problematic unless the person you are referring to has said that they are uncomfortable with being called by a certain term. It could in the case of a transgender person out them as trans, or lead to a situation of deadnaming or deadgendering.


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  • Can you buy subscriptions to Boyz Magazine?

    Can you buy subscriptions to Boyz Magazine?

    Boyz Magazine is a London-based LGBT scene magazine.

    It was created 30 years and is published by David Bridle.

    The magazine is a monthly, full-colour magazine since was first launched in 1991. It features lots of news about bars and clubs in the scene as well as accompanying photos of revellers at said venues. It also once featured an X-rated picture in a feature called BackRoom Boy. It went through a major overhaul in 2007 when most of the adult content was removed. In 2008 as escort and rent boy adverts started to venture online the magazine removed its escort classified section.

    It has published over 1400 issues.

    It was weekly magazine until July 2019, when it changed its format once again to become monthly.

    It is distributed, for free, primarily through gay venues through the UK, but mostly within London. It’s available to pick up in most LGBT+ bars and some shops, especially in the Soho area.

    Can you buy a subscription?

    Nope, Boyz Magazine is a free magazine distributed to some LGBT bars and shops. Readers cannot purchase a subscription in the same way that they might be able to subscribe to Gay Times or Attitude. You can, however, read the magazine for free via its website.

  • AJ Pritchard’s girlfriend wants you to know he’s not gay

    AJ Pritchard’s girlfriend wants you to know he’s not gay

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    So if you were wondering whether AJ Pritchard, who is currently starring in I’m A Celebrity Get Me Out of Here is gay, then his girlfriend has a message for you.

    Speaking to The Sun, Abbie Quinnen said that although AJ doesn’t like to put labels on sexuality, she 100% believes that he’s not gay.

    She said, “I am 100% positive that AJ is not gay,” she said. “But he doesn’t like to put labels on anything. He has said: ‘Love is love’, because he really does believe that ‘love is love’ and it doesn’t matter who you love, whether that be a girl or a boy.”

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    Abbie continued: “We have so many friends who are gay and we literally support them so much. I support anyone who has a boyfriend and is a boy, and anyone who has a girlfriend and is a girl. I am absolutely all for it.”

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    No labels for AJ Pritchard

    Last year, the professional dancer spoke of how it was important in “following your heart” and not wanting to “label” his sexuality.

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    The 26-year-old said, “It is always about being happy and being true to yourself. It is mad that everything always has to have a label, whether it be the clothes by designers or whether you are in a relationship.”

  • When will we be able to stop wearing face masks?

    When will we be able to stop wearing face masks?

    Face masks have become a part of Coronavirus life, particularly if you’re not exempt from wearing one.

    In the beginning, it was a pain in the ass, let’s face it. How many of us would leave the house, ready to start the day, only to have to trudge back home to retrieve the MF face mask. It is one of the things that just added to the shitstink 2020 has turned out to be.

    So with the announcement(s) that vaccinations are on their way, people are starting to wonder when we can start going mask free.

    We know that wearing a face mask is said to be crucial in the slowing down the rate of transmission of the Coronavirus, so until the virus is being suppressed in another way, it looks like that face masks will continue play a pivotal role for some months yet.

    When will vaccinations start in the UK

    Theres been a flurry of announcements about vaccines in the last couple of weeks, which has brought renewed hope that there is a light at the end of the COVID-19 tunnel.

    It is thought that vaccinations in the UK will start from the middle of December and will be given first to those in the highest risk category. Those over the age of 80 and front line NHS workers.

    The schedule of vaccination then trickles down as availability spreads across the UK. A report has suggested that by March, everyone in the UK who needs and wants a vaccine will have had it, which is brilliant news looking ahead to a summer of activities, including Pride Season 2021.

    There’s no actual date for when you can stop wearing face masks in key areas, like shops

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    As it stands the law requiring people to wear face masks on public transport and in other settings has an expiry to it. The law says that it expires 12 months after the law came into effect. In this case, the law came into effect on the 15th June 2020, so the face masks are a legal requirement until at least 15th June 2021. The law must also be reviewed after 6 months by the Secretary of State, which means a review on wearing face masks in the UK, is due on the 15th December 2020.

    However, we can assume that sometime after March, as transmissions of COVID-19 start to radically (and hopefully) fall and we’ve reached a sort of “herd immunity” thanks to the vaccine that the need for mask-wearing in public will not be needed.

    But maybe face masks should stay? After all there are tonnes of airborne virus out there, like the common cold and other flus – so maybe wearing a mask, especially during the winter months, will actually help us reduce the spread of those.

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    If you’re still looking for a LGBT+ inspired face mask our partners at ThePrideShop sell them!

  • What is the difference between the r/AskGayMen and /r/askgaybros/ Reddit groups?

    What is the difference between the r/AskGayMen and /r/askgaybros/ Reddit groups?

    Users have been taking an opportunity to discuss and joke about the difference between the r/AskGayMen and /r/askgaybros/ Reddit.

    Although both subreddits have very similar names, they are both very different in style, brand and well the number of people who are subscribed to them.

    /r/askgaybros/ is the bigger of the two forums and clocks in at around 256,000 members, with around 1,200 of them online at any point while r/AskGayMen boasts around 54,000 users with just over 100 online at any time.

    Both forums allow gay men to ask each other questions, like My hole is too tight or Would you ever be happy with a guy who has a small penis? but the way in which the forum’s users answer is very different.

