This week it’s Deaf Awareness week in the UK. So here’s how you say some important LGBT+ terms in British Sign Language.
A few years ago, Deaf Direct produced a video, just before Pride season, which included various British Sign Language signs to help everybody get to grasp with a few LGBT+ terms.
The video was created by Deaf Direct to “celebrate the diversity of our community”.
If you’ve ever wanted to know how to sign the words lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or queer, this simple video helps you say those words perfectly.
Do people in the UK use ASL or BSL?
William and Simon, who both appear in the video explain that in the UK we use BSL – rather than ASL (American Sign Language) and they take us through the gestures you need to make to say, in BSL, a few terms which identify LGBT+ folks.
How to say LGBT+ terms in British Sign Lanugauge
In the video the LGBT+ words and terms Simon and William demonstrate are:
Lesbian
Gay
Bisexual
Transgender
Queer
Straight
Leather
Bear
Drag
Pride Day
Happy Pride Day
Fabulous
So go learn how to say Happy Pride Day you Fabulous Queers
Some guys, it seems, have an uncanny ability to be always ready to take a dick at a moment’s notice. So are some bottoms able to self-lubricate, ready at a moment’s notice to get ploughed by an almighty 10 incher?
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So does the ass self-lubricate?
The answer my friends is a little more nuanced than a yes or a no. While the rectum can line its walls with mucous, which is technically a lubricant, it’s actually intended to help poop pass through its walls more easily. It’s not, however, a lube for some serious ass ramming. Your body produces this mucous when it feels that you’re gonna need to make a bowel movement, or maybe with the presence of a cock. The mucous is generally clearish although some people report it to be whitish in colour and is produced by the anal ducts – and it smells, well, like ass.
The amount that is produced varies from person to person, but believe us, it’ll never be enough to make anal sex pleasurable.
Some bottoms boast extreme self-lubrication… should they use normal lube as well?
Yes, they should be using a lube which is intended for intercourse. Not using lube and just relying on mucous from the rectum or even just spit could lead to some serious long-term medical issues for the hole. Trauma to the area could land you with anything from fissures to prolapses, which will need an operation to put right.
If diamonds are a girl’s best friend, lube is a bottom’s – and there are many many to choose from and the one that feels best to use will again vary from person to person, although in this writer’s (vast) wisdom on the subject, Silicone is the best way to go – it’s long-lasting and leaves the area feeling pretty well moisturised and not tacky – like some water-based lubes.
So, while it might feel that your butthole is self-lubricating and can take the insertion of a finger – for a cock (or two) it really won’t cut the mustard.
So what if the guy I’m about to pound doesn’t seem to need lube – is he self-lubricating?
It’s highly likely that powerbottom that you’re about to nail has already prelubed before getting into the bed/sling/lazy Suzanne. In fact it’s one of the things I most recommend to bottoms during their whole prep routine is to actually pre-lube after douching. One of the best ways to get the lube to where it’s actually meant to be is with a lube launcher. This device “launches” lube deep into your rectum putting it where just using a finger won’t reach.
It looks like an oversized medieval but plastic, syringe, but don’t fret there’s no needle at the end, just a smallish tube with a rounded end with a hole, which you insert up your bum and press in the lube. Pretty easy.
So the moral of the story. Use lube if you’re gonna have butt sex.
However, if you’re in the need of picking up aromas right now in Glasgow, you might find that your pickings are rather short, but there are a few high locations that you can try out.
However, if you’re looking for a more online option, you can always buy poppers online. A number of shops exist that sell room aromas. The shop, THEGAYSHOP has a wide variety.
Are poppers legal in the UK?
CREDIT: TheGayUK
It is completely legal to consume and sell poppers in the UK. In 2017 there were fears that the Conservative government would outlaw their sale and usage, however, poppers were proven to not be a psychoactive substance and so the government made a U-turn and decided against making the liquid illegal.
However, if you’re in the need of picking up aromas right now in Edinburgh, you might find that your pickings are rather short, but there are a few high locations that you can try out.
Firstly, Qstore can be found in the city at 5 Barony Street, EH3, 6PD. There’s also Private Lines, which is located at 60 Elm Rw, EH7 4AQ.
