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  • How to have a successful gay orgy

    How to have a successful gay orgy

    When it comes to party planning, preparation is key… whether that party is a candlelit soiree or a full on f**kfest!

    Location Location Location

    Location is everything, so choose your orgy venue wisely. Usually, it will be at someone’s house or apartment, so make sure that your walls are thick enough not to annoy the neighbours with the groans of your guests (although you could use a gag… if that’s your thing).

    You don’t want to be halfway through your activities when your neighbours start hollering for you to STFU.

    Pick a playlist

    Music is key to setting the right atmos. Something with a good beat, around 120 bpm will keep the pace and the heart rate up. You kind of want it bland enough that it mixes into the background and doesn’t distract from what’s going on. I.e. don’t put Britney’s “Toxic” or Kylie’s “Your Disco Needs You” into the playlist, unless you suddenly want people to start doing routines.

    Also, make the playlist a few hours long. You don’t want the music stopping halfway through. That silence will really screw up the mood.

    Good mix of tops and bottoms

    You want to make sure there’s a good mix of tops, bottoms and vers guys. You don’t want there to be too many tops – the bottoms will get tired of the pounding if there are 10 guys waiting in line.

    It may well be many a bottom’s fantasy to have guys lining around the corner ready to take their turn, but fantasy and reality are two very different mistresses.

    Too many bottoms and you’ll have bored top lads waiting for the fun to come to them. A good mix could be one strict top and a vers guy to every strict bottom. That should keep things flowing nicely.

    If you’re planning to bottom at an orgy, you might want to consider how you’re gonna clean out properly. Check out our advice on douching.

    Let everyone know what everyone else is into

    It’s good to have a group huddle before things get started in order to lay down some ground rules, to let everyone know what people are up for – whose bottoming, topping and who’s up for anything.

    You could use a sharpie or felt tip to let guys know which position they are taking. For instance, you could use a ↑ mark for tops and ⚬ mark for bottoms and ⇿ for vers guys.

    It might also be a good time to sort out a safe word – that everyone knows and can adhere to.

    Create a group chat the day before

    If you know everyone’s number you could add them all to a WhatsApp group or on Grindr there’s the ability to create a private group chat. Get everyone joined up and let the conversations flow. Guys can share what they’re looking for and share pictures. A great way to get the horniess levels rising.

    Leave history at the door

    It best to try and find guys who have no history with each other or malice towards each other. Getting two exes in the same room is going to really kill the mood, especially if there are unresolved issues.

    So try and find guys who don’t know each other.

    Tests

    Test and test again. Before you have some group play everyone ideally should get their sexual health in order. That way you can all relax a little more without the worry of passing on infections to each other. You can currently get a free HIV test from the charity, Saving Lives if you use the promo code GAYUK20 Just click here to order your HIV Self Test Kit today.

    Be PrePared

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    Condoms are sometimes the default, but more and more guys are getting into PrEP because they are interested in bareback or breeding. If you’re not on PrEP yet, ask your sexual health practitioner for more details about whether its right for you.

    Lube and then so more lube

    Can’t be stressed how important lube is, especially if you’re going to be taking the D from a number of guys or if the orgy lasts for hours. Silicone-based lube tends to last longer, but if you’re wanting something ultra long-lasting you might wanna try out a fisting lube or evening a numbing lube.

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  • Yes, you can still access sexual health services during the lockdown

    Yes, you can still access sexual health services during the lockdown

    It’s important that you look after yourself, even your sexual health during the Coronavirus lockdown.

    Although it may seem that many health services might be running at a reduced capacity or you’re unable to physically attend NHS services, but this sexual health doctor wants you to know that you can still get sexual health advice and, if necessary, access medications and testing if you need them.

    The NHS is still open

    You can still get sexual health checks during covid 19 lockdown
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    Doctor Naomi Sutton took to Twitter to remind followers that the NHS sexual services are still available and that you should phone your usual sexual health clinic and access the current phone consulting services being offered.

    She wrote,

    “The #NHS is still open! Please seek medical advice if you need it.

    “Sexual health services are operating phone consultations, posting contraception, screening tests and medication when needed and seeing patients face to face where necessary”

    https://twitter.com/DrNaomiSutton/status/1255483728366796801

    You can also order sexual health testing online. The charity, Saving Lives are posting out HIV kits.

    At Home Testing is available

    It is recommended that sexually active people, who have a number of different sexual partners should go for an STI test at their local Sexual Health clinic every 3 to 6 months, or order a FREE at-home HIV test kit from Saving Lives if you use the promo code: GAYUK20.

