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What does it mean if someone is “sliding into DMs” and is it a welcome thing?

Maybe it’s a phrase you’ve seen creeping up from time to time and you’re wondering what it means, well simply put, it’s when a guy (or gal – or neither, gender doesn’t have to be binary) sends you a direct message that’s the DM part. It’s usually via social media rather than a WhatsApp or Text message, or even on a dating app.

Sending messages via Twitter, Instagram, Snap or via dating app messaging can let people you don’t know personally send private messages to you, without having to know your digits.

The key to sliding into anyone’s DMs is that it’s unexpected and hopefully wanted. Sliding into someone’s DMs when its not wanted is super stalkery and should be avoided at all costs.

Or sliding into someone’s DMS after you’ve ghosted them along time ago is really uncool, in fact it makes you a Zombie.

So why is “sliding into DMs” a thing?

Well, for one thing, it’s an opportunity for someone to get in contact with a person they like the look of without having to meet them in person or have their private info.

The “sliding” part also denotes a certain kind of confidence, which for many people is a real turn on.

But you only really have a limited time for your DM to make its mark, so if you’re planning on sliding into DMs don’t waste it by simply writing “hey” be creative.

Sexpert Jack Devon told us, “Sliding into anyone’s DMs is always a risk… it may be unwanted but it also may be entirely welcomed. The trick is to read the situation, which again can be super tricky in an online scenario. However, if your DM is answered, plot out the journey of the conversation, if the goal is to eventually meet with the person, make sure you’re both compatible up front by asking lots of thoughtful questions – without appearing to be a stalker. If you do meet up make sure you check out these safety tips“.

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To the edge and stop.

Think about sex or a wank as water rafting down a river where at the end is a waterfall. In this scenario, climaxing (ejaculation) is the waterfall. Edging would be taking your raft right to the fall’s edge and stopping just before the spill, waiting a moment (maybe pulling back the raft another 100 metres) and starting up all over again.

Lots of guys know that once they’ve cummed, post-nut clarity sets in and we can feel, well a little less sexy than we did in the previous moment and cumming too quickly can spoil the fun… so learning to edge is a way of extending your playtime, while still getting amazing sensations.

It’s a fine art and some guys are totally into it – and can make a sex or a wank session last for hours. And they say that the final “spill” is pretty epic.

Practising edging can actually help guys to are prone to PE (premature ejaculation) to control their climax and potentially make them last longer.

It’s about taking yourself, or another guy, if you’re edging him right up to sexual ecstasy and the hitting the reset button so that you can go all over again.

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If you’re edging someone else, communication is key, but subtle signs from your partner’s body will tell you when he’s close to cumming (his balls might start to contract up towards his body, or his breathing might become more shallow for instance). Read those signs and ease off… Start all over again after a moment.

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What does it mean if someone has DL written in their dating profile?

Well, DL stands for “down-low” essentially meaning discreet. Usually, the guy with DL written on his profile probably won’t have a picture on his profile either and his profile may contain limited information about what he’s into, where he is or any other identifiable information.

There may be a number of reasons why someone is on the down-low or describes themselves as discreet and you shouldn’t always jump to conclusions about their reasons.

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They might not be out to family and friends, they may even identify as straight but like sex with guys, he may be married or have a partner, or they may even have a job which might require them to have discretion on who sees or has access to their profiles, like, for instance, a school teacher who wouldn’t want their students to see their dating profile.

If you’re interested in why someone is discreet, then you can always ask, it could be a good conversation starter.

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