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  • Here’s how you can simulate anal sex, when you’re not, you know, ready to bottom

    Here’s how you can simulate anal sex, when you’re not, you know, ready to bottom

    Well, the party doesn’t have to stop and you can still simulate anal sex for your partner, without actually taking the D inside you.

    This article discusses sexual matter.

    The spoon

    This has the added element of a natural sexual position. Lying in a spoon position, with the top lying behind the bottom, who spreads his legs slightly allowing the top to place his dick in between the bottom’s thighs, just below his butthole.

    The bottom/person at the front then closes their legs, creating a tight crevice for the person behind. Add lube, to make it more comfortable for the both of you. Silicone lube is best for this position as you won’t need a lot and it’s very long-lasting. This position can also be achieved in doggie style.

    Doggie Style

    The same technique as the spoon, except the bottom, is on all fours and the top “enters” from behind by placing his dick into the groin gap between the bottom’s thigh and scrotum.

    What’s cool about this position, is that both of you get a pleasurable experience, there are lots of nerve endings around the groin area so it will feel good. The top also has a wider range of movement for thrusting – so it will feel good for them too!

    Plus for the cumming situ, there’s the added bonus that the top can blow his load all over his partner’s butt!

    The armpit

    If you’re both up for something a little bit different you could try shoulder f*cking. Yep, you read that right.

    Essentially what happens here is the “top” puts his dick in the armpit gap created by the “bottom”‘s arm against his torso.

    This position is great for couples who like to face each other when having sex and also those who like to think outside the box when it comes to positions.

    If you like mixing laughter with f*cking, this is a great position because you’re very likely to burst out laughing at some point.

    The cumming situ is also good here, as the top can spurt in various places, including the face or the torso. Win-win for all those cum lovers out there.

    Apart from anything else, these positions offer an almost STI-free way of having sex. However, because there is skin on skin contact, you could still contract skin to skin STIs.

    As always, it’s good to add sexual health testing to your healthcare regime. If you’re having sex regularly with the same or multiple partners, experts suggest getting a check-up every three to six months.

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  • DILEMMA | No one is ever going to love me, my life is spiralling out of control

    DILEMMA | No one is ever going to love me, my life is spiralling out of control

    Dear Uncle,

    My life has been spiralling down the drain. I hate the way I look, I don’t like my attitude or my mood swings. I’m not doing very well in college and I think I’m going to fail my course. I want to move aboard, but doubt this will be able to happen as I’ve no money and no qualifications.

    On top of all that, I’ve not had a boyfriend and really can’t see it happening for me. Who’d want to go out with someone like me?

    I feel like such a loser and I feel like I’m at the end of my tether.

    Brandon, 21

    Dear Brandon.

    I want to thank you for reaching out to me.

    Recognising that you’re unhappy or that you’re reaching the end of your tether is so powerful. It’s so seemingly simple yet can feel like the most difficult thing in the world to admit.

    First off, some practical things you can do for yourself. Booking an appointment with your doctor / GP, is something you should seriously consider doing. You may have some underlying depression which they can help you with. When the doc asks you why you’re there to see them, don’t hold back. Tell them everything you’ve mentioned here today.

    Secondly, talk to your course leaders. They can help you and go through some of your options with you particularly important if you think you’re going to fail.

    I am very, very sure they’ll be understanding. Also while we’re on the subject of college or Uni, book to see the campus counsellor. Believe me, they are a beacon of light. When I had issues when I was at uni, my counsellor really helped me work stuff out. Something I will never forget and something I will be eternally grateful for. Those 45 minutes with her were, at my lowest, the most treasured 45 minutes of my week.

    Thirdly and I know this sounds weird, but make sure you’ve got food in your fridge (it doesn’t have to be lavish or expensive) or fruit in your fruit bowl. Make your bed every morning and carry a pen and paper everywhere you go, to write down notes and make lists.

    Sometimes, especially at the moment because of Coronavirus and all the mounting pressures on us all, life can creep up on us and unless we’re dealing with problems or issues right away, they can feel like massive mountains that we can’t climb. A tidy bed, a good meal and a place to organise your thoughts could really help iron out some of the bumps you’re feeling right now.

