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10 things you’re doing wrong if your sex life has died

It’s completely normal if after a while the excitement in your sex life dies a little.

They say, don’t they, that the 7-year-inch is real. It’s apparently the time where, if you’re in a long-term relationship you start, maybe, to look around at what you’re missing, while totally forgetting that everything you need is standing right in front of you.

So what can you do to ensure all your cylinders are firing? We spoke to Rachael McCoy, an award winning sex and relationship coach about the simple things that we can do to make sure you’re getting amazing sex, even if you’re 7 years deep into your relationship

So what can you do to ensure all your cylinders are firing? We spoke to Rachael McCoy, an award winning sex and relationship coach about the simple things that we can do to make sure you’re getting amazing sex, even if you’re 7 years deep into your relationship

Turn off your technology

Have at least one night a month where you promise to turn all tech and outside distractions off and just spend time together. In this modern day, we all have tablets, phones and other forms of gadgets that distract us away from quality time together.

Buy a gift

Aim to take it in turns to surprise the other person with a gift or experience that they really enjoy. A great tip on how to do this is to listen when your partner says things they like. Make a note on your phone and when they are least expecting it, spring it on them. They’ll be so grateful that you remembered.

Massage your way to climax

Erotic massage is a great treat that never gets old. When you know your husband/ wife has been having a stressful time, greet them one day after work with some massage oil, a candle lit (warm) room and work your magic to massage their stress away.

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Chow down

Taking the time to cook your partner a nice meal is a lovely gesture as it shows your spending time and energy to do something thoughtful for them. Actually sitting down and eating together (not in front of the TV) is becoming less common these days too so make sure the table is set and you can both talk about your day/ week or life in general.

Roxanne, you don’t have to turn on that red light – ‘cept you should.

Get a red light bulb and swap it with your normal bulb. It completely changes the look and atmosphere in the room, instantly making it feel very seductive and naughty.

Get some friends

Going out with friends may not seem romantic at the time but socialising and ‘representing’ as a couple with friends is a really fun thing to do. In other people’s presence, we tend to be more playful. It will give you lots of things to talk about and it’s something you can both enjoy together.

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Oral

Some spontaneous oral sex is always a pleasurable treat for a loved one. Catch them when they are nice and clean but not expecting your sexy treat. Make the effort to spend a decent amount of time working their ‘goodies’ with your lips and tongue.

Be sentimental

For an incredibly sentimental gift idea, how about putting together a collage of images. It will be even more romantic if you do it for no apparent reason, just to make them happy. There are plenty of apps that do this now or you could print off your favourite picture memories and cut them to fit nicely in a frame. It proudly shows your declaration of love and will definitely show your partner you care.

Separate

Doing things separately may seem the opposite of romantic but actually it’s a very healthy thing to do in marriages (and relationships in general). As much as you love each other, living in each other’s pockets can become suffocating and predictable. Doing hobbies separately creates desire and interest into the other person, giving you both some great conversation too.

Show gratitude

Remember to show gratitude. In long term relationships it’s easy to forget to say the little things like ‘Thank you’ ‘I love this about you’ or ‘I’m so grateful for’. This mainly happens because we’ve said it so many times before and we just expect the other person to know. But it is imperative that you always remember to tell your husband/ wife these things regularly. It will make all the difference to your marriage and help ensure that it’s a long and happy one.

20th October 2016
75,000 to be awarded a Governmental pardon for the criminal act of being gay

The Government is to hand pardons to tens of thousands of deceased gay and bisexual men who you were criminally convicted of homosexuality.

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The UK Government is to start issuing pardons for gay and bisexual men who were convicted of the crime of homosexuality. The Ministry of Justice said that no individuals cases would be singled out.

Homosexuality was decriminalised in the UK in stages, with the law change in England and Wales in 1967, in Scotland in 1982 and in Northern Ireland in 1982.

Former Liberal Democrat MP for Manchester Withington, John Leech, who led the successful campaign to pardon Alan Turing, has today secured an agreement with the Government which will grant a posthumous pardon to tens of thousands of gay and bisexual people convicted under long abolished sexual offence laws.

The decision to accept the amendment has been warmly welcomed by the architect of Alan Turing’s pardon, Cllr. John Leech, who said,

“For years I have campaigned and fought for this moment and I’m completely overwhelmed that this is finally coming to a positive end.

“This is a deeply profound and emotional day for my team and I.”

Those similarly convicted but still alive will also receive pardons if they have successfully applied for a disregard, or in future successfully apply for a disregard under the Protection of Freedoms Act.

The Government will add their name to the Liberal Democrat amendment to the Policing and Crime Bill that when passed will finally grant the long-awaited pardon to over 75,000 people.

This has been a long-fought campaign for John Leech who first raised the issue in the Houses of Parliament and began campaigning in 2011.

