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  • The Met is inviting you to join it in conversation tonight

    Ever wanted to know what it’s like to work in the country’s biggest police force? Now is your chance as the Met takes to Twitter to answer questions from the public.

    David Fall has spent his entire policing career wanting to specialise in investigating serious and complex cases. His aim has always been to support victims as best as he possibly can.

    Twenty years after becoming a police officer, he was one of the Met’s stars on the BBC documentary – showing the capital what his team are doing to keep Londoners safe.

    Interested in a career as a detective within the Met? Follow #JoinTheMet on Twitter tonight from 6pm, where DC Fall will be taking your questions. Find out if this is the change you have been looking a career within the Met is the change you have been looking for.

    “My name is David Fall and I am currently a Detective working in the Met’s Sexual Offences Unit within SC&O17 command based within North West of London.

    “I was born and raised in Southampton. Growing up it was always my boyhood dream to become a Police Officer. As soon as I was old enough to apply I did and as a fresh faced 18 year old I was successful on application and joined Hampshire Constabulary as a PC.

    “I enjoyed working there however in 2005 I made the decision to transfer to the bright lights of London. The appeal of policing the world’s capital City was too good an opportunity for me to turn down.

    “I was first posted to Wandsworth borough and I was very much a stranger to London. I remember feeling overwhelmed at the enormity of the city and the sheer size of the Met. The opportunities seemed vast and varied. I was able to settle quickly due to how my colleagues treated me, there was a real ‘police family’ feeling at Wandsworth. I was both fortunate and grateful for that.

    “I spent three years in the Homicide Command before transferring to the child protection unit in late 2011.

    “In November 2015 I was posted to the command of SC&017 where I have spent five years in total and the last 18 months of which, in ‘Sapphire’, where I am responsible for investigating serious sexual offences and stranger rapes.

    “I have been a Detective for 11 years now and became a Detective to investigate the most serious, grave and complex crimes. It sounds a bit corny but to lock up the criminals that inflict pain and misery on good members of our society was a driving force behind my decision to become a detective.

    “The hardest part of the job is the sheer volume of work that can be very demanding, so it’s important to be able to prioritise tasks in any given investigation.

    “There is nothing more rewarding and satisfying than giving the victim and their families justice in Court. I enjoy presenting complex cases during trials at Crown Court and I appreciate the fact that I have the responsibility to be able to give the victim some comfort at such a difficult time in their life.”

  • Solo in Sitges: 24 hours in the gay beach town capital of the world

    Sitges: A beautiful Mediterranean coastal town, only 35 minutes bus ride from Barcelona Airport (BCN) makes this town an easy accessible standalone destination.

    24 hours in Sitges

    With the generous offering of 22 beautiful beaches (including 3 gay beaches), the natural pull of the blue waters encouraged me to continue my exploration from the seafront promenade on to the mild sandy beaches. Each beach is separated by stone stretched pathways that resemble shallow piers and graceful huge rocks to sit on perhaps with a cold drink in hand, served from one of the many friendly quirky pop up beach bars.

    The pebbled and quaint Playa Del Muerto is publicised as an exclusive nude gay beach. It’s an hour walk from the town area and having spoken to a few solo gay travellers they all agreed that if you embark on that walk alone then make sure you have plenty of water, running shoes, emergency phone number, a working cell phone and a warning to be at arm’s reach of fatal accidents.

    To reach Playa Del Muerto will mean that part of your walk will be very near cliff edges and open railway tracks (train speeds at over 140km per hour). The thrill-seeking solo traveller will almost be in his element especially when he finds that the name of the beach translates to ‘Dead Man’s Beach’. I was extremely put off when I heard all this so, of course, I was even more intrigued to embark on the walk with the fear of many others that are ‘missing out’ on something that could just be an illusion that we create and fantasise about.

    The views from the high cliffs were breathtaking. The beach itself seemed very private and on that particular day, it resembled a pretentious open air nightclub – without the socialising, dancing and music. There is a small hut that sells refreshments – cash only and take lots of it! (May 17)

    Accommodation in Sitges is saturated with shared apartment options and travelling solo did not echo anything to do with sharing (other than conversations) so I retreated at Hotel Alenti a brand new 4*, 10 room boutique hotel located in the centre of downtown Sitges. My jacuzzi suite was tastefully designed and quietly encased with floor to ceiling large non-intrusive windows. Hotel Alenti offered slick luxurious comforts, while its location offered the opportunity to step in and out of the hustle bustle at the heartbeat of gay Sitges.

