Trump’s ban on transgender people being able to serve in the military has failed.
President Donald Trump’s ban on transgender men and women serving in the US military has been halted by the Defense Secretary, General Jim Mattis.
Transgender personal will be able to continue serving in the US military for the time being after Secretary Mattis has said that the ban’s implication needs further scrutiny.
In a statement, Mr Mattis said, “current policy with respect to currently serving members will remain in place”.
Myths persist – but here’s what you need to know if you’re bleeding after anal sex.
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Anal sex can be an integral part of a sexual relationship, but not all couples do it – however, there’s a lot of wrong information out there about bottoming.
Bleeding after anal sex can be just ‘one of those things’ and can happen on your first go round or your 100th – so to put your mind and butt at rest, here’s why it happens.
Tiny rips happen
Your rectum is not self-lubricating, so unless you’re using lube, you’re going to be creating a lot of friction, which can cause the lining of the rectum to tear or rip a little, if this sounds hideous, it might be worth noting that most of these rips are tiny – and can actually happen outside of sex as well. These rips can cause bleeds – and most probably you’ve had bleeds but never realised it.
It happens because the lining of your rectum is not as strong as your normal skin.
Also, anal sex could also be causing what is known as an anal fissure. Anal fissures are tiny rips that can happen both on the inside and on and around your actual hole – especially if you’re not relaxed or have not loosened yourself up before the main event. These can heal all by themselves within a few weeks.
The P Word…
Another issue is the dreaded P word – yes piles.
Bleeds may be caused by popping a pile or if we’re going to be medical about it, haemorrhoids. Piles are completely normal and are the enlargement of a blood vessel that already exists inside your butt. You might not even know you have one until it pops during sex.
Some people have visible piles on the outside of the anus, whilst some have them on the inside.
There’s no evidence to show that having anal sex causes piles but it can inflame the issue.
Jose Perez de la Cruz from THT told us, “So long as the piles are not actively bleeding or painful at the time on intercourse then it is probably safe to have sex. If they are bleeding or there is inflammation though this means that the natural protective barrier formed by the skin and mucous membranes is not at its optimum which if exposed to an STI can make transmission more likely”.
“So long as the piles are not actively bleeding or painful at the time on intercourse then it is probably safe to have sex. If they are bleeding or there is inflammation though this means that the natural protective barrier formed by the skin and mucous membranes is not at its optimum which is exposed to an STI can make transmission more likely”.
If you’re suffering from haemorrhoids you can buy Preparation H or Germaloids online and this should help ease them away and give yourself a few days rest from sex to help you heal.
When should I seek help?
If you are experiencing a lot of pain or prolonged aching after sex you might need to seek medical help. It is normal for there to be some discomfort for a day after, especially after your first time. However, if pain continues you should go and see your GP or book yourself into a sexual health clinic.
If there is a lot of blood (think steady drip rather than a bit of spotting on your toilet paper) you should go and see your doc ASAP.
Dr Shawn Khodadadian, a board-certified gastroenterologist in Manhattan, is cautioning people against ignoring rectal bleeding. He warns that rectal bleeding could be a sign of other, far more serious illness such as colorectal or colon cancer. He said,
“as there are many possible causes and getting an early diagnosis is particularly important. This is because although rectal bleeding can be a symptom of haemorrhoids, colitis or anal fissures, it can also be a sign of a far more serious illness for example colorectal or colon cancer. These types of cancers can often be completely cured when detected early.”
You’re gonna need lube and lots of it
So the best way to stop the friction is to use lube a lot of it. You can find out about the different types of lube here. If you’re having a long session – they don’t forget to keep reapplying the lube or use a silicone-based lube, which should last a lot longer.
Remember, despite what you see in gay porn, you can just ram it in. You need to take your time, use lube and go an inch at a time!
The title of a new play at Trafalgar Studios – Late Company – means that the family the Hastings invited over for dinner are late, and they are also late in apologising for the suicide of their teenage son.
Debora (an amazing Lucy Robinson) and Michael Hasting (Todd Boyce) have invited Bill Dermot (Alex Lowe) and his wife Tamara (Lisa Stevenson) and their son Curtis (David Leopold) over for dinner to their fancy and art-inspired home. Curtis and Debora & Michael’s son Joel were friends in school, however, Michael committed suicide after being constantly bullied and taunted by the other kids in school (including Curtis) for being gay and a bit feminine. So Debora (and less so Michael) have invited the Dermots over for dinner on the one year anniversary of Michael’s death. It’s a dinner where Debora wants to have the ‘conversation’ – to get everything out in the open and to have an open and honest discussion with Curtis to determine the reasons and motive for doing what he did to Michael, and most importantly to find out why. But the dinner doesn’t go according to plan, it’s brought up bad emotions and feelings that Debora and Michael were trying to get over. But it turns out that Debora was never really there for Joel, and that Michael’s job as an MP took him to Ottawa a lot of the time, and Debora was always focusing on her art and not really on Joel, so Bill and Tamara subtly advise Debora and Michael that they missed the warning signs because they were too involved in themselves. But no matter who the finger is pointed to, Joel is gone forever, and no yelling or conversation will bring him back. And it’s mostly Debora who longs for closure, and perhaps she’s feeling a bit guilty over Joel’s suicide.
