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  • Coronavirus could be spread through rimming

    Coronavirus could be spread through rimming

    Keeping clean is essential RN

    According to new research by scientists COVID-19 could be spread person to person via rimming, after they discovered traces of the virus in patients of those who had been infected.

    What’s even more concerning once the patient had no infected cells in their respiratory system, their poop still contained traces.

    According to the report from Gastro Journal, swabs of urine, stool and tissues were taken from 73 hospitalised patients. It found that 53 per cent of the patients tested positive for SARS-CoV-2 RNA in their stool samples.

    17 of those still had traces even after their respiratory system was clear.

    The report said it is possible for a “faecal-oral transmission route” meaning that those people who engage in rimming could be at risk of infection.

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    Of course the same could be said for those who don’t wash their hands after going to the loo. Faecal matter can find its way on to the hands – and spread from person to person or person to object – like phones and door handles.

    In any case, it’s probably wise to use moist toilet wipes after using the loo and whipping out the old douche if you’re in the mood for licking the chocolate cave.

    The best advice from the NHS is to stay at home and self-isolate if you have a high temperature and a new continuous cough.

    It also advocates:

    • wash your hands with soap and water often – do this for at least 20 seconds
    • always wash your hands when you get home or into work
    • use hand sanitiser gel if soap and water are not available
    • cover your mouth and nose with a tissue or your sleeve (not your hands) when you cough or sneeze
    • put used tissues in the bin immediately and wash your hands afterwards
    • try to avoid close contact with people who are unwell
  • This one tweet sums up everything a bottom feels when the top cancels

    This one tweet sums up everything a bottom feels when the top cancels

    Prepping takes time. It’s a dark art. It’s a f*cking ball ache. So don’t cancel.

    Bottoms of the world will surely and utterly get this tweet, which we think totally sums up that feeling when you’ve organised your Grindr hook up and then at the last minute, once you’ve done all your prepping, your top, pulls out – and not in a good way.

    We don’t know whether tops realise the effort that goes into making sure you won’t have a poop incident mid sesh or any chumber nuts when it comes to that booty call.

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    The thing is, most bottoms aren’t just “oven-ready” as it were – nope there’s a process and if a guy is particularly careful he may even have skipped meals for the night’s events – hell, we’ve even heard of some porn stars who don’t eat proper meals for up to two days before a shoot!

    Check out our list of foods you should definitely avoid if you’re planning to bottom.

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    Just ice for dinner tonight….

    It’s a faff and there’s quite a bit of anxiety attached to it as well…

    There’s always the fear that you’ve not done it enough. Or you’ve done it too much (and left an entire well of water up there).

  • This is why we should stop using “dirty” and “clean” on hook up apps

    This is why we should stop using “dirty” and “clean” on hook up apps

    A doctor has made the case for people to stop using the words “Dirty” and “Clean” when talking about people and their sexual health.

    Doctor Naomi Sutton who is a trustee for the sexual health charity, Saving Lives, uploaded a thought-provoking video in which she pleaded with viewers to stop using the words “clean” and “dirty” to describe people and their sexual health because of the stigma that those words carry.

    In the video, the doctor, who also stars in the E4 show The Sex Clinic holds up a number of placards with a simple message; let’s not use “dirty” and “clean” as words to describe sexual health and for us all to get tested for STIs more regularly.

    She also pointed out that STIs were not a matter of personal hygiene and that there was no way of telling who has an STI by just looking at them.

    You can read about our experience of getting a sexual health test here.

    Here’s the text from Dr Sutton’s video.

    This is a plea,

    Let’s stop using the words “clean” and “dirty” to describe people and their sexual health.

    It just promotes STIGMA and misunderstanding.

    Sexually transmitted infections (STIs) are not a matter of personal hygiene, You cannot tell by looking at or talking to someone whether or not they have an STI.

    All STIs can be present without symptoms, including HIV, syphilis, Chlamydia, Gonorrhoea, Herpes Virus and the wart virus (HPV).

    Chlamydia and Gonorrhoea tests are easy to do,

    a) a wee in a pot for men

    b) a self-taken vaginal swab in women.

    HIV and syphilis tests are simple blood test…. book in today and get tested!

    Let’s talk about sex and STIs openly and honestly without stigma or shame.

