Office politics are real people. We spend so much of our lives working for the boss, so why not try to make life just a little bit easier for everyone…
1) Passive aggressive emailing when you don’t get the answer you want.
2) Not putting an “xx” after your name when someone else has in their email.
3) Using up the last of the milk/teabags/chocolate digestives and not replacing them.
4) Leaving your washing up in the sink for someone else to clean it up.
5) CCing a non-responder’s boss on email – why don’t you just call them!
Former X Factor singer Bradley Hunt has shared a horrific story and pictures from a homophobic attack he sustained while dancing to Britney Spears in a nightclub.
Bradley Hunt has hit out at homophobes by sharing horrific pictures from a homophobic attack at a nightclub from a man who took issue with the way he was dancing to Britney Spear’s ‘Toxic’.
The star spoke about he was left with a black eye and a missing tooth after the vicious attack from a man he said took offence to the way Bradley was dancing.
The reality star said, “I was dancing in Pop World to Britney Spears, I was flicking my neck, doing my dance moves and this guy came up to me. He said, ‘Can you stop dancing like that?’
“Now I think he was trying to show off to some girls, something like that, and I’m thinking, ‘babes, the girls are loving my dancing. Like, they ain’t bothered at you trying to put me down, you ain’t gonna get a girl that way. Just saying’.
“Anyway, I said to him, ‘don’t tell me what to do’, and I thought, you don’t tell somebody what to do, especially in a club – it’s Pop World! You don’t tell someone to stop dancing like that, I’m sorry, if you don’t like it, go somewhere else.
“The pain absolutely killed”
“Then came the smash right into the nose, then two of his mates on either side ricocheting, punching, thumping me, I’ve never been hit before and the pain absolutely killed.”
Getting emotional, he continued “I had an instant headache and I absolutely panicked, I was screaming. I ran to the bar crying, I can feel one of teeth half of it in my hands, blood. I jumped over the bar because I was so scared, ran down to the beer cellar and was on the floor in tears, panicking. Obviously, I was drunk and it just came as a shock to me.
Arrested
“I called the police, they came and actually managed to find one of them around the corner and arrested him. And he stayed in the cell for a night but other than that nothing really happened. I did a statement at the police station but what can you do?”
He added, “Homophobia’s still here. With me, some people recognise me so there’s a level of, they can say a joke, the can stare, they can laugh, that’s fine. I’ve been on the TV, I was the joke act, you can laugh and stare. But when people say ‘batty boy’, ‘queer’ or anything like that, or try and intimidate me, Nah. I don’t tolerate it.”
It’s official: Adam Lambert will be performing alongside Queen at the Oscars.
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One of American Idol’s most successful singers, Adam Lambert is to make Glambert history when he performs at the Oscars live on the 24th of February 2019.
Of course, the film, Bohemian Rhapsody, the biopic on the rise and rise of Freddie Mercury and Queen is up for numerous awards.
Taking to Twitter The Academy Awards announced that the iconic band and 2009 American Idol runner-up would perform together on the show.
“Is this the real life? Is this just fantasy? We welcome @QueenWillRock and @adamlambert to this year’s #Oscars,” the Tweet read.
The song which the band and Adam will perform hasn’t been announced but it is thought that they will play the song from which the film gets its name, ‘Bohemian Rhapsody’.
When a person refers to someone by a previous, given or birth name, it is called deadnaming. Deadnaming can be done with malice or by accident.
It mostly affects transgender people who have changed their name during their transition.
For instance, if a trans woman’s birth or given name was Martin, but she changed it to Sarah during her transition, calling her Martin or referring to her as Martin would be deadnaming her.
However, deadnaming could happen to people who have divorced and have changed their surnames (for instance Cheryl being called Cheryl Cole) or even people who have decided to change their legal name for their own reasons. Being referred to a previous name can be traumatic regardless of the reasons it was changed.
It is often seen as painful as it can trigger memories of a life from which the person feels totally disconnected now.
Some transgender people, however, are comfortable talking about their previous name and some wish it to remain in history, but you should accept the name you are given by any transgender person, just as you would is the person you are interacting with is cisgender or cisnormative.
Can you ask trans people what their previous identity or name was?
You really shouldn’t ask people what their birth name was, unless that information is offered willing to you.
It is very similar to misgendering but focuses more on someone’s name rather than gender pronouns.
Can you expand this definition? Use the comments below and your answer could be used to expand or define this glossary entry.
If you’re looking for ideas to reduce your dependence on technology,Sloan Sheridan-Williams is a celebrity life coach, international speaker and author of “Slap Fear” shares her 10 life hacks…
It’s likely that you’re reading this piece on your phone, but are you happy with how much time you spend on the device? When technology is starting to rule your life, why not take a step back and take note of Sloan’s top 10 hints at regaining control of your life.