  • GAY HISTORY | Remember the opening of the Crew Gay Bar in London

    GAY HISTORY | Remember the opening of the Crew Gay Bar in London

    After being served one too many warm beers at a rival, Crews was born. “Chris” takes us down memory lane.

    CREWS: 1990-1998 St Martins Lane, next to Stringfellows

    Crews came about after I was served yet another warm beer at the Brief Encounter and the manager asked me what I would do, lose him his job?

    I said “no”, far worse. 

    From the outside, you could not see the 3000 sq ft inside and the plan was just to be the biggest gay bar in London, not nightclub.

    The agents were only interested in it being let as a restaurant until I told them that my cousin was, a renowned architect, and they thought we would spend a fortune on it. However, our plan was to be cheap and cheerful, cruising and carefree so dark blue paint and murals of sailors went up on the walls.

    After a hiccup with early management, the bar became the first to introduce straight forward pricing of £2.50 a pint, the reason being that there was no time to give change, such was the demand.

    In addition, free nuts and crisps were offered. Two GoGo dancers would give performances on the bar. Crews became the busiest gay bar in London and was responsible for dragging the gay scene from Earls Court to the West End. 

    The year Crews opened saw the Edge, CXR, Admiral Duncan, G-A-Y Bar and The Village really take off.

    Have you got memories of a venue from the past which has now closed? Check out our list of venues at our Lost LGBT Scene Project.

  • Former porn star Logan McCree teams up with BBC for I’m A Men’s Rights Activist

    Former porn star Logan McCree teams up with BBC for I’m A Men’s Rights Activist

    Logan McCree, (Philipp Tanzer), a former gay porn star has made a short documentary which is currently available to watch on the BBC iPlayer.

    The documentary, which is currently available via the BBC iPlayer is entitled I Am A Men’s Rights Activist sees BBC journalist Alvaro Alvarez follow the German-born Tanzer as he travels from Scotland, where he now resides to Chicago, USA for a Men’s Rights Conference.

    I Am A Men’s Rights Activist Reviewed

    However clocking in at only 24 mins the documentary barely scratches the surface of what Tanzer claims he is trying to uncover or really explore any of the subjects that he mentions at the start of the programme, like male circumcision, domestic abuse against men, society’s expectations of men and paternity rights for fathers going through a divorce.

    What’s left is a paper-thin outline of a documentary, with barely any contributors or stories for the audience to feel anything for the subjects raised.

    The show lacks stats and fails to find any significant experts, aside from a divorce lawyer and an Open University research associate to talk about some of the issues raised.

    What’s for sure is 24 minutes really isn’t long enough to explore this subject.

  • Is it common for younger gay guys to hook up with older guys?

    Is it common for younger gay guys to hook up with older guys?

    What’s the oldest age gap you’ve had between you and another sexual partner. A couple of years? 10 years? 20 years?

    Some of the most enduring celebrity same-sex relationships have many years between them, like Tom Daley and Dustin Lance-Black (20 years) or Sir Elton and David Furnish (15 years)

    However, one 20-year-old guy on Reddit, got to wondering why it was bothering him that so many guys around his age had slept with guys 10 years older than them.

    He wrote, “Something that’s struck me as odd is that a lot of them have been with guys that are like 10 years older than us. Even a few 18-year-olds seem to have had intercourse with thirty-something-year-olds and are more sexually experienced than me

    “I’m not sure why this upsets me, but I’m curious to know if you guys think that hooking up with older guys like this is really common. Also what does this say about the young guy? What does this say about the older guy?”

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    Do age gaps really matter in relationships?
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    Here’s what some of the commenters had to say.

    You okay hun?

    I’m more curious about why it matters to you [via]

    Really very common

    This is extremely common. Lots of younger guys are into Daddies. I’m 39 and if I’m on Grindr or whatnot I get hit up by lots of guys in their late teens and early twenties (more so than guys in their late twenties and their 30s hit me). [via]

    They’re charming

    Daddy is really charming to me [via]

    What you’re into

    It’s what you’re into I guess… I mean I’m the same age as you and I almost exclusively go for guys older than me because I absolutely love daddies and the age difference turns me on but also there aren’t many guys my age who are out in my area so I’m kinda forced to go for older guys. [via]

    Going with the flow

    As someone who has been with multiple older guys, it’s just preference. Some days, I want a guy in his 20’s like me. Some days I want a guy in his mid 30’s. Sometimes I want a silver fox in his late 50’s or 60’s. [via]

    So do age gaps really matter as long as everyone’s consenting and of legal age? Use the comments below to let us know what you think

  • This drag queen is doing Donald Trump’s “Word of The Day” and it’s TREMENDOUS

    This drag queen is doing Donald Trump’s “Word of The Day” and it’s TREMENDOUS

    Instagram DQ Phoenix has taken to imitating America’s 45th on her Instagram with hilarious outcomes.