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    It is recommended that sexually active people, who have a number of different sexual partners should go for an STI test at their local Sexual Health clinic every 3 to 6 months, or order a FREE at-home HIV test kit from Saving Lives. if you use the promo code: GAYUK20.

  • Yes, there are straight-identifying guys who want gay sex

    Yes, there are straight-identifying guys who want gay sex

    Is Sex different from Sexuality?

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    When one straight identifying guy on Reddit said that the thought of having sex with another man gave him “butterflies in his stomach” but didn’t he was “gay enough” to do it, people were there to guide him.

    Society problems?

    So what’s really holding guys back from experimenting with someone of the same sex? This poster wrote that he had an image of him as a “straight guy loving girls” but his feelings go the opposite way – despite not having a specific crush on a guy.

    He wrote,

    “…I got an image of myself as a straight guy loving girls and my feelings go in the opposite direction. I love masculinity and want to be a submissive guy. I hate being dominant while/and having sex with girls. But I never thought of going in bed with a specific guy, I never had a crush on a guy. This is “not gay enough”.

    So is he in love with the idea of being straight, but his heart is telling he’s gay, bi or curious? He wrote that he once tried a blowjob but felt deeply ashamed afterwards.

    Society’s push?

    This user suggested that society had its role in defining our sexuality and what is right and wrong, saying,

    “That’s just society that has shoved that idea in your head.
    “I felt guilty AF after I gave my first blowjob to the point where I ran away from my boyfriend (at the time)’s apartment and cried and threw up a bunch.

    “You can get over that and become comfortable with yourself. I sure did, and it didn’t take too long.”

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    Get stuck in

    Another poster was a little more upfront with his suggestion

    “suck some dick and see what happens”

    What’s “Gay Enough” mean?

    Another suggested,

    “If you’re a man and you want to have sex with another man, that makes you gay enough. You could be anyone from the most macho muscleman to the most femmy twink, and it doesn’t matter. All that matters is that you want to have sex with another man. That’s all it takes to be “gay enough”.

    “What’s wrong with you is that you’re holding yourself back from doing something you want to do. What you should do is have sex with another man.

    Another chipped in

    I’d recommend you just start experimenting. Take it slow, though, and make it clear that you’re new at this.

    Bisexual? Pansexual?

    This user pointed out that the OP might not be homosexual, but rather someone who is sexually attracted to all sexes and genders,

    “Your [sic] probably bi or pan and have inner-homophobia from religion, family, culture, whatever. Go out, or on an app, be honest on those apps and guys, have some condoms and lube handy and have sex with men. Good luck, have fun.

    Bottom line

    One of life’s struggles is the journey to becoming comfortable with yourself, however, that looks. Although some may see you as one thing, you, in the end, get to decide how to define yourself and set those boundaries.

    As long as you’re not hurting anyone and everything is consensual, crack on we say and enjoy yourself.

  • Is there a gay dating site which isn’t just for hookups?

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    If you’re looking for a quickie or even some picture swapping there are plenty of apps out there where gay and bi guys can hook up, but what if you want something deeper (get your mind out of the gutter).

    This was a question recently posed on Reddit and it got people questioning where they could get a good date rather than a quick session of “fun”.

    Back in 2015 our columnist Scott Sammons tested out all the major dating apps to find out which offered the best services and dating opportunities.

    For dating opportunities he recommended Tinder, saying that the app was “designed to “match” people based on their personalities and likes/dislikes”. The app asks users to fill out a survey and then based on those results shows you profiles of guys you’re likely to want to date.

    Sammons also added, “there are very little opportunities to declare your sexual preferences or put on your profile that you’re horny”. So if you’re after dates than quick hookups this might be a solution.

    He also suggested Gaydar and Plenty Of Fish as alternatives to the likes of Grindr, Hornet and Jack’d.

    Otherwise, users on Reddit suggested OKCupid, with one user admitting that he had had a lot of “success on the platform”.

    So what’s the best way of meeting someone new?

    Readers on our Facebook page, however, were less hopefully when we asked the question about the best dating app – not for hookups.

    One user wrote, “All of them are hook up sites” while another added, “It would be nice if there WAS one you could actually connect & chat rather than just sex…..but I don’t see it happening lol”

    Finding love or just sex?