Mr Leech submitted several motions to Parliament and campaigned hard to secure the historic pardon, stating that it was “utterly disgusting and ultimately just embarrassing” that the conviction was upheld as long as it was.

In 2013, Alan Turing was given a posthumous royal pardon and an official apology by former Prime Minister Gordon Brown, following the high profile campaign led by John Leech.

Following the success of his campaign, Mr Leech turned to securing the pardon for the 75,895 other gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people who were unfairly convicted for similar offences.

Alan Turing was a pioneering English computer scientist and mathematician whose groundbreaking work is thought to have brought WWII to an end four years early.

However, at a trial in 1952, Turing admitted to “acts of gross indecency” before being sentenced to chemical castration. His conviction meant he lost his security clearance and was forced to stop work at Bletchley Park.

Aged just 41, he was found dead from cyanide poisoning in 1954 with a half-eaten apple by his side. An inquiry concluded that it was suicide.

It is predicted that Turing’s work saved the lives of an estimated 14 to 21 million.

Mr Leech said Turing’s persecution “by the state for being gay was a scandal that shouldn’t have ever been allowed to stand”.

The first motion Mr Leech submitted called for a recognition of the “vital contribution made by Alan Turing to Britain’s war effort” and “regrets that following his years of national service he received a criminal conviction for having a sexual relationship with another man”.

John Leech concluded: “This is an enormous step forward for LGBTQ+ history and I believe Alan Turing would be truly proud to see tens of thousands of people rightfully vindicated in his name.”

Leader of the Liberal Democrats, Tim Farron MP, added: “The Liberal Democrats continue to be the strongest voice on equality in and out of Parliament.

“This was a manifesto commitment which even in opposition, thanks to the tireless work of John Leech alongside our MPs and peers, we have been able to deliver on.”

20th October 2016
THEATRE REVIEW | Breakfast At Tiffany’s – Sheffield Theatres and National Tour

★★ | Based on the classic novel by Truman Capote; which was famously immortalised on the big screen by the 1961 film, Breakfast at Tiffany’s tells the story of an unnamed writer’s obsession with his faux-socialite neighbour, Holly Golightly, as she optimistically flirts, romances and blags her way through life via a series of romantic interludes with a number of well to do men.
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Based more on the book than on the film, this adaptation by Richard Greenberg has its moments. Firstly, the script, whilst wordy, carries with it an essence of Capote’s work, with rhythmically delivered passages of lengthy text which maintain the feeling of a novella rather than a play. Returning the time frame to the original 1940’s setting, the costumes were both glamorous, and, in the case of Holly Golightly, numerous. The set design was beautifully done, sturdily constructed, versatile and filled with period detail; and the lighting design by Ben Cracknell effectively transported the audience between New York downpours and hazy summer days.

Matt Barber (Downton Abbey) delivers his role as Fred with enthusiasm and an element of innocence as his character falls for his neighbour’s charms; despite the hint of Fred’s closeted homosexuality running through the piece. Georgia May Foote (Coronation Street) is functional and steady as Holly Golightly. Stepping into such an iconic role was always going to be a tough call for any actress and Foote holds her own, never really excelling, but never falling flat either, although she doesn’t quite pull off the charisma and allure of the character entirely.

The difficulty with this production is that is it, sadly, just plain dull. Golightly comes across as a self-absorbed, egocentric and, quite frankly, dislikeable character, which makes you wonder just why anyone would become so infatuated with someone so narcissistic. The play is heavy, slow going and overlong, which lacks any of the whimsical lightness and charm of the film version; and whilst the play is more reliant on the novella than the film, comparisons are unavoidable. The pacing and momentum of the piece is patchy; it is clumsy at times, there are a number of unnecessarily loud and messy scenes filled with a variety of unlikeable characters; and the audience warmed more to the scene stealing cat, Bob, than most of the actors on stage.

For those enamoured with the book, this is a relatively good adaptation, and they will not doubt find much to enjoy within this production, which is a grittier and darker adaptation in keeping with Capote’s writing. For those who are smitten with the film, and despite the publicity shots for the play which are tantalisingly reminiscent of the iconic imagery associated with the movie, there is likely to be some disappointment.

Breakfast at Tiffany’s is on national tour (see www.breakfastattiffanys.co.uk/ for details) and is currently playing at Sheffield Lyceum Theatre (www.sheffieldtheatres.co.uk) until 22^nd October 2016.

20th October 2016
Yet another former X Factor star has his alleged naked pictures leaked

Explicit pictures have emerged that purport to be those belonging to former X Factor winner Shayne Ward.

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The pictures which allegedly show hunky Shayne Ward naked, have surfaced on the net thanks to the now infamous #CelebrityBusted brand. The pictures were uploaded to a Tumblr account on the 12th October.