    Many gay men wouldn’t think about travelling solo because of fear of being alone. If this sounds like you then allow Sitges and hotelalenti.com to host that fear, you will notice how that illusion can fade. The numerous group activities you can join, the amazing weather, dining places, fresh food, cold drinks and most of all – people watching. Soon you realise you are watching others in groups – on their phones, struggling to make conversations, staring into the abyss, then you start to think – they may as well be travelling solo!

  • Vermont LGBT bar changes name after pressure from community

    An LGBT bar in Vermont, USA, has changed its name after a backlash from the LGBT+ community.

    Mister Sister in Winooski in Burlington, Vermont, has changed its name to The Bridge Club after a huge backlash from some in the LGBT+ community. The bar opened in March and has faced calls for boycott because some in the community considered the name, Mister Sister a slur against trans people.

    Defending the name back in March, the bar’s owner, Craig McGaughan, who identifies as gay, said initially,

    “It is a term that has been used among gays and Drag Queens for decades intended to be positively gender-bending,

    “Mister Sister is for the Misters and the Sisters, those that identify as both and everyone in between. The official description of Mister Sister is “a gay bar for him, her and them.

    “I have been very intentional in using a pronoun that isn’t specifically male or female as a way to include anyone that identifies as part of the LGBTQ community.”

    Board members of the Pride Center in Vermont criticised the name. Bailey Cummings, who resigned from the board due said,

    “Basically the name of this bar is a transmisogynistic slur,

    “And I feel strongly as community leaders that the Pride Center is responsible for standing up for our trans community members, and coming out against a slur.”

    Unveiling the new name this week. Mr McGaughan said,

    “I hope everyone finds the humor in going to The Bridge Club to party, sees the nod to the historic Winooski Bridge and recognizes the camaraderie and necessity in building bridges

    “I realize now that I mistakenly listened to the fight rather than the pain. I apologize to anyone that feels personally affected by the actions of myself or the bar. I’m choosing to forgive and would ask for forgiveness in return”.

     

     

  • 10 things every couple that is getting married needs to do (before the big day)

    Mental health campaigner Daniel Browne has compiled a “must do” list for couples who are planning to get married…

    top tips for planning a wedding

    Getting married should be the happiest, most wonderful time of your life. Sadly, it’s often the most stressful time of one’s life. It doesn’t need to be that way, though. If you’re due to get married, I’m here to help with my top 10 tips for banishing pre-wedding stress.

    Banish tech

    If you’ve been busy with planning your wedding, take some time out for yourself and your fiancé. Put your phones out of sight, turn off the television and all other technology distractions. Put on some music, pour yourself a large glass of wine and enjoy some quiet time with your partner. Allowing yourself that time to switch off and relax will bring huge benefits to your life.

    And breathe

    This isn’t as boring as it may sound. Try this… Sit quietly and take a deep breath in for a count of four. Then exhale for a count of four. Repeat this exercise for two minutes and take notice of how it begins to make you feel. I recommend making breathing exercises a part of your daily routine to keep stress at bay.

    Don’t forget sexy time

    It’s something enjoyable and the release of endorphins when in the throes of passion will put a huge smile on your face. If you’re not really up for sex, try my first tip and see if that to set the scene for an explosive, stress busting bonk.

    Go for a jog

    The previous tip may have covered that slightly, but sexercise isn’t the only stress busting activity you can indulge in. Getting regular exercise is key in reducing stress levels. Even just a twenty-minute walk each day can help, but if you’re feeling more energetic, get out there and pound the streets or join a gym class. You could even put on some music and dance like nobody is watching, which is surely one of the most fun things to do. If you’re not up for much exercise, make it a social occasion and exercise while catching up with friends. Which leads me to my next tip…

    Go out with friends

    When planning a wedding, it can be too easy to fall out of the loop with those closest to you. So set aside some time and make an effort to catch up with family and friends. You could involve them in your wedding planning, but I suggest putting the planning to one side and having a proper catch up with people. It’s sure to be a boost to your mood and a massive stress reducer.