First step is to put your phone down, Sloan told us, “Spending time online with friends should be a last resort not your first port of call. If you want to shift your focus from unhelpful social media habits to meeting friends in the real world but don’t know where to start, here are my top ten suggestions to get out from behind your handheld device and re-connect with the people that matter.
Some of the most memorable trans characters have been played by cis-gender actors… here are 25 of the most famous roles.
Here are just some of the mainstream films and television shows where a trans character wasn’t played by a trans actor. The argument against non-trans actors taking these parts have made headlines once again after a clip of Matt Bomer in his forthcoming film, Anything was released.
Warning this article may contain spoilers to various films.
Glen or Glenda was released in 1953 starring Ed Wood – who was actually credited as Daniel Davis in this film. It’s a semi-autobiographical film, considered one of the worst films of all time. However, it is considered a plea for tolerance.
Dog Day Afternoon is based on a real-life story, where a bank robber (Al Pacino) holds up a bank in New York’s Manhattan to pay for his girlfriend’s (Chris Sarandon) gender confirmation surgery. Chris Sarandon’s portrayal of a trans woman was applauded for its consideration of dysphoria.
Probably one of the most famous films to feature a “sweet transsexual”. TRHPS has gone on to become a cult hit and recently had a remake filmed and it starred Laverne Cox in Tim Curry’s part of Dr Frank N. Furter.
In 1980 Michael Caine played a murderous trans woman in this erotic thriller. For his part in the film, Mr Caine was nominated for a Golden Raspberry Award for Worst Actor.
A drama which explores themes of race, gender, nationality and sexuality with the troubles of early 80s Northern Ireland as a backdrop. The trans character in this film is actually one of its great surprises, which is considered a “shocking twist”. Jaye Davidson was nominated for a Best Supporting Actor for the role.
The World According to Garp based on the book of the same name by John Irving which is the story of T.S. Garp. In the book his mother, who runs a home for abused women gives shelter to a former footballer, now a transgender woman, Roberta Muldoon.
Ted Levin played a trans serial killer who skins his female victims. In the story, Ted’s character, Jame Gumb, applied for a sex-reassignment operation but was unsuccessful in gaining in their cause.
Terrence Stamp in Priscilla Queen of the Desert, 1994
One of the most successful LGBT films of all times was released in 1994 is in the top 40 grossing gay and lesbian films of all times. Terrence Stamp’s Bernadette Bassinger is a carefully studied character, played respectfully.
Mary Sean Young, Ace Ventura: Pet Detective, 1994
Possibly one of the most offensive portrayals of a trans person in film – which uses the trans character as a comedy mimic.
Coronation Street made history in 1998 when they introduced the first trans character to a British soap. It wasn’t until 2015 that EastEnders made further history by having a trans actor play a trans character. Julie Hesmondhalgh has been praised for her portrayal of a trans person and she is a huge advocate for the LGBT community. In 2017 she called on TV companies to employ trans people in trans roles.
One of the most tear-jerking LGBT films of all time. Hillary Swank was truly remarkable in the film which was based on the true story of murdered trans man Brandon Teena. The film was nominated for 57 awards and won 37 of them including, Best Actress (Oscars and BAFTAs) for Swank.
The 00s to 10s
John Cameron Mitchell in Hedwig and the Angry Inch, 2001
One of the only musical films featuring a trans character in the central role. John Cameron Mitchell wrote and directed this film. It features in the top 100 LGBT films.
Felicity Huffman was widely praised for her role in TransAmercia as a pre-operative male to female transgender person. This was an unusual casting decision as usually male to female trans parts are played by males rather than females.
When Daniela joined The L word in 2006 she had the role of Moira Sweeney, an androgynous computer technician who moves from the Midwest with Jenny (Mia Kirshner). Over the course of the season, Moira comes out as a trans man, adopting the name Max Sweeney.
Rebecca Romijn was another female who was cast in an M2F role in the comedy TV series, Ugly Betty. She appeared midway through the first season and left in season 3.
The 10s to 20s
Seth MacFarlane, Family Guy, 2010
Derided by Glaad for the way in which Family Guy deals with transgender issues, Seth MacFarlane voices the character of Quagmire’s parent, Ida who goes through sex-reassignment surgery in the episode, “Quagmire’s Father”.
Jared was awarded an Oscar for his role in Dallas Buyers Club, however, his casting in this film and subsequent acceptance of the Oscar with a full beard was criticised by some in the trans community. Laverne Cox recently said, “as brilliant as Jared Leto is, and all these actors who play trans women, when people who don’t know anything about trans folks and trans women see the very sexy Jared Leto and his beard accepting an Oscar for playing a trans woman, the message that it sends is that trans women are really men”
Amazon was praised for the production of Transparent starring Jeff Tambor who plays a trans person coming out as trans later in life. The show has won awards and much love from the critics for its sensitive portrayal of a family dealing with and accepting transition.
