So, it’s no secret that many gay guys in relationships are also in open relationships or semi-open relationships and many of them use dating apps, such as Grindr to introduce a third/fourth/fifth into their love lives.
Category: Love And Sex
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This studio just made a film about the importance of testosterone in the most explanatory way
Yep, doofing that’s the word we’re going with today.
So how do you like your gay porn with a bit of education on the side? Well, it’s Himeros.TV mission to make gay sex better for us all by filming and releasing clips which are, let’s say a little more thought-provoking.
In the latest vid, the studio, explains how important testosterone is, as it’s the male sex hormone.
It says, “It is made in a man’s testicles and adrenal glands. During puberty, testosterone plays a very important role in creating physical changes like increased muscle mass, deeper voice, hair growth, frequent erections and semen production. Having optimal testosterone levels is also important throughout a man’s adulthood and even into old age.”
The studio added, that as we age, we tend to lose some of our levels, which can lead to a loss of “libido and muscle mass, as well as lower energy levels”. So how do we counteract that drop?
“Diets rich in specific foods can greatly enhance a man’s testosterone levels, AND libido.
“Some of these foods include leafy green vegetables, fatty fish, ginger, pomegranate, nonfat milk, egg yolks, olive oil, beef, beans and almonds. Some foods that are known to improve sex drive as aphrodisiacs include dark chocolate, avocado, green tea, walnuts, watermelon, olive oil, oysters, salmon and bananas”.
To drive the message home, Himeros’s new scene, which stars Pierce Paris and Wes Myer shows Pierce making Wes a high-testosterone meal and then “reap the benefits of their throbbing libidos”.
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Is it normal for bottoms to lose their erections during sex?
Did you know, it’s not that uncommon for guys to lose their boners while they’re bottoming? It could be the horniest thing in the world, but sometimes with all the will in the world, a hard dick can be as elusive as a coherent Donald Trump press conference.
A cock that won’t play along can cause frustration both for the bottom and top. For the guy being penetrated a flaccid peen can be a cause for concern, for the top – there’s always the worry that their partner isn’t having a good time.
Rest assured, a flaccid penis while being fucked is that not uncommon for the bottom, and tops – it doesn’t necessarily mean your partner is having a bad time.
So why does it happen?
Photo by Andreea Ch on Pexels.com So why do some bottoms lose their erection during sex?
Well, no one quite knows and it might not be a one answer fits all scenario. Some guys lose their erections because of alcohol, chems or even sniffing poppers. Some can lose it because they’re concentrating on other things, like relaxing or tensing – depending on what’s happening down there, some may lose their erections because of medical issues, like prostate cancer recovery, or certain types of doctor-prescribed medications.
The key is not to freak out about it.
Keep an eye on the situation and get to know your body and how it reacts.
However, if you think your erection issues might be caused by something else, it’s always worth reaching out and having a chat with your doctor.
Remember not every sexual encounter has to have a solid hard erection in order for it to be a successful sexual encounter. Nor does it have to end with everyone climaxing.
If you’re having fun and both having a good time and there’s no pain (outside of the normal feelings of anal sex) then crack on.
Want to know some tricks on how to reduce discomfort while being fucked? Click here.
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Is there a safer way to bone during the COVID-era?
We all know about condoms, right? Well, what counts as safer sex in the COVID pandemic?
With hundreds of new confirmed cases of COVID-19 still being diagnosed in the UK, it’s not advised to have sex with anyone, but, you know it’s still going to happen, so how can you reduce your risk of infection, if you decide to hook up with someone?
Well, it’s pretty simple in reality. Wearing a face mask and not kissing, are just two things you can do, which will eliminate some of the risks, and just sex is thought to be safer than kissing. But, please don’t mistake, you are still at risk.
Two ways of reducing your COVID-19 risk
Matthew Hodson, the Executive Director of AIDSMAP, recently tweeted this advice, “Ways to reduce risk of getting #COVID19 during sex include: Wear a mask. Have sex by yourself.
Meanwhile, in the US, Doctor Demetre Daskalakis said that having sex in a mask was a “great strategy” in reducing the risk of passing on the Coronavirus. He also suggested that you could also try creating physical barriers which prevent face to face interaction but still allows sexual contact.
So, gloryholes it is people!
Speaking on 60 Minutes Doctor Demetre said, “the most efficient mechanism for transmitting COVID-19 is through droplets. So, if you’re going to pant and have heavy breathing, throw on a mask. It’s called ‘source control’.
“We’re still not going to give you a big green light for kissing. I wish I could. That’s probably a higher risk of exposure than sex.”
Is COVID-19 sexual transmitted?
There is some data that shows that coronavirus is present in semen, and earlier on in the pandemic, it was thought that it could also be transmitted through rimming. However, more research needs to take place.