    Bubble bath

    Sit back and relax. You deserve it. You could even invite your fiancé to join you.

    Dear Diary…

    It’s a good way of documenting your life and important events, but it can also help you to make sense of your thoughts and feelings. If you can understand your thoughts and the stress you feel, you can begin to work through it and come out the other side.

    Sleep

    Making sure you get your eight hours of sleep each night will help you to feel energised for your wedding planning. It may be tempted to stay up until the early hours of the morning sorting things for your wedding, but that just results in you feeling awful the next day and not able to function properly. You must take care of yourself.

    Make a list

    Wedding planning is exactly that; a plan. Be sure to schedule your time wisely in order to make sure you have time for all of the other tips in this guide. Set yourself targets and deadlines, and only spend so many hours each day on the wedding planning. There are only so many hours in a day and you don’t need to spend them all planning your wedding.

    Don’t overload

    It’s ok to ask for help and to delegate certain tasks to other people. Yes, you’re fabulous and can take on the world if you put your mind to it, but organising a wedding takes a lot of time and effort. You’re not Superman and don’t need masses of stress at what is supposed to be the most amazing time of your life. Don’t be afraid to ask your support network for help.

  • Conservatives sign a deal with anti-LGBT DUP

    Theresa May’s Government has signed a deal with the anti-LGBT Democratic Unionist Party (DUP).

    An agreement between the two parties will mean that the DUP‘s 10 ministers will support the Conservative minority Government. However, the deal falls short of a formal coalition.

    The Conservatives failed to achieve an overall majority in the recent General Election, securing 318 seats. A party needs 326 seats in order to have a majority in the UK. A deal with the DUP could ensure an extra 10 votes.

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    The Conservatives have said it will find an extra £1.5 billion in funding for Northern Ireland as part of the agreement.

    Speaking about the partnership, the DUP’s leader, Arlene Foster said she was, “delighted that we have reached this agreement, which I think works, obviously, for national stability.”

    The DUP has a long history as an anti-gay party. Its founder, the Rev Ian Paisley spearheaded the Save Ulster from Sodomy in the 1970s, which was opposed to the decriminalisation of homosexuality in Northern Ireland, in fact, Northern Ireland was the last country within the UK to decriminalise homosexuality, which it did so in 1982. Paisley’s son, Ian Paisley Jr said that he was “repulsed” by homosexuality.

    More recently the struggle to achieve marriage equality was stalled for the LGBT+ community in Northern Ireland. The same-sex marriage bill has been voted upon four times in Northern Ireland. Each time equality for NI’s LGBT community has been frustrated by the DUP. It is the only part of the UK which does not provide same-sex marriage to its citizens.

    The DUP has said that it is not homophobic but holds traditional views when it comes to marriage.

    Taking to Twitter, the leader of the opposition, Jeremy Corbyn said that the deal was not done in the national interest, but in the interest of the PM and the Conservatives own “political survival”.

     

     

     

  • RIP | Drag Queen Vanilla Lush dies

    London-based Drag Queen Vanilla Lush has passed away.

    The singer, who had been battling cancer has passed away. Vanilla Lush, real name, Aalbert Martijn Smit was a former member of the drag super-band, the Supreme Fabulettes. The entertainer passed away last Thursday. He was 38.

    He was born and raised in the Netherlands and began his drag career in Amsterdam. In the summer of 1999, he moved to London and became a Powder Puff Girl in Heaven nightclub.

    Tributes from fans and friends have been pouring in on social media. Boy George took to Twitter to say, “Sad about the passing of Vanilla Lush ‘A trouper in high heels and a true character. R.I.P.”