    Taking a word (or two) a day, Phoenix is slowly creating a sort of dictionary of Donald Trump terms, helping people to understand the overused words the President says on a daily basis.

    So far we’ve seen descriptions of “Tremendous”, “Chicken”, “Impeach”, “Melania” and of course, “Trump”.

    Today’s word of the day, saw Phoenix explain what “Trump” means.

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    The videos, which the drag queen has titled “Today’s Trump Word of the Day”, are keeping fans across the globe amused, especially when explaining how to say the words – like ‘Tremendous’, which she explains must be said like “your lips are on fire”.

    For Melania, the President’s wife, Phoenix explains “You may think it’s a viral disease from China, but it’s not. It’s my wife, so one might say, ‘Melania, get back in the plane’

    For “Impeach”, Phoenix explains, “It’s a new one for me… no, it’s not the colour of my skin or a peach in something. It’s something they do to try and get rid of a fantastic and amazing, terrific president.

    And our favourite “Tremendous”, which the real President Trump happens to say repeatedly, Phoenix explains, “you say it like your lip are on fire… you can use it with anything… If there’s a fire it’s a tremendous fire – hunger – tremendous hunger, Trump? Tremendous.

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    You can watch all her videos at https://www.instagram.com/phoenix_stewart/

  • Here Netflix’s secret codes for all gay and LGBT+ content

    Here Netflix’s secret codes for all gay and LGBT+ content

    Does it ever feel like you actually run out of stuff to watch on Netflix?

    Trouble is, Netflix can feel like a bit of an iceberg, only a fraction of the available content is easy to find right there on the front page. The rest, the hidden 90 per cent, can feel like a taunting and neverending task of endless searching.

    Strangely enough using Netflix.com can be easier to find the content you’re looking for, rather than Fire TV or the dreaded Apple TV.

    Weirdly depending on what device you’re using, searching Netflix for that next great find can either simple or an hours worth of wasted time. We’ve used a number of devices ranging from the simplest (iPad) to the mediocre (Fire TV) to the downright unstable (Apple TV gen 2) .

    For the record, using Netflix’s website to find content is always much easier. So you might want log in there first using your laptop or iPad find something that looks good then go back to your browsing device and use the search to manually type in the title.

    Luckily Netflix has tagged all of its content quite well and we’re happy to report that gay content has been divided into sub-genres to help you get the exact kind of content you’re in the mood for.

    Don’t spend hours and hours blindly searching. Use these links to find exactly what you’re looking for.

    Whether you’re looking for a great LGBT documentary, like The Death and Life of Marsha P. Johnson or a gay love movie, like Alex Strangelove Netflix does have you covered.

    So what are these secret links? Well, all gay films can be found on genre link 5977, while TV shows can be found on link 65263. If you were looking for a foreign language LGBT+ film you’d be able to find the full list of content on link 8243.

    Here’s all the links to get you to exactly what you’re looking for

    Gay & Lesbian Movies (5977)

    Gay & Lesbian Comedies (7120)

    Gay & Lesbian Dramas (500)

    Romantic Gay & Lesbian Movies (3329)

    Foreign Gay & Lesbian Movies (8243)

    Gay & Lesbian Documentaries (4720)

    Gay & Lesbian TV Shows (65263)

    There you have it…

  • The UK’s biggest Pride flag used to celebrate the UK’s key workers

    The UK’s biggest Pride flag used to celebrate the UK’s key workers

    The iconic rainbow flag has become the symbol of hope once again, this time it’s in the battle against coronavirus.

    One Pride team from Cornwall Pride have found a way to utilize their very own rainbow flag, the biggest in the UK in an amazing tribute to all key workers in the UK.

    Ensuring social distancing, the team from Cornwall Pride including artist, Pat Fete, used Cornwall’s biggest canvas, Towan Beach, and the UK’s biggest pride flag, to write a special message to all key workers across the UK.

    Matthew Kenworthy Gomes, from Cornwall Pride, told THEGAYUK, “It is our way to show support from Cornwall Pride as we have an amazing rainbow flag and its one of the largest in the UK. So sharing it right now, saying “thank you” as a community rainbow is the most important thing we can do. To bring people together with an image of hope and love.

    “With support from Team Newquay and the local Police Diversity Team to share it in solidarity with NHS and all key workers. Again to truly say a HUGE thank you to everyone for everything’.

    Perfect way to say ‘thank you’

    Jon Goodman, from Team Newquay, said, “This is a perfect way for Newquay to say “Thank You” ….a rainbow on a beach!

