Category: Love And Sex

How to give a perfect Blow Job, 8 tips on giving good head

If you’re looking to give the perfect blow job or become a master in good oral sex, then read on.

*This article contains images that might not be suitable for work*

Going down, blow job, giving head, oral sex, whatever you call it, it’s one of the pure joys of being gay/bi or just cock loving, let’s face it. Aside from bum fun, it’s one of the most gay-defining sex acts – putting another man’s penis in your mouth – it doesn’t get gayer than that!

But what constitutes a good blow job?

It’s not quite the advice that can be passed down from your father (but maybe from your Daddy) but most of us learn about blow jobs via porn and well, trial and error.

The problem with trial and error is that it often requires us to be confident to tell our partner what we’re feeling – and that can be harder than you might think, for fear of offending.

So when guys were recently asked on THEGAYUK community, what advice they’d give, guys did not hold back with their amazing little tidbits on giving love to the purple-headed love monster.

inspiration from Cocky Boys

Practice makes perfect

Practice on a banana. Use lots of saliva and use your lips. Enjoy it like you were sucking on a tall ice cream that’s melting quickly. VIA

Use tongue, not teeth

Move your head up and down even side to side if you please. This might seems like common sense but you’d be surprised. Don’t suck too hard.. one guy gave me head took the word “suck” way too literally. He literally sucked it like a breath mint that was suppose to melt away. It was awkward to be stuck in that position the entire time. Don’t do that. VIA

Put yourself in his shoes

Inspiration from BEL AMI

Imagine what feels good to you (if you’ve had head before at least) or when you’re jerking off… and do that to him… just go slow at first and get comfortable with it. You’ll soon learn what the other guy is liking and what he isn’t… Don’t forget to use your tongue. Lots! VIA

The eyes

lots of eye contact, if he’s into that. Most guys are. Whatever position you are in, see if you can look him in the eye has your have his cock head in your mouth. HOT AF. VIA

Don’t be extra

Don’t try and impress with your skills. Just do what comes naturally. VIA

Don’t always go for the deep throat

I’m not that huge a fan of deep throating. It’s not that comfortable for the receiver. especially if you can’t get the whole damn thing down your throat. It feels like it’s getting crushed and it kinda hurts. Plus I don’t know about anyone else, but the sound of a guy gagging makes me feel like I’m gonna gag. Really not sexy. VIA

inspiration from Lucas Entertainment

Enjoy every inch

Take time every cm / inch of that cock. Maybe trying something new with each section. Thin tonguing for the pee hole, lips for the tip, teeth (lightly) on the shaft, flat tongue action on his balls, a lapping motion on his groin. VIA

He’s the cure

He’s the cure…

Personally, it’s all about enthusiasm. You’ve got to act like you’ve been poisoned and the cure is in his cock. VIA

How risky are Blow Jobs?

Oral sex is a pretty low-risk activity when it comes to some STIs, such as HIV, but you can still catch a number of other infections from blow jobs. Speaking to us from the sexual health clinic, 56 Dean Street, Jake and Jenna told us, “Other nasties like Chlamydia and Gonorrhoea can be passed on by both receiver and giver, and might not even show symptoms, however, all these infections can be treated effectively if caught soon enough”.

So you can reduce your risk of catching these by using condoms, flavoured condoms are the best for oral sex and won’t leave a nasty chemical taste in your mouth.

With thanks to Cocky Boys, Lucas Entertainment and Bel Ami (ALL NSFW)

26th November 2020
How to measure your penis! You may have been measuring your penis size wrong all this time

Just how do you measure your penis size?

Penis size is one of those subjects that can come up often, particularly if you’re on a dating app like Grindr. But where do you measure from? Depending on where you measure from can leave you with inches worth of difference. The top, the side, underneath? These are all valid places to get a measurement, but which is the standard way?

Well, the very question of penis size and how to measure it came up on set of a gay porn shoot recently.

So, according to one porn star you need to use the Bone Press Method. Ever heard of it? Nope nor us. But gay porn star Mitch Matthews believes it’s the only way to get an accurate measurement.