Late Company throws heavy emotional dialogue at the audience right and left, and it’s delivered by an excellent cast. Robinson as Joel’s mom has the showiest part. She’s angry and upset and wants closure. Stevenson is also very good as the mother whose son is still alive, she just can’t put herself in Debora’s shoes but she is willing to do as much as she can to help ease the pain. And Leopold is a wonder as the son who doesn’t have much to say during the dinner but near the end, he comes into his own. Gay playwright Jordan Tannahill was only 23 when he wrote Late Company in the wake of a peer’s suicide, and he has written a timely and evocative play that’s very relevant today in a world of constant bullying and peer pressure and what seems like the lack of rules on social media. Late Company is a short 75 minutes but it packs a wallop during this time and at the end, you will find that your heart has dropped into your stomach. A must see!
Great British Bake Off star, Tom Hetherington’s brother was tragically killed during a mission in Afghanistan.
The identical twin brother of gay GBBO contestant, Tom Hetherington was killed in action, serving the army in 2013. Robert Hetherington was killed when he was just 25 in Helmand province when a Taliban explosion hit the armoured vehicle he was travelling in.
Private Robert was just six weeks into his tour. A hidden explosive killed him, along with Corporal William Savage, 30 and Fusilier Samuel Flint, 21. The inquest into their deaths ruled that the soldiers had been unlawfully killed as they were not alerted to insurgent activity.
Since the death of his brother, Tom has started running marathons across the globe to raise money for the Royal British Legion and Poppy Scotland.
Brother has become the inspiration to work harder
According to the Daily Star, Tom, who lives in Edinburgh with his partner, said that his late twin inspired him to work harder, saying, “With every training session I can hear Robert pushing me to go a little faster, a little harder.
“Completing another marathon will be a testament to the strength I have gained from him and to show the strength he used and showed regularly.”
Well, it could mean a variety of things to a variety of people, but generally, the “bottom” is the guy who is the receptive partner in anal sex. Although it could be a label for someone who is more sub with in sex.
So the guy who’s underneath (or on top if you’re doing the cowboy) is known as the “bottom”. The giver is known as the “Top”. Not everybody likes the terms “top” or “bottom” for some being a bottom is seen as less than, more subservient or more effeminate, but some, like Big Brother US star Ragan Fox have empowered the word and meaning by calling themselves, “power bottoms”.
More recently, when Nurse Jackie star, Haaz Sleiman came out as gay he totally owned the bottom thing saying, “Not only am I a bottom, but I’m also a total bottom, which means I like it up you-know-where.”
Other wise you could go with giver and givee, catcher and pitcher or just their names… (no labels!)
Power Bottoms are those who dominate in sex but are those who enjoy receiving anal sex – or someone who can power through and take the *D* for a long time.
Those who like being both a top and the bottom are usually referred to as “vers” which means versatile. The terms tops, bottoms and vers have been around for a long time, but have become increasingly popular since the dawn of internet dating and apps.
The British comedian Noel Fielding is the brand new co-host, along with Sandi Toksvig in the Great British Bake Off, but what do we know about the man, with the gloriously luscious black locks.
Is Noel Fielding married?
No, Noel is not married but is in a long-term relationship with his Radio X DJ girlfriend Lliana Bird. They both live together in North London. They have been together since 2010.
What is Noel Fielding most famous for?
Noel became a household name for his stint in the Mighty Boosh, a cult comedy series which ran from 1998 to 2009 on BBC 3. He played the childlike eccentric role of Vince Noir. He’s also appeared in many other TV shows such as the It Crowd, QI and he was the team captain in Never Mind The Buzzcocks until it was cancelled in 2015.
Noel was born in May 1973, which makes him 44 this year.
Is Noel Fielding Gay?
Nope, he doesn’t identify as gay, but he has said in the past that he thinks that gay people are all like “Superman”. He told the Guardian, “You have to be quite strong to be gay – or to be different in any way. You build special muscles.” Apparently, according to the Daily Star, Noel said he had “romped” with men, before “deciding he wasn’t gay”.
He also hasn’t dismissed the idea of having a bromance with Paul Hollywood, saying, “He is so generous, helpful, never tells you what to do but if you want advice he will really help you”.
What does Noel think about presenting Great British Bake Off?
In an interview, Noel said, “The tent is strange as you get in there for five minutes and you feel at home. I wasn’t nervous about the tent so much,
“It’s been the strangest life experience because it’s such a big show. You really realise it when you see cars following you, drones, the paparazzi – you realise you are in a crazy bubble”.
Does Noel cook?
Noel revealed that he doesn’t cook, he said,
“I don’t cook as much. Paul is quite determined to teach me how to make a Sourdough loaf, which he says is going to change my life! And how to drive a car! I can’t drive. He keeps saying for me to come over to make pizzas too.”
A little while okay, Hughie gave a little insight into the pair’s bedtime habits – probably a little overshare – but hey, he said, that Ryan holds his D all the time – even when they’re asleep!
