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Look out for toilet attendants and other users. Head to the last cubicle and quietly cough to see if anyone’s inside. If you’re in the cubicle and want some company open the door. Use the cottage on Platform two
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One guy recently admitted on Reddit, that he liked the idea of topping but after his first attempt during a hook up his dick wasn’t playing ball and it just wouldn’t “stay in his ass”.
He said that it wasn’t an enjoyable experience for him or his hook up, so he turned to the Internet on advice on how to stay hard during sex.
User inlarry said that during a hook up a lot of guys “psyched themselves out” before an encounter, only to find that mood has passed. Suggesting that the issue is probably 90 per cent more mental than physical.
Then there was the suggestion about ED (erectile dysfunction) by whatthefuckpare, who added, “Some people maintain an erection for jacking off just fine but have mental barriers against being able to penetrate well”.
There is loads of information about ED here. If you’re very concerned you should book an appointment with your doctor.
User jjaekkak said, “Common misconception and unnecessary stigma! No shame in the game. Some people need glasses. Some people have ADD. Some people’s erections need some help. None of it makes anyone any less human/worthy/sexy.”
Of course, there are some devices that can help you stay erect, once you’ve managed to get it up. A cockring is one such tool. It works by slowing down the rate at which the blood leaves the penis – while still allowing blood to flood into your member – meaning that you’ll most likely stay hard and larger for longer. Check out the cockring pictured above here.
What if the person you’ve hooked up with doesn’t do it for you in the flesh? The trouble with apps like Grindr is that you can fall for the guy in a picture rather than his reality – and that’s okay. Attraction is a totally subjective thing.
Make a polite excuse or be totally honest (still polite) and leave.
Especially the first time you top. There’s a lot of stress and performance anxiety for top and a lot of that comes from the porn we consume. Porn’s tops tend to be large, vigorous and have the stamina of a mountain goat. Most guys just aren’t that way. So try not to compare. Be in the moment.
One guy suggested trying a larger size condom. He found that he was losing his erection and when he spoke to a health care professional about it, they suggested trying a larger sized condom, “Game changer regular sized condoms were cutting the blood supply from my above regular dick! Also the best day of my life… Try the big condoms … Validation!”
Maybe, just maybe, you’re not into anal. There are guys who much prefer to do everything else but the butt stuff – many call themselves, “sides“.
Some positions work, some don’t. Try out different positions and see which one works for you.
Another erection killer is drugs and alcohol. Brewer droop is a thing. Also, it’s worth noting it’s not just non-prescription drugs that can affect your ability to perform, prescribed meds can also have an effect. Speaking to THEGAYUK, Dr Nitin Shori said, “It’s important that you treat your depression and tackle the underlying factors that might be causing it.
“If you speak to your GP they may be able to change your medication to one that has less of an effect on your libido or consider whether your depression itself is the cause”.
The iconic symbol for the LGBT community made its debut in San Franciso in 1978. It was displayed at the San Francisco Gay and Lesbian Freedom Day parade in 1978. It has since gone on to be recognised worldwide as the symbol for LGBT spaces, venues and pride.
The flag was designed by Gilbert Baker. Since its introduction, it has gone under several design reviews and had colours removed and then re-added.
The original flag can now be viewed at the Design Museum London which acquired the flag as part of a series of new objects for its permanent collection. It was acquired by the museum in 2017.
Speaking about the rainbow as a symbol for LGBT+ folx Gilbert Baker said,
“There was no other international symbol for [the LGBT+ community] than the pink triangle which the Nazis used to identify homosexuals in concentration camps,
“Even though the pink triangle was and still is a very powerful symbol, it was very much forced upon us”.
Gilbert Baker created the rainbow flag with each colour representing a different area of life.
Pink: Sexuality
Red: Life
Orange: Healing
Yellow: Sunlight
Green: Nature
Cyan: Art
Blue: Serenity/ Harmony
Purple: Spirit
If you’ve ever wanted to wear a bra… now’s your chance as underwear designer, Andrew Christian has released what he is describing as a “gender-neutral/non-binary boy bra”.