It’s not been found in vaginal secretions or fluids.
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DILEMMA | Piles ruined my wedding night… What can I do?
Dear Uncle,
I’m a newly married man. I’m suffering from piles. Can I have sex with piles? If yes how many times in a week I can have sex with piles?
Concerned, 33
Dear Concerned, 33
Yikes, that’s a lot of butt sex questions. Piles are a pain in the ass, quite literally and I would recommend if you’re in pain or bleeding from your butt not having penetrative sex until they’ve all healed up. This doesn’t mean that you have to forgo sex altogether. There are a few ways to simulate anal sex for your partner, read about them here – and let’s not forget our friends the BJ and the humble handjob.
We asked Public Health Practitioner Jose Perez de la Cruz, BPubHtlth his thoughts on whether it’s safe to have sex whilst you have haemorrhoids and he told us,
“Anal sex has the potential to inflame pre-existing haemorrhoids (piles), though research shows that it does not cause them in the first place. So long as the piles are not actively bleeding or painful at the time on intercourse then it is probably safe to have sex.
“If they are bleeding or there is inflammation though, this means that the natural protective barrier formed by the skin and mucous membranes is not at its optimum which if exposed to an STI can make transmission more likely.
“I would recommend using Preparation H or Germoloids (all available on Amazon) to help control pain and inflammation and to reduce swelling.
Embed from Getty ImagesSo, get yourself a good haemorrhoids cream and go to town on those bad boys, when they’ve healed up or disappeared from view then you can start reintroducing anal sex back into your life – but go slow and use lots and lots of lube. If you get a sharp painful feeling or see blood, stop.
If the piles don’t go away after a couple of weeks, book an appointment with your doctor to see what they maybe able to do to help.
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This guy says he finds it hard to top, asks internet for inspo
One guy recently admitted on Reddit, that he liked the idea of topping but after his first attempt during a hook up his dick wasn’t playing ball and it just wouldn’t “stay in his ass”.
He said that it wasn’t an enjoyable experience for him or his hook up, so he turned to the Internet on advice on how to stay hard during sex.
The mood passed?
User inlarry said that during a hook up a lot of guys “psyched themselves out” before an encounter, only to find that mood has passed. Suggesting that the issue is probably 90 per cent more mental than physical.
Erection Dysfunction
Then there was the suggestion about ED (erectile dysfunction) by whatthefuckpare, who added, “Some people maintain an erection for jacking off just fine but have mental barriers against being able to penetrate well”.
There is loads of information about ED here. If you’re very concerned you should book an appointment with your doctor.
And ED can affect any penis at any age.
User jjaekkak said, “Common misconception and unnecessary stigma! No shame in the game. Some people need glasses. Some people have ADD. Some people’s erections need some help. None of it makes anyone any less human/worthy/sexy.”
Cockrings?
Of course, there are some devices that can help you stay erect, once you’ve managed to get it up. A cockring is one such tool. It works by slowing down the rate at which the blood leaves the penis – while still allowing blood to flood into your member – meaning that you’ll most likely stay hard and larger for longer. Check out the cockring pictured above here.
Attraction
What if the person you’ve hooked up with doesn’t do it for you in the flesh? The trouble with apps like Grindr is that you can fall for the guy in a picture rather than his reality – and that’s okay. Attraction is a totally subjective thing.
Make a polite excuse or be totally honest (still polite) and leave.
It’s hard being at the top
Especially the first time you top. There’s a lot of stress and performance anxiety for top and a lot of that comes from the porn we consume. Porn’s tops tend to be large, vigorous and have the stamina of a mountain goat. Most guys just aren’t that way. So try not to compare. Be in the moment.
Maybe an issue with your condom size.
One guy suggested trying a larger size condom. He found that he was losing his erection and when he spoke to a health care professional about it, they suggested trying a larger sized condom, “Game changer regular sized condoms were cutting the blood supply from my above regular dick! Also the best day of my life… Try the big condoms … Validation!”
Maybe you’re a side
Maybe, just maybe, you’re not into anal. There are guys who much prefer to do everything else but the butt stuff – many call themselves, “sides“.
Change positions
CREDIT: © dnf style| Depositphotos Some positions work, some don’t. Try out different positions and see which one works for you.
Sobering Up
Another erection killer is drugs and alcohol. Brewer droop is a thing. Also, it’s worth noting it’s not just non-prescription drugs that can affect your ability to perform, prescribed meds can also have an effect. Speaking to THEGAYUK, Dr Nitin Shori said, “It’s important that you treat your depression and tackle the underlying factors that might be causing it.
“If you speak to your GP they may be able to change your medication to one that has less of an effect on your libido or consider whether your depression itself is the cause”.