    London pub, Admiral Duncan also paid tribute saying, “Very sad to hear the loss of Vanilla Lush Rest in Peace and sleep tight sweet angel xxx Tonight we raise our glass. Condolence to the family”

    https://twitter.com/admiral_duncan/status/878615277071675393

    Jason Reid, a columnist for QX magazine, took to Instagram to say, “Devastated to hear that Vanilla Lush (Aalbert Martijn Smit) has passed away.
    I’ll never forget the experience of shooting this cover with him. It was a huge deal for the both of us, and I was so incredibly apprehensive, yet he couldn’t have been more kind and caring. That was just his nature. A beautiful person.”.

    https://www.instagram.com/p/BVuTdM6AH_J/?taken-by=jasonreiduk

     

  • Molly Moggs is back

    After a short break, the popular drag bar, Molly Moggs is back…

    Molly Moggs has reopened

    The shutters are off and Molly Moggs is back – open and ready for business. The popular pub, one of the must go to bars in London has returned after it closed in March.

    Molly Moggs has broken the spate of the seemingly never-ending sad demise of London’s LGBT scene by reopening. The official reopening day was at the beginning of June and slowly the bar has rescheduled its ever-popular entertainment programme.

    Taking to the official Molly Mogg’s Facebook page the management wrote:

    “You have no idea how excited we are to get into Mollys and start getting ready for Monday!”

     

     

  • COMMENT | Why we should be ashamed of the intolerance and double standards of the left

    There’s much gnashing of teeth from leftists that the Conservatives are trying to hop into bed with the ‘homophobic’ DUP of Northern Ireland in order to prop up a crap minority Tory government.

    What short memories they have. Gordon Brown, the most recent Labour Prime Minister (the party has now lost three consecutive General Elections) tried and failed to strike up a deal with the socially conservative DUP during the last hung parliament of 2010. Were any leftists moaning about that at the time? The vitriol then was about Tory David Cameron entering No. 10. He brought us same-sex marriage. I married in 2015. Thank you, Dave.

    Predictably, social media provocateurs began to point out an inconsistency at play amongst the left and its relationship with socially conservative religious views. Journalist Brendan O’Neill wrote in a piece for The Spectator:

    “And all the while we have Labourites like Jeremy Corbyn mixing with Islamist groups that share all these same social views, except in an even more extreme form. Yet the people beating the streets over the DUP say nothing. What a double standard”.

    The point made is that the views of many British Muslims are socially conservative and what many would consider ‘homophobic’. It’s part of their religious tradition. Ditto the religiously-inspired views of the DUP. The left appears to find one socially acceptable but not the other. The left can rightly claim the DUP, as part of the establishment, has more political power and social influence within the UK than various Islamic groups such as the Muslim Brotherhood and the Muslim Council of Britain. But none of these groups is especially representative.

    In Northern Ireland, marriage equality, still not a reality, has overwhelming public support.

    The relationship between the hard left and hardline Islamists is not that difficult to explain. Far from being liberal, tolerant and peaceful, the supporters of the hard left, now emboldened by a Labour Party under the control of far-left extremists (who attract Communist followers who believe the wrong side lost the Cold War), have become utterly vicious towards anyone who doesn’t entirely fall into line with their ideology. Ditto the more extreme versions of Islam. Rather than focus on the DUP, we should find more concerning the British Government’s ties to Saudi Arabia, a country with a regressive regime and a Sunni majority that persecutes religious minorities, including minority Islamic sects such as the Ahmadiyya Muslims who campaign for peace and against extremism. This persecution led to UK shores, with the murder of much-loved shopkeeper Asad Shah by a Sunni extremist that shocked and appalled the nation.

    Neither the hard left nor hardline Islamist groups are all that keen on free speech. The left attempts to stifle the free press with campaigns like Stop Funding Hate, an attempt to prevent opinions they don’t like from being published. The first thing Communist countries always do is to bring the press under state control in order to police what other people think. In a similar fashion, an intolerant small minority on the fringes of Islam show a reluctance to allow any criticism of their faith; an intellectual right that ought to be taken for granted in a free society. This can be seen in, for example, the fatwa against Salman Rushdie for writing The Satanic Verses and the accompanying protests in the UK through to the protest in London organised by the Muslim Action Forum over Charlie Hebdo’s cartoons of Muhammad a month after the murder of Charlie Hebdo satirists.

    “Many of us in the gay community have been hoodwinked into thinking that the left is on our side and the right hates us; and some of us have even fallen for the idea that the political left is morally virtuous whilst the political right consists solely of bigots, racists and the intolerant. This is palpably untrue.”