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    Back in 2018, we asked our readers whether they had found love on a dating up. Thirty-six per cent said that they had found love and were still together, while 39 per cent said that they used them only for short-term relationships or hookups.

  • If you have to end your relationship, here’s how not to be a dick about it

    If you have to end your relationship, here’s how not to be a dick about it

    When you know, you know. So what’s the best way to call time on a relationship?

    How to break up with your partner
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    So if you’ve decided that time is up on your relationship we’ve got some suggestions on how not to make a pig’s ear out of the breakup process. Yes, it’s likely to hurt, and it’s probably going to get messy. So here’s ten tips on how not to be a douche when you dump someone.

    1) Is it really over?

    Are you sure? Can it be fixed or perhaps, more importantly, is it worth fixing? If it is then maybe, you need to hash it out with your partner. Have an honest discussion about your feelings. Maybe it’s worth seeing a relationship and sex therapist to help you navigate the issues you’re both facing.

    2) Give an actual reason.

    Don’t trot out that clichéd line, “It’s not you, it’s me”. Do you know how annoying that is? It means nothing and doesn’t help the other side have some closure. If there’s no other reason apart from the fact that you’ve fallen out of love, then say that. It can be harsh to say, but the reality of those words should hit home.

    3) Quit it and don’t go back.

    ARRRRGHHH. Stop playing with my heart. If the relationship is over, make sure it’s over. Don’t give the impression that things could be fixed if they can’t be.

    4) Speak to a friend.

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    Chat with your friends about your plans before you make that break. They may have some insight or advice for you. Ultimately it’s your choice, but it doesn’t hurt to communicate what you’re feeling.

    5) Think about you, but also think about him.

    Remember you did once love or intensely like this guy, so be nice. Be honest and be firm. THEGAYUK’s very own Jordan Lohan suggests: “Honour the love you once had for each other by being respectful to one another during the breakup process.

    Breakups don’t need to be messy if you choose for them not to be.”

    6) Don’t procrastinate.

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    If you’ve made your decision don’t hold off until the “right moment”. Even if that means you’re going to lose money, because you’ve got a holiday coming up or theatre tickets or whatever. If you own a house together or have a huge financial commitment together, then you might need to stay together for a bit longer, once you’ve broken up, until you can sort and separate your finances.

    7) Don’t feel sorry for him.

    He’s not a child, and he doesn’t need your pity. Try not to feel guilty for your actions. You’re doing this for a reason, hopefully, to make you both better people! Keep focused.

    8) Set out some post-bofxit (post boyfriend) rules.

    Set out some simple communication rules. Only texts, only emails – or whatever works for you. Don’t get drawn into long, complicated conversations. Keep it polite and professional.

    9) Let him blow.

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    He might have a few words to say after you tell him you’re done. If he gets angry, just listen. Don’t retaliate and don’t goad. If you feel physically threatened leave. It’s only natural that if the breakup comes as a shock that he might react in an angry way.

    10) Plan your exit.

    Don’t rely on him to drive you home or lend you cash for a cab after breaking it off. Make sure you know what your exit plan is.

  • These are the smells that turn men on… apparently

    These are the smells that turn men on… apparently

    It’s fair to say that as gay men there are some scents that drive us insanely lustful, but these will vary widely from guy to guy.

    One man’s musty Calvins is another’s worst nightmare, however scientifically there are, apparently, some fragrances that arouse guys and the clever bods at Cosy Owl have discovered that there are a few smells that drive guys wild.

    Along with psychologist Daniel Sher, Cosy Owl dug deeper to find out what worked and what didn’t.

    These are the scents that triggered a sexual response

    Pumpkin Pie, Black Liquorice and Doughnut came up as the most arousing scents for guys.

    So the next time you find yourself in a Krispy Kreme’s line and holding down a raging man pole, it could be the scent of those holely cooked goods that are getting your all worked up!

    Daniel Sher is a registered clinical psychologist and a consultant for the Between Us Clinic commented,

    “Previous studies suggest that the combination of lavender and pumpkin pie is the most popular scent, followed by black liquorice and doughnut. Other studies suggest that musk triggers a sexual response because it is reminiscent of testosterone. Women are also most likely to have a sexual response to odours including baby powder; and candy with cucumber.