However, if you’re looking for a more online option, you can always buy poppers online. A number of shops exist that sell room aromas. The shop, THEGAYSHOP has a wide variety.
Are poppers legal in the UK?
CREDIT: TheGayUK
It is completely legal to consume and sell poppers in the UK. In 2017 there were fears that the Conservative government would outlaw their sale and usage, however, poppers were proven to not be a psychoactive substance and so the government made a U-turn and decided against making the liquid illegal.
If you’re in the market to buy poppers or room aromas and you’re in the Bristol area, here’s where you can buy them from.
Pickings are rather short if you’re looking to buy room aromas in Bristol however there’s one place on the highstreet you can definitely try.
Firstly, Prowler has a hybrid store along with Simply Pleasure based in Bristol. The store be found in the town centre at 30 Bond Street Broadsmead, Bristol, BS1 3LX. Phone: 0117 925 3174. They have a variety of different brands available for you to purchase.
You can also try the local gay sauna, called Lad’s Locker, which is located 19-21 WEST ST, BRISTOL, BRISTOL BS2 0D.
However, if you’re looking for a more online option, you can always buy poppers online. A number of shops exist that sell room aromas. The shop, THEGAYSHOP has a wide variety.
Are poppers legal in the UK?
CREDIT: TheGayUK
It is completely legal to consume and sell poppers in the UK. In 2017 there were fears that the Conservative government would outlaw their sale and usage, however, poppers were proven to not be a psychoactive substance and so the government made a U-turn and decided against making the liquid illegal.
Bristol has a number of LGBT+ / gay venues including Sauna and Bars in the Dorset area. It also has a yearly pride event called Bristol Pride which is one of the largest in Southern England.
You should definitely be cleaning your sex toys after use, particularly if the toys you are using are up-the-butt toys.
You see, your ass, even after douching is still filled with bacteria and germs that you won’t want sitting around on a toy’s surface, laying in your bottom drawer over a period of time.
This could lead to nasty stomach upsets and illness.
You may also find that any lube residue left on your toy could melt it between uses. Yes, this happens – all depending on what material your toy is made from and the type of lube you used.
So it’s best to clean your toys after each usage.
Water or Toy Cleaner?
You can buy a special sex toy cleaner – our partner shop sells a range of these, or you can use warm soapy water. We particularly recommend the Bathmate Clean Misting Toy Cleaner, which is really easy to use, simply wipe off any debris (you know what we mean!) mist it with the cleaner, rub it in and then rise off.
If you use a toy cleaner, you’ll also be disinfecting it, killing off all those nasty bacteria.
Make sure when cleaning your toy, that you clean out all of the ridges and if it’s a realistic dildo, make sure you clean around the head and all of the veins.
Using condoms on your toys
Using a condom on your toy when you use it will mean that you won’t need to wash it as thoroughly, but it is advisable to give it a wipe down to get rid of any chemicals that transfer from the inside of a condom to your toy.
Storing your toy
Once you’ve clean your toy, dry it off with a towel until it’s perfectly dry and if it came with a protective pouch, insert it back in there.
If it didn’t come with a pouch, an old sock will work just as well.
Inserting it into a sock or pouch protects the toy’s material coming into contact with other toys – which can cause them to melt as some materials even react with other materials.
It isn’t pretty and can get quite expensive.
Penis toys and masturbators
If your toy is for penis play, like a Fleshjack or even the Satifyer Men’s Wand (pictured above) you should still give it a good clean after use. If you’ve jizzed over or in your toy, you won’t want to find it, next time you come to use it, covered with stale, crispy semen… Or may you do… But to ensure the longevity of your toy, it’s best to clean it after each use.
Short answer, you really can’t stop a fart during anal sex
It can happen to the best of us – the fuck fart. He pulls out and you parp. It’s just the way it goes – and most likely is probably not an actual tummy-made gas, so is it really a fart?
In women or some trans guys who have a vagina, it’s called Queefing and it’s essentially the air that escapes the vagina – but a fart and queef can both sound the same. So what should we call air that escapes your bottom during sex, but isn’t actually gas from your intestines… Beefing?