Porn blog, WeLoveGayPorn (NSFW) reports, that in his latest scene for GuysInSweatpants.com the Mitch was keen to help his co-star Dante Colle get an accurate measure of his peen – and to do this you need to measure from the top, but “press into the skin, rather than letting it (the ruler) rest on the top (of the penis). He joked, “apparently it’s the standard way!”

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So there you have it. Have you tried the BPM?

Ever wondered how long the average penis is?

According to research conducted in 2015, the average penis size worldwide is around 5.5 inches (13.9 cms) when fully erect and according to the research, the UK’s men are exactly in that spot – so the average erect penis size for men in the UK is 5.5 inches.

The average girth according to research by the British Journal of Urology International is 4.3 inches (10.92 cms).

Those figures were come to (no pun intended) by studying the cocks of around 17,000 men.

18th November 2020
Here’s how spelling out your name during sex is a genius move

This little trick is a stroke of genius and will help you with your staying power, according to one sexpert.

Premature Ejaculation affects lots of guys. Almost every guy has suffered at least one moment of “oh dammit” before spirting their load way before they actually wanted to.

However, there is a quick fix that requires no medicine, no trips to a doctor or psych evaluation. Nope, it’s something you can do, by yourself and nobody even has to know you’re doing it.

Sexpert and sex worker, Jack Devon, told us, “Despite what we see in porn, sex can be over pretty quickly and that’s completely normal… in fact, a study for the NHS, involving 500 couples showed that sex usually lasts around 5 and a half minutes, which is a long way off that 20-minute scene you’re enjoying on PornHub, but it can be incredibly annoying and frustrating, particularly for the guy that climaxes first, if they didn’t mean to…”

Spell out your name (or theirs)

So there’s a quick exercise to do before reaching out for medical intervention. Try spelling out your name.

Jack told us, “When you’re concentrating on something else, like spelling out your name even for a minute it can take you out of the moment and allow you to reset things, without stopping the action altogether. If you’ve only got a short name, try spelling out your entire name and then spell it backwards. Do this a few times until you feel your urge to climax subside.

According to Pharmacist Phil Day even taking some deep breaths can help as it “briefly shuts down the ejaculatory reflex (an automatic reflex of the body during which ejaculation occurs)”

Cheap (actually it’s free)

Photo by Alina Blumberg on Pexels.com

The best thing about this move is that it’s completely free to try, so you’ve nothing to lose by trying it out.

Jack added, “Do it in your mind. Don’t actually speak it out loud, that’s not a great look, particularly if the guy is dirty talking to you and start spelling your name out loud.”

17th November 2020
Be a gay dating app expert with these five etiquette musts

Do… Use your best pic

TheHilaryClark / Pixabay

Dig deep into your Facebook tagged photos and find a nice when in the sun with a cocktail and a decent backdrop. If you’re stuck for choice, perhaps do what every other Grindr user does and take a selfie in the mirror of your local gym changing room. That way, at least everyone knows you keep fit.

Don’t…immediately send a dick pic

Striking up a conversation via a picture of your penis is like Victoria Beckham singing – sin against nature. Sending a blurry photo of your willy is not going to make anyone think “Let’s go Prezzo”. If you, for whatever reason, have an urgent need to send one, do it after at least a day of conversation and, as with your profile picture, make sure it is the best it could be. I’m talking about the right angle and the right filter – no one wants a photo with dodgy lighting.

Do…be grammatically correct.

“Hello, how are you?” sounds far better than “hey, u alrite?” so make sure to use your best grammar when trying to secure a date or even a bit of fun. No one is going to be enticed to have sex with you when you chat like a 14-year-old on MSN.

Don’t…slate gays in your bio.

“I like my men to be men”; “straight acting guys only; “if I can’t see your eyebrows then I don’t want to see you”. When devising your bio, try not to come across as a wanker. Some gay men decide to be their own enemy and it doesn’t exactly scream, “date me”.

Do…talk about safer sex.

Let’s be honest – most gay dating apps amount to anonymous sex with someone you’ve never met before and don’t really know much about except for the size of their penis so, let’s be clear, condoms, PrEP and regular testing if you’re sexually active are absolutely essential…

This article was first published in August 2015 and has been updated.

16th November 2020
Bops for Bottoms – 5 songs to get things moving in the bedroom

I love a good playlist; I’ve got one for every occasion. Whether I want to get hot and sweaty in the gym or need something to get me through the commute to the office. My favourite, and most exciting, is the one I’ve got going on for the bedroom. Either your gonna be turned off right now, or incredibly turned on.