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These gay sex and lifestyle shops have reopened in England
Following advice from the government, numerous gay shops have reopened their doors, following on from the COVID-19 lockdown that has forced the majority of the UK’s “non-essential” retail shops to close.
Stores in Scotland will remain closed for the foreseeable future as Scotland’s government have yet to announce a date for lockdown easement. Stores in Wales and Northern Ireland could start to reopen from Friday.
Prowler which has five stores across England tweeted that its stores in Soho, Bournemouth, Bristol and Brighton had all reopened.
Clonezone also tweeted that it had reopened all four of its branches including the flagship store on Old Compton Street, in Soho and showed how their shop layout had changed to become COVID Secure.
It also warned that only seven customers would be allowed into the store at anyone time.
Fetch also in London tweeted that it had opened its doors and asked its customers to remember to sanitise their hands on the way into the store.
Stores in Scotland, Wales and Northern Ireland remain under lockdown until their respective governments start to loosen restrictions.
Are gay Saunas and Bars opened?
The rest of the LGBT+ scene remains shuttered until at least the 4th of July in England. Gay bars, saunas and hotels will have to remain close until lockdown restrictions are eased.
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Guys get real about why they love their Pup / Handler relationship
You might have seen people at Pride who wear dog masks and wondered what it was about. Well, these guys share what they love about puppy play.
So what are puppies and handlers?
According to the MyUmbrella charity, the Puppy / Handler identify falls under the Fetish / Political umbrella. They say, “In puppy play, or dog play, one of the participants acts out canine mannerisms and behaviours, which is sometimes associated with leather culture”.
UPDATE: It should be noted that pups and their handlers span all sexualities and genders.
One user of Reddit asked the AskGayMen subreddit, what the appeal of Pup play and here are some of the best responses.
First off, Bufferrodentfl0 made three points. The first was that pup/handler play was all about headspace and escapism. They wrote,
“A lot of pups use the time spent as a “pup” as a form of escapism. Its time where they don’t have to think about responsibilities and where they can just focus on being in scene.”
Secondly they wrote that the appeal could be about Primal Sexual Urges, adding,
“Roleplaying as a pup isn’t always necessarily being submissive, and that its more about finding the idea of primal sexual urges attractive, since to a canine, sex is just sex, its just a a biological component”
Community
FILE PHOTO of Pups at BourneFree Pride (C) MONTY MCKINNEN The final point made was the community aspect of the puppy world. There is a huge community of pups and handlers all over the world. They even have their own flag, websites and pride events.
Attention
kinkygayturtle added that the short answer to why he loved puppy play was all about the “Cuddles, Attention and Playing”. He added,
“I just get snuggled and pet and praised and called cute for doing absolutely nothing!
“I balance a ball on my nose and get given lots of treats!
“The handlers around me all cuddle me and give me head scratches!”
Calming
SchwerelosKTZ added that Puppy play offered “more of an escape” and that play was “calming”
He wrote,
” I can let go of my stress and just play, nap, do dumb dog stuff. In that way, it’s not always sexual, and I’m not always commanded to enter it. Sometimes, much like many people do with little-space, I slip into it here and there when I’m stressed or anxious. It’s calming.”
Loving yourself?
nixxxxxxx suggested that for many it could be about therapy and growth, writing
“You have to shed stress/distractions and look inside to see what’s holding you back from loving yourself. It’s all about reaching this moment of acceptance and joy that’s really quite beautiful.
“It’s like faking it til you make it, because you take that emotional momentum back with you into human life.”
Sex?
It seems that while there may be a sexual element to the puppy/handler relationship it isn’t necessarily the engine that drives the community. Bufferrodentfl0 added,
“it’s not just about sex (in fact for some it’s not about sex at all), it’s about the animalistic headspace”.
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What is Docking and how do you do it?
Docking or cock-docking as it is sometimes known is a great way of changing up your gay sex life – and best of all, it is totally gay! None of that heteronormative stuff – nope, you definitely need two cocks for docking.
In order to take part in docking one of the cock owners will need a foreskin – because essentially they will be placing their foreskin over the head of their partner’s cock head.
Or to put it another way, one guy puts the head of his dick into the other guy’s foreskin.
And voila. That’s it. That’s docking.
One of you will probably also need a foreskin that has a bit of stretch to it to achieve a full dock, although you can experiment with different types of erections. Some may find it easier to dock if they are semi-erect.
Can you dock without a foreskin?
Well, actually there is a way you can try docking if neither guy has a foreskin, but you will need some assistance from a masturbator, like the Linx Glacier Dual End Stroker Male Masturbator.
It is open-ended which means you can both put your dicks into the stroker and get a new and exciting sensation.
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9 foods you shouldn’t eat if you’re planning to bottom tonight
A lot of people think that if you’re planning to bottom for a guy that you’ll only be able to eat ice cubes on your date, but that really isn’t true. It actually takes hours or even days for the food you eat to turn to poop and for it to be ready to leave your body.