Eddie Redmayne played the part of Lili Elbe, acknowledged as the first trans woman to go through sex reassignment surgery. Despite it being widely praised there was only one Oscar win out of four nominations. The film was banned in a number of countries including Qatar, the UAE, Oman, Kuwait and Malaysia.
Stonewall was much derided when it was released in 2015. It also stars two actors in trans roles who are not trans. Otoja Abit who played Marsha P Johnson and Jonny Beachamp who played the fictional character, Ray/Ramona.
Porn Star Jordan Fox took to his social media to shame a guy he had sex with because he didn’t douche.
Let’s talk about Top Privilege for a moment, shall we? WTF.
Jordan Fox took to Twitter to publicly paint or nugget shame a guy he had sex with. He showed off a dirty condom after a guy he had sex left. Paint shaming is shaming a bottom if the rectum isn’t fully emptied and a poop incident happens during anal sex.
In his now deleted Tweet he wrote, “Just f**ked a guy and look what happened, can’t you bottoms clean your ass properly before getting fucked ?? I’m not into scat! SHAME ON HIM”
He also used the angry and vomit emoji.
CocktailsAndCocktalk reached out to Fox for comment, who replied, “I was just upset, because there is a guy that always messes up my bed, because he never douches…”
“I was just upset in the moment”.
The moment? You had enough time to take the condom off, time to take a picture of the condom, time to open Twitter, time to write the Tweet, time to press Send.
We’d say that there was some definite cooling off period…
He told C&C that he “prefers his partners to douche” and that it wasn’t his intention to attack anybody.
The star received a fair amount of backlash to his Tweet so wrote a warning Tweet on his timeline, “PLEASE NOTE: there is no place for haters on my profile so anyone doing bad comment or insulting me will be blocked immediately. If you dont like me then just dont follow me”
The Tweet was accompanied with the fist emoji.
Treating bottoms with respect
The star also ran a poll in which he asked his fans whether bottoms should be treated with respect.
When the poll returned with the majority saying bottoms should be treated with respect he wrote, “Seems bottoms do not want to be respected..that’s fine I ll treat them like pigs”.
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Jedward have paid a heartbreaking tribute to their mum after she died from cancer she had been living with for years.
Taking to social media, brothers John and Edward shared with their fanbase that their mother, Susanna Condron had died from cancer that she had been living with over many years.
In the heartbreaking Tweet sent from their official account, the singers vowed that their mum would always be alive in their hearts and paid tribute to how “full of life” she was despite living with cancer for many years.
The twins wrote about how much they would miss their mum as well as how she shaped their character into who they became.
They wrote,
Rest In Peace Mammy You live on through us We will miss you and your smile You shaped the character of who we are. Mammy lived with cancer for many years but was always full of life! You live on in our Memories and will always be alive in our Hearts
Rest In Peace Mammy You live on through us We will miss you and your smile You shaped the character of who we are. Mammy lived with cancer for many years but was always full of life! You live on in our Memories and will always be alive in our Hearts ❤️ pic.twitter.com/6esfCyjP59
Susanna was well-loved by fans of the brothers who were quick to send their well-wishes and support to the former X Factor stars with one saying, “I am at a complete loss. You know how much your Mum meant to me. You are certainly a credit to your wonderful mother. Susanna was someone I called a friend and loved and will always love very much. She had such a profound effect on my life.
Another added, “In my heart and thinking of you, she was so amazing and was so proud of you”.
Another replied, “I’m so heartbroken, she was such a beautiful and kind women! Sending so much love your way always here for you! Thank you for letting us all get to know her she will be greatly missed always here for you if you ever need anything sending so much love and prayers your way”.
He added, “I want to know good & damn well what kind of worth your boyfriend or husband has when he’s watching it”, before pointing out that all men watch porn.
He then proceeded to record a video, which he titled, “You are not better than porn stars”, explaining his thoughts further saying, “So many of you wanna say that porn stars and myself, that we really don’t have “true self esteem beause we do porn.
“I wanna know what makes you better than the bitch on the other side of the screen. Because even if you don’t personally watch porn I know your man does.
“Single men watch it, married men watch it, all men do. So because a bitch is on the other side of the screen doing a job you probably don’t wanna do, which is get him off – when you’re sick, your stomach hurts, you’re on your period, you got diarrhoea.
“If anything you should be thankful to the porn stars because we keep y’all from having to suck that dick when you don’t feel like it. Honey”.