There’s no real way to stop Beefing as the air that gets pumped inside you (as your top is pounding away) really doesn’t have anywhere else to go, but back out your butt hole. Also as you have anal sex, the muscles around your hole – the sphincter, which is the muscle that can stop a normal fart will have relaxed quite considerably, so it might be quite hard to clench to stop the escaping air.
This is why you might beef when the top pulls out, especially if it’s unexpected. The air that escapes is most likely to be air that’s been trapped in your rectum rather than from your lower intestine. Which is a good thing, because it’s also highly unlikely to smell – especially if you’ve prepped for sex, by douching.
The Butter Churn is a prime example of a position that can make you fart when he pulls out. That’s where the bottom props up his back with his hands and puts both legs in the air above his head, while the top enters in a downward motion. Its a bit like a plunger – and that causes a lot of air movement.
Staying clear of any position where your butthole is likely to be more exposed like if your legs are wide open might also contribute to a build-up of air in your rectum.
Also, the slow plough, where your top thrusts all the way in and then all the way out of your ass is likely to get air trapped, so don’t be surprised if you parp a little during this.
What do you if you fart during anal sex?
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The best thing to do is laugh at it or just ignore it altogether. Try not to be embarrassed about it, or even apologise for it. It’s completely normal, happens to everyone and there’s nothing you can really do about it anyway.
You never know the guy you’re with might actually be turned on the sound of your beef. So just go with it. Don’t let it stop the fun.
What does it mean if someone is “sliding into DMs” and is it a welcome thing?
Maybe it’s a phrase you’ve seen creeping up from time to time and you’re wondering what it means, well simply put, it’s when a guy (or gal – or neither, gender doesn’t have to be binary) sends you a direct message that’s the DM part. It’s usually via social media rather than a WhatsApp or Text message, or even on a dating app.
Sending messages via Twitter, Instagram, Snap or via dating app messaging can let people you don’t know personally send private messages to you, without having to know your digits.
The key to sliding into anyone’s DMs is that it’s unexpected and hopefully wanted. Sliding into someone’s DMs when its not wanted is super stalkery and should be avoided at all costs.
Or sliding into someone’s DMS after you’ve ghosted them along time ago is really uncool, in fact it makes you a Zombie.
So why is “sliding into DMs” a thing?
Well, for one thing, it’s an opportunity for someone to get in contact with a person they like the look of without having to meet them in person or have their private info.
The “sliding” part also denotes a certain kind of confidence, which for many people is a real turn on.
But you only really have a limited time for your DM to make its mark, so if you’re planning on sliding into DMs don’t waste it by simply writing “hey” be creative.
Sexpert Jack Devon told us, “Sliding into anyone’s DMs is always a risk… it may be unwanted but it also may be entirely welcomed. The trick is to read the situation, which again can be super tricky in an online scenario. However, if your DM is answered, plot out the journey of the conversation, if the goal is to eventually meet with the person, make sure you’re both compatible up front by asking lots of thoughtful questions – without appearing to be a stalker. If you do meet up make sure you check out these safety tips“.
Okay. Show of hands. Who’s had the experience of dating a fuckboy? We all know them! It’s that guy. You know; you know, the one who doesn’t respect you but relies on you all the time. He’s distant. He doesn’t care about your time. He won’t commit. He’s self-absorbed, does stupid things and fucks with other’s emotions. I feel like the majority of the guys I’ve been with or had any form of chemistry with have been fuckboys and it’s had a bit of a negative impact on my dating life, or actually, lack off. I’ve been used so many times by fuckboys that it’s become the norm for me to keep going back to them.
How do you spot a fuckboy?
Beware the fuckboy
It would be easy if they walked around with a sign above their head saying “Avoid like COVID. I’m gonna text you once in three months, then you’re gonna come over and give me the best head ever”.
Alas, life isn’t all black and white.
It was a while before I experienced a true fuckboy. I don’t have any contact with him now, only maybe when I’m a little bit tipsy and I might slide into his DM’s. I’ve met a few since then and developed a keen eye to spot them. So, here are my tips for spotting the fuckboys.