So, rather than worry about the food you’re eating that night, it might be worth looking at the foods to avoid in the morning or even the night before a big session.
Of course, if you’re very concerned about debris in your system or you’re a complete, white-glove bottom then douching is pretty much your best option for making sure no accidents happen during anal sex.
Here are a few of the biggest bottom no-nos!
1. Hummus.
CREDIT: Pixabay Sorry guys but unless you wanna be farting all night it’s best to stay clear from the Chickpea favourite. Nothing kills the moment than a back end blow out!
2. Chickpeas.
CREDT: Pixabay In fact stay clear from these all together. Chickpeas – the main ingredient in Hummus is the culprit.
3. Beans.
CREDIT: Pixabay You know the rhyme – Beans beans good for your heart the more you eat the more you fart…
4. Fizzy drinks.
CREDIT: Pixabay Carbonated drinks will blow up your intestine like a balloon . So if you’re out drinking it’s best to stay clear from fizzy sodas for your mixers as well as beers and ales. Perhaps stick with the wine or fruit juices for your mixers. So if you don’t want a carbonated cheeky squeak – lay of the colas.
5. Green veg.
CREDIT: Pixabay Cruciferous vegs like Cauliflower, Brussels, and Kale are known to cause the digestion system to become gassy as it can take longer for your body to digest.
6. Oats not so good.
CREDIT: Pixabay Although oats are generally good for your digestion they are know to cause flatulence.
7. Meats.
moreharmony / Pixabay So here’s the thing meats, particular red meat sit in the stomach and intestines for ages. They take a really long time to digest – this can lead to bloating and well gas…
8. Meds.
Some medications can cause diarrhea. Make sure that your the pills you’re taking don’t cause the runs. Speak to your GP if you’re on prescribed meds that might cause you probs downstairs. Don’t stop taking any medications that you’ve been prescribed without talking to medical professional first.
9. Coffee.
CREDIT: Pixabay Forget that after dinner coffee. Too much of the stuff could send you running to the loo with the runs.
Despite what you might think, the food that you eat directly before a hot session in the bedroom, probably won’t affect your ability to bottom. However a large meal will probably make you sleepy, just think about sleepy you feel after Christmas dinner!
So if you’re planning an all-nighter it’s best to lay off any food that will make you tired.
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Gay sex scenes are getting the nation’s hearts racing
Orange Is The New Black and Queer As Folk both appear in the top 10 of sex scenes that get the nation’s hearts racing.
Also included in the list of shows which have explicit scenes are Shameless and Sex Education both of which have a high proportion of gay sex.
Social distancing can be dull and uneventful, so many people choose to get their excitement from the fictional world. In fact, series like Normal People provide exactly that; a good storyline, interesting characters, and loads of raunchy SEX! Which plenty of us are missing at the moment, let’s be honest!
With that in mind, experts at OnBuy.com were curious to see which TV series are the most heart racing. To find out, they gathered 1,807 eager respondents and ask them to watch multiple sex scenes from different TV shows while wearing a Fitbit. The average heart rate of people watching those scenes was then used to measure which series is the hottest!
RESULTS
The winner of the hottest TV series contest is none other than Orange Is the New Black. In fact, the average heart rate of those watching the sex scenes was 101 BPM. Porn site viewers also agree, as the sex scenes from OITNB uploaded on Pornhub gather millions of views. One compilation video in particular, showing all the nude scenes from the show, has over 5.4 million views!
In second place is… Shameless! In fact, those watching the series experienced a BPM of 96. The show is also very popular on Pornhub; the most popular video showing a compilation of the actors doing the dirty has gathered over 2.4 million views.
Swords, dragons, and… SEX!
Third on the list is none other than the fantasy drama that got us all talking… Game of Thrones.
The show which broke our hearts while boosting our libido! Respondents found their BPM rose to 95 while watching raunchy GOT scenes. Plus, while only third in our chart, the show wins the title as the most popular TV series on Pornhub, where over 11 million people gathered (separately, from the comfort of their own rooms) to re-watch a compilation of the hottest scenes.
Law of Attraction
In 4th place, we find our favourite bunch of lawyers, the actors from Suits, who managed to raise the BPMs of our respondents to 93. Scenes featuring Meghan Markle in Suits have gathered over 344,000 views on Pornhub!
Normal People… Outstanding sex!
Tied in 4th place is the most spoken about sultry show of the year, Normal People. There are many reasons why this show is great: it’s educational, open-minded, and it raises the heart rates of people watching it to an average of 93 BPM!
Another, very educational show, that gets both our brains and “bits” buzzing, is Sex Education. So, if you are looking to spend your evening learning something new while enjoying a BPM of 91, this is the show for you!