Does your bone-ing session really need to be soundtracked? No, but it can help. There have been various studies that prove that sex and music really do go well together, and surprisingly it has a lot to do with science. Neurophysiologist Dr Rhonda Freeman says that “music is likely to affect three regions of the brain – the reward or pleasure system, the social affliction or bonding system, and the limbic system (which processes emotions)”.

So now we understand and are on the same page; here are my five essential picks to include in your next bedroom gymnastics session.

Britney Spears – “Breathe on Me”

This ‘In the Zone‘ deep cut is the perfect place to start. By 2003, Britney was becoming a full-on sexual seductress; and “Breathe on Me” is the perfect place to start. Turn the lights down low, let the pulsating beat take over and let your imagination run wild. This is the ideal song to get things hot and sweaty, foreplay is the place to start and with this little piece of pop-heaven, you’re guaranteed to get your man ready to bone within seconds. Listen to the lyrics and Britney will tell you exactly what to do; it’s as easy as riding a bike; “Monogamy is the way to go / Just put your lips together and blow”.

Kylie Minogue – “Slow”

“Read my body language” indeed. This synth-led sex bop is another great song to get you and your partner in the mood. This song gives you a little bit of time to breathe before the boning really gets going. Continue on with the foreplay and let the music guide you and your partner into the bedroom, slowly undressing as you make yourselves comfortable. Maybe use this to give your partner a sexy dance to help him get in the mood? Allow each other to explore your bodies. For the ultimate experience, I would opt for the Extended Mix which is bound to get you all hot under the collar.

Beyonce – “Crazy in Love”

We’re talking about the “Fifty Shades of Grey” version here. Although, if your in the mood to power bottom you could try the original version. This sultry reinterpretation of the dancefloor classic is going to get things moving a bit quicker, it’s the ideal song to experiment and get down and dirty too, whilst still giving a sensual edge. This is on my playlist a couple of times, because it just gets me going everytime.

Ariana Grande – “Side to Side”

Now we’re into balls to the wall, bone-ing territory. There are many Ariana Grande songs that you could use, but I always find “Side to Side” to be the one. Use the beat to get yourselves going and relax into it. it’s always best when both parties are relaxed, and things can progress naturally, the increase in tempo during the Minaj-Rap is perfect to intensify things, and any good bottom will be able to use moan those adlibs.

Josef Salvat – “in the afternoon”

This isn’t an obvious choice for many, but Salvat’s dulcet tones do many things to me. It’s the perfect post bonk comedown track. When your both depleted, it’s relaxing track which you can snuggle together and mellow in. “in the afternoon” is a bop and a half, that can spur on round two if you’re feeling that way inclined.

Obviously, these are just a selection of songs that you can use on your playlist, and there are many others. If you’re going to do this, then don’t just use a Spotify playlist that’s already been done, take some time to create your own and find stuff that you are into or your partner is into. It doesn’t have to be a marathon 10-hour playlist, 10/15 tracks that get you going is just fine, and don’t be afraid to experiment.

Remember, the best sex is where both parties are enjoying themselves, some people don’t enjoy sex to music, but it’s a conversation worth having and maybe you could create it together.

Happy bone-ing!

15th November 2020
I took psyllium husk to help with bottoming, here’s what happened

If you’re no stranger to bottoming then you’ll know the feeling of douching and the fear that what you’ve done is never enough. That whole process can be quite stressful and there can be times, when you think ‘how much more can there actually be’. This is particularly true if you over douche, which means that you unlodged your lunch, which probably wouldn’t have come out for another 12-24 hours. But poop is like a genie, once it’s been disturbed, you can’t just stuff it back in, which could mean another 20 minutes of douching.

It’s very time consuming.

So when I heard that there were pills and supplements out there that can help with ensuring you stay and remain “ready” with little or no preparation I was intrigued. After all who doesn’t want a quick fix, right?

There are numerous products out there that are aimed at gay men… but they are, in reality quite expensive and require a regime which needs you to remember to take multiple pills a day at various times. That’s just way too much effort for my liking.