Before adding, “Bitch get that bible thumping, moralistic sh*t the f**k out of here…It’s 2019, get to flicking that bean bitch…”
Respect
Fans were quick to thank Chris for his rant, with one writing, “THIS. THANK YOU. Also, thank you so much for using your platform to stick up for yourself and the rest of us. We really appreciate you from the bottom of our hearts. Have since 2007”.
Another added, “Especially keeps them from cheating or going to do their secrets kinks someplace else”
One fan responded, “Also, lots of us queers ladies watch it. Porn performers are fantastic & I wish they (and sex workers in general) got the respect they deserve.”
The video has been watched in excess of 112,000 times and liked over 1,600 times by his fanbase.
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The Internet star Chris Crocker has revealed that he’s got a lot of subscribers on his OnlyFans account.
The “Leave Britney Alone” star, Chris Crocker, has revealed that he has nearly 4000 subscribers on his OnlyFans account which he is charging $15 (£11.65) per month to access. By our calculations at 4000 subscribers, Chris could be clearing $60,000 (£46,602) a month – minus admin and processing fees and applicable taxes.
The star currently has 46 videos and 179 photos posted to his page. Chris posts videos of himself performing with other well-known adult stars including Cliff Jensen, Matthew Camp and Austin Wolf.
Chris first made the move into adult entertainment when he appeared in a Maverick Men film in 2012 and then in 2014 Lucas Entertainment released the film, Chris Crocker’s Raw Love.
Taking to Twitter to announce his milestone, the star said that he was “so grateful” and posted a quick video!
Fans were quick to congratulate him on the incredible numbers with one replying “That’s a lot of f**king money” while another added, “Daaaaamn! Now that’s a star”.
Making money from Porn
We recently ran a poll asking if people should be paying for porn, staggeringly, only 17 percent of those who answered said they’d be happy to pay for porn. 83 percent said that porn should be free. OnlyFans is one of the ways that stars, like Chris, who have large followings can turn their art into money.
Speaking to THEGAYUK about how performers were able to make money from porn Chris Crocker said, “I think because now Porn is so intimate: With sites like OnlyFans, where you can direct message, see your favorite performers Live Stream & interact with the audience: Porn used to be solely voyeurism for the audiences paying for it. Performers are seeing they’re making money again because now Porn is more personable. And as a result: It is Porn for THE PEOPLE. When audiences can interact: they pay”.
Porn stars’ self-esteem?
He also recently slammed critics who said that porn stars have low self-esteem. In a Tweet on the 10th Feb 2019, he wrote,
“If you think I have a lack of “self-worth” because I do Porn I want to know good & damn well what kind of worth your boyfriend or husband has when he’s watching it. All men do. You’re no better than the bitch on the other side of the screen he’s watching.”
You spend a huge amount of time at work… nearly 100,000 of them over your working life. So if you’re not into what you’re doing, maybe it’s time to move on!
You arrive exactly at shift start and leave exactly at shift end.
Time was when you arrived 15 minutes early and left way after the end of your shift. Now you’re like “nah”.
Emails and calls are not read after 5:00 PM.
That shiz can be left for another day. I don’t care if a report needs to be handed in at 9 AM tomorrow morning. It’ll have to wait until 9:15 AM when I’m in, at my desk and drinking my first cup of coffee.
You don’t bother to put on your OOO…
I’m outta here. Not spending another minute working out technical stuff.
You do put on your OOO but direct people to someone who is also OOO.
Annoying right? This is my life.
You give co-workers evils. Even when they are looking at you.
I hate you. Even your breathing offends me.
Work socials are out of the question.
Why oh why would I spend another minute with you people.
Time goes by so slowly… especially when your boss asks you to do something…
Tick tock.
You know how to just get by without being fired.
Imma gonna do just the least I can do…
You spend most of the day on Expedia planning the dream holiday.
One way trips are looking mighty enticing
Your mutual hatred of your boss keeps you in close company with other rebels at your work.
You’re living on hate and the tank is full.
You’ve stopped being polite at meetings.
I mean what’s the point. You’re all going to ignore each other anyway.
Cutting corners is the cornerstone of your work ethic.
It saves time and heartache and who really cares anyway?
Your job has basically become searching for other jobs.
CVs written and rewritten and being sent as I type…
Redundancy has become your main career goal.
Please, please please.
You watch Apprentice and dream oh you dream…
Basically, I could do better and Lord Sugar looks like an easy boss compared to mine.
Dressing for success is a made up 90’s fallacy that you no longer adhere to.
Really Sarah Jessica Parker and Sex And The City can both go screw themselves with their impossible goals.
Office politics and drama is all you live for now.
and fight…
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