The X Factor winner now stars on ITV’s Coronation Street and is said to be ‘humiliated’ by the leak.

A source told The Sun:

“This video is years old. Shayne was single at the time and it happened when he was on tour with War of the Worlds.

“He’s so embarrassed this has happened. The conversation between him and the supposed woman have left him hugely red faced.

“He can’t believe anyone would do this.

The short video shows a man with similar tattoos to the “Breathless” singer playing with his penis on a video chat.

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In 2015 a very randy music video showcased Shayne in all his naked finery for the song “My Heart Would Take You Back”, however, these pictures do not appear to be part of that shoot.

The pictures are just a few that have been released by #CelebrityBusted of various celebrities.

Sam Callahan was a victim of leaked images last weekend for which he apologised for and said,

“I was young and foolish back then,

“Unfortunately I wrongly trusted the person I was speaking to at the time and was completely betrayed and catfished.

“It’s not something that would happen now. I’m way too focused and driven to put myself in that risky situation, but I guess we live and learn.”

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19th October 2016
10 things you need to stay clear of to make your climax taste better

Have you been noticing your partner’s face turning a deep shade of green after you’ve deposited your spooge in his mouth?

If you’re getting a yucky response to your jerk sauce then maybe it’s time to take a look at what you’re ingesting – as some of what you’re eating can affect the taste of your cum.

So here’s the 10 things you need to stay clear of.

1) Dairy

Too many dairy products can make your love milk taste salty, so is best to keep consumption of cheese and milk to a minimum.

2) Being dehydrated

Drinking more water helps wash out pollutants from your body. Most of your climax is actually water, so making sure you’re well-hydrated means that you could have more volume which will dilute the natural taste of your load.

3) Asparagus

It makes your pee smell and your man mayo taste awful. So if you’re out on a hot date make sure you stay away from the grilled asparagus.

4) Coffee

It’s a good job to cut down on all pollutants including caffeine. Too much coffee could actually change the taste of your baby batter and make it much more bitter. It’s best to limit your coffee intake to around 4 cups a day.

5) Meat

Red meats have to go, I’m sorry, but if you want to keep your boy smiling, then it’s out with meats, like beef, lamb and pork. Swap with good quality, high protein cuts of chicken and turkey.

6) Onions

Your two little love-juice making chums do not like onions. Neither do they like garlic because of their high sulphur content! It all makes for a nasty tasting load.

7) No chlorophyll in your diet

High chlorophyll is good for tasty cupid’s toothpaste. You can find chlorophyll in parsley, wheatgrass, and celery. Go for it chow down on those sticks of celery.

8) Alcohol

Alcohol is known to make your jizz taste bitter, it can also play havoc with your sexual performance so keep yourself in tip top shape and cut back on the lagers.

9) Ciggies

If you’ve ever blown a guy who smokes you’ll know that his man muck is pretty rank.

10) Want super tasting cum?

The following foods are super good for tastier sperm: Pineapples, papayas, cranberries, melons, mangos, apples, grapes and lemons are all good choices. Fruits that are high in natural sugars help offset the bitter taste of your man chowder.

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Changes to your food intake will start to have an effect on your Love Liquor in around 12 to 24 hours, so keep this in mind; it’s best to have a day of clean livin’ for the rampant dirty night after.

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19th October 2016
You can buy this rather rude “pearl necklace” choker from ASOS

So shopping giant ASOS is selling this rather rude looking choker. They call it a “Glow in the Dark Dripping Blood Choker”…

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We call it a “pearl necklace”. So if you’re looking for the must-have Halloween fashion statement look no further than the Glow in the Dark Dripping Blood Choker

So if you’re looking for the must-have Halloween fashion statement this year look no further than the Glow in the Dark Dripping Blood Choker from ASOS.

They think it looks like a dripping blood – but we think it looks the end result of a bukkake party (not that we know what that truly looks like – we’re good boys you know.)

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The £5 choker has an adjustable chain length and a gold finish and is 70% Silicone, 30% Iron.

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19th October 2016
RESTAURANT REVIEW | Roma

In a part of London where there’s not a whole lot going on cuisinewise, Roma is a nice breathe of fresh air.
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Situated right next to Fenchurch Street Station, past a Pizza Express and The Windsor Pub, Roma brings a unique and very elegant dining experience to a part of London that desperately needs it. If you walk quickly past the ugly station and try not to inhale any of the train fumes, Roma, located down a flight of stairs from the square is the elegant Roma and it’s an absolute find. A bar with ample tables for drinks, and beautifully situated tables alongside the large windows – tables that seat two, four, six, and perhaps more, with large windows that gives the restaurant its Italian style.