    Loving yourself

    As for love and the possibility of someone ever loving you. It’s such a cliché but you got to love yourself first and the next step to loving yourself is making sure you’re still with us.

    You may feel dark right now, but even the longest night must eventually give way to the morning.

    Who knows what the future holds, but I really hope you’re around to experience it.

    Please reach out to the Samaritans if you need to talk to someone. They are available online 24/7 or calling 116 123.

    Also, you can reach out to TheMix who specialise in supporting people under the age of 25.

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  • Gay Dating | What does PnP mean on a dating app?

    If you ever see the acronym “PNP” on a guy’s profile, it’s to with having sex and “partying”, simply put, fucking while on drugs.

    PnP stands for party and play – generally speaking drugs play a part in this guy’s sexual activity. Sometimes also referred to as chemsex.

    Drugs that might be used could be

    Crystal methamphetamine,  (Meth, Tina, Ice, Glass, Crank)

    GHB/GBL,  (G, Gina, Liquid Ecstasy)

    Mephedrone (M, Meph, Meow Meow, M-Cat)

    MDMA (Molly, Mandy, Ecstasy)

    Cocaine (Coke, Charlie, Crack, C)

    Ketamine. (K, Ket)

    Make sure you keep safe during PnP often drugs can make people take risks with their sexual health, due to lowered inhibitions and feelings of intimacy and sexual drive when on certain drugs.

    A fantastic resource and read into the world of chemsex is the book by James Wharton, Something For The Weekend, available from all good book stores and Waterstones online.

    If you need help with addiction or are worried about drugs in your life, you can find resources at the Drugwise website.

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  • This Grindr guy felt the wrath after he criticised someone’s open relationship

    This Grindr guy felt the wrath after he criticised someone’s open relationship

    So, it’s no secret that many gay guys in relationships are also in open relationships or semi-open relationships and many of them use dating apps, such as Grindr to introduce a third/fourth/fifth into their love lives.

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  • These LGBT icons are on Cameo and this is how much it costs to get a message from them

    These LGBT icons are on Cameo and this is how much it costs to get a message from them

    The price range is staggering, but if you really want to surprise your friend, a Cameo from their idol might just be the trick!

    Matthew Mitcham

    £24.90

    Matthew Mitcham
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    Bargain. A whole lot of Aussie Hunk for your ££s!

    Layton Williams

    £24.90

    Perhaps he’ll mention that Everyone’s Talking About YOU, instead of Jamie.

    Duncan James

    £29.88

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    You won’t be BLUE when a message from Duncan pops through.

    Cheryl Hole

    £32.37

    Keeping it real with a good price is our Chezzer. Good on ya girl.

    Daniel Newman

    £49.80

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    Let his hunky voice slide into your DMs… Instead of Walking Dead, he’ll be Talking Dead!

    Todrick Hall

    £49.80

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    Perhaps he’ll give you free artistic tips, ala Taylor Swift…

    John Barrowman MBE

    £70.55

    John Barrowman
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    We’re not sure what time or dimension John’s message will come from… but it will arrive.

    Perez Hilton

    £74.70

    Perez Hilton
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    Maybe Perez will give you the inside Gossip when he leaves your message.

    Lea DeLaria

    £83.00

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    You won’t need to steal and end up behind bars to get a message from Lea, but it’d be criminal not to get a message from this Orange Is The New Black star.

    Gus Kenworthy

    £124.50

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    We only hope he doesn’t do the message while on the slopes!

    Lance Bass

    £206.67

    Lance Bass
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    Maybe he’ll sing “Bye Bye Bye” at the end of his message!

    Caitlyn Jenner

    £2075

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    If you want GOLD you’re going to have pay GOLD. Ms Jenner is by far the most expensive LGBT voice on Cameo. We’re wondering what family secrets she might spill for a couple of K.

  • Is there a safer way to bone during the COVID-era?

    Is there a safer way to bone during the COVID-era?

    We all know about condoms, right? Well, what counts as safer sex in the COVID pandemic?

    With hundreds of new confirmed cases of COVID-19 still being diagnosed in the UK, it’s not advised to have sex with anyone, but, you know it’s still going to happen, so how can you reduce your risk of infection, if you decide to hook up with someone?

    Well, it’s pretty simple in reality. Wearing a face mask and not kissing, are just two things you can do, which will eliminate some of the risks, and just sex is thought to be safer than kissing. But, please don’t mistake, you are still at risk.

    Two ways of reducing your COVID-19 risk

    Matthew Hodson, the Executive Director of AIDSMAP, recently tweeted this advice, “Ways to reduce risk of getting #COVID19 during sex include: Wear a mask. Have sex by yourself.

    Meanwhile, in the US, Doctor Demetre Daskalakis said that having sex in a mask was a “great strategy” in reducing the risk of passing on the Coronavirus. He also suggested that you could also try creating physical barriers which prevent face to face interaction but still allows sexual contact.

    So, gloryholes it is people!

    Speaking on 60 Minutes Doctor Demetre said, “the most efficient mechanism for transmitting COVID-19 is through droplets. So, if you’re going to pant and have heavy breathing, throw on a mask. It’s called ‘source control’.

    “We’re still not going to give you a big green light for kissing. I wish I could. That’s probably a higher risk of exposure than sex.”

    Is COVID-19 sexual transmitted?

    There is some data that shows that coronavirus is present in semen, and earlier on in the pandemic, it was thought that it could also be transmitted through rimming. However, more research needs to take place.

    It’s not been found in vaginal secretions or fluids.

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  • Here’s how to ask someone to put their face covering on without it turning into a Twitter-worthy meltdown

    Here’s how to ask someone to put their face covering on without it turning into a Twitter-worthy meltdown

    By now, we’ve all seen those people on social media who have melted down because they were confronted by someone asking them to don their (now mandatory) face masks. The question is how to do you ask someone to put on their mask, with it going nuclear?

    As face coverings become mandatory while using public transport and shopping in many parts of the UK from tomorrow, in order to help reduce the spread of the Coronavirus, there are many people who are still not masking up. While masks won’t necessarily stop you from contracting Coronavirus, most masks, especially if they are double-layered, will slow down the spread, by collecting droplets from your mouth and nose when you speak, cough or sneeze.

    Councillor Daniel Browne, a psychotherapist and author specialising in helping people to eliminate anxiety and building confidence, told us that explaining to the non-mask wearer that your concern is for your health and others around you might be the way to go.

    He said, “I think the most important thing is to be calm when having the conversation.

    Saying something like “I’m really worried about my health and everyone else’s health. That’s why it would be great for you and everyone to be wearing a mask. We all have a part to play in protecting everyone’s health as much as possible”, could be the way to diffuse any confrontatational situation.

    He also suggested that giving some factual information on mask use could also be key in keeping things calm.

    Showing pride while wearing the mask

    Part of the face mask issue for many is that we also lose part of our identity when wearing a mask. The people you are interacting with can’t see your facial expressions and it’s almost impossible to see if you’re happy, angry, surprised or just damn bored.

    But there is a way to retain some of your identity, by choosing a face mask that has a cool design on the front. We’ve discovered some amazing face masks that can help you show your pride while wearing a face covering.

  • Is it safe to meet someone off Grindr yet?

    Is it safe to meet someone off Grindr yet?

    It’s been well over 100 days since the UK went into lockdown at the end of March and its citizens were heavily restricted in order to “flatten the curve” of the Coronavirus.

    But as these restrictions are slowly lifted and certain elements of lockdown have been eased or removed, we ask, what does the government say about meeting with people for sex – especially when it comes to Grindr or dating hookups?

    Of course, the government doesn’t specifically mention hook up apps or whether you can meet with someone for specifically for the purposes of sex, however, it has outlined its guidelines when it comes to inviting people from other households into your own.

    Can I invite someone over from Grindr, Jack’d, Hornet or Scuff?

    There’s no overriding rule for the UK, each of the four nations, England, Northern Ireland, Scotland and Wales all have their own regulations and rules when it’s come to their coronavirus response.

    In England, you can have someone from a different household enter your home. The government advises against socialising in groups of more than two households. This means you could have a hook up with someone, the question is, should you? That is up to you in the end.

    The government does recommend physical distancing and good hygiene practices. You may not stay overnight at someone’s house unless they are part of your “bubble”.

    In Scotland, you can meet up with 2 other households at a time in your own home. However, the Scottish government is warning people to maintain a physical distance of 2 metres “at all times”.

    In Wales, two or more households can become an “extended household” which allows them to “have physical contact and stay in each other’s homes.” The Welsh government says that all other households have to meet outdoors.

    In Northern Ireland, since the 23rd June meetings of up to six people have been permitted. However, the government in Northern Ireland suggest limiting the duration of the visits, ensuring good ventilation, maintaining good hand hygiene and physical distancing where possible. Overnight stays are not permitted.

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    Remember, Covid-19 is still prevalent in the UK and it highly transmittable.

    Back in March our Agony Uncle, said that if people were going to continue to hook up that it would be a good opportunity to talk to partners about their health and their safety.

    He wrote, “I think coronavirus could be a good engine for change or adaptation for our community. It might invite us to start talking more openly about our sexual health, testing and well-being in general and there’s no harm in having a conversation with someone about their health before you hook up.

    “The more we talk about these things, hopefully, the less stigma there is attached to our health”.

    You should swap contact details with people you hook up with to help with track and trace.
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    It’d also be wise to make sure you have the contact details of any of that you do have sex with, in order to help with any tracking or tracing, in case you or they become infected with Covid-19.

    What about sexual health services are they open?

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    Not exactly, unfortunately, many of the UK’s sexual health services are not open to bookings for regular sexual health checkups – but to a phone triage service.

    Back in May, Doctor Naomi Sutton took to Twitter to remind followers that the NHS sexual services were still available and that anyone who needed them should phone their usual sexual health clinic and access the current phone consulting services being offered.

    She told us, “Sexual health services are operating phone consultations, posting contraception, screening tests and medication when needed and seeing patients face to face where necessary”

  • Where can I buy LGBT inspired facemasks?

    Where can I buy LGBT inspired facemasks?

    Mandatory face coverings are going to become a thing across the UK – it’s already a requirement on public transport and in Scotland, you must wear a covering when shopping. As lockdown restrictions continue to be eased, and we’re all able to open up our social bubbles, it seems that face coverings are one of the ways we’re being told that can reduce coronavirus infections.

    Although it’s important to remember that wearing a face mask doesn’t necessarily stop you for catching the virus, but does help reduce the spread of the virus.

    With signals that Boris Johnson could be ordering a face-covering rule for the UK, we look at where you can buy an LGBT+ inspired face covering and supporting LGBT+ businesses while you’re at it.

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    If you want to keep it simple, our partner shop THE PRIDE SHOP has these simple rainbow face masks for just £4.00. A donation to The Pride Shop’s Pride Fund is made from each sale.

    Buy rainbow face masks.

    Then if you want to go handmade, The Pride Shop also has these gorgeous, handmade, Reusable Rainbow Face Masks by Made With Love By Jenny. They’re just £12.00 and they come with a Rainbow Holographic Keyring. Each one is unique, very much like the wearer. A donation to The Pride Foundation UK is made from each sale.

    Barcode, the well-known LGBT brand has come up with a variety of different designs and you can buy them from Fetch.

    There’s also this rainbow inspired Face mask by CODE 22.

    Then if you want to get a little more creative there are some fabulous designs over on Etsy, like these Marlon Brando or Linda LaHughes designs.

    What about a progress pride flag? This one is available on Redbubble

    The official Tom of Finland store has a variety of designs available including this Double Scorpio “Poppers” protective mask.

    Need emotional support? We’ve set up a special COVID-19 page with helpful resources.