So I did some reading and it turns out the main ingredient of these supplements is a totally natural foodstuff called psyllium husk. Which when bought in powder form is incredibly cheap.

Psyllium husk is a highly effective fibre source which acts a bit like a sponge, soaking up the water content in your gut and helping to bind all your poo together, making your poop more “together” (one lump or two?), but crucially softer making your bowel movements much easier and well-formed, in one or two larger more solid masses. It also has other health benefits as it’s prebiotic, helping to colonise your gut with probiotics.

The result

Well, after a week the difference was noticeable. Pooping was easier, felt good and solid and, without being too graphic, my butthole seemed pretty clean afterwards as wiping would reveal a tissue that, for the most part, clear of smears.

I bought Psyllium Husk by Bulk Powders, which is currently around £15.07 on Amazon (prices vary) and it’s very simple to use. Just one scoop a day in a glass of water. That’s it.

12th November 2020
Have you heard of arming?

On a recent episode of the Demystifying Gay Porn podcast with I.Que Grande, fetish porn star HungerFF said that rather than starring in fisting porn, it could be more described as “arming” when questioned what he meant by that, he joked, “Anatomically or genetically or for some reason my insides allow me to take an entire arm in my butt…”

Arming just takes it a step (or staircase further)

When asked to describe what fisting was, HungerFF, who has created his own JustForFans empire, replied, “The insertion of someone’s hand into someone’s butthole or vag (vagina)”

I.Que probed, “but what you do is extreme fisting”, to which HungerFF replied, that extreme fisting was beyond just the hand or wrist adding that it’s, “punch fucking or arm fucking”.

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HungerFF went on to explain, “Most guys if they can take a fist, they can take it up to the wrist… and then there are people like me, who take it a step or an entire stair further than that”.

Take a listen to the podcast on Spotify…

6th November 2020
How to perfect Double Penetration

For many, double penetration is the stuff of fantasy. Simply put Double Penetration, in a gay sex context is the insertion of two penises into one guy’s hole. It usually requires at least three of you, but it can be done with just the two of you if you have a dildo (or even one of you, yes there are double penetration dildos).

What you need to know is DP takes time and patience, so if you’re really up for trying double penetration, here’s how to go about it.

Before we start it’s probably fair to say, that there will be some guys, who just won’t be able to do it, from a bottoming point of view and if you feel too much pain, or it just doesn’t feel right then stop and tell your tops, to cool their jets. You don’t want to come out of this with a trip to A&E or create yourself long-lasting issues with your butthole.

If you’re a top and you want to find out the bit that involves you, click here… if you’re the bottom then read on…

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The warm-up, warm-up

The warm-up starts long before your tops arrive. It all starts with the douche and getting yourself ready down there.

I’d always recommend a shower douche if you’re going for DP, or extended arse play. Usually, a normal bulb douche would be fine for anal sex, but you want to be sure. Want to know more about douching click here.

Haven’t got a shower douche or bulb douche, check out our range.

Make sure the water is luke-warm and that the pressure from your shower is low. Take your time with the experience.

Once you’re ready and cleaned out, start prepping your hole with lube and maybe a dildo or prostate massager. I start with a numbing lube.

A lube launcher is a perfect way to get the lube deep inside you, or you can coat the top of your dildo with lube and work it in your body.

What you want to do is get your ass all lube up and warmed up ready for the main event.

The warm up

This is where you start to introduce other guys and the sex has begun. Hopefully, your tops have been true gents and gotten you all open and ready with rimming, possibly some fingering and now the penetration. It’s up to you, but I’d let both of them have sex with you for as long as they want… (and feels comfortable for you) this means that when it comes to the DP your butt hole muscle will be relaxed and ready for something bigger.

The DP

There are three main positions for DP, but we’ve posted four, in case you’re basically just extra.

The Double Stuff

IMAGE: Robert Flood

The Double Stuff is where the Btm lies on top, face down on Top 1 who enters the ass first, then from behind, kneeling between Top 1 and the Btm’s legs, Top 2 then inserts his dick. Slowly! In this position, Top 2 mostly controls the action. If Top 1 or the btm moves too much, both Tops will most likely fall out.

Tip: for this position whichever Top has the largest penis should be on the bottom and enter first.