The designer, who is famed for his sexy undies, popular with gay guys, is pushing out his design remit and is releasing a range of so-called “boy bras” which the company is calling gender-neutral.
The first is a simple, black see-through mesh design.
He added the picture on the official AC Instagram and it seems as though the boy bra is a hit with the brand’s fans.
The picture was captioned,
“Introducing the #genderneutral & #nonbinary ??? ???! Let’s love! Not hate!”
The bra, is apparently the least achievement in Andrew Christian’s “genderqueer couture”.
While most people seemed to love the design, some couldn’t help question why it was called the “boy bra” if it was supposed to be non-binary/gender-neutral.
The new bra is being retailed at £23.86 exc P&P and comes in two sizes, Small/Medium and Medium/Large.
An official fundraiser has been created by Reading Pride to help the families of James Furlong, Joe Ritchie-Bennett and David Wails who all sadly died after an attack in Reading over the weekend.
Reading Pride has already raised over £8,500 for the families of the three men who were killed in a terror incident. Nearly four hundred people have donated to the fundraiser, which has been created to help the families with the costs of the funerals.
It is also hoped that the funds raised will go towards a permanent tribute to the three men in Forbury Gardens in Reading town centre, where the three were killed.
The fundraiser page has a statement which reads,
“With the tragic event within our community in Reading on Saturday 20th June 2020, we’re hoping to raise some money and funds to help support the families for funeral costs.
“As well as a permanent tribute within Forbury Gardens, so everyone has a physical memento to remember the tragic loss of lives that have occurred.”
James Furlong, Joe Ritchie-Bennett and David Wails were all enjoying an evening in Forbury Gardens when, according to witnesses at the park, their attacker approached them and others, with what has been described as a 5-inch knife.
Chief Constable of the Thames Valley Police said,
“Following the tragic incident in Reading on Saturday night in which three innocent members of the public sadly lost their lives, I wanted to message our wider Thames Valley community to provide some reassurance at this difficult time.
“At this time Thames Valley Police and Counter Terrorism Policing South East (CTPSE), who are leading the investigation into the attack in Reading, do not believe there to be a wider risk to the public. I would like to reiterate that there is nothing to suggest that anyone else is involved in this offence and we are confident this is an isolated incident. In the past when there has been a terrorist attack, at home or abroad, we have seen the national terror threat level change increase. That has not happened in this case, which is confirmation of the security services assessment following this incident.
“Nevertheless, I understand that this incident will have caused great concern and I would like to reassure you that my officers and staff continue to be present in your area, responding to emergencies and safeguarding the vulnerable. You may see more officers out and about during this time; do not be alarmed by this, they are there for your reassurance. Please do approach them if you have any questions or concerns.”
To donate, click here
The family of a teacher who was killed in Saturday evening’s knife attack in Reading have paid tribute to him saying that he was “beautiful, intelligent, honest and fun”.
The parents of James Furlong, Gary and Janet, said, “James was a wonderful man. He was beautiful, intelligent, honest and fun.
“He was the best son, brother, uncle and partner you could wish for. We are thankful for the memories he gave us all.
“We will never forget him and he will live in our hearts forever.”
Mr Furlong was killed alongside David Wails and Joseph Ritchie-Bennett, on Saturday evening in Forbury Gardens in Reading. According to witnesses at the park, their attacker approached them and others, with what has been described as a 5-inch knife.
A twenty-five year old man has been arrested in connection to the incident. He remains in custody.
The victims are due to have post-mortem examinations to take place this week to identify the cause of their deaths.
Detective Chief Superintendent Kath Barnes, Head of CTPSE, said: “This investigation is continuing at pace.
“We have a large team of officers and staff working to establish exactly what happened in the lead up to, during and after this incident.
“Our thoughts very much remain with the family and friends of those who have lost loved ones and those who have been injured and affected as a result of this tragic incident.
“I would ask both the media and the public again not to speculate on any aspect of this case at this time as this could have an impact on the ongoing investigation and any future court appearances.”
Family members of Joseph Ritchie-Bennet have paid tribute to the 39-year-old, saying that he was “the most loving person you could meet”.