    The joking started with one user, saying that on AskGayBros he could, … call you a fucking cunt and won’t be banned”

    Another added that, “The tolerance for excessive sarcasm and the amount of FILTH permitted” on AskGayBros was highly noted.

    Another added about the strictness of r/AskGayMen saying, “I got banned for being transphobic because as a crossdresser I don’t consider myself a female but a male still”

    One posted that /r/askgaybros/ was “unmoderated and full of trolls”

    One commented on the number of users, by adding “The posts there (askgaymen) seem just as stupid as here. But here you get slapped down in thirty seconds, there it might take twelve hours.”

    Perhaps most insightful was, “I’m assuming its the culture that it’s appealing to. AskGayBros is catering to a very niche culture of gay men while it sounds like AskGayMen is a more generic sub”

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    So there you have it, it’s about style as the questions seem to be generally the same, the way in which they answered might be slightly different.

  • Is the Salvation Army anti-gay or homophobic?

    Is the Salvation Army anti-gay or homophobic?

    One of the most famous religious charities does have a homophobic past, but is the Salvation Army still anti-gay?

    As Christmastime nears, it won’t be unusual to see a charity collection for the Salvation Army. Usually, the collection bucket will be accompanied by a Santa, replete with Red costume and a thick, but fake white beard. However, before you offload your change into the bucket, you should be fully aware of the charity’s past policies and what it’s doing about them now.

    First and foremost, it must be understood that the Salvation Army is a religious charity, with its roots firmly embedded in Christianity. Many if not all of its policies, past and present, will have been formed from the Christian belief system.

    In 2019 the Charity said that it wanted to a atone for its anti-gay past and said that it now “better understands” the LGBT+ community.

    Did the Salvation Army support the homophobic and anti-gay Section 28 and Section 2A?

    The Salvation Army’s history is dogged with anti-gay and homophobic stories, including its support of the much-loathed and criticised Section 28 in the UK. In February 2000 it actively opposed the repealing of the homophobic bill. It wrote a letter to the then Scottish First Minister, Donald Dewar to say that it thought that repealing Section 2A (Scotland’s version of Section 28) could “potentially be harming both children and the family unit”.

    It added, “feel the floodgates could be opened, ultimately causing great hurt to both parents, teachers and our children. We are also very aware of the increasing pressures on young people to experiment with heterosexual sex at a younger age, without the additional pressure of self-questioning regarding homosexual sex”.

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    More recently, in 2012 when the Australian Salvation Army chief suggested that gay people should be put to death and in 2014 when it was alleged that the US arm of the charity refused to help shelter a homeless transgender woman.

    The charity was also known to forbid gay people from serving as officers unless they remained celibate. In 2016 the UK’s Army chief said that he defended this policy. Even Paul O’Grady was forbidden to wear the Army’s uniform and told, “you could volunteer for us, you could come to our church services. If you want to become a soldier in the Salvation Army, you have to commit to what we believe.”

    In 2017 the Amry was embroiled in a legal dispute against the NYC Commission on Human Rights because rehabs in New York had refused to serve transgender people.

    So what’s changed and is the Salvation Army still homophobic?

    Last year, the charity’s communications director David Jolley said that these were all “isolated incidents” blaming the size of the organisation the number of people involved for incidents that “do not represent our values and service to all people who are in need”

    Jolley added, “If anyone needs help, they can find it through our doors”.

    He then added that the organisation had “evolved” saying, As we’ve better understood the needs of the LGBTQ+ community, we’ve evolved our approach.”

    “As we build and remodel emergency shelters and transitional housing across the country, we consider ways to help LGBTQ+ individuals feel safe and cared for,

    “We also have specific programs and resources across the country, such as a dorm in Las Vegas that is exclusive for transgender individuals, a detoxification facility in San Francisco that caters to those infected with HIV/AIDS, and our work in Baltimore to meet the needs of transgender individuals who are trafficked.”

    How many LGBT+ people does the Salvation Army help?

    According to a statement provided by the Salvation Army, they reckon that 40 per cent of the people they provide services to, identify as gay or transgender.

    In a statement to news channel CBS11, Commissioner David Hudson, National Commander of The Salvation Army said,

    “Regardless of race, ethnicity, sexual orientation or gender identity, we’re committed to serving anyone in need.

    “Every day, we provide services such as shelter for the transgender community and resources for homeless youth – 40 per cent of whom identify as gay or transgender.”

    However, that statistic was later discovered to be referring to the overall homeless population rather than the actual number of LGBT+ people helped by the charity.

    The charity has not made it clear how many LGBT+ people it helps across all its branches and locations.

    It opened a space for homeless LGBT+ people

    In Canada, in 2018, the Salvation Army actually opened a new space for homeless LGBT people. The space was in Winnipeg and had 15 rooms and was trialled for one year.

    “We welcome and serve people regardless of sexual orientation”

    In the UK, the charity’s own website includes a statement on its LGBT+ policies, it says, “In the United Kingdom, The Salvation Army is made up of thousands of people who worship, work, volunteer, donate and serve together every week. This includes many people who are LGBT+. We welcome and serve people regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity, race, religion and ethnicity.

    “Our employment practices are non-discriminatory and we seek to create welcoming, nurturing work environments.

    “The Salvation Army finds no scriptural support for demeaning or mistreating anyone for any reason. People who come to The Salvation Army for help will receive assistance based solely on their need and our capacity to serve.”