    Many of us in the gay community have been hoodwinked into thinking that the left is on our side and the right hates us; and some of us have even fallen for the idea that the political left is morally virtuous whilst the political right consists solely of bigots, racists and the intolerant. This is palpably untrue. Let’s not forget that the Labour Party only last year mourned left-wing dictator Fidel Castro, who set up labour camps for his gay Cuban citizens. Jeremy Corbyn called Castro a “champion of social justice“. It’s hard to imagine many Cubans, least of all gay Cubans, agreeing with his sentiments. Cuban Gloria Estefan strongly disagreed.

    As a community, we should be more consistent in calling out political associations with homophobic regimes and ideologies both at home and abroad. There is an unhelpful tendency on the left to call out domestic homophobes, but generally only when they are white and Christian, and to turn a blind eye or fudge excuses for everything else. We should also strive to be better than illiberal far left. The ugly General Election brought up many statuses such as, “If you’re thinking of voting Tory, unfriend/unfollow me now,” on timelines. Such sentiments ought to send a shiver down the spine of someone who considers themselves “liberal”, because their views are actually those of the hard left. Anyone on the left should stop and think if they truly agree with Shadow Chancellor John McDonnell’s politics – a man who claims that the London Riots of 2010 represent “the best of our movement”.

    “We should not be unfriending or unfollowing people who have opinions we disagree with.”

    We should not be unfriending or unfollowing people who have opinions we disagree with. There are troubling moral issues with giving your vote to either Tories or Labour that must be faced with honesty. We should respect people’s rights to be free and make their own political choices, determined by their unique circumstances. Gay people come in all shapes, sizes, and political persuasions. Homophobia, alas, exists on every part of the political spectrum. Let’s at least be consistent and expect the same of our politicians, and rise above the intolerance and outrage culture the far left thrives in and perpetuates.

     

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  • Toronto Pride parade goes ahead without police in the parade

    Toronto Pride went ahead this weekend with the exception of one long-running supporter in the parade, the police force.

    Gay, lesbian, bisexual and trans police officers in Toronto did not take part in this year’s event after Black Lives Matter protestors disrupted last year’s parade and demanded that they be excluded from the parade along with other requests, which the organisers signed on the spot – without consultation.

    Black Lives Matter said it had launched its objection to hold Pride answerable for its “anti-blackness”.

    Instead of taking part in a parade which was on their home turf, 100 TPA officers and civilians marched in the New York City parade.

    The Pride organisers were keen to clarify that the force was not “banned” saying that LGBT officers were welcome to take part with “select conditions”. They were asked not to include “uniforms, weapons, and vehicles”.

    They said,

    “We welcome and encourage their participation to add to Pride this year as members of our community. LGBTQ+ police officers and their allies can march in the parade with community groups, with the City of Toronto, or even create their own group.

    “We are simply requesting that their participation not include the following elements: uniform, weapons, and vehicles.

    “The Toronto Police Service has been involved and supportive to us throughout our festival planning. They will provide all the necessary services to ensure that the festival weekend and parade are secure and successful.

    What Were The Black Lives Matter demands?

    • Continued space, including stage and tents, funding and logistical support for Black Queer Youth.
    • Self-determination for all community spaces at Pride, allowing community groups full control over hiring, content and structure of their stages.
    • Full and adquate funding for community stages, including logistical, technical and personnel support.
    • Doubling of funding for Blockorama to $13,000.
    • Reinstatement of the South Asian stage.
    • Prioritising of the hiring of Black transwomen, Indigenous people and others from vulnerable communities at Pride Toronto.
    • More Black deaf and hearing sign language interpreters for the festival.
    • Removal of police floats in the Pride marches and parades.
    • A town hall organised in conjunction with groups from marginalised communities, including but not limited to Black Lives Matter – Toronto, Blackness Yes and Black Queer Youth, in six months, where Pride Toronto will present an update and action plan on BLM-TO’s demands

    Black Lives Matter did not take part in this year’s parade saying they wanted to ensure their “presence is felt through the parade” through other organisations.