    “I was asked to help put it together and this is something you just can’t say no too, my daughter is a keyworker and I have friends that are carers and work in the NHS, I and all are full of pride for them all.”

    The whole project took a little over 2 hours and four people all following social distancing and washing hands when changing equipment. Two for the flag, one artist, one photographer.

  • Man jailed after drugging, sexually assaulting and stealing from another man

    Man jailed after drugging, sexually assaulting and stealing from another man

    A man is facing over eight years of jail time after pleading guilty to drugging, sexually assaulting and stealing from another man in London.

    Romanian national, Carol Simon, 46, has been jailed for 8 months and 5 months after being pleading guilty to sexual assault, administering a substance with intent to overpower to allow sexual activity, possession of class C drugs and theft following an incident in Marble Arch.

    On 24 March 2019, Simon was loitering outside The City of Quebec pub on Old Quebec Street in Westminster, London when he approached the victim and asked to share a taxi home. 

    The man, in his 50s, accepted and once they arrived at the victim’s home, Simon invited himself in for a drink where he then administered the drug, sexually assaulted the victim and stole his wallet, watch and phone.

    The victim reported the incident to police who began an investigation. Detectives were able to trace Simon as the suspect through a DNA match. 

    He was arrested on 4 April 2019 at the same venue where he targeted the victim. On arrest, officers found a small bottle with liquid inside that Simon claimed were eye drops. However, the substance was tested and was in fact Diazepam.

    According to the Met, Simon was charged the following day.

    Detective Constable Sophie McLoughlin led the investigation. She said, “The victim has been incredibly brave throughout this ordeal and it is because of his courage that Simon is behind bars where he belongs.

    “Simon had clearly set out that night to harm someone for his cowardly gain, his actions were completely evil and he will never know the trauma he has caused.

    “We encourage anyone who has been a victim of sexual assault to come forward and speak to us, we will support you.”

  • Gay marriage linked to COVID-19, according to religious leader, Pat Robertson

    Gay marriage linked to COVID-19, according to religious leader, Pat Robertson

    Pat Robertson has doubled down on his anti-gay teachings by linking the current coronavirus pandemic with gay marriage and abortion.

    When asked whether the world could ever be forgiven for its “sins” like abortion and gay marriage Robertson was keen to stress that we won’t be forgiven because mankind has broken its covenant with God. Actually we’ve apparently “violated his covenant”.

    Because… of course he did.

    Using his TV platform, “The 700 Club” Pat was joined by his co-host, Terry Meeuwsen who read out a viewer’s question: “Pat, last week you were talking about COVID-19. You quoted Chronicles 7:14. How can God heal our land and forgive the sins when abortion and same-sex marriage are laws and many people are anti-Israel. Doesn’t this prevent his healing and forgiveness?”

    To which Robertson replied,

    “You know, I think you put your finger on something very important. You know the Bible says — they turn from their wicked ways. They didn’t get forgiven. They will turn from their wicked ways. And part of what we’ve done is turn.

    “We are not turning when we have done terrible things. We have broken the covenant that God made with mankind.

    “We have violated his covenant. We have taken the life of the innocent, slaughtered them by the tens of millions. Children made in the image of God. And we have abused the poor.

    I mean, we’ve allowed this terrible plague to spread throughout our society. And it’s a small wonder God would hold us guilty. But the answer is, you know, you confess your sins and forsake them. Then he heals the land. It’s not before. You are right”.

    In 2013 Robertson was nominated as Bigot Of The Year by the LGBT+ charity Stonewall.

    H/t Media Matters

  • Cornwall Pride organisers baked nekkid for charity

    Cornwall Pride organisers baked nekkid for charity

    Husbands Matthew and Nathaniel Kenworthy-Gomes went nude (almost) on a marathon baking session on Facebook live yesterday night to raise money for Cornwall Hospice Care.

    The hunky duo, who are usually behind the scenes preparing to stage Cornwall’s only Pride, garnered thousands of viewers and hundreds of comments and likes from friends and fans who cheered the couple on as they attempted to cook the perfect cake.

    The plan was to go completely nude, but anyone who knows about Facebook’s nudity policy will know the pair would have been knocked off the platform very quickly if they had actually bared butt.

    However there was still plenty on show for thirsty fans of the couple.

    Matthew and Nathaniel, who run Cornwall Pride are trying to raise £1000 for the Cornwall Hospice Care (click here to donate) and currently have raised nearly a third of their target.

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    The husbands swigged multiple glasses of red and white wine during the epic three-hour session and were even joined by Matthew’s mum, who chinked glasses with the pair.

    The hilarious antics are available to catch up with on Facebook. Take a look and get donating, if you can!

    Watch the video here: