What does it mean if someone has DL written in their dating profile?
Well, DL stands for “down-low” essentially meaning discreet. Usually, the guy with DL written on his profile probably won’t have a picture on his profile either and his profile may contain limited information about what he’s into, where he is or any other identifiable information.
There may be a number of reasons why someone is on the down-low or describes themselves as discreet and you shouldn’t always jump to conclusions about their reasons.
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They might not be out to family and friends, they may even identify as straight but like sex with guys, he may be married or have a partner, or they may even have a job which might require them to have discretion on who sees or has access to their profiles, like, for instance, a school teacher who wouldn’t want their students to see their dating profile.
If you’re interested in why someone is discreet, then you can always ask, it could be a good conversation starter.
Speaking his mind, porn star Mr Cali gave a crucial piece of advice for those who are new to porn, or who want a career in adult entertainment.
Speaking on the Demystifying Gay Porn podcast, adult star Mr Cali gave an incredible piece of advice for newbies starting out in porn and it had nothing to do with douching, cock size or being able to take an arm.
No, his advice was very straight forward and it was simply to know your worth.
Speaking to I. Que Grande Cali said, “I would tell my young self, to own and value your worth. Know who you are and tell them (the studio) what you deserve. Walk into the situation knowing you need this amount of money. You have a budget for who you are.
“You’re valued, but you don’t know it walking through”.
Ⓒ NOIR MALE Cali has shot for studios like Noir Male as well as having his own very popular fan’s site.
Know when to say “No”
He then added, “Don’t say yes to everything, sometimes you got to say no and walk away”.
Sounds very sage to us and pretty relevant to all walks of life.
For many, double penetration is the stuff of fantasy. Simply put Double Penetration, in a gay sex context is the insertion of two penises into one guy’s hole. It usually requires at least three of you, but it can be done with just the two of you if you have a dildo (or even one of you, yes there are double penetration dildos).
What you need to know is DP takes time and patience, so if you’re really up for trying double penetration, here’s how to go about it.
Before we start it’s probably fair to say, that there will be some guys, who just won’t be able to do it, from a bottoming point of view and if you feel too much pain, or it just doesn’t feel right then stop and tell your tops, to cool their jets. You don’t want to come out of this with a trip to A&E or create yourself long-lasting issues with your butthole.
If you’re a top and you want to find out the bit that involves you, click here… if you’re the bottom then read on…
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The warm-up, warm-up
The warm-up starts long before your tops arrive. It all starts with the douche and getting yourself ready down there.
I’d always recommend a shower douche if you’re going for DP, or extended arse play. Usually, a normal bulb douche would be fine for anal sex, but you want to be sure. Want to know more about douching click here.
Make sure the water is luke-warm and that the pressure from your shower is low. Take your time with the experience.
Once you’re ready and cleaned out, start prepping your hole with lube and maybe a dildo or prostate massager. I start with a numbing lube.
A lube launcher is a perfect way to get the lube deep inside you, or you can coat the top of your dildo with lube and work it in your body.
What you want to do is get your ass all lube up and warmed up ready for the main event.
The warm up
This is where you start to introduce other guys and the sex has begun. Hopefully, your tops have been true gents and gotten you all open and ready with rimming, possibly some fingering and now the penetration. It’s up to you, but I’d let both of them have sex with you for as long as they want… (and feels comfortable for you) this means that when it comes to the DP your butt hole muscle will be relaxed and ready for something bigger.
The DP
There are three main positions for DP, but we’ve posted four, in case you’re basically just extra.
The Double Stuff
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The Double Stuff is where the Btm lies on top, face down on Top 1 who enters the ass first, then from behind, kneeling between Top 1 and the Btm’s legs, Top 2 then inserts his dick. Slowly! In this position, Top 2 mostly controls the action. If Top 1 or the btm moves too much, both Tops will most likely fall out.
Tip: for this position whichever Top has the largest penis should be on the bottom and enter first.
The Laidback Cowboy DP
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This time the Btm faces up and lies on his back on the stomach of Top 1, who should again enter first. Top 2 then put his penis and because of his position gets the best view, but also, again gets to control the thrusting action more.
Tip: If your Btm is a heavier guy, then he’ll need to support his weight with his elbows or hands, meaning that both his hands will be occupied, so Top 2 can always jerk him off
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The King Of Clubs
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The King Of Club DP position is where the two Tops lie opposite each other with their butts, balls and penises meeting in the middle. Their legs outstretched past the shoulders of the other top. The two top’s legs will cross each at around the knee. The tops’ penises should meet in the middle and essentially create one dick for the Btm to lower himself on to. The Btm will need some good upper body strength for this as he lowers himself down and steadies himself on top of the two tops. However, this is the position where the Btm has most of the control over thrusting and how deep the penetration is.
Tip: Because this is essentially creating one large penis for the Btm to sit on it can actually be harder to do. First, a lot of foreplay and fucking needs to happen before you attempt this to really relax the muscles. You could also try raising one of the Top’s hips up with a pillow under the butt, making his penis stand higher than the other, meaning the Btm can insert one, then the other.
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The Frogs Legs
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Now this position requires quite a bit of flexibility from all concerned but has 10/10 marks for views for all and well, just the feeling of achievement alone. It’s almost the exact reverse of the King of Clubs DP.
The Btm lays on his back, with his butt in the air and his legs towards his chest or shoulders. Both Tops face away from each other, butts touching, whilst squatting over the Btm and straddling one of the Btm’s legs, creating a crisscross or the look of frog’s legs. Then pointing their dick’s down, enter the Btm. The fun thing about this position is that both Tops can control the trusting and slipping out is less of an issue.
Tip: This position needs the Tops to have some flexibility in their dicks to be able to bend downwards. The Btm’s back can be supported with a pillow under his lower back or butt.
Remember
If it hurts or there’s blood or you’ve just had enough, say STOP. End it when you need to. The ass is a delicate area. The rectum’s lining is quite thin and too much trauma will damage it. This is not the time to just power through the pain, you could be causing damage.
The key is to relax, a little discomfort might happen, but the more you can chill and relax, the better it will become… and I promise it’s like nothing you’ve felt before (for tops and btms!).
There’s no need to trawl the streets looking for escorts or rentboys in fact, in 2020 is anyone still really doing that? There are loads of escorting and rentboy sites, which you can Google, where guys of all shapes, sizes and colours have uploaded their pictures and loaded their profiles with information on what they’re into and up for. You’ll be able to find someone to suit your needs very quickly.
2. Reach out to them
Whether you call, text, Whatsapp or email the next step is to make contact with them. Some workers may be around all hours, others might not be. If he’s available or taking bookings he’ll answer.
Once you’ve connected, here’s where you tell him or describe what it is you’re looking for and the worker will be able to tell you whether it’s doable.
Lay it all out here. Don’t spring any surprises on your escort when you’re actually meeting.
Also, discuss the price. The escort may have already said what his price per hour is on the website, or he may have put “Ask Me”… Tell him how long you’re looking for and what price he can do it for. The going rate is around £150 per hour. There may be extras, which can be bolted on, such as bareback, massage, kink etc.
Some guys will offer “in calls” – that’s where you go to him and “outcalls” is where he’ll travel to you.
Outcalls can be more expensive and you might be asked for a deposit from your guy. This is normal and is essentially because some clients bail at the last minute or give out false information. So a deposit shows you really mean business.
3. Agree on it all before you or he turns up!
Again don’t spring it on your guy that you’re into fisting or food play or underwear smelling beforehand. Equally, if you’re wanting to top him, let him know beforehand, so he can prepare. Most escorts, if they are bottoms or vers, will already be prepared… Also, have the safer sex discussion. Some guys will bareback, others won’t. Don’t push if he says he’s condom only.
Shower (be clean) and prep yourself, if you’re looking to get fucked. Nobody likes a shitty kitty (unless that’s what you’ve paid for). Looking for info on douching? Check it out here.
5. Arrive and money
Don’t forget sex work is work. The money conversation should happen upfront. Preferred method… cash. Don’t make a big thing about it. Again it’s a good point to lay out what it is you want to do. It’s your time so script it out if that helps.
6. Get down to it.
It’s your time so use it how you want to. Let your guy know what works, what doesn’t, but be polite and professional and your escort will reciprocate (again unless you’ve paid for something different).
If you agreed on condoms, make sure you wear one and don’t pressure your sex worker into having bareback once in the flow of things. A good escort will have a supply of condoms, lube and most likely poppers, particularly if it’s an incall.
8. Clean up in aisle.
Once the fun is over, let your escort make his excuses and leave. Make sure you see him to the door. If you’re feeling generous a tip will never be refused.
9. Review
If you enjoyed give him a good review on whatever website you found him on.
Decoding “A Levels” – if you see “A Levels” in someone’s dating, hook up or even sex-worker profile here is what it means.
Simply put it means Anal Sex and has nothing to do with the exams that school leavers take before heading off to university!
Mostly used in the UK and traditionally used by sex workers to show that they offer anal sex as one of their services. Not every escort site uses the term, but you can still see it on sites like Vivastreet.
Decoding DP – if you see “DP” in someone’s dating or Grindr profile, here is what it means.
Simply put it means Double Penetration.
Yes, that’s two cocks up your bum. Not for the faint-hearted and probably only for a guy who is an experienced bottom.
He’ll probably need quite a bit of prep time and a lot of warming up with a lot of foreplay. Remember not to rush the experience and take your time.
Oh and with any kind of anal sex, don’t forget the lube, go for a long-lasting lube, like a silicone-based lube, which is less tacky than water-based lube and generally lasts much longer without drying out.
If you’ve ever wondered what’s “normal” when it comes to penis size then looked at your own and thought, “is mine normal?” we have some answers for you.
Did you know there’s a different average penis size for most countries around the world and the difference between the biggest penis and the smallest penis is just a couple of inches? However, the average dick size worldwide still comes right bang slap in the middle of those two numbers.
According to research conducted in 2015, the average penis size worldwide is around 5.5 inches (13.9 cms) when fully erect and according to the research, the UK’s men are exactly in that spot – so the average erect penis size for men in the UK is 5.5 inches. Feeling more normal now?
Those figures were come to (no pun intended) by studying the cocks of around 17,000 men.
Most guys might be mistaken for thinking that the average penis length and girth is much longer, as our main source of evidence for cock size is usually porn. In fact, if you’re heterosexual, the only time you’d really see another man’s erection is during porn. Most porn stars are packing a member that’s usually bigger than average and don’t forget the camera does add size to most objects.
Where in the world do the men have the largest penises?
The longest average erect penises are apparently in the African country of the Democratic Republic of the Congo who’s men are packing an average of 7.1 inches (18.03 cms) and the smallest apparently are in North Korea with 3.8 inches (9.65 cms)
The UK came in at exactly 5.5 inches (13.9 cms) for the average schlong, while the USA came in at 5.2 inches (13.2 cms), according to the research.
Although having a larger penis might seem like a preferable asset to have it doesn’t actually mean that it is. According to recent research guys who have smaller penises actually earn more than their larger schlonged counterparts.
If you ever see the acronym “MMF” on a guy’s profile, it means that the guy you’re talking to is into three ways with two males and a female, hence M+M+F!
Simply put the two Ms stand for Male while the F stands for female. This means that he’s into the idea of having a bisexual threesome.
It’d be up to you to chat about specifics and how that might play out. It’s not very common to find MMF on a hookup app like Grindr or Scuff whose main audience is made up of gay men and same-sex attracted people, but you may find a bisexual man or indeed his girlfriend who is entirely up for being in a three-way with another guy.
If you ever see the acronym “CBT” on a guy’s profile, it’s all about the cock and balls… and the torturing of them
CBT stands for Cock and Ball torture if you see it on a dating or hook up app like Grindr. Otherwise, it probably stands for Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.
Some guys are into having their junk tortured and there’s a whole host of toys out there to help you out if that is your thing. They could include chastity devices, which makes it impossible to touch your D – like a cock cage or even ejaculate, with a sperm stopper.
Some guys are into electro play or even being locked up in a humbler.
CBT play can range from light tickling with a feather to kicking or punching the area. It can go as far as hardcore CBT action where a dom could end up nailing or screwing scrotums to wooden boards.
If you are going to explore this, it’s wise to have a safe word and if there’s likely to be blood drawn from play, to use gloves and antiseptic wipes.