    “Neurological studies which show that the olfactory lobe (the part of the brain responsible for processing smells) is one of the structures that make up the limbic system (the emotional centre of the brain). The limbic system also plays an important role in a person’s sex drive. Based on brain anatomy, therefore, researchers believe that sex, smell and emotion are all closely interconnected”.

    Richard Fewings of Cosy Owl also commented:

    “We wanted to turn up the heat and go all the way this Valentine’s Day by helping our customers with their ‘interior decorating’ skills (wink)… If you want to ignite the flame in your relationship, make sure you have these scents ready and waiting at home this Valentines Day.”

    If you’re looking to up your game for true BDE (big dick energy), Cosy Owl has created a designated fragrance oil category for lovers, based on the scents that turn us on the most: https://www.cosyowl.com/candle-making-supplies/fragrance-oils/love

  • 20 Amazing Things About Being Single

    20 Amazing Things About Being Single

    With the Valentine’s nuts going crazy for the impending day of “love” we reflect on why it’s great to be single.

    1) I don’t have to worry about you want to eat.

    Tonight I want tacos. You want spaghetti… Tachetti it is then… Damn compromising.

     

    2) My bed, my farts.

    I don’t have to worry about trumping in bed. Hurrah. Trump trump trump.

     

    3) My remote.

    Ha ha ha!  Netflix and chill has a whole new meaning for me.

     

    4) Self loving.

    I know exactly what gets me off and I ain’t afraid to do it.

    (while you’re at it listen to this song about the act of self loving!

     

    5) Time to think

    We’re all time poor and being alone gives me time to spend doing things that I wouldn’t otherwise get the chance to.

    6) Dates, dates and more dates

    Nothing like a bit of date night and the expectation of that first kiss

     

    7) My cat is the only relationship I need

    My cat loves me unconditionally… sometimes.

     

    8) I get to keep up with who’s who on Grindr.

    Yep. Even though I’m single I see so much peen. So much peen.

    9) There’s literally no one to tell me that I shouldn’t drink anymore.

    Yay me.

    10) I don’t have to sleep on that one slither of bed

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    Or deal with stolen duvet all night.

     

    11) I cannot be cheated on.

    No broken hearts for me.

    12) I can listen to all my coupled mates harp on about their woes and partner troubles and think.

    Thank f that ain’t me

     

    13) Life is one sexabout.

    Like picking apples from the tree. I’m out testing the orchard and having a lot of fun on the way.

     

     

    14) I can have a threesome

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    and be the one to walk away

     

    15) I have a tonne of horrifying date night stories for my friends.

    I’m literally a walking standup show with my tales.

     

    16) I can relax.

    No one is going to come in halfway through my House Of Cards marathon and start blathering on about their day

     

    17) I don’t have clear my browser’s history.

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    “The internet is for porn”

    18) I never have to see a movie with Lindsay Lohan in it ever again.

    Wednesday’s we wear vomit.

    19) Every outing is an opportunity to meet new guys…

    It’s a big world out there.

     

    20) I’m always right

  • This is where you shouldn’t take your valentine’s date

    This is where you shouldn’t take your valentine’s date

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    Valentine’s day is fast approaching and for many of us, the question about where to go with our date still looms. From romantic dinners to hiking, the options are never-ending. But what is the perfect date?

    Farawayfurtniture.com were keen to find the answers and surveyed 1,546 people, asking them to rate each date activity out of 10 (10 being very good and 0 being very bad).

    Drinks, came on top as the best activity to do on a first date, according to 38% of respondents. One respondent stated that having an alcoholic beverage on a date, made them “more talkative and social.”

    Attend a comedy night, was surprisingly rated the second-best date. A whopping 36% said this would be their favourite activity.

    The third best-rated date was, in fact, a walk, according to 35% of respondents. On a budget? No problem- just take your date on a walk!

    Farawyafurtniture.com revealed that the typical dinner date, is NOT the most favoured activity- despite popular opinion.

    One respondent commented saying dinner dates were “too formal and often awkward.”

    Instead, people rated active and fun activities much higher.

    Furthermore, the experts revealed that people would rather go to a museum (25%) than a theme park (13%).