Joseph’s father, Gary Ritchie, said, “I was absolutely blessed and proud to be Joe’s father for 39 years and we are heartbroken by what has happened”
Mr Ritchie-Bennett’s brother and sister in law, Stephen and Katy Bennett added, “Joe was the most kind, caring and loving person that you could meet. We are absolutely devastated and heartbroken. Joe will always be with us in our hearts.”
The attack, which happened on Saturday evening in Reading’s, Forbury Gardens has now been labelled as a terror attack, by Thames Valley Police.
A twenty-five-year-old man has been arrested in connection to the incident. He remains in custody.
The victims are due to have post-mortem examinations to take place this week to identify the cause of their deaths.
Detective Chief Superintendent Kath Barnes, Head of CTPSE, said: “This investigation is continuing at pace.
“We have a large team of officers and staff working to establish exactly what happened in the lead up to, during and after this incident.
“Our thoughts very much remain with the family and friends of those who have lost loved ones and those who have been injured and affected as a result of this tragic incident.
“I would ask both the media and the public again not to speculate on any aspect of this case at this time as this could have an impact on the ongoing investigation and any future court appearances.”
The parents of a man who was killed in the Reading Terror attack on Saturday evening have paid tribute to him, calling him someone who “who never hurt anyone in his life”.
Mr Wails was killed alongside James Furlong and Joseph Ritchie-Bennett, on Saturday evening in Forbury Gardens in Reading. According to witnesses at the park, their attacker approached them and others, with what has been described as a 5-inch knife.
Speaking about the lost of their son, Mr Wails’ parents said,
“David was a kind and much-loved son, brother and uncle who never hurt anyone in his life.
“We are broken-hearted at losing him and in such a terrible way. We will treasure our wonderful memories of him and he will always be with us in our hearts”
The attack, which happened on Saturday evening in Reading’s, Forbury Gardens has now been labelled as a terror attack, by Thames Valley Police.
A twenty-five year old man has been arrested in connection to the incident. He remains in custody.
The victims are due to have post-mortem examinations to take place this week to identify the cause of their deaths.
Detective Chief Superintendent Kath Barnes, Head of CTPSE, said: “This investigation is continuing at pace.
“We have a large team of officers and staff working to establish exactly what happened in the lead up to, during and after this incident.
“Our thoughts very much remain with the family and friends of those who have lost loved ones and those who have been injured and affected as a result of this tragic incident.
“I would ask both the media and the public again not to speculate on any aspect of this case at this time as this could have an impact on the ongoing investigation and any future court appearances.”
Dear Uncle,
I’ve been using a butt plug and dildo, 5 and 7.5 inches respectively. I’ve used them in the way to get used to the feeling of a penis in my butt, but I get a jaggy sensation when I’m using them. it’s not that comfortable. I don’t get that feeling when I’m with a partner. Am I doing something wrong?
Rocket
Hey there Rocket
There’s a couple of things to consider here: size, material and of course, lube.
Firstly size, you mention the length, but not the circumference. Five inches might not seem that long, but if it’s as wide as a traffic cone, that might well be your issue.
As with anything you insert into your butt, you need to take your time, especially if it’s wide. If you want to get a wider toy, you could always try anal trainers/dilators, which can help you “train” your ass to take bigger objects, but you have to start small.
If you push anything, a toy, a cock, in too quickly, you’re actually at risk of butt-related injuries including tears.
Secondly, the material… Do you know what materials your toys are made out of? It could be the case that you’re having an allergic reaction to the materials used in the toy. Latex can, in some people, cause a nasty reaction. So it might be worth investigating this.
This could also go for the lube you’re using. Is it the same as the lube you use during anal sex?
A jagged feeling could mean that you’ve got some skin tears in or around your anus or even piles. Don’t fret. Tears can heal on their own, you just need to quit playing with your toys for a while and piles can be sorted with a good haemorrhoid treatment.
If in doubt, please don’t hesitate to speak to your doctor.
Always, use lots of lube and take your time, exploring what feels good and, it really goes without saying, if it hurts stop doing it.
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