The Laidback Cowboy DP

IMAGE: Robert Flood

This time the Btm faces up and lies on his back on the stomach of Top 1, who should again enter first. Top 2 then put his penis and because of his position gets the best view, but also, again gets to control the thrusting action more.

Tip: If your Btm is a heavier guy, then he’ll need to support his weight with his elbows or hands, meaning that both his hands will be occupied, so Top 2 can always jerk him off

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The King Of Clubs

IMAGE: Robert Flood

The King Of Club DP position is where the two Tops lie opposite each other with their butts, balls and penises meeting in the middle. Their legs outstretched past the shoulders of the other top. The two top’s legs will cross each at around the knee. The tops’ penises should meet in the middle and essentially create one dick for the Btm to lower himself on to. The Btm will need some good upper body strength for this as he lowers himself down and steadies himself on top of the two tops. However, this is the position where the Btm has most of the control over thrusting and how deep the penetration is.

Tip: Because this is essentially creating one large penis for the Btm to sit on it can actually be harder to do. First, a lot of foreplay and fucking needs to happen before you attempt this to really relax the muscles. You could also try raising one of the Top’s hips up with a pillow under the butt, making his penis stand higher than the other, meaning the Btm can insert one, then the other.

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The Frogs Legs

IMAGE: Robert Flood

Now this position requires quite a bit of flexibility from all concerned but has 10/10 marks for views for all and well, just the feeling of achievement alone. It’s almost the exact reverse of the King of Clubs DP.

The Btm lays on his back, with his butt in the air and his legs towards his chest or shoulders. Both Tops face away from each other, butts touching, whilst squatting over the Btm and straddling one of the Btm’s legs, creating a crisscross or the look of frog’s legs. Then pointing their dick’s down, enter the Btm. The fun thing about this position is that both Tops can control the trusting and slipping out is less of an issue.

Tip: This position needs the Tops to have some flexibility in their dicks to be able to bend downwards. The Btm’s back can be supported with a pillow under his lower back or butt.

Remember

If it hurts or there’s blood or you’ve just had enough, say STOP. End it when you need to. The ass is a delicate area. The rectum’s lining is quite thin and too much trauma will damage it. This is not the time to just power through the pain, you could be causing damage.

The key is to relax, a little discomfort might happen, but the more you can chill and relax, the better it will become… and I promise it’s like nothing you’ve felt before (for tops and btms!).

Things that might need…

Numbing lube

Douche

Double Penetration Dildo

Images by Robert Flood, inspired by scenes from Lucas Film and TimTales

5th November 2020
Gay guys share what their favourite part of sex is

It can feel that sometimes that sex is just one act, but in reality, it’s a jigsaw of many (moving) parts. Some are more enjoyable than others, some need working at to become pleasurable and some, well, are the moments that really bond two (three or four we’re not judging!) people together.

So recently, when Redditor guys talked about what part of sex they weren’t afraid to get down and dirty…

*This article has frank and uncensored sex talk.

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1st November 2020
These guys share their best experience of bottoming

Whether you’re a pro power bottom 2.0 or a novice and just getting into the swing (metaphorical or otherwise) it’s always interesting to know what other guys’ experiences of bottoming are. These guys share their best experiences of bottoming.

Drunken and early morning

First, I had about 7 drinks and was drunk. My bf drilled me for about two hours and it felt great (I finished three times)

Second, was a few weeks ago my bf woke me up in the morning jerking me off which led to him fucking me doggy. I also took my time riding his cock to warm up. VIA

Changing Up The Position

The day I realized that trying a different position would make it so it wasn’t painful. VIA

Smaller tops

I haven’t had many good experiences personally…. I have IBS and a pretty sensitive ass so all of this isn’t great for bottoming… The best ever was by a Chinese guy who had a 4-inch thin dick. He was very controlling which I found very sexy, grabbed my hair and basically dominated me. Cos his penis was on the smaller side and my butt just happened to be cooperating with me that day (IBS is very temperamental) it felt so good. Reached round to force him in harder. VIA

My ex

My ex fucked me until I was a mumbling mess, it felt so good. I don’t know if I finished or not. VIA

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Woke already inside

Best ever was a guy I came home from the bar with one night in college. The night before was a blur, but I know we fucked for a while. But he woke me up in the morning already inside me, and I’ve never felt anything like it. Whenever I jerk off and don’t have any porn around, this gets me every time. VIA