    To delve deeper, the experts analysed the different activities different age groups preferred. The results found that…

    People in their 20s do not want to go for drinks! Only 42% of respondents rated this the best idea, in comparison to over half of the respondents arguing mini-golf was the best activity (51%).

    Say no to picnics…

    Finally, if your date is in their 20s, avoid picnics and museums.

    Having a picnic and visiting a museum were the worst-rated ideas by people in their 20s.

    People in their 30-40s, were the only age group, that rated dinner and drinks the best first date. Surprisingly, no other age group rated drinks and dinner the best activity.

    People aged between 40-50, seem to love their comedy nights, with 40% rating this the best first date.

    People aged in their 50-60s appear to keep things simple, with a walk being the best first date.

    This was closely followed by a comedy night. Make sure to avoid theme parks and bowling though- these ideas were rated the worst by people in their 50-60s.

  • This one thing you do every morning could stop erectile dysfunction

    This one thing you do every morning could stop erectile dysfunction

    Apparently your cup of coffee in the morning could help keep you alert, in more ways than one.

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    A few years ago researchers from the University of Texas Health Science Center in Houston, USA, found that men over the age of 20 who consumed the caffeine equivalent of 2 to 3 cups of coffee a day were less likely to report erectile dysfunction.

    The co-author of the study, Dr Run Wang said, that caffeine had properties “similar to ED drugs like Viagra”.

    However, it was noted that wouldn’t fix erection problems with men who have diabetes.

    So why?

    Well according to Dr Wang, caffeine triggers “a series of effects that cause the arteries in your penis to relax” which means that the blood flow to your penis increases – which is Dr Wang notes is “key to a strong erection”.

    So start your morning with a glorious cup of coffee.

    Of course if you are concerned with the way in which your penis does (or doesn’t work) book an appointment with your GP!

  • Being rude to waiting staff is a sure-fire way to not get a SECOND date

    Being rude to waiting staff is a sure-fire way to not get a SECOND date

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    It seems as though rude to staff on a date is the biggest turn off on dates, coupled with double-dipping and talking politics.

    A brand-new year is here the corner meaning a fresh start in the dating pool and 365 days to go on some, hopefully, successful dates. In the hopes of helping people secure their second date, Chewsygum.com decided to see what bad habits people want their dates to leave at home. They did a survey asking 1,283 people about things they hate their dates doing most, after finding the top 13 habits they asked whether their date would score a second date.

    Are you a bad date?

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    Chewsy found that only 32% of their participants think going for dinner is an ideal first date. If you have a dinner date on the cards, then here are some things to avoid doing if you want to secure a second date.

    Bad Habits Percentage of people who wouldn’t go on a second date
    Being impolite to waiting staff94%
    Bad table manners91%
    Loud / open mouth chewing88%
    Talking about yourself the whole time82%
    Going on your phone76%
    Getting drunk67%
    Talking about an ex63%
    Ordering food for you53%
    Start eating before your food arrives52%
    Attempting to be intimate48%
    Stealing food from their plate 35%
    Double dipping 25%
    Putting elbows on the table9%

    Unsurprisingly being impolite to waiting staff is the biggest offence you can commit on a date with nearly all participants saying they wouldn’t go on a second date, bad table manners and loud / open mouth chewing also made the top 3. Double dipping, innocent to you but not your date. 1 in 4 people said they wouldn’t go on a second date if they witnessed their date double dip. If you tend to overdrink during dates, you have a better chance of scoring a second date compared to people who go on their phone during dates (by 9% to be precise).

    When asked “what’s the worst thing someone could ask?” you on a first date people said anything relating to how much money you make, invasive questions about family and their finances.

    Ask the right questions

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    Chewsy flipped the question and asked people “what’s the best questions someone could ask you?” most answered centred around being asked about their dreams, interests favourite kind of music and hobbies. There was a consensus to keep things light and entertaining on the first date. However, some answers steered away from the usual questions the best one being “how much should I send to your bank account?

    Lay off the burritos

    Participants were also asked “what foods are a no go on a date / what foods do they tend to avoid?” and the most popular answers were: burritos, burgers, seafood of any kind, anything that is saucy and heavy with garlic.

    Planning on bottoming? You’ll want to stay clear from these foods!