  • 19 things you only know if you’ve worked in a gay sauna

    19 things you only know if you’ve worked in a gay sauna

    It takes all sorts

    You are going to meet all types of guys in a sauna. Older, younger, larger and smaller. All colours, races and creeds. There will be the out and proud and there will be the curious and closeted. We don’t judge you… Just pay your fee and go have some fun.

    Straight men go there to experiment

    One of the things I learned while working at one bathhouse is that not everyone who frequents them identifies as gay or even bisexual. Nope. Even straight/curious guys go there to check out the happenings. One straight guy I met even lost his anal virginity… on his first trip… proudly exclaiming that he managed it first time!

    It’s clean, but not that clean

    Despite the worker’s best efforts, and this may vary from sauna to sauna, cleanliness isn’t always 100 per cent. It’s pretty impossible to keep up with it tbh. Bathhouses can see a huge turnover of guys over a day and where I worked we tried every half hour to go around the building and disinfect all the cabins, the couches, the gloryholes and orgy bed, but sometimes sexual encounters are fleeting and we don’t always get to clean up right away. Where there are naked human bodies there will be germs, it’s a basic fact of life.

    However, the jacuzzi should be pretty bug-free – it’s given a chlorine treatment every day – and the water is changed regularly.

    Please pay attention to those signs that say “no bum fun in the sauna” or “no sexual contact”. The heat of the water is the perfect breeding ground for microbes and other nasties!

    Some guys don’t douche before they go

    On that note, it’s really not uncommon for us to find dirty tissues and towels stuffed in places they really shouldn’t be. And by dirty, I mean poop. Whether they know how to douches or just choose not too, some guys leave a mess and it’s not uncommon for clients to bitch about other guys who don’t douche or leave a mess. Which is why you should…

    Really wear a condom

    I’m not bareback-shaming anyone here. But as sexual encounters tend to be with people you really have no prior knowledge about, including their sexual health, (hell, lots of guys aren’t 100 per cent keyed up on their own sexual health) you should really make a point of wearing a condom – even if you are on PrEP. And please, please put it in the bins provided, afterwards. Days are not made by slipping A over T on a used condom discarded on the floor.

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  • Here’s who the highest paid drag queen is on Instagram

    Here’s who the highest paid drag queen is on Instagram

    Thanks to RuPaul’s Drag Race, drag has gone mainstream and those at the top of their game can be raking in tons of cash, especially if they post sponsored posts on their Instas.

    The researchers at SlotsUp.com have crunched the numbers to rank 149 drag superstars based on their estimated Instagram earning prowess. 

    At the top of the tree is Season Six winner Bianca Del Rio, who can, according to the researchers be commanding nearly $7500 per sponsored post. Next is Trixie Mattel who can earn just over $7,000 per post.

    With 2.2million followers, it’s season 6 superstar Bianca Del Rio that tops RuPaul’s Rich List, earning an estimated $7,378 per post! …that’s 62 times more than the lowest-earning queen Kenya Michaels who could bank just $118 per Insta post.

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    RuPaul’s Richest Queens (according to Instagram) 

    1. Bianca Del Rio: $7,378 per Instagram Post
    2. Trixie Mattel: $7,055 per post
    3. Adore Delano: $6,909 per post
    4. Katya Zamolodchikova: $6,550 per post
    5. Kim Chi: $6,355 per post
    6. Violet Chachki: $6,040 per post
    7. Alyssa Edwards: $5,876 per post
    8. Sasha Velour: $5,841 per post
    9. Alaska: $5,801 per post
    10. Aquaria: $5,474 per post

    What does RuPaul earn from sponsored posts on Instagram?

    How much money does RuPaul earn from Instagram posts?
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    Well, according to research, RuPaul could be earning over $10k per post, while co-judge Michelle Visage could be banking $5K. RuPaul has over 4 million followers, while Michelle has 1.6 million followers.

    However, RuPaul rarely, if ever, posts sponsored posts, but does use the platform to advertise his own podcasts and shows. Although the queen of queens has recently taken time off social media. RuPaul unexpectedly removed most of his socials a few months ago.