My toxic ex

My only good experiences bottoming and topping were with my second ex. He was a toxic, alcoholic, drug addict, trash wanna be rich boy, cheating whore monger, but it was some of the best sex I ever had as a top and a bottom. We came at about the same time or shortly before or after each other. He was the only one who could make me cum that way, and cum as fast as I did and be that horny for sex whenever. He dick was bigger but I got used to it even though he did tear me once. He was still a good bang. Haven’t been able to match that since. VIA

Sling it from the rafters

It was in a sling hanging from the ceiling, had straps for my feet up in the air. It was so awesome. I got in and he just stood there and moved the sling back and forth toward him. It was the most relaxing sex I ever had. VIA

28th October 2020
How You Can Get More Out Of Your Micro Penis

Now, let’s just start by saying, having a micropenis is totally okay, you shouldn’t feel shame, or be shamed for having a smaller penis. The problem isn’t you, it’s more mainstream media and porn which tends to centre big dicks or link big penises to heightened masculinity. Like that’s the answer to everything? It really shouldn’t be and there are many upsides to having a smaller cock and there’s a small penis festival too… But with that said, many guys and their partners or even potential partners can feel that it’s a physical and mental block to their relationship. So what do you do if you or your partner has a micropenis (and you want to do something about it)?

First off, let’s discuss. What is a micropenis?

Did you know the average size of an erect penis in the UK, is between 5 and 6 inches? Yep, so if your member isn’t hanging somewhere around your knees, don’t worry, you’re in good company, it’s the same for nearly every other guy in the UK – in fact, the world.

A micropenis is classed as a penis that’s half the size of the average size, so from around 2.5 inches when erect, but can be smaller than that. It is a recognised medical condition and doesn’t have a cure, per se. It affects just 0.6% of the male population and shouldn’t be confused with someone who has buried penis syndrome or someone who is just smaller than average.

So how can you overcome having a smaller penis?

There are a number of ways where someone with a smaller than average, or micropenis can still fulfil their sexual desires and their partners. Most of it is actually in the mind rather than below the belt.

Here are some ideas.

Not everything has to be penis centric

Himeros explored ways guys could explore sex beyond penetration.

Sure, most sex between men focuses on the penis with an end goal of climaxing, but there are many other ways to enjoy a sexual connection without someone’s penis being this centre of attention. In their video, “Connecting The Dots”, porn studio, Himeros explored ways in which to deepen sexual connections (NSFW), without necessarily going to penetration or oral sex. There’s also massage to explore as well as tantra to try out.

Then there’s prostate play, rimming and frottage (that’s the rubbing of genitals – also explored in the Himeros video) There are so many possibilities.

Positions

If you or your micropenis boyfriend is a top, you can look at different positions. Many guys who have a micropenis can find it hard to actually penetrate, but there are some positions where you can achieve penetration. One of which is with the receptive partner on his back with his pelvis raised. Raise his legs behind your head (or as near as they can get). This position leaves the ass open and exposed. Positions like the doggie is a little more tricky, because the bottom’s butt will act as a cushion, but if you simply pull your cheeks apart your exposed hole is much easier to get to! Don’t forget that there are loads of nerve endings around the opening of the butt and you won’t hear any complaints from a bottom if you’re concentrating on just that area!

Toys

You can always open up the idea of introducing toys to the bedroom. If you’re both into butt play, then this is a good call, regardless of penis size. In fact, it can take your penises right out of the equation. With a dildo, you can go as big as you want. Plus, you won’t need to worry about how long you can last for – the play can go on and on as you both explore the options. You can both have fun working your way up to sizes you never dreamed of.

Sleeves, strap ons And extenders

Have you heard of penis extenders and sleeves which increase the girth and length of the wearer’s penis? The wearer of a sleeve can literally double, triple or quadruple their size. Simply slide the penis inside the strap on or extender and let the magic commence.

Again the introduction of an extender or sleeve involves a conversation to be had between the two of you. These sleeves allow heat and feel to transfer right through them, allowing for an incredibly realistic feel.

Lets start celebrating bodies and penises in whatever size or shape they come in.

19th October 2020