Sandi Toksvig is one of the UK’s most visible, incredible, out and proud presenters and TV personalities.
Is Sandi Toksvig married?
Yes, Sandi is married to her partner Debbie Toksvig. They got married in 2014. They were civilly partnered in 2007 but converted their partnership into a marriage later on. Sandi is a mother to three children, two daughters and a son. The children are from a previous relationship with Peta Stewart whom she separated from in 1997.
Where was Sandi Toksvig born?
Sandi was born in Copenhagen in Denmark. She was born in 1959 which makes her 59 in 2017. She moved to the UK in She was granted citizenship of the UK in 2013.
What else is Sandi famous for?
Apart from a slew of presenting jobs, being a renowned author and journalist – Sandi took over from Stephen Fry presenting QI and in 2015 helped co-found the Women’s Equality Party. She has also written extensively for children, having penned no less than 10 books for children. She’s also written at least 9 adult books.
What was Sandi’s first job?
Apparently, Sandi’s first job was as a follow spot operator for the musical Jesus Christ Superstar. She was 18. It wasn’t long before she wrote her first all-woman show and her writing career exploded into one of the most successful female authors in the world. Her first TV presenting job was for No. 73 – a kids’ TV show in the early to mid-80s.
Famous friends?
Sandi was at University at the same time as Stephen Fry, Hugh Laurie, Tony Slattery and Emma Thompson. Plenty of A-listers in her Rolodex! She graduated with a First Class degree in Law, archaeology and anthropology.
When did she become an OBE?
Sandi was made an OBE in the 2014 New Years Honours List.
Great British Bake Off starts tonight and we’re getting all our eggs, flour and cookie cutting implements ready and in a row. So what do we know about the show that Channel 4 blew a lot of dough (sorry not sorry) on.
Over the next 10 weeks, 12 of the best amateur bakers in Britain will whisk, knead, ice, beat and bake their way through classic British cakes, perfect patisserie, Italian delights, sticky caramel constructions and elaborate layered puddings.
All Twelve will be hoping to impress with their skill, creativity, knowledge and passion and clinch the Bake off Crown.
There are 30, yes 30 challenges!
Each of the 30 new challenges have been carefully designed by judges Paul Hollywood and Prue Leith to reveal just who is a star baker.
Who is the talent?
But it’s not just a new experience for the bakers. Also joining the tent for the first time are Sandi Toksvig and Noel Fielding, who will be with the bakers every step of the way, ready with a pertinent pep talk, a helpful hand or just a sympathetic shoulder to cry on…
The man who gave us Sex, Lies and Videotape, Out of Sight, Erin Brockovich, Magic Mike, and the Ocean’s Trilogy (Steven Soderbergh) has returned with a film that, while it’s not groundbreaking, is littered with excellent performances but its a case of been there seen that.
So alike Logan Lucky is with Ocean’s Twelve and Thirteen that it could as well have been Ocean’s fourteen but set in the Confederate state of Virginia. Logan Lucky is the story of a bank robbery, a bank robbery that’s so cleverly planned and executed that it’s a bit unrealistic and unbelievable.
Channing Tatum is down on his luck Jimmy Logan who can’t seem to get a break and keep a job due to his permanent limp. His daughter, Sadie (a memorable and amazing little Farrah MacKenzie) is a beauty pageant winner wanna be, and she’s in the care of his ex-wife Bobbie Jo (a very good Katie Holmes). His one-armed brother Clyde (a good as usual Adam Driver) owns a bar called Duck Tape, and they have a sister Mellie (Riley Keough). Jimmy, after talking to brothers Sam (Brian Gleason) and Fish (Jack Quaid), who have mentioned that their other brother Joe (Daniel Craig, at his best ever, better than his James Bond character), who happens to be incarcerated, can and will break out of jail and can help the gang break into the underground cash-handling system at the Charlotte Motor Speedway during one of the it’s busiest days of the year – the Coca Cola 600 race. Did I mention that the plot is a bit far-fetched?
Clyde (who got himself arrested just for the sole purpose of helping Joe escape jail for the day) and Joe successfully, in another ridiculous moment, escape jail. And it’s then a dream team attempting to steal money from a stadium chock-a-block full of people yet there is absolutely no one guarding the underground area where the money is dropped in via a tube system. Absolutely no one, not a security guard, employees, garbage collectors, no one at all. And all seems to go according to plan, thus lacking in any suspense whatsoever.
It’s in the performances where Logan Lucky is saved, barely. Craig is fantastic as the seasoned thief, Driver is good (as always) as the one-armed brother. Holmes surpasses expectations as Jimmy’s ex-wife who is now married to a wealthy man (more of her in the future please), while Seth MacFarlane is unrecognizable and fantastic as an arrogant personality famous for who knows what. The script, by Rebecca Blunt, has some very good moments but Logan Lucky is basically “Ocean’s 14” but with a better cast and a cool and quirky Southern vibe. Perhaps Soderberg’s next film will be an original, this one certainly wasn’t. But he’s putting together “Ocean’s Eight” at the moment, so it will be more of the same.
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