They will do or say anything to have sex
(C) BIGSTOCK
This is the first big red flag. There’s no romance involved. A true fuckboy will literally do or say anything to get you into bed. These include flattery, gaslighting and grovelling. Nothing is too low for them to try. The worst thing though is that they will do all this whilst actually do the bare minimum whilst doing it. They want to do it all on their terms. They will decide it, they will just sit there and let you crack on. Don’t forget; they don’t call them jobs for nothing.
They’ll hang out with a lot of men
Now, this might seem trivial; but they’ll always have a number of guys on the go at the same times. If they’re not committing; it’s probably because they’re playing the field and shagging a couple of blokes at the same time. They like to have options. They want to know that there are people around them that they could have sex with if they wanted it; and well, we all know gay men. They’re randy little blighters and probably be boning a different guy every night.
They’ll always be a little fragile
If you tell them you can’t hang out tonight – you’ve just caused world war three. They’ll barrage you with texts about how flakey you are, or you’ll get a torrent of abuse and probably turn it round and accuse you of being a fuckboy. You can’t hold them accountable either; they don’t like that one little bit. Fuckboys are unable to accept any form of responsibilty for their poor behaviour.
Don’t even start. They won’t change because they do not want to. They will do what they want to do because their world revolves completely around them. They do not care about anyone else but themselves. THEY ARE USERS.
Fuckboys aren’t nasty, horrible, people
They just don’t know how to have serious, mature relationships. You should pity them; and get rid of them. It might be hard at the start, but it’s gonna be better for you in the long run. You’re gonna be a stronger person for it. If you recognise some of this behaviour then congratulations; you’ve admitted it. Now you can start some make some changes in your life. Most fuckboys would never acknowledge it, so the fact you actually have, means you have the possibility to change.
The sad thing is that; fuckboys are out there, and you need to be aware. Also remember, that there are decent guys out who aren’t like that all; and that’s something that we all should covet.
What does it mean if someone has “WS” written in their dating profile?
WS stands for Water Sports – and it has absolutely nothing to do with sailing, paragliding or water polo. No, it’s all to do with urine. It’s also known as The Golden Shower. It’s essentially the act of one (or two or three – or more) person peeing on, in or around someone else.
The various activities could include peeing on someone’s body, over their faces, even up their bums, which is a kind of pee enema. It could also include drinking urine, in fact, there are even devices you can use called piss troughs that can aid you in that pastime.
What do I need in order to do watersports?
The best thing about water-sports is that it’s free to set up and everybody can do it… regardless of their gender identity or their genitalia – as everyone pees!
Unless you’ve got rubber sheeting and a whole space set up for piss play, it’s probably best to do your Golden Shower in the bath or shower, which will make it really easy to clean up afterwards.
Piss play is generally safe in terms of passing on any infections. You can’t pass on HIV through piss play. However, according to GMFA, there is a risk of passing on CMV (which can cause cold sores or Chickenpox) or Salmonella if wee gets in your eyes or mouth.
One of the great things about piss play is that you can perform this act many times in a session, unlike cumming. All you need to do is keep drinking fluids!
Think about sex or a wank as water rafting down a river where at the end is a waterfall. In this scenario, climaxing (ejaculation) is the waterfall. Edging would be taking your raft right to the fall’s edge and stopping just before the spill, waiting a moment (maybe pulling back the raft another 100 metres) and starting up all over again.
Lots of guys know that once they’ve cummed, post-nut clarity sets in and we can feel, well a little less sexy than we did in the previous moment and cumming too quickly can spoil the fun… so learning to edge is a way of extending your playtime, while still getting amazing sensations.
It’s a fine art and some guys are totally into it – and can make a sex or a wank session last for hours. And they say that the final “spill” is pretty epic.
Practising edging can actually help guys to are prone to PE (premature ejaculation) to control their climax and potentially make them last longer.
It’s about taking yourself, or another guy, if you’re edging him right up to sexual ecstasy and the hitting the reset button so that you can go all over again.
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If you’re edging someone else, communication is key, but subtle signs from your partner’s body will tell you when he’s close to cumming (his balls might start to contract up towards his body, or his breathing might become more shallow for instance). Read those signs and ease off… Start all over again after a moment.