  • Katie Hopkins has a meltdown over Pride police cars

    Controversialist Katie Hopkins has slammed the Sussex police service for their colour Pride cars.

    Taking to Twitter wannabe gay icon Katie Hopkins has blasted the Sussex police service for spending £750 of taxpayer’s money on Pride decals for two of their vehicles for the upcoming Eastbourne and Hasting’s Pride.

    Tweeting to Inspector Mark Evans, Critical incident Inspector for Sussex Police, Katie suggested that the money would be better spent sorting out crime reporting issues.

    She said,

    “Mark – Shall we spend some cash sorting our crime-reporting issues? Nah mate, screw that crime nonsense. Let’s colour in a cop car.”

    https://twitter.com/KTHopkins/status/877930669355270144

    Outlining her point, she said, “It costs £750, Taxpayers [sic] cash”.

    The Tweet inciting a lot of commentators on Twitter, with some suggesting that it was a “disgrace” and baulked at the “lunacy of the modern PC PC!!”

    The force said,

    “Sussex Police play a large role in the policing of Pride.

    “We also feel it is important to promote LGBT equality within our local communities.”

  • COMMENT | They weren’t voting for a trans woman, they were voting for Sophie Cook

    As I stood on stage, a room full of expectant people looking up at me I was totally focused on the next words that I would hear.

    “Sophie Rose Cook, Labour Party, 20,882.”

    In the space of five short weeks, we’d achieved the seemingly impossible, taking a previously safe Tory seat and making it a marginal, increasing the Labour vote by 114% with one of the biggest swings in the country at 19.8 percent.

    At the start of the general election campaign, no one gave the Labour Party a chance, both nationally and here in East Worthing & Shoreham.

    The constituency had always been blue and the Tory incumbent, Tim Loughton, had been the MP for 20 years.

    He felt safe and secure that no one could ever challenge him, and I’m sure that the selection of a little-known transgender TV presenter as the Labour candidate only added to the feeling that he would increase his 15,000 majority.

    My selection caused a few waves, I was told that ‘this isn’t Brighton’ and that the people of the constituency wouldn’t warm to a transgender candidate.

    The press gave my campaign some coverage and despite being one of nine transgender candidates I was the one that got the most attention due to my profile from working in football and TV.

    “Labour candidate could become first transgender MP” said one headline whilst another mentioned the fight for LGBT rights, “Trans activist is fighting to oust anti-LGBT Conservative politician.”

    Being transgender and in the public eye, I was already used to abuse, both online and in the real world. I’d been trolled by various groups including receiving death threats on Twitter and as I stepped into the political arena I was bracing myself for a renewed onslaught of hatred.

    But then something unexpected happened.

    Instead of the abuse, I was greeted with love and support, sure there were still a few transphobic remarks online but nothing like I’d experienced previously.

    I’d heard first-hand accounts of trans people moving out of the constituency because of abuse and yet, when I started to talk to people, they responded with warmth and openness.

    My gender identity that had hit the headlines around the world seemed to mean nothing to the constituents that I met, it was never mentioned on the doorsteps, the street stalls or the hustings. The only people that made it an issue were the press, not the voters. They listened to the policies, my ideas, passion and belief and they embraced me.

    On June 8 nearly 21,000 of them chose to put their mark next to my name on the ballot paper.

    “They weren’t voting

    for a trans woman,

    they were voting

    for Sophie Cook”

    They weren’t voting for a trans woman, they were voting for Sophie Cook, they were voting for the Labour Party. They saw beyond the headlines and the things that made us different and in their way struck a massive blow for trans equality.

    We now have the most diverse parliament ever with 45 LGB MPs, I missed out on adding a T to that by 5000 votes. 

    We need transgender politicians, after all, everyone in society needs to feel represented. But the main reason why I believe that the time is right for a trans-MP has nothing to do with equality or diversity, it’s down to the constituents who put their faith in me to represent them, regardless of my gender identity.

    Since the election, I’ve spoken to hundreds of people who said that I’ve given them hope for the first time.

    That feeling goes both ways, they saw that there is more that unites us than separates us, they saw a person rather than a label, and they too gave me hope for a brighter tomorrow.