There are serious safety issues to be concerned about and there is a lot of risk to the penis and testicles if play goes too far. Serious injuries include rupture (where you could burst or tear a testicle), torsion (where the spermatic cord gets twisted and cuts off blood supply) and avulsion (where a testicle is ripped off) which will all need medical attention immediately.
Once you’ve removed your penis (while still hard) from your partner’s ass, you should roll the Johnny up from the base of your penis towards the end. Sometimes the receptive partner might do this for you, especially if the end of the condom has become a little dirty during sex. Be careful here, because the condom will tend to go inside out as you’re pulling it away from the body – which isn’t so great when the tip of it is full of jizz.
Make sure to have a tissue to hand and as you take the condom from your cock, place the condom into the tissue and fold over the tissue to encase it. Some people like to tie a knot in the condom, so the man mayo doesn’t leak into your bin.
Then… Chuck it in the bin. Do not put it down the toilet.
Can we flush used condoms in the toilet after use?
Have you seen those fatbergs they’re pulling out of the sewers? Yep, that’s a nasty concoction of condoms, wet wipes and sanitary products and poop all rolled up in fat. It’s not nice and because condoms are mostly latex, they don’t degrade – your trusty condom could be around for decades before it’s broken down. Not so good for the waterways and the planet.
Syphilis is a sexually acquired infection caused by Treponema pallidum subspecies pallidum, a spirochete bacterium.
In the UK, syphilis infection is relatively uncommon but diagnoses in men and women have increased over the past decade. In 2015 there were 107,000 reported deaths from Syphilis worldwide.
Who gets syphilis?
Anyone who has sex can get syphilis. People most at risk are those having unprotected sexual intercourse (i.e. not using a condom or in gay terms, barebacking), those with more than one sexual partner, and those who change partners frequently. The simplest way to protect yourself is with condoms.
How do you catch syphilis?
Syphilis is caught through unprotected vaginal, oral or anal intercourse or genital contact with an infected partner.
Syphilis cannot be caught by casual contact (toilet seats, swimming pools and saunas).
The symptoms of syphilis are not specific. Initial presentation is usually one or more painless but highly infectious sores (primary infection) which appear at the site of infection. These sores disappear within two to six weeks in the absence of treatment.
Secondary symptoms may develop 6 weeks to 6 months after the onset of primary sores. Later symptoms are highly variable, but may include a rash on the palms or soles.
Late syphilis occurs four or more years after an untreated primary infection. Complications may occur in the mucocutaneous tissue, heart, respiratory tract or central nervous system.
How serious is syphilis?
Syphilis can cause a variety of issues from the seemingly unserious, like headaches but can escalate to stroke, hearing loss and sexual dysfunction. The Mayo Clinic lists some of the problems the disease can cause to your nervous system:
Headache
Stroke
Meningitis
Hearing loss
Visual problems, including blindness
Dementia
Loss of pain and temperature sensations
Sexual dysfunction in men (impotence)
Bladder incontinence
Without treatment, syphilis can damage your heart, brain or other organs, and can be life-threatening.
What protection is there against syphilis?
Sexually active people can reduce their risk of syphilis by reducing their numbers of partners and using condoms or dental dams.
How is syphilis diagnosed?
Syphilis can be diagnosed by detection of the organism in the ulcer. Antibodies to syphilis can also be detected in the blood. Samples must be taken by a health care professional.
Genitourinary medicine clinics (also called STI clinics) have the equipment and facilities for testing and for contacting, testing and treating sexual partners. Details of these clinics can be found in the telephone book, from the local hospital or from the NHS choices sexual health website. Clinics are completely confidential and will not inform GPs of results unless requested to do so. Anyone can attend one of these clinics at any age (even if under the age of consent to sex which is 16). Appointments are not required.
A person with suspected syphilis should also be tested for other sexually transmitted infections which may be present without symptoms.
How is syphilis treated?
Syphilis can be treated with antibiotics.
All current and recent sexual partners should be tested and treated to prevent re-infection and the further spread of disease. Treatment should be offered whether or not they show any signs of infection Public Health England’s mission is to protect and improve the nation’s health and to address inequalities through working with national and local government, the NHS, industry and the voluntary and community sector. PHE is an operationally autonomous executive agency of the Department of Health.