Roma claims that it brings 2000-year-old flavours and passions of ancient Rome to its rich menu full of Roman-inspired dishes. Well, no one I know was around 2000 years ago so we will have to take their word for it! Luckily the menu is not overwhelming – it’s simple yet and uncomplicated. Recommended as a beginning dish while you relax and read the menu are the requisite olives, bread and dips, a selection of crudités as well as bruschetta – all priced below £8.00. There are eight small plates to choose from, all very simple and knowing. Oxtail Soup, Mussels and Clams, Cod Loin Fish Cake, Hay smoked mackerel fillet, Hare & pistachio terrine, all excellently priced at below £9.00. The Mediterranean lentil salad served with ricotta salata, with lite vinegarette sauce, was absolutely wonderful – a snip at £7.00. The Salumi dish of cured meats & antipasti, priced at £15.00, was worth every pound because of its large size and excellent presentation of an array of meats served with bread and olives. In fact, this is a chance for Roma to present its own charcuterie – which is in their kitchen – so you know you’re getting fresh meat.
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Roma offers Large Plates and plates cooked in Hay. First off, the large plates include Mussels & Clams, Tiger prawns, Wild mushroom gnocchi, Honey & Mustard pork, and 16th-century cotechino (an Italian charcuterie dish). You might ask, what is hay? This is where Roma bakes it’s meat on hay – which is how the ancients Romans cooked. So the hay menu included the Crispy pork belly, accompanied by Borlotti beans, ham & tomato casserole. It was a bit disappointing for its £19.00 price as the pork was not that big, and it was awfully hard to chew, served with a small portion of the casserole. Luckily I ordered the Gnocchi to accompany it, but it was basic, scattered in butter and basil. The Vine wrapped tuna, leeks & olives dish, with Risotto Bianco, was the piece de resistance. Two pieces of tuna, covered in a vine leaf, with a massive portion of risotto, was very nice, and the risotto and tuna complemented each other. At £22.00, it was worth the money. Other ‘cooked in hay’ dishes on offer include slow cooked leg of lamb for 2 (I will have this next time), lamb rump, and half roasted chicken.

This being an Italian restaurant you can bet that the desserts would be perfect, and they were. The Torata del nonna (a pastry shell covered with pine nuts and sugar to the veil that hides a delicious cream filling pasticcera) with pine nuts and peanuts needs to be eaten to be believed. The Apricot and ratafia sweet-beverage cake, coupled with Rose water créme Anglaise, was also heavenly, sweet, and a perfect ending to a filling meal, both at a very sweet price of £6.50.
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There’s a lot of wine on offer at Roma (just like in the days of the Roman empire), and Sarah the wine sommelier will offer you an excellent selection to go with each of your dishes. They were all very excellent and excellently accompanied the dishes we had. The Northern Rome GEWURZTRAMINER, ALOIS LAGEDER, Alto Adige 2015 and the TEMPRANILLO, 6 MESAS EN BARRICA, FINCA LA ESTACADA, Ucles 2015 were perfect with the starters. With the mains, the CABERNET, MERLOT, PUKLAVEC FAMILY HERITAGE, GOMILLA, Macedonia 2015 and the PINOT NOIR, KRAFUSS, ALOIS LAGEDER, Alto Adige 2012 complemented the fool. Roma also offers wines from the South of Rome, France, and Spain & Portugal making their list one of the most comprehensive north of the Roman ruins!

Roma is the perfect place to go if you want to impress your clients, co-workers, loved ones or perhaps even your boss. It’s an elegant nicely tucked away restaurant where the food is impressive, with impeccable service.

Reviewed by: Tim Baros

Telephone: 0207 488 2807

Address: 14 New London Street, London, EC3R 7NA

PRICE: ££££ (explained)

STAR: ✮✮✮ (explained)

19th October 2016
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18th October 2016
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18th October 2016
The bromance between Matt Terry and Freddy Parker is real

Although he’s been booted from the competition, Freddy Parker and Matt Terry found time to hug it out.

Before he left the X Factor house, Freddy Parker, who was eliminated from the X Factor last weekend, found time to hug competition favourite, Matt Terry. He also threw his weight behind his mate by saying that he could win the competition.

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Freddy was eliminated after a sing-off with Saara Aalto where the judges’ votes took the decision to deadlock. In the end the Ashford hunk failed to get enough public votes to make it through to the next week.

Back to the house after the result on Sunday, Freddy posted a picture of both him and Matt Terry hugging adding that Matt had what it takes to win as well as revealing that he loved him and that he was going to miss him so much. Ahh…

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After he left the competition Freddy said the experience of X Factor was “the best time ever” and thanked the production for the “most amazing start in life”

18th October 2016
Bet we can guess if you’re a top or bottom

Of course it doesn’t matter which you are… but we bet we can guess whether you’re a power bottom, masterful top or versatile minx.

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18th October 2016